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Paul Innella Obituary
"He was like me," said Lucy Aita about Paul Innella, her fiancé. "He talked too much."
They talked daily for weeks before their first date (they had "met" through a singles Web site). After Mr. Innella moved in with Ms. Aita, her son, and her parents in East Brunswick, N.J., he would call "a zillion times a day."
"Hi, honey! Are you O.K., really? Talk to you later!" "Hi honey, I'm 15 minutes from home!"
He was a bright man and knew it — "That's O.K., honey, I'll do it!" — but he was also boyishly enthusiastic. He loved food, giving surprise gifts, bowling and bouncing hard and high on a trampoline with Ms. Aita's son. In the first flush of courtship, rather than leave her to drive home to Brooklyn for clean clothes, Mr. Innella would happily swing over to the nearby Macy's to buy some.
He was a hard-working adult — 33 and a systems analyst with eSpeed at Cantor Fitzgerald — but also a childlike Disney fanatic. He had been to Disney World nine times, collected hundreds of Disney movies and cartoons, and let's not even talk about the memorabilia. "He was so excited about 'Snow White' coming out on DVD," said Ms. Aita. "Because it would have all the extras."
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Thomas Innella
January 13, 2023
Wish I could have met you! Was told you were great.
A Canadian
October 13, 2019
In lasting memory of Paul Innella.
The Kinddred Family
November 9, 2018
Sending our deep sympathy to your family for your loss. Each new day may God continue to give the needed help to cope with such a sad loss. Paul will always be missed.
michele prisco
November 19, 2014
What a loss for our whole family. Sadness that can never be erased but love that will last forever. May you keep aunt Dorothy company until we are reunited in heaven. Rip and watch over us and guide us on our journey until we are together again.
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Paul & Shirley Innella
January 4, 2014
Another Christmas and New Year without you. Love you and miss you as much as ever. Love Mom and Dad
Shirley & Paul Innella
September 12, 2013
You are missed as much today as the day you left us. Rest in peace my beloved son.
Donna Spera
September 12, 2013
You were definitely around us yesterday. Saw your sister and it was so nice to see her at the Old Bridge memorial. You are always on mine and Ted's minds... we miss you. Until we meet again.
Eveliz Ortega
September 11, 2013
I didn't got to meet you but I will always keep a candle on in memory of all the life that were taken. R.I.P
monica ortega
September 11, 2013
I may not have met you but you were a good friend to my brother Felix and I know from my brother the great person you were and friend. you will never be forgotten and forever in our hearts.
Felix Ortega
September 11, 2013
12 years ago I lost my good friend Paul. It still seems like a bad nightmare. I miss you buddy . Till we meet again.
Maria RICH
November 12, 2012
Happy Birthday Paul!! xoxoxo
November 11, 2012
Happy 45th Birthday in Heaven Paul.You are always with us, until me meet again.
Love Mom and Dad
Tori Jones
November 10, 2012
Happy Birthday Daddy! I miss you! ?
Shirley Innella
December 24, 2011
Missing you more then ever on this Christmas Day. Till we meet again.
Mom and Dad
Felix Ortega
September 11, 2011
Your light will always shine in our hearts, untill we meet again buddy...
Eileen McKenna
September 11, 2011
What fantastic posts here! I am so glad to be able to add and share memories of such a good and honorable man! Just this morning as I am listening to the names being read by families members of others that have been lost and and missed, I was washing the breakfast dishes when it struck me that I was washing some pan that I just cooked eggs in, that you loved Paulie, I remember you looking at it and smiling for some reason and all I could think was that it was pretty ugly because the bottom of the pan looks burnt and the handle is slightly lumpy from being melted or something. And now this moring as I am having this memory I too am looking at this stupid pan and am grateful for it and this memory of you.
With so much love, Eileen
Victoria Jacquelyn 2011, Age 11 1/2
Tori Jones
September 11, 2011
Victoria Jacquelyn, September 2011
Jennifer Jones Novara
September 11, 2011
A new photo
Jennifer Jones Novara
September 11, 2011
It's harder every year, not easier. Tori is so smart, and now she is so aware. The questions are coming this year like no other year. "Why can't we just find all the terrorists? Do you think we should just bring all the troops home so we don't make them madder? " This reality will never go away. And I don't have the answers to the questions posed by an 11 year old - questions that every adult grapples with. Questions that steal even further the innocence of a little girl who just wants to glean every detail she can, and should be worried about nothing more than what to wear to school.
