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Joseph Ianelli Obituary
Joseph Ianelli's personal and professional lives were taking off. The 28- year-old Hoboken resident and his fiancée, Monica Palatucci- Lebowitz, had decided they would marry next September. Three months ago, Mr. Ianelli, an accountant formerly with an architectural recruiting company, went to work for a financial services conglomerate, Marsh & McLennan, on the 98th floor of 1 World Trade Center, the complex's north tower.
Normally, Mr. Ianelli arrived at work at 9 a.m., said his sister, Jennifer Thompson, but because he was preparing for a meeting on Sept. 11, he got there earlier. The last communication from him of which his family is aware is an e-mail message he sent to a friend at 8:35, 13 minutes before one of the hijacked planes smashed into the north tower.
Mr. Ianelli, the son of Joseph and Barbara Ianelli of Staten Island, was 6 feet 2 inches and about 200 pounds and an avid sports enthusiast, playing as well as watching baseball and basketball. His family, which also included two grandparents, Anthony and Theresa Capozzi, "was very important to him," Ms. Thompson said. Her 7-month- old son gave Mr. Ianelli plenty of opportunity to get a taste of life as a future father. "When he was here, he always played with him," she said.
Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on October 2, 2001.
JOSEPH IANELLI, 28, of Hoboken, N.J., and his fiancee, Monica Palatucci, were planning a Sept. 1, 2002, wedding. Palatucci said he was "an angel" sent for her. "I really believe that was true," she said. Ianelli was an accountant at Marsh & McLennan Cos. Inc. The day of the attacks, Ianelli had gone in to work early to get ready for a meeting. "He was one of those kids that had to have everything just so, so he went early to prepare," said his mother, Barbara Ianelli. "A big part of me is missing."
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I came across this photo as I showed pictures to help talk about 9.11 with my children
Lisa Gallo
September 11, 2017
I think of Joe every year on 9.11 and listen as his name is read. I worked with Joe and Monica at CFA before Joe changed jobs. He was a kind man and it was wonderful watching his relationship with Monica grow. I remember Monica waiting by the phone on 9.11 and us all in disbelief. My thoughts are with those close to Joe.
Kristen Ianelli
July 31, 2013
Love and miss you cousin Xoxo
Carol A
July 29, 2013
On 9/11, I was working in the emergency department at Mt. Sinai Hospital in NYC. Being 100 blocks away from the WTC gave us time to prepare and wait for survivors to come for medical treatment. Those survivors never came.
As the days passed, one of the hundreds of signs that people posted looking for their friends and loved ones caught my eye. It was Joseph Anthony Ianelli. His birthday was right before mine and he looked like a sweet guy that I would probably have been friendly with. Each time I passed the signs with his face on them, I wondered if he had been found. I wondered what his story was. I saw his poster in Grand Central Station and in various places throughout the city. I always remembered his name. And that he and I were both born in July of 1973. He would have turned 40 this year, as I have.
This past weekend, I visited the 9/11 memorial with my husband. I looked up Joseph Anthony Ianelli and saw that same face I remember seeing for the first time almost 12 years ago. I was fortunate to not lose anyone close to me on that awful day. But without even knowing him, Joseph became the face I have and will always associate with 9/11. I pray for him and his family, his fiancé and for all of the people who really knew him.
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Benay Hershkowitz
September 11, 2012
Another year has gone by, But we will never forget. Port St Lucie Fl. just unveiled there memorial of the piece of steel from the World Trade Center right in front of the Civic Center. This is a piece of art with the piece of steel on it along with a waterfall and all the names of the people we all lost. I am proud to have this in my home town. Joseph we love you and we know you are watching over us."WE WILL NEVER FORGET" GOD BLESS AMERICA"
Kim Marie Bento
September 11, 2012
Sending hugs and kisses to my family on this horrible day.... RIP JOE....
Ira Weiss
September 10, 2012
You will never be forgotten Joseph...
Kathy De Los Santos
September 11, 2011
We are praying for Joseph and keeping your family in our thoughts.
Lisa Maravolo- Krasnopolski
September 10, 2011
Joseph,
Even though I only knew you a short time back many years ago in grammar school, I was hurt to hear that you were in those towers. I remember you to be a good kid, funny and sweet. God bless you and your family. Rest in peace.
Kathy De Los Santos
September 11, 2010
I still have Joseph's name written on a cardboard American flag that we picked from the pile written by our parish school. I keep it taped to my desk in remembrance of a life lost that terrible September day. May you find comfort in knowing that his memory is honored not only by those who knew and loved him, but also by those of us who didn't.
Monica Ianelli
September 11, 2010
Hey Sweetie..Surprisingly enough, we are more than sorrow. We are breath and beating heart, we are spirit resilient and posibilities simply unexplored. We are so missed.
Valerio Family
September 11, 2010
Our thoughts and prayers are with Barbara, Joe, Jennifer, Mike and the 3 boys today and every day. May we never forget. He was great kid and of course a wonderful paperboy..
benay hershkowitz
September 11, 2010
howie and i are celebrating the life of joseph and remembering the wonderful man he was. a devoted son, brother,grandson and uncle. we miss you very much. god bless america, fly thoses flags high
September 10, 2010
MAY GOD BLESS YOUR SOUL!!!
Jess Fried
September 10, 2010
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Joey will be missed forever....his memory lives on...
DONNA GARCIA
September 10, 2010
NEVER FORGET!!!!!!!!!!!
