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Timothy Haviland Obituary
"Titanic" was just hitting theaters when Timothy A. Haviland earned a promotion from computer programmer to project manager at Marsh & McLennan, a jump that took him from an office on the Avenue of the Americas in Midtown to the 96th floor of 1 World Trade Center.
Just like Jack, the movie's hero, Mr. Haviland thought that he had it all. "After his first day, he was jumping around the house saying, `This is New York! I'm king of the world!' " said his wife, Amy L. Haviland. "This man, you couldn't get the smile off his face when his position moved to the World Trade Center."
Mr. Haviland, 41, met the future Mrs. Haviland online almost five years ago. They hit it off immediately but had one big problem: he was in St. Paul, Minn., and she was on Long Island. He decided to visit. She said their love affair began in the baggage claim area at La Guardia Airport and led to a wedding two years ago. It was a four-ring ceremony: one each for the bride and groom and a ring for each of Mrs. Haviland's children, Nicholas, 14, and Jesse, 12.
Mrs. Haviland's brother, Robert W. Spear Jr., a firefighter, also died in the attack.
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JEAN HOPKINS
September 11, 2019
18 yrs ago I purchased my 911 braclet when it came in with TIMOTHY AARON HAVILAND 'S name on it still wear it on 911 TO ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS HEARTBREAKING DAY TO ALL THAT LOST THEIR LIVES AND THE ONES THAT ARE STILL HERE
Joan Lawson
September 11, 2018
As I watch the 9/11 ceremony this morning I think of Tim. I had the privilege of working with Tim at Lawson Software in Mpls many years ago. He was kind and funny and such a pleasure to be around. He always had a ready smile and was always in on all the jokes and goofy things we'd do.
I think of him often but especially this day.
Amy, Tim will never be forgotten by his friends here in Minnesota.
I wish you and your family peace.
Verna
December 15, 2015
On our property there is a tree that has been growing for the past 14 years in Timothy's honor. It's our 9/11 tree. God bless.
michael haviland
September 11, 2014
dominus fortisima turris
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September 12, 2013
Missing you.
Sandra Melville
September 11, 2013
We think of you and fly our flag at half-staff for the three of you each year, for you are all victims of 9/11.
Peter Vanden Broeck
September 4, 2013
To the family of Tim Haviland,
Each September I fly the flag of Honor that bears Tim's name. I remember him in College (Macalester) but did not know him. However, I was in NYC on 9/11 and remember walking down Broadway to retrieve my Mother who was living in the West Village. I just wanted you all to know that he has not been forgotten and out there in the world many more like me who hold your family in our prayers.
Ellen
September 10, 2012
Tim,
You'd love all the new bike trails and St. Paul's light rail development. Thinking (often) of you and your family!
Elaine Caldbeck
September 12, 2011
I remember Tim as an acolyte, just a little younger then me, but as a priest's kid, having much more experience at the acolyte tasks. Tall, gracious, smart and capable -- blessings to all those who loved him!
Ellen Davis-Paxton
September 11, 2011
I miss you my friend. God bless!
Adam Carroll
September 11, 2011
Some of us at Bob Jones University prayed for Tim and his family today for the 10 year anniversary of 9/11. May God's light shine among Tim's family.
Laura Kelley
September 11, 2011
I have such fond memories of "Timmy" (as he was known as a young boy) on Wisconsin Avenue in Ames, Iowa. We lived just two short years in Ames while my dad studied at Iowa State, but we all have wonderful memories of Timmy and the entire Haviland family. My heart was broken when I learned of his death on 9/11. I think the news reached us via a mutual friend in the McPheeters family - who moved to Auburn, AL where mom and dad lived for many years. I am thinking of you all. Laura Holloway Kelley
Alex Paytuvi
September 11, 2011
I did not know Tim for very long, but ten years ago he showed great kindness and was very friendly to me when I visited Marsh. I am thinking about him today and what his family to know he will never be forgotten.
