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Robert Shay Obituary
One of eight children, Robert J. Shay Jr. thrived in the company of his large, fun-loving family. And with his wife, Dawn, he was happily creating his own big brood. Just 27, he was already the devoted father of Robert, 5, and Ryan, 2. He did not get to meet his third son, Jonathan Robert, who was born on Monday. The newest Shay came with a head of thick black hair and his dad's eyes, ears and legs, said Eileen Shay, Robert's sister.
Mr. Shay was a bond broker at Cantor Fitzgerald, which he joined in 1993 right after high school, starting in maintenance and working his way up. He was a Mets fan practically from birth, Ms. Shay said. "As far back as we can find pictures of him, he's in his Mets gear."
Mr. Shay was always up and always watching out for others. He lived on Staten Island, just 15 minutes from his parents, whom he called many times each day. Around 8:40 a.m. on Sept. 11, he made a quick call to his wife to see how their son Robert's introduction to kindergarten was going.
Recently, young Robert put some Halloween stickers on his bedroom window. Eileen said that he explained, "I put up stars so my daddy can see where I am."
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Molly Casas
January 6, 2003
Dear Carolyn,
I written to you before (12/1102)to let you know how I feel and also to let you know that my son is named Robert (16yrs old). On Christmas day he let me know that he will joining the military when he turns 18 (Jan. 27, 2004). At first I was upset (he's my only child). But now I've excepted the fact he will be leaving
I'm soo proud of him.
If you ever feel like talking, here is my phone number
Molly Casas
562-902-8251
Carolyn Shay
January 5, 2003
Dear Rob,
I don't know what to say other than to say how much I miss you. I would give anything just to see you again. Each day seems to be worse than the last. My biggest fear used to be that one day I wouldn't miss you as much as I do, but with the way things are going I know now that that will never, ever be possible. I miss you more now than ever. I just wish you were here. Nothing is right anymore. There is no excitement in anything anymore. Instead each day is just a day of waiting for the day to end. I love you and miss you more than words could possibly describe.
Dawn Shay
January 3, 2003
Dear Robert
Happy New Year. I Love you and miss you dearly. Nothing will ever be the same without you. I was just watching our wedding video agian and keep thinking you are going to come through the door. I can't stop thinking of you and what should have been.
I Love and miss you with all my heart your wife Dawn
DAWN VANTASSELL
January 2, 2003
HI ROB MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!! R.I.P
How you can show support
Leanne
January 1, 2003
Dear Rob,
There's tears in my eyes and pain in my heart
A million memories, now we're apart
I wish I could see you, I hope you're okay
I pray with my heart, you could be here today!
Happy New Year Rob! I Love You and Miss You More and More Each Day!
Dawn Shay
December 27, 2002
Dearest Robert
It was a hectict Christmas as usual. The boys loved everything and we thought of you and remembered all of our Christmas's with you. We miss you more then words everybody does. I wish I could change time. I know you are here watching over us. The boys are so big and remind me of you so much. Robert was Dancing on Christmas Eve just as you would. He is all you he makes me laugh each day, it is amazing how much time has gone by and he could do everything I mean everything like you. He brings a room to life just like you would do. Ryan is so hyper and runs around without staying still for a minute he gets into everything He loves the kitchen loves to help himself,
you always said he was going to be the handful and boy were you right. Jonathan is so sweet my little angel face he is so sweet and the happiest baby. I was just watching our wedding video for the first time Robert put it in I did not think we were ready for it but he told me that is my favorite show and I am in it so we watched it. It brought alot of tears and memories of us and how things were supposed to be so different we were the best married couple as you would say. I remember that morning you were so nervous you ran around doing errons and then decided you would take nightquil. I remember the walk up and down the isle how you picked Robert up and you thought I was going to get mad. Always thinking about me and how you could make me happy. All the happy times we shared I remember how scared we were in the delevery room for Robert and how perfect it was and then with Ryan. Jonathan I know you were right by my side. He was sent from the heavens I could have never of asked for a more perfect baby. As the time goes on we hold you in our hearts and cherrish all the time we shared with you. Nothing will ever feel right without you, you made everything complete.
WE love you and miss you a minute does not go by we don 't think about you Love always your wife and children
eileen
December 25, 2002
Rob,
Merry Christmas ...Im sorry I could not visit you this year. I miss you tons. :(
-eye
Leanne
December 25, 2002
Dear Rob,
Well we just finished unwrapping all the Christmas presents..and yes Mommy did cry (as usual). Christmas used to be so special but without you here it's just not the same. We look forward to Dawn and the boys coming over..they bring all your love with them. I have to tell you..Ryan reminds me of you more and more each time I see him, it's amazing. Last night Mommy was telling me about one Christmas she (Santa) gave you a doll because that's all we ever played with (so many sisters..you had no choice) but you were embarrassed and you threw it on the floor and stomped on it..I can just picture your face while doing that! We talked about how we used to beg her to let us go downstairs and open up Christmas presents but she always stalled waiting for Daddy. I miss you so much..All I want for Christmas is to see you and talk to you. I left you a something in your stocking..I hope you like it.
Merry Cristmas little brother. I Love You and Miss You more than words can describe!
