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Brenda Stansfield
April 4, 2023
April 4, 2023
Happy Birthday Daddy!
Well, all your favorite blossoms are out on this sunny Tuesday morning in full celebratory glory for your special day, Dad. The Chinese plum on the South side is just bursting with blooms this year and really does look like a Popcorn Tree! Dyane and I have been for walks in the blossoms of the old Harbinger Hood lately and it is just spectacular out there. You would love it! And our Redfern garden is loaded with all the wee bright yellow and blue-flowered bulbs planted over the years - though the tulips are just too tantalizing for those pesky deer to resist! I just love the SPRINGTIME!
While it is sunny out at present it is still pretty cold in the mornings and the roofs on the houses outside my kitchen window still have a bit of frost on them, though that will likely burn off later today. Apparently there were flurries on the Malahat this morning too as reported on my trusty local CBC radio show. Brr! And I have noticed that it has been very windy over the past many months out in the garden too, which I find quite frustrating and uncomfortable after a while. I don't remember it every being this windy out there.
I though a lot of you lately when I sadly had to make the heart-wrenching decision to cut down your beloved Kiwi vines. They were so beautiful in their day, and over the many decades, but the have stopped producing, are very labour intensive for me, and just require too much water. We have been in a bit of a drought situation on the south island over the past several years so I thought it was finally time to let go... I have repaired the lattice fence around the little bedroom deck, though, and will put another vine-type plant in the kiwi's place to give a bit of lovely scented shade. That is the plan anyway. I have to say, it sure looks like the back forty is huge right now. I will keep the support posts up, reinforce them a bit and hope to put hanging baskets and other colourful items from my huge "collection of collections" up on them to add a bit of interest and fun. I had a letter put in my post box to join the Teeny Tiny Garden Tour this year but I decided to decline for another year as I just have so many changes planned in the back (like a new potting/she shed) that I think I will be too busy, though I understand that there are 2 gardens on our street that will be involved in the fund raiser for Hospice. And the patrons can gaze wonderingly at my front yard when they walk by so they will see some of the eccentric creativity I have added over the years...for free! Remember when we were in the tour in 2009? I think you must have done 40 laps around Ye Olde Redfern Homestead showing off our lovely garden. And Mom manned the "info centre" on the back deck adorned in her pumpkin dress for the occasion. Good times!
I still see The Mitchell's often and am so blessed that they are in my life. Mike has helped me so much and Ronella is a wonderful friend and support for me. They generously gave me my membership to SHAS for Christmas so now I get to hang out at the artifacts with all the little trains to ride through the forest and help out like we did when we were FOYPs at Yellow point Lodge. Jake and his little family have moved into PJ's place now and they have all done so much work to fix it up. I haven't seen the final result yet but I did get to see the pretty cool cork flooring (used) that was placed in the kitchen. It looks fantastic and I want some now! :) I got so excited about floors at the time I ripped up the GDG carpet in the hallway closet to see what it would look like all finished in the rest of the house and think that will also be a project for the future. While the fir is considered a soft wood, I think after 100 years it has hardened up a bit and, with all the staple holes it will look "distressed" and pretty interesting when it is finished. As with any project around here there is no telling how long it will take...perhaps years! Ha!
I think of you so often, Daddy, and can't believe you have been gone for six years now. I saw on CBC that there are things called "wind phones" out there, where people put those old dial phones up in out of the way places like on secluded beaches or in forests so that people can "phone" their loved ones who have passed on when they feel they need a connection. I loved that idea, though I don't need anything special to talk to you guys as I do it all the time anyway. And I loved the segment I saw on the guy who does "pothole art" in Chicago - the ultimate "street artist", as it were. He fills in the holes with cement and then makes little artistic mosaics to finish them. Nice!
Anyway, I will celebrate your special day with a lovely dinner of BBQ something, I think. And a piece of cake with a candle for wishing. Please give big hugs to Mom, Terry and all the other assorted family and friends who have joined the realm. Sadly for us, Peter Campbell and Robbie are among them so I trust you have welcomed them up there as you always did here.
Thanks again for watching over me and guiding me...and keeping a sweet smile on my face with all the fantastic memories I cherish of you and the rest of the gang.
Love and hugs to you from me, Poppa doodle. I miss you.
Your devoted daughter, Ben
Brenda Stansfield
February 21, 2022
Hi Daddy!
February 2022
Well, it is Family Day weekend here in BC and now five years since your passing. I still miss you so very much and how much laughter, fun, home/garden maintenance lessons/assistance and loving support you generously provided to this most appreciative youngest daughter of yours. I am so glad I got to have you as my Dad! And I know you still watch over me and make sure I don't make too many dumb mistakes on my life's path...though mistakes are how we learn - sometimes!
Mike Mitchell and his family continue to keep me under their loving and helpful "wings", although their family is growing as Mike is finally a Grandfather - Jake just had his first daughter in January, Honey Marie, Sandra Mitchell. I have yet to meet her but they share many photos with me - she is so sweet...and long! I get to see Mike, Mila, and often Ronella too every Friday for Thrifting/long walks/lunch and he always helps me celebrate your day. I made little miniature hammer and wrench earrings to wear in your honour too! The Stansfield cousins keep in touch, which is so wonderful for me. I have been lucky enough to see Laurie and Michael a few times since they relocated to the Island. I have yet to go up to see what they have done with Fairbridge to put their own personal touches on it. I do know that they have painted the front door orange! It is Michael's favorite colour and I think there was much discussion as to how much of it would be brought into the home improvements. Paint company Beautitone's colour of the month for March last year was "Mac & Cheese" but I imagine they went with a little more orange hue than that. I think I shall venture north later this year and take them up on their invite to visit. I am most interested in seeing Michael's many creative uses for rebar that I have been hearing about. :). There hasn't been much traveling for me during the Covid pandemic but things are looking slightly better now so we will see what the future holds. I am a homebody at heart, though, and love how the positive energy Ye Olde Redfern Homestead surrounds me when I am here. And I am blessed with the most terrific neighbours and friends - my chosen family! Laureen is coming over in a few weeks for a few days of laughter, outdoor adventures, and enjoyment of beautiful food and accompanying bevvies. I went to their cottage last year up by Pemberton and it is just spectacular and rustically peaceful. Your red Urban Barn room dividers are perfect up there - I traded her for an I-phone so a great deal for everyone, and they get to stay in the family, as it were.
