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Darlene Diaz Cioffi
December 4, 2019
Kristen, I am sending you and your family my prayers. I worked with your mom at Merrill Lynch in NYC and was just a couple a years younger than you and your sisters. I was searching for your mom and came across this page. Your mom treated me so well. She was like a mom to me. She was always so proud of you and your sisters. This page is filled with love. Darlene Diaz Cioffi
S J. Friscia III
February 16, 2015
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With Honor & Respect.
Millie Stapelfeldt
August 26, 2013
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, in Heaven, Kristen. Always in our hearts. Please keep praying for us all.
September 11, 2012
Thinking of you and your family
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Eileen McGuire
July 2, 2012
I worked with Kristen at Johnson & Higgins and at Marsh. For some crazy reason, she just popped into my head. I remember her smile and how adorable she was. I hope her sisters and Mom are doing ok. She talked about you all the time. She was so much fun. She is missed.
John and peg Montanaro
September 11, 2011
My name is John Montanaro Jr, I always wondered if we were related,. please accept our deepest sympathy from my wife and I.our e.mail address is [email protected] if you would like. please e.mail us thankyou
Phillip P. Montanaro
September 11, 2011
May you be remembered for the good moments in life and not the tragic last moment of your life, from one Montanaro to another. As a Soldier fighting in Afghanistan now, you are never forgotten.
Millie Stapelfeldt
September 1, 2010
We're always thinking of you, dear Kristen, but most especially on your Birthday, August 26th. We had a family emergency and could not send our love, here, on that day, but please...you and your family know that we'll love you forever. Rest In Eternal Peace, sweetheart.
Another view of the Bench at LBI
Cheryl
August 26, 2010
Kristen's Bench at LBI
Cheryl
August 26, 2010
August 26, 2010
gone to soon, you and the others that lost there lives that fateful day........prayers are sent to all the families....we all live in a changed world. Happy Birthday Kristen, peace is yours.
Darin
August 26, 2010
Love and Friendship are forever.... best wishes to your family. See ya, when I see ya...
Cheryl
August 26, 2010
Forever young....that's what is playing in my head. Happy Birthday..(another great beach day :)
Greg
September 11, 2009
God Bless
Cheryl
September 11, 2009
Waiting to hear your name....
Millie Stapelfeldt
September 10, 2009
GOD Rest your soul in Heavenly Peace, Forever, dear Kristen. We believe that you ARE in Heaven with Our Dear Lord and KNOW what's going on in our lives. You're part of it. Please pray for us and know that we love you and we'll NEVER FORGET...EVER.
Millie Stapelfeldt
September 11, 2008
Someone recently said that we go on with our lives, but when Sept. 11th comes around, it REALLY comes around! Seven years...7 years! I am amazed at how long it's been, and it's STILL an AWFUL and raw wound! When your name was read and we saw your picture on TV, my heart broke again! We miss you, Kristen, and pray for your family..especially this day. Hope "Cheyenne", the Wonder Dog, is giving you lots of kisses! GOD rest your beautiful soul in Heavenly Peace and Bless your family and loved ones...forever!
All Our Love,
Millie, Bill & Family
Cheryl
August 27, 2008
Happy Birthday...I lit a candle for you at your house...Another great beach day...hope you are enjoying it :)
Millie Stapelfeldt
August 26, 2008
HAPPY BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN, KRISTEN! We'll always love you...and miss you, too.
All Our Love,
Millie, Bill & all the Stapelfeldt's
CARY SARA
September 14, 2007
I saw the beautiful bench when I was in Long Beach Islands Sunset Park and I wanted to learn more about Kristen. Never forgive - never forget - Feel when I take my granddaughter to the park she will have an angel watching over her. I didn't know if my husband would make it home that day - I laid on the floor for 5 hours at work and waited for him to call me and tell me he was okay. Tradegy that should never have happened and never be repeated.
Cheryl
September 11, 2007
We haven't forgotten you.....
Doug Abraham
August 26, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
Millie Stapelfeldt
August 26, 2007
Today would be your 40th Birthday. I remember your giggle when I told you Bill & I were married the same year. Happy Birthday in Heaven, hon. We love you and miss you..always. Love to your family. Keep praying for all of us, too, ok?
