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"Follow me, Dad."
With just those words — part request, part challenge — Christopher and Scott Reinig could get their father, Thomas, to do most anything. Like swoop down the slipperiest ski slopes behind them. Or climb the Grand Tetons with them. Or spend Father's Day competing in a triathlon that taxed the 48-year-old's stamina and his sense of humor.
"He beat me on the running part, but of course I had the better overall time," said Scott Reinig, 20, a competitive swimmer. "He blamed it on the swimming."
Mr. Reinig, a vice president at eSpeed, was not a sore loser, even when it came to being beaten at golf by his wife, Jeanne. "He always had fun and laughed," she said. "He wasn't a good-time Charlie. He just enjoyed life."
And he did everything for his family. When the boys were small, Mr. Reinig moved them all to London for three years when he took a job there so they would learn to appreciate the world. They returned to New Jersey, but when the boys enrolled in a private school in Morris County a few years later, Mr. Reinig moved to Bernardsville to shorten their commute.
"My dad was always calling home, a couple of times a day, every day, and all he'd say is, 'I'm just checking in,'" Scott Reinig said. "There wasn't any other reason than that."
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David Hogan
September 11, 2024
Dear Tom - You brought me on to your team at Lehman in 1991. I remember well how you very much enjoyed your work and how you cared for your fellow colleagues. I also remember how you often spoke so fondly and proudly of your family. Lastly, I clearly remember how honest you were. Your old friends Rick Z. and I will tip our hats and raise a glass to you next week when we get together for our annual golf round - you will be missed but not forgotten !
Ron Queler
September 12, 2023
You father was a close colleague. Loved by everyone he came into contact with. I listen for the memory of his name every year and visit his name every time I’m in the area of the memorial. He will not be forgotten.
Kevin Connors
September 11, 2023
22 years since that terrible day. I still miss having drinks w/ you after work. You were one of the nicest guys out there. Amazing to think you would be 70 this yearyou deserved to make it. Will never forget you old buddy.
Kevin
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Ron Queler
September 12, 2021
Dear Tom,
Listened to them calling your name at the memorial as I’ve done for the last 20 years. It’s been a long time but I’ll never forget you. You were a great colleague and I’m so fortunate to have worked with you.
Regards,
Ron
Anna C. Marucci
September 11, 2021
Never Forgotten, Rest In Peace, Tom.
Charmaine Panfil
October 23, 2014
Heartfelt condolences to the family of Thomas Barnes Reinig. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Laurie Reinig
September 11, 2014
I know we are probably not related but with ours being not that common. I just wanted to send your family a Gods special blessing.
sharon pingitore
September 11, 2013
To the Reinig family. I worked with Tommy, years ago at Tammy Brook Country Club in Cresskill, NJ along with my dad, Tommy's football coach, Abbie Pingitore. I was a freshman in HS & he had just graduated.I remember Tommy teaching me what "grog" was and introducing me to Tao principles. I remember thinking that he was probably one of the most learned persons I had ever met. I only found out that Tommy was one of the 9/11 heros, a few months ago. My dad & I want to send our heartfelt prayers to your family and know, that he made an impressinon on a young 14 year old, all those many years ago. Blessings and peace my friends.
Lucia Simmons
September 11, 2013
I had the pleasure of working with Tom at Lehmans in London. I always remember him with fondness and as someone who was always smiling,happy and fun to be around. My heartfelt sympathies go out to his family. RIP Tom, you are, and always will be, the brightest shining star x
Crystal Crawford-Parker
September 12, 2012
Although I never met Mr. Reinig personally, my parents were neighbors of the Reinig's (on the same street) in Bernardsville NJ and always spoke so highly of them. My mom always referred to Mrs. Reinig (Jeannie) as her "walking buddy" and always bragged about how musically inclined her sons were. In fact, their sons played at my parents Christmas party one year and my mother was so proud to see the phenomenal job the boys did. My heartfelt condolences and continued prayers are with the Reinig family.
