Eulogy from the Funeral
Darcy Lynne Provencal (nee Snortheim)
Born August 18, 1962 in Edmonton, Alberta @ the Misercordia Hospital.
She was taken from us on Dec. 9-2008.
She leaves to mourn her loving husband Rick and Son Troy. Her adopted family, Jill and Kara and Jill’s son Robbie, who always called Darcy –Cha Cha. Her mother and father, Judy and Palmer Snortheim and Brother Aaron. Mother and Father-in-law, Eddie and Rocky Provencal. Brothers-in-law, Larry (Johanna) and Gerald, and sisters-in-law, Georgina, (Bob) and Sherry (Vern). Aunts, Uncles and cousins and countless friends and acquaintances’.
Darcy was raised in Ft. Saskatchewan and took all her schooling there. She was always a very competitive, bright individual and quite a good fastball player. She earned the respect and admiration of many not only because of her athletic abilities but her uncanny ability to be able to apply makeup before, during and after games. She was the best looking kid on the field all the time.
She carried this tradition with her throughout her life and it didn’t matter if she was backpacking in the mountains with her hunting buddy and life companion RICK on a hunt for MOOSE, ELK , Deer or even Caribou in the ARCTIC or golfing or fishing off the coast of BC because wherever she was the makeup was always close by. I believe I know where she might have picked up this trait as I can recollect another one of the women in our family that would do the same thing even into her nineties. In fact I think most of the women in our family have those same characteristics so I guess we will have to give the credit to Grandma for training them all so well and Darcy for perfecting the craft.
Darcy was the kind of person you could count on no matter what and I cannot think of anyone who had such a profound effect on the people she touched in her life. Family and friends will agree without question she was one of a kind that most people only wish they could be like. I guess that is why they nicknamed her “THE QUEEN”. She never uttered a bad word about anyone or anything. She was always there no matter what and was a pillar of strength and understanding. She stood by my side with my son a few years ago when we delivered the Eulogy for my mother. In tough times it was Darcy that was there for everyone she knew and she would wrap you in her soul and make everything seem better.
I had the privilege of holding her in my arms when she was a baby and watched her grow as a child to her teens and when she became a bride to be I was honored to be her master of ceremonies.
Darcy and Rick were married in the Dominican Republic in Jan. 1990. In August of 1990 the family was introduced to Darcy’s treasure (Troy) and motherhood for her and how proud she was of (Troy). It’s not to hard to figure out that she passed that great athletic ability on to Troy as he is also a great ball player as well and you would always hear about his accomplishments from a very proud MOM.
You could tell she was deeply in love with both of the men in her life and they were never afraid to show their love and admiration for each other. I think it would be appropriate and Darcy would want each of us to take just a minute and look to your left or your right and tell your friend, spouse or child how much you love them and care for them. These are the things in life we regret not having said often enough to the people we love. She loved us all and wasn’t afraid to let us know it.
Now I want to tell you about the competitive Darcy. Not only could she play any game she wanted and play it well she would inevitably make the people she played with better as well. I learned early on that she didn’t take any prisoners when it came to Golf, or even Scrabble or a friendly game of IN BETWEEN. Her spirit and competitive nature made her a force to be reckoned with for sure and she took it all in stride and made you feel good even if she gave you a timely lesson in life.
She lived her 46 years with her foot on the floor and she wore her heart on her chest. She travelled around the world and Rick has said it was all he could do to keep up to her. She was a loving mother, wife, daughter, best friend, confidant, cousin, niece, business woman, social convener, organizer, world traveler and one of the most exceptional
HUMAN Being’s that most people could ever hope to meet.
I would like to share a few notes from loved ones Darcy touched.
(Letters from family friends)
Darcy and I and Jill, Kara and Troy would like to thank all of you for coming today. Darcy has a big hug for everyone.
Darcy is: the love of my life.
My Best friend
My life companion
I will miss her gentle touch and understanding. I will so miss the walks, the talks, the quiet times with a glass of red planning our next big adventure.
Darcy was the planner. She always made me feel like I was but she was two steps ahead of me. We had so many wonderful times, friends and family. I cherish them all. Like all marriages we had a few tough times, but only a few, and those just made us stronger.
