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Maureen
September 11, 2024
Thank you Allen for bringing your marvelous self into my life.
Joe and Maryann Castelluccio
September 11, 2021
Always remember all the laughs and good times . You always had a smile and it made everyone around you smile. You are truly missed but never forgotten. God Bless
The Rye 9-11 Memorial Gazebo - 2021
Ceil Harrigan
September 11, 2021
Lou Usefof
September 11, 2021
Thinking about you. I can remember a day at the lake that makes me laugh. Shine on Allen.
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Alex Marx
September 10, 2021
Allen, sitting here thinking of all the awesome memories..20yrs goes by, and it doesn’t feel much better. Miss you very much my friend!!!
The Kindred Family
December 6, 2019
Sending our continued sincere condolences to your family. May God always give the support and help needed. Allen is still sadly missed and is not forgotten. Finally may these violent acts that have caused so much heartache come to an end.
Kam Spencer Upton Bueno
September 11, 2019
Miss you so very much 15 years and I still can't believe it that you are gone my life will never be the same love your niece Kam Spencer Upton Bueno
Alex Marx
September 11, 2019
Dear Allen, not a year goes by that I dont laugh with tears and a heavy heart thinking about all of the good times we all had. I just cant believe how much I miss you and everyone else at that left us that day 18yrs ago. Im older with a amazing wife and four kids all of whom unfortunately missed out meeting such an amazing person! The good news is how many good stories I get to tell, and Im pretty good at it . Just know that you are still in so many of us, and I think about you often......... - X
Rye high School class of 1975 planted this tree in your honor.
Ray upton
September 11, 2018
17 years. How can that be. I miss your laugh and loyalty to you family. Rest in peace big brother! The tree planted in your honor has grown big and strong.
Joseph Upton
September 11, 2018
Rest In Peace
A possible relative
Kam Bueno
September 11, 2018
Missing you every day 17 yrs later i still miss you
June 6, 2018
Mr. Upton...I toured the 9/11 memorial on 6/6/17 and saw several white flowers placed on names at the memorial. I chose to pick a name & always celebrate their life on their birthday. I can not imagine the pain your family has gone through, but I hope they know that you have touched so many lives! Even the lives of strangers who simply knew you by a name etched in stone, but will NEVER forget! Happy Birthday, Mr. Upton!!!
Peter Hoffend
September 11, 2016
Allen, you touched my life and I'm forever grateful to have known you. No amount of time diminishes that. Rest in peace my dear friend.9-11-2016
September 13, 2015
We all remember. We all care. Your name is whispered in daily prayer. May God Bless you and Bless your loving family who miss you very much.
Ceil Harrigan
September 11, 2015
Allen -
14th yrs ago you were called to heaven - a special classmate from RHS '75. Will always remember your smile & kindness.
Pamela Paine
September 11, 2015
Love and prayers to the Upton Family.
September 10, 2015
Still missing you.
Maureen Foyle and Ed Aguirre
jacob fletcher
September 10, 2015
I wish you are still alive
Joe Castelluccio
June 8, 2015
Allen was a close friend we worked together in the bond market He was a family friend as well. Truly a wonderful person Often think of him great sense of humor
pamela paine
June 6, 2015
For Allen.
June 6, 2015
Dear Ray,
Anyone that knew him will never forget your dear brother Allen. He was/is a truly special and generous soul.
Very likely watching over you and proud of you.
Love, Pam
Ray Upton
September 13, 2014
It is so nice to know so many people still remember you and say such wonderful things about you. You may not be here physically anymore but you live on in our hearts. Miss you everyday. You would be proud of your family today. ?????
Kam Bueno
September 11, 2014
Miss you so very much :( Uncle Allen
Louis Usefof
September 11, 2014
In my thoughts often.
Keith Scherer
September 11, 2014
13 years later and it is still hard to believe you are not here with us. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you.
Lynne Donaghey
September 11, 2014
Thinking of you.
A great picture of Allen
September 12, 2013
Keith Scherer
September 11, 2013
Another year without you and not a day goes by I don't think of you. Just wish my girls had gotten a chance to meet you.
Lynne Donaghey
September 11, 2013
Thinking of you today cousin.
Craig
September 11, 2013
I didn't get to know you but your legacy on your family and friends makes me very sad I never got to. Think we would have hit it off quite well. The same for your Nephews. Thinking of you today.
