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A Lover of Freedom
Graham Berkeley, a Briton, had lived in the United States for 10 years, and for 10 years he had been trying to get the green card that would grant him resident status. It came at last in June, and Mr. Berkeley had started making plans to move to New York City from Boston when, on Sept. 11, he boarded United Airlines Flight 175 for a business trip to Los Angeles.

"It's like fate playing tricks on you," said his friend Christian Winslow. "His fight for that green card had been so intense."

Mr. Berkeley, 37, was director of e-commerce solutions for the Compuware Corporation, but his friends remember him as a classical violinist, an opera buff and a world traveler. "He loved the freedom that America has," Mr. Winslow said. "He loved the openness of our society and the friends he had here. America, to Graham, was almost like the cliché — a land of endless opportunities."

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Published in The State Journal-Register on Sep. 13, 2001.
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September 13, 2020
Miss you Graham. 19 yrs later and still, I think of you often. I miss you, your humor and your ability to always make people laugh, love and smile.
Malcolm Gray
September 12, 2020
Remembering Graham this weekend,...
September 11, 2020
RIP Graham ❤❤❤
September 12, 2019
Graham, wherever you are in the universe, your spirit and energy I see often. Miss you, your guiding beacon, and the way you always made me laugh. MIG
Malcolm Gray
September 11, 2019
Thinking of you and your loved ones today, Graham.
Lisa Zhang
September 11, 2019
Remembering you today, Graham. Rest in peace, my friend.
September 11, 2019
Graham Still think about you often
December 16, 2018
missing you. still
John M. Rinaldi
December 15, 2018
Graham, i think about you very often in my work at preventing terrorisme. Today, I miss you. I hope you are peaceful and proud. Bert
September 11, 2018
Remembering a very special and talented human being. Thoughts and prayers with your family...
September 11, 2018
Thinking of Graham and his loved ones today
Lisa Zhang
September 13, 2017
Always think about you, Graham. Especially when I'm the place we both love so much -P'town. Miss you tons, my friend.

September 12, 2017
Graham, you are still missed all these years later.
Lisa Zhang
September 11, 2017
Remembering Graham and his family.
September 12, 2016
Remembering you Graham and thinking of your family....
September 11, 2016
Graham, I worked with you atcompuware mad met you once or twice. Just wanted to Say your loved ones are on my mind today.
Lisa Zhang
September 11, 2015
Best wishes to the Berkely family from one of Graham's old compuware coworkers.
Lisa Zhang
September 10, 2015
RIP Graham, you are still missed. Condolences to your friends and family.
September 10, 2015
Never forgotten, Graham. J
September 5, 2015
bella b
September 24, 2014
September 23, 2014
Melissa Blue
September 23, 2014
And now he's playing violin in Heaven and they're not enough of us opera lovers left on planet Earth and we just had to lose one didn't we? Will never ever forget September 11th, 2001 and those we lost. God watch over you in Heaven.
Melissa Blue
September 11, 2014
bella beltz
September 11, 2014
'missing you today as I did September 12th.... 'a great part of me had also been lost but I use that hurt as strength and have honored you every day since.

I still love you so!
May 15, 2014
I walked a mile for you (mile #297) on 5/14/14 as a dedication to your life.
Barbara Boam
September 13, 2013
Thinking of you Graham.
September 13, 2013
Still remembering.....
September 12, 2013
Thinking of you today Graham.
Mauricio Londono
September 11, 2013
Graham Andrew Berkeley -- I think of you often, today is no exception. I sometimes see your face in others. Wherever you are, be at peace and know that you were truly loved by your friends and family. MIG
Malcolm Gray
September 11, 2013
Never Forgotten

