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Pamela Boyce Obituary
Sometimes people would see Pamela J. Boyce's direct, no-nonsense style and take it for abrasiveness, says her partner, Catherine Anello. But Pamela, 43, refused to change. "It was similar to slapping someone in the face," Catherine says of the woman she shared a life with in Dyker Heights, Brooklyn. "If there was someone who lost a loved one and had been grieving too long, so that they were not living their life, she would say, 'Stop. It's not what they would want. They are in a better place.' She said, 'I'm not afraid to die because I know where I am going is beautiful.' "
Pamela had been the assistant vice president of accounting in the New York office of Carr Futures, on the 92nd floor of 1 World Trade Center. She was a competitive disco dancer. One of her happiest moments was serving as a Lamaze coach for her sister Desiree when her niece Kristina was born. "She was so neurotic there she had to find something specific on the baby to make sure they got the right one," Catherine said, laughing. "I think she finally found a little mark on her ear."
505 Entries
Denise Figueroa
September 11, 2023
God bless you Miss Pamela Boyce, you are one of many that are in my thoughts on this day of September 11th, gone but never forgotten. ❤
bernie sanders
September 11, 2023
Thinking of you today 9-11 and always.
Joe Fox
September 10, 2023
I'm writing this message to a number of people. Pamela, your spirit. Cathy, my good friend. And to anyone else who reads this. And to the universe. I have come to know Pamela's spirit because of my friendship with Cathy. I am writing this on September 10, 2023. I just received a beautiful package. It looked like a plastic bag with two ears of corn from a farm, and a card with a note, a beautiful note. But it really was, a delivery of love, compassion.
I wish I could figure out why the all too persistent and present manifestations of evil exist in this beautiful experience of humanity. I wish I knew how such beautiful lives, like the life of Pamela, can be taken. I wish I can understand how the union, love of Pamela and Cathy could be broken the way it was. I write this obituary taking a moment from preparing to read about 20 names tomorrow during the ceremony at the World Trade Center, along with the name of my nephew, Michael Roberts. Already feeling emotionally overwhelmed, appropriately so, by reading the names and researching each one, I get this supermarket plastic bag on my door with this package, filled with love and significance and inspiration.
I am out of words. But this experience has left me with so much love in my heart. Just when I needed it most.
SS
September 12, 2021
How could it be 20 yrs? The pain in are hearts are still so raw. I will always say your name with a smile on my face and a tear in my eye. Till we meet again Old Friend. xo
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Barbara Boyce
September 12, 2021
This was a sad day you went to heaven early.
Sandi Jacoby
September 12, 2021
Paula, I can’t believe it’s been 20 years and a day. You are always in our hearts. Heaven must still be Rockin’ with all the fun you have brought to it. Miss ya so much
Dona Garcia
September 11, 2021
So many times you come to mind your birthday in March, 9-11 but March 5 what a fun day shopping for my wedding Dancing in the bathroom of 5 World Trade, coming to City Hall when I got my marriage license but you stealing my white roses and holding them for ransom. My heart hurts for your family.
Always in our heart.
George Burke
September 4, 2021
Pam,
I would love to hear your thoughts on what's going on in the world today. I could use hearing your laughter and seeing you smile. Till we dance again look over us and send some needed love.
George B.
Sabret Sordo
September 3, 2021
Another year around the sun. Do you know you STILL pop into my mind after all these years? Anyway, just wanted to stop by and say ... you are still remembered.
Cindy Roe
September 2, 2021
Remembering Pamela on the 20th anniversary of 9/11....
Denise Figueroa
September 15, 2020
I think about Pamela Boyce every year on September 11th. I couldn't imagine what took place for her that day. Some just didn't get her strength and attitude, I did. God bless her and her family.
bernie sanders
September 12, 2020
Thinking of you today and always .
Maribel Dorta
September 11, 2020
Greatly missed. May you continue to rest in eternal peace. An amazing friend ♥
S S
March 14, 2020
Happy Birthday my friend. Celebrating you because we will never forget what you brought to all of our lives. Miss you like crazy. ❤
bernie sanders
July 31, 2019
A nice lady and a good friend . always thinking about you ..I remember when we used to go out and dance ..may you watch over us as we remember you forever.
July 27, 2019
Its so bittersweet how you were taken from us in Lower Manhattan. But rest peacefully with the other 2,900-plus people we lost on 9/11.
March 15, 2016
Never forgotten my friend love you happy birthday!
June
March 15, 2016
Happy birthday Pam. Till we dance together again.
