Joseph A. Lenihan

Joseph A. Lenihan

Joseph Lenihan Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Sep. 26, 2001.
Talent for Drawing Laughs

Joseph A. Lenihan was a master mimic, and everyone he met was fair game.

"No one was safe from it," said John J. Lenihan, one of his older brothers. "But it was never to belittle someone or make them feel bad. It was always uplifting."

Making people laugh was a talent Mr. Lenihan, 41, developed as the youngest of six children and one he perfected as an executive vice president and director of fixed income at Keefe, Bruyette & Woods. A businessman's businessman, Mr. Lenihan possessed an ever- present smile and engaging personality that made everyone from taxi drivers to chief executives feel special.

"He was really into relationships," said his wife, Ingrid. "He couldn't even garden outside without talking to half of the neighbors on the street."

Mr. Lenihan, who lived with his wife and three children in Cos Cob, Conn., had a reputation for being lucky.

When an earthquake shook the San Francisco Bay area in 1989, he was hovering above it all in an airplane. He took the day off from work to move into a new house when the World Trade Center was bombed in 1993.

But during the week of Sept. 11, he made sure that he was in town so he could attend an open house at his daughters' school.

Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on January 27, 2002.


Joseph A. Lenihan, 41, of Cos Cob, died Tuesday, (September 11, 2001) in the tragic events at the World Trade Center where he worked for Keefe, Bruyette and Woods (KBW). Joe was an executive vice president and a member of the Board of Directors for KBW. Joe was born and raised in West Hartford, and received his BS and MBA from the University of Connecticut. Joe was a devoted husband and father. Joe leaves his beloved wife, Ingrid (Cosentino) Lenihan of Cos Cob; and their three children, Megan, Gabriele, and Joseph. He was the son of Ann K. Lenihan and the late Joseph F. Lenihan of West Hartford. He also is survived by five siblings and their spouses, Mary Lenihan of Boston, MA; David and Midge Lenihan of Marlborough, Sue and Paul Faulkner of Granby, Betsy and David Smith of West Hartford, and John and Michelle Lenihan of Avon; and by Ingrid's parents, Val and Ursula Cosentino of Stamford and Ingrid's brother and his wife, Mark Cosentino, M.D. and Camille Rigoglioso, MD. of Basking Ridge, NJ. In addition, he leaves many nieces and nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins and special friends. Joe was the kind of person who lit up a room when he entered and he made a lasting impression on everyone. He had an infectious smile and a remarkable talent for making people laugh. Joe will be dearly missed by his family, friends, associates, and all who knew him. Joe was a member of the Veteran's Appreciation Council. He was recently chosen by the Irish America Magazine as one of the recipients of its 2001 Wall Street 50 Award. Joe was a parishioner of St. Catherine of Siena Parish in Riverside. His Mass of Christian Burial will be held on Monday, October 1, 11 a.m. at St. Catherine of Siena Church, 4 Riverside Avenue, Riverside. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Cos Cob Elementary School, checks make payable to Cos Cob Elementary School and specify "Joseph A. Lenihan" on Memo line, 300 East Putnam Avenue, Cos Cob, CT 06807 or the Friends of the Cos Cob Library, checks made payable to Friends of the Cos Cob Library and specify "Joseph" A. Lenihan" on Memo line, 5 Sinawoy Rd., Cos Cob, CT 06807.
Paid Notice published in THE HARTFORD COURANT on September 26, 2001.


Joseph Lenihan, 41, a natural leader

From a young age, it was clear that Joseph A. Lenihan's outgoing and spirited personality made him a natural leader. With a warm handshake and an engaging smile, Mr. Lenihan could make anyone immediately feel at ease.

"Joe was always a positive, upbeat person who left you with a wonderful feeling after you were with him," said his brother John Lenihan, of Avon, Conn. "Joe was probably one of the finest guys I've every known in my life."

Mr. Lenihan, of Cos Cob, Conn., worked for Keefe, Bruyette and Woods as an executive vice president. He was in the company's office on the 89th floor of the World Trade Center South Tower when a hijacked plane struck the building on Sept. 11. He was 41.

John Lenihan said his brother called his wife, Ingrid, shortly after the first hijacked plane crashed into the North Tower. He told her the security officials in the South Tower instructed everyone to stay in the building.