God Bless,
Barbara Malvik
September 11, 2012
My sympathies go out to the family of Tom Reinig. I have just heard of his passing this year, 11 years after, but my grief is no less at finding out the world has lost such a wonderful person. I was in his class in high school and will always remember him as a person of true quality. God Bless
Randall Nogaki
September 19, 2011
I had heard through the grapevine of his loss, and I remembered and grieved a long time. I went to school with Tom from Lincoln Elementary to Bergenfield High. We played football together, and even a few games of whiffle ball. Sometimes even walked to school together. We had some classes together. Seeing his photo, he reminds me how he looked when we were kids. He was always a real friendly person. I extend my deepest sympathy to his family.
Mariah J
September 11, 2011
Dear Tom,
You do not know me, nor have you ever heard of me. My name is Mariah. I am a sophomore attending the University of North Carolina at Wilmington. Last Friday my school had a ceremony for the victims of 9/11. Each of us was given a piece of paper with a name on it. I received yours. I was curious as to who you were and found this page as a result. Reading all of the messages, it is clear that you were a phenomenal person. I was honored to hold up your name. It saddens me that so many wonderful people like yourself had to pass away so soon. I will forever remember your name now. My thoughts and prayers will always go out to your family and loved ones.
James Jordan
May 3, 2011
Tom was a good friend of my sister, and my entire family. He was a really great guy, and like a big brother to me. I have many fond memories of Tom...watching him play football for the Bergenfield Bears, riding around with him in his light blue Volkswagen Beetle, spending time playing catch, and going to the beach. Tom was a true gentleman, and I am grateful to have known him. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.
Lucia Napolitano
September 14, 2010
I had the pleasure of working with Tom at Lehmans in London. Tom was the kind of man you never forgot. He was a gentleman in every sense of the word and so much fun to be around. He will always be fondly remembered.
My thoughts and prayers go to his family who I have often thought of and prayed for.
Ron Queler
September 11, 2009
Tom,
I heard your name called today at the 9/11 remembrance ceremony. I have not forgotten you. I enjoyed being in the office next to you during our time at ABN. Your sense of humor and love for your sons is what I remember most about you. Miss you. You were a great colleague.
kristine
April 17, 2007
As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
February 14, 2007
In memory....
RICHARD RING
December 13, 2002
I SAT NEXT TO TOM IN HIGH SCHOOL.HE WAS VERY RESPECTFULL AND SMART.............AFTER READING WHAT HIS CHILDREN WROTE .I KNOW TOM IS PROUD THAT HIS FAMILY CAN RISE ABOVE FROM WHAT HAPPEN.THIS IS NOT EASY.BUT TOM IS WITH YOU EVERY MINUTE .TOM IS A TRUE AMERICAN IN EVERY WAY.
Kim Hart
September 12, 2002
I first met Tom at Yale when he came to get his laser surgery. I will never forget when he came to the office for his first visit the day after surgery. He was so excited that he could not sit down. He had such a wonderful smile and it was a priviledge to know him. Kim Hart
Joanne Bicknese
September 11, 2002
Jeanne,
I am remembering today how happy we all were on November 24, 2000, at the Milnor/Clemente christening. That is how I will remember Tommy--happy with his life, with you, and with the boys. I hope that you and the boys are finding peace with your loss.
Shachar Tauber, M.D.
September 10, 2002
Mr. Reinig was a wonderful man, and it was a honor to be associated with him. His visits to Yale were well anticipated and received. He always had a smile, and a funny story. His trust will never be forgotten. I will truly miss this gentleman
Scott Sharo
August 20, 2002
Although I only worked with Chris and Scott for one summer I remember them very well. Both are very friendly people whose compassion was no doubt learned from their father whom I only had the priveledge of meeting a couple of times. After lifeguarding one day his sons welcomed me back to their house before going out for the night where Mr. Reinig invited me to sit at his table and made sure I was well fed before leaving his home. To Chris, Scott, and Mrs. Reinig I am terribly sorry for your loss. I hope that the years of fond memories you have can help to assuage your pain.