George
March 14, 2016
t,m,d...happy birthday PW! xo..CMFA
March 16, 2015
Happy Birthday Pam You are always in my thoughts and prayers. Love always Delilah
Denise Figueroa
March 15, 2015
Happy Birthday Miss Pamela, hope the angels through you a big bash. God bless.
Love Desiree
March 15, 2015
Happy 14th birthday in heaven my sweet sister. Sorry I did not get to post this yesterday on your actual birthday. I know you are with us always and we miss you and think of you all the time. Hope you are at peace with all the angels. Sending a Cosmo and balloons to you in heaven my beautiful sister...love and miss you always. Till we meet again...xoxo
George Burke
September 13, 2014
Jason,
I thank you for walking in my friends honor. I want to tell you that knowing her was to truly love her. She was one that left you with a smile even in the shortest encounter. I had the honor of being called her friend when we were teenagers and have always held her in my heart. She will never be forgotten.
Georgie B.
bernie sanders
September 13, 2014
you will never be forgotten.
Denise Figueroa
September 12, 2014
Pamela you will always be remember. You are always in our prayers. You are a unique person who can be direct and funny all at the same time. God bless.
jason dittsworth
September 11, 2014
I do not know Pamela Boyce but I work for JP Morgan Chase in Phoenix AZ. In honor of those victims of the 9/11 attacks and in conjunction with the step up for world hunger, we held a commemorative walk up our downtown tower. I had the pleasure of walking in her name. We walked 36 flights of stairs to the top. So even though I did not know her, it was an honor to walk in her name. We will never forget those that gave their lives.
Desiree
September 11, 2014
My beautiful sister, today once again we will relive that horrific day in 2001..now 13 yrs ago that you were taken from us...just going to work that day. Everytime I want to hear your voice...talk to you...or celebrate something with you...i am reminded of that day on 9-11 that forever changed our families lives. We feel your presence and know that your spirit still watches over us from heaven. We love and miss you always. RIP my beautiful sister..you are our angel and forever in our hearts. Till we meet again...i hope you are dancing with the stars in paradise and smiling down in peace and love.xoxoxo love you to the moon and back sis...!!
S S
September 10, 2014
This is the one day I wish I could forget. 9/11. I spoke to you the day before and that conversation I shall never forget. I miss you, we all miss you, people who never even met you, wish they could have, as they listen to our stories, because you certainly were One of a Kind!. xoxo
March 17, 2014
My beautiful sister Pamela...happy 13th birthday in heaven. Hope you are dancing with the angels. Miss you always and you are never forgotten by all whose heart you always touched. Sorry I did not post this sooner I did not get a chance to post on your birthday Friday...happy St Patrick's day too.!! Sending a Cosmo and lots of hugs and kisses ...xoxoxo Till we meet again sis...love you always Desiree
March 16, 2014
Always have and will be in my heart. Till we dance again. Happy birthday. Georgie B.
sandi jacoby
March 16, 2014
This year has been strange, I am so sorry we missed you bd, hope the angels threw you the best dancing party. And you had a big "Angel" cake with all your favorite treats...Missed all the time..
March 15, 2014
Happy Birthday Mamasita ~
Dawn A.
Denise Figueroa
March 15, 2014
I posted a happy birthday message, did not take. Well Happy Birthday Ms. Boyce, hope the angels made you the biggest cake filled with all sorts of wonderful.
Denise Figueroa
March 14, 2014
Happy Birthday to classy chic. Hope your angel cake is filled with lots of good stuff.
S S
March 14, 2014
Happy Birthday Old Friend. Just not right that you are not here. I continue to miss you and your friendship. We shall celebrate tonight, and repeat all the crazy moments we all shared together, (well maybe not ALL). I know you know I will never stop missing you. Please continue to watch over all of us, xoxo
Denise Figueroa
September 11, 2013
DEAR PAM, I think of you today and most. You will always be a SPECIAL part of the lives of your family and friends. You will NEVER be forgotten. Keep smiling sugar, I hope you are dancing with the angels today. God bless.
