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Donald H. Rimer
Virginia Beach - Donald H. Rimer, 65, passed away on Saturday, Jan. 21, 2012. He retired in 2005 from the Virginia Beach Police Department having served for 34 years. He was a Master Police Officer and in 1986 was made a Detective and received his Gold Shield. During his career he was proud to have delivered 13 babies. Born in Atascadero, California, he was the son of the late Viola Brown Rimer and Hugh M. Rimer.
Don was a graduate of Lawton High School and attended Cameron University, Oklahoma State University, and Old Dominion University. He began his career as a Professional Fire Fighter in Lawton, Okla. After coming to the Tidewater area he graduated first in his class from the Tidewater Police Academy in 1971 and joined the Virginia Beach Police Department and was assigned to the Department's Second Precinct Uniform Patrol. In 1976 he was assigned to the newly formed Tidewater Regional Police Academy where he trained hundreds of new police officers and taught as an Adjunct Professor at O.D.U. where he trained police officers from all over the Commonwealth. In 1980 Don returned to his true love, Oceanfront Uniform Patrol. In 1986 he was assigned to the detective bureau in the Family Trauma/Missing Persons Unit where he recovered hundreds of runaways and missing persons in the U.S. as well as internationally. It was also during this time that he established himself as an internationally known authority on Ritual Crime and the Occult. In 1997 he was assigned to the Media Relations Office where he spent the last years of his career, with his best friend Mike Carey, as a Public Information Officer. After his retirement he traveled extensively and spoke to conferences throughout the country, and worked with the Virginia Gang Investigators Association.
In 1982, after serving as a member since 1971, Don received a Life Membership in the Virginia Beach Volunteer Rescue Squad. In 2000, he received the Virginia Beach Police Department's third highest award, the Medal of Merit and was inducted into the City of Virginia Beach "Hall of Fame", the city's highest award, one of only five police officers in the city's history to receive this honor.
Don was an active member of Virginia Beach United Methodist Church and their Voyager Sunday School Class, and was active and served on the Board of Seton Youth Shelters, an at risk home for boys and girls. During his spare time Don coached many little league and girls softball teams in Virginia Beach.
Left to cherish his memory is his beloved wife of 45 years, Gene P. Rimer; a daughter, Kristin R. Sheely and her husband Matt of Virginia Beach; a son Rev. Scott M. Rimer and his wife Kimberlie of Norfolk; a brother, Ronald M. Rimer of Stillwater, Okla.; the 'apple of his eye", his granddaughter Kenley Grace Sheely; and a number of nieces and nephews.
Don's family would like to express their sincere gratitude for the loving care given by the doctors and nursing staff at Sentara Virginia Beach General Hospital ICU Department and the 4th Floor, and especially to Joe, Mary, Brenna, Julie, and Nurse Practitioner Susan Ruetzel. The family would also like to express their gratitude for the care given by their dear friends, Dr. and Mrs. Steve Pearman and Dr. and Mrs. Jess St. Clair.
A memorial service will be conducted at 11 a.m. on Friday, Jan. 27, 2012 at Virginia Beach United Methodist Church with the Reverends Ted David and Bob Cofield officiating. The family will receive friends at a visitation on Thursday evening from 6 until 8 p.m. at the Laskin Road Chapel of H. D. Oliver Funeral Apts. In lieu of flowers memorial contributions may be made to Seton Youth Shelters, 3333 Virginia Beach Blvd., #28, Virginia Beach, Va. 23452. Online condolences may be offered to the family through

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Published in The Virginian-Pilot on Jan. 24, 2012.
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April 1, 2016
Thank you for your service and sharing your occult knowledge. May you find eternal rest in Heaven.
Len Hanley
May 20, 2014
Shock and profound sadness came over me when I casually asked someone if they had talked with Don as I hadn't heard from him in several months after seeing him at a conference in Reno earlier in 2011. Plans were made for a visit back to Scottsdale, Arizona in May 2012 for he and Gene because he loved it so much. Time passed and I started to worry and rightly so as May came and went which then turned into August. I broke down when the words were spoken; I grieved for his family and myself as he meant so much to all of us. He is truly missed by everyone who knew him and I miss him every day. His picture, along with other wonderful people to come into my life sit on my shelf in my home. Both a smile and sadness come over me every time I see it. His physical pain is gone but his spirit is up there and he watches over his family especially his granddaughter that he couldn't stop telling me about along with his cows. He loved his cows and getting to experience all facets of cowboy life. I took him to Cowboy U here in Scottsdale back in 2007 and he said it was a highlight in his life that was so full of achievements. I hope his family finds comfort in knowing how wonderful he was to everyone and that mistakes are made by all but they make a person rise up and become better and that is what Don achieved.
Tammy Brentlinger
February 13, 2012
Please accept my condolences. I met Don at Cameron State College (1964), where he participated in the Keathley Rifles Drill Team and ROTC. As the Drill Drill Commander I always appreciated Don's commitment, character, his leadership style & his amiable personality. Know that he and his family are embraced in my prayers...blessings to all....Joe Garcia, Lutheran Pastor & Retired Air Force Chaplain & US Marine Corps Pilot---San Antonio, Tx
Joe Garcia
February 7, 2012
Dear Gene and family, I just heard today about Don's passing because of a chance encounter with LTC. Boles from Cameron University. My husband and I took him to the Oyster Fry at Fredrick while he was here. I am stunned by the news. Don loved his life and his family!. My sincere sympathies, Shirley Hedrick
Shirley Hedrick
February 2, 2012