Your Sister
Dawn Shay
December 23, 2002
Dear Rob
I Don't know where to begin. I miss you more and more as the time goes by. I think about all of the great times we had and how many more I would love to share with you.How much our sons miss you. How my life was perfect with you here and now is shattered. How much I miss your kiss and you telling me you love me a million times a day and how you said, I love you more. I am so alone without you. Robert misses you so much he has gotten so big you have to be so proud of him how brave he has been. He has been expressing himself the last couple of days how much he wishes you could be here.He speaks of you all the time to his brothers, Ryan and Jonathan could not have asked for a better big brother. Ryan is getting so big and he still remembers all the special times He has shared with you. Jonathan can look at a picture and even though you are not here know that you are his father. He looks at the pictures of you and says DA DA. He will know and be reminded each day how much you love us. What else can I say, that you were the best Dad and Husband anyone could ever ask for. We miss you and Love you with all our heart.
Love always your wife and children
Molly Casas
December 11, 2002
Dear Mrs. Shay
My son is also named Robert, I'm a single mom and we are very close also. I'm so very sorry for your loss, your Robert from what I've read, was a very loving son/brother/husband and father. From the Casas family to the Shay family, God Bless you and keep you in his care always.
Love Robert and Mom
Robert Shay
December 10, 2002
I Love you really much Dad, I miss you so so much. My Dad was the best best Dad ever. He took me to all the Met games. He was the biggest Met fan. He used to yell at the T.V. when they would lose. I always went to his basketball games. I miss you at my baseball games. I try to hit the ball all the way to the sky so you could catch it. I wish you could come home to my new house. Ryan misses you too and I tell Jonathan all about you. Your my Hero
Love your son Robert
Leanne
November 27, 2002
Rob,
I dropped a tear in the ocean.
The day you find it is the day I will stop missing you.
Carolyn Shay
November 21, 2002
Dear Robert,
Where do I start other than to say how much I miss you. I am so sorry that this happened to you. I can not believe so much time has gone by without you here. Not a minute passes where I am not thinking of you. Your face is the first thing I see in my head when I close my eyes at night and your picture is the first thing I see on my shelf when I wake up in the morning. The holidays are coming again and they will obviously never be the same ever again without you here. I hate the fact that we never got to stay in the city to go to the Thanksgiving Day parade like we planned. I hate that you're not here to recite all the lines to Christmas Vacation with me.....the blessing!!....Our New Years Eve party will never be as much fun as it used to be. I'll never forget our last one when a bunch of us stayed up until 5 in the morning playing taboo and you got all mad because you and Daddy didn't get the joke "what's black and white and read all over?"...and waking up each year on New Years Day and Mommy making everyone greasy egg sandwhiches to cure our hangovers. It's not just the holidays though. I miss the everyday things. Baseball is not the same anymore. I watched an entire season waiting each night for you to call me up with a trivia question that the guys at work would give you. Or just to call to disect a certain call or play. I miss you calling me on Sundays to tease me about the Jets. I still wake up on Sundays thinking you, Dawn, and the boys will be coming over for dinner or birthday cake. I miss sharing stupid inside jokes with you....what's a lightbulb?....and watching you laugh so hard you'd smack your knee. I miss talking about nothing with you. I miss hearing your voice. I miss you at family parties or just hanging out down the shore dancing and acting stupid. We have two of our own weddings coming up and you should be here. You had so much fun at your own wedding that you couldn't wait for someone else in the family to get married so you could be in a wedding party. I remember how excited you were when we were in your backyard on our last 4th of July and you ran over to tell me that Eileen asked you to be in her wedding. But that was just you and one of the things everyone loves about you....always looking forward to the next good time. Sometimes you looked for excuses just to have a party. I just miss you being here so much it hurts. I miss my big brother. I miss how you always looked out for me, from when I was little until now. Like when I was in the 8th grade and you threatened this kid to stay away from me because you thought he was a "bad influence". And how just last July when I was having a hard time getting my new car on Staten Island, you drove me all the way out to Kay Honda right before it was closing to see if they had the color I wanted. I appreciate everything you ever did for me. I hope you know that. I have two regrets in life and they are not going to Disney World in May when you invited me and for not going back down to Ocean City in August when you decided to go back. You must have called my cell phone 50 times asking me if I had left yet, but I didn't go because I didn't want to put 500 miles on my new car right away. I guess I just assumed there would always be next year. You left us with three amazing boys that I just can't get enough of. Being around them is in a way like being with you. Sometimes it's hard but most of the time it's so easy. They are so funny. They make me laugh so hard. Robert has your mannerisms....the way he walks, the way he wears his clothes, the way he dances and performs for everyone. Ryan has your husky build and your funny sarcasm. And as young as Jonathan might be, he knows who his father is. He points to your picture and says "Da Da". There is so much I feel I need to tell you. I am so proud to have you as my brother. I am grateful to have grown up in such a close family. None of us grew up and moved far away. We always remained close. I guess thats what makes this so hard. But I wouldn't have it any other way...fights and all. One of us is missing and we will forever be incomplete. You were the best brother, son, husband, and father and that is how you will always be remembered. I love you with all my heart and will miss you forever.....
Love Always.....Carolyn
To laugh often and much;
to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;
to appreciate beauty;
to find the best in others;
to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;
to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.
This is to have succeeded.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Leanne
November 18, 2002
Hi Rob,
Well I had to endure another birthday without seeing your smiling face and hear you singing, ever so loudly, "Happy Birthday." Birthdays just aren't the same without you in our life. I wish I could blow out the candles and see you standing there. Just to see you smile would have made my day special. All I have to resort to are pictures of your happy face and the memories that are etched in my mind, heart and soul. I love you and my birthday wish is for you to be happy!
Love you more and more everyday!
Your sister, Forever!
