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Louis Inghilterra Obituary
When Louis Steven Inghilterra's colleagues at Fiduciary Trust first met him, they were impressed, and a bit intimidated. "They said, `He seemed so buttoned-up!' " recalled Diane, his wife of five years. "His reports were so precise!"
But when they got to know him, they discovered another side — a man who had been playing guitar and bass with a rock band for 30 years, on stage and, more recently, with friends at his home, and who idolized Frank Zappa.
Mr. Inghilterra himself could not decide which of his personas to devote his heart to — the loose-and-wild rock musician or the 45-year-old snap-tight organized treasurer of Fiduciary. "He was torn," said Mrs. Inghilterra. "He'd made it — a kid from Brooklyn and Queens College, up there with boys from Yale and Harvard." His success made him proud and provided security, she said, but sometimes he talked of giving it up, of starting his own business.
Meanwhile, he collected guitars and records and took joy in 2-year-old Sam — who, Mrs. Inghilterra said, shows every sign, too, of being precisely organized and wild and rocking. "Sam would stand in front of the stage when Louis was playing and working his way around, watching every instrument," she said. "He liked playing the drums. But when he knew it was time for Daddy to come home, he would get out all his blocks and color-code them."
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GLEN WIGNEY
September 10, 2021
Remembering Louis today and tomorrow. I work and live in the Cayman Islands and Louis was a client of mine during his years at Bessemer. Great memories of long "business" dinners where Frank Zappa was talked about much more than banking issues. A class guy!.
Joanne Pignatelli-Oneill
September 12, 2014
I took the Q20x Express bus to Manhattan with Louis in Rosedale Queens for many years. Then he was in a Rock Band and had much longer hair. He would crack jokes to break the silence on the bus and I would struggle with my homework. After awhile he would come over and offer a solution. He was also a math genius. It's so ironic that he died young since his father did also. My heartfelt sympathies to his family.
Gina Malito-papandrea
September 11, 2014
My name is Gina Malito Papandrea. I had the honor to work with Mr.Inghilterra for about 2 years. He was my boss, I was very intimidated by him especially at first, but as time went by he would crack a joke or he would speak Of his son and wife, you could see the soft side and the gleam in his eyes as he spoke of them. The morning of Sept 11. I was in the office early. My one regret is not being able to remember if I saw him, or if we spoke. I think we did, but it's part of my memory I can't seem to get back. I live with this guilt for 13 years not being able to tell or give his family any information of louis the morning of. I wish I had a chance to get to know louis better and not be so intimated. He was taken way to soon. Louis, I hope you rest in peace and know that you are the first person I pray for and I think about every 9/11.
September 11, 2014
To you, Louie...may you rest in peace...ML
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NPM
March 26, 2013
I went to Holy Cross for two years with Louie, and he was a gem. I moved away and we lost touch. After all the years I looked him up to see what and how he was doing and was greatly saddened to read about his passing in the 9-11 attack. He had a great sense of humor, including the day he put the rubber dog poop on Mr. Larkin's desk. Mr. Larkin was NOT amused. I pray that his family is and does well.
william selby
September 18, 2011
The name of your loved one is featured in my video (A Visit to the WTC MEMORIAL). I thought you might want to take a look. It's a peaceful tribute to those who lost their lives that day. Thank you and God Bless...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKA1VZsU7Jw
September 17, 2011
joe sequenzia
September 16, 2009
Diane,
not sure if you still check this board.
i hope you and Sam are both doing well.
just wanted to drop a note telling you that you, Sam and Louis are still in our thoughts and prayers.
take good care.
with love and respect,
Joe
Joanne Pignatelli Oneill
September 11, 2009
My younger sister Mary went to school with Louis and I traveled the Q20x Express Bus in Rosedale with him for 8 years in the 1980's. He looked like a rocker back then with long curly hair. He was always a gentlemen and working for Bessimer Trust at the time. I would do my homework on the Bus to Manhattan and Louis would help me when I got stumped. I lost contact with him after I married and moved away. In 1998, Louis was quoted in the "Investors Business Daily", a highly respected achievement. I called him at Fiduciary Trust to congratulate him. From what I can remember he was happy and gushing about his wife and child.