I want to thank you so much for the support socks - I had an injury to my ankle a while back and they really helped with the healing process...although the heel rode a bit high on my calves. :) And I finally got around to cashing in those silver bars that you and Mom bought as an investment for $40 in 1980. Sadly, I had to wait this long to have them worth more than you paid for them ($42!) and I shared the proceeds with Kim and Kerry. Unexpected windfall so thanks! Better than the normal standard Stansfield rate of return, eh? And I got a few pesos for Mom's old gold teeth too! Who knew?
Kerry has been house sitting in Madeira Park for a few months so it has been nice to actually talk to her on the phone. I prefer phone calls to emails - love to hear the laughter of my people! And Kim and John and Iza the Magnificent (cat) came for a most enjoyable visit last fall on their way home from a trip up the coast and down Vancouver Island. I hope to visit them in Summerland too at some point.
Anyway, Poppa-Doodle, I should go and continue with my Family Day plans. But remembering you and my very special family is always my favorite part. Please give big loving hugs to Mom and Terry and the rest of the Senior Stansfields. Keep em laughing!
Your devoted daughter, Ben XXXOOO
Brenda Stansfield
February 22, 2021
Hello Daddy,
Well, it is now February 2021, and it is amazing to me that you have been gone 4 years already. (Bad math in last entry...or is it bad memory??? :)). Sorry I didn't get around to writing you guys over the Christmas season. I guess I was too busy trying to bring smiles to the friends, neighbours and passers-by with my latest update to the garden...a living easel that includes a very versatile "framed" backdrop, including hidden planter, that I create landscapes that look like paintings. I had a summer scene last August including a "hoovering" glass-blown red hummingbird, and I put together an outdoor Christmas Tree and Gnome Home scene all lit up for the Holidays. I put cedar boughs from the garden all around the frame with wee white twinkling lights that made it look like a square wreath. It was so cute I put it on my Christmas Card that I still send out for everyone. At present the Garden Art Exhibit has blooming mini daffs being "watered" by a tiny floating watering can, bright yellow ceramic toadstool and bird/birdhouse all being warmed by a warm yellow clay sun. Sweet! It is fun to see people point at it when they notice it as they walk by. And the little heart-shaped rock garden feature with little hens and chickens (and yellow crocus popping through!) that I created next to your bench is a neighbourhood favorite too. I see so many people take pictures of it as they stroll by. I love to see their smiles and imagine you sitting on your bench chatting them up with one of your famous puns. Or should I say infamous? :)
Our wonderful Blue Planet is still trying to get a handle on all things pandemic. Still very tightened travel restrictions in place, which is fine for the likes of me with no better place to be than here in my Humble and Happy Abode. I just took down the Valentine decor - I like to make sure it is up through Feb 19th and the Variety Show of Hearts (my favorite charity and telethon!). Thankfully there are many really creative people out there trying their best to raise others' spirits. My Garden Train guy shares "Isolation Remediation" emails from members who are working on their projects during this "down time" and some are really fun to see the progress. We even have a new member of our Vancouver Island Club from Sask.! You know what they say...everyone is FROM Saskatchewan! (That reminds me of a recent Jack Knox survey where one participant described himself as a "non-practicing Albertan".) I did buy a little child's electric train...my "starter" kit as I refer to it, and hope to set up a little display in the garden when I finish the latest front yard rock garden project. I did a lot of work out there last year making it safer for my ageing ankles and I am very pleased with my efforts. I am so looking forward to SPRING and new projects! Apparently, and perhaps surprisingly, accordion sales have gone through the roof during the pandemic...they are calling it Accordovirus and there is a music store which only sells that product with a sign in the window that says "Limit-Two Per Family". Too funny! Many of the orchestras, choirs and other "bands" are putting their concerts on line to share with their fan base and I saw one church choir conductor who's members sit in their cars facing him in the parking lot and by tuning in to each other on their car radios (remember Drive-In Movie technology?) he can conduct them and record the show. Cool!
There are other amazing people out there right now that are raising money for the strained Health Care System. Capt. Tom Moore in the UK set out for his 100th Birthday to do 100 laps of the length of his garden with his walker to raise $1200...instead he managed to raise 50M. He was promoted to Col. ... and Knighted by the Queen for his efforts! He also received 125,000 Birthday Cards from around the world. So, not to be outdone, a fellow Centenarian (a 101 years young, John Allman) at the Carlton House just up the street did laps around their lovely entryway fountain (remember how lovely that was?) and raised $140,00.00 for Save The Children Fund for his Birthday. Amazing! He also celebrated by having a beer. :) Some people are truly inspiring. Others really do suffer from "Old Fartism Syndrome", though. I might be suffering from a bit of THAT one, as I am now 60! I still feel young at heart, though, but prefer the old ways of connecting with people (in-person conversation anyone???) as opposed to being glued to a smart phone like all the youngins' out there seem to be. Sheesh!
Anyway, I am sure you are still doing your part to entertain the troops up there...the whole Stansfield Elder Clan are together now so I imagine the hilarity is non-stop. I surely miss you and the rest of the gang but still feel your presence here at Ye Olde Redfern Homestead. Mike and Ronella continue to honour you as well, which is nice for me. I don't feel so alone having many great friends to support me here in Victoria. I am such a lucky girl, Dad, and am so grateful for all of life's gifts that have been bestowed upon me. I live life with a Happy Heart for sure!
Big hugs and love to you and please pass it along to Mom, Terry and everyone. And thanks for watching over me, Dad. I feel your presence always and appreciate having you in my corner.
Love you, Pop-a-Doodle!
Brenda :) XXXOOO
Brenda Stansfield
April 4, 2020
April 4, 2020
Happy Birthday Dad!