Leanne
November 4, 2002
Hi Rob,
I just wanted to tell you how much I miss you. They say time heals all wounds but so far time has not made it any easier, only harder. I wish to God I could just hear your voice and talk to you!
I Love You and Miss You Sooooo Much!
Forever your sister!
Leanne
October 25, 2002
Hi Rob,
Yesterday Tony ran a golf outing in your memory. He did a really good job considering the time frame he had to work with. He said a few words esp about you and him being friends since you were both 5 yrs old. His words were very touching. He misses you terribly. You would have been very proud of him. Little Rob played a few holes with Tony and Chad, he was really excited, he even got to drive the cart :)
Anyway, it was a little strange being amongst your friends without you. But, I'm sure you were there. Maybe trying to make Chad not play so well (LOL) Hopefully we can have this every year, so no one ever forgets you!
I love you and miss you more everyday!
DAWN VANTASSELL
October 22, 2002
HI ROB, I WAS AT JOHNATHAN'S FIRST BIRTHDAY PARTY ON SUNDAY,IT WAS A BEAUTIFUL AFFAIR, HES SUCH A HAPPY BABY HES ALWAYS SMILING. AND ROBERT HAD A BALL RUNNING AROUND WITH HIS FRIENDS THE KIDS GOT TO PAINT PUMPKINS, AND POOH WAS THERE. IT WAS A BITTER SWEET PARTY, I CANT BELIEVE THE BABY IS ONE YEARS OLD ALREADY.YOUR NEW HOME IS BEAUTIFUL DAWN DID A GREAT JOB DECORATING IT.AND THE KIDS SEEM TO BE VERY HAPPY THERE. THERES PLENTY OF ROOM FOR THEM NOW.DAWN DOSENT REALLY LIKE SLEEPING THERE THOUGTH, SO PLEASE HELP HER TO SLEEP AT NITE. SHES AMAZINGLY STRONG AND HOLDING UP FOR THE 3 BOYS.YOUR MISSED EVERYDAY BY EVEYONE. (HEAVEN IS NO LONGER MISSING AN ANGEL,FOR NOW THEY HAVE YOU)KEEP LOOKING DOWN ON YOUR FAMILY AND FRIEND,THEY NEED TO KNOW YOU ARE STILL WITH THEM EVERY MOMENT OF EVERYDAY R.I.P& GOD BLESS YOU ROBERT.XOXOX
Leanne
October 15, 2002
Hi Rob,
Just wanted to tell you that I was thinking of you and I wanted to say Hello! Writing to you at least makes me feel like I am really talking to you.
I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU!
regina corbett
October 11, 2002
Dear Rob,
I am Dawn's friend, When i heard of the "act of war" i thought of dawn right away i made the call to her that night when i remembered you worked there. I am so sad that your life was a taken so tragically. I think the hardest thing of all has to be leaving 3 handsome boys behind, especially when it was your life stolen by terrorists. Dawn is an amazing girl... she has held together her emotions for the boys , i know she misses you dearly. I hope you are the brightest star looking down on the kids and her when they look up at the sky!! I hope you rest in peace. Regina
Leanne
October 9, 2002
Dear Rob,
I haven’t written in a while and I’m sorry, but don’t think for a minute that you aren’t always on my mind. When I go to bed, when I wake up,when I'm driving my car, when I’m on the bus, when I’m sitting at my desk or walking down the street my heart and mind is nothing but thoughts of you. It’s been over a year and to this day I still can’t believe I can no longer see your face or hear your voice. So many times I want to sit down and watch your wedding video but I can’t. Liz made special tapes of her wedding, one for Mommy and one for Dawn, that concentrate on you and I don’t think I have the heart to watch that just yet either. I want so much to call you up and just shoot the breeze. I want to see you at dinner on Sunday’s and watch you go nutty over the Giants, the Mets or Duke. I didn’t have your insight last year during the NCAA Tourney so I had to do it myself; I lost anyway, like I’ll ever win. But dreaming of winning wasn’t the only reason I got involved. It was also something I could share with you and that made me feel good. Life just isn’t the same without you here. No more corny jokes or “what movie was that from,” or the crazy emails we used to send each other at work, no more picking up the phone to bother you and Todd. I could go on forever, that’s how many great memories I have. To be able to call you my brother was and still is a privilege. I hope you’re listening when I talk because I want you to know everyday for the rest of my life that you will always be with me in heart and soul until we meet again.
I love you and miss you much!
Kyle Henley
September 15, 2002
Dear Shay family,
Hi, my name is Kyle Henley and I'm 13. I am writing to you because 4 days ago at my church's 9/11 memorial service, all the victims names of 9/11 were put in baskets and we were able to pick a name out of the basket so we could pray for their family, and I pulled Robert J. Shay. I pray for your family every night and I keep a slip of paper with his name on it next to my bed so I wont forget. If you have any specific prayer reqests, please just email me. I hope your family is doing okay.
Sincerely,
Kyle Henley
Michael Betsch
September 11, 2002
Dear Robert and Family,
Yesterday, I attended a memorial program honoring the the widow of Tom Burnett, Jr. whose heroism aboard United Airlines Flight 93 saved countless innocent lives on the ground below.
At the event, I was presented with a memorial bracelet that featured your name which I am wearing at this moment.
I was especially touched to learn that you and I are the same age and sadly regret the fact that your innocent life was cut short by a senseless act of terror.
A native of Long Island, I have mourned the loss of several of your fellow employees that have touched my life over the years.
Though our paths have never crossed, know that your memory and my heartfelt intentions for your family will forever be in my prayers.
