Thea Middlemiss
1936 - 2021
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Thea Middlemiss was born and raised on a small farm in Bezgenriet, Germany, in February, 1936. From a very young age she was determined to travel beyond her ancestral farmlands. When she met US Army Sargent Henry Middlemiss while working at a local music store, she jumped at the chance for a new adventure. Henry jumped at the chance of lasting love. In 1956, at the young age of 20, Thea traveled across the Atlantic to America and, shortly thereafter on November 30, 1957, she and Henry were married at St Monica's Church in Methuen MA.

While still new to this country, Thea began taking evening classes to improve her English and learn bookkeeping, graduating with honors from Lawrence High School in 1958. Soon after came the start of their young family in No. Andover, MA with the birth of Greg, then Heidi (Shanti). After purchasing their first home on Lincoln Street, Eric arrived.

After becoming a US citizen in 1963 and passing the civil service exam, Thea began her extensive career with the IRS. Starting as a seasonal keypunch operator, she accelerated through the ranks, positioned as Section Chief in 1988. After 35 years of dedicated service, she retired in 1998. You can thank Thea for any speedy tax refund checks. :)

Family adventures included summertime camping at Gunstock and Sunset Park. On weekends, Thea could be found preparing for a gathering of friends for dinner, drinks, or canasta. She loved bringing people around a table and creating community. She was a member of the Faith Lutheran Church in Lawrence, MA.

In 1999, Thea and Henry moved to Lovell, ME where she worked part-time at T.J. Maxx. She enjoyed golfing, skiing, walking, listening to classical music, and traveling to casinos (always a lucky winner). After a successful recovery from Stage 3 breast cancer, it was decided to return closer to her children. The 2012 move to Manchester NH brought new friends and a new T.J. Maxx store where she continued to achieve high success with top customer services awards. All the while, connection with friends and family filled her days. She was happy to be here.

With a peaceful and grateful heart, Thea passed on Friday March 5, 2021 after a short battle with Covid. She will always be remembered as a kind, generous, loving, and strong woman who cared deeply for those she loved.

Thea leaves her living relatives in the US: husband, Henry Middlemiss; son, Gregory Middlemiss and his daughter, Kirsty Middlemiss; daughter, Shanti Douglas and her three sons, Mitchell Simon, Everett Simon, Connor Buckley, and beloved dog, Suki; son, Eric Middlemiss and his daughters, Jaclyn Diaz and Kerri Middlemiss. In Germany: sisters, Ilse Hruza and Helga Zehender; twin Godchildren, Birgit Zehender and Claudia Schwartz; twin nephews, Achim and Michael Hruza, all of their spouses and children and her special cousin, Hildegard.

In lieu of flowers, please donate to a charitable organization of your choice.

A memorial gathering will be planned for mid-summer. For now, please join a Celebration of Life and Love on Zoom, Sunday March 14, 1:00 - 3:00pm EST. Bring your stories, memories, songs and playfulness. Register at

Lambert Funeral Home & Crematory, Manchester is assisting the family with arrangements. To leave a message of condolence, see the obituary at