September 11, 2013
THINKING OF YOU AND YOUR INSPIRATIONAL WORDS TODAY, I AM GOING TO HAVE MY PAMELA COSMO TODAY IN HONOR OF YOU. MISS YOU AND ON THIS DAY AND EVERDAY
LAURA HIOS
September 11, 2013
When I woke up this morning you're the first person I thought of and it broke my heart....again. I know you're resting in Peace and our beautiful Lord is right next to you. Love Dawn A.
bernie
September 11, 2013
Pam thinking of you today and always. RIP
S S
September 10, 2013
Not a day goes by that I don't smile when I think of you. I can still hear your laugh in my head, and always feel the pain in my heart. I miss you always. xo
September 10, 2013
Tomorrow as always will be 12 yrs since that horrific day that changed our lives forever. Not a day goes by that you are not thought of and we miss you more than ever. I know that you are watching over everyone and you let us know when you are around...can't believe its been 12 yrs. Tomorrow the whole world will once again see all the precious faces of the nearly 3,000 souls who were taken from us way too soon. We can never forget my sweet sister...you will always be remembered and honored on that infamous day 9-11-01. I am gonna have a Cosmo tomorrow in your honor and always know that we love and miss you always. May you R.I.P and I hope you are dancing in heaven with all the other angels!! Till we meet again....love ya your sis Desiree
Cat
July 2, 2013
t,m,d...still
Barbara Boam
July 1, 2013
I walked a mile for you (mile #235) on 5/16/13 as a dedication to your life.
Denise Figueroa
March 17, 2013
Happy Belated Birthday Pamela. Hope the good Lord threw you a smashing party.
bernie
March 16, 2013
Hi Pam thinking of you
Desiree
March 15, 2013
Dear beautiful sis...i posted something here for you on your birthday but somehow it did not post. Happy 55th birthday and your 12th now in heaven...so does that mean you are 12 again..lol..we miss and love you so much. Wish you were here to help me I am trying to get my life back together and its just so hard. Maybe you will come to me and show some guidance. Hope you are dancing with the angels in heaven and making them laugh and love as much as you did on earth. You are truly special and know that by all whose life you touched. You will never be forgotten and always missed. Till we meet again sis...may you sleep with angels and R.I.P always..xoxo love ya
March 15, 2013
Sorry I missed it. Happy Birthday!
March 14, 2013
As I embark on this career I need your inspiration more than ever, miss our business pow wow's you taught me more than you will ever know. Happy Bday I toast my cosmo to you
Laura Hios
S S
March 14, 2013
Happy Birthday Old Friend. Not a day goes by that I dont think of you. I am a better person to have known you. Please continue to watch over us. As always, I miss you like crazy.
March 14, 2013
Happy Birthday PW!
tmd...Cat
S S
February 7, 2013
I smile everytime my daughter uses your phrases,and she knows why!(she makes my feet laugh)
Helen Russo
December 9, 2012
Hey Pam just found out. I'm so sorry that ur life got cut short. U where one hell of a woman and one of the best dancers I know. Ur missed. My memories of u will be there forever.
September 12, 2012
My beautiful sister Pamela..11 years..but it still feels like yesterday. I know my sweet sister that you are at peace in a beautiful place and the only thing that keeps me going is one day we will meet again.You touched the hearts and lives of so many and are missed by all who knew you. You had a beautiful life thatcame to an end, you died as you lived, as everyones friend. In our hearts a memory will always be kept, of one we loved, and will never forget. May you always walk in sunshine and God's love around you flow, for the happiness you gave us, no one will ever know. It broke our hearts to lose you, but you did not go alone. A part of us went with you, the day God called you home. A million times we've needed you. A million times we've cried. If love could only have saved you, you never would have died. May you Rest in Peace sweey sister...always missing and loving you...your sister Desiree
Delilah Amiano
September 11, 2012
Our hearts were with you today as we your loved one look back on the time we shared with you and how much we miss you. Keep dancing love delilah
Denise Figueroa
September 11, 2012
Today is a hard one for all of us. I think of you and others. Keep smiling in heaven lady. You still have friends down here that pray for you and miss you. GOD BLESS
George Burke
September 11, 2012
I am very thankful for the years of laughter that we shared when we were younger. Till we dance together once more, smile down on us.
Georgie B.
Sabret Sordo
September 11, 2012
Thinking of you . . .
sandi Jacoby
September 11, 2012
Miss u so much, i see our picture together and I smile, and laff and love of all. U are a good friend
Love
Sandi and Bill
S S
September 10, 2012
Not a day goes by that I don't think of you . A glance at your picture, a song that comes on, or just the mention of your name, ALWAYS brings a smile to my face and a tug at my heart. I miss your laugh, I miss your unconditional friendship. I miss you. xoxo
laura hios
September 10, 2012
Miss You So wish u were here to guide me at this time. I was so Fortunate to have a boss like you. Never knew until now what an inspiration you were Miss u till we meet again
Love Mrs. Beasley
September 10, 2012
Hi Pam, I look at your face and can't help but remember all the fun we had going dancing. You were truly one of my best friends. Sorry we drifted apart, but I guess that's how life goes. Tomorrow is 911 and I just can't help but think of you. Love you Pamela, I hope you are at peace. Your friend, Doreen
Denise Figueroa
July 30, 2012
Dear Pam,
You are alway watching out for us. You alway took a great interest in me regarding work, please keep your fingers crossed so that I can get work.