A colleague, formerly Compuware UK
Mike Patchett
April 30, 2013
Graham, I think of you often. We met sharing a stand at the BBC Radio Orchestra and became friends. We moved to the US within a month of each other and we lost touch. I found out what had happened six months afterward from mutual friends. It still makes me incredibly sad.
Andrew Davies
September 11, 2012
RIP Graham.
September 11, 2012
Thinking of you and yours today.
Lisa Zhang
September 11, 2012
I was an Italian colleague of Graham at Compuware in 2011.
Just a note to remember a very professional and friendly colleague.
Fabio Milanese
January 18, 2012
Just today, I was piecing together my history, and I had a vivid memory of how excited you were to own your home in Boston, how happy you always were to see your friends--even when we all were certain you were not long for this World. I recalled how tragic it was that just when we thought we'd have you for a while, you proved us all right in the wrongest of ways and were suddenly gone. I cried.

Then I remembered that even when you were certain that your days were numbered, your smiles never were. I smiled, dried the tears and dedicated the rest of my day to being as resilient and kind to everyone around me as you always were.

Funny turned into an extraordinary day. Thank you for that lovely gift, my friend. It is your truest legacy. You draw out the best in all of us. I promise never to forget that.
Sean McNerney
September 12, 2011
I remember the smile that Graham had that could light up a room. He was a beautiful man with a beautiful spirit that still lives on.
James Lindquist
September 11, 2011
I am remembering Graham today and the good times, dinners and laughs we shared. He will always be in our hearts.
Eric Sandstrom
September 11, 2011
I will always remember Graham as a most beautiful spirit.

A Compuware Colleague – New York City
Maurine LeDet
September 9, 2011
rest in peace
September 8, 2011
Rest in peace my friend, 10 years on
Matthew Schramko
September 2, 2011
Days go by and still I think of you..
September 1, 2011
J Drummond
June 19, 2011
i miss you terribly.... and my heart continues to break every day. it just doesn't get any easier. you'd think of all the loss- i'd be numb at this point.. but, i'm not. in many ways i feel as tho i died as well 911. and in many ways i have. i've been reduced to nothing short of a shell i'm afraid.. i don't know if you'd even recognize me- i don't. i'm older.. less hair, and i'm definitely not benching my 220. i don't know who's lookin' back at me..

it's almost 10 years! and i can't seem to come back!! i try, really i do! but, my not being present gets me further and further lost.

i replay it over and over in my mind- you know i would have been right there with you.... you know there's no chance you'd have been able to go without me!

i keep thinking about my family and believing that the reason i stayed behind was that they needed me... but, i'm afraid i've been of no good to anyone since... no, i haven't moved on and yes, i'm still single. i told you, my heart is broken and it breaks more every day..

i lost my sister, my brother, terry, and then you and my job that fateful day. i don't mean to complain so many lost so much more.. but it's truly more difficult for those that are left behind. we lose a piece of us and i know have four huge holes that can no longer be taped up.. they say it's ptsd- trauma.... whatever! all i know, is i'm too broken. or, am i just a coward? i know you're still with me- so can you kick me in the butt?! or atleast look out for me? i'm afraid they're winning and i won't last much longer..

"since i've known you, i've been changed for good.". thank you for every second we had. i'll forever be grateful!

they say it's hard to lose the one you love. hard to let go, hard to move on- hard. so, i won't.

i love you graham. always have, always will.
January 12, 2011
Thinking of you on your birthday :-)
Memories are forever.
With love XX
Martin Evans
September 13, 2010
Catrin David-Jones
September 12, 2010
It's another birthday for me today and my thoughts are again ridiculously turned to getting older. I say ridiculously because the gift of life was so awfully taken away from you at such a young age. Sometimes we fail to make the most of what we are given and worry about 'getting older'! I still think of you often and all who died on that fateful day. Thanks to you and hearing a little bit about your life in the U.S., I appreciate that it is important to live your life to the full and to appreciate family and friends to the max. Just as you did, dear friend!
James Drummond
September 11, 2010
It doesn't get any easier, does it? Nine years on, and the memories of those years at Priory Boys' Grammar are etched in my mind. O, how we laughed! O, how we cried. You excelled in maths and the sciences (and German!), but I kept the edge in English and French (and Latin, because you didn't take it!) And all those Saturday mornings with the Shropshire Schools' Symphony Orchestra - I was a second-rate oboist while you were a stellar violinist. You specialised in music, I in drama. You headed for music college, I for drama school. You joined the BBC, I joined the RSC. Our careers came to unforeseen junctions, and our paths never crossed. Although your life was snuffed out, your spirit lives on. You touched my life in ways I never realised at the time. I'm only sorry I never kept in touch.