Sincerely,
Mike
eileen
September 11, 2002
Rob, I just wanted to say that you meant so much to this family...you STILL mean so much. It truly was a pleasure knowing you...you were the life of OUR "party"; we will never EVER forget you; no way we could. They time heals all wounds...apparently they never met someone like you. Time will never mend the hole in our heart. We will love you and miss you always. You will be forever in our thoughts and especially in our hearts. We look forward to seeing your smiling face in the future.
-love ya Rob. :(
Tina Moton
September 11, 2002
I did not know Robert personally, but my prayers and thoughts go out for his family, may God bless and keep all of you, and give you the needed strength to heal from such a great loss. Earth has no sorrow that heaven cannot heal!!!
Tina
Leanne Shay
September 11, 2002
Dear Rob,
I cannot believe a whole year has past since you have been gone. It only feels like yesterday that I saw you sitting in the kitchen with a huge smile on your face. The pain and anger I feel is as real today as it was one year ago. We were supposed to watch each other grow old and see our families’ grow. I feel so lost without you. I feel as though part of my soul is gone, you always felt more like my twin. You just naturally made me feel a little happier, a little more alive to life. There are things that you said to me that I’ll always remember and ways you’ve helped me that I’ll never forget. This place we call home just isn’t the same without you. The tears and questions are constant. There are so many things that I can’t explain and it just breaks my heart to think you were in any kind of pain. I don’t think we choose when to leave but I guess God knew best. I know you left for a place of peace and rest, free of pain and sorrow. Someday we will be together again but until then I hope to see you in my dreams!
Always In My Heart! Always On My Mind!
I Love You! I Miss You!
I Will Never Forget!
Your sister
Rob Cosby
September 10, 2002
I didn't know Rob, but I feel a special kinship since we have the same first name and are both fathers of wonderful children. To his family, I pray daily for the Lord to give you His strength and help see you through this difficult time. The only thing I really know to say is to lean on the Lord. He promised to never leave you or forsake you. He also promised to be a husband to the husbandless and a father to the fatherless. May God bless you and make His face shine upon you, and may He give you His peace.
ellen scortichini
September 9, 2002
Dear Robert, Although we were first cousins and saw each other at the occasional weddings and family get togethers, I always thought we would all have a long time to be in each others lives, watching our families grow and seeing the next generation of weddings and babies. I'm sorry I didn't know you better.I read the tributes of you and can see what a great guy you were. I think of you all the time with a sadness in my heart for you, and everyone you left behind, too soon. I hope that you are happy in heaven and that you are looking over and giving strength to the many people who miss you terribly.
Love, Ellen
Laura Ranieri
September 9, 2002
Dear Rob,
Almost a year has gone by, and the thought of you not being here still has not set in. I spend time with Dawn, Robert, Ryan, and Jonathan as often as I can. I am amazed at how much your boys resemble you more and more each day, not only with their looks, but their mannerisms and senses of humor as well. They constantly make me laugh and I love them all so much. I know you are always looking down on your family and watching over them as the guardian angel that you are. This was one of the many things I admired about you; you were such a family man. I have spent time with your parents, sisters, and brothers and I have been fortunate to see what a wonderful loving family you came from and it is no wonder you were the way you were-such a great man! Please watch over all of your family as everyday is a struggle with the pain. There is a hole in the hearts of everyone who knew you. Dawn has been so strong for the boys, and I believe you give her your love and strength to carry on, but it is always hard. So please continue to be with her always, as I already know you are. When I first saw the two of you together, I saw true love, something I shall never forget.
I'll never forget the barbecues, your perfect lawn,the midnight arrival in O.C., my fear of exposing the fact that I was a Yankee fan to you, the worlds biggest Mets fan ever! And don't forget the pretzel salt on the potatoes (and anything that would sit still-haha). Although I only knew you for a short time, I considered you to be a great friend. You left us with some great times to think back on. You truly were the life of a party. We all miss you so much. You have really touched my heart and the hearts of so many others. Words can't begin to describe the impact you had on so many lives. You will live on through the love you have left with your family and friends. You will live on through the memories you have made with them as well. I look at the boys everyday and I know, you will live on through them too. God Bless you Rob...love Laura
dawn shay
September 9, 2002
Dear Robert,
I Just can't believe it is going to be a whole year since you have been taken away from me.I feel like you were just holding me yesterday on the couch rubbing my belly deciding on baby names. Now we have a ten month old son Jonanthan Robert who is the happiest baby you can't get enough of. Also robert and Ryan who miss you dearly.It is amazing how one minute can change your whole life, we had so many dreams and not enough time. My life will never be the same without you, you were my best friend, my husband, my life, and most of all my hero. You gave me everything I have today our three sons. In such a short time you tought me how to love there is noone in this world I could ever love more then you, you were my everything. I know you are here with me looking down but I miss your touch your kiss and your great big bear hug even watching you water your grass. Life is so hard without you to many decisions to make for one person. I have followed through with one of your dreams and that is buying a house for me and the boys I know you are proud of me, a cute little house with alot of property alot of grass that is, ( exactly what you wanted). Robert and ryan talk about you often, ryan says daddy is coming home soon to take me to the rides it is amazing how someone that young remembers, but how can you forget the GREATEST DAD. Robert is always telling the baby about you and how much he misses you. Everybody knows you were the best. You are my hero and will always hold the biggest spot in my heart. Love always your wife Dawn
Frank Griffin
September 8, 2002
I did not know Robert, but I pray that God will bless him and keep his family safe.
