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Douglas Farnum Obituary
Douglas J. Farnum opened a comic book store with a partner, tried his hand at stand-up comedy and worked at a series of bagel shops in Brooklyn, concocting sandwiches that sold like crazy.
Shortly after meeting Amy Leong, Mr. Farnum, 33, of Brooklyn, decided he wanted to be able to support a family. He asked his friend Gabriel Polmar to teach him about computers, and ended up finding work as a software specialist for Marsh & McLennan. He developed a talent for finding ways to make incompatible systems work, finding "that the incompetence of others provided him with a challenge," Mr. Polmar said.
Last year, Mr. Farnum and Ms. Leong married. Some things did not change. He continued to find pleasure in comic books, parking-lot frisbee games and the aisles of Toys "R" Us, where the couple acted "like two big kids," Mrs. Farnum said.
Still, some things changed. Mr. Farnum quit smoking and started driving like an old man — a far cry from the stomach-churning old days, Mr. Polmar said. "I have too much to lose," Mr. Farnum had explained.
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Ilene Simnowitz
September 11, 2023
Doug; In behalf of your friend Stu I’m sending his wonderful remembrances of you - and in a way I know you’ve met “up there “ and will continue your friendship
Cindy Roe
September 11, 2021
Remembering Douglas on the 20th anniversary of 9/11...
rachel haverly
September 11, 2020
Dear Mrs Farnum,
Our deepest condolences to you. I can't believe its been 19 years. My husband Lane worked with Douglas at American Express and we were at your wedding reception and also came to his funeral. We remember his great sense of humor and zest for life. He was taken too soon and we will not forget him. Our deepest condolences to you and to his family.
Rachel Haverly
The Kindred Family
January 19, 2020
We send our continued deep sympathy to your family. Doug is still very sadly missed and not forgotten. Always may God give the help needed to cope.
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The Kindred Family
January 16, 2020
Sending our deepest thoughts of condolence to your family. Words express how others feel but they can never remove the deep pain of loss. Daily may God give the help needed to continue to cope. Douglas is still very sadly missed and never forgotten.
Greg Farnum
September 11, 2019
I miss you more as time passes
stacy grossman
September 11, 2019
Is it really 18 years ago today that my mom-Douglas's aunt Cindy told me they can't find Douglas. I didn't want to hear that. I said don't worry mom-they'll find him. But they never did. Now he is with my aunt Carol & my mom Cindy. My heart will always have a special place for Douglas & aunt Carol. May they rest in peace & watch over us forever. Gone but never, never forgotten!
j k
September 10, 2019
Doug, hard to believe its been 18 years since your gone, I remember the day you were born. I think about you all the time and still bust out laughing everytime I think about that day on the train coming home from Chinatown, you know what Im talking about, the night you dropped your pizza on the beach when we were fishing,and all the other crazy times we spent together. Rest in Peace we will party together again some day.
Debbie A
September 13, 2017
I walked the stairs at Chase Phoenix Tower in remembrance of you and all who died, served, or lost lives on 9-11. I will NEVER forget!
Greg Farnum
September 11, 2015
Still loving you
Chris Garaizar
April 11, 2012
You were a great guy, our time together was hilarious, you will be missed.
Sandy Anger-Barrett
September 11, 2011
10 years ago you died... but your spirit is still here. We love you and miss you very much...
Jim Jackson
September 11, 2011
I too have worn the bracelet inscribed with the name: Douglas J. Farnum since that horrific day 10 years ago. Although I didn't him personally, my thoughts and prayers have been with him and his family for the past 10 years. He will never be forgotten...even by a stranger 1,000 miles away. God be with you.
Janine Roberts
September 11, 2011
Every September since 2001, I have worn a silver band inscribed with the name of your loved one, Douglas J. Farnum, a man I never knew; my sister, Monica Maluy, of Greenwich Village, sent this gift to me as a remembrance of that terrible day. I proudly wear Doug's name and have shared his story and that of September 11 with many of my high school history students. My beloved sister died a year ago, so now this bracelet carries a double meaning for me. I hope you will find comfort in knowing that the name of this unique man will be honored for many years to come by my family, and he will not be forgotten.
