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More than three weeks have passed since Thomas E. Sinton 3rd, a senior vice president at Cantor Fitzgerald, was lost in the collapse of the World Trade Center. But his wife can still hear the sound of his laughter: deep, loud and irrepressible. "He had a great laugh," said Cathy Carilli, a portfolio manager at U.S. Trust. "And he never held it back. He was like a sunny day."
Mr. Sinton's pleasures came in doing for others: helping a stranded motorist on the highway. Helping a client plan a birthday party for his wife. Doing the chores at the couple's Westchester home when his wife was building her career and going to school at the same time. Sharing a love of the Knicks and Rangers with his 11-year-old daughter from an earlier marriage.
Ms. Carilli recalled how they met 10 years ago, when both were 31 years old and beginning their Wall Street careers. She had become friendly with a colleague of Mr. Sinton's on a vacation. Later, he asked her to fix him up with one of her girlfriends. "You're not good enough," she told the man, with the snide repartee that Wall Street types are famous for. "Why don't you fix me up with one of your friends?"
The words were barely out of her mouth, when he shouted across the bond desk: "Hey, Tom, pick up the phone." Now, Ms. Carilli's pleasure in telling the tale was as full-thoated as her husband's laughter. "That was the greatest sale I ever closed," she said.
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Mark Yevchak
September 11, 2019
I knew Tom in grammar school. I didn't see him again until he recognized me a week after I was discharged from the Navy in 1982 at a club in Hackensack. It was a pleasure to see a friend from childhood after 8 years. He was always kind & fun to know. My prayers to his family and I'm sure he is at peace.
Mark Yevchak
September 11, 2019
Always remembered.
Nick Lewis
November 14, 2017
Nick Lewis
November 14, 2017
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Nick Lewis
November 14, 2017
God bless
Paul Howlett
November 13, 2017
I visited the memorial today and felt I should give my memorial to to someone, I have no connection to Thomas but he will live in my memory of my visit to to the 9/11 memorial, god bless you sir,my heart bleeds for your family
February 5, 2014
You will never know it but you probably shaped my life more than any other single person in my life.
Mario
September 10, 2012
Not Fade Away!
September 4, 2011
I am a distant part of the family and wanted to leave a small mark. It was a pleasure to read about a man who left a large marker upon this world, with such testimony left by those whose life he touched, even if briefly.
John T. Scott
Joseph Mazel
May 2, 2011
'Not Fade Away'
November 12, 2010
Yesterday Nov. 11 2010, Thomas Edison Sinton JR passed away , Toms dad. He will be missed by us but he is back with Tom , His "name sake", Uncle Tom never got over losing him!! My thoughts and prayers go out to Aunt Sue, Jill and Sally. Tom was a great cousin to me with advice and feeding me Beerswhen I was underage. I'm very sad today but he has his Dad with him now
Nick Lewis
July 28, 2010
G'day Tom - Was thinking of you the other day, Roomie, when all of our class got together in South Carolina for a Sig Bust (except Diane and me who were in New Zealand but we connected by video Skype). We held up a glass of wine to you, buddy. Go well. - Nick
Doug Abraham
July 23, 2009
Happy Birthday!!!
bruce benge
July 12, 2009
I also was a fraternity brother of Tom. I think of him often and miss
him dearly. Although I did not have
a lot of contact with him after Lehigh I cherish the time I had with him.
I will never forget his enthusiasm
and good nature
Joseph Mazel
December 29, 2008
Much time has past since that fateful day on 9/11. I was a fraternity brother of Toms'. My son (age 17) went to NY to visit his grandparents over the Xmas break, and as part of his siteseeing, he went to visit Ground Zero. It made me think of Tom. I was just a couple of years older than my son when Tom and I met and became friends at Lehigh. We shared a love of music and spent endless hours hanging out listening, laughing and being young adults. Tom, you still stir up memories. As the Grateful Dead song goes...your memories will "Not Fade Away". ---Maze
Chris Marrinan
November 7, 2008
The Secret Lives of Boys. . .I had a lot of fun growing up with Tom Sinton, we had many adventures together, Anona, Bosco, etc. Thanks Tom.
Andy Whiteley
September 12, 2008
For some reason today, being Sept 12 2008 I thought of that day and what we were all going through - "Do I know anybody that works up in the WTC?" I remember thinking I guess I don't but then learned later that my fraternity brother Tom Sinton was up there with the Cantor Fitzgerald group. I don't remember thinking OMG he's gone - I remember thinking that sounds like the kind of job Tom would have loved - high stakes and fast paced.