"He told her he was okay," John Lenihan said. "Knowing Joe, if they were beginning to mobilize, he would have been one of the last people out."

Leadership and putting others before himself came naturally to Mr. Lenihan, who was the youngest of six children, his brother said. It started early when Mr. Lenihan became the president of his 8th grade class. At William H. Hall High School in West Hartford, Mr. Lenihan was vice president of his senior class and helped organize a talent show at the school.

"Early in his life, we knew he was a leader," John Lenihan said. "You could see his leadership qualities progress into high school and college."

Mr. Lenihan attended the University of Connecticut, where he received both his undergraduate degree and master's in business administration. He worked for Arthur Anderson for three years before joining Keefe, Bruyette and Woods, where he was recently named to the board of directors.

Irish American Magazine also placed Mr. Lenihan on its 2001 Wall Street 50 list. Though he worked long hours, John Lenihan said his brother always found time for his family and three children, Megan, 10; Gabriele, 8, and Joseph, 1.

"He loved his family," John Lenihan said. "(They) were everything to him."

In addition to his wife, children and brother, Mr. Lenihan is survived by four other siblings, Mary Lenihan of Boston, David Lenihan of Marlborough, Mass., Sue Faulkner of Granby, Mass., and Betsy Smith of West Hartford, Conn.; and his wife's brother and his wife, Mark Cosentino and Camille Rigoglioso of Basking Ridge.

Services for Mr. Lenihan will be held at 11 a.m. Monday at St. Catherine of Sienna Church, 4 Riverside Ave., Riverside, Conn. Donations may be made on behalf of Mr. Lenihan to the Cos Cob Elementary School, 300 East Putnam Ave., Cos Cob, Conn., 06807-2545

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September 11, 2023

Mike Mulrooney posted to the memorial.

September 11, 2021

A. Friend posted to the memorial.

April 6, 2020

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Mike Mulrooney

September 11, 2023

Joe was a fantastic person. Smart, funny and just genuinely nice. Sorely missed.

A. Friend

September 11, 2021

Thinking of you 20 years later, Joe. You shall never be forgotten. May God continue to bless your beautiful family and bring them peace.

April 6, 2020

Rest in wonderful peace....
Alexander

Umbie

September 11, 2019

Thinking about Joe today. Great work colleague, amazing person and loyal friend. I think frequently about when we worked together in San Francisco. It was great time and always makes me smile. People gravitated to Joe because of his genuine kindness and sense of humor. We always kidded Joe that he could have been Mayor. I really think he could have pulled it off.

Nancy Clark Kealey

September 11, 2018

Thinking of Joe and his beautiful family today, 17 years later. I was a freshman at UCONN living on the 5th floor of Eddy Hall in 1978 when I first met Joe. He made college life so much fun! I will never forget his kindness and the amazing presence that he had. His spirit will live on forever in all of us who knew and loved him. Joe and his family will always be in my thoughts and prayers . . .

September 11, 2015

Keeping all of the victims in my thoughts.

anne hada

December 11, 2014

woke up today and thought of you Joe. Always will remember that smile and how you made us all laugh.

S j. Friscia III

May 6, 2014

In Memory
With Honor & Respect.

Basia

September 11, 2012

I worked as a nanny for Joe's family. I agree with all of you that he was always in a good, actually great mood! Lenihans are a great family, and I enjoyed being with them for a few years. Both Ingrid and Joe raised the kids with love and patience that I value greatly. I wish the family much happiness and love, and know that I think of you often!

September 18, 2011

I went to St. Thomas with Joe. He was two years older than me. He was in my sister, Teresa's, class. I was in Europe on 9/11, but heard soon after that Joe was in the WTC. My first thought was that he was probably one of the hereos who was making sure everyone else was ok. That was his personality. I still remember his smile and energy. He was a great person. I bet his children are amazing. My heart goes out to his family and children. I am sure that your dad is smiling from above. God bless you all on this 10th anniversary.

Tom Schacht

September 12, 2011

I was reminded again of Joe by a memorial show that mentioned KBW yesterday. I think about him with fond memories of St. Thomas and the student council. Miss you Leno.......Tom

Kathi Wise

September 11, 2011

I never knew Joseph - but I have a 9/11 bracelet with his name on it that I look at every day and wear every September 11. What a wonderful man - what a senseless loss - please know that he is remembered. I am so sorry for the loss you still feel.