September 5, 2011
I didn't know Douglas personally but I want you to know that I am praying for him and his family to cope with his loss. He is in heaven along witht he other victims of this horrific tragedy. God Bless!
Sandy Anger
September 11, 2009
I grew up with the craziness and I miss it like crazy. You will never be forgotten and you will always be in our hearts.
Joe Molion
September 11, 2009
Still missing you bro. Don't worry, you're not forgoten. Love you, god keep you.
Melanie Haehner
September 11, 2008
Mrs. Farnum,
You do not know me but today I am honoring your husband in Akron Ohio. I am so sorry for your loss but proud to honor his name.
God Bless you and your family
Melanie
Steve Barton
February 13, 2007
Though we only met a few times while hanging out with Adrienne, I still just wanted to let you know all these years later that you were an incredible guy.
Rest in Peace, brother.
Kristine
October 25, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
October 3, 2006
In memory....
Judge Gonz
July 16, 2006
Everyone here at Lethal misses you, Doug.
We miss your humorous posts, and your "Brooklyn" website, and your showing up late at night on instant messenger to talk about everything and anything.
None of us will ever forget the happiness you brought to us all, and can only hope you're in a better place, providing the "LOL" for everyone else.
God speed, my friend.
Doug Halpin
September 11, 2003
Doug,
You will always be remembered. I miss you my friend.
Doug
Tracy Romano
September 11, 2002
Douglas J. Farnum may you rest in peace! Mrs. Farnum my prayers are with you, but please know that I do believe in angels, and I believe that Douglas is now your guardian angel for the rest of your life until you meet again. God Bless you and your family.
Betsy McCreary
September 8, 2002
My husband, John, will be wearing a heart badge with Doug's name on it while he plays the organ for the Hawaii performance of the Rolling Requiem at Kawaiaha'o Church the morning of 9/11/02.
Kristen Chaison-Sieck
June 3, 2002
To the Farnum Family,
Not a day goes by that I don't think about Doug and the loved ones left behind. The world has lost a wonderful person. Every day I ask myself " for what reason" Doug now knows the answer. He now knows what peace is. May God foever hold you deep in his heart.
Kristen
Boca Raton, Florida
Angie G
May 26, 2002
Doug, I never met you. I only know a friend of yours. You touched his life so much, that you touched mine. Thank you for being you, and so very special. Where you are now, I hope you continue to impact people, and leave them smiling.
Angie Campbell
April 25, 2002
May God bless you and the ones that you left behind on 9/11/01. Rest in his loving peace forever.
Alexander Feldman
April 19, 2002
I knew Doug only for a short time. I could not belive he was gone, hoping he turns out ok. Doug was such a lover of life, always full of optimism and humor,quintessential New-Yorker. He will be missed.
Adrienne Cammarata
March 11, 2002
Although time and distance separates us we can never forget the days our children all played together on 28th St. Our deepest sorrow and condolences to the Farnum Family on the loss of Doug.
Nora L
January 19, 2002
Amy,
Although I was only beginning to get to know Doug when he joined our family, his energy and spirit remains in my mind. He will be missed by all of us. My prayers are with him as well as with you always. Your strong spirit will carry on and persevere.
With Love,
-Nora
Rabbi Vicki Lieberman nee Fleischman
January 18, 2002
Dear Mrs Farnum and Greg,
My mother told me of your tremendous loss and we were quite shocked. Not really knowing what would be a correct response. My memories of Douglas are childhood memories and they are very sweet. I wish it had been only good news to encourage me to let me know what fond memories I have of your family and of being in your home ( the one with the cat outside)and spending many an afternoon sneaking food to Greg when he was hopspitalized after the bike accident. A colleague sent me this website...
and maybe you will visit it
Many prayers, Vicki
January 16, 2002
MAY GOD SHINE HIS LIGHT ON DOUGLAS
J.FARNUM AND MAY HE REST IN PEACE
WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS
HIS WIFE AND FAMILY AND FRIENDS.GOD
BLESS HIS BIG HEART..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..AMEN
Teresa Jahn
January 2, 2002
What a warm smile Douglas has. It must reflect his heart. May his smile, life and love live on in those who love him. May the sorrow in your hearts be lightened by warm memories of times shared. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
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