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Alfano-Kostenko, Renee, M.D. Renee Alfano-Kostenko M.D., 41, of Seymour, passed away suddenly Monday, May 7, 2012. She was born in New Haven on October 11, 1970, daughter of Patricia (Fasulo) Alfano and the late Peter, Sr. She is survived by her loving husband Kirk K. and her son Ryan Peter; her mother Patricia of West Haven & her brothers Peter Alfano, Jr. spouse Jennifer Tedesco Alfano of Westport (Coleytown Middle School), and Michael Alfano of West Haven (West Haven Fire Dept.), as well as her many aunts and uncles and several nieces and nephews. Renee graduated from the Academy of Our Lady of Mercy Lauralton Hall (Milford) in 1988. She then attended New York University where she earned her Bachelor of Science in pre-medicine in 1992. Renee then went on to St Georges Medical School in Grenada where she earned her medical degree. Dr. Renee Alfano-Kostenko was a well-known and respected board certified doctor of internal medicine for the Fairfield County Medical Group in Trumbull, where she had been practicing for over 10 years. Renee was a beloved wife, mother, daughter, sister, aunt, and friend to many. She was adored by both her family and patients. Renee loved life and touched the lives of all who knew her. She will be forever in our hearts and sadly missed. Friends may call on Thursday from 5 to 8 pm at MARESCA & SONS FUNERAL HOME, 592 Chapel St., New Haven and are invited to go directly to Our Lady of Victory Church, 600 Jones Hill Rd, W.H. on Friday to attend a Mass of Christian Burial at 9 am. Interment will follow in All Saints Cemetery. Contributions in Renee's memory may be made payable to Kirk Kostenko, custodian for Ryan P. Kostenko, c/o Fairfield County Medical Group (Attn. Eileen), 15 Corporate Dr., Trumbull, CT 06611. Offer condolences at

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Published in The New Haven Register from May 8 to May 10, 2012.
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May 24, 2017
I loved so very much she was my sister
peter alfano
May 24, 2017
she was my mom and i loved her very much and i hope shes doing well
Ryan Kostenko
January 20, 2013
Just heard about Dr. Alfano-Kostenko's passing. I am so very sorry. She took care of my mother Joan Postolowski and was very caring. She always talked about her son and was very proud of him. Lynda Healey
November 12, 2012
I just found out about dr alphono. My heart goes out to her family.
October 23, 2012
I just found out about dr Alfano's passing. I loved her as a dr. She wast the best I've ever had. My condolences to her and her family. :(
October 15, 2012
Anna Lanzante
September 24, 2012
Renee was a great doctor and kind person. I will miss her sense of humor. God bless her son and family.
S D'Amato
August 31, 2012
I just learned of Renee's death. I can't express to you how much she meant to me as a doctor and as eventually a friend.

To her family and friends, I offer my deepest condolences. Her ever smiling face and her compassion for her patients created a lasting effect on me. She changed many lives. She changed mine.

