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Arlene Fried Obituary
Arlene Fried, the vice president and assistant general counsel at Cantor Fitzgerald, was a hard-driving lawyer who handled multimillion-dollar initial public offerings during the dot-com era. At Cantor, she played an essential role in the creation and public financing of eSpeed. Young Wall Street hopefuls constantly sought her out for advice, and she was always willing to give it.
But there was another Arlene Fried. She enjoyed juicy gossip and shopping until she dropped - a cliché, perhaps, but her friend Nina Gaspar said it really was like that.
Mrs. Fried, 49, of Roslyn Heights, N.Y., was also a dedicated wife and mother to her three daughters. "It was not unusual for Arlene to come rushing into a parent school conference or a school play, a few minutes late, out of breath and apologetic - but she was always there," said Ms. Gaspar's husband, Andrew.
On Sept. 11, Mrs. Fried was trying to help a young lawyer who wanted to know where he should apply for a job, said her husband, Kenny. She returned the lawyer's telephone message at 8:44 a.m. He was not there, so she left a message. Four minutes later, the first plane struck.
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Cindy Roe
September 13, 2021
Remembering Arlene on the 20th anniversary of 9/11...
Antonie Samuels
March 14, 2020
I think of and miss Arlene. I miss the phone calls to wake me up so I would not be late for our jogging dates. I miss our discussions and debates on different topics.
March 13, 2020
Bless you and your family.
Antonie Samuels
September 12, 2019
I miss Arlene's chhery voice on the phone each weekend morning reminding me to get ready to meet for a jog. The 4 runners talked about every topic and then resolved any issues or problems over coffee after the run.
Antonie
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Mireet Wolf
September 11, 2019
I was a young law school student at Columbia Law School with Arlene. I lent Arlene my notes (which her daughters admired for being so neat) in return for Arlene's sage advice and guidance. She is always in my thoughts. My prayers to her family whom she adored and loved.
September 11, 2015
You are remembered. Though I never knew you, your life obviously provided immense happiness to many others. It remains difficult accepting the senseless acts which took so many innocent lives. It is difficult reading the many memorials without the anger and frustration resurfacing. So as this 14 anniversary comes to a close, and yours is the last memorial I read, I will take the headline of your written memorial to heart. And trust your advice would be to value the memories of happiness, focus on the wonderful good your life provided and pray for your family. May God richly bless your family and friends with peace. And may you rest eternally in the arms of a loving God.
August 1, 2015
Arlene
I pass your memorial park often and it always brings a smile to my face because I remember your face always with a huge smile. I think of you and your entire family often. You are missed by all who know you. You have a warm and rich legacy that has been carried on through your girls and your grandchildren. It hurts to know that you have not met your grandchildren. You would have had such pleasure watching them grow up.
Antonie Samuels
July 31, 2015
I didn't know you Arlene, but last week i visited ground zero and as i looked to the memorial site my hand went to a name, when i looked down it was your name it gave me a strange feeling, because of all the names your's was fried which is my husband family name. I came back to Israel with your name in my heart and i have prayed for you since that moment.
Ben Smith
November 11, 2011
I've been reflecting on your life Arlene. You are missed.
September 12, 2011
I miss hearing Arlene's voice every Saturday and Sunday morning at 6am calling to wake me up and hurry to get to her house or Jackie's house to begin our run. I ran with Arlene, Jackie and Dorene for 16 years. I always looked forward to all of our discussions while running or having coffee at her kitchen table or Jackie's after we completed our run. Arlene was always the one to push me to be the best that I can be. If I faltered on the road, she would talk me out of stopping and pushed me to continue and encouraged me that I could do it. She always had great advice and always wanted to learn something new. I loved sharing time with Dana, Allison and Emily and watching them grow up. We all discussed everything that was happening in our lives and found solutions for everything.
I miss those times and especially miss those early morning phone calls to wake me up and I just miss Arlene. You will always have a special place in my heart.
Tonie Samuels
joan rosenberg
September 11, 2011
Remembering my wonderful childhood friend on this ten year anniversay. My thoughts go out to your family. I will always remember what a beautiful and loving friend you were.
Michal Frenkiel
September 10, 2011
I met Arlene in 1996 when I came for one year to Fulbright & Jawarski. Immediately she became my best friend in the office and we kept in touch also after I returned to Israel. I think of Arlene often. She was a wonderful person. Always with a smile, professional, smart and funny. I miss her a lot.
Richard Singer
September 5, 2011
To the Fried Family,
I first met Arlene & Ken @ GWU thru my ex-wife Sydney & attended their wedding. I'll always remember her wonderful personality & smile. As the 10th anniversary of 9/11 approaches my thoughts & prayers are with you.
