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When he was a teenager in Glen Rock, N.J., Christopher Sean Caton — known as Sean — had his own band, which for some reason was called the Family Goffer. "They once did a benefit concert for a girl who had leukemia," recalled his sister, Alison Henderson. "They were really idolized by all the other kids."
After high school, Mr. Caton moved away from Glen Rock, first to Arizona, where he attended Arizona State University, and later to Manhattan, where he got a job as a bond trader for Cantor Fitzgerald, the same company where his father had worked. "He loved it there, he loved the people, but honestly, he wanted to be a rock star," Ms. Henderson said.
"There were many many nights down at the shore when he would be at a bar, and he would grab the microphone, and start singing," she said. "He loved being on stage; he loved being in the limelight. He always made an impression: people always remembered Sean Caton."
He would have turned 35 today.
As a boy, his favorite band was Kiss. But he soon moved on to Bruce Springsteen: Ms. Henderson found 35 ticket stubs to Springsteen concerts in his bedroom.
Every summer he returned to Manasquan, on the Jersey Shore, where he and his friends rented a house. "Manasquan was his favorite place on earth," Ms. Henderson recalled.
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Cindy Roe
September 4, 2021
Remembering Christopher on the 20th anniversary of 9/11....
Del Del Newberry
July 4, 2020
Here it is 2020 - the world seems to be falling apart with COVID pandemic, racial tension and other concerns, but we also know that we have been through many horrible days in our nation's history, like the day you were taken from us. We will never forget that day, and today, on the 4th of July as we celebrate this nation's birthday, we also remember you and your family. Much love from Texas.
A.L.
July 18, 2019
You did not die in vain bud. Be at peace..
Lisa Frascino
November 27, 2013
Happy birthday in heaven Seany. We love and miss you always.
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Tyler McMurry
September 12, 2013
I am doing a school project on you Mr.Sean. You seem like a very interesting man! To bad you passed away.
Andre Avaregan
September 12, 2012
Miss you brother... I know you are smiling as always.. Just remember we all miss you and love ya..In my heart and thoughts forever.. See ya on the other side.. Party on...
Connie
September 12, 2011
Received your name in church (9/11/11) to pray for your family. It was nice reading information on the wonderful man you were.
Laraine Henry
September 12, 2011
Miss you lots buddy. Party on
Steve Grodensky
September 11, 2011
Sean,
We were roommates at Arizona State for a while. You, me and Camp who slept with a loaded .357 magnum under his pillow. On our first day at The Commons on Apache, you and I walked to the Safeway to get beer. No food, just beer. The sign on the door said "Check all firearms with the Manager". We looked at each other in disbelief and at the same time, excitement. Where the hell were we? Definitely not stuck in the mud somewhere in the swamps of Jersey...
After college, I hadn't see you in a long time and we met again at Radio City for that crazy Bruce tribute show. I saw a shadow of some guy hangin' over the rail of the mezzanine, screaming and singing...when intermission came and the lights came on, I was NOT surprised to see it was you. Again we lost track for a while and then, in the days following 9/11/01, I saw you for the last time as your name and picture flashed across the screen. I couldn't breathe, I couldn't think. I was there that day, 5 blocks away in my office when the whole thing happened. I saw it all, I smelled it all and to this day, I can still smell it and see it when I close my eyes. I knew you worked at Cantor and I was hoping beyond hope that you were hungover that day and came in late. Sadly, I was wrong. You may have been hungover, but you made it to work on time.
These days, my office is right across the street from the Trade Center on Vesey Street. I am haunted by the memories of that day and the months that followed. There's not a day that goes by that I don't remember that day as I cross Church St. to get to work. There's not a day that goes by you don't pop into my head along with the others I knew there that perished unnecessarily.
I wonder where Herzog and the rest of the boys are today? Do they remember the times we had at ASU? How your Mom came in and told us to get a lawn mower for the toilet in our room?
Ten years...
Listen, if you see Clarence "The Big Man" up in heaven, tell him that the Scooter ain't bustin' nothin' in half anymore and we miss him too.
Rock on dude, I'll see you again some day, but not yet...not yet.
Andre Avaregan
September 11, 2011
Party on Sean...Party on.. Will never forget you...til the end... Gods Speed Sean..Miss you
James Caton
September 1, 2011
I didn't know you Sean but came across your name written on the plywood that surrounded ground zero back in sept 2001 when I had moved to NY for a couple of yrs. My sisters had come to visit me and we went down to the site and back then you could walk up this plank and overlook the site. People had written loved ones names on the plywood walls. I don't know how out of all those names I happened to come across Caton but excalimed to my sisters "Look! This person shares our last name!" Since we share the same last name and it is not that common of a name - I felt a connection - even though I have no way of knowing how far apart our individual family trees may be. Nevertheless, as we near the 10th anniversary I wanted to write something and honor your memory and hold your family in my thoughts. I hope one day to return to NY and find your name on the memorial and pay further respects.