Another year has passed and so far we gals of yours seem to be doing just fine. Kim and John always have some garden/house project going on in Penticton, whilst planning the next adventure into the wilds of Canada in the Spidey Van - next one is to the Yukon, I believe. And Kerry muddles along in Egmont with forays down to Mexico for fun in the sun (one of her house sitting gigs' people own property down south so she gets to stay there for nada, which is great!). And me, well I am just happy go stay here in the old hood, working in the garden, imagining house renos and generally entertaining the neighbourhood with creative and fun window and light displays (the latest is a Rubber Duck theme...MAN I have a massive collection of the little Duffers...people must think I am Quackers!) :) I am still really enjoying this fair city of ours - we landed on CNN's Top 20 Cities recently, which will be a huge boon to tourism. The spring cherry and plum blossoms you love so much are in spectacular form and bloom at present, as are the little daffodils that brought so much joy to Mom, and all the other little bulbs are coming up around your bench and elsewhere in the yard - so pretty. I have a lovely old gentleman, Butch, and his wife Donna, that frequent it and I often go out and have a wee visit if I see them having a break there. Butch had a small stroke a while back and has a very distinctive sounding shuffle as he makes his way with his walker and when I hear that sound, I know who's a comin! They are a sweet old couple that live just up on Foul Bay, overlooking "their park" at the Oak Bay border. They remind me so much of my wonderful Wrinklies!
But I do think of you often and here are a few of the things that made me smile lately and brought thoughts of you...I have been watching recorded episodes of The Nature of Things with David Suzuki and just noticed that he has the same fingers as you and Kim. And one of our favorite ladies, Phyllis McGee, from when you participated in the CanDrive program at UVic was actually in one of the episodes highlighting a UVic study on ageing...and how Karate really helps with strength, balance and improving cognitive ability. I might just have to take it up! Either that or dancing! The Canadian Mint was recently wanting to find a new face for the $5 and someone did a mock up in the TC of Gordy Dodd on the bill...I know how entertaining we thought his commercials were! I saw an article of a fitness guru who did the plank for 8 hours, 15min and 15 seconds. Now I know he beat you by a bit, Dad, but do you remember how impressed the trainers were with your incredible plank time when you did that exercise challenge at the Oak Bay Rec. Centre at age 82? You beat all the much younger participants. Way to go, Daddy-O!
Unfortunately, at present in our Wonderful planet, we are in the midst of a really bad Covid 19 pandemic so the world is doing its best to "plank the curve" of outbreaks and we are all trying to stay in isolation, practice physical distancing and proper hand washing and not touching our faces, which is how the droplets with the virus spread. Do you know how hard it is to try not to touch your face??? Luckily, from my long and proud profession as a CDA I am already an avid fan of frequent hand-washing, while singing the Rubber Ducky song TWICE to give the soap enough time to break down the virus. And I wipe down and disinfectthe common surfaces around here quite often (including your bench and Mom's Little Library) because others don't always follow the recommended rules. But, as Diane Gibson says, There is no Cure for Stupid! Apparently, there is a world wide run on people hoarding TP, which is very odd in my opinion, but as always there are people out there who will turn a sad situation around to bring smiles...like the Bakery in Germany, who designed TP roll shaped cakes! They are flying off the shelves too! The cruise ships have had a hard time of it, including the Zaandam that you and Mom took up to Alaska and had so much fun with The Notables gang. Some ports won't let them dock if there is an outbreak on board, which is very unfortunate. In these troubled times we really need to help each other. And I feel so sad for the Care Homes and Hospitals, where nobody is allowed to visit until the outbreak is over, which is very hard for families of loved ones. We are so fortunate to have such dedicated health care and front line workers in Canada. Many people in non-essential services have temporarily been laid off and the Canadian Government is thankfully setting up financial relief for them to tide them over until things get back to normal. I am doing okay being retired, not carrying any debt and living frugally - I even started veggie seeds last week and they are already sprouting! Can't Beet That! And I am lucky that I don't have any trouble being on my own and entertaining myself with my many little projects inside and out, long solo walks around the hood, which helps keep me limber, healthy and happy while waving at puppies and their people. And I am connecting by phone, sending uplifting greeting cards, and emailing with my the sibs, cousins aunts, uncles and my many wonderful buddies, especially Mike and Co., just to check that they are doing okay through these strange times right now. And I give whatever I can to help out. As well, I totally enjoy all the reading I am getting in, my CBC Radio and the Quaran-Tunes they are playing at present, thoroughly loving the Knowledge Network programming and, of course, the Hallmark Movies (guilty pleasure!)where the next one I hope to see is called You're Bacon Me Crazy - about a gal who runs a food truck! Too funny! Also, I am being entertained via email by a new friend from the Victoria Garden Railway Club that I joined last year, who sends pics of peoples' projects on the go at the moment...fabulously creative way to keep yourself busy and get ready for the upcoming season where they open their gardens up for us all to visit. Someday I hope to have a little garden railway...but for now I live vicariously through others'. I think I got my love of trains from your side! Uncle Geoff has generously offered to bring me out East to visit them on the train this summer so I look forward to that trip in the future, as it has always been a dream of mine.
Well, that is all for now, Popadoodle. I still can't believe it has been two years already. Thank you, as always, for looking down and watching over me and guiding me on my path. When I really feel the need for a hug from you (I really miss HUGS!) I put on my new-to-me red crew neck Tee just like the one you used to wear, or your blue fleece and it really seems to help. But I know you guys are always in my heart anyway and surround me with love and fond memories in the Redfern Home and Garden of which I am a content live-in subscriber. I am truly blessed.
Party On, Birthday Boy! Say howdy to Mom and Terry for me! I miss you all!
Love always, your Beanbag X
Brenda Stansfield
January 3, 2020
Happy New Year!!!
