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Dave Smith
February 28, 2023
Just today I bought a copy of 'The Open Gate' and when I got home I began to wonder if Richard Bebout was the same Rick I bumped into occassionally when I was at the CLGA research room. It is and I wanted to record, though a bit late, that Rick was a very kind and gentlemanly presence at the CLGA and made everyone, including me, feel welcome. I'll enjoy reading 'The Open Gate' and as his brother noted, Rick lives on in is writing (and editing).
Cindy Plunkett
June 17, 2009
My cousin Ricky was the best baby sitter in the world! He could draw anything you asked and put up with our sugar highs! He taught us about the Beatles (playing their albumns on our parents "hifi") and the theater. Our last visit was at our first home in Ayer with my firt born.. who is now 22! Ricky's writings have become a part of Ayer's history, his memoirs of his hometown are studied in an honors Emgish Language class at Ayer High School. His legacy lives on!
Nancy Farnham
June 16, 2009
We had a long chat a few years back, his voice sounding so much like his brothers and sister and of course thier Mom,that Massachusett accent.
As cousins in a small town our mothers spent a lot of time together and, as follows. so did we. Rick always reminded me of our Grandfather, highly intellengent, emmensely creative, curious about the world.
Memories of the Bebut house on the hill, sheets on the cloths line and the music of laughter in the air.
I am so very proud of my cousin Rich, he has touched so many lives and earned the respect of us all.
Walk in grace and know that you are loved.
Sonja Mills
June 15, 2009
I was a baby-dyke (do people still say that?) when I met Rick at the Body Politic. He was a very great influence, both politically and artistically. I am sad today to hear this news, but very grateful that I knew Rick at such an impressionable time in my life. Sweet Rick: I wish you an eternity of lively conversations with an endless array of cute boys. Thank you.
Joanne Maino
June 15, 2009
My brother Rick has always been iconic to me. He was the oldest. I am the youngest.
My fondest memories are of him in his black and red checkered robe on Sunday mornings. The smell of coffee, maple syrup and newspapers filled the kitchen. The rest of the family was at church. I was four...fidgety, wrestless. He always said the same thing. Now, I close my eyes, conjur his image and persuade myself to hear those words...
"Oh Joanne, everything will be fine. You're here with your brother."
You will always be with me, and your gentle, soothing spirit will always bring me peace.
Jo
Gary Bebout
June 15, 2009
We went our separate ways as gay brothers, but you were always there as a source of rationality, inspiration, love and support. I will miss my oldest brother - the artist, writer, intellectual, Aids activist, and proud Canadian.
You live in your words Rick. Thank you.
Rest in peace,
Gary
Sybil Wilkinson
June 15, 2009
January 24 of this year was a great day for me. I met an incredible man in my role as a volunteer of Hospice Toronto. Rick was insightful and so eager to share his great knowledge. I miss his smile and greeting as I entered his room. He was also so very funny and accepting of his illness.
David Oiye
June 15, 2009
In the past few years Rick had become an important part of Buddies in Bad Times' Queer Youth Arts Program, helping to connect Toronto's queer youth with the vibrant, but often unwritten, queer history of the city. Always a presence at openings throughout our season, I think Rick took special pleasure in the round table discussions and the Queer History Speed Dating (!) that allowed the next generation of queer artists one-on-one discussions with prominent members of the community. His charm, intelligence and wit willl be greatly missed by all
Andrew James Paterson
June 15, 2009
Rick Bebout was simply a lovely man, both pleasant and provocative and utterly charming and engaging. Sneakers with Rick was a serious adventure. Rick could connect dots like very few others could. Damn, he wil be missed.
Alec Butler
June 14, 2009
I never met Mr Bebout but my friend Kathleen Brindley, who died two years ago in my arms, was also "one of the thousands of americans" who found sanctuary in Toronto from the Nixon/Kent State killings Era, Brindley spoke well of him. They're probably somewhere together now, having a good laugh at the absurdity of it all!
Mom with Rick at the Toronto Aids Memorial 2006
Bill Bebout
June 14, 2009
I have found it heart warming, and wonderful to read, on this site and others, the affection shown toward Rick. Of course, as family, we knew he was special.
Besides helping me understand long division using our shared childhood bedroom door. He was our conduit to the world outside our family home, our little town, our pipeline to the world of culture (high and low) As my sister Deb wrote to me the other day: " Though he may not have felt he was having an impact on me he was and to this day I have a great appreciation for reading, art, music, achitecture, politics, science [ history...tolerance.]"
After he emigrated I did not see him often, but we did visit, exchanged letters phone calls and emails. In 1977'78 in Paris with Clare Vann, my future wife, Rick regularly sent me "The Body Politic" This is when I realized that he had found the place where his artistic and intellectual gifts, and desire to to make a difference and strong friendships in this world could flower, and flower it did. He was one tough thin guy and he successfully fought illness for 26 years without ever becoming bitter. I wouldn't be the person I am today if it wasn't for my older brother. Thank you all for your posts.
Bill Bebout
Flavio
June 14, 2009
I met Richard when he first arrived in Toronto. We worked on "The Open Gate; Toronto Union Station" together. Richard, John Taylor, Bill Rowe and I were inseparable Toronto explorers & friends for three years. A sweet soul to be celebrated and sadly missed.
Deborah Hackmeister
June 14, 2009
Brother,sister,mother,mentor.
Rest in peace my beloved Rick.
Deb
David Demchuk
June 13, 2009
Rick was a brilliant man, dryly funny and keenly observant. He bore witness to many of the enormous challenges and changes that the LGBT community faced across Canada over the last 40 years, and was at the heart of modern gay history here in Toronto. I'll miss his wit, his warmth, his intelligence and his insight. His death is a tremendous loss, but his legacy will live on: our greater freedom, acceptance and equality as LGBT Canadians.
Stefan Lynch Strassfeld
June 13, 2009
I grew up knowing Rick - gentle, quick to chuckle, a freakishly detail-oriented memory - a talking archive of Toronto, the Body Politic, and more. An irreplaceable mind and spirit has been lost to us.
Mark Raymond
June 13, 2009
I am very saddened to read of Rick's death in today's Globe. My connection to Rick stems from his work with the AIDS Committee of Toronto and more specifically his friendship with my partner, Terrell Cress, throughout Terrell's work with that organization and struggle with AIDS in the late 80s and early 90s. Rick was instrumental in creating a number of care partner teams, including one for Terrell and introduced many, including myself to the Celebration of Life. I will forever remember Rick's wit, intellegence and huge heart. My thoughts are with his family, especially his chosen family, all of whom have suffered a huge loss.
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