Sharon Hauser
May 2, 2011
Bin Laden's assassination was announced today, Holocaust Rememberance day, 50 years after the Eichmann trial. I too am a daughter of a survivor and am thinking of you and your parents. Justice helps but can never bring back unfathomable losses. May your memory, and that of all who were taken, live on.
Kim Stanford
May 1, 2011
Arlene: This evil man has been swept off the face of this earth. This will not bring you back but I immediately thought of you and your family. If you could have heard the teenagers who were across the street waiving the flag and the horns honking while driving by tonight...you are not forgotten. Thinking of you and your family.
Claudia Haas
September 12, 2010
Thinking of you... as I often do.
Ruth Joseph
September 11, 2010
Arlene, you are forever in our thoughts and hearts. Your legacy lives on in your beautiful daughters, Dayna, Allison and Emily, as well as your precious grandchildren, Asher and Hannah! You would be proud of your family! We love and miss you today and always! Ruth and Elliott Joseph
Ian S. Jacknis
September 11, 2009
Thinking of you with love Arlene on this 9/11 as I have many times since 9/11/01. You were a very special person - a delight to have known - and are missed greatly by all who knew and loved you. May your memory always be for a blessing in this world.
Doug Abraham
August 17, 2009
Celebrating a life well lived. We will cherish the memories forever.
Claudia Schmidt Haas
September 11, 2008
The play I wrote which chronicles our childhood friendship has been released and is now in high schools around the country. Many young people will be affected by your early kindnesses and innate goodness. Thinking of you.
Kim Stanford
September 11, 2008
I have never forgotten you, Arlene; here it is, 2008 and I sit in California thinking about how I would get to work early just to accomodate the difference in hours - Chicago time vs. N.Y time, knowing that you would have already faxed changes to a document! I want your family to know that I have so many great memories of you- gossip and stories we shared about people we had in common in the legal field, how you complimented me by earning your trust by what you called "going the distance" for you; how you extended an offer to me to meet with you when/if I ever got to N.Y. I will never forget that voice of yours. God bless you and your family. You are remembered as an inspiration and as a great human being!
Kristine
October 27, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
October 9, 2006
In remembrance....
Ana
September 18, 2006
So sorry for the loss of this beautiful woman.
Claudia (Schmidt) Haas
March 15, 2006
Arlene: You were my best friend growing up - my very, first best friend. I have our photos, my memories, my stories about you to share - you were a light in so many lives. Godspeed Arlene and I give thanks for your friendship and for the beautiful life you led.
Heather O'Reilly
February 19, 2006
Allison and Family,
I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you all.
Debbie DeCru
April 26, 2004
Arlene everyone misses you. You are a very special person. I miss You alot. See You In Heaven Arlene
Deborah Montemurro(Maiden name Priore)
November 10, 2002
I graduated with Arlene in 1970 at Jamaica High School, Queens, New York. We both worked in the G.O. Store together. Though we were not close friends during our time at Jamaica High School, I am saddened to learn of her untimely passing. My heart goes out to Arlene's family and friends.
Judy Despian
October 21, 2002
Arlene Fried was a classy and beautiful woman inside and out. I worked with her at Cantor Fitzgerald. She was a good friend of my boss Stephen Fogel(who was also lost that day). Arlene loved her daughters and was very proud of all of their achievments. Her trips abroad with her husband were the topic of conversation around the Krispy Kreme donuts in the morning. She was funny and bright and I miss her very much. To her family, You are always in my prayers. Dana, Allison and Emily, God Bless you always.
Jessica MacTurk
September 11, 2002
Allison,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family on this one year anniversary of September 11th. Your courage and strength throughout the past year is an inspiration to me.
Emily Shanoff
September 11, 2002
Dayna -- My thoughts and heart have been with you and your family for some time. Surely, your positive attitude, caring nature, and loving personality are all a direct reflection of your mother. Hugs out to you during this time, and all the time. Love Always,
Shelly Prensky
September 11, 2002
Dana, Alison, and Emily,
Thinking of you on the anniversary of this terrible day. May strong memories help you to get through you today and always.....
Love, Shelly Prensky
Marni & Dana Greenbaum
September 11, 2002
Dear Dana, Emily and Allison,
You are in our thoughts today and always. We are so sorry for your loss. Love always, Dana & Marni
Jennifer Arreaga
September 9, 2002
Hi I didnt know who Arlene was. I'm only in the 9th grade at St.Pius x Highschool and we have to wear these braceletts that has someone that died in the 9-11 attack and I got her. So I like to say to the family let God bless you and i appreciate learning about Arlene's Life. And sorry to her loved ones and her family about what happend to her.