Requiem æternam.
Adrian Hilton
September 10, 2010
To the family of Graham Berkeley:
Graham gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our heroes of September 11 be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you.
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
Peggy Childers
September 6, 2010
Condolonces to the family of Graham Berkeley. My thoughts and Prayers are with you at this difficult time. It is never easy to lose some one but I hope that your love and memories of Graham will help ease your pain and suffering. (John 5:28,29)
February 4, 2010
Hallo Graham,

du bist schon so lange im Himmel. Ich erinnere mich so gerne an die Zeit mit dir. Wir haben in den 80er Jahren bei Sterling Software zusammen gearbeitet. Wir hatten eine super gute Zusammenarbeit und du wirst unvergessen sein.
Von Herzen Deine Michaela
September 13, 2009
You are still in my thoughts and prayers Graham, God bless you and your family.
Frank Hodge
September 12, 2009
Yesterday, I flew from Miami to Provincetown just like I did those horrible days right after 9/11 to honor your memory and sense your presence. While 8 years have passed, rarely does a day go by that I don't think about you or come across a picture with your smiling face staring back at me. The world with never feel your loss as powerfully or completely as all your friends and family do. I miss you terribly my friend, and Provincetown misses you too but sometimes I see your face in the faces of other and realize your spirit is close by--watching over all of us and reminding us that life is precious, short and most of all needs to be lived every single day. xoxo MIG
Malcolm Gray
September 11, 2009
Today I remember you as young and vibrant and a sweet friend who once gave me the gift of good advice. I think of you often when I walk the streets of Ptown and particularly when I walk by the house that was yours at the end of Nickerson. We won't forget the goodness of your life or the injustice that cut it short.
September 11, 2009
Today I remember you as young and vibrant and a sweet friend who once gave me the gift of good advice. I think of you often when I walk the streets of Ptown and particularly when I walk by the house that was yours at the end of Nickerson. We won't forget the goodness of your life or the injustice that cut it short.
September 11, 2009
Still thinking of you Graham

Ex colleague Compuware Netherlands
Kish Prashad
September 11, 2009
I got to know you only days before your left us.
Though I was a guest at your cottage on the Cape that weekend, we had never met. I walked into your home a complete and total stranger. I thought that the only reason I was there was to provide my friend Ernesto a ride from NYC, his only way reconnect with his long time friend now living in Provincetown for the summer. Ernesto was a good friend and my rock. He kept me standing after my lovers’ death just eight months earlier. It meant the world to him to get to see you again, after all your friendship started long before and very far away. Back then Ernesto was working the runways of Paris and you studying at The Royal College of Music In London. You had extended him the invitation to visit, and offered the use of your cottage; I was just the cab driver, so I thought.
The weekend was wonderful. It was the four of us, including Tim but no matter how the day’s activity started, you and I would shortly end up lost in some deep conversation. We spoke in depth of family, of life, and loss, but mostly family. The other two gazed at us quizzically, sometimes annoyed that we were way too serious, after all, it was Labor Day weekend, the last hurray of summer.
I learned much of your family, your love for them, the pride and happiness that you had for them. I never thought that I would ever meet them, much less so soon.

As I looked at them across the room at your funeral, I realized that perhaps I had words, more importantly, your words to share with them.
I hope I did right by you. I can’t say I was entirely comfortable, nor confident, a complete and total stranger, about to intrude on a family in mourning.
They of course were lovely and kind. They listened with great interest, and for just a moment, it felt that there was a ray of light in their world of intense sadness.

