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Martin DeMeo Obituary
The bumblebee caught her eye.
It was Halloween, 1982, and Martin DeMeo, dressed as a bee, was buzzing around a friend's Halloween party until he saw Joan, the future Mrs. DeMeo, who, you could say, was stung at first sight.
She had dressed as "Joan," she said, because she had come straight from work. Nonetheless, her outfit was a success. And she thought Mr. DeMeo, who friends called Marty, was "pretty funny."
She learned that the jovial bumblebee was in love with nature, and he introduced her to the joys of camping and hiking and long vacations next to the sea.
After his wife, his two children, Kristen, 16, and Nicholas, 14, and the great outdoors, what Mr. DeMeo, who was 47 and a New York City firefighter, liked most was baseball.
"He would have been very happy right now," Mrs. DeMeo said Saturday, referring to the Yankees' successful fight to get into the World Series. "I'm really hoping they do it for us this year. It would have meant a lot to Marty, and we need it really bad."
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Thomas Rourke
September 11, 2024
Cindy Roe
September 7, 2021
Remembering Martin on the 20th anniversary of 9/11...
Janice Nichols
September 11, 2017
I chose your name for a bracelet I wear every 9/11. My Dad was a firefighter in Dallas. I pray for your family to this day. I know you are terribly missed
Linda Seay
September 11, 2015
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Linda Seay
September 11, 2015
Linda Seay
September 11, 2015
Thinking of you today and wearing your cap!
amy andresakes - finley
July 21, 2014
It didn't come as a surprise to me that Marty lost his life saving others. Marty made an everlasting impression on me for his selfless kindness and support he gave me during a very difficult time in my life as a very young girl. Marty had been dating my older sister for 8 years or so and the support he gave me made an everlasting impression on me. Marty was a very special person and will never be forgotten.
June
September 11, 2012
I still have dogtags Martin with your name that have hung on my desk remembering your bravery and the pain your family has endured for the past 11 years. Wishing you all peace and comfort... <3
September 11, 2012
Did not get to know you well before that awful day but think of you often. RIP my fellow firefighter.
Barb StarkiebPaladino
September 11, 2012
So glad to have known you in the most impressionable time of my life, you were always ther to lend a hand or just an ear! I know you are an Angel Martin. RIP<3
Linda Seay
September 10, 2012
I have a cap that has FDNY on the front and "In memory of FF Demeo" on the back. Even though I did not know him, I wear this cap and think of him, especially in September
Nicole Betulia
August 24, 2012
Uncle Martin,
You were the hero I want to be. I am following in your sons footsteps of becoming an officer, Nick has helped me so much! You would be so proud o him he is an amazing officer, we went to see grandma demeos grave today I am glad you are together, the days never get easier without you i miss you so much uncle marty. Jimmy is Chief of the firehouse now with the Juniors I know your proud! He just got a tattoo in your memory it is beautiful! I love you so much! RIP <3
Bentley Smith
September 29, 2011
I will always remember my mom telling me how we visited New York months before the attack when I was little to visit my family. I'm so very sorry for your loss and my prayers will remain with your family. Me and my school let balloons go outside last September, and also were planting Iris's outside today to show honor. RIP Martin DeMeo.
Kim Stuart
September 22, 2011
We will always remember Marty and we are honored to have met him, however briefly, and send our thoughts to his family. Bill & Kim Stuart
Nic Hilgendorf
September 11, 2011
I had the honor of climbing 110 stories in remembrance of Martin today. Martin and his 342 brother's sacrifice will never be forgotten. I'm sure he touched many people throughout his life and he has now touched one more.
May God bless you and your family.
Diana Buscaglia
September 11, 2011
September 11, 2011
Dear Marty,
It has been many years since we carpooled together to St. Vincent's Hospital Paramedic classes. I think about you often. May God keep you.
Nicole Betulia
September 11, 2011
Dear Uncle Martin. I love you with all my heart. I miss you..... Rest in peace my hero. ?
