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Paul Barbaro Obituary
Even as a boy growing up on Staten Island, Paul Barbaro was always taking care of other people. He would shovel the snow off a neighbor's driveway free of charge and would often stay up late into the night to comfort an ailing grandmother, said his father, Nicholas.
Mr. Barbaro, 35, was a soft-spoken man and a perfectionist, whether he was painting his parents' kitchen or labeling moving cartons. An hour-and-a-half drive with Mr. Barbaro could take three hours. "He would have to pull over at every scenic lookout," said Daniel Macri, a friend since high school. "He had to be a pain in the neck a little bit."
Mr. Barbaro, a software engineer, designed trading platforms for some of the biggest companies on Wall Street. In December, he joined eSpeed, a division of Cantor Fitzgerald, and in August, he and his wife, Kim, moved from Staten Island to Holmdel, N.J. When he worked around the house, his sons, Paul William, 5, and Joseph Nicholas, 2 1/2, would trail after him wearing toy tool belts. "Anything he did, they were right behind him," said Mr. Barbaro's brother, Nicholas Jr.
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Mayer Hawkins
September 11, 2024
Prayers for the Barbaro family today. I can’t imagine what you guys are going through. I learned about Paul today through school and I wanted to look him up and see all the great things that he did, and he sure did a lot.
Joe
September 19, 2023
I grew up knowing Paul´s oldest son. He was one of the kindest kids I ever met.
I live in the financial district of Manhattan now. I walk through ground zero every day on the way to work. Not a day goes by without me feeling the presence of the angels at that site.
Rest easy, Paul. May your memory be eternal.
September 12, 2023
Remembering you, Paul. Rest in Peace in the most wonderful heaven.
Dan Ricchiuti
December 4, 2022
My family and I went to the 9/11 Memorial. We picked a random name from the memorial to learn about this person who died in the tragedy. We want you and your family know that Paul’s story touched us. Seems like he was a great person. Hope that you all have found comfort from your terrible loss.
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Cindy Roe
August 31, 2021
Remembering Paul on the 20th anniversary of 9/11....
Munazir Hashim
September 11, 2020
Paul, you and Jim have always been in my thoughts, and specially on this day every year my heart feels heavier. Each and every time I visited Optimark, you, Jim and Dave went out of the way to make me feel comfortable and at home. Your faces are etched in my memory from those days we used to dig through DS code, and made me feel like I had known all of you forever. My heart felt condolences to your family. Rest in peace.
matteo barbaro
September 17, 2019
I will never forget all that was lost that day, and may you rest in peace paul. You will never be forgotten
Bill Lyon
September 10, 2019
Not forgotten, Paul. Not even close.
August 6, 2019
Paul, I am sorry you perished on sept. 11th. Your time on earth ended too soon. If you were a Giants fan, I know they won 2 Super Bowls in 2007 and 11. You would have been so thrilled to see them win.
Always rest with our Almighty Lord.
Michele Dominguez
January 6, 2016
I recently visited the 9/11 memorial with my family. My father was there that fateful morning and was one of the few lucky ones who survived. We took my 6 year old son, also named Vincent, who has been very curious about the events of this day and has asked a lot of questions. He immediately saw the name Paul Vincent Barbaro and said "Look Mom, he has the same name as me". I was able to find information on you online and was able to tell my son about your amazing life and what a great person and family man you were. We were all saddened that this act of terrorism took an incredible person away from his loving family and this world. But thank you for being that person that allowed my son to learn that this horrific event in history took the lives of real people who were making incredible changes in this world. Thank you Paul Vincent Barbaro- we will never forget you.
Del Newberry
September 16, 2015
I look at these legacy pages every day, and see that Paul, like me, married a Kim. I pray today for the family, friends and co-workers who lost such a kind and intelligent man on that awful day. Thinking of you all, with much love from Texas
January 11, 2015
Paul,
Think of you often and am proud to call you my cousin when conversations of that day arise...Keeping you in our prayers. Love Cousin Tom and Liza Gilmartin
July 12, 2014
Always thought of you Paul. God bless. Rest in peace.
Barbara Boam
January 7, 2013
I walked a mile for you (mile #127) on 1/7/13 as a dedication to your life.
Kymberli Colbourne
September 11, 2011
We hold you in our hearts.