Anonymous
September 11, 2013
So sorry for your loss.
Ray upton
June 6, 2013
Happy 56th birthday brother. Life is not quite the same without you! Always in my heart.
Ray Upton
September 11, 2012
Allen today our sister honored your name today at the WTC memorial. I am sure you were looking down on her. Richard was there also to support her. I am very proud of her and proud of you for being our brother. Love you and think of you everyday especially today.
Keith Scherer
September 11, 2012
Allen was like an uncle to me, I was part of his "Upstate" family. I first met him when I was 4 months old. He was best friends with my Uncle and came to live with my parents while he worked in the Lake George area during summer breaks from college. I will never forget all the great times we had. I wish every day that you were still here. I wish you you could meet my wife and my beautiful twin girls. I wish they could have had you in their lives like I did. Only those who knew you can truly appreciate how incredible you were. They say time heals all wounds but it doesn't feel like this one will ever heal. I love you and miss you, Keith.
Hans D. Scherer
September 11, 2012
Allen, I can't believe 11 years have passed by so quickly. You are loved and missed every day. I have your picture on the wall and I tell Hannah and CJ all about you. I'm sad that they will never see your kindness and generosity first hand.
Keep the faith everybody...
Antonio Knight
September 11, 2012
Another year gone and its still hard not being able to call you and get that strong heart warmed conversation that I needed. Give me two more Big Guy..
September 10, 2012
I miss you Allen
June 6, 2012
Happy birthday to my big brother Allen. You have touched so many people with you heart. You are missed but never forgotten.
Antonio Knight
September 11, 2011
This is the first year since 9/11 that i have been able to look at a picture of Allen. i was Allens personal trainer at the 23rd and park ave nysc.. i still talk about him to this day with my son about what kind of man he was..you are missed BOSS "Give me two more big guy" love you miss Tony
Gwen Palmer Schiff
September 11, 2011
Allen Upton was my friend from Milton and Rye High schools, who stood by me in hard times in the late 60's and early 70's always a smile and offer of help ready. I think of him often but especially today as Allen was one of the many we lost in the Twin Towers ten years ago. Will never forget you my friend
Raymond Upton
September 10, 2011
Allen you are missed very much. I cant believe it's been 10 years. I can still hear you voice and your laughter in my mind.
September 10, 2011
god bless you my friend we had alot of laughs as you progressed through your career .. you are missed every day joe c
Rebecca Walters
August 28, 2011
I have started a facebook page, called "Remember Me". Each person who joins, receives the name of someone to honour on 9/11. I have just given a member Allen's name. Please know that your loved one is not forgotten and prayed for.
Ray Upton
June 6, 2011
Happy Birthday Allen. You are always remembered.
September 13, 2010
Year after year I miss you more as time goes by. Nine years feels so long yet it still feels like it was yesterday.
September 11, 2010
Thinking of you Allen today and so many other days during these past 9 years.
You are a remarkable, inspiring person who brought so much joy into the world. Thank you.
Maureen
Ray Upton
June 6, 2009
Happy birthday Allen!!! I miss you more then ever. i can't wait to see you again.
Doug Abraham
June 6, 2009
Happy Birthday!!!
Jose (Rick) Sanchez
September 11, 2008
I was Allen's Personal Trainer when he was a member of NYSC on Reade Street. We always had a good time when he came in to workout. He always provided encouragement and guidance for me to continue my education. I still remember the last time I saw him and the small conversation we had and how I updated him on my progress. He once said to me when I was 21-22 yrs of age “The choices and decisions you make now can and will effect you for the rest of your life.” This was just a small phrase I remember from him on the numerous conversations I had with him. This occurred at least 10yrs ago.
Amy Cardinale
September 11, 2008
I am now in college and I remember when I was little and you were my uncle ane. Its been seven years and everyday I think about you and how you called me your little princess. You were one of the funniest and big hearted people I have ever met. I wish I could have had you in my life longer but I am thankful for having you and being able to say i knew you. I miss you so much it's crazy. Losing you was one of the hardest things I have ever had to experience. I miss your visits and how you always made me feel better when I cried. Your kindness has touched so many people and my mom and dad miss you so much. I know you are in a better place and send my wishes to your family and hope that you thought of us as family because I did. I love you and will never forget your smile and sick sense of humor!
