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That was no mere December snowstorm. Screaming wind, blankets of snow, visibility zilch. Blizzard.
So where else would Stephen Lauria be on that day in 2000 but in the thick of it, the first one at the road race, the volunteer timekeeper? After all, it had been two whole days since he had been released from the hospital following minor heart surgery.
Mr. Lauria, 39, who had moved a few years earlier from Binghamton to Staten Island, where he had grown up, resumed the running he had last done seriously in parochial school.
Only now, he approached it whole-heartedly: he volunteered at races every Saturday, he socialized with runners, he gave pep talks to high school runners and, running daily after work as a project manager for Marsh & McLennan, he flew around courses with the intensity of a man aware that his own father had died of a heart attack at 44.
Although he ran after life with a single- mindedness, planning 20 years ago to learn about computers and finance, Mr. Lauria was funny and upbeat, like his mother, Antoinette. Girlfriends leaned on him for support, buddies tapped him for financial advice.
He loved giving advice, too, especially to fellow human greyhounds: Don't look over your shoulder during a race, he would say. You'll lose 10 seconds.
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Kristen Baumgartner
September 12, 2024
Stephen Lauria was my godfather and my uncle. I was two years old when he passed. He was my mother´s cousin and he was like a brother to her. We all miss him dearly and the memory of him will forever live in our hearts.
Tom
March 27, 2024
Steve´s impact on the lives of others goes on.
Leslie Honcharik
October 21, 2022
Continued condolences to all who knew and continue to miss Steve in their lives. America will not forget him and all the victims of 9/11.
Cherie Vodopia
September 11, 2021
I met Steve at IBM Owego. I will never forget.....may he always Rest In Peace
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October 8, 2019
May Stephen be at peace.
• A Toronto Resident
The Kindred Family
December 22, 2018
Sending our continued deep sympathy to your family. There aren't any words that will ever remove the pain of this sad tragedy so may God continue to give the support needed to cope. Steve is still sadly missed. May the time finally come when these kinds of violent acts are ended for all time.
September 9, 2014
Rest in Peace Steve, You will never be forgotten........Lisa R.
S J. Friscia III
April 30, 2014
In Memory
With Honor & Respect.
November 3, 2011
My daughter and I selected Stephen's flag from a memorial we attended on Sept 11, 2011. I wanted to find him online and came across this site. I have a good friend who lost her husband that day in 2001. We will never forget.
Trevor Francois
September 11, 2011
Stephen, we talked on many occasions about the NYC Marathon and you decided to stay in NYC and train for it. Now, every year of the NYC marathon I think of you.
James Knipper
September 11, 2011
Missing you today and everyday. Its been 10 years and you are forever in our hearts and prayers. Rest easy Stephen!
Brian Altschul
September 11, 2011
Still thinking of you.
September 12, 2009
I was lucky enough to be selected to read Stephen's name at ground zero this year! My thoughts are with all who knew him! We will never forget!
Sincerely,
Elizabeth Ketelsen
P Tabbernor
December 4, 2006
In remembrance....
Kristine
November 10, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Nathaniel Gualberto
September 11, 2005
I send my deepest condolences to the family, friends, and acquaintances of Stephen James Lauria. Of all men, he was singularly unique in his accomplishments, passions, joys, and experiences. His life was rich and eloquent, and we are proud to have shared the world with him. I only wish that the deep memory of him may soothe your pain and bring him ever closer to you.
kris allen
September 13, 2002
Dear Ann,
My daughter and I sang Mozart's Requiem on September 11 along with thousands of people around the world in many nations. It was called a "Rolling Requiem" because it was performed at the same time in different time zones. Each of us in our choir wore the name of someone who perished. My daughter wore your Stephen's name and I wore another Steve's name. We all wore the clothes that we wear to work. There were about seventy five singers representing many walks of life. Backstage before singing we all shared what we knew about the person who's name we were wearing. It was the most emotional and beautiful concert I have ever been a part of. The concert hall was full and so the music was broadcast outdoors as well and also broadcast on our local cable station. People listened from rooftops and sidewalks and from the small city park next door. I think it can be said that every singer, every orchestra member, the conductor, the audience, the ushers, the lighting technician, the sound techs....everyone put their heart and soul into the honor of remembering all who passed away.
I know that these are just words but I wanted to let you know as one mother to another that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Kris Allen
Claire Ratcliff
September 11, 2002
Two days ago, a church in my town was handing out one American flag for each person lost on September 11th. Accompanying each flag was a postcard with a name and information of that person. I got Stephen's. The card requests that I pray specifically for Stephen's family each week for one year and especially on holidays. Although I never knew Stephen, I know that my thoughts will be with his family for years to come. I thought I was fortunate not to have known anyone who perished. But now I have a connection to someone who did. He will be remembered - even by those who never knew him.
Brian Altschul
September 11, 2002
I met Steve on the first day Lockheed Martin came to Livingston Street in Brooklyn. It was an introductory meeting of all of the people that were to work on the project on the Lockheed side and the NYC Transit side. He worked for Lockheed, I for Transit. He was the assistant project manager and so was I. He became the project manager, so did I.
But, back to when we first met, when I first shook Steve's hand, he was sure he had met me before. I looked at him unsure and thought that it was possible. We started running down the possibilities. Where did you grow up? Staten Island. Me too! Where did you go to college? Syracuse University. Me too! We had to know each other. But we didn't. Steve was four years ahead of me. And he went to Farrell while I went to Port Richmond HS. Actually, he was at Syracuse while I was in high school. And I wasn't a runner. Our paths NEVER crossed, until that day.