Irene Spear
April 9, 2010
Hi Tim I see no one has visited your guest book in a while I don't write very often as can be seen in viewing all your sympathy messages mine is missing. However, I want you to know you are not missing from my heart or mind I think about you and Amy along with Robbie every day, You were a very special man a beautiful person you treated my grandchildren like they were yours and loved them as they loved you. Both Jesse ans Nick miss you a lot and love you. I never told you this but I want to thank you for being there for Amy and loving her so much you really helped her through some rought times and stood by her all the time. I love and miss you every day when I see th LIR come thru Oceanside I always think of you. Say hello to everyone up there Love your mother in law Mom Irene
Roy Phillips
March 7, 2009
God bless you my Iowa brother. The world lost so many people that meant the world to many. Now in death the victims touch even more people than the could have in life. That is one thing to be grateful for. I hope your family and friends may find many reasons to be grateful for and that some small comfort will come from knowing you will never be forgotten. God bless. Sincerely Roy, a disabled Iowa Veteran.
Doug Abraham
February 26, 2009
Happy Birthday!!!
Luke Holmes
February 15, 2009
Hey timothy im your little girls friend she misses you and crys her self to sleep every night R I P
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You may remember me Mandys Son You wont beleive how much i cried at your funeral RIP
Doug Abraham
February 26, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
Albis Torres
September 21, 2007
I will always remember
Doug Abraham
February 26, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
Kristine
November 6, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
November 1, 2006
In memory....
Amy haviland
September 14, 2006
hi, my name is amy haviland too . sorry for the lost of your husband.
Jacob Rothenberg
September 11, 2006
I am one of Timothy's many cousins that was unable to meet him. I'm really sad because I never got the chance to meet him and get to know him. Perhaps someday soon I will be able to meet my other cousins, his wife and children.
Sherri Rothenberg
September 11, 2006
Timothy was also my cousin and do to time and distance I was never able to meet him. My sister, Sandy Melville, did know him however and has told me was a wonderful man he was. We are all incredibly sorry for your loss and mourn the families loss daily.
Barbara Kivet
February 26, 2005
For Amy: today is Spencers 34th birthday. Your mom told me that Timothy and Spencer both share the same birthday. Both a Pisces. I thought of Spencer all day, and Robbie, and thought of Timothy. I want you to know that the pain of losing a son, a brother, a husband will never go away we live with it each day. We try to get stronger. I only watched a program last week on History Channel, about the towers, when I saw the fireman, I though of Robbie, when I saw the plane hit the first tower, I thought of Timothy. Somehow Spencer, Robbie and Timothy are together and have made me, your mom stronger. I pray for you and your kids. Timothy rest in peace, you will never be forgotton. Barbara Kivet
Patty Spear
September 12, 2004
Amy,
On the 3rd anniversary our hearts and prayers are with you.
Dean thinks of you often and I want you to know that if you EVER need anything, just let us know.
d t
February 6, 2003
amy~
i am so sorry for your loss of yet another loved one. i will always think of you.
donna
anne jones
February 4, 2003
to the family
what a double loss for you and your family. with the loss of timothy and the loss of his cousin laurel on saturday.
god bless america
blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted.
Aurea de la Cruz
February 2, 2003
Dear Amy,
I am sorry to hear of your loss of your husband on Sept. 11. I lost my sister Lillian Caceres. She also worked for MMC at 1 WTC on the 97th floor. Your husband worked on the 96th floor, so I feel like we have something in common.
I picked up your husband's name when his parents was on t.v., and they spoke of Timothy and that he worked at MMC on the 96th floor. So this touched me personally and I wanted to say my heart and prayer goes out to you and your family with the addition of losing another member of your family, Laurel. I know that she is in Heaven with Timothy and my sister Lillian.
I would like to hear from you, I plan to go to the MMC memorial in July, when they display their names on a monument. My e-mail address is [email protected] and my phone number is 609-978-8117. May God bless you and your family.