June Erickson
September 11, 2011
I still have a tag with your name that I got after 9-11. Thinking of you and your family today. When I go to the memorial site, I will look for your name.... I think the waterfalls are very appropriate to represent all the tears that have been shed for you and the other innocent victims of this cowardly act. You were one of the heros that day giving your life to save others. We will remember, rest in peace Martin!
Cynthia Truffa
September 10, 2011
I was honored to walk in memory of fallen hero Martin DeMeo at 911 Remembrance events in Las Vegas today. I will never forget his sacrifice. My continued prayers to his family on this 10th anniversary of their loss. May God bless and watch over you always.
Peggy Propst
September 9, 2011
On the 10th anniversary of the celebration of life for Martin DeMoe I wear my memorial bracelet with his name proudly. He will always be remembered as well as all other whose lives were lost. God bless his family on this anniversary
June Robinson
September 10, 2010
I have a memorial dog tag with Martin Demeo's name. I will be remembering this hero tomorrow.....I will never forget! God bless him and his family.
Doug Abraham
May 6, 2009
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.
Kyle James
February 24, 2009
About a year ago I helped teach a basic firefighter class. I did a lecture on the brotherhood. I instructed the students to pick one of the 343 firefighters lost at 9-11 and make them one of their family. Research them and know them. I also did this. I pick Martin Demeo. I am very much into HazMat and I saw that he was on HM1. To this day I carry a picture of him in my wallet and I see his face everyday. Martin Demeo, in my heart is a member of my family. He is my Brother.
Jenna DeMeo
February 6, 2009
Its been more than 7 years and I still miss you like crazy.....I love you sooo much and I can't wait for the day when I can finally hug you again...I love you Uncle Marty
margaret lomio
September 10, 2008
Hi, you may have been my uncle or cousi
I will see you in heaven my mom is gloria de meo I am margaret, love to hug you in heaven You will help God now so till we meet love ya
Kayla Stanley
December 19, 2007
Im am a 10th grader at Spruce Creek High School, in Port Orange FL. I did a research project on Martin DeMeo and want to express my sympathy to his family.
Tonya Tillman
December 30, 2006
My heart goes out to you and your family. My prayers are with you!!!
Kristine
November 2, 2006
As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
September 22, 2006
In memory....
Evelyn B
September 18, 2006
Michael, Thank you for your courage and bravery. To the surviving family and friends, you are always in my prayers. May God Bless you all!
Tania Nabulsi
September 6, 2006
Hey! im doing a project on you...im decorateing a bag all about you and were gona pay our respects...you have a cool name...and i like the bee idea, aparently it gets the ladys
Stephen Rosalia
September 11, 2005
Although we failed to stay in contact after working together for a few years back in the 80's, reading about the Halloween party, the bee costume and that most powerful sting was just the latest in a long series of bittersweet memories. I was at that party you see, and it seems like yesterday. Despite the years that had gotten between many of us, you need to know that both pre and post 9/11 any gathering of the old crew is filled with conversations about your great sense of humor, the endless practical jokes, the general positive impact you had on us and of course the infamous "Demeo" stories. The world is without a doubt a less fun and less enjoyable place without you. You are most certainly missed!
James Johnson
September 11, 2005
God Bless You...
Susan
May 30, 2005
Sitting here on Memorial Day 2005 to let you and your family you not forgotten. May the Lord be with you and the family always. A high school buddy!
Marie Costanza
November 16, 2002
Every day I pass that little ballfield that was dedicated to Marty DeMeo. To me it stands as a living tribute to every fireman we lost. We should gather there every September 11th in tribute. I know I'll be there.
Binas Kilafofski
September 14, 2002
To Joan & children
I never got the pleasure in meeting Martin, But my heart definetly goes out to all of you. I have known joan for over 20yrs. She is a sweetheart. Joan I Love You and miss seeing you at your work place. May god be with you and your family.. Martin look after my son up there. From what I have heard about him ( Martin ) I know my son is in good hands.