Take care lady. Denise
July 29, 2012
Dear Pam
I did not write you on your Birthday this year and since you watch over all of us I don't have to write why. I just want you to know we miss you and think about you all the time. A&R
SABRET SORDO
July 28, 2012
You pop into my head now & then. You did again today on my birthday . . . till we meet again. xo
June 20, 2012
hmmm, still wondering what you meant the other night when you said I have a little more to do before you come to me. Was nice to have you back if even for a moment. t/m/d...c
June 6, 2012
HAD A DREAM OF YOU LAST NITE, YOU WERE GIVING ME SOME GOOD BUSINESS ADVICE, IT WAS JUST LIKE THE OLD DAYS. ANYWAY THE DREAM STARTED OUT STRESSFUL BUT WHEN I SAW YOU THERE I FELT HAPPY AND STRESS FREE MISS YA PAM R.I.P.
Denise Figueroa
March 15, 2012
I was thinking about Pamela Boyce myself on March 14th, her birthday. She used to say women who were born on the 14th were very special. Me I was born on May 14th. I will never forget her, she was strong, independent and most of all fair. She aways treated me with respect. Happy Birthday to a special person.
Leida
March 15, 2012
Happy Birthday Pam!!!! You will always be missed. My Pisces Sister May you be at Peace in the Heavens, watching over your loved ones until we meet again~
Your Blonde Friend~~~ :-)
March 14, 2012
Happy Birthday Pam miss you!
DESIREE
March 14, 2012
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY DEAR BEAUTIFUL SISTER..WOW..YOUR 11TH BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN...AND IT WOULD OF BEEN YOUR 54TH ON EARTH. HOPE YOU ARE DANCING WITH.THE STARS..YOU ARE OUR ANGEL AND KNOW YOU ARE WATCHING OVER US. WE MISS YOU ALWAYS. HAPPY BIRTHDAY SIS..WILL HAVE A COSMO AND TOAST YOU TONITE...YOU LEFT FOOTPRINTS IN THE HEARTS OF ALL WHO KNEW YOU..AND YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN..AS LOVE NEVER DIES..AND YOU WERE LOVED BY SO MANY...HUGS AND KISSES SWEET SISTER..TILL WE MEET AGAIN...XOXO...
S S
March 14, 2012
Happy Birthday Old Friend! Still missing you like crazy. I think of you everyday!
LAURA HIOS
March 14, 2012
HAPPY B'DAY IN HEAVEN PAM, HOPE YOU ARE DANCING! I WILL HAVE A COSMO FOR YOU LATER MISS YA SO
Romano
November 2, 2011
As we approach your most favorite holiday....I think of you ....always!
Your Forever Friend.
Delilah Amiano
September 23, 2011
Pam I think of you every day. You brought a light of love to everyone you met. May you rest in peace. You touched my heart god bless you.
joanne motto
September 14, 2011
Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you.
Sara Boyce
September 11, 2011
I hope you are dancing somewhere over the horizon, far from that horrible day. I didn't know you but I think of you often because you were the only Boyce...rest in peace.
Angel Berardinelli
September 11, 2011
They had a memorial at shepard of the hills church today they also had flags with pictures and little write ups for all the 9/11 I found your flag with your picture.I wish I new how to put it on here so your family could see it. I did put it on face book.You where only here for a short time but you left your mark Ca. willnever forget you. Angel & Renie
Carol Hickey
September 11, 2011
Dear Pam,
It's been 10 years for me to write But that's how our friendship was we were very tight in the 70's then we lost touch, but years would go by & you would pick up your phone at work NY CALIF> then back in NY & guess what I would blow you away on the phone & we would star screaming WoW how the hell are you & just pick up from there, The last time I saw you was we were both walking through the lobby of 5 WTC after not seeing each other in years we ran to each other hugging one another, we go way back Pam....Revelations - Penthouse - Ft. lauderdale, etc... must I go on you & I would dance the night away Greatest nights & times of my life It's vvery hard for me to beleive this happened... So my friend DO NOT HANG UP THOSE DANCING SHOES - YOU SHOW THEM HOW IT'S DONE.. SLEEP WITH THE ANGELS... Until we dance again Love Carol Hickey
September 11, 2011
Ten years I can not belive it. I watched the news and it seems like yesterday. I just spoke to Joanne about you yesterday.You are missed and loved. I belive that you are dancing in heven rest in peace Angel & Renie
desiree
September 11, 2011
My beautiful sister Pamela..cant believe it has been 10 yrs since you were taken from us. we love and miss you always..and somehow on this day it always feels like yesterday. i hope that you are resting in peace and i hope you dance in heaven with all the other 9-11 angels as you loved to dance on earth. you had a beautiful life that came to an end, you died as you lived, everyone's friend. in our hearts a memory will always be kept, of one we loved, and will never forget. we love and miss you and you are forever in our hearts..till we meet again in paradise continue to watch over us. r.i.p sis we know you spirit is with us always xoxo.