Maureen Foyle
September 9, 2008
Allen,
You were an extraordinary person. We loved you and still miss you so. Thank you for bringing your smile, wit and grace into our lives.
Remembering you with much love and admiration,
Maureen and Eddie
Doug Abraham
June 6, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
Raymond Upton
June 6, 2008
Happy birthday Allen. We will be celebrating your birthday tonight. We think of you everyday and especially on your birthday. Love, Ray
Jeanne Stange(Burns)
September 30, 2007
I worked with Allen at Cantor a long time ago and didn't know he was lost in 911. I am truly sorry to find this out. He was always very kind and extremely funny. I'm sure he is greatly missed.
Ray Upton
June 6, 2007
Well Allen can you believe you turn 50 today! I am going to open the bottle of 1957 port I bought you for your 40th and toast you. I will think of you with happiness and not sadness this day. Happy 50th birthday brother. I miss you more each and every year. Love you Ray
Gabrielle Ortiz
June 6, 2007
Happy Birthday Allie. Love ya and miss ya.
P Tabbernor
April 4, 2007
In memory....
Robin Ward-Dassler
September 12, 2006
I have tried so many times to submit an entry here and could not quite find the right words. Allen was my high school sweet heart, my prom date. We were planning to get back together over Easter, but that never happened. I am just happy that we were back in touch and sharing the events of our lives. I think of him and his family often and regret that we were not able to meet again here on Earth, but I know I will see you again.
Love Robin
Joyce A Urba Ph.D.
September 11, 2006
I read Allen's memorial today on the fifth anniversary of September 11th. I did not know Allen but read the memorials of those people whose last names began with a U since my own last name begins with a U. What a loving and good man Allen was! God Bless him and his family.
Joyce Urba
Gabrielle Ortiz
September 10, 2006
Allie it is 5 years since I last spoke to you and I miss you more and more everyday. I just want you to know I still think about you everyday and I still love you.
Tim Barrett Jr.
September 10, 2006
Allen, I think of you every year and hope that wherever you are, you are happy. You were like an uncle to us. Peace.
RAY UPTON
June 6, 2006
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ALLEN YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN.
Marialice Doyle
June 6, 2004
Happy Birthday Babe.
Cathy Kelly (Calarco)
September 12, 2002
Yesterday was 1 year since the Twin Towers were attacked. Allen was my friend from Brockport. When I first heard the news, I was struck by the fact that Allen was the only person I ever knew who worked in those buildings. We had lost touch over the years...a painful lesson to learn that we let moving, or jobs, or the stuff of life get in the way of staying in touch. Within days after September 11th, I checked the Cantor Fitzgerald website & was thrilled to find that Allen's name was not among the missing or the dead. I cheered privately that Allen must have moved on, and was safe somewhere in the world. I continued to check Westchester death notices or articles in the papers just to confirm my hope. Each time, I felt the same relief that Allen's name wasn't there. But is left me wondering where he was. Then I learned. Last month, while reading my Brockport alumni newsletter, I was shocked to come across an article paying tribute to Allen... confirming that 20 years later, he was still working in the World Trade Center...still at Cantor Fitzgerald. 11 months after the attacks, I felt the pain that others had long known. It was only yesterday, September 11, 2002, that I first saw Allen's picture in the New York Times among the other victims. Allen was full of life, quick-witted & extraordinarily loyal & supportive of his friends. Why had I let the years pass? I visited him at the World Trade Center when he first started at Cantor Fitzgerald...a long way from Brockport. Somehow I found it appropriate that he was literally at the top of the building....in very stately offices befitting his style and personality. Some of our other Brockport friends...Fran Farrell & Susie Allen always knew Allen would be successful & surge beyond the expectations of many SUNY graduates. I hope his family finds some comfort in these messages as I did. I know Allen will make heaven alot more fun. Knowing Allen, he's probably already planning a huge reunion, with all details in order, for a reunion with all who knew him. God Bless Allen!
Thomas Donaghey
September 11, 2002
My sister Lynne got an email last September from our second cousin Peter Donaghey of Strabane, Northern Ireland, telling us that he had just learned from his cousin Margaret in Florida that her sister Myra had a son who had died in the World Trade Center. The email gave his name as Alan Upton and said that he was unmarried and worked for Cantor Fitzgerald. At the time I couldn't find much on the Web besides the confirmation that there was an Alan Upton at Cantor Fitzgerald; this morning's paper had the name Allen V. Upton.