Love you all
Martin Poole
September 12, 2002
I wanted Martin's family to know that I was given his name to read at a Requiem Mass last night. We lifted all the departed souls of September 11 up to God, with everybody reading names. The church was filled to the rafters and we will never forget the incredible sacrifices of that dreadful day. Sincerely,
Florence Tomczak
September 12, 2002
Marty,
Its been a year and my heart still aches. I know you are in heaven watching over us. I always admired the way you enjoyed life and lived it to the fullest, your compassion and caring for others, love for your family and your sense of humor. You have taught me a lot about living. I always knew you were special I didn't need 9-11 to realize that. You will always have a special place in my heart. How lucky I am to have you as a brother.You are a hero- my hero. I know we will meet again...till then. Louis and Aaron ask about you often. I miss you.
Love your sister
Flo
Jim Landau
September 11, 2002
To Jay and family,
It's been a long time, but when I saw Marty's face I knew he was your brother. My thoughts are with you.
Ashley De Meo
September 11, 2002
Marty was my uncle. I want him to know that I miss him very much and that I know that he is in Heaven looking down upon me. I love you Uncle Marty.
Love,
Ashley
Kathy Roe-Silva
June 1, 2002
My thoughts and prayers go out to Marty's family. They don't know me, but I had the wonderful opportunity to have gone to Junior High and High School in Port Washington with Marty. I will never forget his kindness and humor. He would have given the shirt off his back if you needed it.He was always joking around and making you see the bright side of life. Even though I haven't spoken or seen him since graduation from High School, I remember those days as if it were yesterday. I cried when I heard the news on 9/11. I now know though, that after graduation, his brief time on earth was spent doing what he did best. Giving of himself for others.That was Marty's way. I was happy to hear he found someone special to share his life and that he has been able to continue his through his children. Marty, I miss you and I pray often for you and your family. Marty's caption for his picture in my 1969 Weber Junior High School yearbook says "hopes to live on cloud nine"...Marty touched the lives of so many people who will always remember him like I do. Marty....you are now on your cloud nine. Watch over us. We will always remember you and how you got there.
Till we meet again. Goodbye dear friend.
Michael Iezzi
May 2, 2002
Father we entrust our brother Martin to your mercy. You loved him greatly in this life: now that he is freed from all its cares, give him happiness and peace forever. Welcome him now into paradise where there will be no more sorrow, no more weeping or pain, but only peace and joy with Jesus your Son, and the Holy Spirit forever and ever.
Angie Campbell
April 23, 2002
**********GOD BLESS YOU**********
Jacque Sims
March 23, 2002
I just recieved my 911 Tribute Bracelet and I have FF Martin N. DeMeo and I'm proud to wear it in his honor and represent his memoy as a fellow American! I wish to hear from his family and to one day meet
them. God Bless his family and his memory!In God we must all trust!
Tracie Werner
March 22, 2002
I have known Marty's daughter Kristen since she was a little girl. I can only hope and prayer that I can raise a daughter as sweet and special as Kristen. My heart goes out to Joan, Kristen, and Nicholas and the entire Demeo family. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of Marty and all of those who left us on September 11th.I feel their presence with me each and every day.I know they are in a better place. Until we meet agin....God bless.
Robin Stineman
March 12, 2002
Although I had no family connection to 9/11 - having the bracelet brings me a little bit closer to the pain. I salute the people that gave their lives to serve and help others in their time of need. May these people be remembered in our thoughts and prayers always. God bless their co-workers and families.
Priscilla Miller
March 3, 2002
I now wear a braclet with Marty's name engraved on it. Everytime I look at it, I am reminded of the ultimate price that he paid and how very much his family must miss him. My thoughts and prayers are with you. May you find some small comfort, knowing that others share your grief and pray for you and your children.