John Wallace
May 2, 2011
Sean, a lot of your friends are saying we'll never forget you. Tonight we all came together for a few moments, it was one of those moments in timw where we'll always remember where we were when we heard the news. A lot like the day you were killed.
We stand as a nation united by our common bonds, tonight politics doesn't mean very much, there will be time for that tomorrow. White or black, it doesn't matter tonight, nor does rich or poor. tonight we are one nation under god, and while justice may have been delayed, it was delivered. I think you're way beyond us in many respects. You weren't the type to shout, "avenge me." Your grace and kindness was for real. If this helps to heal those left behind it's a good thing, but don't for a moment think any of us were going to forget you. Godspeed Mr. Caton.
Laraine Henry
September 11, 2010
You are still very missed by so many.
I know you had something to do with the hot & sunny summer - thanks.
Party on
Andre Avaregan
September 10, 2010
Hey Sean... 9 yrs and still I can hear your laugh and see your smile.. Jenks all night til they had last call... You were the life of any party... and there was not a mean bone in your body. Gods Speed Sean.
Rob Miller
June 7, 2010
I liked your site.
Laraine Mahon Henry
November 27, 2009
Happy Birthday Sean. I still miss our birthday phone calls.
I'll be sure to have a Captain & Ginger for you today!
September 11, 2009
You truly were a speacial person! We miss you very much.
Lori Campora
September 11, 2009
Sean you had the locker next to mine in 7th grade...you were always the class clown, always having fun. Sean, you're remembered today and always.
Carol
September 11, 2009
Remembering you today ... still telling your story. May your family be at peace.
Karen
September 11, 2009
Leggett's/Manasquan was never quite the same..........
Pete M
September 11, 2009
The Rock and Manasquan were such better places because of you. You were always full of fun and made everyone feel at home.
September 10, 2009
i cannot believe its been 8 years...miss you still!
Andre
September 11, 2008
Seven years... and a lifetime of missing you.. Never stopped thinking of you... Never will.
Party on...
September 11, 2008
seven years later and i still think of you every day. you are tattooed twice on my body for the rest of eternity.
i miss you and how you made my life interesting as a child.
miss you seany.
Laraine Henry
September 11, 2008
It's been seven years and we all still miss you a lot. Party on.
Karen
June 12, 2008
Wow, it's been almost seven years since that day. Can't believe it. I'm sitting at work reading all the entries and laughing and crying at the same time. My favorite entry is by the drummer from Dog Voices telling how the last time he saw Sean was at The Osprey........Sean jammed onstage with them and then got carried out by two bouncers waving two american flags. So classic Sean. Makes me smile.
Carol
September 18, 2007
I was thinking of you on the 11th but just didn't get to post that day. 6 pages of posts ... you definitely touched many lives. Party on up there!
John Wallace
September 11, 2007
Hey Sean,
Greetings from the Triple Digit Club. Like so many people I will never forget you. I didn't write about you this year, but I will never forget.
JGW
Laraine Mahon
September 11, 2007
Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you and your family today - and every day.
Amanda O'Neill
September 11, 2007
Six years and I still think of you every day...always will.
Andre A
June 3, 2007
Sean,
I will always remember you and your smile. You loved life and enjoyed it to the fullest. You were the life of every party. You always were the last to leave the bar.. because you didn't want the night to end. Life in this world is empty without you. Something is missing. But I know you are up there smiling and dancing til last call. Keep it always alive. God speed and see you soon..Party on!!
Laraine
November 28, 2006
Happy day after your 40th birthday Sean! It must have been a great party in heaven! I still miss our funny phone conversations to each other on our birthdays. You would always say that the crazy Sags have to stick together because no one else got us. I'll make sure have a Captain & Ginger for you!
Lisa Frascino
November 27, 2006
Happy 40th birthday in heaven today Seany! We love and miss you always!
Kristine
October 19, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Laraine Mahon
September 11, 2006
It's almost unbelievable that you were taken away from us five years ago. It feels like it was only yesterday that you were riding around Manasquan on a little girl bike beaming your megawatt smile and showing off your dark tan. No one has ever been able to make me laugh the way you used to. I just hope we are all making you proud. I know everyone misses you very much and thinks of you all the time. But you want us all to "Party on", right?
P Tabbernor
September 8, 2006
In memory....
Mary
July 24, 2006
I still think of you very often. I cannot believe it's been almost 5 years.
mary
September 11, 2004
Hey Sean, I'm thinking of you and your family today. I miss hearing your voice, especially your laugh and your crazy sayings. I still can't believe your gone.