Teresa Ginsberg

September 11, 2011

I"ve walked by the beautiful pond and bench in the woods so many times. Today I sat down to pause about 9/11, I had never noticed the plaque for Joseph, I was so touched I put a photo of the plaque on my facebook page. I'm so sorry for your loss, he sounds like a wonderful guy.

Tim Tracey

September 9, 2011

Remembering you and your many God-given talents and strengths, Joe.

Jackie Carl

September 7, 2011

We all were given bracelet baring names at church to wear. On mine was your name,Joseph.The bracelets were made by a Texas High School class to honor your memory on the 10th anniversary.My condolences to all family members that lost sight of their loved ones on that day ,September 11th 2001.May we never forget.

Dana Pierce

September 8, 2009

Just short of 9-11, I still think of Joe--as I'm sure my family still does. Joe was a life-force and in meeting him you had to be captivated by his positive energy. Growing up on the Boulevard where Maplewood Ave. spills into I can still see the dimly light driveway where Joe would play hoops with his brothers, next to the Foleys, across from the Andersons and down the street from the Nogles and Zolas.

Our paths crossed later when my wife was his daughter's teacher at Cos Cob Elementary School in Greenwich. My memories of Joe---incredibly personable, sharp sense of humor and sense of wonderment about what could be still stay with me. He has a fantastic family and I feel blessed to have grown up in a neighborhood with such fantastic people.

Dana Pierce and the Pierce Family---1293 Boulevard Whtfd

Tom Lenihan Jr

June 10, 2009

Happy Birthday to my fun-filled and fun-loving cousin. You did your work here and left us far too soon in your life and in the lives of Ingrid, Megan, Ella and Joseph as well as all your family and friends. I know you are enjoying your heavenly like as much as you enjoyed Earthly life! Gusto is Gusto, whether temporal or eternal! Until we and the rest of us all meet again.

Doug Abraham

June 9, 2009

Happy Birthday!!!

Brendan Mullally

September 15, 2008

I knew Joe at UCONN back in 1979. We roomed on the same floor together. I just remember a nice upbeat and friendly guy. He certainly made our floor fun and interesting. A time I will never forget. My best to his family .

John McCaffery

September 11, 2008

Requiescat in Pacem, Joe. I spoke to Joe at about 8:50 a.m. on 9/11. I can't say any more than has already been said. I still work with people at KBW and think about Joe often. We are both from large Irish-Catholic families and would talk and laugh about the shared experiences. He continues to be missed.

Doug Abraham

June 9, 2008

Happy Birthday!!!

Joan Lenihan

November 28, 2007

We still think about you Joe, and are so very glad we had the opportunity to have met you. We'll never forget the time we spent with you and your family while you all came to Co. Clare. Like your parents Nan and Joe, and all your siblings, it was such a pleasure to have known you. May you rest in peace.

Sharifa Williams

August 7, 2007

Once I've met someone, the years cannot erase, The memory of a pleasant word or a friendly face.

May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well-lived.

Doug Abraham

June 9, 2007

Happy Birthday!!!

Amber Smith

May 11, 2007

Joseph A. Lenihan was my uncle. Though I was only in 3rd grade when this happend, I was devestated. His memoreis will always be in my heart as me and my family continue to celebrate his life. I know this entry is late, but I just stumbbled apon this website. I am now 14 and still grief his death. I am positive my Uncle would appreciate everything everyone has done and said after his death.
with much love,
Amber Smith

P Tabbernor

December 6, 2006

In memory....

Kristine

October 31, 2006

As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.

John Eddy

September 11, 2006

Just thinking of Joe.

Barbara Oswald

September 12, 2003

On this second anniversary of the death of Joe, I am particularly remembering the dear Lenihan family, especially those I know and love, his mom, brothers and sisters. You remain in my prayers. May there be World Peace and may our deeds build harmony each and every day.

Lee Feinstein

September 11, 2003

My thoughts and prayers go out to the entire Lenihan family on this day of remembrance. I only knew Joe through my younger brother but went to school with his sister Betsy. I can never truly feel the profound sense of loss that you carry with you every day but I hope that this and other postings will help to preserve both Joe's and the thousands of others lost on that horrible day's memory.