I enjoyed just seeing the picture of him on this site - same smiling face - he always seemed to be smiling even when you might not expect him to. Funny how the memories all jumble back in random order.
john pizzarelli
September 11, 2008
my thoughts and prayers go out to tom's family.
kristine
August 19, 2007
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
March 14, 2007
In memory....
Jim Cahir
September 11, 2006
Sinton Family:
I'm sorry I didn't share my condolences earlier. I have so many fond memories of Tom - especially rooming together during Bromley ski-weekends and family dinners on Anona Dr.
God Bless you all.
Richard Krajewski
April 13, 2004
I'm an American Airlines Captain based in Boston and will never forget the morning of 9/11/2001. When I heard that the airplane came from Boston and was one of ours, I feared I may have lost coworkers and friends. Oddly enough I did not personally know any of the crewmembers, perhaps I considered that a blessing. Some time later I saw a tribute to Tom in a Don Bosco Alumni news letter.
I knew Tom from a classes we took together and remember his great sense of humor. We lost a great deal as a result of that tragedy, most dearly people and most knowingly to me Tom.
Kevin Fennessy
September 11, 2003
I grew up with Tom in Upper Saddle River, NJ. We both attended the same grade school, and then went on to Don Bosco Prep together...class of '78. Tom and I ran track.........boy could he run!!!
Tom was one of "The Boys from USR".
My prayers and thoughts go out to his parents, wife, and daughter.
Cousin
October 30, 2002
Tom
We were cousins. You know, as we all do, that as the Sinton offspring we were more then cousins, we were brothers and sisters and most of all friends. I don't think any of us got married without at least one cousin in the wedding party. How many of us vacationed together for years whether at skiing at Bromely or sunning LBI. You and Kathy and Ali were a huge part of our lives and you are sorely missed. Keep in mind that Kathy and Ali will always be part of our family. We all miss your laughter and your comments . . . . which were not always tasteful, but always funny. Say hello to all the Sinton's in Heaven, between cocktails.
Love to always,
Your Cousins
Stephen Kesslser
September 13, 2002
My dear Sinton's
I was a fraternity brother of Tom's at Lehigh, class of '79. So I was probably one of those *erks Tom would speak about when he might have related a sotry or two about
being a pledge. I was pretty rough on Tom and his classmates. Well, I was pretty rough on all the pledges.
But at the same time I tried to get to know my fellow Alpha Sigs close up as friends. Tom and I were pretty good friends but like most of the Alpha Sigs we lost touch with each other. Its easy to do given our busy lives and such. I'm sorry for that.
I was even more shocked and sorry when Steve Siwiec told me that Tom
died in NYC on that most terrible of days. Tom was a terrific, top notch guy. And I know you all are too. How? Because you're Tom's family and Tom was was first rate so I know that you are too.
Please accept my heartfelt sorrow and prayers that you may find strength and courage in the days ahead. I pray that your family is the last to ever have to go through something like this.
I wrote something that I hope you do not mind my sharing with you
God bless,
Kess
In Time of Deepest Grief
In this time of deepest grief,
Do not falter in your belief.
Hold tight with an iron grip
Least you let your faith slip.
Know that his love lasts eternal,
Not just in times nocturnal.
His love is there to help you through,
To a place with a heavenly view.
So in this your lowest hour,
Have faith in his healing power.
When in doubt there's that evil temptation,
Do battle with his loving revelation.
Take comfort in his words of glory,
And you shall be part of his never ending story.
Brittany Schwartz
September 11, 2002
To the Sinton family:
I am a freshman at Elon University. To commemorate the victims of 9-11 we chose to wear yellow wrist bands with a victim's name on it. I chose Mr. Sinton's because I read a newspaper article with the name of a fellow co-worker featured in the article. The company name caught my eye when picking a second wrist band to wear. I have one name circling each wrist that mean the world to me. ~From my heart to yours~
Thomas Bucci
July 17, 2002
Thomas Edison Sinton III, how could I forget that name at a "line-up" (Lehigh). I was first intimidated by Tom; when I wrote recited a limerick at a Xmas party, I took a cheap shot at Tom, for laughs. I'll never forget how hurt he looked in that instant after the punchline. That's my enduring memory of Tom, strong on the outside but vulnerable and sensitive. Sorry for the laugh at your expense, Tom.