Holly Dollinger
March 31, 2008
Dear Ms. Inghilterra:
My son, Jack is in Sam's class. He was telling us Sam is a really nice, funny kid. He told us that Sam is always ready to help someone else. Jack was telling us about how Sam talks about his dad. Jack wanted to see a picture of Sam's dad. We would glad to find this. Good bless you and Sam. Holly Dollinger
Doug Abraham
December 21, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
joe sequenzia
June 12, 2007
Daine,
Our love and prayers are still with you and Sam. Although having not seen Louis for a while, he left an indelible mark. His sense of humor and kindness are still with me. -I can still recall as yesterday sitting in your backyard playing an impromptu concert.
take care and God Bless.
wiht love and respect,
Joe
P Tabbernor
November 14, 2006
In remembrance....
Kristine
November 6, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
KLee
September 11, 2006
Dear Mrs. Inghilterra,
I am a blogger who took part in the 2,996 Project. This was a grassroots effort to have every victim on 9/11 remembered on this sad anniversary. I was assigned your husband. I was honored to write a tribute to him, and I hope I do his life justice. If you read my tribute, I hope that you feel that I have captured who Louis was, and that as long as there are people out there who remember him, he will never truly be gone from us. I wish you all the best.
Karen Kelso
September 11, 2006
Diane,
While it has been 5 years it still feels like yesterday. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you and Sam. I have been out of touch for so long I think becuase my heart just aches...Louis was such a lovely man, a family man, a funny man and I was so blessed to know him. You and Sam are always in my heart and in my prayers, today and everyday.
Love always,
Karen
madeline palladino-spenillo
September 10, 2005
another year but never forgotten- my sister was an elementary school friend of Louis... she passed away in 2002 but i know she signed this book before she died.
my thoughts are with you and your family
J M
September 11, 2004
Yes, another year, but the we never forget; it is as if it was only yesterday...
Louis, I stumbled across your page while reading "Portraits of Grief". I was immediately touched by the vivid, poignant memories your wife shared with the world.
To the Inghilterra family: My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be strong...
Frannie Minei
September 11, 2003
God Bless. Although I haven't seen him in over ten years, 23 yrs of my life were spent growing up next door to the family.
I pray for his family that each day gets a little easier. Only time can heal the wounds. Only time can ease the pain. Not one person with a heart will ever forget what happened and where they were.
God Bless America and each and every one of us.
Y G
September 11, 2003
We will never forget. May you rest in peace.
Amber
January 8, 2003
A New Year, another day. None of you will never be forgotten.
Rest in Peace
Lisa Cox
October 16, 2002
Diane,
I haven't been able to call because it hurts so much to have lost a good friend and colleague. I will always have you and Sam in my heart and prayers. I look at your pictures everyday and know you're going to be o.k. I love you.
An Eleventh Grader at Delaware Valley High School
September 12, 2002
Hello, I'm an eleveth grader at Delaware Valley High School. In honor of Septemeber 11th, our school made labels with the names of the innocent victims of 9/11 and I was given the name Louis Steven Inghilterra and I wore it with honor and dignity without even knowing anything about him. When I looked him up, I found out all about him, he sounds like a great man, husband, and father. Its a shame he is gone. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I shall never forget Louis Steven Inghilterra.
God bless you and stay strong!
Laura Inghilterra
September 12, 2002
My husband, Jerome Inghilterra, was a cousin of Louis. He has wonderful childhood memories of Louis. After Jerry's father passed away, the family drifted and they lost touch. I am so very sorry for the loss of Louis. May God bless you, your son.