Sheila Callo

September 18, 2002

September 18,2002



Over a year has passed and I often times think of Joe in my heart, in my mind, and in my prayers. He is, and will continue to be a inspiration to me and my family.

He touched so many people's lives

with his terrific sense of humor, his kindness, his generosity, his intellect and his genuine ways. With out a doubt, Joe made this world a better place.

Though we all miss him, we should all be grateful for having had him in our lives. He still lives in our memories and our hearts for eternity.



Signed with much love,

Sheila Danziger Callo

Mary (Lewis) Messier

September 12, 2002

In this anniversary week of September 11th, the Lenihan family is in my thoughts and prayers. Joe and his brother John were friends of my brothers George and Mark. We all attended St. Thomas the Apostle School in West Hartford. The Lenihans are are warm, generous family, and I am so saddened that this senseless tragedy took Joe away. I remember his good-natured humor as we were growing up, his succesful run for class president in 8th grade at St. Thomas, seeing him around campus at UConn, and hearing of his success in business as an adult. When my mother was in a nursing home battling cancer, Joe and his wife Ingrid sent cards, flowers and photos of their three beautiful children. My prayers and thoughts are still with the Lenihans.

Sandra Braychak-Metcalfe

September 11, 2002

To the dear family of Joe Lenihan: Many months ago I learned through an SNET management newsletter that young Joe was the son of my late co-worker, Joe who was an SNET district manager in External Affairs. Even this distant association had a profound impact on me. Today is 9/11/02. I am so sorry for your loss. The Times article espressed Joe's wonderful, kind personality and so it is our loss. I want to send you my message of sympathy and prayers for all of you. Sincerely, Sandy Metcalfe

Jim and Maureen and Grace McFadden

September 11, 2002

It is exactly one year later and it is still difficult to express how much we miss Joe. I first met Joe and Ingrid when they moved to San Francisco. Joe's co-worker and good friend, Larry, brought Joe around to play "hoops". That's where I first met Joe and his "east coast" style of basketball as we started off competitors. It didn't take long before the trash talk turned into laughter.



Joe's big heart and warm Irish smile will always be remembered and cherished.



Most recently Maureen and I enjoyed spending New Years Eve 2001 with Joe, Ingrid and the kids. You will always be in our hearts and in our prayers.



Joe, I know that we will share many more laughs when we meet again.



Love always,

Jim, Maureen, and Grace McFadden

(San Francisco)

Melissa Reft

September 11, 2002

To the family of Mr. Joseph A. Lenihan, I am a student at the University of Pittsburgh, this morning we had a ceremony on our campus displaying 3,041 flags representing each life lost last September. Each flag had a name on it, and I was honored to have Mr. Lenihan's flag. I wanted to offer you my deepest sympathy's and to let you know Mr. Lenihan and his family are in my prayers and in my heart.

Shelley Zola

September 10, 2002

Our respective families had the great pleasure of growing up on Maplewood Avenue in West Hartford - Not an overly exclusive West Hartford neighborhood - but a place where families were the focus, and

you felt comfortable and safe. Joe - was a product of two absolutely amazing parents - He possesed many of the dynamic characterisitcs that his father had.. but he also inherited his mothers gentleness and senstivity. I will always remember his smile - His great sense of humor and his amazing ease with everyone - A year later he is in our thoughts , as the Lenihan family remains in our Prayers -

K. Melaragni

September 9, 2002

You will be in my prayers forever. Til we meet again Joe...!

Tom Keefe

July 7, 2002

God Bless your family.



Tom Keefe

George Amentas

June 26, 2002

Ingrid: My son, Jason just informed me of this website. I personaaly knew Joe for several years as treasurer of a bank and Jason interned for him for a couple of years at KBW while in college. How Joe loved speaking about you, Megan, Gabie and Joe Jr. We all miss him more than words can say.

Christine Barton

March 25, 2002

I am the mother of one of the lost from KBW (Jeanmarie Wallendorf) I am only here to say how sorry I am for your loss I did not know Joseph I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am it is not fair !!!

Melanie

March 12, 2002

I was acquainted with Joe as the head resident at my dorm at UConn. He was the kind of person one remembers, unusually kind and friendly, funny, good-looking and with an unforgettable smile. Something made me think of college days last summer and I wondered about him even as I couldn't remember names of other people I knew at Watson Hall. I assumed he would be very successful with lots of friends and a beautiful family. From reading these tributes I know that my assumption was more than correct, and that he has always blessed people through his presence in their lives. A friend from UConn put it best when she said there aren't many people out there like Joe. My prayers to all of his family and friends.