Be well Graham, where you are we will eventually follow,
So do what you seem to have always done,
Lead, not follow.
With your great passion and broad strokes
Cut a path for us so we might know the way.
Robert Foti
September 11, 2009
Thinking of you Graham. Still shocked at the events of eight years ago today. James
James Drummond
September 10, 2009
Hallo aus Düsseldorf/Deutschland.Hier in Düsseldorf traf ich Graham das erste Mal im Februar 1988 an Karneval. Ich war sofort absolut beeindruckt von seiner Art, seiner Stimme und wie er die Dinge des Lebens sah.Ich suchte seine Nähe und Liebe. Es folgte eine sehr intensive Zeit und ich erlebte viele Höhen und Tiefen in seinem Leben. Später lebte er in Köln und als er in die USA ging,verlor sich leider unser Kontakt. Doch vergessen habe ich ihn nie. Als ich von seinem Tod erfuhr, war ich zutiefst schockiert und traurig...bis heute eigentlich. Ehrlich gesagt,gibt es keinen Menschen, den ich so sehr geliebt habe,wie ihn...bis heute eigentlich.
Andreas Külzer
September 11, 2008
Graham, I remember you as a young, very talented violinist in Shrewsbury. I envied your talent! Sorry! :-)) Memories have flooded back of the Shropshire youth orchestra together and the Shrewsbury School string orchestra. Happy times! I am truly very sad that your young life has been taken away from you and your family. I can only pray that you are in a better and safer place. James.
James Drummond
April 3, 2008
Hey Graham, I remember when we met and you introduce yourself to my sister so you can meet me, I remember when you took me to my first violin concert. I remember the special moments when we were close together. I remember and remember and thats all I have for know! Miss you dearly!!
Adnan Ayoub
October 30, 2007
Graham at the Louvre--1997
September 11, 2007
Dear Graham, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Your smiling face is greatly missed.

Love, Frank
Frank Hodge
September 11, 2007
Six years later and I can still hear your voice in my head. I miss you as much today as I did on 9/11/01. Your wisdom, humor, charisma and amazing friendship will never be forgotten. Boston misses you, New York misses you, P'town misses you and most of all, your friends and family...MIG
Malcolm Gray
September 11, 2007
My thoughts are with you Aunty Pauline and Uncle Les!! I think of all the time. Love Mandy x
Mandy Henderson
June 10, 2007
In memory....
P Tabbernor
October 18, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
September 22, 2006
To the family of Graham Berkeley, I Prayer for all the victims who have suffered from the tradgic events of september 11.Youll be thought and prayed for always!God Bless
Dawn Sproules
September 11, 2006
When I think of the events of September 11, 2001 it is always Graham who comes to mind. I came from the same lovely Shropshire town where he lived and went to school. I moved to the USA in 1999. I never met him; I guess it's that connection with Shrewsbury that brings him to mind. It is tragic that such a talented, accomplished man should be lost in such a brutal and senseless way. My condolences to his friends and family.
Lynne Davis
September 8, 2006
Thinking of Graham at this time.I was a member of the Shropshire Youth Orchestra which was led by Graham for a while. He also played the Bruch concerto with us. I attended the Royal College of Music with him and have fond memories of our orchestral tour to Russia. We organised a reunion of the orchestra from Graham's time in the early 80's, in March 2002. Graham's parents came along and we all brought old photos of those very happy carefree days. Everytime I see that plane going into the second tower, I am brought to tears thinking of what was going through Graham's mind.
No one can ever take away the memories we have of him and I feel glad to have known him.
Val Berry (Perkins)
August 23, 2006
I met Graham in 1993 when I returned to work for Sterling Software in Woodland Hills, CA. We were part of a team reorienting a certain suite of software products -- and we had our work cut out for us.