We were instantly friends. We both liked discussing the idiocy of the stock market and of course our beloved Orangemen! We went to games together, Big East Tourney, Kickoff Classic, Rutgers (ugh!). We watched games together, sneaking off at lunch to see our team play in the 1st round of the NCAA Tourney.
Steve wanted me to work with him. I very nearly did, his boss really liked me. His bosses boss did not. I didn't get the job. I know I would have been there with Steve on that day if I had been offered and taken that job. I don't look at that with one bit of relief.
I worked and still work downtown. I saw way too much that day to ever feel normal about the situation. The days that followed were hectic as I tried to get my companies' computer system back up and running in a remote location. Then the Jewish holidays came. I missed all of Steve's memorials. But he was always in my thoughts and prayers, and he still is.
Steve, I love you and I miss you.
Ann Lauria
August 12, 2002
Dear Peter Marotta:
Thank you for your remarks about my son, Stephen, I do appreciate it. He was my only son, whom I miss dearly, but I know he is in a better place with his dad - that is my consolation. Thanks for your prayers. Did you see the article at NYTimes.com about him? I hope you have a good life and a loving family.
Peter Marotta
May 29, 2002
Steve was a team mate of mine on the Monsignor Farrell HS Track team. I remember him as a quiet, hard working runner and a good guy. He would counsel and teach the younger guys. He was an asset to our team and our school. I hope God has accepted him into his loving arms. I pray for his family.
Palma & Tony Pernice
March 12, 2002
We lived across from the Jim & Ann Lauria and Stephen & Cathy for many years. We have many good memories which we will never forget. I remember Stephen as a cute little boy who was very sensitive and always cried easily. We all moved away, but we always kept in touch. Rest in peace Stephen. We are so sorry to hear of your passing. All our love and condolences to your family.
Love Palma & Tony Pernice
DONNA PERNICE-CARDINALI
March 12, 2002
I GREW UP IN THE BRONX ACROSS THE STREET FROM STEPHEN. HIS FAMILY AND MINE WERE VERY CLOSE. HE WAS THE CUTE LITTLE BROTHER OF MY FRIEND CATHY. FOR TEN YEARS, WE SHARED SO MANY GREAT TIMES. THE BEST OF OUR LIVES. STEPHEN WAS THE LONE METS FAN IN A YANKEE NEIGHBORHOOD. I REMEMBER THE TIME HE RAN RIGHT THROUGH THE SCREEN DOOR, THE TIME A FIRECRACKER EXPLODED IN HIS HAND, THE TIME HIS AUNT'S DOG, NAPOLEAN NIPPED HIS CHEEK. SADLY, I REMEMBER THE DAY HIS FATHER JIM DIED, AND OUR LIVES CHANGED. I KNEW HE HAD GROWN INTO A FINE MAN, FROM THE CONTACT OUR MOTHERS HAD. I JUST LEARNED OF HIS PASSING YESTERDAY, AND TODAY I WISH THAT WE COULD HAVE GOTTEN TOGETHER TO REMINISCE ABOUT THOSE DAYS IN THE BRONX. I ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT WE WOULD. SOMEDAY, I AM SURE WE WILL MEET AGAIN. TO ANN, HIS MOM, I AM SO SORRY. I WILL BE IN TOUCH.
February 19, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL GENTLEMAN...STEPHEN JAMES LAURIA..MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..MAY JESUS ST.STEPHEN AND ST.JAMES GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN..AMEN
Anthony Pernice
January 29, 2002
I remember the time we attended a Mets/Expos game at Shea with our dads. Stephen couldn't have been more than six at the time. We were seated along the left field line enjoying batting practice, when an outfielder caught a fly and strolled over to a crowd of us who were begging with outstretched mitts for that prized souvenier. The player took the ball and gently placed it in the small hands of Stephen, who was quietly watching the events from a safe distance. I have not seen or heard from Stephen since he left the Bronx some 30 odd years ago, but from reading his bio I can see that he attained success all through his life the same way he did in securing that baseball. God bless you, Stephen. You are an important part of my past and I will never forget you.
Cassandra Vaughn
January 29, 2002
We in Owego, where he worked for so many years at IBM, will never forget him. Never.
Lisa Maloney
January 14, 2002
I'm a good friend of Steve's girlfriend Debbie Mahr.
I can't express how much I miss seeing him and hearing the nice stories
that I would hear from Debbie of the events they shared together.
We've gotten together on a few occassions and always had a good time.
He really brightened up a room with his smile and humor. I miss our good conversations.
It's still so hard to believe he is gone. He is missed a lot. My heart goes out to Steve's mom and
his whole family and of course his girlfriend Debbie.
Ann Lauria
January 8, 2002
Thank you, Lisa Rigolini and the S.I.Athletic Club for your entry in the guest book at this site, regarding my son, Stephen Lauria. He was a friend to all, and I appreciate your thoughts and prayers for him.
Fred Rigolini
January 8, 2002
Steve Was a great guy who only had kind things to say about everyone around him. I will always remember his great sense of humor and love of life and running. May God bless Steve Lauria.
Alma Ramos
January 8, 2002
Steve was a wonderful guy. A true brother. I miss him dearly.
Lisa Rigolini
January 8, 2002
Steve Lauria was a great person and athlete. The Staten Island Athletic Club will always remember him and his dedication to running. He will always be on our minds and in our hearts.
Teresa Jahn
December 26, 2001
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
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