D'Anna Barbaro
September 3, 2011
Hi im D'Anna Barbaro. I never met paul but my father told me we were distance cousins. i wish i knew him he sounds like an amazing man and when i saw we had the same last name on the memorial itmade me want to cry. god bless you and your family. i hope we can meet one day im 16 years old and livein nj :)
Mark Hatalak
March 3, 2011
I used to work with Paul at Fd Consulting. We shared the same office.
He was a kind and intelligent man who was always ready to lend a helping hand wherever
it was needed. I just recently found out that Paul was killed during the 911 carnage.
I hope his family has been able to endure, during his absence, these many years. He is
and will continue to be missed. My heart felt condolences to his family.
Anonymous
February 10, 2011
Im sorry for this loss for the whole Barabro family, God bless his 2 sons paul and Joseph.
Jason Barbaro
September 11, 2009
I stumbled on this site today and after reading the entries family and strangers left, was moved to leave a message myself. Paul was my cousin, and although I never met him, I am moved to sadness for him and all of the people lost on this tragic day. To all of the Barbaro family, in NY, TX and FL, and to all of the family's who lost loved ones on that day, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Doug Abraham
May 27, 2009
Happy Birthday!!!
matty barbaro
October 2, 2008
paul,We know that you are in good hands,and you will always be rememberd,bless you.Your cousin Matty Barbaro
Anthony Barbaro
September 11, 2008
My prayers go out to all of our family today. Although we have all gone our separate ways, we will always remain thankfull for the family we have. After 7 years, WE WILL NEVER FORGET!!! Paul, may you rest in Peace, and watch over the rest of us!
Doug Abraham
May 27, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
Brandon Bepko
October 20, 2006
The city of Lubbock, TX performed a memorial for 9/11 soon after the event occurred. My family decided we needed a flag from that memorial to remind us everyday to cherish our freedom. Paul V. Barbaro has been the symbol for our family and his name has remained on our fridge everyday since we brought the flag home. I just thought it would be comforting to know that thousands of miles away and years later there is a family that never met Paul, but remembers him.
Kristine
October 13, 2006
As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vane. We will always remember.
Sal LoBaido
September 12, 2006
TO THE ENTIRE BARBARO FAMILY,YOU ALL HAVE BEEN IN MY THOUGHTS SINCE HEARING OF YOUR LOSS OF PAUL.I TRULY HOPE MY THOUGHTS AND CONDOLENCES HAVE REACHED YOU OVER THE PAST 5 YEARS THROUGH MUTUAL FRIENDS.I KNEW PAUL A LONG TIME,WAY BACK IN CONCORD DAYS WHEN I STAYED AT MY AUNT ARLENES HOUSE.HE WAS A GREAT KID THEN AND AFTER HIS MOVING INTO DONGAN HILLS I WATCHED HIM GROW INTO A GREAT GUY.MY CONDOLENCES ALSO GO OUT TO HIS WIFE AND CHILDREN WHOM I'VE NEVER MET.TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES AND EACH OTHER....SINCERELY,
Lori Russick
September 11, 2006
God Bless Your Family...we will not forget!
Lori
Don Marino
September 8, 2006
On the eve of the five-year anniversary of your death, my thoughts and prayers are of you, Paul. May you rest in peace with God.
P Tabbernor
August 21, 2006
In memory....
Michael Provitera
February 11, 2006
I knew Paul as a young up and coming professional even as a little boy. I really do not understand how these things happen and why but I can say that Heaven must be a greater place than earth if God called him at such a young age. God's speed to his wonderful family.
Michael Provitera
laura barbaro
November 27, 2003
Happy Thanksgiving in Heaven Cousin Paul xoxo
Bill Hebner
September 11, 2003
Paul,
Although we never were more than classmates, I will never forget how you usually had a smile on your face. I was shocked to find your name in the Advance following the tragedy. I didn't know what to do. I just came across this site today, 9/11/03, and felt compelled to add my thoughts and offer my condolences to your family and friends. You will not be forgotten.
DIANE MILES
March 17, 2003
I wish Paul's family the strength to get threw this
DIANE MILES
March 17, 2003
My friend has Paul's mecy band our thoughts are with the family
Paul Mazza
September 11, 2002
I knew Paul from the neighborhood growing up in Staten Island. I went to grammar school with his sister. Paul was the type of person that from the moment you met him you knew what he was, a good, kind and thoughtful person. I used to work for Cantor. I left 5 years ago. When the attacks occurred I did not know that Paul was working there. When my mother came down to New Jersey and showed me a picture of him in the Staten Island advance as being one of the victims it took me totally by surprise. Today, a year later, when I think of this tragedy I think of Paul first. I think of the article in the times about his two boys following him around when he worked around the house and I think of my two boys and how September 11 changed all of our lives. My prayers go out to his wife and sons as well as the rest of his family.