Debbie McVicar
September 10, 2010
This day will never ever be forgotten. My thoughts and prayers to the entire Ianelli family....
your nephews who miss you and love you xoxo
jennifer thompson
September 10, 2010
brother we miss you so much, i can't believe 9 years have passed already since you've been with us, since we've heard your voice, since we've seen your smile. i do still see your smile in corey and that makes me smile, i hope you're watching my boys grow up, they need you with them, we all do, i know you're with us and watching down from heaven and shaking your head at justin! stay with us always we love you and miss you like crazy xoxo
Maxine Gross
September 10, 2010
I will not forget! Praying for your family today, you are always on my heart this time each year. God bless you. Maxine Gross
Kim Marie Bento
July 6, 2010
Although we did not grow up close as cousins should have the entire family felt the pain losing such a young wonderful man to a horrible tragedy. God Bless and know how you are missed.
corey, ryan and justin we miss you uncle joe and love you so much xoxo
jennifer thompson
July 6, 2010
happy 37th birthday in heaven brother. not a day goes by that you are not on my mind, we talk about you all the time to the boys and you know i talk to you too i hope you can hear me. i know you were there with corey when he was up and bat and needed you most.we miss you so much. i hope you're looking down on all my boys and all of us and seeing them grow up to be just like you. love you so much <3
Cindie Thompson
April 19, 2010
Dear Joseph - I met you only once at Jennifer and Mikey's wedding and saw you were a treasure to your family I only wish I could find and return to them. I know you are Jennifer's only sibling and while we can never take your place here or in her heart, as Mikey's sisters and brothers, we are here for her and Mikey if they ever need us. Our nephews, Corey, Justin and Ryan are just beautiful boys and think it's so wonderful they all share your name. You are their guardian angel, please always watch over them. May you be at peace.
Mikey's sister Cindie
jennifer thompson
December 12, 2009
hi brother, hope you see what an amazing gift ryan is. he truly is such a good little boy and the boys just love him so much. You would've loved to see him and hold him and play with him. Justin's starting to get into sports now and its not fair that you're not here to help him out although he seems like a natural like you! miss you and love you so much. xox
jennifer thompson
July 7, 2009
happy 36th birthday in heaven brother. we miss you like crazy. i'm sure you know that we're having another boy. corey made the same reaction when he found out that you did when you found out he was going to be a boy he went "YES!" i love you and miss you. xoxox
Doug Abraham
July 6, 2009
Happy Birthday!!!
we love you uncle joe! xoxo
jennifer thompson
September 11, 2008
Hi Brother, I can't believe its been 7 years since I heard your voice. It's still the same pain as 7 years ago, it just never stops hurting. It's just so unfair how you are not here with us. You would be so proud of my boys. Well you wouldn't be happy that corey is a yankee fan but you were too at his age so he has time to change! He's great at math just like you and constantly reminds us of you thats how much he's like you which makes me happy. And Justin is a character and a half and would have always had you laughing like he does us, he's just hysterical! Mike misses you alot also. We love you so much brother. I hope you're with us in spirit seeing everything. xoxo
Safely Home
Michael Iezzi
July 8, 2008
Joe,
Happy Belated birthday in Heaven.
jennifer thompson
July 7, 2008
Happy 35th Birthday in heaven brother. It's so unfair that you're not here to celebrate it instead of us having to be heartbroken on this day. I love you and miss you
Doug Abraham
July 6, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
Jennifer Thompson
September 11, 2007
Miss you so much brother. I can't believe 6 whole years have gone by already. Six years with not hearing your voice, Six years without a hug from you, Six painful years, it's just not fair. So much has happened in that 6 years that you were not here to see. I know you are watching down but you not being here to see it is so painful. Corey just started 1st grade and is looking and behaving more and more like you. Justin is in pre-k and you would get such a kick out of him. Corey is still always asking if he'll be as tall as Uncle Joe and if Uncle Joe liked this or that or if Uncle Joe did it like this or that. It just pains me so for you not to be here yourself to show him and teach him. I love you so much brother and it doesn't get easier. Until we meet again. xoxox
Maxine Gross
September 11, 2007
I am remembering Joseph today. I read his name the day after in San Diego. I have not forgotten! I am praying for Joseph's parents Barbara and Joseph today and for Monica. I have read about what a wonderful young man Joseph was. God Bless you! Maxine Gross (now in SC)
Cecile brown
September 11, 2007
You seemed to be such a great guy!!! I send you and your family all my thoughts and love...
Kathy De Los Santos
September 11, 2007
Your family is in my prayers on this 9/11. Our parish in Pennsylvania wrote the name of each victim on a cardboard American flag after 9/11. I selected Joseph's name and have it hanging on my desk since then. I keep it to remember all things lost on that terrible day and to pay tribute to a young man who had an entire life left to live. We will never forget.
Michael Iezzi
July 9, 2007
Joseph,
Happy Birthday in Heaven. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Doug Abraham
July 6, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
Louis Ianelli
March 10, 2007
I was very surprised to see that someone with my last name had been in the twin towers. I found out by chance when I googled my name and came up with your tribute page. I am very sorry for your loss. From what I have read, your son sounds like he was a wonderful person.
Sincerely,
Jennifer Thompson
January 21, 2007
hey brother, just having a pretty crappy day and wanted to talk to you. I'm sure you see all that is and has been going on with all of us. I hope you're with us because we need you. There have been so many time over the past few months that have been really tough and I just needed you here to hug me and let me know you're with me and helping me get through it. I hope our baby is in heaven with you. Have you been watching Corey play football and now basketball, you would be proud! You would have loved to come to his games and cheer him on. He talks about you constantly and always asks if you did certain things when you were young or had certain toys like he does when you were young and if he's going to be as tall as you, it breaks my heart that he can't ask you these questions. I'm sure you see what a terror Justin is, he's lucky he's so damn cute! Boy do we have our hands full with him, he's way too smart for his own good! Corey is going to be 6 in a few weeks, I can't believe he was only 7 months old when you left us, its just so unfair. I miss you so much brother, it never gets easier. Thank god for our boys or there would be plenty of days lately I wouldn't be able to bear. I love you.
P Tabbernor
November 13, 2006
In remembrance....