Hello Daddy,
Well, another fun-filled Christmas season has passed and we're now into the next decada. I still miss all of you so very much but my memories of times gone by have kept my spirits up as I continue with many of our family traditions at this time of year. I have enjoyed CBC Radio and their seasonal programming as usual and have had the good fortune of celebrating Birth Month, experiencing "funtastic" moments with dear friends. The Gingerbread Showcase, Festival of Trees, Butchart Gardens Magical 12 Days of Christmas, The Lighted Truck Parade, Neighbourhood light displays including my own - a "wintery" theme this year so I can get away with leaving them up longer into January- assorted Christmas Craft Fairs and Concerts and being treated to many a dinner out at local restaurants as a treat from the special people in my world. Terry and Rick down the street had me over for a glass of wine on Dec. 23rd and it was great to get together. They reminisced about the Christmas that they had 20 people over for dinner and you as "Santa" showed up throwing gifts from your Santa Sack of Joy, Love, Laughter, Friendship to all of their guests. Apparently they really got into it and started to "catch" the special gifts. It was very memorable for Terry and her people. Mike and Ronella had me over for Christmas Dinner with their family and that was wonderful as always. I was invited to sleep over so I could wake up to puppy kisses from Mila! And Holly and James had a fabulous New Year's Day afternoon shindig which was very enjoyable. So it has been an incredibly social time for me lately. Tonight I will head off downtown to see the Lights of Wonder at Centennial Square before the display is taken down in a couple of days. Gotta Love the Lights!
I had to empty the "Ping-Pond" in early December as it got kinda cold and I didn't want it to freeze. Can you believe I have to "buy" water for that little thing because it recommends using distilled water? Sheesh. I do love the sound of the bells tingling as they float by each other...it almost sounded like the ringer on the front door for a while when I first got it, though. Very confusing at times :)
I thought of you when I heard about a fellow in Sask. who went into a Canadian Tire store on Canada Day and bought a canoe with a briefcase full of Canadian Tire money! Apparently, for his 40th Birthday his buddies gave him $500.00 in CanTire money they had collected over the years. And I understand he even had some left over! And Salmon Arm is home to the largest Treble Clef in the world, which is a public art piece followed by a bit of a musical stanza with the first 4 notes of "Oh Canada". It looks really neat. Galey Farms in Saanich is now home to the largest free-standing Gnome (originally from up Island) - looks just like you in your little outfit! And there was a new reality show on TV called Holey Moley...an over the top mini-golf competition. Silly eh? I don't know if that one will be renewed for a second season. I remember how you were so into playing Mini Golf and even planned to create one with an Around the World Theme. Would have been great!
On July 19th I was watching the Global News Hour and there was a piece covering stand-up electric scooters in Stanley Park in Vancouver. There was this older gentleman watching the demonstration that was a total doppelganger for you, Dad, wearing shorts, a peach coloured T-shirt, Panama Hat and had your trusty cane. I had to rewind it 5 times. Good to see you're still interested in current events, Pop! :)
I had a lovely chat with Auntie Doris on the phone over the holidays. She will be 90 next year and boy does she ever hate all the health issues that come along with getting old but she is still driving and is still quite independent so that is great news.
And in October the Washington Nationals won the World Series for the first time in 95 years. You of course will remember the story of the "loosingest" team in baseball, previously known as the Senators that was turned into the stage play/movie "Damn Yankees!" I still have the program of you and Mom and Brian Harms in the show that Kelowna Little Theatre put on many years ago. Those were the days...and remember..."You Gotta Have Heart..." :)
Anyway, now comes a new year in which I will turn the Big 6-0 and I am quite looking forward to it. I have a very happy and fulfilled life, with good health and blessed with my special family of friends who bring so much joy to my existence. And so many projects and books and puzzles and movies and unique events calling to me to experience in 2020! It will be Grand!
Thanks so much for watching over me and guiding me on my path. You and Mom are always in my heart and often pop up in funny memories and moments to share with my amazing people. I am so grateful for you being in my life and helping to shape my positive outlook.
Till next time, Pop-A-Doodle,
Love from your little Beanbag, Brenda
XXX
Brenda Stansfield
June 20, 2019
Happy Father's Day to the Best Dad Ever!
Hi Daddy, Well, this was a first for me, as this year I didn't have any Dad's left to celebrate the auspicious occasion (Peter passed away on May 14th) but you were certainly on my mind all day. I wore your favorite Roughriders T-shirt whilst pruning the Kiwi vine out back! It was a big job but thanks to your patient training over the years, and you watching over me on the ladder, the arduous chore was a success - I waited until the next day to cut the vines into tiny pieces to fit into the bins, as you used to do. I also wore your favorite t-shirt for Green Shirt Day to honour organ donor champion Logan Boulet of the Humboldt Broncos. When I remember all those times that you donated blood...you were a true hero to others besides me!
Canada Post has issued new stamps this spring and I think you would love them. They feature traditional Canadian desserts, including the Saskatoon Berry Pie and the Butter Tart - two of your favorites! I am sending a packet to Kim because she is so good at sending notes and cards.
The great fireplace you designed and created is currently not being used for real fires (it is so warm out and Mike has to look into something for me before I feel safe using it again) but Fear Not! I have put your old TV into the opening and have been playing Terry's famous DVD of the Stansfield Family Fire (C. 1996) and it is so very popular, especially since it is a recording of the actual fire in that fireplace. I love the real sound effects like the crackling of the fire and at times you can hear the wind-chimes out on the back deck. :) Kim thought it was hilarious and I gave them a spare DVD player (and will make them a copy of the DVD) so they can do the same at V. Farm Redux in Summerland. Kim is off with a friend on a big adventure to Kenya and Tanzania at present so if it takes me a while to send it, I guess it will be okay, although John might want to have the ambiance if things get cool in the Okanagan over the next few weeks. Unfortunately, BC is having another terrible wildfire season as climate change wreaks havoc on our world. So far the skies over Victoria are clear but it is early in the season...
To honour Father's Day the Tiger Lily plants that I lovingly placed in the garden are in full bloom and I think of you every time I pass by. Unfortunately I had to remove the Silver Birch yesterday (the old favorite peach-plum tree)as it's time had come. It is just so hot now that I need to change up some of my plantings and go with more drought tolerant items. I still want to put up some kind of pole for hanging baskets, which were so pretty when you looked into the back yard from the street. I have also cleaned the vines off most of the back fence (still need to do behind the shed but alas, if I can't see it does it really need to be done???)
And finally, at the annual Dusk to Dawn sale at Garden Works I bought a new Water Bell Fountain - which I have been calling a "Ping Pond"...I know you would appreciate the pun! :) It sounds lovely and peaceful and serene out there in the back with the new wind chime. I do love my garden and think of you and Mom every time I am out there enjoying it!
Well, must go write to Mom now, as it is 2 years today that she had to go to be with you. I miss you both so very much but you are always in my heart...and sometimes in my head when I do something really silly!