On we go, she and I, like some mini team fighting our way through this together, beating down a path to normalcy as best we can. Most days, we succeed. But on this day, forever, there is just this day. On the birthday she shares with you, there is just that day and this day. On Christmas, that day and this day. First Communion. Recitals. Basketball games. Moving up ceremonies. There will be more. There will be proms and graduations and a wedding day and babies. And always, with that day, there will be this day. Reminding us what has been lost. And reminding us how important it is to live.
Ten years ago this day, you were gone from this earth. But as you see, you will never be gone from our lives. My post this year is probably a different tone than other years because this year has been the most raw for us. A second wave of children are realizing how they lost one of the two most important people of their lives. It is hard, but it brings you even more into Tori's reality...you are not just missing from her life. She is without her father because her father was taken.
As we work through this, as we mend it as best we can and she is able to become stronger with the knowledge, we will continue to beat that path toward normalcy. And we will remember you like we always do, with smiles and love and prayers for your peace.
Rest in peace, Paul. xoxo
Monica Ortega
September 10, 2011
May you always shine
Monica Ortega
September 10, 2011
Paul was a good friend of my brothers even though I never met you you are never forgotten and in our prayers.
December 25, 2010
Merry Christmas Paul, We all still miss you so very much.
Love MOM
Eileen McKenna
September 12, 2010
Dear Paul,
You are always in my heart and on my mind. Miss you.
Jennifer Novara
September 12, 2010
God Bless you Paul. We speak about you often and Tori always asks different questions about you. I so wish you were here to answer them. Rest in peace. XO
Paul & Shirley Innella
September 11, 2010
Another sad year without you. A day doesn't pass that we are not reminded of you. Our hearts are still as heavy as the first day we lost you.
Love, Mom and Dad
Felix Ortega
September 11, 2010
Hey buddy we still miss you, you're not forgotten.
Monica Ortega
September 11, 2010
To my brother Felix good friend you are not forgotten.
donna spera
September 9, 2010
miss you!
September 12, 2009
Paul,
Another year without you. Our heart still bleeds with the pain of your loss.
Peace and love,
your sister Maria
Shirley Innella
September 11, 2009
Eight years have not eased the pain or heartbreak of losing you. Rest in peace Paul.
Love Mom and Dad
Safely Home
Michael Iezzi
November 11, 2008
Paul,
Happy Birthday in Heaven. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Cousins: Tori, Paul's niece and Goddaughter Heather, Paul's nephews Jimmy and Christopher
September 11, 2008
Victoria Jacquelyn, Sept 2008
Jennifer Jones-Novara
September 11, 2008
Dear Paul... 7 years already, it is hard to fathom. Your daughter is growing like a weed, and we talk about you regularly. She always tells me when Kiss comes on the radio that this is her dad's favorite band. She's so smart and funny and she most definitely has so much of you in her. I pray for you and I know we will see you again. Keep watching over her.
Love
Jen
Maria and Jim
September 11, 2008
Paul,
You are always in our thoughts and prayers.
Peace and Love,
Donna Spera
September 9, 2008
Dear Paul,
Thinking of you always.......
Michael iezzi
November 12, 2007
Paul,
Happy Belated Birthday in Heaven. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Lord,
Grant that we may hold dear the memory of your servant, never bitter for what we have lost nor in regret of the past, but always in hope of the eternal kingdom where you will bring us together again. We ask this in the name of Jesus the Lord. Amen.
Doug Abraham
November 11, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
P Tabbernor
November 14, 2006
In remembrance....
Kristine
November 2, 2006
As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Maria Rich
September 11, 2006
Paul,
It has been 5 years since that dreadful day when you and so many other innocent people were lost. We miss you so much. You are thought of often. Jimmy & Heather give you a big kiss. Keep watching us from above.
Peace and love always,
Maria, Jim, Jimmy & Heather
Donna Spera
September 6, 2006
Hey Paul,
That time of the year again. I can't believe it's 5 years. Life is just not the same, especially without you. There is always a piece missing when there is a get-together with friends....and that piece will never be filled in. You are always on everyone's mind....
and we will always remember the fun times. Love you and miss you.
Heather, Tori and Jimmy, July 2006
Jennifer
July 20, 2006
Paul,
Thought you might like a photo of your nephew, your daughter, and your niece, too. July 2006. You are so missed, Paul. These kids would have made you laugh and vice-versa.
God Bless,
Jen
Victoria Jacquelyn, Age 6 1/2
Jennifer
July 20, 2006
Dear Paul,
I can't believe it's been almost 5 years. It is incomprehensible to me that Tori wasn't even 2 when you were taken and now she's going to be 7. We speak about you more and more often as she gets older. The other day I flipped on the radio and Kiss was on - it gave me the chance to tell her about her dad's favorite rock band. She's got a little bit of the rocker in her, too.