September 10, 2011
Really? Ten years? Like it was yesterday I remember our conversation the day before you were taken from us. Those words are forever in my heart. I think of you all the time, talk about you to my kids like you are in the next room. You made me laugh always. Missing you more today than ever. There will never be another you!
September 10, 2011
Pam its been a decade/ We miss u so much. We are happy when we think of you. You brought us so much light and happiness. Even now we wish we u were here at our house so we could laugh crazy like we always did. Sad, because youre not.
Sandi and Bill
September 9, 2011
I remember you laying in my back yard sunbathing and the guy who use to live next door looking through the bushes to get a pick at you. when you stood up and said is this a better view I thought he was going to have a heart attack.You know he never looked through the bushes again.From the North to the South from the East to the West you have touched so many lives you are surly missed.We will always remember and never ever will we forget.rest in peace my friend. Renie & Angel
Dina Marie
September 9, 2011
You always made me laugh ,, you are missed
xoxo
Lourdes Molina
September 9, 2011
May you be resting in peace Pam... I soo remember back in 2002 seeing you walk past me but when I looked again you were gone... I guess your spirit was around. I remember calling Freddie and he said - "That's Pam for you. Still doing her thing"! You will live in all the hearts that you touched.
Barbara Lento(Clark)
September 9, 2011
I remember always bothering Pam in mwd. But she always helped me with whatever problem I had.
L
September 9, 2011
I can still remember breakfast after Spectrums, what a crazy night... The laughs we shared with the boys, and the darn pork chops... You definitely were gone too soon, but you left your mark in all of our lives. One day we shall meet again! LN
minnie
September 9, 2011
rememberd when you made me buy my first pair of cowboy boots ! always remember that time
LAURA HIOS
September 7, 2011
HI PAM, WOW I STILL FEEL LIKE IT WAS YESTERDAY WHEN YOU USED TO CALL ME MRS. BEASLEY! WILL NEVER FORGET YOU HOW COULD I HOW COULD ANYONE?? MISS YA HOPE YOU RESTING WELL SWEET ANGEL
LAURA HIOS
August 16, 2011
Hey PW! I'm not sure what any of it means just yet but I'm certain you will reveal that to me at another time. Regardless, it was great to seeing you. Until next time. t/m/d...C
s & b jacoby
August 16, 2011
Just wanted to say we miss ya. Even tho its almost ten yrs it feels like yesterday
Colleen Boyce
August 15, 2011
just thinking about you.....
August 8, 2011
Pam.... thinking about u my friend, I can't believe that it will soon be 10 years since we last spoke, seen your beautiful face or heard your contagious laughter. You are thought of always and constantly missed!! We love you, as always... dNr <3 <3
May 4, 2011
I hope that it is true, my friend rest well
sandi &Bill
jeanni &gelsa
May 3, 2011
even though we didn't spend much time together, to meet you was to know you. We think about you often, and smile with a tear in our eye whenever we do. You touched a lot of hearts in such a short time.
A&R
May 2, 2011
Today is for you God has ans. our prayers, Bin Laden is dead now you can rest in peace.
March 31, 2011
Have lots of thoughts of you, especially during this time of Lent, God Rest your Soul, miss you much!
S S
March 14, 2011
Happy Birthday Old Friend, as usual, we will be toasting to you tonight. Miss you always...
teresa giatrakos
March 14, 2011
Happy Birthday Pamela. Heaven certainly gained a very special angel when you arrived.
Doreen Montagna
March 14, 2011
Hi Pamela, Happy Birthday. I still see your face in front of me, especially when I hear certain songs from back in the day. Rest in peace.
Love you, your friend,
Doreen
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