Frank Griffin
Michael Lee
September 2, 2002
Rob,
The boys at JP Morgan miss you very much. Your sarcasm and SI attitude will always be missed. It's almost a year since your life was abruptly taken from us, but Sal and I will always remember the good times we'd spent on the phone.
Leanne Shay
August 26, 2002
Dear Rob,
You were so young
Your life had just begun
Suddenly it was taken away
When you went to work that Tuesday
I never had the chance to say
The things I always wanted to say
I never told you how much I cared
Or how much I enjoyed the things we
shared
I only wish you could see
How much you always meant to me!
I miss you more than words can say. I wait for the day till I see you again!
I Love You Always and Forever!
August 22, 2002
To The Shay Family:
I have never met Robert, but through my boyfriend I felt as though I knew him. He would tell me stories of how they used to hang out together in highschool and college. Whenever he spoke of Rob he had a smile on his face and always said "I have to call him". Unfortunately Brian never did. I can honestly say that when he found out that Rob didn't make it I saw a sadness in his eyes I did not think I would ever see in him.
You will be deeply missed, Rob.
John Sadocha
August 22, 2002
Dear Eileen & Shay Family,
I am deeply sorry for the loss of Robert. I just read Eileen's thoughtful note on my older brother, Frank, who was also lost on that horrific day. I wish you strength in the upcoming weeks as my family summons courage to face the approaching first anniversary.
It's hard to believe a year has already passed.
Sincerely,
John Sadocha
Bridget
August 16, 2002
TO THE ENTIRE SHAY FAMILY:
I TOO COME FROM A LARGE FAMILY, AND CAN NOT FATHOM THE LOSS YOU ARE FEELING.
I WAS IN HS WITH ROB AND WE HUNG OUT MANY TIMES TOGETHER, ESPECIALLY AFTER BASKETBALL GAMES. HE WAS AN OUTSTANDING PERSON. ALWAYS GOOD FOR A LAUGH, AND TRUE TO HIS FRIENDS.
YOU SHOULD BE SO PROUD OF HIM AND THE LIFE HE LED. MY PRAYERS GO TO YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY AND TO ROB'S WIFE AND CHILDREN. YOUR A STRONG FAMILY, AND MUST BE FOR ROB'S CHILDREN.
LOVE AND PRAYERS
BRIDGET
DAWN VANTASSELL
July 27, 2002
I READ THIS SOMEWERE AND I HOPE IT GIVES ALL YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS A LITTLE COMFORT.
IF TOMORROW STARTS WITH OUT ME,AND I'M NOT THERE TO SEE IF THE SUN SHOULD RISE,AND FIND YOUR EYES ALL FILLED WITH TEARS FOR ME;I WISH SO MUCH YOU WOULDNT CRY ,THE WAY YOU DID TODAY, WHILE THINKING OF MANY THINGS,WE DIDNT GET TO SAY.I KNOW HOW MUCH YOU LOVE ME, AS MUCH AS I LOVE YOU,AND EACH TIME THAT YOU THINK OF ME I KNOW YOU'LL MISS ME TO;BUT WHEN TOMORROW STARTS WITH OUT ME,PLEASE TRY TO UNDERSTAND,THAT AN ANGEL CAME AND CALLED MY NAME AND TOOK BE BY THE HAND,THEY SAID MY PLACE WAS READY IN HEAVEN FAR ABOVE,AND THAT ID HAVE TO LEAVE BEHIND ALL THOSE I DEARLY LOVE.BUT AS I TURNED TO WALK AWAY A TEAR FELL FROM MY EYE,FOR ALL OF MY LIFE,I'D ALWAYS THOUGHT,I DIDNT WANT TO DIE,I HAD SO MUCH TO LIVE FOR SO MUCH YET LEFT TO DO,IT SEEMED ALMOST INMPOSSIBLE,THAT I WAS LEAVING YOU, I THOUGHT FOR ALL OF THE YESTERDAYS,THE GOOD ONES ND THE BAD,THE THOUGHT OF ALL THE LOVED WE SHARED,AND ALL THE FUN WE HAD.IF I COULD RE LIVE YESTERDAY,JUST EVEN FOR A WHILE.I'D SAY GOODBYE AND KISS YOU,AND MAYBE SEE YOU SMILE.BUT THEN I FULLY REALIZED,THAT THIS COULD NEVER BE,FOR EMPTINESS AND MEMORIES WOULD TAKE THE PLACE OF ME.AND I THOUGHT OF YOU AND WHEN I DID, MY HEART WAS FILED WITH SORROW.BUT WHEN I WALKED THROUGHT HEAVENS GATES,I FELT SO MUCH AT HOME.
WHEN GOD LOOKED DOWN AND SMILED AT ME,FROM HIS GREAT GOLDEN THROWN, HE SAID "THIS IS ETERNITY",AND ALL I PROMISED YOU.TODAY ON EARTH YOUR LIFE HAS PASSED,BUT HERE LIFE STARTS A NEW I PROMISE YOU NO TOMORROW BUT TODAY WILL AWAYS LAST, AND SINCE EACH DAYS THE SAME WAY,THERES NO LONGING FOR THE PAST.