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Published in Union Leader on Mar. 8, 2021.
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March 15, 2021
I met Thea in the late 80's at the IRS. I was a union steward and she was a manager, we got along great. She was fantastic to work with and was always compassionate and caring. When I first met her, she looked at me and said "Love, what a beautiful name. I used to live across the street from an elderly couple named Love". My Grandparents lived at 9 Lincoln St. From that moment on, Thea and I had a special relationship. I pray that she rest in peace and that those she left behind are consoled.
Dan Love
March 15, 2021
Though we are miles away..our thoughts and prayers are With You All..Thea,left us with many Blessings..and will be remembered always.
Bless ..Ron & Fran Drolet
Ron Drolet
Family Friend
March 14, 2021
Our Hearts and Prayers
Are with You Henry...and the family.
Thea..will be missed but never fogotten.
Ron Drolet
March 13, 2021
I met Thea in the 90's; We bowled together in a league for several years at "Sandy's". . Through the years, we golfed , enjoyed the time at the casinos', lunches at The Common Man. I loved her travel stories with Henry & hearing about all the people they met and formed lifelong friendships along the way. She actually smiled with her eyes. I will miss you dearly my friend. God Bless, Linda Gudek
Linda Gudek
March 12, 2021
It was amazing to see Thea and Henry in Vienna while they visited the city during a trip. I am so happy for this memorable day with some hours of story telling and laughing after we saw us last time when i was a child. She was a shiny and heart-warming personality and i have deepest sympathies for Henry, the family and friends.
Julia Hruza
March 10, 2021
My heartfelt sympathy goes out to Theas loving husband Henry, her children, grandchildren and family. Thank you for sharing Thea with us. I have never met someone who lived life with such zest! Her calendar was always full of “things to do” and “people to see”. Her love of life, her family, her friends, her fortitude,her courage, humor, and her steadfast faith were just a few of her qualities that I most admired. She was a dear friend who was like a ray of sunshine that will be truly missed but never forgotten!
All God’s Blessings, Jan Ferrigno
Jan Ferrigno
March 10, 2021
Henry and Family...My thoughts and prayers are with you all. I am so very sorry for your loss. I am a friend of Henry's from On Call at the Elliot and have heard many wonderful stories of Thea.
Sandi Gilbert
March 9, 2021
My condolences for your loss. I met Thea when I first started working at the IRS and I don't know anyone who wouldn't speak well of her. She was respected and well-liked and a great leader. I am sad she is gone but I can tell from your beautiful obituary that she has had a full and rewarding life. Just looking at her photo brought a smile to my face. Peace to all of you, and may your memories remain a comfort. Stephanie Poirier
Stephanie Poirier Poirier
March 9, 2021
Henry and family, I am so sorry to hear about Thea's passing. I hope I'll see you soon.
Susan Luiz
March 9, 2021
Hi everyone. Thank you SO much for all your kind words and heart-felt thoughts. My mother appreciated you dearly!

I want to make sure that everyone knows they're invited to her virtual Celebration of Life and Love this Sunday March 14 from 1:00 - 3:00pm EST. It'll be a time for us to gather and share memories and favorite stories... or just your presence would be wonderful.

It's not our usual way of gathering but please register (it takes 3 seconds) at I'll send a note with further instructions, etc by Saturday but I do need you to register if you'd like to attend so that you have the Zoom link and I have your email for the note.

In peace and with deep gratitude,
Thea's daughter
March 8, 2021
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March 8, 2021
So sad to hear of Thea’s passing. Thea was an extremely dedicated worker. My mom was born in Germany I would love to hear Thea’s voice reminded me of my mom.
Always with a smile and a good laugh . Will miss being with her at the IRS retirement luncheon, now your work on earth is done Rest In Peace. Deepest sympathy to the family.
Caroline Beaudoin
March 8, 2021
My deepest sympathies to all of Thea's family! I worked with Thea & she was truly an amazing woman! We continued our times together after retirement, when we started getting together for IRP Luncheons! So many good times with Thea over the years! My heart aches that she will not be joining us whenever we are able to get together once again for our luncheons! I will keep you all in my thoughts & prayers. Thea....RIP, you will be missed❤
Sheila Chateauneuf
March 8, 2021
I worked for Thea many many years ago at the IRS. She was a “great boss “ (one I’ll never forget) and a wonderful caring woman. My heart breaks.
Darlene Divoll
March 8, 2021
Thea was a brave and courageous person coming from Germany leaning our language leaving her family behind.
Thea was my supervisor and friend, she worked right beside you.
We had a good time at her house in Maine. She was a good cook and we had a great time.
Thea will be greatly missed.
Keep your memories close to your heart.
May God Bless you Peace and Good Light
Charlene Sheldon
March 8, 2021
Thea was one of my first supv's at the IRS in the Underreporter Dept. In 1988-1989. She was very easy to work for and always had a smile on her face. She told me how she came to America with her accordion in tow. So sweet. I hope she died with no pain. She will be missed. Elisa LaBrie IRS 1987-2014 out on disability.
Elisa LaBrie
March 8, 2021
Henry, I am so sorry for your loss. Know that I care.
Sister Judith Silveira
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