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May 30, 2019
May 29th, 2019:

Late tonight, quite by happenstance, I came across the notice of Lionel's passing, after doing a Google search for "Lionel Harmer, in Wagga Wagga, Australia".
I was very surprised, and saddened. I did not know Lionel well; I only met him one time, but that one meeting has left a lastingly positive impression.

In an interesting synchronicity, earlier tonight, before learning of his passing, I had been reading some of my writing, and I found a recollection of a time I had in Australia, while visiting as a tourist, in December 2002. Here's the gist of it:

I had been driving with a girlfriend, from Canberra up to Sydney, to look at a VW campervan for sale. It was a very tense drive up to the south of Sydney and my gal's mouth was buttoned shut. The energy was very stuck and very depressing. We were definitely on the outs. So, it was the bummer drive of the century!

I began using a couple mantras, I felt a lightening effect. Perhaps my guides and angels heard my call and came toward me to play and laugh.

We eventually pulled over to get some food and petrol. I was like a caged dog ready for contact with anyone friendly. We went in and ordered some food, cafeteria-style. The women behind the counter were especially helpful and friendly. I was smiling and saying hello to those souls within. I ordered a whole bunch of food and had to wait for it.

As I stood waiting, I struck up small conversations with those around me. A man came nearby to pay for his plate of food and I joked to him that I might eat his plate of food if mine didn't arrive soon. He laughed. As I passed by his table, he mentioned he was bringing his son back from an ice hockey competition. His presence was loving and friendly. I told him, You must be a great father. It was a good compliment and I think he appreciated it. I mentioned I was driving up to Sydney to look at a VW Kombi campervan to travel around Australia in. We bid one another adieu and I sat down across from the ever-silent girlfriend.

A few minutes later the same man came by and offered me a folded piece of paper, saying, If you'd like to see how people in Wagga Wagga live, feel free to come by and stay a few days with me and my family. If you happen to pass by this way, I'd be happy to show you around. The paper had his contact information.

I was really surprised and touched by his human kindness. I stood straight up and reached my hand out to shake his. I had an overwhelming feeling of human kindness that reached me deeply. I asked his name. Lionel Harmer, was the reply. I smiled and told him how kind his offer was and how grateful I was to meet him. Lionel walked out of the café to his car and drove away in the hot afternoon sunshine. I couldn't stop smiling. I must have been beaming. I had spent hours in a car with no human kindness and now a complete stranger offers me a genuine kindness that restored my sense of human goodness, in the structure of a kind universe and in the absolute compassion Creator bestows upon one and all. I realized the mantra repetition had communicated my need to Creator who provided the best possible nourishment for my suffering soul.

The rest of the day was brighter now. There are others who will be here to help sustain and nourish my being, I thought. I would not fall through the holes in Swiss cheese that had seemed evermore filled with more space than cheese.

Perhaps a week or 10 days later I found another VW campervan from a man named Jack, in Canberra. It was a beauty! It drove superbly and was mechanically sound. I never made it to visit Lionel and his family in Wagga Wagga. Just that kind moment during that particular day proved sufficient to restore me and make me smile again.

-End of story

I count my life blessed to have crossed paths with Lionel's kind and generous spirit. And I often recall with fondness that interaction we shared.

I send sincere well-wishes and prayers to Lionel's wife, and children.

Stephen Benton
Clarion, Michigan, USA
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April 21, 2019
Lionel was a kind and generous man. He will be sadly missed.
April 15, 2019
To Carole and family, I am very sorry to hear the sad news. Lionel packed a lot into his 59 years.
April 13, 2019
Please accept our heartfelt condolences. Lionel was a wonderful man. You have our very deepest sympathy for your great loss

Kristan, Justin & Rachel
We are really sorry for the loss of your dad. Please accept our sincere condolences. We know how close you were to him, and what a profound influence he had on your lives. He will be greatly missed.

Greg and Cindy Knight
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