Regina Robinson

March 11, 2002

I am so glad to have this photo of Joe to keep in remembrance. I knew Joe and his wonderful family durng his growing-up years in West Hartford. What everyone has said is true- he let the whole world in and was happy to do it. I remember his winning the coveted "Principal's Award " at grade school graduation and his smiling face popping up at the parish Youth Group. I'm glad Joe had time to create his own family and to pass on the amazing spirit he possessed. My deepest sympathy to all who loved him, especially his wife and mother. He will live on in my memory for certain.

Jennifer Sullivan (Stent)

March 11, 2002

I hadn't thought of Joe in many years. Then, out of the blue, my father in law brought the September, 2001 Irish American magazine to our house to show my husband that someone they knew was noted in the issue. As I flipped through it, I started laughing out loud as I saw the name Joseph A. Lenihan and the picture that accompanied it. My mind flashed instantly back to Hall High junior prom that I went to with Joe and I was not surprised to read what a successful person he had become.



We had many laughs in high school and I'm not sure why, but I kept the magazine.



Then, as I watched in horror on September 11th, I realized that this event would touch everybody in some way. I knew two people killed that day and Joe was one of them.



I hadn't thought of Joe in many, many years but now I think about him and his wife, Ingrid and their children every single day. I want them to know that they are now and will always be in our thoughts and prayers.



Today is the six month anniversary of September 11th and I am thinking of you. I'm not sure that life has gotten any easier for the families of the victims - I wish you peace and strength. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers always.



Warmest regards,



Jennifer (Stent) Sullivan

February 21, 2002

DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL GENTLEMAN JOSEPH A.LENIHAN AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK AND THE GOOD PEOPLE OF CONNECTICUT..MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..MAY JESUS AND ST.JOSEPH GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN

John Piersa

January 30, 2002

Dear Joe, I never had the privilege to meet you, but you look very much like your older brother John, for whom I have the utmost respect. (John is married to my sweet cousin Michelle.) I feel doubly cheated in that you are gone and I will never have the chance to meet you. My heartfelt best wishes go to you and your family. Love, John

Stephen & Tina Piersa

January 29, 2002

I am sorry this is so late, but I just happen to stumble on this site. We wish to express our heart felt sorrow and send our deepest sympathy to the entire Lenihan family and to all who knew him.I am a cousin to Michelle, John Lenihan's wife. May God bless us all!

Much love and prayers,

Steve & Tina

Teresa Jahn

December 25, 2001

What a heart warming smile Joseph has in the picture you have shared with us. With such a smile he must have touch many hearts with warmth reflected from his heart. May his smile, life and love live on in those who love him. Our hearts cry with you in your loss of Joseph.

America Cries

We see your sorrow-

and our hearts cry....

We can not erase your pain

but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-

-the American people-

are beside you.

We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,

the strength that gives you courage,

and the words to lighten your spirits.

And when we are left speechless

may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts

to ease your sorrow.

May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-

-the American people-

face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn

Dixon, IL

John Torrenti

December 7, 2001

I was on Joe's staff at UConn my junior year and will always remember him for his friendly smile and positive outlook. We would walk into the dining hall together and he would stop and laugh with everyone he saw. He seemed to always know what was going on in people's lives, because they trusted him and confided in him. There were many occasions I sat and did the same. Joe's genuine warmth and concern for others was always apparent.

I met many people at UConn some 15 years ago. I remember some of their faces and even fewer of their names, but Joe's smile is indelibly etched in my mind as well as his infectious sense of humor.

My deepest and heartfelt sympathy to all his family.

Jilll Reid (Vanacore)

December 6, 2001

I am deeply saddened to hear about Joe's tragic death. I was at UCONN with him from 1978 to 1981. There was a great group of friends in Eddy Hall where the many laughs and good times primarily centered around Joe and his buddies. I can't think of many people who were more full of life and brought more energy to any group than Joe. We ran into each other in NYC after graduation and it was always great fun to see him.

I know he will live on in his children and that is comforting. All my sympathy to his family.

Chris, Mayumi, Leyna & Noah Rowan

November 29, 2001

While we didn't know the Lenihans long before this tragedy, Joe certainly made a deep impression.



