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John Murray Obituary
"There was no complacency about him," she said of her husband. "He didn't take life for granted. His father said of him after the attack on the World Trade Center, 'He probably lived more in his 32 years than most people live in 100.' "
For example, shortly after they were married, Mrs. Murray had an opportunity to take a job in London. He sought a transfer and they lived abroad for about a year. The couple moved back to the New York City area late last year to be close to family after she became pregnant with Alyson, who is now 6 months old.
"He was enamored of his daughter and fatherhood," Mrs. Murray said. "For so many people, becoming a father changes their lives, but he loved every minute of it."
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Cara
September 17, 2024
Happy heavenly birthday, thinking of John on his birthday again this year <3
Cara
September 17, 2023
You sound like you were a wonderful man and an amazing father. I am very sorry for your loss to John's family and friends, especially his wife Rory and daughter Alyson. I heard your story and I am glad you were able to have a loving goodbye to each other that morning. My late boyfriend shares John's birthday today. Happy birthday in heaven John, you are never forgotten. <3
Christy Schultze
May 2, 2023
Just wrote a note to an Alyson, and a pang struck, reminded of your baby girl, and YOU! Remembering you always brings a smile and a little sorrow. Happy to have had your friendship through those charmed BC years. Praying for you and yours, John, and hope to see you again.
Leslie Abbott Pouliot
September 10, 2019
Thinking of you, John, and all of your BC friends on the eve of September 11th. I will never forget....
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Michael Dinneen
September 11, 2017
Love you John.
Michael
Jean-Christophe Moglia
September 11, 2017
Not forgotten....
Maurice Brown
July 5, 2017
John I cannot believe your gone. I found this sad information at our 2016 High School reunion. John and I had many laughs about the early morning cartoons. He taught me how to play Hockey with Tommy, Larry, Richard, and Mike. At Schubert we played a game call pops. Man the fun times. The thing I learned about John his heart was big and loving. Respect.
Mo Brown
S J. Friscia III
May 17, 2015
In Memory
With Honor & Respect.
Tyler Murray
September 12, 2012
I'm sorry for your loss, he is an American Hero.
Kimberly Fleming
September 12, 2011
On Sunday 9-11-2011 my husband and I attended a memorial to the firemen, policemen and civilian victims of 9/11. We had flags for all the victims of that tragic day. Everyone who attended picked a flag with a name we pick johns. We did not know him but he's a hero to america. Our thoughts and prayers are with all the families who lost love ones that day.
jennifer Briand
September 10, 2011
thinking of you
September 10, 2009
Dear Mrs. Murray,
I am your cousin Louis Campbell, your brothers son. I remember John even though he was a just a small child during one of our family get togethers and he was so full of joy and happiness and I'm sure he is lookig down right now with a smile on his face
and love in his heart.All my love.
Louis Campbell
Debra Petermann
September 7, 2009
Dear Mrs. Murray,
I do not know if you will get this message but I wanted to tell you that I grew up next door to John. My name is Debra Hume Petermann. I was older than Jonathan but he was my little guy. He had amazing red hair, amazing freckles and an amazing smile. I know that you know that. I just wanted to share in your grief. I live in Ohio now. My hope is that you and your daughter find each new day a little easier. God bless you!
J
August 6, 2009
thought of you today..
john murray
December 1, 2007
sorry a but your los
September 12, 2007
thinking of you
P Tabbernor
January 12, 2007
In remembrance....
Kristine
October 30, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Micahel O'Hara
September 11, 2006
Just thinking about you guys, I can't believe its been five years. May god bless you and your family. Miss you guys.
Bill O'Donnell
May 23, 2005
Dear Madam/ Sir, I am deeply saddened to hear of John's passing. From Schubert Elementary to Point Lookout Ocean Lifeguard I had the pleasure of knowing John. John will be the model for which I will raise my little boy "Jack" age 3. God Bless you all. -"Billy O'D"
J
September 13, 2004
Your friends from Boston College will not forget you, Your a hero in our eyes forever
Jay
September 12, 2003
Jack, Thinking about you Always !! You are a good man and I miss ya pal. Say Hi to the boys. J Bird
Carol Cotton
January 25, 2003
John:
You were a very special boy when we met 25 years ago, I know you grew to be an incredible man. This is a devastating loss, not only to your family, but to the world. Our prayers and sympathies go out to your family. There is a void in our hearts that cannot be filled. You are truly missed.
The Cotton Family
Daniel Foley
September 11, 2002
There isn't a day that goes by when I don't think about Jack. He was a truly remarkable man, who had friends throughout the WORLD. The Vikings miss him each and every day, and think of him often.
I continue to pray for Rory and Allyson Rose, and hope that we can continue to remember all the good that Jack brought into this world.
jean christophe moglia
September 11, 2002
I only knew John for a year in London but i feel very honoured to have met such a great guy.John had a great influence on me and i will never forget him.
Rest in peace my friend.