DIANE mILES
September 10, 2002
My heart and thoughts are with the Barbaro family during this special and heart breaking day, a year later. I will think of you every day that I wear my mercy band. God bless. Diane
Bryan Barbaro
July 9, 2002
My heart goes out to, maybe not a blood relative, nor even a family relative, but a brother in life.
Im so sorry. With love Bryan Barbaro and the Barbaro family Winchester Ma.
Diane Miles
May 25, 2002
My thoughts are with the Barbaro family and Paul's boys. So much they will miss without their father. I do not know Paul, but have his name on my mercy band.
Patrice Provitera
May 16, 2002
I grew up on Rhine Avenue in Staten Island with Paul and his lovely family. My best friend was his sister, Jackie. He used to be the little brother I always wanted. He was so cute! Jackie and I used to make believe we were the Osmonds and put on a show for Paul, and he always would clap and laugh. His family welcomed me and his father, Mr. Barbaro, was the father I always wanted. I always hoped Mr. B would be proud of me. He was so loving, and I'm sure was so proud of Paul. This whole thing is so sad, and so tough to comprehend. When I think about Jackie and the whole family, I know they must be finding it difficult to cope. I, as Michael DiBrizzi, wanted so much to be at the memorial for Paul, but had to attend another memorial that day (Peter Vega) and attempted to do both, but didn't. I will always regret that they did not see how I felt for them. I just want Kim and the boys to know that their dad was sweet and nice, his WHOLE LIFE, even as a 3 year old boy!
Barry Harrison
April 30, 2002
Paul and I worked at Merrill and remained friends and in touch for a period afterwards. It's easy to idealize people after they are gone, but Paul really was a special person.
We did some consulting work together after we both left Merrill, where we had to spend a number of days working through the night to meet a deadline. I remember walking around the streets of New Rochelle, NY at about 4am one morning trying to wake ourselves up. We were past the point of making sense at all and just laughing like two 10 year olds.
We took our kids pumpkin picking one year when they were younger. I remember how gentle he was with my extremely shy daughter. I have a picture of her standing in the pumpkin patch, and while he's cut off in the picture, the piece of him you see is his hand brushing the hair out of her face while I took the picture. All this time later, I still am somehow moved by that simple gesture.
To Kim, the boys and his entire family, I think about him all the time, and have and will continue to say many prayers for you all. I can't imagine what you have been through. God Bless.
Michael Iezzi
April 25, 2002
Father we entrust our brother Paul to your mercy. You loved him greatly in this life: now that he is freed from all its cares, give him happiness and peace forever. Welcome him now into paradise where there will be no more sorrow, no more weeping or pain, but only peace and joy with Jesus your Son, and the Holy Spirit forever and ever.
Gerald Politano
April 19, 2002
I had the pleasure of getting to know Paul during his brief tenure at Merrill Lynch some years back. Paul headed up a group of programmers who were designing a new bond trading system, and I as a trader's assistant at the time, ended up working closely with him.
Paul's demeanor and sense of humor made the most of an otherwise dreary task. Despite only knowing him for that short period of time, I felt compelled to attend the memorial service - and I'm glad I did. The standing-room-only crowd that packed the church confirmed what I expected, that everyone who knew him will sorely miss him.
Paul - On behalf of all of us at Merrill who had the privelege of meeting you, we wish you peace in heaven. We hope your children will truly understand how special their dad was.
Sal Martorano
March 24, 2002
Paul and I were good friends. I whish now I could say we were closer friends. He was my neighbor and my co-workwer. Actually you really can't describe what we did as work. We painted together for my father's company. Mostly what we did was laugh every day for as long as he worked with us. From paint fights to food fights every day was hysterical. I'm sure my dad didn't always think so but we got the job done.......eventually. We didn't see much of each other after that. We both grew up and had families and I guess we had other priorities. We didn't keep in touch. But now, not a day goes by that I don't think of Paul. Strange how things happen. I think of Paul and his beautiful family, but not for long. I can't. I want to remember only the laughter. All my prayers, every day, from your old friend;
SAL
Robert Baiera
March 23, 2002
This is incredibly hard for me, because Paul was my first cousin. My father is Carol Barbaro's brother.
Paul was an incredibly kind, funny, sweet guy. I have so much pain in my heart for my Aunt and Uncle, for Kim,her sons,and Tommy Jackie, and Nicholas.