It is a bewildering thing indeed to learn of the death of a relative (our third cousin, it would seem) who we hadn't known existed until after we had lost him.
Such a senseless loss.
Herbert K. Sato
September 9, 2002
Allen: I wear your name badge proudly as I sing Mozart's "Requiem" in tribute to you and all the others who joined with you on this tragic day. I wish I had known you here on earth. Now, my only hope is to meet you at some later date in heaven. Know that I am thinking about your family, too, as I sing. They, too, are now given a special place in my heart.
Herbert K. Sato
Fred Allen
September 8, 2002
Allen was a good friend of my daughter. I had met Allen several times while he was student at Brockport. He always impressed me as a bright, pleasant, intelligent young man. He is missed by all who knew him. A terrible loss.
Anita Porter
August 19, 2002
I remember Allen form my college days at SUNY Brockport. He was a great person. Allan had a smile and a positive word for all. Heaven has another angel now.
Anita Porter, LA, CA
Mary Jane
June 20, 2002
I never met Allen but I worked with his Father, Robert J. Roebuck, for 4 years. I am requesting a Mass said for Allen on Sept. 11th.
Eternal rest grant onto Allen, Oh Lord. And let perpetual light on him.
Maureen Foyle
June 5, 2002
He should be in the Bahamas celebrating his 45th birthday with friends tomorrow. That's what he had planned. Instead, tomorrow, on his birthday, we will all be thinking of the beautiful, funny and generous man that we were priviledged to know and love. And how we miss him so.
He was a delight, a terrific friend. Always ready to help you when things went wrong, with a plan, a useful contact's phone number, a lecture. And always genuinely pleased when things went right, maintaining that, yes, well, of course, you deserved it, good for you!
I was lucky to have shared him as the perfect traveling companion. He loved the off-beat as well and the classic. Selecting Budapest, Cairo, Mykonos and Berlin for his very first trips out of the country, well before the frequent, later visits to his beloved Crown Jewels in London and the Rodin Museum in Paris attests to the inquisitive nature of his lively mind. Whether it was Memphis, Krakow
(twice), New Orleans, St. Tropez or Atlantis, I can still hear his resounding confirmation of a future trip, just the two words," Book It!". Never a whiner, he made the best of every travel situation. You were guaranteed a good time if you were traveling with Allen.
I know he was very brave, though he'd have you believe otherwise. And, though he would often deny he had one, he gave of his beautiful heart so freely that all of us who knew him have a piece of it.
He is missed so terribly and all the world is a much sadder place without him.
From one of his many, many best friends,
Love For Your Birthday and Always, Maureen
May 15, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL MAN..ALLEN V.UPTON AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS LOVING FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..GOD BLESS AMERICA..MAY GOD AND HIS ANGELS GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
Bill Stapleton
March 11, 2002
Allen - another Gem from Cantor that I was fortunate enough to have known. My dear friend John McErlean, as always, introduced me to the nicest people. God bless you and your family.
Michael Bonevento
February 19, 2002
How does one begin to share a story about one of the most sensitive, compassionate individuals to ever touch ones life. What began as a simple client/advisor relationship soon developed into one of my most valuable friendships. You were a tough client but a fair client and you never failed to take the time to ask about my wife and children despite your unhappiness with the financial markets. I must admit I so enjoyed the task of "stroking" you on those difficult market days. It was always fun when you described Bernard's mood and he described yours. What's funnier is that both of you would tell me not to tell the other. I will miss "CANTOR." I am deeply saddened knowing that you were not able to enjoy that new kitchen and bathroom that you looked forward too. I am equally saddened by your never having had met my wife Lisa or my children - Olivia and Max. A point deeply painful given we spoke that Monday and agreed that Lisa and I would come to you and Accapella. I have come to realize that unless you were going on vacation, you probably would have melted had you left the city. I often bragged about you to Lisa and she looked forward to meeting you - "my good friend Allen." I am sure that you would have done my description justice! To say that I was blessed to have know you is surely an understatement. But it is all that I can say. My only regret - albeit painful to admit - is that I never shared with you how much you ment to me as my friend. I miss you! The Goddess misses you!