Bootch
April 30, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL MAN..THOMAS E.SINTON 111 AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS LOVING FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS.GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK..MAY JESUS AND ST.THOMAS GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
Phil Hirschhorn
April 11, 2002
Poring through lists of the friends and friends once removed that we all lost on September 11 is a sad remindeer of how precious even the little moments are in our lives. Even though I looked closely at the lists, it was not until tonight that I heard that Tom was gone. In many ways, Tom was a protector for me when we were boys on the same bus in the same neighborhood. He stood up for me more than once on Anona Drive in Upper Saddle River. I see him carrying his instrument case to his house across the street. I see him diving off the high dive at our lake. I will always see him as one of the older boys, one of the good ones who would look after you. I haven't seen Tom since at least 1980, but I can still see him in my mind.
My sympathy to his family and friends and the loss we've suffered.
4/11/02
Chris Ilg
April 5, 2002
Tom was a part of our neighborhood gang of rambling, sun-tanned, athletic, grade school rabble-rousers. We were good kids, but its not like we never got into any trouble, ; ^) We swam and played water games at Anona Lake; we played tackle football and “running bases” on front lawns, school yards and parks. We rode bicycles all over Upper Saddle River, NJ and the surrounding area. Tom was a good athlete and you always wanted him on your team. Even as a kid, Tom was a class act. Nobody made fun of Tom or picked on him due to some strange habit or vagary like those that sometimes afflict other little kids. He was smart, strong and easy to like.
Tom was a couple years older than me. He was in the same class with my brother Bryan. As kids in the neighborhood we weren’t especially close, but as part of the same neighborhood our lives were at the same time inextricably connected, no matter how loosely. Consequently, I was stopped dead in my tracks when I heard that Tom was lost in the Trade Center tragedy. Somewhere deep inside me, a carefree, summertime-barefoot boy was struck by the deadly accurate and razor sharp blade of a malevolent and cowardly terrorists’ arrow. A tiny, little part of my childhood was forever sliced away.
I lost track of Tom when he went to Don Bosco High School and I attended the public school. The last time I saw Tom, I was probably 15 and he was around 17. It was in the summer and I was on a family vacation in Vermont. My parents had dropped me off at a local attraction and after spending a few hours there, I decided to hitchhike back to our small condo a few towns away. Well, guess who screeches to a halt in his family’s station wagon. Yep…good old Tom Sinton. We laughed and joked about meeting like that in the middle of the Vermont countryside. Tom drove me right to the doorstep of my family’s place. We hung out for a little while and then the young Tom had to get going. In retrospect, I am really glad it was Tom who picked me up when I casually stuck out my thumb. Because you never know who might pull over to pick up a 15 year old, out there in the boonies! And besides, it was just great to see him. Thanks Tom.
My sincerest and deepest condolences go out to all of Tom’s family. I am sure he was a wonderful person.
Susan Sinton
February 28, 2002
The proud Towers
Against an azure sky
That day in September
When so many would die.
Fallen Towers
Billows of smoke and flame
The world watched in horror
And gave evil a name.
Twisted steel
Skeletons of stone
Only gray dust remains
Beloved souls have flown.
Ground Zero A place to puase and pray
For all who lost their lives
That bright September day.
S.M. Sinton
In memory of Tom
Michael Ardizzone
February 7, 2002
Tom was one of only six or seven of us who went to Don Bosco from the Upper Saddle River grammar schools. My most vivid memory of Tom is that Mr. Dooley, our high school history teacher, used to call him "Suntan." My sincerest sympathies to Tom's family and friends.
Rosemarie Manganaro
January 31, 2002
I remember Tom as a little boy when his mom and I were Girl Scout Leaders together. My thoughts are with the family. RM
Kate Dudonis
January 8, 2002
Tom I will miss perusing the salad bar with you every day, and trying to figure out what all the wierd stuff is. I will never look at tofu the same way again. Before I thought is was gross, but after the loss of you, I will look at it fondly missing all our jokes about it. Take good care of your family, I cant begin to imagine the loss they feel without you. I miss you buddy.