We met through our daughters' friendship at Cos Cob Elementary.



We moved from Cos Cob to San Diego in early August.



We hold dear the music mix Joe made for Ele's birthday party and listen to it often.



We are happy to hear that Ingrid and the kids are receiving so much support from community and friends and are sorry we aren't closer to help.



Leyna sends her love to Ele.

Jill Hedrick

October 26, 2001

I knew Joe many years ago when we were high school students in West Hartford. He and his good friend Joe McGann went to the Hall junior prom with me and my good friend Jennifer Stent Sullivan. When I heard the news that Joe was in the World Trade Center during the attacks on September 11th I was shocked, for in spite of more than 20 years having passed since those high school days, I couldn't believe that a person I remember having so much life and spirit could be gone. He was a great guy when I knew him so long ago, and from the thoughts of his friends and teachers he had a special place in the lives of those who knew him since. My family and I send our thoughts and deepest sympathy to Ingrid, the children, and their families.



Jill (Hedrick), Jeff, Esme and Cole Whritenour

Sarah Harvey-Lyons

October 23, 2001

I was on Joe's staff for two years at UCONN. He was not only my head resident, but my friend. Joe always had the incredible ability to make people smile. Even now, in this terrible time, memories of him and our friendship make me smile between the tears.

God bless his family and friends. His kindness and gentleness will truly be missed.

Thomas Hart

October 11, 2001

I just wanted to try this new technology and see how it feels. It's hard to put into words how I feel. Joe was such a great guy. My memories stem from the many family reunions over the years. The reunions were some of my favorite times in life. It's very special for me to have so many close family members. The latest reunion memory of Joe happened in Florida on the golf course. I was so glad to be able to join the golfers on their last round before everyone left. Muriel had finally felt comfortable enough to stay with the cousins. As the golfers split up into groups I ended up with Joe, my brother Ray, and maybe someone else I can't remember. After about seven holes of sporadic golf, we got to a long par three with a mud lake between us and the hole. As the skies opened up with a downpour, we tried to tee off. I think Ray and I both hit our shots into the mud. We were sharing clubs, and Joe picked out Ray's 7-iron (I think). As he hit the shot, the ball AND the club start flying through the air and land right in the middle of the mud. And as the club left Joe's hands, he started running forward to the edge of the mud, hoping, I guess, to catch the club before it landed. Unfortunately, there was no way to reach it. We called it a day, and figured we'd never see the club again. Amazingly, the next day an employee delivered the club to Ray before he left.



Lisa, Muriel, and I are very, very saddened for Ingrid, Megan, Gabriella, and little Joe. We look forward to being with them in person at the next reunion.



With Love,



Tom Hart

Theresa (Tree) Alward

October 4, 2001

I knew Joe back at UCONN many years ago but still remembered him so fondly. He had such a great personality and that smile! He will be missed, even by those of us who had not seen him in years. My family and I would like to express our deepest sympathy to Ingrid and Joe's family. What a terrible loss of a wonderful person.

Brian Delaney

October 3, 2001

What a terrible loss. My thoughts and prayers are with Joe's wife, children, family, and friends. He was a truly special person and a good friend.

Kimberly Bee Oleksinski

October 2, 2001

Joe was the head resident in my dorm at UCONN. I will always remember his wonderful smile and incredible sense of humor. He had a special ability to make everyone feel good, and to have fun. I feel privileged to have known him, and will always treasure my memories.

My thoughts are with his family and all of his many friends at this time. I send my deepest condolences to all.

Aileen Tansey Bennett

October 2, 2001

Joe and I rode the same school bus to Hall during our freshman year. I remember him as being short and skinny then (rather like the character Eric in "That '70s Show"). He went on to become one of the leaders of our class. He and his family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Denise Bourque

October 2, 2001

To the Lenihan and Cosentino families,

The last time I saw Joe was in his parents' home in West Hartford CT. I lived a few streets away and was best friends with his sister Mary, with whom I've since lost touch. He was a sparkly little kid then and it didn't surprise me to read of his wonderful family and many accomlishments. I send my heartfelt condolences to you all.