Darcy loved everyone, she loved all the kids so much. Her’s and everyone else’s. She made two new little friends over the last while and became very close to Mateo and Olivia, she loved them dearly.
She was an outstanding mother and friend to our family and I love her for that. She was so kind and patient.
Darcy was generous with everything: her time, her equipment…anything. The only time it got a little dodgy was her red wine. All that knew her, knew she loved the red. She sat up many a night with her girlfriends, and there were many, solving all the problems of the world….but never creating more.
I love Darcy with all my heart and I truly know that she loves me. I have loved her from the first time we met.
There is so much I could say…. I will miss her so much and think of her all the time. I will see you on the beach honey.
Darcy “CHA CHA” Provencal has been big part of my life since I was one year old, but over the last six months since I moved to Kamloops we became very close. We became friends, best friends. I am grateful for the time I got with her, and she will continue to touch my life for the rest of my existence. I will miss her deeply.
Darcy became “CHA CHA” when Robbee was born. I loved calling her “CHA CHA”. She was so generous and accepting of everyone without ever asking anything in return. Our “CHA CHA” is the most beautiful and classy lady ever to grace the shores of the SHUSWAP Lake.
Our thoughts of Darcy.
Darcy was always very welcoming and generous to me and my family. There was always an open invitation to visit the cabin or any time we were in the Surrey area. Darcy was an outdoors enthusiast and always had stories to tell of her extreme adventures. Last summer she invited/convinced me to go spend a couple nights in their fishing lodge at Akurhurst. To my surprise we were going to the top…ALL the way to the top of the mountain. I had forgotten my suitcase and had no essentials or amenities and was surrounded by spiders and rain. She knew I couldn’t go more than a day without makeup so she managed to make the best of it, arranged for toothbrush delivery and offered many drinks. Darcy always stuck up for me.
I can also remember playing Scrabble for hours on end out at the lake. It was a great summer tradition and Darcy almost always won no matter how hard we tried to beat her. We swore she studied the Scrabble dictionary late at night. She was always up for a round of Sociables or cards at Grandma Joyce’s.
It was always great to watch Darcy interact with others, especially Rick. They really had a great connection and always enjoyed each others company. We could tell she cherished her family and wasn’t afraid to show it.
We will al miss her laugh and lighthearted personality.
DARCY was the Scrabble Queen. Everything was put on hold if there was a scrabble game in progress. If you had to wait until 8,9 or 10:00 for supper, that was just the way it was. The family learned to never question that. The family tradition was passed from Judy and Joyce to Darcy and Colleen, and we’ve passed the tradition on. Summer holidays without two or three Scrabble boards going? Out of the question!
A Christmas tradition, Easter tradition, Thanksgiving tradition, a little strange, but then our family is just like that – was to play “POT” after supper. Sometimes you lost a little, sometimes you lost a lot. Judy holds the title of all-time “Pot-winner”. Nobody ever wanted to sit next to her because you would lose for sure.
In the early 90’s Darcy renamed the campfire girls:
Darcy to DORTY
Cami to HELEN
Colleen to LOOSIE
And the names have stuck ever since.
We loved going out on the boat at midnight to listen to music and watch for satellites and falling stars. Two people had to see the same falling star in order to get “confirmation”. Darcy was a bright light in our lives and I have no doubt she is up there shining down on all of us. I don’t know anyone else who has ever done so much and experienced so many different things in her life and was never afraid to tackle any project.
Darcy was one of those exceptionally special people that everybody loved and she will be missed by family and friends alike. Her wide and far reaching range of friends will miss her sorely.
Many people will be waiting for Darcy at the Pearly gates with a drink in their hand, and a big “SOCIABLE” salute. I hope she gets her wings – she is truly an angel.
I think my Mom pretty much summed up what I think of Darcy, but a couple things to add:
Scrabble at the lake would not have been the same without Darcy delegating someone to concoct a “drink of the day”. Whether I be margaritias, rumbucas, or a “swamp water mixture” the travel cooler thermos was constantly filled with something special. On a similar note, Rick and Darcy could outlast anyone by the fire pit at night. Must have been their great hosting skills and their fun loving, easy going spirits, along with trays full of shots that magically appeared! And who would forget Darcy rolling out of bed the next morning around noon only to explain that her 300 pound comforter had trapped her there… more of a night owl than an early bird.