Kristine
October 27, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Kathy De Los Santos
September 13, 2006
Dear Ianelli Family, I did not know Joseph but received his name on an American flag in church shortly after 9/11/01. Our parish created one for each victim and Joseph has been in our family's prayers since that day. I hope that you find comfort from all of us who keep you in our prayers.
Adrianna Ortiz
September 11, 2006
First I wanted to say that I am truly sorry for your loss. I personally did not know Joseph. However, like previous entries I have read up on him. His exit from this Earth is a true loss for the world as a whole and the universe to you and your family I'm sure.
I check this page often and have felt very privileged to be able to follow your messages to Joseph. I can see that it isn’t getting any easier, but please keep looking forward.
You see I have a "Mercy BAND" with his name on it. BAND is an acronym for “bearing another’s name daily”. The general idea is that there are people worldwide with mercy in their hearts and you are not alone in your loss. I wear it almost daily and throughout the day I not only pray for him, but for all of his loved ones left behind, especially Joseph Sr., Barbara, Jennifer and Monica.
I hope this brings you and your family some small comfort. I know I don't have much to offer, but if I can ever help you, please please let me know! If you wish, feel free to contact me. We will never understand why such horrible things happen to such great people. For this loss, I am deeply sorry.
Sue
September 11, 2006
I will always remember Joe's smile, and his sincerity, and pure goodness that was in his heart. He truly cared about his friends and family, and I always thought very highly of him and was glad to see him, he was a cheerful presence and a great guy to have around. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of Joe's loved ones.
Cheryl Thompson
September 11, 2006
I did not know Joseph Anthony Ianelli but I work at Virginia Tech University and today on the 5th anniversary of 911 the students set 2 tables up on campus with scrolls to sign, with names of victims. I was given Josephs name to sign. The little sliver of paper I received has a small picture, name, age and where he worked.
When I returned to my office I looked him up on the internet and read all I could about him. What a wonderful man and it was an honor to recognize him today.
Peace be with you,
Cheryl Thompson
monica i
August 9, 2006
I don't know if its the 5th anniv, the upcoming golf outing, or graduating that had thrown me back, but I am feeling pretty darn sad tonight. this is the strange thing about grief-that is-you can be having a perfectly fine day, as fine as it is defined now..and then in one second, you are crying at your computer at 12:30am. lets face it, i still go to sleep thinking about you, and still wake up thinking about you, but some days are better then others. today is just one of those days where i feel a huge empty space in my heart, and feel as if i am carrying a ton of bricks on my shoulders...because i miss you like it happened this morning, and the pain is bigger then this world can hold.
Michael Iezzi
July 6, 2006
Joe,
Happy birthday in Heaven. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
A loved one lives forever in the hearts of those who cared. A loved one lives forever in the memories that were shared.
leah burgess
January 25, 2006
To the family and friends of Joesph Ianelli:
After reading all of the entries posted on this guest book, I can not begin to imagine the pain that you are going through. I met Joe only once, but just reading these entries have shown me what a wonderful person he was. My sympathy and prayers go out to the Ianelli family and all who were close to him. Monica: my dad, mom and I love you so much. Honestly, you are the strongest person I have ever met and I am so glad that we are close. I love you moni-caca(okay, my mom told me to say that. gotta love her..)!
God Bless,
Leah
Jessica Finkelstein
September 13, 2005
I cannot believe we've gone another year without you. I miss you so much. I know you are watching over all of us.Your mom, dad & Jenn are trying so hard to be strong for everyone else and are putting up a good front but anyone who knows them knows thats all it is. Please continue to hold them up. I want to also thank you for helping to answer my prayer. I needed all the help I could get.I love you Joe and will always carry you and our memories close to my heart.
Patricia Kiefer
September 4, 2005
Dear Mrs Ianelli,
I was reading through the Legacy pages as I often do. I stopped at your beautiful son's page and started to read.When I read your letters I felt like I was reading my own words. You see I also lost my beautiful son on that horrible day 9-11. He was FDNY FF Michael Kiefer and he was 25yrs old. I feel your pain. The words you speak about missing him and not wanting to be here without him is just the way I feel. I try so hard just to get through each day. I try to put on an act for my two daughters but they know how I realy feel. As they say they not only lost their brother on 9-11 but also their mom and dad. It breaks my heart to hear that but I know it is true. I read what your daughter wrote and I can see that she is also in pain missing her brother and I'm sorry for that. I can't believe that next week it will be 4ys since we saw our beautiful boys. I agree that it gets harder and harder as time passes yet I've been told by people that we should be over it by now. May they never have to walk in our shoes. I still cant even believe what happened. We never had a recovery so I just try to think that he is at work.It helps me to get through some of the time. Well I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone in your grief. I hope that you get through this anniversary as best you can. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. May God bless all of us and may our sons always be at our side.
Sincerely yours,
Pat Kiefer
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August 12, 2005
I'm thinking about you a lot lately and I hope that you and your family are able to find peace. I pray for it every day.
jennifer thompson
July 6, 2005
Happy 32nd Birthday brother. Wish you were here to celebrate with us. It's just so unfair, the anger and resentment are growing as well as the sadness and frustration. Some days i just feel like i'm gonna lose it but i can't in front of the kids or anyone. Speaking of the kids, do you see how CRAZY Justin is. Mommy says he's like me and Corey is just like you. I see you whenever I look at Corey, he is just so much like you and looks like you so much too and Justin is well Justin, climbing, jumping always looking for trouble! Boy do I have my hands full with him, but I know you're up there helping me along. Hope you are with us all today and everyday. We miss you terribly, love you always
Michael Iezzi
July 6, 2005
Joseph,
Happy Birthday in Heaven. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Faith
June 28, 2005
To the family of Joseph,
They say 'time heals all wounds' but that's not always the case especially when your beloved son was taken away so suddenly. I lost both my parents as a small child and grieved many, many days and nights with endless tears. I know what you're going thru. But in all tragedy, there's HOPE.