Thanks for watching over me and guiding me in my life of joy and contentment with all the happy memories of the past to comfort me.
Love you always, Dad.
Big hug from your youngest kidlett!
Brenda XX
Brenda Stansfield
April 9, 2019
Birthday-time, 2019
Hi Poppa-Doodle!
Well, the cherry blossoms are out in full force, impressing all to decorate the city in honour of your 90th Birthday. They are just stunning this year and you would certainly approve because you loved them so. And to celebrate your special event, Kim and John arrived so we could do a wee ceremony at Finnerty Gardens, as was your and Mom's wishes, to do a "Sprinkling of The Wrinklies". It was such a beautiful day and the gardens look amazing and will soon come into their full splendor...with your help and guidance, I am sure. Kim and John were suitably impressed by the location and said they had never been there, which was surprising to me because I recall you sharing that special spot with almost everyone who visited because it was so amazing. I shall endeavor to continue that tradition. Kim and John arrived in the middle of a little excursion on the west coast in the Spidey-Van to visit Cortez and Quadra Islands and points of interest on our beautiful big island to mark her 65 Birthday. And except for a small Brain Blip, it was a lovely visit. I did invite Kerry and Di and Bob, but they were unable to attend so it was just the 3 of us. I have created little Seed Paper Hearts with parts to share with everyone that include travel maps and Forget-me-nots so people can do their own little ceremony in their part of Canada...and perhaps around the world (wouldn't that be something?!).
My garden continues to look nice whilst feeding the neighbourhood deer...good thing they don't like daffodils or primula! I have plans for a bit of redesigning in places and will keep you posted as to the progress. Something always seems to take priority...like a water main leak or a fireplace fiasco (thank goodness for Terry's DVD of the Stansfield Family Fireplace! And for Mike Mitchell, of course!), or decorating for some upcoming holiday - Easter is in a few weeks and I have a few more things to add to the decor! I should have been a window dresser! I love the reaction of the neighbours and passers-by.
Howard, the world's tallest Gnome, from Kiddieland (later called Gnomeman's Land) up at the old go-cart amusement park up island now has a new home at Galey Farms in Saanich and I am so excited to go and see it when it is all refurbished...with a new moving hand that will wave. Gotta love the Gnomes!You were the best Gnome ever!
Well, that is all for now, my sweet little Poppa. You and Mom have certainly been on my mind a lot this spring. Continue to watch over me, as I know you do, sending me those little heart reminders of your caring and loving soul. Give a big hug to the gang up there! I miss you all so much.
With the fondest of memories of a wonderful life with you guys that helps me continue on in happiness and gratitude...
Love from your little Beanbag, Brenda
Brenda Stansfield
February 19, 2019
February 19, 2019
Hi Daddy,
I just can't believe that it has been two years already since you have been gone. It really doesn't seem that long, perhaps because I still feel your presence all around me and the old Redfern Homestead. I had a Valentine's Party a few days ago and many of the guests were reminiscing about you (Dennis talked about you joining the gang at his annual Super Bowl Party) and it warmed my heart. John emailed a photo and wee tribute to you this morning to all of your "girls". Very touching. And I thought of all the handy things that you taught me over the years, especially as I was fixing the dishwasher this morning because one of the slides was off kilter. As you used to say..."it's not rocket science!".
I learned recently that the Heritage Cup annual Canadian outdoor hockey game will be heald this year on October 26th at the new Mosaic Stadium in Regina...and they don't even have an NHL hockey team! I guess they will freeze the field...um, if necessary, and put on a great event for the fans.
A couple of losses recently, Super Dave Osborne, the funny stunt guy passed away as did the guy who wan known as "Mr. Bill" (Remember "Noooo Billy" the plaster cine guy? - you used to call Mom "Billy" because of him. :)).
On a sad but interesting note, "MAC", Moose Jaw's famous huge Moose and claim to fame has been ousted as the tallest moose by one in Norway. But happily, the mayor of Moose Jaw is planning on reclaiming the title and is looking for ideas on how to make MAC taller. Some ideas have come in like Moose antlers with touques or perhaps stiletto-hooves. More ideas will likely be presented and I will keep you posted.
Kim recently sent an article from The Valley about things that are gone from the Okanagan Valley that were truly iconic. A few people wrote in to the paper that Flintstones Bedrock City Park was greatly missed when they tore it down and it became a strip mall and really should have been named a National Heritage Site. I agree, and not just because my Dad built it!
And on that Yabba Dabba note...
I love you pappa and miss you so much. Thanks for watching over your little girl, Daddy.
Hugs and Love always,
Beanbag
Brenda Stansfield
January 1, 2019
Christmastime/New Year's too!
Hello my little Santa Daddy!
Well, I survived another Christmas! And even though you and Mom and Terry were not here in person, you were definitely with me in spirit and, of course in all the festive photos that are displayed each year on the fridge and mantle. So many great memories of Christmas in days gone by. Good Times!
Christmas 2018 was a little different as Jason and I hosted his Mom, Marylou, from Chemainus and his older sister, Sarah, from Fernwood. I cooked a turkey with all the trimmings, including a yummy Brussels sprout recipe with pancetta and white wine and a stuffing with focaccia and chanterelles, both courtesy of the Gibson/Leone household! Total success! The whole house is still in Lighted Seasonal Festival mode...inside and out and this year I loaned a new neighbour across the street some of my red Valentine lights (you can never have too many lights!) because she said she felt embarrassed that she didn't have any decor up. It was fun helping her get into the spirit of the season along with the XMas Boughs, of course! I have gotten into the habit of not pruning the fir trees and cedar hedge until after Erin finishes all of her holiday florals so that she doesn't have to have that expensive outlay and I usually receive one of her lovely creations, which is very kind. This year I did something rather creative and "dressed" Lorna's Little Free Library up as a Gingerbread House, using craft foam and white bathroom silicone as the icing, complete with mini-coloured pompoms, tiny gingerbread men and candy canes, Smartie-like tacks to hold it in place and little coloured lights from the $$ store that go on for 6 hours each night. It turned out really "SWEET" and it is very popular in the hood. I will be able to put it up again next year, which is handy. I used a photo of it on my Christmas Card and that was well received by all. I wonder what I will come up with for the Stansfield Original Christmas Card next year...maybe a Santa's Christmas Train?? I have always wanted to put a train in the front garden. We'll see.