All Our Love, Millie, and family.
Richard Mockler
January 16, 2007
I happened to come across the bench in Kristen's honor at the park in Harvey Cedars yesterday and I had to look up the name. I was there that day and only fate and luck seperated the two of us. I did not know Kristen but now when I take my four year old daughter to that park I will be thinking of her. I will also make sure that when my little girl gets older she understands what happened and why Kristen's name is on that bench. My belated condolences to all of the Montanaro family and her friends.
Sincerely,
Richard Mockler
P Tabbernor
January 6, 2007
In memory....
Kristine
November 17, 2006
As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Millie Stapelfeldt
September 11, 2006
You are still with us, hon, and always will be in our hearts and thoughts - ALWAYS. It's still so incredibly hard to believe what happened, but that it's 5 yrs., doesn't seem possible! We love you and miss you, but can only imagine what your Mom, Dad, Ed, Karen, Jamie, and all your family and friends are going through! We send them our heartfelt thoughts and prayers...and love. Please keep praying for us all, Kristen. I know your prayers are working! We love you and always will. Thank you for loving our son.
Mark Stapelfeldt
September 11, 2006
You are still missed terribly. You are still loved. I miss you. I am told it is 5 years since that horrible day and yet it seems like 5 minutes have gone by. I can still hear your voice and see your smile. I try my best to continue on each day, but it is with me always with me. 5 years later and I still cry as if it just happened and then I remember when we were together and those memories dull the pain just enough. That memory of your smile and your laugh still lights up my world when it gets dark. I will always love you and you are always a part of me. Thank you for that Kristen.
Millie Stapelfeldt
August 27, 2006
Of course, you were in my heart and prayers yesterday -- that Special Day -- your Birthday! However, that's every day, with us! It's supposed to "get better" with time, but it doesn't -- not really. Life goes on, and wonderful & joyous events, as well as the sorrowful & frightening, keep happening to us all. But NOTHING compares with what we all went through, just 5 yrs. ago! We will NEVER FORGET that time in our lives, but we'll ALWAYS remember your laugh, spirit and that smile - We'll ALWAYS remember, YOU! Love you, forever, Kristen!
Cheryl
August 26, 2006
The everlasting 39th birthday....instead you stopped on the 34th....You'll be like Marilyn Monroe-Forever Young. Happy Birthday...what's with the rain, by the way??
Cheryl
September 11, 2005
It will be 20 years and I will still be mad over your death. I was in your living room last night and stood there looking at all the pictures of you, Jamie & Karen on your various trips together. It's not fair-it's just not fair. Those are the printable words I can use for how I feel.
I don't think it's rained on September 11th these last 4 years. Each anniversary is sunnier than the last year. It's a little cool today, but the skies are just as blue as that day.
Would have been a great beach day, huh?
Mark Stapelfeldt
September 11, 2005
...and thank you for putting Frankie in the Rosebank house
Mark Stapelfeldt
September 11, 2005
here am I am..Alone without you again...I pray each day that I will see you again someday...I still see you in my dreams...you were the one and always will be my one...I love so much...I will be with you again my love...angel baby..I still cant deal with losing you...watch over me, please? I need you
Millie & Bill Stapelfeldt
August 26, 2005
Happy Birthday, darling Kristen! Still can't believe that it's been 4 yrs. It still hurts..and always will. We pray that you Rest in Heavenly Peace, Forever, and that you'll always pray for all of us, since you're so much closer to HIS THRONE than any of us could ever hope for! God Bless You and Keep You. We love you, hon. Love and Happy Birthday to your twin, Karen, too, as she and your mom, Jamie, Ed, and the rest of your family, are forever in our prayers.
Cheryl
August 26, 2005
4 yrs. and I still shake my head and think it's not possible. They'll be down the beach this weekend...send them some sunshine :) Happy Birthday in Heaven.
Millie Stapelfeldt
September 12, 2004
We still cry, Kristen, but I keep coming across SUNFLOWERS, and then I smile. We'll never forget you...we love you.