I have been working very close to ground zero. With that and passing the sculpture at Battery Park, plus going on the N or r everyday several times, my thaughts are always on Paul. I was in the trade center on Sept 10th, and I think that if i was there on the 11th it could have been me. I often think it would have been better. Poor Paul didn't deserve that. None of the people who died that day did.
Now when i think of paul, a song by EricClapton comes to my mind. The song is "Tears in Heaven " "Will you know my name if i saw you in heaven." Paul, if you can know i am thinking of you,we all miss you, and i need you to put in a good word for me. I will need it.
Love Cousin Rob
Joseph DePinto
March 19, 2002
I never met Paul, even though we are 3rd cousins. Our grandfathers were brothers. I have a picture of my grandfather Matthew and his brother Thomas on a wall in my hallway and I look at it often. How hurt and confused they would have been to experience what we did on 9-11. They only knew one thing..family. We have a very large extended family but the Barbaro brothers gave us something that can never stop...the love of family. Paul will live on in every person he touched. As well as the far off cousins who never knew him personally but know what it is to be family. My love to Paul's family.
Barbara Macri-Cannizzo
March 13, 2002
My thoughts and prayers go out to the Barbaro family.
Michael DiBrizzi
February 17, 2002
I grew up with Paul in Staten Island and lived on the same street, Rhine Ave. Throughout grammer school we were very close since we were in the same class at St. Sylvester's. He was always a great friend, with an incredible sense of humor. Unfortunately, when we went to different high schools, we drifted apart as friends, and I subsequently moved away from S.I. I wish I could have gone to the memorial for him on S.I. but I was attending a funeral that day for a fellow Police Officer that I worked with who was also killed in the Trade Center (P.O. Glen Pettit). He will always be in my thoughts and prayers, and I cherish the memories of growing up together. God Bless.
LAURA BARBARO
February 5, 2002
PAUL WAS MY COUSIN, WE LIVE IN FLORIDA NOW,SO WE ARE FAR AWAY FROM OUR FAMILY.JUST WOULD LIKE TO SAY WE LOVE ALL OF YOU. AND ARE PRAYING FOR YOU EVERY DAY,HOPING THIS WAS ALL A MISTAKE..GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU, AND GOD BLESS AMERICA.LOVE COUSIN LAURA,MARIE, BILL & ANNMARIE XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX
Silvia DiPlacido
January 15, 2002
I had last seen Paul on graduation day from St. Sylvester's and my memory of him was always of a sweet and incredibly smart guy. Although I haven't seen him since graduation, I knew all about his life through my family.
In the early 80's, Paul worked with my sister at a department store in Staten Island. Up until a couple of years ago, his sister lived across the street from my parents. He met my sister again as they were both preparing to baptize their children in the same church.
The impression he left upon my family was exactly the same
one he left upon me so many years ago.
We were all terribly saddened to hear he was one of the victims.
Our thoughts and prayers go out to his family.
AnnMarie Babino-Murphy
January 12, 2002
I remember Paul when we were younger. Our parents got together for coffee and we all sat down and watched television together. That was a long time ago. Our dads worked together. There are no words to express how I feel. May God be with your family. i know you are watching over them.
Teresa Jahn
January 9, 2002
We are very sorry for your loss of Paul. May his enjoyment of savoring life's beauty, his warm heart, life and love continue living in his children and in those who love him. May the sorrow in your hearts by lightened by warm memories of times shared. Our hearts cry with you in your loss of Paul.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Anne (Cassissa) Giambrone
December 26, 2001
I knew Paul when I was a teenager hanging out in S.I. He was a great guy, always smiling. When I saw him in the hallway at work I was so happy to see him . He didn't change at all. I was so happy to hear that he married Kim and that he had two beautiful boys. Paul was a wonderful person. My prayers go out to Kim and her sons and all of Paul's family and friends. God bless. I will miss his quiet way and great smile.
IRENE STAPINSKI
December 5, 2001
GOD BLESS PAUL V.BARBARO MAY HE REST
IN PEACE.GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND
FRIENDS.GOD BLESS AMERICA AND MAY WE
NEVER FORGET 9/11/01
November 15, 2001
Mr. Barbaro's family , I didn't know Paul but I am sure I would have liked him. He contributed in his death to making America a better place to live. It's sad and tragic to lose so many special people because of hatred. I never would have known Paul's name if this event had never happened. I will pray for you, Paul's family for strength to endure this loss. God Bless you all.
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