Janine Aggott
Janine Aggott
August 21, 2012
I just found out today about the passing of Dr. Alfano through a specialist she referred us to. She cared for my son Tommy Maher. He was a new patient and only saw her a couple of times, but I was impressed at how thorough she was, which is very important because he is a complicated case. A rare quality these days. I hope her family reads this and knows that she was appreciated. So sorry for your loss. Too young!
Ann DeStefano
August 18, 2012
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
July 30, 2012
I was sorry to hear the terrible news. My thoughts and prayers are with her family. Dr. Alfano was a wonderful wife, mother and doctor. She will be dearly missed.
Andrea Rein
June 27, 2012
I was shocked and saddened to hear about her death. I, as a patient, had come to care greatly for Renee.
Mary Fazio
June 25, 2012
I just heard of this terrible news ! Dr. Alfano had been my doctor for 9 years and she was one of the most caring, understanding doctors that I have ever met ! She helped me medically, and mentally...I am so sorry to hear of your loss !! I will miss her !
Tracey Cost
June 15, 2012
I have been a patient of Renee's for many years, I see her in the mornings at Summer SONCCA every summer. She was more than a great Doctor, she was caring and funny and bright, and always had extra time to discuss issues not just the medical ones, always asking how's your life going. She will be SO missed, she's was like a very smart sister. She knew everything about me inside and out and treated me with so much care. This shock is overwhelming as we've lost a great friend and a wonderful doctor. I am truly sad to hear of her passing and my heart goes out to her son who she always talked fondly of and her husband. I loved Renee, she was just full of life. I will miss her smile so much.
Dara Rojowski
June 5, 2012
Dr Alfano (Renee) and I went to medical school together and I was truly blessed to know her. She was always smiling and kind even when so may were down due to the difficulty of our studies and missing home. She must have been a wonderful and caring doctor. I pray her family will find comfort in knowing how Renee left such a beautiful imprint on everyone she knew.
Angela Self
June 2, 2012
I just received a letter from my insurance letting me know about the passing of my doctor. I'm shocked to hear this bad news. I always thought i had never met a dr like her, so caring about her patients. She will be deeply missed. I loved my doc,
Sandy Santos
May 21, 2012
I only just heard about her passing because I called to make an appointment to see her. What an awful tragedy. I was shocked and am overcome by emotion. She was a wonderful doctor and a beautiful person. My condolences to her loving family during this devastating time.
Dena Lagonigro
May 18, 2012
You will truly be missed.
zamika Forrest
May 16, 2012
I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I was a patient of Renee's She was a very, caring and compassionate doctor, who never rushed you and always listened to what your needs were, which is so hard to come by these days. I will be praying for her husband and son, that the Lord will see them through this difficult time.
May 16, 2012
I was a patient in her practice. I am so sad to hear of her passing. She was a most caring, compassionate doctor. My sincerest condolences to her family. She will truly be missed by all whose lives she touched.
Jo Silkoff
May 16, 2012
My husband and I just found out about Dr. Alfano, we both loved her very much, she will be missed. I was going to bring my eighteen year old daughter to her this year. Still in shock, our prayers will be with her husband and son through the months to come.
Judith Archer
May 14, 2012
I really enjoyed being one of her patients. I felt she truly cared and listened. My sincere condolences to the family of a great lady and caring physician.
Lynn Scully
May 14, 2012
So deeply sadden to hear Renee's passing..she was truly a wonderful doctor and beautiful inside and out..she even saved my life..thank you Renee for all of the things you have done in many years..thoughts and prayer are with Kirk and Ryan..many hugs to you all..
Michele Engel
May 14, 2012
I am a patient in her practice and although she was not my personal doctor, I did see her on a few occasions. Ironically, they were two times when I was most sick. She put me in the hospital. She was so sweet, comforting and extremely thorough. She was a wonderful doctor and I trusted her very much when I could not see my own. She will be deeply missed.
Allison Cooper
May 12, 2012
I am so numb.I can't believe Renee is gone. I can't stop thinking about her. My heart goes out to Kirk and Ryan and our whole family.

Cousin Lori,Mark,Carter,Savannah,Olivia,Zack
Lori Tibbetts
May 10, 2012
I can't begin to process that Renee is gone. She was a fabulous doctor friend and neighbor. She is goning to be greatly missed. God Bless and deepest sympathy to her family. She's in a good place with her father watching over her baby Ryan
Lauren, Tony Abate & family
May 10, 2012
I can't even begin to process that Dr. Alfano is gone. I always told her "I'm so glad I found such a great doctor to grow old with me". My husband and I extend our deepest sympathy to her family. Tanya & Steve Truax
Tanya Truax
May 10, 2012
Renee was a highly regarded colleague, always concerned about her patients.She would call and say could you see this person "as soon as possible because I am worried about them". These calls for counseling for her patients often took place at the end of the day -she wanted to make sure she had done the best for her patients. She will be missed by many people, having touched their lives by communicating a sense of caring that went beyond their medical problem-she truly saw them as people. Thank you Renee for your humanity.
martie Boulton
May 10, 2012
Our sincere sympathy to your family and to those who have known you over the years. You have accomplished more in your life time than others. Your family must be very proud of you. I can remember when you were a teenager and were going to hockey games that your brothers and our son played in. You always talked about being a doctor some day. A dream you accomplished. You always wanted to help others and you did. You will always stay in our hearts and will be missed.
Henry & Joanne Pozzuoli
West Haven
May 10, 2012
.May God be with the entire Alfano/Kostenko family's with the loss of Renee. May our thoughts and prayers comfort you through you sorrow.
Bob/Faye Burr
May 9, 2012
Wow....That is the thought in my mind as I read the obituaries. We went to grammar school together and you were the smartest in the class. I knew you would grow up to become something wonderful which is what you did. I read these messages and know that you became a great loyal caring Dr. Who helped others. Its sad that we lost touch through the years, but it makes me smile to know that you made a difference in so many lives. God bless your family and all of those who loved you at this difficult time. :'(
Suzanne Tottle
May 9, 2012
Dr. Alfono was a warm, kind Doctor and a bright one as well, She had a great bed side manner and I will miss her,
My heart goes out to her family at this most difficult time, Jill Bachman
May 9, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with Dr. Alfano's family. She was a wonderful person and a wonderful doctor. She was so kind, caring and professional. I will miss seeing her beautiful smile.
Melissa DeMartin and Family
May 9, 2012
Sending my deepest condolences to Renee's family and friends. She was my doctor for many years and I really liked her not only as a doctor but as a person too. She was very caring and a good listener. I will miss her!
Susie Villalta-Smith
May 9, 2012
Our hearts and prayers go out to Dr. Alfano's family. Dr. Alfano was a great doctor, friend and mother. We will all miss her very much.
Marcy Kaether and Family
Marcy Kaether
May 9, 2012
I wish to extend my deepest condolences to the family. May God comfort you during this time of suffering. Will keep Renee and the family in my prayers.
Jean (LaPlante) Bogardus
May 9, 2012
My husband and I will really miss Dr. Alfano, she was a great doctor. She really cared about everyone she took care of. We will miss you. Sharon and Joe Todice
May 9, 2012
Our sincere condolences. We are keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers. We were patients of Dr. Alfano and loved her so very much. She will truly be missed by us!

