John Bennett Tallman III
Sept. 9, 1940 - Oct. 29, 2020
John B. Tallman died in his sleep Friday, Oct. 29, 2020, at home, in Mary's Woods, Lake Oswego, from complications of Parkinson's Disease, which he had long suffered from.
John was born in Copaigue, N.Y., and grew up in New York and Baltimore, Md. After high school he attended Towson University, and went on to earn a master's degree in American history before graduating from the University of Wisconsin law school in Madison. Almost his entire career was spent in Madison as an Assistant and then Associate Legal Counsel for the UW System Administration. Having retired in 1998, he and his partner Andrew Sihler moved to Portland, Ore., in 2007, and then to Lake Oswego in 2019.
John's interests included a passion for gardening (he was on the board of the Hosta Society), cooking for ambitious dinner parties, and haunting farmers markets. He performed as a "super" in many productions put on by Madison Opera, and was on the board of New Harvest, a charitable organization funding small gay-themed arts and civic projects.
While in graduate school, John worked as housefellow, head fellow, and administrator for University Residence Halls, where he met his wife, Sally Probasco. Together, they had three children, Christian, Matthew, and Leigh . After their divorce in 1980, Sally and John co-parented until John's death, along with their respective spouses, Topf Wells and Andrew Sihler (partner since 1981 and spouse since 2014).
In addition to these, John is survived by his children and their spouses and children, and his and Andrew's close friend Robert Webber.
John was cremated. There are no plans for a memorial; his family will gather at some future date when it is no longer hazardous to do so.
Those wishing to honor John's memory might care to make a contribution to the Oregon Humane Socciety (1067 N.E. Columbia Blvd., Portland, OR 97211) or Madison Opera (335 W Mifflin St., Madison. WI 53703).
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