Richard Mattalian
February 11, 2004
I play drums with a band called Dog Voices and I played for Voices
Every summer (for nearly 7 summers)I'd see Sean at The Osprey in Manasquan. He'd climb onstage with us a few times a year and usually sing "Aint Talkin'About Love" by Van Halen. Sometimes he'd hang out with us in the dressing room.
He was a great guy who was living life to the fullest. Though I hardly knew him, you could see he had a good nature about him. Very positive.
The last time I saw him it was July 4th '01. He jammed with us and then was carried out of the Osprey by two bouncers. He was waving two small American flags. I'll never forget that.
Summers are not the same without him.
Karen Varga
January 28, 2004
I can't believe it's been almost 2 1/2 years since that awful day. Your picture still brings a warm, fuzzy feeling inside. Thanks for the memories. Manasquan was never the same after you left. You will never be forgotten.
November 26, 2003
Hey buddy. It's been over two years and yet it's still so strange not to have you here. I sometimes wonder if you really knew how much people cared about you.
I'll be thinking of you and your family tomorrow. But most of all, I am so thankful to have known you even if it was just for a couple of years. I really feel bad for those who never got to meet and experience you - they missed out on something great.
Mary Kneale
September 12, 2003
Sean,
Thinking of you and your family today. Remembering your spirit and missing you.
Carol
September 11, 2003
I'm thinking of you today. It makes me very sad. I wish peace for all those who you loved and loved you. I will always remember you, "background picture guy."
Mary Kneale
March 14, 2003
Sean,
Little did you know that one of my favorite things to do was to call you up so you could make me laugh. I miss our crazy conversations. You had the greatest naughty laugh and the funniest sayings. Our last conversation goes through my mind and I remember how you sounded. You were living your life exactly like you wanted to, not many people can do that. You will never be forgotten because you had an effect on people that cannot be forgotten.
Paul Coffee
February 28, 2003
To Sean,
It had been around 20 years since I had last spoken with you when I heard that you were lost on the day the world changed. I have thought of yours, and your families loss on and off for the past several years with sorrow and regret. Even though we had only known each other as friends for a few years, the memories of the laughs that were had will always be with me. You, me, Jim Cole, and others whose names escape me now but whose faces don't; were a junior high school teachers worst nightmare. The Ramblin' Times, the independent 8mm production of "Hairy Crap All Over the Place"; all great memories of early teen angst.
Though I didn't know you as an adult, I am certain that the world is a much darker place without you, and I pray that my service honors you and all those friends, brothers, sisters, fathers, and mothers who were lost with you.
Paul Gavin Coffee
AO1(AW/NAC) USN
Mary Schlesinger Adamo
February 27, 2003
I still have a Family Gopher ticket to that fundraiser, it's been 20 years, and I still laugh everytime I come across it. Sean and The Family Gopher were the best, I can still remember the words to their songs. I was a few years older than Sean, but he could make anyone smile.
Rick Chefalas
February 25, 2003
Hey Seany,
Just wanted to let you know that Peggy & Barsa had a baby boy this morning at 10:28am. His name is Jack Christopher and he is ready to party on.
DJ Rick
p.s. Tell Elvis I said hello.
John Wallace
January 25, 2003
I went to high school with Sean. Sadly, I don't think I saw him in more than a passing moment since we graduated. After reading everyone's notes, I feel bad, becuase I would have liked to hang with him and share a few laughs. Anyway, I'm a writer at a daily newspaper in New Jersey. They recently gave me a column, and I decided that my first one had to make an impression.
I decided to introduce Sean to my readers.
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It’s never far from my mind. I got an e-mail yesterday from a guy I went to high school with, not a pal, just a classmate. Just a friendly reminder that the Sean Caton Foundation will be hosting it’s 2nd annual Mardi Gras fundraiser in March. They’re hoping to raise $35,000 for a few area charities, as they did last year. They’ve definitely touched people’s lives, with a tragedy as their catalyst. But deep inside, I wish there was no Sean Caton foundation, or so many others like Sean’s.
I graduated from Glen Rock High School in 1985, when Ronald Reagan was President, and America stood tall, or so we thought. Sean Caton was a friend, a classmate, and one of those people who had star power, raw charisma. Despite my best efforts, Sean was our class clown too. Sean had a heart, even at a time when few kids would show that quality. Sean’s terrible garage band, Family Gopher, was grunge-before-grunge was cool, but they raised thousands for chemotherapy for a local child with cancer. Sean always had a wide smile, a kind word, and a witty observation on life. I would have liked to remember him as that funny guy, forever etched in 1985, but life isn’t like that.
