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Thomas Crotty Obituary
For Thomas G. Crotty the perfect day would look something like this: a run on the beach, followed by a game of tennis, perhaps a little biking or kayaking topped off with an afternoon playing with his two girls, who are 6 and 2 years old.
"Tom is somebody who on weekends never sat still," said his brother John Crotty. "He crammed his weekend with as many activities as he possibly could. We used to joke that he had it planned out in 30-second intervals."
A managing director with Sandler O'Neill & Partners, Mr. Crotty competed regularly in marathons and was to participate in a triathalon the weekend after Sept. 11. "When I think of Tom, the first think that comes to mind is the Energizer bunny," said Tom Mulkeen, a friend and running partner. "He never stopped."
He was also known to quietly help others, whether it was donating blood and platelets for a client with leukemia or picking up a sandwich for a homeless man. "He always had the kindest intentions at the forefront," Mr. Mulkeen said.
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Marci Goldman Gower
December 27, 2024
A memory of Tommy popped into my head tonight that made me smile. It was just a chat we had one day when I was getting ready to graduate HS and he had stopped by his parents and he took the time to ask me about my plans. Something simple but he listened intently and was excited for me. I can see us standing by his car in front of the yard, talking. A flash of a memory takes you back. I had to write it down. Will always have a special place in my heart for all of the Crotty´s, my Merrick neighbors x
Gene Higgins
September 12, 2024
Tommy you will always be remembered on September 11 my Samoset colleagues still teach the lesson started 22 years ago and remember you too
Del Newberry
January 14, 2022
We will never forget. Much love from Texas. Praying for your two daughters.
Kevin King
September 12, 2021
Summer nights in the mid 1970s, we traveled parks and playgrounds in search of Long Island’s basketball talent. My companion younger cousin had a deadly textbook jump shot. I simply knew how to find him. We propelled each other beyond our athletic abilities.
I remember our last game together. 20 years ago. Just two of us, me and my best man Tommy Crotty. A driveway game, one-on-one, which plays over again in my mind. We were both winners for what we gave to each other.
I WILL NEVER FORGET
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James Gardner
September 11, 2021
I really didn't know Tommy very well at MR, but I always honor his memory on 9/11 I hope the years have allowed his family to have found some comfort in their loss. May God bless them and Tommy
We will never forget.
Olivia Grew
September 11, 2021
Gene Higgins
September 11, 2021
Tommy I can’t believe 20 years have passed you will always be in my thoughts.
God Bless America and God Bless Tom Crotty
Jamie Curran
September 6, 2021
Tommy, you are loved and missed by all who knew you. Until we meet again......
Cindy Roe
September 5, 2021
Remembering Thomas on the 20th anniversary of 9/11...
Jamie Curran
September 11, 2020
You are always remembered by those you've touched. Until we meet again Tommy.........
Gene Higgins
September 16, 2019
I can't believe it has been 18 years since we lost you. The memories will never be lost . I hope to continue to "take the high road" in my life. God Bless you Tommy
Jamie Curran
September 11, 2019
Tommy,
We remember you everyday but with a heavier heart today. You are missed and loved greatly by many. Until we meet again.
Jamie Curran
Kevin King
September 12, 2018
Thank you all for remembering my cousin, best friend and best man. He brought smiles to us all. RIP Tommy and blessings always with love to the Crotty family.
Jamie Curran
September 11, 2018
Tommy,
Thinking of you and your family today. We will never forget, my friend. Peace to you until we meet again.
Jamie Curran
Gene Higgins
September 11, 2018
Tommy,
On the 17th anniversary of you leaving us, I can only think of the good times we had at Maria Regina. You will never be forgotten. Every time I go back to the gym at MR I can remember the tough practices and you always making sure I gave my best. You always set an example of working hard which made everyone work even harder to keep up with you. Thanks for the memories.
Gene Higgins Class of 78
Gene Higgins
September 12, 2017
Tommy,
I cannot believe it has been 16 year since you left us. Please know you are always in our hearts. Maria Regina Pray for Us
Gene Higgins
Jamie Curran
September 11, 2017
Tommy,
Another year goes by but not without revisiting our memories of you, my friend.I know that you are at peace with the Lord. We still miss you and still love you. Forever in our hearts and minds.......
Carol Flynn
September 11, 2016
Thinking of Tom and his wonderful family on this sad anniversary. I will never forget the amazing young man who I was privileged to work with during his H.S. years.Wishing you all Peace today.
Peter howells
September 11, 2016
Jamie Curran
September 11, 2016
Thinking about you and your family today. We will always remember you and the good times that were shared. Until we meet again.....