Mrs. Laura Inghilterra
GINA MALITO
September 10, 2002
MY NAME IS GINA MALITO, LOUIS WAS MY BOSS AT FTCI.I WAS THERE ON 9/11. I CANT REMEMBER IF I SAW LOUIS OR NOT AND IT KILLS ME THAT I CAN'T REMEMBER. AROUND SIX O'CLOCK THE NEXT MORNING LOUIS'S NEIGHBOR HAD CALLED ME ASKING IF I SAW LOUIS AND I DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO SAY, I AM TRULY SORRY THAT I COULDN'T BE ANY HELP TO YOU. DIANA AND BABY SAM ARE FOREVER IN MY PRAYERS. LOUIS WAS A GREAT BOSS AND I WISH I HAD THE CHANCE TO GET TO KNOW HIM ON A MORE PERSONAL LEVEL,BUT I DO KNOW THAT HIS WIFE AND BABY SAM WAS HIS WORLD. THE GLOW IN HIS FACE WHENEVER HE MENTIONED THEM WAS SO BRIGHT, YOU COULDN'T HELP BUT SMILE AT THIS AMAZING MAN.I DON'T KNOW IF DIANA YOU WILL EVER COME ACROSS THIS,BUT I WANT YOU TO KNOW I HAVE WANTED TO CALL YOU AND SPEAK TO YOU FOR SO LONG, BUT I HAVE NEVER HAD THE COVERAGE TO, BECAUSE I LIVE WITH THE GUILT OF ME SURVIVING AND LOUIS PASSING ON. TOMORROW IS THE ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF 9/11, AND I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT EVEN THOUGH I MET YOU ONCE AND SPOKE TO YOU ON THE PHONE, LOUIS, YOU AND BABY SAM WILL FOREVER HOLD A BIG PIECE OF MY HEART. I LOVE YOU, GINA
Karen Coutts
September 10, 2002
Diane, I hope you will remember me from here in Ashtabula, the name then Karen Spellman.(Avon Blvd) I also wish you very fond memories of your life with Louis. I think of you often and also the many others who lost loved ones in this terrible tragedy. May God bless you and your son today and always.
With much love,
Karen
Stan Banos
September 8, 2002
Dear Diane-
You probably don't remember me, we met only briefly. I knew Louie from high school, a time and place both of us grew increasingly disenchanted with and never quite fit in (the classic tale). We were never close friends, but we both shared a rather twisted sense of humor that helped us both survive the place. He was a personable, funny guy, a breath of fresh air amidst the conformity of a private school.
In the nineties, we would always walk into eachother in seemingly one year intervals by complete serendipity, and always on Houston St. After registering the usual surprise at our repeated impromptu "get togethers," we would exchange world weary greetings and then be on our way, confident in our likelihood to repeat said ritual- a breath of fresh air in the anonymity of the big city.
The last time I saw Lou was in the late nineties; I was just about to move to San Francisco. This time he had a big shit eating grin on his face one couldn't help but notice a full block away. That's when he told me about you, and minutes later, you showed up and we were introduced. He was the happiest guy on Houston St., hell, in all of NYC for that matter, and so were you. Jeez, even I felt good for all concerned...Few people are that happy even for the shortest periods in life.
I thought I had "escaped" 9/11 relatively unscathed and didn't find out about Lou until recently. Hope this finds you and yours relatively well, and that if anything, this little anecdote brings a small tear of joy, or better yet a smile.
Sincerely, Stan.
Jasmin Gill
September 3, 2002
I stumbled across your name; I never knew you, but my heart breaks, thinking about that dreadful day, what you and thousands went through.
Nonetheless, none of you died in vain...
May you rest in peace, may your wife find continuing strength, and may your son be proud, for his dad was a hero.
God Bless You All
Cindy Penson Barker
June 11, 2002
Hi Diane,
I just penned a written letter to you, but I don't know if it will get to you. When I found this web site, I thought it would be a great way to somehow reach you and pay tribute to Louis at the same time.
We literally just found out about Louis. I had this horrible feeling that day that something had happened to him. My heart is breaking for you and Sam.
No words can describe that terrible day, and nobody will ever replace Louis in your heart, but please know that we're thinking about you. I cannot imagine how you must feel.
I never had the privilege of meeting Louis in person, but from what you told me, he had to be a wonderful and incredible guy. It's no surprise that he was a great father.
Well, you know how I am about writing notes. But this time, I almost wish that this note was about cleaning up dirty dishes, or some other thing that I used to bug you about (and yes, I do tell my kids that it is THEIR responsibility to get themselves out of bed in the morning)!! All kidding aside, McGill, you and Sam are in our prayers.
And as our tribute to Louis: Thank you, Louis, for making Diane so happy.