I am sure Joseph's angelic spirit lives on and will continue to be felt by people all over the world..many of which never met him like myself. I only clicked on his page by accident on Legacy.
Now, the angels rejoice in Heaven knowing another one has joined them. Angels have a job to do here on earth and I am sure Joseph is watching over his loved ones every second of the day. Mrs. Ianelli, please know that Joseph would be so proud of you knowing how strong you are and how you're not allowing evil to prevail with depression and anger. Joseph seemed to be such a positive and kind hearted soul that he would want everyone to radiate that energy to all.
Keep on pressing forward, Mrs. Ianelli and know that Joe's looking down on you and saying to the angels what a great mom you were.
His fiance, Monica is an inspiration to all that true love does exist and that love never dies. Stay strong and know how proud Joseph must be of you and all your efforts to keep his legacy alive. You're doing a GREAT job.
Thank you, Joseph for allowing the world to know what goodness is & what it means to live each day to its fullest with the ones you dearly love.
May you rest in eternal peace always and may God keep you in his loving arms forever.
barbara ianelli
April 25, 2005
hi my wonderful son joseph, another year i'm older and another year you're not here to celebrate with us. jennifer made me a wondeful dinner and the kids were great as usual but it will never be the same. to me it's just another day and reminder that i'm getting older but you didn't get the chance that you deserved. i miss you so much and every day it gets a little worse. anyway the day is almost over, thank god and maybe i'll sleep tonight. i love you always, mom
barbara ianelli
March 25, 2005
hi my son, well it's l2:13a.m. and you're supposed to be coming up my stairs because as usual i made the salami pies for easter. it's good friday night after midnight so you now are allowed to eat meat. this was our special time together every year. i miss them so much i can't breathe. i don't what to do anymore to heal my broken heart. every day gets worse instead of better. i get up every morning as usual and i don't know why. i want time to go back so i can tell you not to go to work that faithful day. i want to tell you that i love and miss you so much. thank god for jennifer and the kids because i really would have flipped my cork and probably would have done myself in. corey is so much like you which is good and bad. we had a circus at school and he wore your clown costume, he looked just like you it was scary. i wish you could give me some kind of a sign that would let me know that you are okay. i'm rambling as usual because that's me. i love you and miss you mom.
jennifer thompson
December 26, 2004
Hey brother, merry christmas, sorry its a day late. I visited you at the cemetary today, what a thing to do on my birthday, I should be celebrating my 29th with you instead I'm crying to a picture of you, it just isn't fair. I miss you so much, i hope you saw Corey opening his presents, he was priceless! He's such a good boy and Justin is getting better, he's still a little terror but he's so cute you just can't get mad at him. I'm sure you're happy that we were all together for xmas, Nanny and mommy and daddy all slept over and were here to see the boys open their presents, it helped us all get through the day as we were all crying inside. I hope you are with us and see us especially corey and justin. i love you so much brother. good night
jennifer thompson
September 10, 2004
hey brother, i can't believe it's been 3 years since i heard your voice or saw your face or hugged you. It feels like yesterday yet it feels like a million years ago. It really still hasn't sunk in yet and i don't know if it will. When i look at your picture i get a panic attack thinking of all you went through that day and all we are missing out on and how much i love you and miss you. I moved into the new house already in jersey finally. You would've loved coming here and swimming and jumping around with corey and playing with butterball Justin. Do you see him? Do you see how big he is!!? You definitely wouldn't be able to hold him! Corey is starting to ask a lot of questions about you and he keeps making references like he sees you, oh man brother i really hope he does see you and that you are here with us all the time. Whenever someone is big and tall he says look they're tall like uncle Joe or his foot or hand is big like uncle joe and it breaks my heart that he knows you yet he really doesn't and never will really know you but i won't and none of us will ever stop talking about you so him and justin feel like they know you and they are a part of you and you are a part of them. Tomorrow is gonna suck but then again every day does that you are not here. It just still doesn't seem real i wish wish wish that it weren't because i really need you here, we all do. I don't know how much longer i can stay strong without breaking down. I love you brother so much and miss you like crazy.
Michael Iezzi
July 7, 2004
Joseph,
Happy Birthday in Heaven. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. God Bless you.
monica
July 6, 2004
pop
I finally got up enough courage to go to the cemetery today. I just sat there wishing you a happy 30th birthday hoping you could hear me. sometimes I wonder if I'm just fooling myself by all the conversations I have with you, but it's all that I have right now and i just need to pretend that it's working. You should see Corey and justin, honey Justin is huge. You'd want to just eat him alive, and corey; he's just like this special person that I can't even describe. He's so funny and so full of energy and so excited about life, that being around him is like breathing in fresh air. I don't know what it is but I just know that you're there with them when you can be. I just know it I'm still holding on like I promised you I would. but I'm not going to lie and say that today I didn't have my moments of sheer victimhood. I'm a bit angry today. thinking that your 30 years old and your not here to celebrate with all of us and I'm wondering how in the world that's even a possibility. I'm not going to wollow in self-pity, but I'm sad and I miss you so much and not a day goes by without me wishing you were here. Happy birthday honey. I love you
barbara ianelli
July 6, 2004
happy birthday sweetie, today was horrible. you turned 31 today but you're not here for me to hug and kiss you. all i could do was visit the cemetary and pray that you see and hear me. i love and miss you more each day. i just came home from mikey's all star game. they won as usual but not the same without you there. monica was here today too. i still can't believe you're not here. sometimes i swear i hear you coming up the steps saying hi lady. i know that i will see you but it's not going to be soon enough for me. well before i start to ramble i'm going to say goodnight for now. i love you always and forever. mom
jennifer thompson
April 25, 2004
hi brother, sorry it's been so long since i've last written. Well as you can see Justin is just as good as Corey, maybe even a little better even, if that's possible! I know they're so good because you are helping me with them and I want to thank you. Justin is huge just like you were which makes me believe what the median said about you coming back as him. I can already tell that he has your temperment, very mild mannered and calm just like you. If only you could see the boys brother, they are amazing, they keep us all going thank god. I just wish, god do i wish that they would be able to get to know how amazing you were. You could have taught them so much and I know you would have. You would have been here all of the time teaching them everything you knew and then some and you would have spoiled them rotten like the rest of us! They would be 2 people you wouldn't be cheap with!! Today is mommy's birthday. I miss so much you calling me and asking me to get something and you'll go in on it. I honestly still don't really feel like you're gone. I look at your picture and I really still don't believe that I will never see you again, I don't want to believe it I guess and I don't know if it will ever sink in. We finally have a place to go visit you at Resurrection as of a few months ago but it's so hard with the boys to find time for myself to just go and be with you. To tell you the truth I don't feel really like your there but deep down i know you are there and everywhere with us always. I miss you so much brother, it's not getting any easier, not like i thought it would but i wished it would. I need you here, we all need you here and i just don't understand why you're not here. So much has changed yet nothing has changed. I love you.
