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Hweidar Jian Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Sep. 24, 2001.

Hweidar Jian, 42, of East Brunswick, New Jersey, an employee of Cantor Fitzgerald.

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Jacqueline DeRosa

September 12, 2021

I was privileged to read your name aloud on 9/11/21. I hope that you Rest In Peace and that God blesses your family.

Olga Krueger

September 11, 2007

Remembered by your Dorothy Lane neighbors....today and every day....

P Tabbernor

November 17, 2006

In memory....

Kristine

November 2, 2006

As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.

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Steve Cohn

September 12, 2006

I'm a headhunter who placed Hweidar in two consulting assignments... with CSFB and Lehman brothers. It took me some time to get to know him. I don't fault anyone for not being particularly open about his personal life with a recruiter; honestly, I'd question his judgment if it were any other way. In time, I discovered in him not just the affable being that he was on the surface... but a deeper kindness... a big heart... that I'm not sure I can define by recalling this or that anecdote. It haunts me sometimes, that I played a part in his career advancement... in that I may, in some way, have brought him closer to the awful day that ended his life. I also realize that this is giving myself way too much power in the order of the universe. In the end, the guilt is just another expression of how much I miss Dar. Simply put, he was a really good guy.

Patricia Babb

June 8, 2006

I still miss Dar and think of him so often. He worked with me on a project and we drove over to Westchester to meet our client. I had a new Ford F-150 pickup, and I asked Dar if he wanted to drive. He said "Do I?!" He was like a kid in a candy store driving that truck!

Dar was also a great gardener and loved orchids. He loved life. He loved people. He was generous in all things.

I miss you friend. I really miss you.

Peter Cocchi

September 12, 2003

I worked with Dar at Salomon in the early 90s in Lower Manhattan, and

later in Rutherford. I actually had the seat next to him the first time

the WTC was bombed (our office was a half-mile away).

I met him while I was struggling to adapt to a new job, while

simultaneously going to night school. He was a calming, friendly presense

during those times. We would often chuckle about the difficulty he

had understanding my fast-talking thick New York accent. I was embarrassed by the accent, he was embarrassed he hadn't mastered

all the subtleties of English. His English noticeably improved during the two years I worked with him, I'm not sure my accent ever did.

Hweidar was never the type to draw attention to himself. At first, I

assumed it was because he didn't completely trust his English, but that

really wasn't the case. It just wasn't his way. He had an unflappable

calmness about him. Sure, he would get angry, happy, excited just like

everyone else, but somehow Dar managed to be excited in a calm manner.

Don't ask me how that's possible, but he did it. And just below the

surface, he had a sly, quiet sense of humor.

One morning, we were sitting at our desks, and his phone rang. He picked

it up, and he had one of those quiet everyday conversations you hear at the

office: "Uh huh. Pause. OK. Yeah. Pause. OK. OK. Bye.". You could

just imagine the typical conversation on the other end: "Mr. Jian, your

new business card have arrived", or "Could you forward me that email you

sent last month, I accidentally deleted it". Stuff like that. Instead,

Dar calmly hung up the phone, put on his suit jacket, and on his way out

turned to me and said (softly and unhurriedly) "I have to go, my wife just

had a baby"....and calmly walked out. Baby! He never even mentioned his

wife was expecting! (Actually, I'm not even sure he mentioned he had a

family). If this was me, I would have been bouncing off the walls, he

looked like he was on his way to a meeting.

I found out later it was even more remarkable. His wife didn't just have

a baby, his wife delivered a baby in the the back seat of his neighbor's

car in the hospital parking lot! The baby arrived too quickly to move her

inside. THAT was what the caller was telling him, while Dar was calmly

replying "OK, uh huh".

When Dar returned to work a couple of weeks later, you got to see a little

bit of the sly humor. After he happily told us of the adventure, he finished

by say, "I wanted to name my son Honda, but my wife wouldn't let me." There

may have been a little twinkle in Dar's eye. "Instead, his middle name will

be 'Accord'".

Our manager, a man who loved to negotiate over everything, asked him: "Let

me get this straight: Your wife had the baby outside? She was never in

the emergency room?". "That's right". "Did you pay them for the delivery?

You shouldn't have to.". Dar deadpanned "I tried to tell them that, but

they said I had to pay anyway." I THINK Dar was joking. Think.

I didn't discover Dar had been a September 11th victim until two years after

the attacks. The thought of Hweidar being murdered brings out all sort of

horrible emotions. But when I think about Dar the person, and remember who

he was, I smile.

J.T. Emerick

September 11, 2002

One year later at church I was give Mr. Jian's name as a vistim to pray for. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

Angie Campbell

May 2, 2002

May you rest in peace forever. I did not know you but I will never forget what happened on 9/11/01.

February 6, 2002

DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL MAN HWEIDAR JIAN AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..MAY GOD GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN

Eunice Summers

January 30, 2002

Dar was like a brother to me! We met at Buffalo NY while we attended the school at SUNY/Buffalo. We had been seeing each other at least a couple of times a year after we both graduated in around 1985-1985. I had loved him as my own brother. Losing him was like losing my own self. The pain and sorrow I have experienced since 9-11 has been so tremendous that sometimes I still think he is not gone yet. Often times, I have to pinch myself so I know what happened on 9-11 was real and Dar is really gone for good.

He may be gone but the memories and witty and charming words he spoke will always be with me.

Dar was one of the most generous people I have even known and met. How blessed I had been to have known him and accepted by him as a dear friend. Dar, I will always think of you and I have missed you a lot. I pray that God will protect and watch your soul in heaven. May God also keep your children and dear wife Connie safe and sound.

Love Always,

Eunice

Teresa Jahn

December 28, 2001

America Cries

We see your sorrow-

and our hearts cry....

We can not erase your pain

but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-

-the American people-

are beside you.

We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,

the strength that gives you courage,

and the words to lighten your spirits.

And when we are left speechless

may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts

to ease your sorrow.

May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-

-the American people-

face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn

Dixon, IL

Kenneth Portera

October 11, 2001

Although I did not personally know him he was our neighbor and part of our community. We will all miss he.

Ashim Roy

October 2, 2001

Dar was one of the best programmers I have ever come across. He was a perfect gentle man always ready to help others. I can't believe he is no more amongst us physically. I am sure he would always be in our memory as a man of encouragement.

Patricia Babb

September 27, 2001

Dar was a brilliant software designer and architect. He was a true genius. He had a wonderful sense of humor and loved to laugh. He was a gentle and loving person, and a loyal friend. He is sorely missed.

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