Sincerely, Aurea
Irene Shotts
February 2, 2003
Timothy
The world seemed to end the day that you and thousands of others died so senseless. Well yesterday, another sad note. The Columbia shuttle blew up and killed all the astronauts on them. I am very sorry that your cousin Laurel was on the shuttle. I never knew her as i never knew you but i wish i had. God only takes the brave and needed ones for more important jobs on heaven. May you and Laurel have a joyous reunion and all ways remember the nation cried again today for the people that we lost again. Test in Peace.
Rolf Olson
September 12, 2002
Dear Amy Haviland,
We live near Minneapolis, and our son Luke takes viola lessons from Margaret Haviland, Tim's sister. We heard about you losing both Tim and your brother at the WTC. Please know that you, and the Haviland family have been in our thoughts and prayers. Please also know that there are millions of Americans and others around the world who know that the people who died Sept. 11, 2001 were not just nameless faceless numbers, but real people with families and kids and dreams of the future. May God bless you and comfort you in your loss. Take care.
Emanuel Ruedenberg
September 10, 2002
Dear Amy,
I don't think you know me but I am on old childhood friend of Tim's. We lived a few blocks apart in Ames and played together from kindergarten on. On Christmas last year my parents, sisters(Lucia, Ursula, Anet) and I went to the Havilands in Ames to be with them.
Tim and I lost contact for a few years after high school but then around the early 1990's we made contact here in Mpls. and he came to my house for an Iowa party. Then after that he used to run into my wife in the Norwest tower. My wife used to say I saw your smiley Iowa friend again today!!
Tim was a genuine and wonderful friend of mine that I wish I would have been able to spend more time with. I hope you and your family are well and would love to hear from you.
Sincerely,
Emanuel Ruedenberg
[email protected]
Joann Davenport
August 23, 2002
I meet Timmy only a few times with Amy and the kids. He was such a gentlemen and so kind and loving. I really love you Amy and I will always be there for you.
Your friend forever,
Joann
Amy Haviland
July 7, 2002
I am so moved and touched by all of the postings left on this messageboard. If any one of you want to contact me personally, please email me at: [email protected]. I would love to meet you all and share stories about Timothy's life. I love him so much and miss him more and more as time goes by. There are no words to express the deep felt sorrow that is in my heart and the hearts of my children. I just know that I loved Timothy with all of my heart each and every day that we were together and a love like that doesn't go away. We are joined together forever. Our wedding rings are inscribed with "I Love and Adore You Forever" and know that I will.
Mark Deneen
April 16, 2002
This is the first time I could bring myself to the tribute site. I worked with Tim in Minneapolis for years at Norwest. Tim would always be interested in the computers I was working on and wanted me to teach him everything I knew. I was in Manhattan this past weekend and took a boat tour around the island and couldn't stop crying. I can only imagine the pain you are going through Amy. I remember Tim talking of you and the day he told everyone he was moving to New York. My computer job has taken me to the WTC many times and I still have a hard time believing the towers are gone, let alone all the loved ones. God Speed to you Amy and your family. I would love to meet you some day, should our paths ever cross. Tim touched the lives of many people here in Minneapolis. It's ironic we used to work in the Norwest Center Skyscraper together.
Jane Lax
March 21, 2002
To Timothy's parents;
I heard your interview with Rhod Sharp on the BBC. Please know that people here in Europe shared America's grief and anguish. I teach at a German high school and was very moved by the reactions of my colleagues and students. We remember you all in our prayers.
Jane Lax Mönchengladbach Germany
Nancy Scott
March 19, 2002
I worked with Tim in Minneapolis before he left for New York. What a wonderful man he was! I am so happy to know that he had such a wonderful family. You are all in my prayers. May all the beautiful memories you have of him bring you comfort. I am so very sorry for the loss of Tim and your brother.