barbara
February 14, 2004
hi sweetie, today is valentine's day but god took my valentine when he took you. i miss you so much. life really isn't that much fun without you. i wonder why i'm still here but i guess god has his reasons which i will never understand. anyway i love you and miss you. love mom
Jeannette Knowles
February 6, 2004
Dearest Barbara, Joe, Tessie & Jenn:
From the moment I heard of your loss my heart was broken and I cried for you many times. I never had the pleasure of knowing Joseph but I knew you very well Barbara and I knew your capacity for love and vitality. The vitality and fire that Joseph would want his Mother to have and be the woman he knew. I can tell you from my own sorrow and experience that life is for the living and any good we can do to remember is the only way - and knowing that Jesus walks by our side always to give us strength. Beholding the presence and site of God keeps Joseph safe for eternity and always with you. In the beginning we are mad at God but he has a plan and we must trust that plan. I cut this poem out of a Reader's Digest in 1977 when my world was shattered and I always remember it. Maybe you too will find some comfort in it."A PRIVATE WORLD" There are those who cannot bear to be alone.But I can understand the separations, the long apartness, the "where are yous" Of this my unfilled life because I have created a private world where we are never apart. BEATING ALWAYS IN MY HEAD IS YOUR HEART.
Once again, my deepest condolonces to you and your family. Jeannette Knowles - Keys
December 26, 2003
Merry Christmas, to our special Santa !!! You are missed more than words can say. We love you and you will forever be in our hearts.
m
December 25, 2003
This is the first Christmas home for me honey and so far I'm doing okay because I have to believe that you are right here by my side helping me get through it all and helping my mom get better. I think about our special day on december 23rd and remember our last christmas together. I was never happier. So, I just hold onto that real tight and thank god for you every day that you were a part of my life. Writing this makes me sad but I'll focus on the Joy you brought so many people and talk about you so know one ever forgets how amazing you were. You'll always be Christmas to me, you'll always be my best friend and the love of my life.
jeanne crosson
October 10, 2003
Dear Joseph,
Thank you so much for loving our Monica. The joy you gave her was unmeasurable and we will always be grateful for your sweet and loving nature. How she loves you too. We will keep your family always in our prayers and hearts Their loss is great. May God bless you and your family.
We will never forget you. We will never forget.
All our love,
Jeanne and Phil
jen thompson
September 11, 2003
Brother, just wanted to let you know, as if you didn't already, that today totally sucks!! It's only been 2 years but it seems like 200. The baby is due soon. We decided to name him Justin Joseph, just hope nobody decides to nickname him JJ! I asked Corey the other day who he thinks the godfather of Justin should be and he looked at your picture and said Joe, I said yeah should have been!!He says goodmorning Uncle Joe now and gives you two kisses every morning. It's not fair brother its just not fair! I miss you and love you so much. I know you're with us always.
Tony Black
September 11, 2003
My deepest sympathy to the family and friends of Mr. Ianelli. May God bless and keep you all safe and happy in His love.
Dana Enriquez
September 10, 2003
To the Ianelli Family,
I am sorry for the lost of your son. My brother played baseball with him and I played softball with Jen. I wish I would have written something sooner but, I only found the site recently. From the past entries made I can see the loving impact Joe had made on everyone's lives. I only hope that all of your futures will have happier endings.
Love the Enriquez Family
September 9, 2003
Joe,
Its about this time of the year when I begin to think about you more than ever. And the days we shared together and the time we had for a while becomes that much more prevalent in my mind. And I thank God for them, because they were truly some of the best times.. Just know that you are missed both out loud and in silence...
Always and Forever...
m
August 7, 2003
I'm sad that you can't be here to watch your sister have another baby.It's heartwrenching that her only brother/sibling is gone.It's just wrong joe, it's wrong.Like everyone else, it seems that the reality of forever is setting in and I don't think any of us really had begun to stop waiting for you to just walk in the door and still daydream about it every waking day, so how do we even begin to process the meaning of the word forever? We don't, we can't. I love you so much Joe that it takes my breath away. We miss you so much pop, we miss you so much.
