PAMELA HOLT STETHEM SHUTER

November 19, 1927 – July 2, 2025 Pamela Holt Stethem Shuter has died. (That's exactly how she wanted us to tell you). In her 98th year, our Wuwwwy, Nana, Mum, Pamela, Pam, predeceased by her beloved husband, John, passed away in Toronto of natural causes. Or, as she would have said herself: "I am old. My parts are worn out." She is lovingly remembered by her children: John - her "favourite" son (Susan Michel), Linda (John Gaston), Diana (Charles Stuart), and Margaret, fondly known as Maggie (Christian de Varennes). Her legacy continues through her grandchildren - J (Claire Van Heusen), Hope, Boomer, Bishop, Taylor, Stephanie, John Christopher, Katie (Michael Goldie), Christopher - and great-grandchildren, Zuzu and Emily; and her many nieces and nephews. She was one of four children, all of whom predeceased her - Cecilia Bryson, Daphne Hague, and John Stethem. Born in New Jersey to John Stethem and Cecilia Gifford, but moved to Montreal, Quebec, soon after. Before she could walk, she was chosen for a Johnson & Johnson baby ad in New Jersey, and decades later, she would once again step into the role of model for her daughter, Diana, proving that her beauty, both timeless and effortless, never faded from admiration. Pamela had an extraordinary ability to meet life's challenges with humour and grace. She met her beloved husband of 48 years, John Charles Hosmer Shuter, a weekend ski patroller, through mutual McGill friends at Chalet Cochand in Ste Marguerite. When her husband passed away, people would gently say, "We're so sorry you lost your husband." She would pause, raise an eyebrow, and reply, "Lost him? I thought he died. I'd never be so careless." She enjoyed a full and wonderful life in Quebec until the 1970s with a move, like many, to Toronto, and winters in Florida. She raised her family, made lifelong friends, and poured her energy into the things that mattered most to her. Pamela was a devoted volunteer with the Victorian Order of Nurses, breaking new ground as the first woman on the board of directors. She also gave generously of her time to numerous charities, including the early days of Meals on Wheels. She cherished her time in Magog, the Royal Montreal, and Toronto Golf Clubs, where she was as comfortable on the green as she was with a good martini in her hand. She was also an exceptionally skilled bridge player, a passion she pursued for many years. Our Mum was a woman with a smart wit and a sharp eye, fiercely opinionated, and always ready with a clever remark. She loved her family, her friends, her garden, her books, her independence, her cat, FaceTime calls, crosswords, sudoku, and the people who made her laugh. She also leaves behind her dear friend, Ian Stewart, with whom she shared many wonderful vacations and memories. Their lives first intersected at Westmount High, and, as fate would have it, they would become neighbours in Beaconsfield, only to reconnect once again in their 90s, living in the same Toronto apartment building. And of course, she leaves behind her beloved cat, Bailey, who will continue to be properly loved and adored by her daughter, Maggie. She didn't want a lot of fuss. So, in her honour, we suggest you plant something beautiful, enjoy a good cup of tea, correct someone's grammar (lovingly), or make someone laugh when they least expect it. That would suit her perfectly. In lieu of tears or flowers, please consider making a donation to https://www.chatopia.ca, or put on some calypso music and make yourself a gin martini with a spray of vermouth and an olive at six. She would have loved that. Interment will take place in Saint Andrews, New Brunswick, at a later date, where she will be buried with her beloved husband, John Shuter.