Mark Stapelfeldt
May 9, 2004
Thinking of you always my Angel...missing you still
December 23, 2003
Happy Holiday's in heaven Kristen.
September 10, 2003
To Kristen's family, friends and Mark,
I have remembered Kristen's name for 2 years probably because our names are connected. My name is also Kristin and my aunt and uncle's last name is Montanaro. I wanted you all to know that there is now a beautiful angel watching over you. God needed her, though we could wish a million times He didn't. I'll be praying for you as we are at the 2nd anninversary of that horrible day. God bless.
Mark Stapelfeldt
August 26, 2003
Happy Birthday my angel! I love you always and I am always thinking of you.
CA918
August 26, 2003
I'm sure the 'girls' will be toasting one (or more :) for you tonite. Happy Birthday in Heaven.
Millie Stapelfeldt
August 26, 2003
Happy Birthday in Heaven, Kristen...and Happy Birthday, here on Earth, Karen!
Thank you, sweet Kristen, for asking God to answer my prayers..and watching over my "boys"! ;-) I love you.
All My Love,
Millie
Mark Stapelfeldt
June 22, 2003
I was given a Golden Retriever the other day. I named him Jasper just like you wanted to. Watch over him and me my Angel. Love you
Me
Mark Stapelfeldt
December 8, 2002
You have been in my dreams lately. I hope you are guiding me? I still do not have the strength that you had. My life, our lives are altered forever. I hope that you are watching over me? I reach out to you in the only way I know how. You are the one that knew me best. You could see right through my tough guy appearance, please help me Kristen? I am still in love with you. Please pray for me and help me to lead a happy life. I hope you will greet me in heaven when I come to see you again. I will see you in my dreams my angel. I made a promise to you and that promise still holds true today! I love you always.
Love
Me
priscille vigneron
October 20, 2002
You did not know me but you're always in my heart,
Your friend Cheyl speaks to me about you and in solidaité deep I concern your name me and always has in my heart.
your life be happy and to share your enjoyment with all the others.
A french which thinks has you
ecuse me for my poor english,
your french fiend
Jeri and John Jones
September 23, 2002
Dear Ellen, We are so sorry to hear about your beloved daughter Kristen. And also sorry because it has been many years since John and I have seen you or your daughters. But we remember the twins when they were born, and how beautitul they both were. Ellen, you did a wonderful job with your girls. You should be very proud of yourself. We were all so young to be parents back then. Our hearts are broken for you and your family, and Kristen will be in all our prayers. With deepest condolences, John and Jeri Jones
Ellen Robb
September 12, 2002
Our thanks to everyone for remembering Kristen on her first anniversary in heaven. Your kind thoughts and messages are greatly appreciated. I can't believe a year has gone by. We hope that she and all her new angel friends are comforting each other. I'm sure she also appreciated everyone thinking of her on her and Karen's birthday in August. CA918 - I'm sure you made her smile.
Mom, Ed, Karen & Jamie
Millie
September 12, 2002
It's the day after the 1st Anniversary of your death, and I feel like I'm right back to last year. We are all so emotionally drained, trying with every ounce of our beings, to honor you and all the others, taken from us that terrible day. It's really difficult, when the sorrow is mixed in with so much rage. So many of those who love you still can't believe it. You know what Mark is going through, Kris - I KNOW you do! He was your boyfriend for almost 3 years, so, as his mother, I also knew of your "plans" and dreams. I hurt for missing you...and my heart breaks for my son, too. What a wonderful daughter-in-law you would have made! We would have had some fun! I love you Kristen! Be at PEACE with GOD!
Toni Bove
September 12, 2002
Dear Ellen
I grew up in Rosebank, and grew up with your 3 daughters. We didnt know each other very well but growing up in Rosebank we all knew of each other. I was extremely saddened by the news of Kristen. We might not have been close but she was a part of my life in our town. It is very difficult to say many things at such a difficult time. All I can think of is keep Kristen in your heart, cherish her memories, stay strong and know you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers every day.