Rayna Upton-Haigh
February 4, 2002
My Darling brother was (is) the most amazing man. He was 3 years younger than I, in age, and a million (okay, a few) years older in wisdom, humor, generosity, kindness. You get the drift. It has taken me so long to write anything because my heart is still so broken. He was my best friend and daughter Heather's God-Father, Uncle Alf. My son Ryan will barely remember this truly remarkable man. So sad. Heaven is lucky. So, Allen, I say to you "If you would have lived to be 100, I would have wanted to live to be 100 minus 1 day, so I would never have to have lived without you." With a toast in hand, I love you and look forward to being with you again when it's my turn. Your ever-loving sister.
Linda Fish
January 25, 2002
My heart grieves for all of the families that lost loved one. I have cried many, many tears for you. As hard as I try I can not imagine all of the feelings you have experienced and will continue to experience. I pray for each of you. I pray peace will come to you and that the memories you have will fill your heart.
Teresa Jahn
December 8, 2001
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Cindy Harmon Huftalen
December 1, 2001
Words can not express the sadness that I feel. I met Allen in 1976 at Brockport and we became friends for life. I feel so blessed to be able to say I knew this wonderful man. There isn't a day that goes by since September 11 that I don't think of him and miss him. He made me smile and laugh for 26 years. I know that heaven is now serving vodka and everyone there is having more fun then they ever thought possible. I miss your phone calls once a week and our silly times we shared. Until I see you again.
I'll always love you,
Cindy Harmon Huftalen
Rohan
November 22, 2001
I first met Allie one evening in Sep of 1987. Along with two other young Australians, I was fresh off the boat and had started working in a joint venture with Telerate, which was where Jackie worked. Allie had arranged a night out on the town to celebrate Jackie’s birthday. In what I would come to realize was typical Allie fashion, he arrived in style in a stretch limo to pick us up. We went to Ben Bensons, one of New York City’s finest Steakhouses where we met 20 other people for dinner. The waiters knew Allie and he was treated like royalty. Allie picked up the tab in the first of endless examples of his generosity that I have seen over the years.
From the moment I met Allie he was larger than life. He loved the finest things, he was always the center of any party and he was someone who gave more of himself to others than anyone else I know.
Howard Yager
November 15, 2001
I will miss Allen. When I married into his family, I thought I was getting a great brother-in-law... instead I got a wonderful brother. Allen, you were always there for me, and I will not forget you. I am sorry that Robert did not get to spend more time with you, but I will make sure that he will always know of how special you were to Vic and I.
Jortiz Ortiz
November 15, 2001
My wife and I had just told Allen he was going to be my son's Godfather, He was so excited, I will always remember that. This is a great loss to my me, my son and my family, you will be deeply missed and forever remembered. Thanks for all you help.
Gabrielle Ortiz
November 15, 2001
Allen was more than a friend he was my brother and I will always love and miss him more than words can say.
Merlette
November 13, 2001
Have I got stories for you! I have got over two months worth! Miss you.
M'ette
Merlette Black
November 13, 2001
I'll see you in Paris, Merle. Love, M'ette
Allen and Robert in 1999
Victoria Yager
November 13, 2001
A little memory of Allen with Robert.
Victoria Yager
November 13, 2001
A little memory of Allen with Robert.
Victoria Yager
November 13, 2001
My brother Allen was always someone who helped others. He never advertised the fact that he helped so many people in so many different ways. He never talked about his numerous acts of kindness such as giving money to anyone who needed it, taking care of all of his god children, his warm words, his advice, his foster children, his donations the list goes, on and on. I am sure if you met Allen you were touched by his kindness. He had a gift to make people feel special no matter who you were.
We all will miss Allen. I will miss him because he was my best friend, friends like Allen don't come along too often, and I was very lucky to have him in my life. I love you Allen.
Paul Kapp
October 15, 2001
My wife Lisa and I will sorely miss Allen, he attended our wedding and was a wonderful kind hearted man. We have just returned from a year in Florida and were planning an evening with Allen when this tragedy occurred. I am very sad that I will not see him again.
Paul Kapp
Tim Farrell
October 15, 2001
Allen was a dear friend of my sister.
She always told me of the generousity that Allen showed her and her husband. My sister and Allen attended SUNY Brockport. We are all saddened at him untimely demise.
God bless him.
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