Instead, I’ll remember Sean as one of 2,843 who were slaughtered at the World Trade Center on September 11, 2001. Sean followed in his father’s footsteps, and went to work for Cantor-Fitzgerald. He worked there eight years. Sean was proud of his the view from his office on the 105th floor of One World Trade Center. Sean was 34 when he died, on that dark terrible day. I’d like to think he was the same old Sean, telling his terrified coworkers that it would be OK, that there was hope; putting his arms around a sobbing friend. There wasn’t any hope left for Sean that day or for 2,842 others.
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The rest is a rambling recounting of how we were promsied justice, by our president, and it's still an open account in my opinion. JGW
gary ekelund
December 6, 2002
seany
god how i miss you,haze,dennis,seth,
murph,steve h. and stupid school
peace my friends
November 27, 2002
Happy Birthday Sean.
We miss you so much.
Lisa Frascino
November 27, 2002
Sean,
It 's been more than a year since you left us and it's taken me until now to have the strength to write this note to you. I cannot even imagine how your family coped and is still coping with your loss. My deepest sympathies go out to your entire family. I just wanted to tell you how much we miss you and to wish you a happy birthday. Your life enriched all of ours in so many ways. Your love of life was infectious. We could always count on you for a great laugh or stunt (which usually got somebody into trouble). It never failed. No matter where we were, we were always bumping into you. I will cherish the memories I have of you and the Jersey Shore forever. You will remain a part of my heart until we meet again in a much better place. We love you, Sean.
Lisa Frascino
(Formerly of Manasquan, NJ)
Jan Sanders
November 25, 2002
Love to you and your family Christopher Sean Caton from someone in Arizona who prays today for you and your family and friends. You must be so terribly missed; but I will pray for you to remain a constant presence in the lives of those you loved. My prayers, Jan
Thomas Brindley
October 8, 2002
Dear Sean,
I and the young children that I educate watched in horror as the tragic event of September 11th unfolded infront of their young eyes. Their is no greater tragedy than a life stolen from its prime. Your name, your life, you, will be known by every student that I have the opportunity to teach. For you, Sean Caton, are also an American hero. God Bless.
Carol
September 23, 2002
It’s 1989, I’m at a New Year’s Eve party at my friend, Gabrielle’s, house in Glen Rock. I took pictures, as I always do.
Fast forward to December 1992, it’s my birthday and we’re hanging out at Nickel’s Alley in Paramus listening to the band, Jumpstreet. Took some pictures again … get the pictures back, and there’s this guy in the background of so many of them. It was weird. He wasn’t necessarily posing, he was just there hanging out or dancing or whatever.
Fast forward to 1998 or so, out at Chest O’ Drawers in Ridgewood to see a band w/my husband. “Hey, I know that guy!” But really, I don’t. He’s the guy in the background of my pictures.
Warp to Summer of 1999, Paul’s Bar in Belmar: Bachelorette party … having a good time … low and behold, there’s the background guy! So I decide to freak him out and tell him the story. We took more pictures … he said, “I have to be in the background!” We hung out for most of the night, it was a lot of fun!
About a year or so later, I’m going through some old pictures and come across the ones from that New Year’s Eve party back in 1989. Hey! There he is, it’s the background guy! I remembered that picture to be of Gabrielle’s brother and his girlfriend. Wow! That’s too weird. All this time, I never knew who he was.
September 22, 2002, at a baby shower, sitting next to Gabrielle and I tell her the story. She said it wasn’t her brother because all the run-ins over the years didn’t match him. She thought it might be her brother’s friend, Sean. She remembered that he was at the party. Then she mentioned that he worked for Cantor Fitzgerald. I told her I would find the picture and email it to her for identification, maybe it wasn’t Sean, maybe it was someone else. I came to work the next day and decided to look on this website. I sorted by company and looked for “Sean.” As soon as I saw his picture, I knew it was him. It made me very sad. I’ll never run into him again at some random bar and he’ll never again be in the background of my pictures.
I really didn’t know him. But I do remember him to be a very happy person who was enjoying life! And that smile …
I never knew why I noticed him in those first pictures or recognized him those other times. After reading the article where his sister was quoted, “… He always made an impression; people always remembered Sean Caton.” I guess that’s my answer.
Rest in peace and may God bless all those left behind who loved you and whose lives you profoundly touched. I will always remember you and will continue to tell the story of “the background guy.”
Leif Jenssen
September 17, 2002
I received a sapling (Blue Spruce) to plant in your honor. I planted it today in my mother's back yard in Berkeley, California. It was just by chance that I received yours to plant through the Bay Area Country Dance Society. I didn't know you in life but somehow we are connected--and your tree is in a really beautiful place in Berkeley. I will make sure that everyone in my large extended family knows that the tree was planted in your honor. About 50 of us get together every Thanksgiving. I just read some of your biography and it seems that you would fit in perfect with our clan. Cheers.