Toni
Samantha Rich
September 11, 2002
Dearest Kristen,
Though I only knew Kristen for a short while, I was devestated to hear the horrific news. My heart sank. I knew her through my aunt Timi,in which they were co-workers, who thankfully to god was not in the building when the attacks happened, she always talked about Kristen, and when I finally met her, She was everything she said and more. Kristen,you are truly unforgetable and have touched my heart with you sincere and caring ways.May you rest in peace forever. I know your in a much better place. My deepest sympathy to everyone who lost someone and especially to Kristen's family and friends.You will be remembered forever. We miss you. God Bless.
Russ Kohlmann
September 11, 2002
Hi Ellen,
Many years go by but I still remember being teased by you and Kathy next door as we grew up together. To think, now, that we've grown up to face such tragedy as the loss of a child....it's devastating. I mourn for your loss. Although I never got to meet your daughters, I knew their mom and her family as great neighbors and friends. On this day, I hope your pain has lessened altho I know it never can. Bless you and your family.
Diane & Lorraine
September 10, 2002
Dear Kristen & Family,
The first time we meant Kristen was when we all worked together at the A&P. We remember her as being extremely outgoing, so full of life and just a beautiful girl all around. She was a tough cookie, never let anyone get away with anything...whether it was an co-worker or a manager --- she'd tell you in a split second, what she thought. We also know her sister Jamie, so we know what a wonderful family Kristen has and that is why she was who she was. We are so honored to have been apart of Kristen's life, if only for a short time.
As September 11th approaches, we wanted to say that we think about you daily and pray that you are at peace and in a better place.
However there is one thing we DEFINITELY know there is one cool angel up there now.
Forever in our hearts,
Vivian
September 10, 2002
Dear Kristen,
I don't know you, but i work with your aunt Sue.. We were talking about you last night. My daughter-in-law also lost her sister (Monica) at the WTC... I can tell aunt Sue loves you very much...She told me she visited Angels circle on Sunday...I want to visit there also to feel close to Monica.. I will be thinking of you when i am there.. My prayers are with you and your family.
Mark Stapelfeldt
August 29, 2002
Happy Birthday sweetie. I didnt know if I could write that. I am still in pain over losing you. I think about you everyday. I want so badly for you to be here with me, with all of us. I hope you celebrated in heaven and know that I still love you. We were supposed to do this down the shore again this year. The love I feel is only equaled by the pain. I will keep you in my heart forever angel. I hope the sunflower I sent got to you. Shine brightly my angel.
Love
Me
Millie
August 27, 2002
This is just to let everyone know that I know Kristen's Birthday is Aug. 26th. My Birthday Tribute to her didn't get posted until the early morning hours of the 27th. Happy Birthday, Kristen, again...and our love to you, too, Karen, as it is also your Birthday. I find it difficult wishing you a "Happy" Birthday, but want you to know you're in our prayers, as is your Mom, Jamie, Ed, your Dad & the rest of your family & friends. GOD BLESS!
Millie
August 27, 2002
Happy 1st Birthday in Heaven, hon! We all miss you terribly, but especially on this day. It doesn't seem like a year has gone by since you were laughing and smiling at me and hugging me your thanks for our little gift to you, in your pretty yellow LBI sweatshirt! It's just incredible! Rest in Peace with Our Dear Lord, sweetheart! We love you.
CA918
August 26, 2002
Today would have been your 35th Birthday. I looked at pictures of you and the girls tonite and just shook my head...how could you be gone? You should be down the shore with them partying your *** off!! Well, I hope your flying high through the clouds eating all the cake you want :)
Cheryl Augustyne
June 2, 2002
Kris,
I have gotten your messages with the television going on and off...I'm impressed being that you are relatively new up there :) Now, if you'd only send me some winning lottery numbers!!
I had to write something funny, as I have no words to describe how I feel about you dying the way you did.......imagine me, speechless.
See ya on the other side....