Di and Bob came to visit for my Birthday, which was really fun...they especially enjoyed the Lighted Truck Parade! And my wonderful friends all spoiled me with flowers, cards, special events and meals to celebrate as well.
This past year brought the biggest and sweetest Kiwi fruit the vines have ever produced, although the yield was smaller but that is okay. Mike has taken me under his wing to be my Swiftsure Breakfast and Race date, which is so very appreciated and we had lots of fun together this year. I have re-united with Laureen after our 40th High School reunion in September and so far we have been able to get together for 2 long crazy weekends here at the Redfern Retreat, as she combines it with her work for Lifelabs out of North Delta. It is like we were never apart...amazing!
Today I have been listening to "Music Comes Alive" on CBC radio with a full day of last year's wonderful live recordings from across the country. I do miss Stuart McLean and his storytelling prowess, but at least I have the CD to hear Dave stumbling along with his silly antics and misadventures...especially cooking the turkey!. I always think of our little family huddled around the radio/cassette/CD player revisiting those stories every year and, of course, "A Child's Christmas in Whales" read by D. Thomas himself. I plan to carry on many of our old traditions because they do give me so much joy. I am still helping Rob with his Mom, Jaci, who is in residential care down here at the James Bay Lodge so that keeps me out of trouble a bit. I really love driving along Dallas Road when I journey to see her...yesterday I saw a fantastically huge kite that looked like a massive colourful fish "swimming" in the air and it made me think of when we used to go down to see the kites being flown at Ogden Point when it was a blustery day. I have so many great memorable snippets floating to the surface of my thoughts, which is truly comforting to me. And I always think of you at Halloween, dressing up silly (another tradition that I am continuing...) and your amazing talents as a "gourd-geous" pumpkin carver! (and punster!). And, although I miss you terribly I think of my great family every day, with gratitude and smiles.
Thanks for watching over me while you were here...and beyond, Daddy. You will always be in my heart and guiding me in my head.
Now, onward to a Happy 2019! Let the fun adventures begin!
Love always,
your little Beanbag, Brenda :)
Brenda Stansfield
June 19, 2018
Hi Daddy!
Happy Father's Day, buddy! I thought about you all day, even though I had to make a trip over to Surrey but I had fun photos of you and me at my bedside. We had so many great times together, didn't we?! When I got home, I discovered that the Tiger Lily (official flower of Sask.) that I had purchased a few months ago and planted in the garden after flowering, was BLOOMING again! I was hoping that it would flower next year but this was a real bonus and just made me think that you are watching over me and still trying to help me look on the "bright side of life"! Amazing!
I was writing a little note to Mom today too, as it has been a year since she had to leave me (physically) and be together with you again (spiritually) and I saw an old duffer walking unsteadily down the sidewalk with only a cane for support. I was thinking that he might just tip over and then he reached your Memorial Bench out front and sat right down. I was so very glad it was there for him. He was looking around and then he started to study the bolts and craftsmanship of the bench...something I could just see you doing in your day too. It was a scorching hot day today so I grabbed a glass of ice water and took it out to him. "Buck" was ever so grateful and said he had never experienced such kindness from a stranger before. He said he was an architect in his working years and thought that Mike's bench was truly a work of art and design. Nice. He liked Mom's little library beside it too. He just moved into the "hood" over on Foul Bay and said he was definitely going to walk this way again. He was a lovely gentleman and I was truly grateful that you and Mom brought me up to be so considerate of others. Thanks, Pop! That little bench gets a lot of use out front! Everyone loves the story of the "tributes to my people". Kim and John have made a little free library at their home in Summerland too. Everyone who attended the "ribbon cutting ceremony" brought a book and I gather it was a great success.
Well, just wanted to wish greetings on Father's Day to the Best Dad Ever!
I love you Daddy and miss you so very much but feel you watching over me as I navigate through the rest of my life. I had a wee visit with Di and Bob when I went to the mainland and they miss you too and we reminisced a bit about the old days. They sent me home with puzzles...Wahoo!
Love and hugs from your little Beanbag.
Brenda :)
Brenda Stansfield
April 3, 2018
April 4, 2018
Happy Birthday Daddy!
I am sure missing you and Mom around here...and not just for your help around the old homestead and garden. Last weekend was Easter and I had Mike and Ronella (and Mila!) over for a lovely Easter Brunch on Mom's pink dishes and it was elegant and fun and we told stories of past Easter Egg memories...like the time Mom came down in the middle of the night and left the little Bunny in the middle of the my kitchen floor (looking at the mini coloured Easter Eggs and "leaving behind" a little trail of chocolate chips!). You guys were so much fun! I did don my pink bunny ears and fluffy tail to deliver Chocolate treats to my neighbours and friends...just loved the look on their faces (and the rolling of the eyeballs!). Make Em Laugh! eh poppa?!? You and Mom and Terry STILL look marvelous in your own bunny ears! And Terry's little "Chick" came out as part of the festive Easter Decor as usual. All of it came down this morning, sadly, but I took photos and Di just loved seeing them via email.
We also gave your little memorial bench another few coats of Tung Oil to brighten and freshen it up and keep it inviting for people to sit and relax and perhaps contemplate life...or read a book from Lorna's Little Library. I have seen three people take photos of both of them in the past week alone! I am so glad they are so popular and appreciated by those who pass by. I get so many positive comments when I am out in the garden.
Anyway, Pops, I didn't want the day of your birth many, many, many, many...many years ago to pass by without you knowing that you were on my mind. You and your wonderful loving antics will always be in my heart and keep me (and others) smiling.
Love Ya Bunches!
Your baby Beanbag!
Brenda Stansfield
February 18, 2018
Feb. 19, 2018
Hello Popadoodle!