Wherever their travels took them, Darcy always had a story to tell. It was often hard to keep track of their busy schedule but you always knew that Rick and Darcy were having fun wherever they went, and making the most out of life. It’s hard to say goodbye so suddenly, but Darcy will be remembered and admired for living in the moment and never holding back.
Darcy was an amazing person. She was full of life and brought joy and happiness to those around her. We will remember her as a mother, daughter, relative and friend. She was taken from us too soon but the memories I have of her are all of enthusiasm and vibrance. No words can describe the loss we feel as an important member of our family is lost to us. The only condolence is that she made the most out of the time she had and enriched the lives of us all. Darcy will be missed, and our family will never be the same again, we will never be whole. I am thankful for knowing such a wonderful and dynamic person and I hope we can all look back on the amazing person that we had the privilege of knowing.
(TIFFANY (ANDERSON) DERKSON)
Ryan and I are terribly sorry to hear of Darcy’s passing. Darcy was a fabulous person who lived every day to the fullest. She had a positive outlook on life and in all the pictures I have of her in my mind she is laughing or smiling in each one. I will forever cherish all of my memories of her as her spirit was infectious and you couldn’t help but feel good in her presence. We are sorry we could not be there to celebrate her life with you today but our thoughts are with you during these difficult times. Love Tiff and Ry
THE POSSE (Cami-Joanne-Cindy)
Darcy was at the top of her game by Junior High in the Fort. Playing on all the sports teams, organizing the school dances, and elected student council president in grade 9. Everyone has special memories of time spent with Darcy, whether it was at a bush party, playing sports or camping. Because of the strong ties she formed in the Fort, she was always involved in the high school reunions. Fond memories of family camping trips, girls weekends or just staying in touch were important to Darcy. The friendships she formed in her younger days have grown and flourished throughout the years. Although she left us far too soon, she will continue to influence and inspire us all.
(Poem – sounds so much like something Darcy would write)
A LETTER FROM HEAVEN
To my dearest family, some things I’d like to say, but first of all, to let you know I arrived okay.
I’m writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above. Here, there’s no more sadness, here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I’m out of sight. Remember, that I’m with you every morning noon and night.
That day I had to leave you, when my life on earth was through. God picked me up and hugged me and he said I WELCOME YOU!!!
It’s good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone. As for your dearest family, they’ll be here later on.
I need you here badly, you’re part of my plan.
There’s so much that we have to do to help our mortal man.
God gave a list of things he wished for me to do. And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day’s chores put to flight. God and I are closest to you…. In the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years. Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry,
It does relieve the pain,
Remember there would be no flowers,
Unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned, but if I were to tell you,
You wouldn’t understand.
But one thing is for certain though my life on earth is o’er.
I’m closer to you NOW
Than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I’d like it for you too
That as you give unto the world
The world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who’s in sorrow and in pain
Then you can say to God at night
My day was not in vain.
And now I am contented
That my life has been worthwhile
Knowing as I passed along this way
I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody
Who is sad and feeling low
Just lend a hand to pick him up
As on your way you go
When you’re walking down the street
And you have me on your mind
I’m walking in your footsteps
Only half a step behind.
And when its time for you to go
From that body to be free
Remember you’re not going
You’re coming home to me.
Author—Ruth Ann Mahaffey
One of the last conversations Darcy had with her Mom was in reference to an e-mail that Judy had sent. Darcy replied with a call telling her mom that she was sorry she hadn’t had a chance to respond but she would right away however the mountains were calling her and she had to go.
Darcy was truly and inspiration to us all and we are so blessed to have walked in her presence and shared a part of our lives with her. I took the letters of her name and came up with this
D—is for daring and determination & devotion.
A—is for ability & ambition
R—is for respect, reasoning
C—is for caring and competitiveness & compassion.
And Y she had to leave us at such a young age is between her and our lord and savior. She has captured a large part of our heart and will forever be remembered. She lives inside of each one of us and will always be there, and when you need her all you have to do is listen and you will hear her voice.
We love you Darcy and we miss your smile, your touch and are so very grateful to have had our time with you. We know you are in a better place and we are sure you are organizing everything so it will be picture perfect when we come to join you. Say hi to Grandma and Grampa, Uncle Ernie and Aunty Bernice. They are waiting to hold you again as we have.