Roberta Giordano
September 10, 2002
While I never had the pleasure of knowing John, he clearly was an amazing person. Rory, it has been so long since our days as college roommates, but please know that not a single day goes by that I don't think of you and Alyson. I send my prayers and love to you and John's family. Love, Roberta
Michael John O'Hara
September 10, 2002
May god bless you and your family tommorow. I can't belive it's been 1 year.
Jeff Johnston
March 28, 2002
John....I am greatful to have known you.!!
When I took my first job in NYC, you were there with a handshake and a genuine interest in my progress. Over the years I met a bizillion of your friends, all of whom held you in the highest regard and truely admired you.
Thanks for the laughs, the influence and the reams of memories.
I miss ya.
Milty, Rory, Alyson and the rest of the Murray family... my thoughts are with you.
Anonymous
March 13, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL MAN...JOHN J.MURRAY AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS WIFE AND CHILD...FAMILY AND FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK...MAY JESUS AND ST.JOHN AND ST. PATRICK GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN..AMEN
James Porter
March 12, 2002
My prayers go out to the Murray family. Rory and Alyson Rose will forever be in my prayers.
John Leonhard
February 13, 2002
I had the honor of knowing john as a colleague at garvin. i also know his brother, mike. johnny sank a 45 foot putt to tie me in a match in arizona and win his team the title that weekend. i was a bit bummed afterwards but, like the gentleman he was, came up and bought me a beer and we laughed about it. i saw him in the lobby on that previous tuesday, the 5th, and we caught up. i was devastated to hear he was lost but felt fortunate to have known him......mike, if you read this....please get in touch
lenny
Christine France
February 1, 2002
John was going on vacation at Cantor about three months after I had started. He casually asked the people on the desk if they had read a good book.
I said "The Alchemist"".....It was not a book recommended to me by colleagues, family, friends, or so-forth...It was a book I randomly picked up at the airport and it changed me.It was short and deep. When John got back from vacation, he thanked me and I knew he "got it"". He appreciated the book as much as I did, and I could tell...he was quiet about it.
2 years later, I saw John in front of Bannana Republic and we talked for a while. He said that he enjoyed London...and that he was proud of his wife and baby-to-be. It will never make anything more tolerable, but he looked like a champ when I saw him...and I am grateful I remember him that way. I am so sorry Rory and Mike and family.He was a champ.....
God Bless John.
All my love,
Chrissy France
Tony Casolino
January 25, 2002
My deepest sympathy to the Murray family.
October 1, 2001 Zander's First Birthday
Lara (Cehanovich) Young
January 17, 2002
Dearest Rory,
There isn't a day lately I don't think about you. High school seems so long ago. When I heard you have such a small baby, and such an uncertain road ahead...my heart just breaks. Even though I never knew John and have not met your little girl, it doesn't keep me from knowing how special they are to you. I have a son named Zander. It seems wierd to think about all of us growning up, after only knowing each other in the past as kids ourselves. I hope your family, friends, and time can somehow get you through this. Do what ever it takes to have Alyson remember her daddy! A parent's Love never dies. Our love is so strong for them, they can't forget that. I was just in NYC and said many prayers for you. There partly to do some healing of my own. Just know the world is mourning with you. You are not alone.
Always,
Lara, Kevin, & Zander
Joe Page
January 15, 2002
May God bless and remember the Murray family. I was recently apprised and saddened by this terrible aspect of this unfortunate day. My thoughts and prayers go out to the entire Murray family, those I know and those I've never met.
Joe Page
Rich Bolton
December 27, 2001
Rest in peace
Teresa Jahn
December 18, 2001
We are deeply sorry for your loss of John. May his enjoyment of life and his love live on in Alyson and all other family members. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
JB
November 21, 2001
Boston College will not forget you, Your a hero in our eyes forever
Mr & Mrs Murray. We came by plane from Florida to New York October 11, 2001.
Susan Murray
October 28, 2001
My heart and prayers go out to you, and your daughter. My surname by marriage is Murray. So, I thought to sign here to let you know that even by a name I feel related.
Jeanne-Noel Tighe
September 28, 2001
John was one of the greatest guys I've ever met.. I worked for him and his brother Mike at Cantor Fitzgerald back in 1999, and when I heard of this horrific tragedy, these guys were the first ones I thought of..
I can't say I've ever met more fun loving, competitive, and all around GREAT guys than this crew.. John was always such a pleasure to be around.
He was a perfect example of a good guy leaving us way tooo soon.
All my love to the Murray family.
Harry McCabe
September 25, 2001
John had so many good friends that it is obvious he was a GREAT friend to others. He was a great friend of
mine. John left us much too soon but
very happy with a wife and daughter
he loved so much. Prayers to Rory,
Allison Rose, and the Family.
Jim O'Donnell
September 24, 2001
John was a great guy. I knew him for about 10 years, mostly through work. We socialized quite a bit, even though we lived in seperate cities. I miss him very much. God bless!
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