DeAnne Saba
September 13, 2002
Sean,
I'm always thinking of you and wanted to thank you for coming to visit me in Atlanta with my cousin Chris. We had a great time and I miss you dearly. Thank you for making me laugh every time I saw you, especially in Mannasquan...you will always be remembered...I love you!!! DeAnne (Barsa's cousin) xoxo
Brolsma Family
September 11, 2002
Sean,
Though I never knew you, my family did. I spoke with my mother and sister today, both telling me what a bright child you were and the fun you always provided. I wish I could have known you.
Your family, friends, and loved ones will be in my prayers from now until the day I meet you in heaven. Rest peacefully dear soul, and may God save a place in our hearts for you and all the heroes of Sept. 11.
Michael Iezzi
June 18, 2002
Father we entrust our brother Christopher to your mercy. You loved him greatly in this life: now that he is freed from all its cares, give him happiness and peace forever. Welcome him now into paradise where there will be no more sorrow, no more weeping or pain, but only peace and joy with Jesus your Son, and the Holy Spirit forever and ever.
SEAN CATON - when: July 4, 1997; where: the beach, of course.
Chris Barsa
February 7, 2002
A foundation has been created in Sean's honor. The first fundraising event for The Sean Caton Memorial Foundation will be held on February 23, 2002. All are welcome. Please visit our web site for more information: www.seancaton.com . Thank you.
Mo Nolan
January 24, 2002
I am not surprised that all of these messages have been posted by chicks. You were always the King of The Good Time. Even back in high school when my girls and I would follow you and the other Class of '95 boys around to the parties, hoping for a little attention or maybe even a kiss, you were always the one I gravitated to for goofball fun. I remember you as the funniest guy at Glen Rock High. I remember the school play and the kiss that I was finally able to procure before you graduated. Thanks. I know I was a geek back in the day. I am happy in knowing that you had a good job and you were, it appears, happy and content. My heart grienes for you and your family. I hope you are rockin' out in a higher place.
Love, Mo
Nancy Williams
January 9, 2002
Sean,
I just can't believe that you are not going to sit on the beach near me anymore with your little boom box set up six feet away so you can hear all the near by conversations!
I met you, Chris & Gater when Gwendolyn was not even a year old on the beach in Manasquan. I will always remember how Gwendolyn loved both her Uncle Chris & Uncle Sean. It was like she had three fathers!
You always amazed me on how upbeat and happy you always were. You were always singing or dancing around in any bar that I ran into you and your boys! I remember how I use to duck every time I saw you as you would come over to me when I did not see you and lick my face or stick your finger in my ear. I would cringe then but would give anything to have you do that again this summer!!!
You truly were a pure example of living life to its fullest extent! You often said "you have to party like it's the last party". You always enjoyed yourself and perhaps some of us should take your lead!
I and my friends will certainly miss you on the beach this summer and every summer from now on in Manasquan. We would watch for you and watch you set up "your camp" for you & the boys. You would see my friends & I and wave and come over to compare tans with my friend Lynn. Labor Day Weekend you came over & discussed with Lynn that you had a better tan even though she was off all summer. We all laughed and you said wait till next year.
The last time I saw you was the weekend after Labor Day on the beach. You, your girlfriend, Chris & his girlfriend came on the beach and sat by us. It was nice to see that you were having a "quite" day at the beach and enjoying close people in your life. You did not compare your tans that day but we thought to ourselves "only a few more days left for the tan competition this year! Little did we know that it would be over forever within a few days!
Sean, I truly loved knowing you and had many laughs with and about you. You will always be remembered as the "radio man" on Main Beach in Manasquan. Jimmy (Gater) and Chris said they were planning a memorial in your honor sometime on Memorial Day Weekend on the beach. I am sure that there will be many of your friends or even just people who knew of you there as you were the true "Mayor of Manasquan Beach"!
Though I cannot ever picture you resting, rest in peace and watch over us in life.
Love,
Nancy
Teresa Jahn
January 6, 2002
What a huge, warm, dazzling and friendly smile Sean has in this picture you have shared with us. Such a smile must be a reflection of his heart. We are deeply sorry for your loss of Sean. May his musical talents, his life and love live on in those who love him. May the sorrow in your hearts be lightened by golden memories of Sean. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Karen Varga
January 3, 2002
Dear Sean,
I have only known you for about 2 years but I remember seeing you out and about in Manasquan for years before that. I remember when my friend Jerry first pointed you out in Leggett's, he said "This guy is always here." One of my favorite memories actually involves you and Jerry. You gave Jerry (extremely drunk) a ride home from a party on your rickety old bike. Jerry is about 250 lbs, so needless to say the thought of you peddling furiously in your little blue sneakers always makes me laugh. You didn't even know Jerry that well but you said you felt sorry for him b/c he didn't know anyone and he was so drunk. I will miss your smile from across the bar at Leggett's but most of all I will miss seeing you stroll onto the beach everyday at 12:30 with your little radio and then seeing you asleep, tan as can be, when I would leave the beach at 6:00. Manasquan will NEVER be the same. You lived life to the fullest and taught us to do the same. I feel so lucky to have known you even if it was for a short while. Thanks for the memories.