I was shocked when I heard (through Scott) the news of Don's death. My heart goes out to you and the whole family. I have many fond memories of both of you. I'm blessed to have known him. My prayers are with you.
Jennifer Andrade
January 28, 2012
Coach Rimer was my Little League baseball coach back in the late 70's. I respected and liked him very much. Although it has been years since I saw him last I still feel like it was yesterday that he was at the Old fields at Harpers Road telling us to take hitting practice or to get in line to run the bases. He has left a lasting impression on me that I will never forget. RIP Coach!!
Danny Day
January 28, 2012
I am very sorry for your loss.
Lonnie Bell ( kings grant citgo)
Lonnie Bell
January 28, 2012
Dear Mrs. Rimer,

On behalf of the Saint Patrick Catholic School Community in Norfolk, I express our heartfelt condolence for your loss. Although we never met Don personally, we have in a real sense met him through your good son, Scott, who is pastor of some of our students and has been a freind to us.

With prayers of love and healing grace for you and your family, we are yours in Christ.

Steve Hammond
January 26, 2012
Gene,it was nice to see you,Kristin and Scott.I'm just trueley sorry it was due to such a sad time. While standing in line my Mother an I along with so many others enjoied all the memerable pictures of Dons life.Looks like that Grandbaby will keep you very busy an HAPPY! I hope you an your family will get much needed rest.I just wanted you to know you are LOVED as much as Don was. I've always tought alot of you. your always so well dressed an put together. I will never forget you and Don standing up with Bill and I for Ewings Chistening...she will graduate this May,21 yrs old. The Twins Susan an Rhett are 19 yrs old. Rhett studies at ODU ROTC. Susan is starting a Lab class at the ECPI Medical center learning to draw blood and do lab work. When things slow down for you please give me a call. I would love to keep in touch with you and sometime go to lunch. Hugs and Kisses to you and your family. I will be saying prayers for you and your family.Love, Vicki
Vicki Moore Williams
January 26, 2012

We were deeply saddened to hear about the loss of Don. Our thoughts are with you and your family. I met Don in the late eighties at a conference in Richmond, VA. We sat at the same table during lunch and soon realized that we had so much in common including our last names. Turns out we were distant cousin's. We stayed in touch over the years by phone and would get together when our busy schedules allowed. I will miss our converstions about our work and especially our families. Don was so passionate about his work, but it was so obvious that his family was his first love. Our condolences to you during this difficult time. We want you to know that you're in our prayers.
Ray & Sandy Rimer
January 26, 2012
Don and I served on the Seton Youth Shelter Board for about 6 years together and he was so enthusiastic and supportive of everything related to the SYS cause. He loved his family and his community. I will miss his smile and his funny remarks at the board meetings. My prayers go out to his family during this sad time.
brenda knapp
January 25, 2012
Don and I have provided training together and he has been an unfailing support to me. He was one of a kind and can't be replaced. My thoughts are with his family and friends.
Tina Rowe
January 25, 2012
My deepest condolences at your time of loss. Praying that God keep you and your family in his healing hands.
Levi Hankins
January 25, 2012
This is my family. Wife Tammie, Son Chase, Daughter Alyssa
Hello Jean

I remember spending a week at your house in the summer and riding to the beach with don and your son. He introduced me to the game of racquetball as well. He was a wonderful man. I rode a little dirt bike and don and your son rode a beach cruiser. They laughed at me all the way there because I could hardly keep up.

James Taylor
James Taylor
January 25, 2012
Don was as good friend and fellow police officer. Peace be with him. My heartfelt condolences to his family . God bless his family and may he Rest in Peace .
Ray Bishop
January 24, 2012
I remenber Officer Rimer from when I was a student at ODU in the 80s and I came out to Va Beach to do an assignment for a class. He was a great help and a very nice person!

VBPD, Virginia, the local area has lost a great person!

Monica Wilson
Monica Wilson
January 24, 2012
My Prayers, thoughts are with your family, Don will truely be missed by all especially his Lynnhaven Middle School family. My Love ,Debby Hackworth
January 24, 2012
My thoughts are with you always. Sorry for your loss. He will be greatly missed.