It was a pleasure to work with Graham, as he had a true sense for the technology and the market. But mostly, it was his keen sense of humor and quick wit that helped make the long hours enjoyable. Many times, we broke for lunch and would talk about family and friends, travels, and our backgrounds playing classical music. When he left Sterling a few years later, many people said goodbye to a friend.

On September 11, 2001, a profound sadness descended on all of his former colleagues as word was passed of his death.

I want his family to know that Graham was a bright light in the lives of many people far from his original home, and that he continues to be fondly remembered whenever his old friends get together.
Lynn Newman
September 11, 2005
The summer of 2001 I worked in a coffee shop in the east end of Provincetown. Every morning this handsome, smiling man would come in for his coffee and then go over and sit and make phone calls on his cell. He had taken the summer off from corporate America and was enjoying himself could just tell.
I knew him to be friendly and gracious.
He told me his name was Graham.
Peter Mellett
April 13, 2005
I was just sitting here today at my desk at work and looked up to see the card that I was given and candle to pray for Graham on Sept. 11, 2002. It says he will never be forgotten. I send my prayers to him and his family and will continue to pray for the man that I will never really know. Except he is someone who will never be forgotten. And someday I will meet him up in heaven and shake his hand. Love, Karen
Karen DePaoli
September 29, 2003
To the friends and family of Graham:

We will never forget that day for as long as we live. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you.

Love from Texas...
Del Newberry
September 17, 2002
I knew Graham from the gym where we both used to work out. I am deeply, deeply sorry for his loss, he was an handsome man with a wonderful smile. He must certainly be in a serene place right now. All my love to his family and his friends.
Stefano Matini
September 12, 2002
I never knew Graham yet I care about him, his family, and his friends in their loss. The Sunday following 9/ll/01, my church passed out white ribbons, each inscribed with the name of a passenger aboard one of those fateful four planes that went down. My ribbon has Graham's name and flight number inscribed on it. I wear it proudly in his honor.
Emily Hill
September 12, 2002
9/11/02 Thinking today of all those who suffered in this act of evil but particuarly Graham and his family especially parents Charles and Pauline. Long live freedom -as a humanist I hope that those who wish to impose their own certainties upon others will never prevail.

I never knew Graham but we were the same age, both grew up in wonderful Shropshire England and I work for a NY based company.
Jerel Whittingham
September 11, 2002
To the family of Graham berkeley,
I am a junior in highschool. Today, Sept.11, we had a prayer service today and i was given his name.... I want to let u know that not only my prayers but my entire school prayers are with him and his family. god bless, he is a true hero in my mind.... kate wasileski
Kate Wasileski
September 11, 2002
I only met Graham a few times, but it was clear that he was sharp, witty, and an asset to the world. Best wishes to his family, and may he rest in peace.
Scott Lewis
September 11, 2002
Though I never knew Graham, my deepest sympathy is with his family and friends.
Ashley Smith
September 10, 2002
May God Bless every family that lost a love one on this awful day.My God Bless all our troops who are defending our country so that it will be a safer place to live,and there families to not knowing if they will return home safely.
Linda Langford
September 10, 2002
I never met you Graham but one year on I remember you & everyone who died on that day love Elaine
Elaine Grant
September 9, 2002
Bob and I have not forgotten you. The loss of you and so many others, is senseless. I think of you.
Carolynn Diakon
August 13, 2002
On Tues. August 13th I participated in the City of Henderson's blood drive. (I am a Lt. with the Henderson PD.)It is something that we do on a regular basis. This one was different as we were given a slip of paper indicating that we donated for a fellow American who was a victim of 9-11. Mine is for Graham Berkely. I have looked over the names of the many that were killed but now I have one that I will specifically remember. GOD's grace and peace to his family and friends. Ron Averett
Ronald Averett
June 4, 2002
On May 31, 2002, 1 mile was walked to honor the life of Graham and all the family, friends, and loved ones he left behind. May you find some comfort in knowing that you do not grieve alone.