Love,
Karen
December 18, 2001
MAY GOD BLESS CHRISTOPHER SEAN CATON
AND MAY HE REST IN PEACE.GOD BLESS
HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS.GOD BLESS
AMERICA AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01
Robin (Wallace) Compierchio
December 13, 2001
Sean,
I'm convinced that heaven must be an awesome place, because all the really cool and special people go there while the rest of us drones get stuck here. If you run into my little guy up there, tell him what a cool babe his mom was and teach him how to dance. You always said, we had the two best tans and were the two best dancers in Manasquan. It's been a long time, Sean. I've tried to remember the last time I saw you, but I can't. I always thought about you. I always thought we'd hang out again one day. I never thought I'd never see you again. You know how I loved that Hunter/Hoboken/Manasquan scene. Now, some of those best memories are the saddest. I've been mourning for you, buddy. I can't list all my memories of you. But, thanks for all the dances. The only guy I ever liked more than you is the one I married. I keep thinking that, at least in heaven, you're closer to the sunshine.
Laraine Mahon
November 30, 2001
Seanie,
No matter where you were, you were the guy in the room that everyone - whether they knew you or not - wanted to hang out with, or at least be near, because you were having the most fun out of anyone. Who else could turn Imposto's Pizza into a disco when there wasn't even any music playing? You radiated fun and we all soaked in it. You made me and so many others laugh in a way that no one ever had nor will.
The button down shirt on top of a non-matching tank top, a baseball hat, the tan of course, Captain & Ginger in hand and that killer mega watt smile saying "Party On" is who we all know and love. But, you never said an unkind word about anyone and the way your face lit up when someone mentioned Alison or Caton just made you even more special. You were one of the good guys. The beach just isn't going to be the same without you and, well, neither are we.
Oh, and have Haze get the sand out of your eyebrows okay!
Laraine (HOM)
Alison Walsh
November 29, 2001
Crazy Sean,
I remember when I first met you. I was with Laurie and she said "you gotta meet this guy 'Crazy Sean'! We were at the pool bar and you walked up wearing this crazy tank top, pooka bead necklace, drinking a beer (and lets not forget about the bronzed tan!)and you say "hey Babycakes, I'm Crazy Sean" and you were just bopping your head up and down looking around at the crowd.
I couldn't imagine why you would call yourself "Crazy Sean". Quickly I found out! And boy did the name fit!
I always had a blast running into to you at bars down the shore or in Hoboken. I will never forget when you and one of your house mates were on bikes dressed liked Santa Claus riding down Main Street!!!
I will always remember your big bright smile across the bar. I will also never listen to Bruce or REM the same. I loved when you would get on stage at O'Donoughes in Hoboken and sing with the band. You were better than BRUCE!
Thanks for adding a lot of laughs and stories for all of us to share and remember. You really were a special person.
I am sure you are organizing a happy hour (with a shot wheel of course) where you are right now!
Later, babycakes!
Angela (DePetris) Lewis
November 29, 2001
Crazy Sean - the one and only - I speak for all of my friends (better known to you as the girls in the Garage Apt. on Beacon Blvd in Sea Girt) when I say that the world is a less enjoyable place without you here. You always made us laugh - whether it was at the Pool Bar, Leggett's, or running into you at the most random times and places.
You and your "crazy" friends made the summers of 1995-97 that much more fun for us.
We had a drink in honor of you and we couldn't all help, but smile thinking about you, "babycakes". We will always think of you whenever we hear that Blues Travelers song that you appropriately dubbed, "the hit".
Thanks for making us always laugh and spreading your infectious good spirits wherever you went. We will miss you, but we know you're having a hell of a party wherever you are now. Rock on -
Angela, Barb, Deb, Kara, M.K., Tracy
CHERYL PUPO
November 2, 2001
SEANY, I WILL MISS. IT WAS NEVER A DULL DAY , YOU ALWAYS HAD THAT SMILE!! CANTOR WILL NEVER BE THE SAME WITHOUT YOU...
