Barbara Fae Mills Clayton
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Barbara Fae Mills Clayton

San Diego
Barbara Fae Mills Clayton was born on October 3, 1950 in Athens, Greece where her father was stationed as a Naval officer. Her name Barbara is derived from the Greek, Vavara and when Greek people saw her with her blond hair and green eyes, they would call her “ Varvarike” and want to touch her hair. She returned to the U.S. as a toddler, living in Florida, Virginia, and finally California. After a short stint at NAF El Centro, the family settled in San Diego. Barbara attended upper elementary grades, junior high and graduated from Madison High School in 1968. After a year at Mesa Jr. College and working part time for Sears, Barbara transferred to Texas Woman's University. She was aiming for a degree in Business and a goal of returning to San Diego and becoming a division manager at Sears. Three years later, graduating with a double major in business and English literature, she did just that! Eventually she went on to similar positions at May Co. and more than 20 years with Ford Motor credit, retiring in 2012. As much as Barbara loved her career, she had a lot of other interests and hobbies as well. From a very young age, she was an avid reader, usually being the most well-read person in the room! She also loved music and dancing, especially to Mowtown, Frank Sinatra, and the Rock music from the 60s and 70s. Barbara could often be seen attending concerts of favorite bands and groups she enjoyed in Las Vegas and here at home. Las Vegas was a favorite destination, as was San Francisco.

Barbara is survived and dearly missed by her two daughters, Rachel Clayton of San Diego, Rebecca Clayton Linsalato (Mike) of Chesapeake, Va., sister Pamela Mills-Morita (Dennis); grandchildren, James and Bella, nephews Barry Willis, Jordan Morita and niece Denise Morita. She is pre-deceased by her daughter Jessica, Ed Fall, and her parents Jim and Grace Mills.

Because Barbara was such a caring and loyal friend herself, she attracted great friends. Always willing to help her family and friends, they were here for her during her battle with cancer this last year. Many thanks and much love to Laura, Joey, Jan and Randy. Her Doctors at Kaiser, especially Dr. Zimmerman and the staff at Kaiser hospice for all their compassion and help. Barbara passed away September 29, 2020 at home with loved ones around her. She is a beloved daughter, sister, mother, ya ya, friend and so much more to those of us who loved and cherish her. She wore so many different hats in this life, beautifully. As our dad used to tell us in Greek “polioreyo” -beautiful!

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Published in San Diego Union-Tribune on Oct. 11, 2020.
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October 17, 2020
Barb, I don't know how to say good bye to you, my oldest and best friend. We were supposed to grow old together with many more adventures to come. Know that you are dearly missed and that you will remain in my heart and mind forever. Love you, Joey
JoAnna (Joey) Fields
October 13, 2020
Sincere condolences for the Mills family RIP Barbara
Connie Vitale Ficano
October 12, 2020
What a beautiful memorial. I wish I had had the opportunity to know her, but I am so grateful to know a part of her through her amazing daughter and friend Rachel. May you all have moments to breathe and remember her joy in this time of grief. With love, Rose
Rosanna Tolomei
October 11, 2020
Barb was a dear and old friend. We shared many an adventure together..she will be missed...great picture Barb..R.I.P.. ..Chuck
Chuck Carr
October 11, 2020
I’m broken to hear of Barb’s passing. She was smart, funny, supportive and encouraging. I wish I could’ve sat with her just one more time and take in her wisdom. My prayers to her family.
Becky Herrera
October 11, 2020
I was fortunate to be Barbara's brother-in-law and was married a month after she was married to my brother. My fondest memories were the family get together and all the nieces and nephews sleeping together in the living room on the floor in front of the TV and sharing the giant pillow. Barbara was an expert poker player and embarrassed my brothers and me numerous times. I have fond memories that I will cherish forever. RIP Barb. I love you. ❤❤❤
Daryl Clayton
October 11, 2020
As a high school friend, Barb’s enthusiasm about everything was contagious. Had so many fun times with her. Was so pleased to see her at our last reunion. So saddened by her loss. Condolences to her family
Donna Baker-Sisney
October 11, 2020
I worked with Barb at Ford Credit in San Diego. She was always such a nice person, very kind. My thoughts & prayers are with her family. RIP Barb.
Tami Langevin
October 11, 2020
May you Rest In Peace Barbara. As a high school classmate of mine, I remember all the beautiful things your family has shared with us in your memorial. Your school spirit was infectious and so enlightening. May God Bless you and your family. "Polioreyo" indeed. V/R Tony Perez
Tony Perez
October 11, 2020
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
Leslie Schwimley Lizotte
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