Michael Iezzi
June 13, 2002
Father we entrust our brother Thomas to your mercy. You loved him greatly in this life: now that he is freed from all its cares, give him happiness and peace forever. Welcome him now into paradise where there will be no more sorrow, no more weeping or pain, but only peace and joy with Jesus your Son, and the Holy Spirit forever and ever.
Patrick Quilty
April 11, 2002
I had the absolute pleasure of working with Tom in the early 90's at Lehman Brothers and most recently for a few years at ABN AMRO in NY prior to his position at Espeed. Being a newcomer to the ABN firm, Tom was the first person to come over to me, invite me to lunch and give me the lay of the land. For the next three years i was fortunate to sit opposite him on the trading floor and share a close camaraderie. In an often hectic trading floor atmosphere, Tom always found the time to talk about his family and share pictures from recent outings (climbing the Grand Tetons was the best)and would always be planning the next trip (storing everything on his Palm Pilot). He was so proud of his sons who i had the pleasure of meeting on a few occasions during their visits to the trading floor. Being a recent newlywed myself, I can only hope and aspire to be the kind of father and husband that Tom was during his short time with us. He will be sorely missed and but we are all better people for having known him.
June Zampolin
April 2, 2002
You will be in our hearts forever.
June
March 29, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL MAN...THOMAS BARNES REINIG AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS WIFE AND CHILDREN..FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE..PRAY..AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK FOREVER..MAY JESUS AND ST.THOMAS GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
Nate Gooding
March 25, 2002
Although I met Mr. Reinig only a handful of times, I have been in awe of the number of people touched by his life. Only a great man could have such an impact.
I am privileged to count Chris among my closest friends. My thoughts are always with him, Mrs. Reinig, and Scott. It is reassuring to know that Mr. Reinig's memory will be survived by an equally great family.
Matt and Lori Frazier
March 25, 2002
Dear Jeanne,
You are in our thoughts and prayers often. Each time we see you, you leave us in awe of your strength, resilience and faith. Though our hearts have bled for you and your family, we are inspired by your willingness to take on each new day with grace and hope. Your boys are so lucky to have you as their Mom! Please know that our home and hearts remain open to you always. All Our Love, Matt and Lori
Petra and Matthias Schwarz
March 22, 2002
Dear Jeanne,
our thoughts are allwasy with you. We are proud to have gotten the chance to meet you and Tom, during our visit in Bernadsville.
Love Petra
Ann Tannen
March 16, 2002
Although I never met Tom,I feel I am getting to know him through my new friendship with Jeanne. As she shares her memories of their happy times together, Tom comes alive through her smiles,stories and joyful expressions. He was a special man whose spirit will never die. When I talk to Jeannie or her boys and see their vibrance and passion for life, that speaks loudly for the happiness in their hearts. People who have been touched by a special love will always exude a glow that comes from true contentment and inner peace. Tom left his mark on all of them, and his optimism has given them a reason to aceept life as he always did. Seeing how well Jeanne is carrying on is a credit to the legacy of strength Tom left his family. Ann Tannen
Laurie Milnor
March 16, 2002
Dear Jeanne, Chris and Scott:
You have been in our thoughts and prayers continuously since September. We love you and cherish our times together past ans future.
Love, George, Laurie, Ashley, Evan, Kendall and Reed Milnor
Mary Pesaresi
March 15, 2002
Dear Jeanne, Scott, and Chris,
Tom has left his mark on all of our hearts, and we see the best of him every time we see his beautiful family. We love you.
The Pesaresi Family: Mary, Joe, Sara and Anne
dirk davidson
January 24, 2002
Jeanne, Chris, Scott
The Davidson family has been on its knees, remembering with great fondness our times in London, over at your house, on vacation. How clearly Cathy and I remember you all; and Tom's love of family--the NYT could not have gotten it better. Love and Prayers, The Davidsons
eva horn
January 22, 2002
my thoughts and prayers are always with you.
love always, eva horn
Teresa Jahn
December 15, 2001
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Maureen Brennan
October 7, 2001
My deepest sympathies to you. Our prayers and thoughts continue to be for you and your family.
lisa tarei
September 21, 2001
i just
wanted to express my deepest
sympathies
to you and your friends and family. May God bless you all.
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