CHERYL
Laurie (Monte) Guagenty
November 1, 2001
Crazy Sean -
How could you be gone? You were a part of my shore summer memories. Running into you in the most unlikely places always made me laugh especially one year ago at the Key West Fantasy Fest on the dance floor at 4am at Rick's - my husband said to me "that guy is EVERYWHERE!" You certainly were. My favorite thing you used to do when we first met several years ago, was call my Hoboken apartment on every (unimportant) holiday - messages like "Just calling to wish you a happy Flag Day" and "Happy Canada Day" were enjoyed by me and my roommates. Happily, my last (clear) image of you is at the Parker House this past Memorial Day weekend. We had a nice long (sober) conversation and I am grateful for it. I will always remember you that way. I was also so happy to hear that you found true love in your life before you left us. You're in my prayers every day. I hope you are at peace.
Your friend always, Laurie
Amanda Ackerman
October 31, 2001
Sean,
"Last night I had a crazy dream.
A wish was granted just for me, it
could be for anything.
I didn't ask for money or a mansion
in Malibu.
I simply wished for one more day
with you...
First thing I'd do is pray for time
to crawl.
I'd unplug the telephone and keep
the T.V. off.
I'd hold you every second and say a
million I love you's...
That's what I'd do with one more
day with you."
How I wish that I could have just one more moment with you honey. I don't think I ever knew true happiness until I found you...and for that I will forever be thankful. I think of you every minute and cherish all of the wonderful memories we shared...the sailboat.."Nightswimming"..really experiencing NYC..our first fireworks..all of our walks..days on the beach.."The beach should be your bar"..your blue eyes in the morning..your moisturizer after showering..the Blue Claws game..Six Flags..all of the Bruce shows..the Stone Pony.."Which way does the ring go?"..our running Skee-Ball contest..naked Twister..MANY nights at Leggett's..my concerts for you late night.."Follow Me"..dancing til dawn..4 am phone calls.."That's coming along nicely"..standing by the tree at Rockefeller Center..my pumpkins.."Who I Am"..word games on the beach..playing catch.."That's no way to go through life young lady"..holding your nose..the duck pond..the seersucker suit.."Some people just don't get it"..cuddling on the couch..fabulous dinners..the blizzard in Washington Square Park..Lucinda Williams....and of course "Happy". I could go on forever...God, I miss you Seany and wish we could make more memories together. But, I'm lucky for all the times we did share and I will never forget them. Inner strength honey...isn't that what you said you fell in love with? I'm trying my best. I love you baby...always (only you know what I mean).
Amanda
crazyhorse
October 30, 2001
Sean,
I miss you soooo much and still go to dial your number at times. I don't want to take you off my speed dial. I am going to miss our late nights and dance parties at your apt. I am going to miss the way you walk, all slouched with your hands in your pockets and I will miss the 3 dots on your forehead that you said the aliens gave you. I am going to miss calling you whenever I wanted to be entertained. The best times were Halloween 3 years ago at Hogs and Heifers, The Wednesday's before Thanksgiving when we would go into Patterson, all of the rock concerts, driving back to Glen Rock in a limo at 4:00 am and the way you would try and seperate Gator and I. My eyes would always light up when you walked in the room. You were so silly and sweet. I am so glad you and I had that talk late night in Squan 2 weeks before Labor Day. It meant a lot to me. I am so glad that for your last year you met the sweetest girl who you loved so much, Amanda. She also cared for you so much. You will always be one of my best friends. I miss you and I love you.
Jenny
Jennifer Vozzo
October 29, 2001
I wasn't ready for you when I first met you--maybe b/c it was 5am my first weekend in Squan when you stormed into the room for my first Bruce concert, but I soon realized late night was the best and there was no reason to be passing out when good times were to be had. Getting your emails always made me laugh... when I complained about my nickname, you told me it could be changed-- "how about Martina Navratilova," you asked? I stuck with Billie Jean. The last Team Gee Gee's rankings will forever be a sore spot--but you and Haze both told me you are only as good as your last performance, so I will do my best to make every moment count. Unforgettable times-- when you were completely embarrassed by my tandem bike riding skills, last spring when I was the Village Idiot, your circus stunt at the Parker House and of course my very last memory of you -- Twister at Pickell Alley (you know I will never be the same). So often, I think of that night this summer when we kept singing the chorus... "and it's a great day to be alive, you know the sun's still shining when I close my eyes, there's some hard times in the neighborhood -- why can't everyday be just this good" because they were the only words we knew and it makes me smile. These sure have been some hard times without you but I know it still is a great day to be alive...and wherever you are the sun's still shining on you (how else would you keep up that tan?). Thanks for making every moment with you just that good---and for teaching me that you can make any moment a memory. You certainly did....I miss you.
Fran Rotella
October 28, 2001
"I will provide for you and I'll stand by your side. You'll need a good companion for this part of the ride. Leave behind your sorrows, Let this day be the last. Tomorrow there'll be sunshine and all this darkness past.
Big wheels roll through fields where sunlight streams, Meet me in a land of hope and dreams.