Gene Higgins
September 11, 2016
As I travel today into the city my mind brings me back to 15 years ago when we all lost a close and dear friend. We will always remember the smile Tommy brought to our face. We miss miss him but we will never forget him.
God bless Tommy Crotty and God bless America.
William Nixon
September 10, 2016
I still remember your toughness and determination on the court. Whether in an organized game or a pick up game in the gym. S.I.P.
William Nixon
Marist College
Class of '82
September 13, 2015
We think of you and the girls always, especially during this sad time of year. In our hearts and prayers.
Kevin King
September 13, 2015
Faith over fear is how my cousin would want us to live. Tommy's spirit endures in the hearts and minds of those he touched. That spirit is immensely stronger than the evil, cowardly deeds that took him from us. God bless our family and our country.
Carol Flynn
September 12, 2015
Thinking of all the Crotty's at this sad time of year. Thoughts of Tom and your family are happy memories of a wonderful family I was fortunate to work with early in my career.
Jamie Curran
September 12, 2015
You are forever remembered by all,my friend. Till we meet again.
Kitty
September 11, 2015
Will never forget Thomas Crotty, a distance cousin of the Crotty family. From the West Virginia Crotty family.
September 11, 2015
Crotts,
As I go off to work (school) this morning I think of you and your family and I say I cannot believe it has been 14 years since we lost you. Your memory will live on forever in our minds and hearts.
Maria Regina Pray for Us
Gene Higgins
Class of 78
September 1, 2015
the family of tommy will and always be in our thoughts and prayers. our two families had wonderful times when the kids were youg, especially at the basketgames. love to all alice and bill weber
September 12, 2014
Tommy will always be remembered here at Samoset Middle School in Lake Ronkonkoma . The memorial in front of the school dedicated to the lives lost in the attack of the Twin Towers has the words that Tommy lived by " take the High Road"
We will always remember you.
Gene Higgins
Maria Regina
Class of 78'
Carol Kerner Flynn
September 11, 2014
I will always remember Tom, a special student , who I was honored to work with. My love to all the Crotty family.
Ilise Reichelscheimer
September 11, 2014
Joanne,
Thinking of you and your girls, as always. Sending all my love....
Ilise Reichelscheimer
Jamie Curran
September 10, 2014
To the Crotty Family,
You and Tommy are always in my thoughts and prayers. I hope to see you all this coming January at MR.
Be well and know that Tommy looks down upon us all.
Jamie Curran
Thomas P Crotty
February 24, 2014
God bless.
Gene Higgins
September 12, 2013
To the Crotty Family,
We will always remember the good times with Tommy through the years. Here at Samoset Middle School in Lake Ronkonkoma, Tommy will live through an Eagle Scout Project. Part of the project is a plaque with a quote that states "take the high road" a saying that Tommy used to say about life.
God Bless you
Gene Higgins
History Chairperson
Samoset Middle School
Lake Ronkonkoma NY 11779
Kevin King
September 12, 2013
This had to be a particularly difficult anniversary of the tragic events, with Catherine off to college. I will always miss my cousin Tommy's sparkling blue eyes that shined brightest when he nailed a jump shot over my outstretched hand. XXOO
Carol Kerner Flynn
September 11, 2013
To All the Crotty Family,
Thinking of you today as I fondly remember Tommy. He will remain in my heart forever.
Ilise Reichelscheimer
September 11, 2013
Joanne....thinking of you and your children...my heart always hurts for you...sending my love.
Jamie Curran
September 4, 2013
To the Extended Crotty Family,
Tommy continues to live on in our hearts, minds and souls.He is always there.
To honor Tommy, live everyday of your life to the fullest,as he would've.
God Bless you all.
Jamie Curran
Jamie Curran
June 23, 2013
Tommy,
Happy Belated Birthday. We miss you down here, my friend.
Kevin King
February 23, 2013
Tommy's family roots are Waterford, Ireland...his paternal grandparents. I'm Tommy's cousin on his mom's side. I know Crotty is a common name from that county, but Catherine you could be related.
February 22, 2013
This man was an absolute angel on earth when he was around. He spread wisdom and love everywhere. His impact is still being felt in the hearts of men and women who were forturnate enough to have crossed paths with him.
Catherine Crotty
February 21, 2013
I was so sad to find that Thomas had been a victim in 9/11. My Gt Grandfather was named Thomas Crotty born 1811 in Waterford Ireland. I had a Gt Aunt named Catherine Crotty and i am named Catherine too. The Crotty family here in London, England would like to offer the very deepest sympathy to the family of Thomas and God Bless this very dear & Brave man. May Heaven be his bed. xxxxx
Peggy Kump
January 4, 2013
Never to be forgotten. One of the world's nicest...