Mike Lewis

October 1, 2001

Ingrid, I am so sorry for your loss that words cannot describe.Although I didnt know Joe,I knew of him and knew enough to know he was a very lucky man to have such a nice family.If there is EVER anything I can do for you or Joes kids, please dont hesitate to ask.Its times like this that old friends and family will rally to try and ease the pain of you terrible loss.My deepest condolences to you and to all of Joes family members, I'm sure he will be sadly missed and never forgotten. Love Mike

Katherine Luby Walker

October 1, 2001

I knew Joe at Hall as a thoughtful, outgoing leader. Although we lost touch many years ago, I remember Joe as always having a bright smile and an encouraging word. He was a spirited athlete on the basketball court and in the stands, a jokester in the hallway between classes and clearly someone who would accomplish a great deal. My heartfelt condolences go out to Ingrid, their children, Joe's Mom and all of Joe's family and friends during this most difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Regina Barnard Bobroske

October 1, 2001

Joe was a friend from our days at UConn. I thankfully had the opportunity to catch up with Joe a handful of times over the last 5 or so years. The image of his incredible smile as we parted ways at Grand Central the last time I saw him sticks with me now.



Words certainly seem inadequate to communicate the tremendous impact Joe had on so many of us during his life, and now through his death. Joe's spirit will live on through all of us whose lives he touched. I keep thinking about how he would want us to remember him, and how he would expect us to live on. I'm quite sure both would include a toast and a smile.



All of Joe's family, especially Ingrid and the children, are in our hearts, thoughts and prayers. May God Bless you as he blessed us all with Joe.

Gerardo Trasolini

September 30, 2001

From big Irish families come people with big Irish hearts - and Joe Lenihan had a heart of gold. I met Joe travelling through Corfu, Greece in the summer of 1984. We spent a week together exploring the Island on our rented motorbikes and sampling the local cuisine. Joe's entertaining wit and engaging conversation made him an easy person to like. Over the past 17 years we managed to visit each other on numerous occasions and forged a strong bond. He called Canada the 51st U.S. state and liked to add the "eh" to his sentences when we spoke. I will always remember him as entertaining, gregarious person with a smile on his face and a joke or humorous quip ready at the tip of his tongue. But what made Joe truly special was what I respected him for the most - his love and respect for his family and friends. He always made the time to make those around him feel special. Joe was truly blessed by God and now there he remains by his side in heaven. We shall all truly miss him even though he is still with us in spirit. My deepest condolences go out to Ingrid and her children - Megan, Gabriele, and Joseph, and to the Lenihan and Cosentino families.



I am a better person for having known Joe Lenihan.



Gerardo & Dora Trasolini and Family

Patrick Foley

September 29, 2001

Joe is in our thoughts and prayers as is Ingrid and their children. Also remembered are his Mom and Dad and his brothers and sisters. As our families have shared in life we now share in the sadness of Joe's death

Respectfully

The Foley family

Mark O'Connor

September 29, 2001

I only met Joe a few times, years ago, through my brother Dennis--(Joe's UCONN buddy and roommate)...but,do remember him as an easy going, fun loving, great guy. Our deepest condolences to all family and friends of Joe.

Laura Backus Hall

September 29, 2001

Joe certainly lit up a room! I knew him at UConn and considered him a close friend. His spirit lives on through all of us.

Allan and Karen Racey

September 28, 2001

I first "met" Joe in a postcard from a friend who was travelling in Greece many years ago in the early '80s. My friend wrote "I met a real cool dude named Joe from Hartford, Conn". My friend had been touched by Joe's gift. Years later I had the chance to meet Joe and Ingrid in San Francisco, and again at a wedding in Vancouver. My friend was right. Joe was indeed someone who made an immediate and lasting impact with his clever wit and infectious smile. Ingrid, we send our prayers you and your family. A piece of Joe rests in everyone he touched, and he will not be forgotten.

Ginny Jacosen Moore

September 28, 2001

I am an old high school friend of Joe's. It is such a triute to him that we all remember his warm, friendly spirit. His love of life and kindness to many is a true inspiration. My thoughts and prayers are with Joe's wife, children and family at this very sad time. with love, Ginny Jacobsen Moore

Gina Danziger

September 28, 2001

I met Joe 17 years ago. I was backpacking through Europe with my brother and sister (Jeff and Sheila) and we ran into Joe and his brother John in front of Notre Dame in Paris. Joe travelled with us for the next two weeks. When I think of the time we spent together I always smile. Joe had us laughing for most of those two weeks. I've only seen Joe a couple of times through the years but I always looked forward to seeing him again. Joe was a wonderful person who will be missed terribly by all who had the honor to know him. My thoughts and prayers go to Ingrid, the children, and all of Joe's family. Warmest regards, gina

Jay Blackham

September 27, 2001

My family and I would like to express our heartfelt condolences to Joseph's family. I had the pleasure of playing baseball while growing up in West Hartford with Joey and many fond memories come to mind. His family will be in my thoughts and prayers through this most difficult time.