Fondly,
Cindy (Penson) Barker
Columbus, OH
College and long-time friend of Diane's
Michele Hogan
May 3, 2002
Diane,
I don't know if you read these but I wanted you and everyone who visits this site to know that my husband, Michael, (who worked for Louis and played the bagpipes at his memorial)has been forever touched by knowing Louis. He was a mentor to him on a professional as well as a personal level. We still talk about the what if's and will always remember the part that Louis played in our lives. I wish you the strength and love to raise Sam and want you to know that we are praying for you and think of you often.
Michele Hogan
Kathryn Reid
April 9, 2002
Louis was an extraordinary person. A person of incredible wit and warmth. We are honored to have known him. Diane, Sam and he are always in our thoughts. Not a day goes by that we do not think of them. We have many fond memories of Louis & Diane in attendence at a few special occasions --he will always be in attendence in our hearts - forever. We will miss him, but we will never forget him.
Love, Kathryn Reid & Byron Wilson
THERESA McDONNELL
April 5, 2002
IT'S HARD TO BELIEVE THAT IN A BLINK OF AN EYE....EVERYTHING CHANGES. ONE WEEK BEFORE LOUIS WAS GONE HE WAS SAYING FAREWELL WITH THE REST OF THE FAMILY TO OUR UNCLE. AT THE SERVICE, ALL THE COUSINS WERE REMEMBERING EARLIER TIMES WHEN WE WOULD GET TOGETHER FOR FAMILY GATHERINGS. GROWING UP WAS GREAT BECAUSE WE WERE ALL AROUND THE SAME AGE. ALTHOUGH DISTANCE AND LIFE CIRCUMSTANCES MADE OUR LIVES AS ADULTS MORE COMPLICATED THE COMMON THREAD OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES ALWAYS BROUGHT LAUGHTER. IT WAS THAT DAY THAT LOUIS TOLD ME HE WAS WORKING DOWNTOWN IN THE WORLD TRADE CENTER. HE GAVE ME HIS TELEPHONE NUMBER TO CALL. LITTLE DID I KNOW THAT IN ONLY A FEW WEEKS HE WOULD BE GONE FOREVER. ON 9/11 I WAS MAKING A TELEPHONE CALL TO A BOAT CAPTAIN AT NORTH COVE YACHT HARBOR WHICH IS ONLY A BLOCK AWAY FROM THE TRADE CENTER - THAT WAS WHEN THE FIRST PLANE HIT. THE CAPTAIN TOLD ME TO TURN ON THE TV IN MY DISBELIEF. WHEN THE SECOND PLANE HIT, I IMMEDIATELY THOUGHT OF LOUIS. I CALLED HIS OFFICE NUMBER, THE MESSAGE CAME ON AND THAT WS THE LAST TIME I HEARD HIS VOICE.
WORDS COULD NEVER EXPRESS MY SORROW FOR DIANE AND LOUIS SAME...LOUIS' MOM, AUNT TERRY AND HIS SISTER DONNA.
EVERY NIGHT WHEN I GO HOME TO JERSEY, I LOOK BACK AT THE TWO SHINING BEAMS WERE THE TOWERS STOOD AND THINK OF LOUIS AND THE MANY OTHERS WHO ARE GONE. I IMAGINE THAT HOLDING ON TO THOSE BEAMS OF LIGHT ARE THE MANY INDIVIDUALS NO LONGER WITH US IN BODY BUT WILL ALWAYS BE WITH US IN SPIRIT.
I KEEP LOUIS' PICTURE ON MY DESK, IN MY HOME AND ALWAYS IN MY HEART. I KNOW HE WILL ALWAYS BE WATCHING OVER THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE DIANE AND THE TWINKLE IN HIS EYE, LOUIS SAME.
LOVE, COUSIN THERESA
Johanna Pannunzio
April 4, 2002
Subj: (no subject)
Date: 4/3/02 9:08:41 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Lucky 062
To: Lucky 062
My memories of my Dear Cousin Louis are all wonderful. He was a Fun, loving,warm and giving person. Always trying to get the family together for a family get-together's. He loved freely,God bless him.
When that offal day came Sept. 11 that Louis was taken from us, so many thoughts came to my mind,Why? not again,My dear Aunt Terry & Cousin Donna have losted their PAL! every moment of every day I think about him. I only wish we could have spent more time together. Shared more Hugs more Laughs.BUT TRULY NOT THESE DAYS,OF TEARS FOR HIS LOSS.