deb g
July 6, 2003
Joe, Happy Birthday....God we miss you sooooooo much, Its starting now to sink in that you arent coming home and it is a terrible feeling. I miss you and I love you WISH YOU WERE HERE!!! I have the memories of all our lives together and thats how I get past the time, we had ssoooooooo much fun and sooooo many years of good times,I thank you from my heart, and I will always love you HAPPY BIRTHDAY, you were always someone special
jennifer thompson
July 5, 2003
Just wanted to say Happy 30th Birthday, well really how happy can it be, you should be here celebrating with us and then it would be happy. I know your b-day is tomorrow but we're having the street named after you tomorrow so i won't have time to write.I'm sure you already know but I found out the other day that I'm having a BOY! Now I'm waiting for your "YES!!" and I will never hear it and that just isn't fair!! I miss you so much brother!! I just need you here so bad you're the only one who understand some things, I just need a hug from you sometimes and I'm never going to get one again and I just can't deal with that. You should see how big Corey is getting, I can't believe it sometimes, he missed out on one amazing man!! He still says goodmorning Joe every day and now he tells you what he's eating and shows you his toys as he's eating--it breaks my heart! He's such a good boy you would be very proud! I'm going to go now, talk to you soon, I love you brother
EVELYN COMISKEY
May 5, 2003
HI JOE, I NEVER WROTE TO YOU BEFORE BUT WE WERE MAKING PANCAKES LAST WEEK AND MY HEART WAS FULL OF YOU.I THINK OF YOU SO OFTEN,MY SCRAMBLED PANCAKE MAN.I KNOW YOU WERE SMILING DOWN ON ME AND TRYING NOT TO LAUGH.ACTUALLY JESSE MADE THEM SO THEY WERE NOT LIKE MINE.I WILL NEVER FORGET THAT DAY.YOU WERE SO FUNNY.I REMEMBER ALOT OF GOOD TIMES WHEN YOU WERE KIDS AND WISH FOR THEM OVER AND OVER AGAIN.MY HEART IS BROKEN AS I WATCH MY SPECIAL FRIEND DAY IN AND DAY OUT JUST GO THRU THE MOTIONS.THEY SAY TIME HEALS BUT I DON'T BELIEVE THAT AT ALL. THE BEST I COULD HOPE FOR IS THAT SHE FINDS PIECE IN KNOWING THAT YOU ARE TRULY IN A BETTER PLACE AND HAPPY. I WANT TO HUG AWAY THERE PAIN AND WISH THAT GOD KNOWS WHAT HE HAS DONE AND GIVES THEM PEACE AT LEAST.ONE DAY YOU WILL ALL BE TOGETHER AND MOMMY, DADDY AND JEN WILL LAUGH AGAIN. UNTIL THEN WATCH OVER THEM AS I KNOW YOU ARE DOING. I WORRY ABOUT MOMMY SO MUCH, I LOVE HER SO MUCH AND WANT HER TO BE HAPPY AGAIN. MAYBE THIS NEW BABY WILL BRING HER ALL THE JOY SHE CAN HANDLE AS WELL AS JEN.I DIDN'T GO TO CHURCH FOR A LONG TIME,I WAS MAD AT GOD FOR TAKING YOU AWAY BUT THAT'S NOT AN ANSWER.I PRAY SO HARD FOR THEM. I KNOW YOU ARE HAPPY. I FEEL IT.PLEASE WATCH OVER MOMMY, DADDY AND JEN. JESSIE AND KELLY ARE MISSING YOU SO BAD, THEY CRY ALOT FOR ALOT OF DIFFERENT REASONS BUT LIFE .....WATCH OVER ME TOO. I MISS YOU MY SCRAMBLED PANCAKE BOY.LOVE YOUR SECOND MOM. I LOVE YOU.
Jessica Finkelstein
May 4, 2003
Hi Joe, its been a while since I wrote but Im always thinking of you. Me and my Mom were making pancakes yesterday and were thinking of that time with the scrambled pancakes. I'll never forget that it was so funny. I can still remember the expression on your face. I still carry your picture with me always and you know I talk to you just about everyday. I know your watching over us all. Jen especially needs you right now with the pregnancy. She has never and will never be the same after losing you but hopefully this baby will bring a little more happiness to the house. They need it! I try to be the best friend I can be to her but everyone knows you were her best friend. I still cannot believe your gone. Everyone misses and loves you so much. You will be in all our hearts forever.
barbara ianelli
April 28, 2003
my son, i miss you more each day. it's getting worse instead of better. i don't know how it can get better except if you came back. reality just doesn't seem to set in. i can't except the fact that i will never see you again. i know you know about jen being pregnant but it just isn't the same without you here. i mean i'm very happy but we need you here. joseph we are so hearbroken words cannot explain. i cry everyday and night but it doesn't help. i will write again when i'm not babbling. love mom
deb
April 27, 2003
Joe, i have so much to tell you, Mikey hit it out tonight, great shot, line drive over the center field fence.......i know you saw it, and he knows that he felt you there with him,He waited a long time for that shot. Joe, I havent written cause I am not sure what i wanna say, you are in my head every minute of my very crazy days. I miss you more than I thought a person was able to be missed. As soon as that bat hit the ball, I wanted to call u up screaming....you would've loved that. Im so happy for Jenn and I know you're watching over her...she needs this pregnancy to keep her positive, if you were here, you would be thrilled so I know how happy you are where you are. So babe, no matter how busy i get, or how many things are going on,, you are ALWAYS in my mind and in my heart........we love you alot
monica
April 21, 2003
honey
liz's dad died this morning. I need you so much right now and my heart is just aching for you.I'm having a hard time breathing today pop. I'm so tired honey.i miss you more today then yesterday
jennifer thompson
April 21, 2003
Hey brother, happy easter, it just so isn't the same without you here, we just all need you so much right now and its not fair that you're not here. I'm sure you know already but in case you don't, I'm pregnant again with #2!! I needed you to be here so I could tell you and you're not and that stinks so bad. I still remember telling you about corey and how happy you were and i know you're happy for this one too. I only hope that that phychic Camille is right and that this one will be so much like you. Corey is getting so big ow, he's talking up a storm--which has its good points and bad!! I feel so dead inside, almost heartless, like i can look at your picture and sometimes talk about you and i just feel so emotionless, like i'm dead inside andn i hate that, the tears just don't come anymore. I think its because it still hasn't hit me that this is all real and i don't think it ever will, i don't know if i really want it too either. Maybe i'm just trying to be so strong for everyone elses sake and that's why, whatever the reason i don't like it, i can't stand this feeling and i know it will never end. Brother I just miss you so much and love you so much and I just can't take it anymore!! I love you and will talk to you again soon.