Teresa Jahn
December 11, 2001
We are so sorry for your loss of Thomas. From his picture he does have an excellent smile and through your story I can imagine his laughter. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Bill Flatley
December 1, 2001
I was friends with Tom not only as a child in grade school but also at Don Bosco Preparatory High School in Ramsey, New Jersey. He and I were lucky enough to go to Girl Scout camp together when we were young with a bunch of Girl Scouts that were our age to a couple of years older. The girls were jealous of the way we were creative with customizing our tent flaps and copied every design we made. It was the most fun I had any summer as a child. Although I haven't seen Tom for more than 20 years I will never forget what a nice person he was and how often you saw him smiling.
john pizzarelli
November 27, 2001
i knew tom in high school.(don bosco in ramsey NJ) my first day there in the summer of '74 we were at band camp together. i'll never forget hearing tom play the trumpet that day and realizing i needed to practice. he was great! he was also a recipient of one of father savage's "noogies" in algebra class later that freshman year. i also realized my need to study after watching that. my heart goes out to tom's family. my prayers are with them.
Valerie Holliday
October 12, 2001
I remember Tom from our days in Class of '82, Lehigh Univ. Tom was one of my husband Chris's Pledge Brothers at Alpha Sigma Phi Fraternity, and so that's how I knew Tom. I can clearly picture him in my mind: a kind, fun person who was enjoying his college experience and always had a smile and a good word for others. We lost touch with Tom after graduation. It sounds like the last 20 years were good to him: I was glad to know that - he deserved a wonderful life.
My heart goes out to his wife, daughter and family: You are in my and my family's prayers - please know that we are thinking of you with love and sympathy. May God bless you and may you find comfort.
October 4, 2001
A Letter From Heaven:
My Dearest Family and Friends,
Something I'd like to say but first of all to let you know that I arrived okay. I'm writing this from Heaven, Where I dwell with God above. Where there's no more tears or sadness, there is just eternal love. Please do not be unhappy, just because I'm not in sight. Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon, and night. That day I had to leave you when my life on Earth was through. God picked me up and hugged me and said," I welcome you it's good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone, as for your dearest family and friends they'll be here later on. I need you here so badly as part of my big plan. There's so much that we have to do to help our mortal man." Then God gave me a list of things he wished for me to do, and foremost on that list of mine, is to watch and care for you everyday and week and year, and when your sad I'm standing there to wipe your tear. And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight. God and I are closet to you in the middle of the night. When you think of my life on Earth and all those loving years, because your only human they are bound to bring you tears. But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain, but remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain. I wish that I could tell you of all that God has planned, but if I were you wouldn't understand. But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is over, I am closer to you now than I ever was before. And to my very many friends, trust that God knows what is best. I'm still not far away from you, I'm just beyond the crest. There are many rocky roads ahead of you, and many hills to climb, but together we can do it taking on day at a time. When your walking down the street and you've got me on your mind, I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind. And when you feel the gentle breeze or the wind upon your face, that's me giving you a great big hug or just a soft embrace. And when it's time for you to go from that body to be free, remember you're not going, you are coming home to me. And I will always love you from that land way up above.
P.S. God sends his love
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October 4, 2001
A Letter From Heaven:
My Dearest Family and Friends,
Something I'd like to say but first of all to let you know that I arrived okay. I'm writing this from Heaven, Where I dwell with God above. Where there's no more tears or sadness, there is just eternal love. Please do not be unhappy, just because I'm not in sight. Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon, and night. That day I had to leave you when my life on Earth was through. God picked me up and hugged me and said," I welcome you it's good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone, as for your dearest family and friends they'll be here later on. I need you here so badly as part of my big plan. There's so much that we have to do to help our mortal man." Then God gave me a list of things he wished for me to do, and foremost on that list of mine, is to watch and care for you everyday and week and year, and when your sad I'm standing there to wipe your tear. ANd when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight. God and i are closet to you in the middle og the night. When you think of my life on Earth snd all those loving years, because your only human they are bound to bring you tears. But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain, but remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain. I wish that I could tell you of all that God has planned, but if I were you wouldn't understand. But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is over, I am closer to you now than I ever was before. And to my very many friends, trust that God knows what is best. I'm still not far away from you, I'm just beyond the crest. There are many rocky roads ahead of you, and many hills to climb, but together we can do it taking on day at a time. When your walking down the street and you've got me on your mind, I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind. And when you feel the gentle breeze or the wind upon your face, that's me giving you a great big hug or just a soft embrace. And when it's time for you to go from that body to be free, remember you're not going, you are coming home to me. And I will always love you from that land way up above.
P.S. God sends his lo
Heather Krall
September 29, 2001
I don't know you, but I felt the need to pray for a family and God led me to yours. My 32-year old husband died suddenly last year, so I understand just a tiny bit of the anguish you're going through. You will be in my prayers today and in the years to come.
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