Love always Donna Gilbar
Donna Gilbar
January 24, 2012
Will keep you in my prayers and thoughts. Your God Daughter Morgan Gilbar
Morgan Gilbar
January 24, 2012
Gene, I Just heard about Dons death.I Don't usually read the paper so much bad news...My Mom just called me a bit ago. I can't believe i just saw you in Target a few weeks before Christmas. I did't know he was ill. I only wish I could have been with you both during his time of passing. I would have loved to give him a HUGE HUG and KISS. If there is anything I can do for you please don't hasitate to let me know. I will see you Thursday night as well as Friday. You and the Children and your Grandchild will be in my prayers. Don will NEVER be fogtten. He was a wondeful man and you were a wonderful wife to stand by him for so many years,especially a Policemans Wife... I know the fears you had every day. I lived them with my Mother crying whenever my Dad had to go on some kind of a stakeout. I was very young and trust me when your Mothers crying you cry with her. Don,you wil be missed and by the grace of God in your heart may you REST in PEACE.
Vicki Williams
January 24, 2012
Scott&Kim, my thoughts are with you as you go through this difficult time. I did not know your father well but I do know he raised a wonderful man in his son & could tell how proud he was when he came to West End. I know he will be missed. Love to you both.
Missy Rapp
January 24, 2012
Never a better Police Officer, Detective or friend. I was always awed when talking to Don and the length he went to share a friendship. I am deeply saddened at his passing and hope his happiness to and for life with help each of you through this very sad time.
Richard L Styles Sr
January 24, 2012
What a loss our community and so many of us personally will feel from losing Don. Genie, Scott, Kim, Kristin,Matt & Kenley-you know that the words "he will not be forgotten" are truly an understatement. I love you all.
Linda Wilder Dyer
January 24, 2012
My thoughts are with you Mrs. Rimer and family through this difficult time. Mr. Rimer will be missed at the graduations.
Pat Houff-Williams
January 24, 2012
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.
Tammy Odom
January 24, 2012
My heartfelt sympathies to the Rimer family. So truly sorry for your loss.
Doris Stanley
January 24, 2012
Our thoughts and prayers to the entire Rimer family. Don will be truly missed.
Scott & Margaret Bailey
January 24, 2012
Gene, Kristen and Scott our thoughts are with you at this time. Sorry that we cannot be there but are prayers are with you. Keith & Carol Swensen Lakewood, CO
Carol Swensen
January 24, 2012
Gene, Kristen and Family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. I haven't seen Don in a long time, but dad would always tell me when they had seen each other. Don was always encouraging and supportive to everyone. People come and go in our lives but there are few that make such an impact that they stay with us forever. Don is one of those people.
Sandy Gregory & family
Bill & Edie Fulghum
Sandy Gregory
January 24, 2012
Don was a true gentleman and it was truly my honor and pleasure to have worked with him. Don served a greater cause than himself and will always be remembered for his easy going smile and desire to help others. Don left this world to a well deserved reward and he left as he lived, thinking not of himslef, but the others whom he loved and who cared for him in his last hours. Rest easy in God's Peace Don.
Ed Coyle
January 24, 2012
Gene, Kristen and family,
Don gave so much of himself to others for so many years. He truly helped make a difference for thousands of youth while serving as a Member (and Vice President) of the Board of Directors of Seton Youth Shelters for over 25 years; he will be fondly remembered for his belief in people and how young lives can be changed with a positive approach. His life, as evidenced by his dedication to family and friends, is truly his legacy.
Kathy Jeffries
January 24, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with all the Rimers. So sorry for this untimely loss.
Jennifer Clarke Henry
January 24, 2012
The purpose of life is to be useful,honorable and compassionate. To have your life make a difference and strive to achieve these things while serving God.These are things that I learned from Don Rimer.I had the honor to know him for over 35 years. He was a coach, friend and mentor growing up. He will be missed but not forgotten. My thoughts and prayers to the Rimer family.
Rick George
January 24, 2012
Dear Gene and family,

Don always had a way of making people feel like they were the most important person in the world, and our family will dearly miss him. He was a terrific influence on everyone he met. Our love and prayers are always with you.
John & Penny Stewart
January 24, 2012
Dear Gene and family,

Don was a dear friend. We will treasure our friendship.
Love to each of you.

MaryAnne and Charlie Nixon
January 24, 2012
Don will truly be missed by all who knew him and those who never got the opportunity to meet him. Don was a piece of the Pavilion Convention Center when High School graduations came through. Every year he would ensure that everyone attending these ceremonies was in a safe environment. Graduations were not the same without him. He was a wonderful man; the world has lost one of the good ones. Rimer family you are in our thoughts and prayers. Brande and Tracy Rumpf
Brande Rumpf
January 24, 2012
I love your family with all my heart and Don was an amazing man that was the best role model of how to live a full life of love and service. Know that he entered his eternal life knowing what it was like to be fully loved by a wonderful family.
Sidney Goldblatt
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