Pere Dollard
April 21, 2003
I didn't know you but I feel like I did.We have a lot in common.I'm from Staten Island too.I lost my brother Neil in the other Tower and he lived in Hoboken like you.My favorite sports to watch and play are also baseball and hoops.Maybe me you and Neil can shoot around when I see you in heaven.Until then God bless your family and your fiancee.
barbara ianelli
March 19, 2003
well today is ST.Joseph's Day and you're not here for me to pull your ears, which i always did. i miss you terribly and it just isn't fair that you're not here anymore. you'll always be in what's left of my heart and i think of you all day and night but it will never be the same without you. life right now sucks. i can't comprehend never seeing you again. i love you always mom.
barbara ianelli
February 8, 2003
to my wonderful son: they say that time heals will they're wrong. as time goes by it gets worse. i have to go on because, but it's getting harder and harder each day. sometimes i feel like i'm losing my mind and think this is all a bad dream and you'll walk up my steps again, but then i wake up and it's not a dream, but a nightmare that will never go away. we all keep asking for some kind of a sign from you that will let us know that you are okay thinking i guess that it will help us go ahead but that doesn't happen either. i'm rambling again but i can't help it i miss you terribly and miss what should have been. anyway i love you and always will. love mom
Elizabeth
January 23, 2003
I don't know why but I just found myself on Joseph's website for the last hour. I've never met him but I found myself crying and while I know those feelings pale in comparison to the pain those who knew him have suffered -- I hope you might find some bit of peace or comfort in knowing that he is continuing to touch the lives of others. I believe he is safe and happy and is with you always, I hope you can find strength in that.
January 23, 2003
I just want some sort of answer, if I have to live on this earth without you, I need to know how I'm suppose to find the energy or will to do so. I think I've earned that much.. I'm so afraid, and feel so empty because I know that everything I do now, I do alone and that's the exact opposite of how we invisioned our lives together. I need a sign pop, just one sign.
barbara ianelli
January 5, 2003
my son, i wrote to you new year's eve but maybe because i cursed it got omitted. i miss you more each day. it just gets worse instead of better, i don't know how to make it better. i told daddy they should just blow us all up and then we could all be together again and start all over again. good idea. i hope you are alright. i keep asking for a sign that you are okay but i get nothing. you were a wonderful son and i'm sure you would have made a wonderful husband and father, but we'll never see those days. i hope god realizes that he has ruined all our lives, that we will never be the same without you and your wonderful smile but like they say only the good die young. please watch over us all and know that i will always love you and miss you forever. mom
DEBI G
January 5, 2003
JOE I WROTE TO YOU ON CHRISTMAS EVE AND I DONT KNOW WHAT HAPPENED I HOPE YOU KNOW THAT YOU WERE IN MY MIND AND IN MY HEART EVERY MINUTE. EVERY CHRISTMAS EVE WILL JUST BE ANOTHER REMINDER OF WHAT A WONDERFUL,(SOUNDS LIKE MY FATHERS WORD) INCREDIBLE MAN YOU WERE. WHEN I CAME HOME AT MIDNIGHT ON CHRISTMAS EVE, I ALMOST BELIEVED YOU WERE GONNA BE THERE,TOOLS AND WINE IN HAND!! THINGS JUST AINT THE SAME, AND THEY NEVER WILL BE AGAIN. YOU WERE CHRISTMAS TO MY FAMILY AND THEY'LL KNOW THAT FOREVER AND EVER. THERE WILL NEVER BE A XMAS EVE THAT WE DONT THINK OF YOU THE WHOLE NIGHT. THOSE MEMORIES LIVE WITH US FOREVER.JOE, MERRY CHRISTMAS, I HOPE IN MY HEART THAT YOU ARE SMILING DOWN ON ALL OF US FROM HEAVEN, AND THAT YOU ARE TRULY IN WHAT WE WANNA BELIEVE IS A "BETTER PLACE". I HOPE THAT GOD HAS TAKEN GOOD CARE OF YOU AND THAT YOU DONT HURT OR FEEL PAIN LIKE WE ALL DO.
MY SONS SENT UP SOME BALLOONS TO YOU ON NEW YEARS EVE....HOPE YOU SAW THEM.AND YOUR MOM AND DAD GAVE THE BOYS THOSE STATUES OF BALL PLAYERS WITH THOSE ANGELS WATCHING...WE ALWAYS THOUGHT YOU WERE WATCHING THEM.NOW WE KNOW FOR SURE
JOE, I MISS YOU AND I WISH I COULD HAVE ONLY ONE MORE MINUTE WITH YOU TO TELL YOU HOW MUCH YOU MEAN.....TO US ALL...I HOPE YOU KNOW..GOD BETTER APPRECIATE THE MAN HE TOOK THAT DAY...THERE IS TRULY NO BETTER.YOU WERE THE BEST!!
MERRY CHRISTMAS IN HEAVEN AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR AS ANOTHER YEAR PASSES...IT JUST GETS HARDER....WE ALL LOVE YOU JOE............YOU ARE ALWAYS IN OUR HEARTS AND IN OUR MINDS....FOREVER, DEB
jennifer thompson
December 25, 2002
Hey brother, this is your second christmas not with us and it hurts even more that you are not here. Corey was so amazing this morning with his mortorcycle, i hope you were watching. As the days go by its just getting worse and worse not even the slightest bit easier. It still doesn't even seem remotely real, not even for a second. I picture you in my head and I still feel like i'm going to see you soon--i only wish that were true.I'm home sick today-alone- everyone went to Denises to be together. Our family is the only thing that's keeping us going. Without eachother we would be alot worse off. I can't believe Corey will be 2 soon, it seems like just yesterday when i told you i was having a boy and you said "YES!" I was so looking forward to the two of you bonding with sports and you telling him everything you know like Uncle Mike did for us, but that will never happen now. I know you loved and still love him like he was your own because i can still picture your face when you had him in your arms in mommy's kitchen and you thought you would break him and you said you wouldn't be able to hold him much longer because your back hurt--that seems like it was yesterday--i wish it was. I know you would shower him with love and spoil him like crazy-even though you were a little cheap! (lol just kidding)I know you wouldn't be with him-you would have spoiled him rotten and that would have given you so much joy. I know you are still with us, i hope you're with pop-pop and gram and everyone else up there today and i hope you're all with us every day. Like nanny said today- today is just another day for us-without you being here brother no days seem special anymore. Tomorrow I'll be 27 and it just doesn't matter anymore-nothing does except corey and our family. I'm still waiting for that second child you promised me that will be just like you-I'm waiting with open arms. I love you brother so much and miss you like crazy.