Sandra Ervolino
July 2, 2002
I DID NOT KNOW ARLENE BUT ATTENDED HER MEMORIAL WITH MY COUSIN WHO KNEW ARELENE FROM NU-BEST. I WAS SO MOVED BY HER FAMILY AND THE STORIES TOLD BY THEM OF ARLENE, THAT I FELT I HAD KNOWN HER. MY PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS GO OUT TO HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS. HEAVEN HAS RECEIVED A WONDERFUL ANGEL IN ARLENE. GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU.
L.H. Lee
March 15, 2002
I don't know Mrs. Fried personally. But by looking at her picture and reading her eulogies, one can know that Mrs. Fried is a beautiful, intelligent, inspirational, yet humorous person, who brought joy to people around her. While Mrs. Fried is not physically present, I am certain that her spirit will continue to live within her family, friends, and colleagues; And through them she continues to touch others.
Carolyn Fried
March 14, 2002
Dear Mr. Fried and Daughters,
As you can see, I too, am a Fried. I send to you and your family, my heartfelt condolences. We lost my husband's mother yesterday; her name was Darlene Fried. It makes a person wonder why we so often stumble upon information that is somehow strangely related to our own lives.
I cannot begin to imagine your pain. The circumstances surrounding your loss were so unforseen and tragic. May God bless you and your daughters, and please know that we, the American people, will never forget the lives that were lost on September 11, 2001.
Gyorgyi Gallai
March 11, 2002
To Kenny and his daughters,
My heart aches for you, and i am so sorry for your loss. I think of you all often and i am sorry i did not know Arlene more, She was a great person.
Mike
February 6, 2002
I don't know how to say this without sounding trivial or obscene. I remember when the pictures were being posted for missing persons, and I don't know why this one kept showing up in my thoughts through the day. Now, every time I hear about this incident, I see this face.
May she rest in the house of god.
Ray Hakimian
January 28, 2002
My Deepest Sympathy Towards The Fried Family...May We Never See A Day Like This Again...
January 19, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS
WONDERFUL YOUNG WOMAN ARLENE E.FRIED AND MAY SHE REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS'
HER FAMILY..ESPECIALLY HER DAUGHTERS..AND HER FRIENDS.GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..AMEN
carol fried-cowen
January 17, 2002
For each ecstatic Instant
we must an anguish pay
in keen and quivering ratio
to the ecstasy.
(from Emily Dickinson's poems on 'Life') From the few words offered up on Arlens Fried's life it seems that she lived life to it's fullest and for that, I hope, her family will find some comfort.
Sam Kraus
January 13, 2002
Kenny, Dana, Alison, and Emily: There hasn't been a day that has gone by that I haven't thought of you. All my love...
Teresa Jahn
January 1, 2002
We are deeply sorry for your loss of Arlene. What a warm, friendly, and beautiful smile she shares with the world. Her smile is a true reflection of her heart. May Arlene's smile, life and love continue living in those who love her. May the sorrow in your hearts be lightened by the precious memories of the beautiful moments in your lives together. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Christine France
December 29, 2001
Arlene's name and a contact number if I should hear anything about her are sketched on a paper plate I have saved. I met someone from her family on line at the armory a few days after the attack. I too was looking for a lost family member and my best friend who also worked at Cantor. I took Arlene's information and carried it with me for several days.
I want you to know how sorry I am. Once I learned my loved ones had not made it out, I prayed for Arlene. The woman I knew little about except that her family loved her as I loved Sean and Bart.
I will continue to pray for Arlene and her family.
God Bless You.
Christine
Monica Kramer
December 5, 2001
How nice after all these years, to read about all that you have accomplished. How incredibly sad a life cut so short. My deepest sympathy to your three children and husband. My thoughts truly are with you all.
Musser Hall @Ursinus College
December 5, 2001
We just wanted to give our sympathies and let you know that you are not alone during this time of tragedy. May God be with you, and we wish you a Merry Christmas! You will never be forgotten!!
Karen Wilder
November 7, 2001
Those we have truly loved never leave us...they live on forever somewhere deep within our hearts.
Our hearts are with your family at this difficult time.
Karen Wilder and Mark Rubinstein
Kathy Miller
October 28, 2001
My deepest sympathies to your family. God Bless you all. I will keep your mother and wife in my thoughts and you in my prayers.
Pat Jenatsch
September 29, 2001
Arlene Fried was a special person. She was intelligent, incredibly beautiful, kind and empathic. What particularly struck me was that she had a background in social work and wrote interesting papers on foster care, yet also completed her law degree and enjoyed her position at CF. I cannot believe that such a woman is gone. My deepest sympathies to her daughters and husband. I am so sorry.
Allison Strickland
September 26, 2001
Arlene was a classmate at Columbia Law School. My deepest sympathies to her family and friends. Arlene, may you rest in peace.
Barbara Bolin
September 23, 2001
MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU ALL.MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
ARLENE MAY YOU REST IN PEACE.
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