Here's a photo she just had taken tonight - wanted to share it with you.
As always, Paul, I wish you peace and sweet rest.
rachelle S.
September 11, 2005
Paul...you along with over 2,000 more loved ones are especially remembered today. May u rest in peace knowing that a lot of people still miss you..including that beautiful daughter of yours. May she grow up knowing how special her daddy was ...
Carol Bianco ( Innella )
September 22, 2004
Would like to express our Deepest Sympathy on the loss of your loved one Paul William Innella on the behalf of the Innella family from Sunbury, Melbourne, Victoria Australia.
Loving Friend of Paul's
July 16, 2004
Come and visit Paul's Family Memorial to view a tribute of Paul William Innella's Life at www:paulinnella.com.
Shirley and Paul Innella
July 4, 2004
Today is your 3rd Fourth of July in heaven. Today Ground Zero was reborn on the Fourth of July. A cornerstone was laid for the "Freedom Tower." The inscription carved into the granite pays tribute to all who lost their lives in the Sept. 11 attacks and to the enduring spirit of freedom. We will always remember your deep patriotism throughout your life.
Rest Peacefully,
We love you Mom and Dad
Paul on our last trip to Canada 7/28/01
lucy
June 25, 2004
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Maria Rich
April 12, 2004
Peace and Love to you Paul. Happy Easter in Heaven. You are missed greatly. Please view Paul's website at paulinnella.com.
Maria & Jim
Nicole Pulliam
December 15, 2002
I thought of you today. Rest well Paul.
Lauren McGreevey
October 1, 2002
I read this in the newspaper and saw it was not posted here and should be...have strength Lucy.
Elegy to my Spouse
We made a life together, a home and a household-
He was the world to me, and his love
Held me together in moments of joy and pain-
He was my spouse, come shine or rain,
I long to be with him again
In the great Eternity beyond all things;
My lover, my spouse
Who has gone far away from us because of this tragedy that has touched the world
Too close to home to ever forget what really matters-
I wish you'd come back to me, and the world
And tell everyone what you really felt inside, of the pain
You feel at leaving me behind-
My lover, my spouse, it is but you and I
Against strange changing destiny, lucky in love, rearranged,
Our love eternal will forever burn, a flame forever more-
We were made for one another and fit together so perfectly
Our hearts beating as one
As free as our love was meant to be-
As free and beautiful as in the beginning,
And as we all must return to dust
And bid farewell to all we wish well
So, my dear, I say good night
Knowing that you will always be near me-
In my heart, your spirit blessed, I hold you close-
You used to sleep beside me, and now you rest
My cherished spouse, forever your love will guide me
By
Tim Cantey - Poet/Author
and
Lucy A. Aita - Fiance/spouse of the late Paul W. Innella
Doreen Franzone-Raicaldo
September 18, 2002
I used to babysit for Paul, Billy and Maria. I was also lucky to see Paul again at his brother Billy's 30th Birthday Party, I was fortunate to have that time and reminisce about when I babysat and to hear how he was doing...I feel so fortunate to have known Paul.
My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to Shirley, Paul, Billy and Maria.....
Your babysitter, neighbor and friend.....
Paul Innella
September 16, 2002
For my loving son
I can't believe that it has been a year since the worst day of so many lives. I am thinking of you and praying for you always. Till we meet again.
Love Dad
Victoria, Spring 2002, Age 2 1/2
Jennifer Novara
September 11, 2002
Paul...
As I sit here and look at my calendar, I can't believe we're at 9/11 again. If I had a wish it would be to turn back time. Why'd you have to be such a diligent worker - how I hoped you had gone in late when I saw that building, but I knew in my heart that you were there. You never went in late.
While Victoria won't remember any of the time she spent with you because she was too young, I will always make sure she knows. Don't worry.
Leave this earth behind now and rest. We'll see you again.
Just rest in peace, Paul.
Love
Jen
Diane Dorais
September 10, 2002
To Lucy and Paul's Family,
It has been a year of hope and healing for alot. I am sure there is still a big void in your lives, but I pray that God will continue to help you to heal. I can no longer wear the band bearing Paul's name, but I have it hung in my car and every morning on my way to work I pray for all the lost souls and the loved ones that remain here for peace and healing to come your way. My husband and I were in Canada last year on Sept 11, this year we will be on American soil and I will feel free and proud to be here and an American. Our lost souls are watching over us from heaven and encouraging us to stand strong and stand proud. WE ARE AMERICANS.