Michael Iezzi
December 21, 2002
Joseph,
Merry Christmas in Heaven.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Merry Christmas From Heaven
I still hear the songs, I still see the lights,
I still feel your love on cold wintery nights,
I still share your hopes and all of your cares
I’ll even remind you to please say your prayers
I just want to tell you, you still make me proud,
You stand head and shoulder above all the crowd.
Keep trying each moment to stay in His grace,
I came here before you to help set your place.
You don’t have to be perfect all of the time,
He forgives you the slip if you continue to climb.
To my family and friends please be thankful today,
I’m still close beside you in a new special way.
I love you all dearly now don’t shed a tear,
Michael Iezzi
November 25, 2002
Joseph,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
A loved one lives forever in the hearts of those who cared.
A loved one lives forever in the memories that were shared.
barbara ianelli
November 4, 2002
to my wonderful son: I miss you so much these days. It seems to be getting worse instead of better. people say that the first of everything is the hardest but i think now is harder because now it's really a reality. i look at your picture and can't beleive that i'm never going to see you until i die. and that i'm never going to dance at your wedding or see your children that you wanted so badly. sometimes i think i'm going crazy because i think and hope that this is just a bad dream and i'm going to wake up and you'll be there. oh joseph this was so unfair you had so much more to do and give to this world and your family but no one ever said life was fare. the holidays are coming again and again i wish it was january already. if it wasn't for corey and jennifer i could care less for the holidays, but for them i go through the motions. anyway i love you and miss you terribly. love mom
honey
October 15, 2002
Pop,
It's midnight Oct 14th. It seems like time has stopped. You know that I sometimes have to ask people what day it is because my brain no longer functions like it used to.
How amazing the brain works and more amazing how much the heart can take. It's all so daunting honey. Another attack in Bali, a sniper on the lose, people being killed all over the place and now there's serious talk about war....Joe, what's happening? There are some days that I just don't give a damn, that I wish the world would just disappear and that I could just go to the top of our roof and just SCREAM... but then there are days like today, where I'm just scared and I need you here to protect me..cause I know you would have said 2 words to me that would have made me feel safe and secure. All you ever had to do was just look at me and I was in awe of you.
We are not taking care of this earth and the world just seems to be falling apart honey and I'm just stuck in the middle of it all, caught in a web...with your family and with my family and with our friends and it's like all of what's good is gone forever.
I just miss being able to talk to you about this stuff Pop, I just miss everything.
If you can pop, let me know you're there, okay...
i love you honey
Richard Willis
October 7, 2002
Hey Joe, how is it going, well i am sure that you know but your golf outing and dinner was a huge success, your mom, dad, monica and everyone else did a great job. i must tell you we had a fantastic time, it was probably the most fun we had in ages, and i just wanted to say thank you, because i know that it was because of your love and giving personality that all these people could get together in your honor. Its the fact that we all know you are up there watching over all of us that allows us to have a good time, well as you know it poured all day, but that didnt stop us, some of the more serious golfers forged ahead and played through it, then there was your cousin mike me and richie, who turned it into bumper golf carts after 3 holes. oh yea finkelstein was with us to in our 4 some, imagine he thought we were gonna play golf, lol lol he was with michael, he may never be the same, well we had a great time the dinner was jammed, and in your honor cousin a great time was had by all. p.s. keep an ear out for me i think i am gonna try the psychic thing, see if i can talk to u and my dad...so pay attention....
love ya and miss seeing you
Richie...
barbara ianelli
September 17, 2002
dear joseph, it's been a year since i've talked to you or heard your voice. i'm about to lose my mind. i miss you more each day. everything reminds me of you. i've been crying all night. i watched a met game and they finally won. you would have enjoyed the game. that's what i miss talking to you about the game the next day. i love you and miss you so much. i will write again tomorrow. i know you are our angel watching over us but i really wish you were still here. love mom
Jody Hagemann
September 12, 2002
To the Ianelli family --
I graduated Tottenville HS with Jenn and just wanted to send my deepest condolences to Jenn and her family for such a terrible and tragic loss. Words cannot even describe the sorrow I feel for all affected by this tragedy.
Carrie & Jeff Davis
September 11, 2002
We were glad to have had the opportunity to meet Joe. Unfortunately it was only a few times. We certainly will always remember his one day trip to FL to help us celebrate our wedding day. We are so sorry he will miss that experience. He will surely be missed. To those who were close to him, our heartfelt sympathy goes out to you. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.
Sheryl
August 31, 2002
I am a co-worker of Joseph's cousin, JoAnn. She is a wonderful and dignified lady. Even while facing the tragic loss of both Joseph and Nicky (Rossomando), she has always been there to comfort others during their time of loss. While I have never met Joseph (or Nicky), I like to think of them as being just as kind and caring as their cousin (JoAnn). My heart goes out to all who have suffered from the 9/11 tragedy...The Ianelli family, the Rossomando family, JoAnn...all the families affected by this horrific tragedy. You are in my thoughts and prayers...
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