God bless your beautiful wife, you were true soul mates. Louis Sam, my heart is broken that your didn't get to grow up with your dad by your side.He was TRULY A GREAT GUY!
Just a loving thought ----
SOMEONE NEVER DIES, AS LONG AS SOMEONE REMEMBERS THEM.
LOUIS SAM WILL LIVE FOREVER! AMEN GOD BLESS!
Lovingly Cousin Johanna
Donna Palladino
April 1, 2002
All my memories of Louis are sweet and funny ones. When I saw him at our eighth grade reunion, his endearing ways and sense of humor had not waned. Since Sept. 11th, not a day has gone by that I have not thought of him. My condolences go out to his family.
February 4, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL YOUNG MAN LOUIS INGHILTERRA AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS.GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS.GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01.AMEN
Teresa Jahn
December 28, 2001
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Jane Abitanta
October 29, 2001
A wonderful friend, a loving father, husband, son and brother. Louis was never happier in all the years I have known him--just completing the renovation of his home to make it perfect for his family. Sam was the light in his eye and Diane the love of his life.
He would have hated this--sorry to get sappy Louis. We all miss you.
Jane Abitanta and Family
Kathryn Cramer
October 20, 2001
Death & Preschool
September 26th, 2001
A memo circulated today at Playcare in Chappaqua, my son Peter’s preschool, saying that one of the fathers -- Louis Sam Inghilterra -- is still missing. I had thought, because no one had said anything, that death had passed over my preschool acquaintances, but apparently not.
I'm not sure I would recognize the missing husband if I saw him, but I'm certain I would recognize the wife and child (named Sam; about 2 1/2). I was a mother volunteer in the little boy’s class last year, in December. I'm trying to remember which kid he is.
But I remember Marian, the teacher, trying to get him to do his project, saying in her Scots accent, "Saaam, Saaam, come here and do your project, Saaam." It was snowing lightly, and the kids were supposed to make snowmen. I remember cutting out so many white construction paper circles with bad scissors that my hand was sore. Each snowman needed three circles plus a black paper hat and boots. The kids were supposed to glue the circles on blue paper and then add the hat and boots. Then they were supposed to draw the arms, the buttons down the front, and the faces. The faces were mostly beyond them. I patiently encouraged them in the direction of drawing the faces, buttons and arms, but Marian was in a hurry because we had other things to do. As I recall, Sam didn’t finish and so Marian did it for him and then told the mother, who was rightly skeptical, that Sam had done the work. Or maybe that was one of the other kids in that class. The faces have not come to me as yet.
I emailed the President of the Chappaqua Preschool Parents Association about this death. She replied: "Sadly, I know from my son's pre-school (the Rosenthal Y) that other preschoolers are affected by the NYC tragedy. Two dads from the Y are missing and have had memorial services already (one of the little girls is in my son’s class)."
The Rosenthal YMWHA preschool, one of several Jewish preschools nearby, draws heavily from my neighborhood. We live about four long blocks away.
I had not, at this point, expected this kind of news from the preschool. I had more expected to find the name of someone I went to college with on the WTC long list, whenever it is published.
Kathryn Cramer
Pleasantville, New York
Kim, Madison and Cory Ciklin
October 8, 2001
Although you certainly didn't ask for it Louis, you've become a hero. You slipped from the bonds of this Earthly existence for one reason: you were an American. While your family will have some very difficult days ahead, they will always take profound pride from knowing that "Dad" was a war hero--and a hero in the finest sense. A regular American going about his business and doing his part who was victimized because the enemy calculated the start of its bombing campaign at the epicenter of the American economy: the World Trade Center in New York City. Your death is not in vain, however. Our country is stronger than ever before. Love abounds in our communities. People are now looking after one another with a greater degree of enthusiasm. The American family has come together in a fashion not seen since our last world war. True, you didn't ask for this assignment and God knows, your family would have given anything and everything to avoid your personal participation. But that's heroism. That's the price of living in the Greatest Country in the World. You gave your life for our enduring freedom. You my friend, are an American patriot. What a tribute!
Jennifer Ford
October 5, 2001
We will always remember you. Your death shall forever be a thorn in the hearts of Americans.
My Greatest Sympathy
Jennifer
susan schneider
October 2, 2001
Louis, we won't forget you.
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