In friendship,



Jay Blackham

David French

September 27, 2001

Met Joe numerous times through Jeff D. He was one of those positive upbeat people that you rarely meet. Take a look at his picture and it comes though. Its a

strange coincidence but it took this

in the paper to make my mom realize she had known Joe's parents over

40 years ago. What they had was present in Joe. God Bless.

Susan (Douglas) Healey

September 27, 2001

I knew Joe at UCONN and he is part of my memories of good times with good friends during our freshman and sophomore years. I remember his smile--he always seemed so happy. I saw him at church a few years ago in West Hartford with Ingrid and the little ones and thought that he hadn't changed at all--still smiling and very happy with his beautiful family. I know that everyone who knew Joe will miss him terribly. My thoughts and prayers are with Ingrid and the children, Mrs. Lenihan and all of Joe's brothers and sisters during this very sad time.

Lauren Rosato

September 27, 2001

I met Joe and Ingrid through mutual friends, Jeff and Barb Danziger. We've met 5 or 6 times at picnics, always with our kids in tow. The last time I saw Joe was this past summer. He was "furniture cruising" with his son around Jeff's coffee table. And he talked to me sometimes facing me, sometimes with his back to me, as he circled the table, bent over, following his son's every move. A simple, yet noble gesture that tells so much about the kind of person he was.



Our prayers are with you Ingrid.



Mike, Lauren, Andrea and Ava Rosato

Tina Bickmore

September 27, 2001

I am so sorry for the family of Joseph A. Lenihan. Although I didn't know him. I knew his wife's cousin. When she told me about his death--I was very sad to know he had a wife and three children. God Bless his family.

Sr Joan (Joseph Ann) Sirtowt, OSU

September 27, 2001

Joe was one of those kids that remain with you long after he's left your classroom. He was a "gentle giant" with a heart as big as himself. He is so much a part of the many wonderful memories that I will cherish from my days at St Thomas the Apostle School in West Hartford. I am saddened to learn that he has left us in this untimely fashion. I mourn his loss together with all who knew and loved him and extend to his dear mom, his family, his wife and children, my deepest sympathy together with an assurance of my prayers. Our lives have been blest with his presence. He will live on in my heart as one of the "best."

Jeff Danziger

September 26, 2001

Joe was a dear friend of mine. I truly loved him like a brother. I knew him briefly at UConn but got to know him after running in to him in front of Notre Dame in Paris. We hooked up and spent 2 weeks traveling together in Europe. We had a great time together. We lost track of each other for a number of years but fortunately ran into each other in Norwalk sometime around 1993 or 1994. Since then we've gotten together 2 or 3 times a year and it's always been a great pleasure hanging out with him, Ingrid, and the kids. For me and my wife, Barbara, losing Joe has been a HUGE loss. We loved him dearly........We'll never forget the great times we spent together.....to our friend and brother....Love always, Spanky and Barbara

Sister Jane Quinlan

September 26, 2001

I hold very fond memories of Joe and the Lenihan familly. As members of St. Thomas Apostle parish and school in West Hartford, they always were shining lights! Our prayers and sympathy go to Nan and the entire family at this untimely loss.

Sister Jane Quinlan and the Ursuline Sisters who were Joe's teachers.

Diane Hochberg Greer

September 26, 2001

I knew Joe when he was an RA in Watson Hall at UCONN. What a great leader, friend and all around super guy. He will be missed by all. My deepest condolences to his family.



Diane Hochberg Greer class of '85, UCONN

Doreen Friel

September 26, 2001

To the Lenihan, Cosentino & Faulkner Families:



Our heartfelt condolences and prayers are with you at this extremely difficult time. May God bless you all.



Michael, Doreen, Michael & Jennifer Friel -- West Hartford, CT

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