Graham, although gone, you will never be forgotten, may you rest in peace.
Kathy Swaringen
April 19, 2002
Father we entrust our brother Graham to your mercy. You loved him greatly in this life: now that he is freed from all its cares, give him happiness and peace forever. Welcome him now into paradise where there will be no more sorrow, no more weeping or pain, but only peace and joy with Jesus your Son, and the Holy Spirit forever and ever.
Michael Iezzi
April 19, 2002
Hi I need your help you see I'm trying to make sure every family that lost a love one receive a homemade quilt. When I seen what happen I knew I had to do something so as I was crying and praying the Lord answered my prayers by telling me to make quilts for everyone. Not a very easy task especially when I really don't know where to start. I started making quilts and soon ask my friends and everyone in our wonderful country to help. Soon I had 1554 quilts ready to go. We took them to New York and hand deliver them to Pier 94 where the families wereon Dec 16,17, and 18. I know my job isn't done and I have to continue so I came across a list of all the victim and decided to see if maybe there friends or families could help me try and bring some comforter to the parents or spouse. If you need to check me out please do ask our Senator Harkin from Iowa phone number is 515-284-4574 and ask Dianne Liepa what my mission is with the Freedom Quilts. By the way my name is Betty Nielsen. I was on America 01 and Good Morning America. You can also call Good Morning America and ask for Catherine Upin one of ABC Productor to check the facts out. I'm trying to make sure and not miss anyone so please if you can help me by contact his beloved wife and telling her what I plan on doing she can email me or you can and let me know if it's okay. Right now I have made and collected 1174 and still working at making more. I need your help in order to completed my project. I hoping get all the families that lost a love one from the Sept 11 attacked and present them with a quilt. A quilt of love and comforter. I'm also thinking that maybe your senator from your state can line something up and I could bring quilts to hand over to the families. Please if you have any idea and would want to help me bring some comforter please talk to the families even the senator of your state and perhaps we can so something special. We here in Iowa want to show that it doesn't matter how far you are we are thinking of them and praying and we also want to give them a sign of comforter and love. What better way of showing that this country is great and that we care for one another. Thank you for listening.
Freedom Quilts
Betty Nielsen
13637 550th ST
Fonda Ia 50540
April 12, 2002
I want say that all my blessings go out to all the people who lost a love one on 9-11-01 and god watch over the people who fought with their lives for the U.S.A that horrible day they will always be remembered!
Sheila Mcpike
January 28, 2002
We will never forget and neither will Our Lord. Justice will prevail. God bless you Graham and your family.
K. Melaragni
January 24, 2002
My partner, Tony, and I had known Graham from his days in Los Angeles. He was, quite simply, an unusually gracious and wonderful man. We were very lucky to have Graham as a friend. We thought about him a fair amount, having lost track of him after he moved East, wondering when we would run into him again.

Graham, you will be sorely missed by so many people. May your loved ones take comfort in how many hearts you touched.
Craig Dougherty
January 12, 2002
May Graham's passion for classical violin playing, his life and love live on in you. May the sorrow in your hearts be lightened by warm memories of times together. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Teresa Jahn
December 22, 2001
Our family would like to express our sympathy to the family and friends of Graham Berkeley.
Almighty God has made a very loving provision for our loved ones.(Acts 24:15).Just as we haven't forgotten our loved ones neither has God.
November 19, 2001
May God comfort and give you peace and strength in this hour of need. God Bless you all.
Carmela Happner
September 28, 2001
September 24, 2001
I have created on online memorial to Graham which can be found at: There is another wonderful site dedicated to him that you should visit at: And it contains a lot of pictures, postings from friends, info on his memorial service, etc. He will be greatly missed...
Scott Penziner
September 21, 2001
We met only briefly but his joy for life was abundantly clear.
Confident, forthright, and determined.
Robert Payne
September 21, 2001
Graham was one of the first people I met when I moved to Boston. I could always count on a smile and a warm greeting whenever I saw him -- at the gym -- or in Provincetown. He will be missed...
Jeff Eddowes
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