Anne Johnson
March 11, 2002
To Amy,
WE knew your Timmy as a toddler. We baby-sat him and his siblings Sue, Bruce, Andy, Peggy. I loved him before I had any children of my own to love. He was the most beautiful, cheerful baby. Then we met him briefly as an adolescent. He e-mailed my husband (an historian) in August. How I wish I had a copy of that e-mail now! I am kicking myself that I didn't save it. If you have it on your home computer I'd like to read it again.
He was so interested in the Civil War and we were hoping to see him again and to meet his new family.Perhaps we can meet you still, and if you ever go up to the Adirondacks please let us know ahead of time. Our house is your house! Sadly,
Anne H. Johnson
Potsdam, NY
Katherine
February 23, 2002
Amy,
I always wished I had the chance to meet you. I met Tim working in TIS at Marsh and from the moment we met, we became fast friends. I never met a man who talked so lovingly about his wife. He love you and the kids so much! Tim and I shared a love for the MN Vikings. I miss having our "team" chats. I'm guessing that Tim will negotiate a "miracle" for the Vikes with the man upstairs. : )
You are loved and missed.
Anonymous
February 1, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL MAN TIMOTHY AARON HAVILAND AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND MAY THEY FOREVER STAY CLOSE AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK..GOD BLESS HIS BROTHER IN LAW..MAY GOD GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN..MAY YOUR SPIRIT BE IN THE SKY YOU LOVED.AMEN
Amy Haviland
January 23, 2002
Thank you all so very much for all of the kind words and tender prayers and kindnesses. Timothy and my brother, Robbie, were certainly man among men and there will never be anyone like them out there again. I wrote this poem for Timothy's Memorial Service and wanted others to read it too. Nicholas, Jesse and myself are trying to find away to go on and live, but things are so hard sometimes. Here is the poem.
My One True Love
Written by: Amy L. Spear Haviland
We found out our computers can be a lifeline by chance,
We were only meant to be each others friend,
But once we met all it took was one glance,
We knew our search was at an end.
As we got to know each other well,
We learned so many things by talking on the phone.
We had the same dreams and wishes and we fell,
Hopelessly and completely in a love all of our own.
As it turned out, all we needed was each other,
Only complete soul mates getting together.
We were more than just friends or lovers,
We knew that any storm we could weather.
Once we knew our love would never end,
I decided to introduce you to those who gave me my heart.
Two of my most closest and dearest,
My two precious children, we don’t like to be apart.
Once the three of you met,
You were immediately best friends and have since never been apart.
It seemed like our lives were now set,
Nicholas, Jesse and my love for you were off the chart.
On our weekends alone, when the kids weren’t home,
We’d play the stereo and dance and dance.
We cherished spending our weekends all alone.
We’d stay in bed late, hug & kiss & snuggle at every chance.
You loved my children as if they were your very own.
Nicholas & Jesse loved you with such tender special feelings.
With you in our lives, we made a stable home.
There weren’t anymore ups & down & wheeling & dealings.
We planned family vacations, scuba diving and sailing.
Playing games with the kids and all of the time left to be snug as a bug.
Instead of all of our planning, I’m left with my arms flailing.
What I wouldn’t do to just give you one more kiss & hug.
Our love, friendship and family was such a precious thing,
That we never took it for granted.
Instead we seized every opportunity to open our hearts and sing.
We were so happy because of the seeds we had planted.
You were stolen from us without a second thought.
By such EVIL, I cannot even comprehend.
Our special feelings and emotions are such a comfort.
How God could let you be taken away, I cannot understand.
Who will I kiss and snugly with when I awake?
Who will I pick up from the train with a huge smile on his face at night?
The thought of you truly being gone is just too much to take.
In the middle of the evening while I am dreaming, I check to see if you’re there and turn on the light.
The children and I feel so cheated by this.
We were supposed to have a lifetime with you together,
To tickle you and make you giggle, read, play and listen to your wonderful laugh was bliss.
We want you back to hold onto and love forever.
I cannot believe the time we had together was so short.
I want to kiss you and touch your face just once more.
I cannot believe it seems like we were just starting to court.