Judy
February 24, 2002
To the DeMeo Family,
I never had a chance to meet you, Martin, but then again there were many heroes who perished on September 11, I never had the pleasure to meet. That is truly my loss.
You were a hero on earth and because I truly believe all heroes go to Heaven when their duties have been fullfilled, you are now an Angel living with God.
You have joined God's firefighting family and I suspect you were chosen to band together with all the other Angels to help defeat this FIRE OF EVIL that exists.
God Bless you, Martin and your family, friends, and other loved ones you left behind.
Rest In Peace and find comfort knowing you and yours will remain in my thoughts and prayers, forever!
The Dean Family
February 18, 2002
Our family received four 9-11 name tags at Christmas, one of them being Martin DeMeo's along with the Legacy article about him. These name tags hung on our Christmas tree this year, and they now hang on the lamp next to our computer where we see them every day. I want the DeMeo family to know that on each anniversary of 9-11 we will light a special candle in prayerful memory of your beloved Martin. His bravery and sacrifice will always be remembered...May God bless the DeMeo Family, and all of you who knew and loved Martin!
Kim & Bill Stuart
February 10, 2002
Our prayers to the DeMeo family. Bill had the honor of meeting Marty at a hazmat class here in Pittsburgh several years ago, and was kind enough to invite Marty and several of his collegues to our favorite hangout for some fellowship and football. What a great guy. I too wear his name on a memorial bracelet, and we are glad to have met Marty. K&B
Thomas Donohue
January 20, 2002
The soul of our country is epitomized by the sacrifice of this firefighter. We will survive because we are now stronger, our resolve is steadfast, and our faith in God is absolute. Rest in peace with god.
Fred Feiber
January 16, 2002
I am wearing a Mercy Band with Martins name.
I will add the names of Joan and the children Kristen and Nicholas
to my daily prayer list.
May you know that you are always covered in prayer.
Fred Feiber
January 10, 2002
DEAR LORD BLESS MARTIN DEMEO AND MAY
HE REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS
ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS BEAUTIFUL SMILING FACE..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY
AND FRIENDS..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND
NEW YORK AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET
9/11/01..GOD BLESS EVERY FIREMAN.
AMEN.
Teresa Jahn
January 5, 2002
What sparkling eyes and warm smile Marty has in the picture you have shared with us. Such eyes and smile along with his devotion as a firefighter can only be a reflection of a loving heart. We thank Martin for dedicating his life to help save, protect and care for others as a firefighter. May his courage, life and love live on in those who love him and in those who have been touched by his life. May you always feel the warmth of his love radiate into your hearts. May the sorrow you feel be lightened by the warm memories of times shared with Marty. We are extremely sorry for our nations great loss of Marty. Our hearts cry deeply with you in America's loss of a hero.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Frank Virga
December 28, 2001
Marty was my best friend.It's hard to accept that we cannot talk with him, and be with him anylonger. We will look after those left behind, until we meet again my friend.
Kristen Bernazzani
December 21, 2001
I too, wear and honor a bracelet that bears his name and I will forever be reminded of his bravery and service to humanity. He is truly a Hero. God bless him and his family.
Laurie Whitman
December 14, 2001
My prayers are with the family. As I wear the bracelet bearing Martin's name every day, I will continue to pray for healing for his family.
Marcos Rodriguez
November 21, 2001
Our hart and prayers go out to you and your family. Because of you and our other fallen brothers and sisters I am proud to be an American,Gods speed.
leslie miller
October 30, 2001
We have learned that there are heroes, and we are better people for it. We will never forget you. Our prayers are with you forever.
Rachael Muratore
October 6, 2001
The whole world, myself included, honors you and all the firemen who lost your lives saving the men and women at the World Trade Center.
Memory Eternal!
Clara Evans
October 5, 2001
What can I say? People in New York are living because of his bravery. My heart goes out to the family, friends, and the other fire fighters. I pray for strength for all of us.
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