Charlie Moeder
September 11, 2012
Another year goes by..... The world moves on, but those touched on this day never forget. I think of you and the other victims often and always try and live each day to the fullest...
Patrick Caffrey
September 11, 2012
Another year has passed. Rest well my friend.
Olivia Grew (Schramm)
September 11, 2012
Today I think of you as I sit on the beach at the Jersey Shore with my mom, your cousin Patricia. May God bless you and shine down on your family who love and miss you on this September day.
Cathy Cox
September 11, 2012
Thinking of you, Joanne, Catherine and Caroline today, as I do often. My love goes out to all of you...
September 11, 2012
Remembering you today and always; until we meet again.
God bless you and your family.
Jamie Curran
Martin Bailey
September 11, 2012
I think of you and your family every year at this time. We did not know each other well but you made it like we had known each other forever.
Ken Crotty
September 10, 2012
Tonight, I remember the runs with you on the boardwalk and regardless of how far we would run you would always go a little further. I still run that boardwalk, and regardless of how far I run I always stop at your bench, say a prayer and then run a little further. Time does not ease your loss, but I am thankful for the part of you that is instilled in all of us. Today, like everyday you are remembered, you are loved and you are profoundly missed. -Your brother
Ilise Reichelscheimer
September 10, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are always with
your family....Joanne....always thinking of you and your children. My love to you always.
Pat Caffrey
June 22, 2012
Gone but never forgotten. We will remember you next month.
Jamie Curran
June 13, 2012
Happy Birthday,Tommy-
I think about you all the time. We're having an MR 1977 reunion in July and we will have a toast in your honor. Forever in our hearts and minds- RIP Brother.
June 5, 2012
Happy Birthday.
Brenda Concannon
March 24, 2012
Hello, I feel great joy remembering Tommy's jump shots, tying up games at the buzzer!! Another special memory was a ski trip to Dick Barnard's house in the Berkshires when we were in our 20s..Someone brought the "Merrick Life", and Tommy read it cover to cover. My Heart goes out to Tommy"s Family. I visit Tommy at Holy Rood sometimes..
Joyce Silverstein
March 15, 2012
I, too, came to this tribute to Tommy via the story, "Meat" from The Sun. I could have been friends with him. I grew up on Long Island, I am the same age, I am a triathlete and have competed in The Mighty Hamptons race and now, my daughter plays basketball. He sounded like a great guy and I am sorry for your loss. Be comforted that the way he lived his life continues to serve as an inspiration!
Steve Rose
March 1, 2012
I wish I had known Tom Crotty. After reading the article about him titled "Meat" in the March 2012 edition of The Sun Magazine, by former basketball teammate Brian Doyle which led me to here; and after reading all the tributes here, I feel like I knew him now, even though I never did. He makes me want to aspire to living in a manner so as to make such a difference in so many lives around him, as he so certainly did.
Aleya
September 29, 2011
I am sorry for your loss. Today, at school we are planting irises for those who lost their lives during 9/11. Thomas Crotty, among all the other 9/11 victims,will be missed. May God bless his family.
C M
September 13, 2011
My "TGC-WTC" sterling braclet broke this summer. After a quiet moment, I threw it in the bay. I miss wearing it now and am going to buy a new one. I think of you and all the other victims often - you are all missed
cathy cox
September 12, 2011
I go to this site every year to just see that beautiful smiling face. Joanne, Catherine and Caroline, you are in my thoughts and prayers today and everyday. God Bless this wonderful family.
Dave Rowan
September 11, 2011
Tom and I knew each other as athletes at Marist College. We shared a (his) text book one semester. He sometimes had to wait for me to finish my work so he could start his. That never bothered him or at least he never indicted to me that it did. I think of him often this time of year and him dribbling up the court at the Mcann Center. ....I just paused to sob and pray that his family can endure less sorrow if I bear some suffering with them. I miss Tom
David Michael Rowan '81
ken tramantozzi
September 11, 2011
I lived a few houses down from the Crotty's from1978-1984. I became best friends with kenny, toms youngest brother. They were all like a 2nd family to me. I am so sorry for this terrible tragedy. Dad, pat, tom, james, jimmy, and kenny you all are always with me and I with you. God bless
ken tramantozzi
September 11, 2011
my name is ken tramantozzi. I lived a few houses down from the crotty's in merrick from 1978-1983. I became best friends with kenny toms youngest brother. The whole family was like a 2nd family to me. I never knew of this tragedy until today the 10th anniversery of 911. I'm so sorry. Kenny you are always in my life as is the entire crotty family. God bless you all. God bless you tom
Jeanne Schwegler Haggerty
September 11, 2011
God bless the Crotty family.