I can't believe that it has been a year already since you left us. I miss you so very much being here in person but because I feel you always around me at the olde homestead on Redfern I am not nearly as sad as I thought I might be. The wonderful memories in my heart of your fun and wise parenting has done wonders for my "healing". And I have no regrets about my past decisions and feel grateful for spending all that time with you and Mommy in your last years. They were fun too because we made it so! :)
Your memorial bench is still drawing interest with passers-by (and will get more use once the sunny warm weather returns), but the bulbs are sprouting up beneath it and in my minds eye you are sitting there, greeting the people and chatting with the squirrels. There is one that sits on your big rock in the yard and stares at me through the front window...perhaps waiting for you! The blossoms you loved so much are just starting to come out and will be in full bloom soon and it will remind me again of you, as so many things do. The Olympics are on right now and, although we have a week to go, we are doing amazingly well, and at present are in third place in the medal standing with 16, but I am sure that there are many more to come. There is a new sport called mixed doubles curling and I know you and Mom would have loved the faster pace of it...and We Won Gold!!!
I had an amazing day with The Mitchells last week. After a great lunch, we headed off to Island View Beach and it reminded me of when we used to go out there for Ice Cream. Mike took the long route home, like you used to do and it was so fun to reminisce. You left so many fans here who love you dearly and I love spending time with them as they have become my new family! I went for a visit with Mary Williamson last week too, and she remembers you both very fondly too, and still expresses how much she appreciated your sense of fun in the Chorus...making Mom's eyes roll and keeping things light and enjoyable. She love the Photo Montage Christmas Card/letter that I gave her too, as did all who received it. And Holly McD has a new Grandbaby girl, Audrey that was almost a New Year's Baby but couldn't wait another 7 hours!
To honour your passing a year ago, Kim has decided to come and stay here for a wee visit. And we have been invited to Bindon and Linda's for dinner and to talk about all your silly and wonderful antics...moments that will always keep your memory alive in our hearts.
Anyway, continue to "visit" when you can and keep having a blast with Mom and Terry and Garry and all the rest of the clan and pals you are hanging with now.
I love you Daddy and always will! And thanks for the little hearts you keep sending. (How do you do that??? Must be one of your magic tricks!)
Hugs and Love, Ben, your little Beanbag and dedicated daughter, Brenda XXX
Brenda Stansfield
December 25, 2017
December 25, 2017
Merry Christmas Santa Daddy!
I surely do miss you so very much but I am really glad that you are not without Mom this Christmas. You two are quite a well loved team and, although I can't believe I am without you guys and Terry for my first Christmas ever, I find comfort in the fact that you are all together and watching over me. My annual Holiday Photo Card is covered in great past photos of us all at this festive time of year , but especially you, the best Santa Ever and your sidekick, Mom. I have had wonderful comments on it and that warms my heart knowing that people remember y'all with fondness. Hazel next door has a framed photo montage of her kids over the years with Santa...and you with Nelson in his premier visit with Santa are the first! :)
We had a timely snowfall last night on Christmas Eve and everything is just so beautiful and still outside. I went for a walk and it was so peaceful and pretty. Jason and I spent last evening together, as per tradition...watching Die Hard, of course, and today we will have Andy and Dyane over for Turkey Dinner...which is just smelling divine at the moment. Gotta love the smell of Turkey wafting in the air! Remember the time Terry dropped the turkey in the sink filled with dishwater? I still laugh at that foible and all the other many Christmas Craziness that filled this home! Great memories...good times! I am revisiting all the Christmas Classic Movies in front of a roaring fire in your amazing fireplace...and some new Hallmark movies too. The whole house, inside and out, is decorated in a Snowy, Sparkly, Glittery, Christmas Theme. And of course I have the LED tree with all the mini Santa Collection that you and Mom started ages ago. Everything looks so festive and happy, and that really is helping me get through. AND don't forget all the merry-ad of Christmas CD's in our collection. It really sounds and looks and smells like Christmas around here! I hope to share it all with my dear special friends, who have been such a support to me over this past, most difficult year. The neighbours have been amazing too. I am very lucky indeed.
The last party here at Redfern was the "Wake" for you and Mom in October of this year. Your presence was felt in the hearts of everyone who attended and it was a really great send off for you and Mom. So many people loved you guys and shared their memories with me. I couldn't have done it without Diane, Bob, Kim, John and Kerry and Jason too. And Bindon and Linda, of course. Mike Mitchell designed and built an amazing Memorial Bench to honour you and it sits out front by the sidewalk for anyone to rest awhile as they wander by, like you used to do on your jaunts around Oak Bay. Your friends really miss you, Pops, as do I. But you are always with me, telling me to slow down and enjoy, and I do listen and remember. I am so grateful that I had you as my Dad and for all your teachings over the years. I will never forget...well, as long as I can remember, I guess!
And now I should go baste Tom Turkey so he doesn't dry out! Take good care of Mom, as you have always done and try to keep Terry and the rest of your fans from getting into mischief...if you can. You live on in my heart forever, Daddy, and I love you so much and miss you even more.
Thanks for everything.
Your little Beanbag, Brenda
Marla Handley
July 2, 2017
Dear Ron
I miss my Mr. Sandman,your smile,your company with the ladies at manicure morning and the way both your and Lornas smiling faces when I brought her back to your room. Your love for each other was beautiful to see. I know you are laughing and dancing together now.
Marla Haandley
Anneke Wijkstra
June 26, 2017
Hi Ron,
I never ever wrote in guest books before on this site but Brenda mentioned to me and I figure it out.
Ron, I remember you so well, we walked a lot together and even danced on a Halloween party or birthday party at Beacon Hill Villa where I work.
On the day off Summer your wife, dear Lorna found your back, she missed you a lot and now she is peace.
Ron, I will miss you and thank you for the time that I met you in my life,
Sorry for my late message, Anneke Wijkstra
Recreation Assistance at Beacon Hill Villa
Laurie Stansfield
June 21, 2017
Hi Uncle Ron...
I apologize for not writing till now. Somehow I just didn't want to acknowledge that you were now hanging out with Dad and not still a few hours away in Victoria.