YOU HAVE BEEN SO FAITHFUL SO TRUSTING AND SO TRUE THOUGH THERE WERE SOME TIMES YOU DID THINGS YOU KNEW YOU SHOULDNT DO. BUT YOU HAVE BEEN FORGIVEN AND NOW AT LAST YOUR FREE.SO WON'T YOU COME AND TAKE MY HAND AND SHARE MY LIFE WITH ME,REMEMBER ONE DAY WE'LL MEET AGAIN,IN HEAVEN FAR ABOVE,THATS WHEN ILL SEND AN ANGEL,TO GET THE ONES I LOVE.SO WHEN TOMORROW STARTS WITH OUT ME,DONT THINK WERE FAR APART,FOR EVERYTIME YOU THINK OF ME ME IAM RIGHT HERE IN YOUR HEART.
GOD BLESS YOU ROBERT.............
Leanne Shay
July 22, 2002
You Meant So Much To Me
A beautiful spirit you set free
A laughter that made my heart smile
You always made my days worthwhile
You are my heart and mind
How I wish you gave me more time
One more day to help you see
How much you really meant to me
I lie awake late at night
Hoping to see you in my sight
I miss you more than words can describe
A part of me was lost the day you died
A piece of my heart left with you
Can’t you see, I really do love you
You Mean So Much To Me
A Beautiful Spirit Was What You Set Free
(Author Unknown)
July 21, 2002
I usually do not write my feelings down for everyone to see but I was just checking legacy and I of course went to your tribute page. When your picture came up I was overcome with sadness and disbelief. I can not believe...still to this day..over 10 months later that you are gone from our lives forever. You were so full of life and energy it made us look at you and think we wish everyone could be like you. You were funny, you were handsome, you were popular and you were always the life of the party. There is a hole in our heart...a hole i am sure in everyone's heart that knew you, that will never be mended. Words can not even begin to describe how much we miss you, your infectious smile and your fun loving personality. We are trying to stay strong and move on but please know that our life will never ever be the same again. Not a day goes by that we do not think about you...you will be forever missed. We will love you always.
MARILYN
July 15, 2002
I have read many of the posts on the Staten Island Forum and almost feel that I know you. Your sister is so proud of you. She doesn't realize it but she is a very strong determined person and I am sure you are equally a proud of her. My prayers are with you and your family.
Allison
July 15, 2002
After reading so much about you in the SI.com forums, I thought that it would be nice to get to know you a bit more by reading your legacy.
It appears as if you were a wonderful and loving son, brother, husband, daddy and friend. Your sister is so very proud of you and often writes about you in the forum. You would be so proud of her strength!!!
I wish your family much peace as my thoughts and prayers are with them!!
RIP!
Maureen Shay
July 12, 2002
It has been ten months since Robert was so viciously taken from us. Time does not heal all wounds. We'll never stop missing him.
Leanne Shay
July 11, 2002
Dear Rob,
It has been 10 months to the day that you flew away. I believe that God gave you your wings so you could fly as high away from that disaster. I still can’t believe that I cannot speak to you face to face or over the phone. I wish I could have just one more phone call or just one more visit. The fact that I used to make fun of you for calling the house so many times a day makes me sick. I wish the phone rang 24/7 with the sound of your voice on the other end. I miss you so much. Sometimes it just hurts to breathe. You are my every thought and every prayer. Until we meet again….
Love you forever,
Your sister.
Leanne Shay
July 4, 2002
Happy 4th of July in Heaven Rob. Well, the Pepper Martin race is over and I came in just over an hour. HA! HA! So hot I had to walk most of it. During the race all I kept thinking was "You sick puupy! How did you run this every year?" My love for you kept me going. At least I finished! I have to start training for next year NOW! But I will run, walk or crawl every 4th of July in your memory. I love you and miss you so much! Today I shed a tear, for the the 4th of July is just not the same without you here. :(
DAWN VANTASSELL
June 25, 2002
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ROB!!!!!!!!!!! IAM NOT A BIG MET FAN,BUT I WATCHED THE GAME TODAY BECAUSE I KNOW YOUR FAMILY WAS AT THE GAME, AND I KNOW HOW SPECIAL THIS GAME WAS TO THEM. AND THEY DID IT THEY WON FOR YOU (GO METS). TODAY WAS MY 1 YEAR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY AND I COULDNT GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD THAT IT WAS ALSO YOUR BIRTHDAY.I WAS WITH YOUR SONS RECENTLY FOR LUNCH AND ITS AMAZING TO ME HOW EACH ONE OF THEM HAVE AN EXSPRESSION ,MOVEMENT,MANNER,AND SMILE JUST LIKE YOU, ME AND DAWN LAUGHED AND TALKED ABOUT THE GOOD OLD DAYS, WELL HAPY BIRTHDAY AND GOD BLESS.KEEP AN EYE ON EVERYONE DOWN HERE,THEY NEED YOUR HELP AND THE STRENGTH TO STAY STRONG. HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY PRAYS ARE WITH YOUR FAMILY ALWAYS AND FOREVER R.I.P
Maureen Shay
June 23, 2002
Today, June 23, 2002 would have been Robert's 28th birthday. The day he was born brought such joy into our lives. He was such a nice little boy. He laughed and joked and never complained about anything. From the time he was 12 years old he had a job of some sort. He delivered newspapers, washed dishes and mowed lawns. He worked hard at everything he did. He was never lazy. He even washed his own clothes. Robert was a delight to be around. He enjoyed life to the fullest. He always had time to help people. He is missed so much. For the past nine and a half months every thought has been of Robert. He is our life.
Leanne
June 23, 2002
Happy 28th Birthday in Heaven!
Birthdays are a time for celebration
Not a time for tears
But what happens when the birthdays No longer mark the years...
A birthday marks the moment
A spirit enters earthly life
To share its special love and joy And learn from earthly strife.