Jeanne Schwegler Haggerty
September 11, 2011
I lived across the street from the Crotty's for 9 years from 1975 to 1984. What a family! Tom and Pat were marvelous and we became friends. They had four amazing sons. And we watched them grow. Tommy was a big brother. Fun and friendly and admired and loved. I was heartbroken when I heard Tommy died in the twin towers. My thoughts and prayers are with the family on this terrible anniversary. I hope you are well. I am sorry we s
Didn't stay in touch.
Carol Kerner Flynn
September 11, 2011
To The Crotty Family,
Early in my Counseling Career at Maria Regina, Tommy was one of my students. I always refer to him as "one of my favorite kids," from one of my favorite families! I admired him for his wonderful qualities; he was bright, full of positive energy, kind, and always a gentleman. As the cheerleading coach I was there for all of his games and often marveled at his passion for basketball! No one deserved a scholarship more than he did.
I was devastated to hear of his passing and think of him and all of you often. I hope you can be warmed by your wonderful memories with him on this 10th anniversary of 9-11. I will keep you and Tom in my thoughts and and prayers.
Fondly,
Carol Kerner Flynn
Victoria Ferguson
September 10, 2011
I am a junior in high school, and yesterday we did various things to honor the victims of 9/11. We all went down to the gym to sign the names of victims on giant banner. Each person got a name and wrote it in one of the many hands traced onto the banner. I got Thomas G. Crotty's name. I decided to write the name on my hand so I could look him up later. Seeing all the condolences and memories from friends and family makes the 9/11 tragedy so much more real to me. This man should not have died that day. No one should have. I'm very sorry.
Gloria Jones
September 8, 2011
My heart goes out to this family,and prayers, May God give u peace.The hurt will always be there each day get better.Love and peace stay with you for ever!
John Murray
September 8, 2011
To the Crotty Family
Thinking of you on this 10 year anniversary. His physical presence is greatly missed but he lives in our daily lives. Tommy answers our prayers, he continues to make our lives better. God bless you all.
Kevin King
September 7, 2011
Ten years gone by, I miss my Best Man, and our shared obsession of playing full court one-on-one at Eisenhower Park. So many good memories with cousin Tommy...more than the grains of Long Island sand, upon which our footsteps were once printed side by side. So sorry we had no goodbye but forever grateful for the run,
Kev.
August 30, 2011
I knew Tom for a relatively short time when I came to Merrill Lynch as a new broker trainee. In the rough and tumble world of a large NYC Merrill office, Tom took the time to answer my numerous questions with patience,kindness and professionalism. He always had a smile on his face and was a really good guy, smoothing the way for me on the rough road as a beginning broker. Thank you Tom and God Bless you and your family.
Ken Ward, New York, NY
Ray Nelson
August 9, 2011
Crotts,
Think of you often and the great times we had during our school days at Cure. You are thought of fondly and missed Tom. God Bless you my friend.
Gene Higgins
July 30, 2011
To the Crotty Family,
As we approach the 10th anniversary of the events of 9/11, I want to share this with the Crotty Family. I have been teacher in the Sachem School district for the last 28 years. Over the last 10 years I have have been doing a presentation about 9/11 for the entire 7th grade class in the building. In the end the last slide tell about Tommy my friend and teammate. I have to say I started this becasue of something Jimmy said to me at the wake of Tommy. He said to me "I just don't want people to forget Tommy". Well over the last 10 years I have tried to do my part and I think it is going to pay off. I have recieved a letter from one of my former 7th grade students,in it he told me he was going for his Eagle Scout. He has to do a project for the community and he asked if he could do a 9/11 memorial at Samoset. ( the school I teach at) He wanted to do it because of the presentation and the loss of my friend Tommy. He also asked me to do a quote which will be put on a plaque for all to see forever.
Well Jimmy, Tommy will be remembered I promise. When the project is done I will tell you.
Gene Higgins
MR class of 78
Maria Regina Pray for us
Brigitte Taber
April 18, 2011
I am so sorry for the loss of such a wonderful person. I knew Tom when I first started working across the street from the trade centers. We dated for a while but moved on and I know he found such happiness in his beautiful wife and children. I just found out about their terrible loss and my heart gpes out to them. My sincere sadness for them and his parents and brothers loss. He was special and always will be in all of our hearts!
Gene Higgins
February 28, 2011
To the Crotty Family,
I think of Tommy often when ever I read something about 9/11. He will always be remembered by those who were his friends. I will continue to teach about the event every school year. Tommy will always be in my thoughts and prayers.