All my prayers and blessings,
Diane Dorais
Biddeford, ME
[email protected]
Nancy Barbato
September 10, 2002
Lucy,
I't hard to believe a year has gone by.As I have worn the band with Paul's name so many people have asked about him. I have thought of you so often and have prayed for you like I told you I would.I also pray now that you may find the strength from God to live again,as you must.I told you I had lost my husband and I know how hard it is. Be strong God is with you.
Diana Rappa-Kesser
September 10, 2002
I was given Paul's name at random by our company at Keystone Mercy Health Plan...I will reflect on the celebration of Paul's life at 830 am on 9-11-2002...I enjoyed very much reading his information...May God watch over all of his family and friends
Loretta Dawson Shoemaker
September 4, 2002
My prayers go out to Paul & Shirley and the rest of your family. I have enjoyed bowling with Paul and am glad I have had the pleasure of knowing a fine young man
Maria Rich
June 30, 2002
Paul is missed so much and thought of each day. Here is a picture of his niece and nephew who are going to miss him throughout the years. We know you are watching over them from above.
Victoria Jacquelyn, age 2
Jennifer Novara Jones
May 10, 2002
Paul is missed by so many, and his loss will be felt throughout the years by his family and friends, including his 2 year old daughter Victoria.
Although she is too young to understand what she has lost, I will tell her all the good things about her father so that she can remember him well.
God Bless you Paul, and rest in peace. Thank you for the gift of this beautiful girl who brightens my days. We'll see you again some day.
Tanya Villanueva
April 15, 2002
My thoughts and prayers are with Lucy and the Innella family during this very difficult time--
You are not alone in your sorrow, and I am wishing you the love and strength to carry you through this...
The fiancee of fallen Firefighter Sergio Villanueva...
JACK INNELLA & FRIEND
JOHN E. INNELLA
March 22, 2002
WITH SYMPATHY FROM MY FAMILY TO YOURS.
February 4, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL YOUNG MAN PAUL INNELLA AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS.GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..MAY JESUS AND ST.PAUL GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
Diane Dorais
February 2, 2002
My husband and I were in Montreal the day of this tragedy. We had no clue until we hit a tourist bureau to find a room for the night. Our biggest fear was not being able to cross the lines and get back to our children in Maine. I recieved my mercy band with Paul's name on it and read his tribute. I can't even imagine what you his family and loved ones are going through. My heart goes out to all of you. I knew my children were at home and safe and for that I thank God. I pray now that God gives you all the strength to heal and to love again. Know that Paul is watching over each and everyone of you from heaven. My best to all of you.
David Janover
January 29, 2002
Paul was my best friend at Brooklyn Tech High School. Although we lost touch over the years, I always would look back and think about our friendship and what a teriffic guy he was. My prayers are with his family and fiancee. God bless you, Paul.
Nancy Barbato
January 17, 2002
I also wear a mercy band bearing Paul's name.In my morning prayers he will be remembered but I pray for those left behind.Lucy, I lost my high school sweetheart to cancer when we were in our forties and I know the hurt. I will pray that the Lord will give you the strength you need to get through this, as he did for me.With love and prayers to all of you.
Our last picture...7/28/01...Canada
Lucy Aita
January 8, 2002
In August of 2000 I threw a penny in a fountain and wished to meet a man who would love me 100%, who I could love back the same...in September 2000 I met Paul. We had a wonderful year together and were looking forward to getting married and sharing lives with one another. Words cannot express how much he is missed and how much he is loved.
MARK DEVITA
January 6, 2002
TO THE INNELLA FAMILY, YOU WERE A SPECIAL PART OF MY LIFE GROWING UP WITH YOUR 2 SONS AND YOUR DAUGHTER I WILL NEVER FORGET ANY OF YOU IM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS AND MAY PAUL REST IN PEACE
Donna Foushee
January 3, 2002
My deepest sympathy to all of your family.
Teresa Jahn
December 28, 2001
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
bertha dukes
December 11, 2001
Although I don't know Paul personally, I am wearing a mercy band in remembrance of you, your family, the remaining victims and the family members of the victims.
May GOD's grace, peace and blessings be with you.
Audria George
November 22, 2001
My prayers and blessings go out to Paul's family. May God be with you always. With His Love and Mine, Gay
Marisa Brillhart
October 3, 2001
I grew up in East Brunswick and my family still lives there, so this hit close to home. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. May God bless your family and watch over you!
Kenneth Portera
September 27, 2001
I live in town an although I did not know Paul personally, he was my neighbor. We shared a common community and we will all miss him. May he rest in peace.
God bless you and your family.
Barbara Bolin
September 24, 2001
MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU ALL.MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
PAUL MAY YOU REST IN PEACE.
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