Jamie Curtis and Family
Jamie Curtis
May 9, 2012
Dr. Alfano,
You were always there for me when I was sick and needed you, and always cared so much about making people better. I will miss your smiles and the laughs I had with you, that made me feel better.

I guess God needed an Angel and wanted the best to help out in Heaven, so he sent for you. Love ya Doc.
Mike Alterio
May 9, 2012
"As a pre-medical student Dr. Alfano-Kostenko was a great mentor, and exemplified the type of physician I would like to become."
Shaun Najarian
May 9, 2012
Connie and I are deeply saddened by this. Dr. Alfano was always so friendly and compassionate and I always knew she sincerely cared about what was going with us. She will be missed. Ours prayers and thoughts are going out to her family.
Rocky Lester
May 9, 2012
Dear Pat, Peter and Michael,
We are so terribly sorry for your loss of a wonderful, caring, kind daughter and sister.
Adrianne, Fred & Andrew Petrillo
May 9, 2012
Dr. Alfano cared for me while I was in St. Vincents years ago. she was such a wonderful sincere doctor nd I am blessed to have had the chance to get to know her as a person. She was so kind, so soft, gentle and took tine to understand and explain..She will be greatly missed in this world. For the family, I an sure she left many wonderful memories to be cherished daily and she will live with all of you always through that love. She was a proud wife and mother, stand tall..hold tight...embrace and love always.. With deepest sympathy Karen Kelsey
Karen Kelsey
May 9, 2012
I will miss you Renee. When I saw you a few months ago, it was like we had never missed a beat - laughing & sharing good memories like always at LH. You were a great friend and I will hold a place for you in my heart always! My heart goes out to your family. I know that your son was the apple of your eye and God will hold him close through this sad time. You are my role model; a strong, good woman! I talk about you in the present because I am still processing that you're gone... Rest in peace friend
Andrea Gaetano
May 9, 2012
To Our Whole Family,
This just doesn't make sense. We are so so sorry for your loss. This is so heartbreaking.Renee was a wonderful person.She will be missed.

Cousin Lori, Mark ,Carter,Savannah,Olivia,Zack
Lori Tibbetts
May 9, 2012

Such a beautiful person taken too soon. Sincere sympathy to the entire family. May you all find the strength during this difficult time.
paula giordano
May 9, 2012
I knew Renee growing up and recently reconnected at a family gathering.....So sorry to hear about her sudden passing, she is loved and missed by many whose life she touched....
Fred Messore
May 8, 2012
FRANK & I are very sorry for your loss,DR,ALFANO was a very caring doctor,she will be missed..
May 8, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss as I heard this awful news. Renee was a classmate of mine at Lauralton. Many years have passed but I'll always remember her wit, grace, and sweet kindness. My thoughts are with you.
Maggie Elliott
May 8, 2012
Chuck & I are so very sorry for your loss - if there
is anything we could do - please call - such a lovely person, sorry.
Marilyn/Chuck Turner
May 8, 2012
Dr Alfano was a wonderful and caring doctor - she changed my life with her compassion and understanding.
Jane Frarce
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