Gene Higgins MR Class of 78
Maria Regina Pray for Us
Jeffrey Crotty
September 14, 2010
To the Crotty Family,
We think of you and Tommy everyday and hold you in our hearts.
Jeffrey W. Crotty and Family
Jamie Curran
September 13, 2010
To the Entire Crotty Family,
I speak of Tommy often. Although he is in heaven, he lives in our hearts and minds everyday. His legacy is the enduring impression that he has made in all of us.We will always remember you, and we will all be together again in eternity.
God bless your family Tommy-
Jamie Curran
September 10, 2010
Tommy
I wanted to tell you you I am thinking of you tonight. I am in need of your help. I need your passion and will for a special situation. It's something that you can help with because I know that you are seated next to God. I want your girls to know that your actions always made a difference in our lives.
Regards
Mur
anonymous
September 9, 2010
not a day goes by. i love you so much <3
June 9, 2010
Sorry I missed your birthday.
Jamie Curran
September 11, 2009
To the Crotty Family,
I think about Tommy often and keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. We were all fortunate to have known him.
God Bless-
Jamie Curran- MR Class of 77
John Murray
September 11, 2009
To the Crotty Family
My thoughts and prayers are with your family today. Tommy was a teammate of mine at Maria Regina High School. Tommy, a junior, made all of us reach our full potential because of his passion, hardwork and competitiveness. His love of the game and his teammates is my fondness memory. His legacy is that "overachievers" always find success. Tommy's drive and huge heart pushed me to work harder to reach my goals. I regret not writing these words sooner to your family. May God Bless you today and may He and Tommy hold you in the palm of their hands.
Terri Walter
August 20, 2009
I went to Cure' of Ars Catholic School with Tommy. I still think of him often and say prayers for his soul. I was devestated when I found out he was a victim of 911. He was always a kind guy and I always thought highly of him. My prayers are with him and his family and close friends. God bless you all. My maiden name is Reardon.
Doug Abraham
June 5, 2009
Happy Birthday!!!
Ilise Reichelscheimer
May 7, 2009
May, 07, 2009
There is not a time that I don't of Joanne and her girls and hope they're doing well. My heart still aches for you and your family....it's been a long time, but just know you are always in my prayers.
Doug Abraham
June 5, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
Doug Abraham
June 4, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
Jeffrey W. Crotty
March 8, 2008
Dear Crotty Family,
Though we never met nor shared the pleasure of knowing you nor Tommy, my family and I think of you all often. We share your loss of Tommy through the passing of our loved ones. It is the heroes in our lives that help to guide us through this arduous journey and enhance our joy in each moment. Your husband, son, brother, and father, Thomas G. Crotty is not only a hero to you, but to us all - and we thank you.
Olivia Schramm
September 11, 2007
Tommy was my cousin (my mom's first cousin). Thinking of you today and everyday Aunt Pat, Uncle Tom, Joanne, Catherine, Caroline, John, Jimmy and Kenneth. With love,
Olivia
September 11, 2007
Tommy was my cousin (my Mom's first cousin). Thinking of you today and everyday Aunt Pat, Uncle Tom, Joanne, Catherine, Caroline, John, Jimmy and Kenneth. With love,
Alicia Fitzgerald
September 11, 2007
Dear Joanne,
Thinking of you today!
Love & Prayers,
Alicia
Alicia
A. Friend
June 15, 2007
Happy Fathers Day, Tommy. Your girls are beautiful. You'd be proud.
Doug Abraham
June 5, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
Catherine Crotty
January 10, 2007
I miss my dad so much. He was so close to me and I didn't even get to say good-bye. My poor little sister didn't even know him.
Kristine
October 30, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
September 17, 2006
In remembrance....
MAJ Thomas L. Crotty
September 12, 2006
As I sit here in Iraq involved with OIF, I am remembering Tom along with all other victims and survivors. My prayers go out to their loved ones on this 5th year anniversary. God Bless America!
Anonymous
September 17, 2003
I went to college with Tom, and in fact lived across the hall from him our freshman year at Marist. He was simply one of the nicest people I have ever met in my life. I think of him often and wonder why this had to happen to someone with so much to live for. I will never forget Tom and pray that his family can find some peace and happiness in spite of their tragic loss. God bless all of you.
Anonymous
September 10, 2003
It’s been two years since Tommy left us – it seems like yesterday. I knew him well, but not as well as others here, I think of him often. From what I’ve read here, he was exactly the guy I thought he was – athletic, good looking, honorable and caring. For Joanne and the girls, I can not imagine your loss. I can find no solace in his departure except that I was lucky to know him.
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