But now that you and the love of your life, Lorna, are back together, you, Lorna, Terry and my dear Dad must be so happy to see each other again! At least that's how I see it in my heart ❤
You and Lorna were inspirations to me and I don't think I ever told you that. You showed me what a loving, committed and happy life could look like. You and Lorna, Terry, Brenda, Kim and Kerry taught me to hug those I loved hard and often, to be creative and true to my heart in life and love and to laugh often - to the point of tears if at all possible
Lord love us I miss you all so much! I'll see you when I see you... much love to you, lovely Lorna, hilarious Terry and my wonderful, much missed Dad
Keep shining in our hearts and minds. And send me a good pun once in a while - even a bad one will remind me to lighten up
Brenda Stansfield
April 4, 2017
April 4, 2017
Happy Birthday Daddy!
We sure miss you around here but you're always in our hearts and on our minds, especially on your Birthday. Mom and I are okay; she continues to do her daily impersonation of a leaky faucet (wish I could fix that one!) and I just came in from chainsawing some firewood in the back yard. I was able to get out into the garden last Friday and it is just so nice to feel you all around me out there...especially "looking at me through the lattice" with Terry! :)
Well, I should head to The Villa now, where we will toast to your life well lived and the wonderful memories go gave us throughout the years.
Love you, Pop-a-doodle!
Beanbag XXOO
PS. I think it is a special "trick" candle...so don't try to blow it out, ok? It is there forever for you.
Thomas Santalab
March 27, 2017
What a funny guy you were, Ron. We were so lucky to have known you and Lorna through Terry. Wishing Brenda and Lorna lots of love. xx Thomas, Wynn and Nik
Brenda Stansfield
March 5, 2017
Hi Daddy :)
You are so loved and so missed every day by me (and Mom!) but you are in our hearts forever. I am very grateful that you and she fell in love and you became my Dad. Pretty sure you and Terry are happily hamming it up again with Uncle Garry,"Uncle" Clive and "Uncle" Clair and the rest of your entourage and fans who "left the building" too soon! You have taught me so many wonderful things about life and love...and Home Repairs! Your lessons will never be forgotten, nor will your sense of fun, mastery of the pun, your kindness towards others and always trying to "make 'em laugh!" through words, silly antics, talented dance moves or just breaking out in song and always "looking at the bright side of life". And especially your total love, gentle care and devotion to our family, particularly Mom. You guys set such an incredible example of what true love is and how easy and fun a relationship can be...you set a high bar for sure! Thank you...I feel so lucky and blessed in my life that you were such an amazing father, friend and advisor. I am also glad that you knew how much you were admired and loved by me because I told you all the time, gave you lots of hugs and affection and made sure that nothing was ever left unsaid.
There have been so many people expressing kind words of condolence and comfort to us. Your life touched so many and you will never be forgotten. Mom is still comforting others but the sadness of missing you is starting to show now. It must be so heartbreaking for her to lose the love of her life and not to be able to express her feelings or cry like she used to so I spend even more time with her now because I know how much her heart must ache...cuddly hugs seem to help, as do looking at all the old photos (my memory of the stories was never as great as Terry's but I try!). It has been truly touching, the outpouring of support from friends, neighbours and from The Villa staff and residents, especially RJ, who really enjoyed caring for you over the years and even helped get you ready for your final departure (great timing, as usual!). He is now the proud owner of the Panama and I know he will cherish it, as well as one of your Roughriders caps!
Anyway, thanks for "Popping" in the other day like you used to. It could have been a dream but I wonder... I do feel your presence every day at the old Redfern Homestead and am so glad that I bought it from you guys years ago but kept you close by! The place has so many wonderful memories of great and happy lives, well lived...I shall endeavor to continue to keep it all up as best I can. And yes, Dad, I promise to get out in that garden soon!
Cheerio for now, Pop! I will take good care of Mom until you are both together again! Love you Daddy!
Your loving daughter, Brenda
(aka Beanbag!)
Scott Fulop
March 4, 2017
Have just heard of Ron's passing and Bernie Lee and I send our condolences. We have just recently lost our mother and know what a great loss it can be. However, take solace in the fact that there are so many friends and family "on the other side" that loneliness will be nonexistent. Got to know Ron while staying with them on Redfern while on vacation What a gem of a man! Our thoughts are with the family, especially Miss Brenda.
Dale Bonke
February 26, 2017
I was so sorry to hear about Ron's passing but not surprised as Brenda kept me posted. I am lifelong friends with both Brenda and Terry. When I first heard the news I had a especially fond memory of Ron when we I was young and went to the Stansfield's for Halloween and after knocking on the door saying trick or treat I would hear spooky music playing in the background Ron would come down the stairs dressed up as a zombie and scared the crap out of me. Always a joker was he and such a good person and the perfect match for Lorna. What a great couple and fun father he was and he is truly missed although we can take comfort in knowing he is with Terry now trying to out do one another in the joke department in the heavens above. I send Brenda and Lorna and your whole extended family my deepest sympathy and love. Dale Bonke
February 25, 2017
Dear Ron....husband, father, and our friend of 44 years...we will always hold dear, the memories of the love and laughter we've shared with you and Lorna over these many years.
Love and condolences to Lorna, Brenda, Kim and Kerry.
Di and Bob Gibson (and Family)
Kevin Paul
February 25, 2017
Whether it was a skip in his step, a jest on his lips, a song in his heart, or just a hearty hug, Ronnie had a way of making life sparkle all around him. He did it with such easeand I swear that man could muster a twinkle in his eye whenever the occasion required a little something extra.
Ron was comedic, compassionate, and a clearly consummate carpenter. But it was as a prodigiously passionate punster - who graciously giggled and my own nascent natterings - that I will most fondly remember him.
Many of the best stories that still circulate around the Paul family have their origin with Ron Stansfieldas do the smiles that come with each retelling.
Erin Connor
February 24, 2017
Very sad to learn of Ron's passing. Truly one of the nicest gentleman I have had the pleasure of having known, although it was many years ago. I cannot recall having seen him without a smile on his face - or was it a mischievous grin?
Lorna Stansfield
February 24, 2017
From Mom...
Hi Darling...we have had such a wonderfully long, full, happy and loving life together that left nothing unsaid, which was nice because even though we didn't talk much to each other in the end, we loved each other unconditionally, spent all our time together, looked into each others eyes, smiled and held hands. And always enjoyed a good laugh! We were the lucky ones in life and love.
While my heart aches for losing you, I will cherish your memory...until we meet again, my heart.
Love from your Lorna
(fondly referred to as "Billy" and Lorna-babes)
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