Before a spirit comes to us
It knows when and how it must depart
It chooses it's path carefully
We are honored from the start.
The sadness we now feel On such a joyous day
Is longing for our loved one's touch
It's natural to feel this way.
For even though the birthdays No longer mark a spirit's stay
Love continues on forever
To touch us everyday.
So hug your precious memories
Closer to your heart
And honor your beloved spirit child Who chose you from the start...
Time may hide our sadness
A smile will hide our tears
But the memories you left us
Will remain throughout the years..(Author Unknown)
Happy 28th Birthday Rob - We Love and Miss You So Much! :(
P.S. - The Mets won today :)
Your Sister
June 23, 2002
If we could hear your laughter
If we could wipe away a tear
If we could hold you close for just one more year
If we could cast a spell to make go away
The pain and suffering of that most horrific day
If we could lead you down the staircase to safety
To make sure that you got home to us safely
If we could do all this
We would do this and more
You see we miss you Rob
We wish you would just walk through the door
Unfortunately for all of us that will never be
So please watch over us and keep us safe
Make sure you cheer us on through the end of the race
And when our time comes to see you once more
Look for us, although we will be hard to miss
For we will once again have a smile on our face
Rob, you will be forever in our thoughts and our hearts
Happy 28th Birthday (your first in heaven)
Robert J. Shay Jr. 6/23/74-9/11/01
Maureen Shay
June 16, 2002
Today is Father's Day and Robert is not here to share it with his sons and his father. We miss him more and more with each passing day.
Leanne Shay
June 11, 2002
Dear Rob,
It has been nine months to the day that you were taken away but it only feels like yesterday! I cannot believe that I haven’t seen you in almost a year. I miss your smile, your voice, your jokes, and your laugh. I think about the days we had when we were kids. Playing basketball, ring and run, red rover, swimming in our pool, camping, making a scarecrow together, etc. I think about all the times that I made sure no one hurt you and then the day that I couldn’t stop them, 9/11. I can’t describe the pain, the emptiness, the anger I feel everyday. I am so sorry for not being there when you needed me the most. I am so sorry for never telling you how I felt since we were kids. Only Mommy knew how I felt but it should have been you I told. I hope your sons grow up to be just like you, a great son, brother, husband and father! Please know that not a moment goes by that you are not in my thoughts. This 4th of July, I’ll be running for you so cheer me on at the finish line as I did for you since we were kids.
Forever on my mind! Forever in my Heart!
Your Sister :(
Leanne
May 24, 2002
Dear Rob,
I couldn't have asked for a more
caring brother.
With you I never needed help
from any other.
You're all a brother could ever
possibly be.
You mean the world and
more to me!
I miss the smile on your face, the sound of your laughter and the glimmer in your eyes.
You are forever in my thoughts and always in my heart.
I love you and miss you more than words can say!
Your sister :(
Maureen Shay
May 12, 2002
It has been eight months since Robert was taken from us. With each passing day our hearts bleed a little more. Our lives will never be the same. We miss him more than words can say. Life is empty without him.
April 29, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL YOUNG MAN...ROBERT J.SHAY JR.AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS LOVING FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK...MAY JESUS AND HIS SAINTS GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
Samantha Blair
April 15, 2002
To the family of Robert J. Shay, Jr.: The love that you show for your son, your brother, your husband and your friend is beautiful. America shares your grief, but we will never feel it as strongly as you do. Please know that Robert is a part of the American family and he shall always be missed. You bear your grief and loss bravely. If there were anything we could do to help you get through your suffering, it would be done. Unfortunately, pain is very private and no one can take it away. But, you are not alone. You will never be alone. Robert will be remembered 100 years from now. He is not a hero because he was murdered, he is a hero because he loved life, loved his family, loved his parents, loved his wife, loved his children. Because he got up every day and went to work. Because he was willing to start low in order to finish high. He gave his all to his family, friends and his job. That is why he is a hero. That is why he will be remembered. He lived his life with honor and grace. He lived his life with love. If only all of us lived life as well as Robert did. May your suffering ease as time goes by.
Leanne Shay
April 14, 2002
Dear Rob,
A Hero is what you are to me
A Hero is what you'll always be
A Part of my life
A Part of my dreams
A Part of me is what
You'll Always be!
You will always be my brother and
No one can take that away!
I Love You!
April 12, 2002
To Robert:
Rest in Peace. Let your family know your OK. This is for you- -
"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded." -Robert Waldo Emerson
MAUREEN SHAY
April 11, 2002
THERE ARE NO WORDS TO EXPRESS THE AGONY WE FEEL. WE MISS ROBERT MORE AND MORE AS TIME GOES BY.
Judi Brehm
April 5, 2002
My deepest condolences to the entire Shay family. I am so sorry for your terrible loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers everyday...