Just know that we all love you and that one day, I’ll meet you at our special place by the shore.
Timothy Aaron, if you are up in Heaven watching us, just remember as our wedding bands are inscribed…
I LOVE AND ADORE YOU FOREVER!!!!
Sandra Melville
January 7, 2002
Tim was my cousin, but as children distance prevented us from being together much. I kept up with the activity of "The Cousins" through my grandmother and annual Christmas letters. In the late '80's we met again at our uncle's wedding. It was wonderful to make contact, and spend time together. I will always treasure it.
Betty, Doug, Amy, Nicholas and Jesse, and all "the Cousins,"
My prayers and thoughts will always be with you...But there no words...
There Are No Words (K. Donohoe, 2001)
There are no words, there is no song
No earthly balm that can heal these wounds that will last a whole life long
And when the stars burn to dust
Hand in hand we still will stand together because we must
But there are no words..
In one single hour in one single day
We were changed forever, something taken away
And there is no fire that can melt this heavy stone
That can bring back the voices or the spirits of our own
For there are no words, there is no song
No earthly balm that can heal these wounds that will last a whole life long
And when the stars burn to dust
Hand in hand we still will stand together because we must
There are no words..
All the brothers, sisters and lovers, all the friends that are gone
All the chairs that will be empty in the lives that will go on
Can we ever forgive, oh we never will forget
Can we believe in the milk of human goodness yet
For there are no words, there is no song
No earthly balm that can heal these wounds that will last a whole life long
And when the stars burn to dust
Hand in hand we still will stand together because we must
But there are no words..
We were forged in freedom, we were born in liberty
We came here to build a nation, put an end to tyranny
And we won't bow down, we are strong of heart
We are links of a chain that won't be pulled apart
And there are no words, there is no song
No earthly balm that can heal these wounds that will last a whole life long
And when the stars burn to dust
Hand in hand we still will stand together, because we must
But there are no words?
Teresa Jahn
December 30, 2001
We are extremely sorry for your loss of Timothy and your brother Robert. May your hearts be filled with golden memories of times you spent together. Such a wonderful love story - of all family members recieving a ring to be married as a family was very heart warming. May Timothy and Robert's lives and love live on in those who love them. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
James Herrington
November 29, 2001
I didn't know Tim personally. But I am good friends with his brother Andrew. We lived near each other in Senegal during Peace Corps. If Tim was anything like his brother, he must have been a wonderful guy. My heart goes out to the Haviland family.
Dawn Peterson Hazen
November 9, 2001
I met Tim at college in Minnesota. Tim will always be one of my favorite people. He was a good friend and an even better human being. Peace be with you, Tim.
Kim Walton
October 26, 2001
I met Tim through our mutual friend Shelly Carthen-Watson. When she was married in 1989, he was at her wedding with other college friends and we had a ball. When I relocated back to Minneapolis, I would see Tim and Shelley's house. He was always to positive and upbeat. I always thought he was such a nice guy, and he loved kids. Moving to the east coast was such a big move for him, but he did it. I hope he had lots of fun out there in the "big city" and will look back on the photos we took in L.A. at Shelly's wedding and remember the good times.
Pam Fucchs
October 24, 2001
I think I've known Tim most of his life. He was a grade younger than me in school.. His parents are friends of my parents who are also active politically... To Tim's family and friends, my prayers that you will find peace in knowing that Tim is a true hero.
Spencer Porter
October 17, 2001
My prayers are with you all. I first met Tim about 1965 in Ames, and he and his family have been dear to my heart ever since.
God's peace.
Michele
October 11, 2001
To Tim's family - hold close to your memories, the smiles that were shared, hug each other tightly and remember the 'I love yous'. Tim will live on in your hearts, your thoughts and your memories. My prayers are with all of you and with the families of the others who were all taken from the world far too early. May God keep you close.
Barbara Bolin
September 24, 2001
MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU ALL.MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
TIM MAY YOU REST IN PEACE.
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