This train carries saints and sinners, this train carries losers and winners... this train faith will be rewarded... this train carries broken-hearted, this train thieves and sweet souls departed... this train all aboard..."
A life of adventure and a journey ended too soon...
Thanks for sharing your love for life, lots of laughs and most of all for your friendship. You're a sweet soul, Seanie & I will miss you.
Love,
Frannie
Amy Callahan
October 28, 2001
Hey Seany- We had years filled with good times and cool drinks! Squan and Bruce will never be the same with out you. Now as I look back over the past few years I am so grateful for all of those nights you made me stay up till dawn- It was so many more hours I got to spend with you, Haze and the Gang-By the way-thanks for him... I hope the sun shines brightest on you in heaven because...no tan..no babes....Give Haze a big hug for me...love you and miss you.Amy
Kim (Kimirez) Cornett
October 27, 2001
Caton:
Sun, fun & the NY Knicks.
My best friend would often tell me how similar you and I were. Of course, at times, I thought she was crazy.
Who else loved the sun more than I did ? YOU !!!
Who else loved the NY Knicks like me ? YOU!! & then some. (Remember when LJ hit that 3-pointer during '99 playoffs?)
Who else would put up with Ramirez?
You !! (just kidding Dave xoxox)
I never would have thought the person Erin and I met 4 years ago in a basement bar in Ridgewood, would have such a big impact on our lives.
Sean, I owe you something.
I never realized how long overdue it was until September 11th.
It's a thank-you.
* First and foremost: Thanks for the good times. Manasquan will never be the same. Leggetts, Parker House Sundays, late-night Gee Gee's--all times we will cherish. You helped make the Summer of '98 the best summer ever.
Also worth a footnote--thanks for introducing Pat and I to Red Rock West. And of course, having the DJ at HVI announce that my boyfriend was not "in the house."
* Next-Thanks for the "Glory Days."
The look on your face is a good enough reason to play any Bruce song. Also, thanks for teaching me the proper way to sing "It's the end of the World as We Know it."
I hope we all can feel fine someday.
* Thanks for introducing us to "your crew." From Poor Poor Ramirez to Haze to Jenny Dodge. All
good people.
* Next - Thanks for being a friend. Although, at times I may have thought of you as an 'arch-rival'...
(I'm sure Erin, Ramirez, Amanda, etc., can atest to this..haha), I saw first hand how much you cared about the people in your life. You're take on life was and always will be refreshing.
* And finally - thanks for letting me win the tanning contest this last summer. :-)
The last time I saw you is how I want to always remember you, on the beach on a beautiful September Day.
God Bless You.
Love,
Kimirez
Carolyn
October 26, 2001
Hey Sean,
Remember when we used to play around, arguing about whose town Squan really was--yours or mine? I always knew it was as much in your blood as in mine; it was just so much fun teasing each other about it that I couldn't tell you that. I wish I had. It'll never be the same down here without you.
Love,
Car
Sara Allocco
October 24, 2001
Sean -
I want to thank you for showing me how to seriously party like a rock star. I'll never forget the night you, me, and Jenny went to see Steve Earle at the Beacon. "She's a keeper. Another keeper". Or when you took me to the Village Idiot. I never would have gone to a bar like that and drink Paps Blue Ribbon, but you made it all so cool. Everything you said and did was in a fun and carefree manner. Thanks also for teaching me lyrics to all the "cool" country songs and for all the great duets and dances. Miss you and love ya pal - Sara Jo
P.S. I heard this song recently and thought of you, "I've been everywhere, man. Crossed the desert bare, man. I've breathed the mountain air. Travel-I've had my share. I've been everywhere." -Johnny Cash
Harper Coles
October 23, 2001
October 23,2001
Hey Sean,
It's too hard to imagine not bumping into you unexpectedly at the shore. The last time I saw you was at Kelly's during March Madness. You were at the phone booth and I ran over and asked if you were on the phone with your sister..ha ha..you said NO! You laughed, you were happy. You were always happy and that's how I will remember you.
Living Life...loving life!
Harper
Matthew Papio
October 19, 2001
seany
You were an incredible person. Partying all night and sleeping until noon, straight to the beach until it was time to do it again/ Leading myself, Cracker, Barsa, Haze and the entire bar at Sloppy Joes, key West in an unbelievable rendition of "Amy" by Pure Prairie League in Honor of Hazel's new found love/ Manasquan...Leggetts...Stupid School/ Your 57 rituals in preparing to go out, the most important "moisturizing is the Key"/ Knowing every stupid country song that ever came on the radio/SYMS....Gizinya/ You reading the lyrics off of one of Cracker's Asian love interests CD's, in you amazing Asian American Dialect........ U my Pwisoner of Wuv/
For all this I will miss you, but for being a great friend I love you.
Keep them smiling brother.
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