Mary Shaw
March 25, 2002
Robert was too young to go. I want to send my condolence to his Family.My son is his age, I think he is the boy that went to school with my boy, St Peters HS. I did not know him but his picture is very familiar. RIP Robert
We all miss you, the Shaw Family
DAWN VANTASSELL
March 22, 2002
ROB GOD BLESS YOU! R.I.P. GIVE DAWN THE STRENGHT TO GO ON AND BE HAPPY. YOUR 3 SONS ALL LOOK LIKE YOU. EACH ONE RESEMBLES YOU IN THERE OWN WAY.I PRAY YOUR FAMILY CAN FIND IT IN THEM SELFES TO STAY STRONG.EVERYONE IS TRYING TO HOLD IT TOGETHER FOR EACH OTHER.THERE ALL STRONG AND ALL MISS YOU VERY MUCH LET THEM KNOW YOUR ALRIGHT. MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH THEM ALL DAWN,ROBERT,RYAN,JOHNATHAN,MR.&MRS. SHAY,KATHLEEN,LEANNE,CAROLYN,MAUREEN,JIMMY,MICHAEL,EILEEN.GOD BLESS YOU ALL MAY YOU ALL MEET AGAIN. ALL MY LOVE ALWAYS DAWN VANTASSELL
Leanne Shay
March 11, 2002
Rob, today (March 11, 2002) marks the 6-month anniversary in which you were suddenly and viciously taken from us. I know I said before that God took you but I know now that you decided to go home. "The people who were sitting in darkness saw a great light, and those who were sitting in the land and shadow of death, upon them a light dawned," - Matthew 4:16. You are in the arms of angels now. I know you have found peace and comfort there. You will live on in my heart forever!
I miss you and I love you!
Your sister,
Leanne
LEANNE SHAY
February 11, 2002
ROB,
IT HAS BEEN EXACTLEY 5 MONTHS TO THE DAY THAT GOD TOOK YOU FROM US. I MISS YOU SO MUCH! EVERYDAY I PRAY THAT THEY FIND YOU BUT EVERYNIGHT I FALL ASLEEP DISAPPOINTED. AT LEAST I CAN SEE YOU IN MY DREAMS. I SAW THE SIGN THAT I ASKED FOR. IT WAS SPECIFIC AND ONLY YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN. KNOW THAT NOT A MINUTE GOES BY THAT I AM NOT THINKING OF YOU. I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART AND I MISS YOU SO MUCH!
I WILL SEE YOU AGAIN BUT UNTIL THEN I WILL SEE YOU IN MY DREAMS!
LOVE ALWAYS AND FOREVER YOUR SISTER LEANNE
Maureen Shay
February 3, 2002
ROBERT WAS THE SIXTH CHILD IN A FAMILY OF EIGHT CHILDREN. HE BROUGHT JOY TO ALL OF OUR LIVES. HIS ENERGY AND ENTHUSIASM WERE CONTAGIOUS. HIS WILLINGNESS TO HELP, HIS THOUGHTFULNESS, HIS INFECTIOUS LAUGHTER AND HIS LOVE OF LIFE MADE ROBERT A PART OF US. WE ARE NO LONGER COMPLETE. THERE IS A VOID IN OUR LIVES THAT WILL NEVER BE FILLED. IT WAS A PRIVILEGE TO BE HIS MOTHER.
KATHLEEN SHAY
January 26, 2002
ROB,IT'S BEEN OVER FOUR MONTHS AND THE DAYS ARE NOT GETTING ANY EASIER.EVERYDAY I PRAY THAT IT'S ALL A DREAM, I MISS YOU SO MUCH I NOW KNOW WHAT A BROKEN HEART FEELS LIKE I HAVE A PAIN IN MY CHEST THAT DOESN'T GO AWAY. I WOULD DO ANYTHING TO BE WITH YOU AGAIN. MOM AND DAD ARE HOLDING UP BUT THEY REALLY MISS YOU. I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND, I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHY I'M WRITING THIS. I HAD A DREAM THAT YOU WERE HIDING FROM ME AND WHEN I FOUND YOU, YOU SAID YOU WERE ALL RIGHT AND I COULD LEAVE NOW THATS THE ONLY THING THAT KEEPS ME GOING. I STILL CAN'T BELEIVE THIS HAPPENED TO OUR FAMILY. I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU, I REALLY MISS YOU, LOVE FOREVER YOUR SIS KATHLEEN.
Liz Jennings
January 21, 2002
Rob, I feel like I watched you grow up. I knew you from when you were just a little kid and watched you grow up and become the kind of person anyone would strive to be. I will always remember how you could make everyone laugh, you were very good at imitations. I think about how you knew all the lines from Christmas Vaction and Trading Places. I think of the great pride you took in your lawn. I think about how you'd almost get physically ill watching the Mets in a close game. I think about the respect you treated women with, something I always credited to be rasied with so many sisters. I think of how much you loved Dawn and the boys. And how you called your mom & dad everyday. I was so proud of you- the enthusiasm with which you approached your job, and you were damn good at it to.- not bad for a kid from SI, who started out as a maintanence person. I don't know what else to say Rob, except you were a great guy and will be sorely missed.
Glen Corson
January 4, 2002
We grew up together played on the same CYO basketball teams and hung out throughout high school and college. I haven't seen you or talked to you since those days and I would of like to have kept in touch to see how you were doing. I guess I want to say good-bye and rest in peace and may God hold you in the palm of his hand. I'll never forget the crazy times you, me, Casey, and Burke had toghether. God Bless.
Teresa Jahn
December 12, 2001
When I look at the stars in heaven I will remember what young Robert said about putting them on his window so his dad would find him. May Robert's memories continue filling all of your hearts love. We are deeply sorry for your loss. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Leanne Shay
November 14, 2001
Dear Rob,
God how I miss you. I think of you every minute of every day. On Sept. 11th I called you at 8:50 A.M., but I couldn't get through. I regret ever getting you an application for Cantor and I am so sorry for leaving you there! I am so sorry for not being there to protect you. I begged God to keep you safe. I guess he had other plans for you. While I was walking downtown that day I felt a strange but calming touch to my hand. I felt it was you guiding me. I will see you again, but not soon enough! I Love You with all my heart.
I Love You Always,
Your sister
Leanne
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