Carlie Sella
March 27, 2002
Dearest Kristen,
Words can't express the sadness I feel daily. I have so many fond memories of you growing up; bouncing on my couch in Middleville with your sisters, numerous summers at LBI celebrating your and Karens birthday at the beach, that always was a wonderful way to end the summer with all of you wonderful girls. Your mom and sisters miss you terribly and that pain of that horrific day will never leave any of our hearts. Every nigh Lauren and I drive to where we can see the lights of the memorial, it looks from here that they are not shining up, but down from where you are. You are truly a precious soul, and our lives will never be the same again
Love Carlie, Lauren, Matt, Jodi and Sarah
Ellen Robb
March 26, 2002
Thank you everyone for remembering Kristen with your kind thoughts and words. She would truly be very pleased. As for myself, her Mom, I am still finding it hard to comprehend what happened to her. I will never forget the horror of watching her death on Sept. 11th.
Havila Cortes
March 23, 2002
I was very saddened to hear of Kristen's death at the World Trade Center. We went to Curtis High School together and graduated in 1985. I remember Kristen and Karen as simply "the twins". They were always together. I wanted to send my condolences and prayers to the Montanaro's. As I looked in my yearbook at the pictures of Kristen and Karen, I realized that my inscription was between the pictures and it simply said, "Good Luck! KM". I don't remember who signed it, but it did bring a smile to my face. God Bless you and guide you for all the days of your life.
Hav
mike malone
March 12, 2002
hi my name is mike malone im a firefighter from nyc ladder 118 we lost 7 we tryied 2 save as many and kristen i hear shes grreat she will be in our prayers and the family we love u all and god bless her and her family fdny
Anonymous
March 9, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL WOMAN...KRISTEN MONTANARO AND MAY HER SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HER FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..HER TWIN SISTER..STAY CLOSE AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01...GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK.MAY JESUS AND HIS SAINTS GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
Frances
January 30, 2002
I was so saddened to hear of your passing at the WTC. I ran into Jamie & Karen about a week ago and learned that you worked at the WTC. I remember when you and Karen used to come into our store "Going Nuts" to visit your sister and I could not tell the two of you apart. I lost my husband John at the WTC that day and I am sure when he saw you in heaven he was as saddened as I. He will take good care of you so don't worry. Rest in peace - you will always be in my prayers. Thank you for bringing Jamie into my life again - I will keep in touch w/her and Karen and always be there for them. Until we meet again.
Mark Stapelfeldt
January 29, 2002
Kristen, Words cannot describe the the hole that has been left in my life by your passing. Today is our 3rd anniversary. I love you so much my angel. I pray everyday that you are looking down on me and helping me through life as you did when you were here. I am no good without you angel.
We miss you so much. I saw your family on saturday. I love them too. When we met I gained 2 sisters and another mom. They are so strong. I wish I had their strength. I met people I had never met too. So many loved you. So many miss you. This wasnt in the plans honey. I will hold you again someday. I love you, I miss you and you will always be in my broken heart.
Tom Blomgren
January 26, 2002
Kristen, I did not know you, but I felt the call from far away to come and look for you. I have talked to your friends and I know you have a lot of people that love and care about you. Your memory will never be far from me, and I continue to tell your story to those that I meet.
"Eternal Rest grant unto Them, O Lord, and Let Perpetual Light Shine Upon Them."
Fly Free, Kristen. -Tom Blomgren
Rosemarie Stapleton
January 23, 2002
Kristen,
It is said that someone is not truly gone as long as there is someone who cherishes and loves their memory,
We'll always remember you,
Love,
Aunt Roe
Frank Montanaro
January 23, 2002
To My Daughter,
There Isn't a moment in the day that
I don't think about you.I miss you terribly. You'll always be my shooting star..
Love always,
Dad
Ricky O'Brien
January 17, 2002
Kristen and I went to Curtis HS together and we graduated together. We spent four years together, and I didn't know her until I went to work at the A&P in Rosebank. She trained me. It took a little while before she warmed up to me, as we were two completely different people.
Over the years that we worked together, Kristen was a free spirit, and always had a smile on her face, and what seemed to be a laugh in her heart.
When she left the A&P we went our different ways. I went on to finish school and became a teacher, eventually moving down to Chesterfield, Virginia. I was saddened to hear that she was lost in the attack on America.
I'm sorry that we had lost touch with each other.
I always liked Kristen.
My tears and prayers go out to her sisters Karen and Jodie, and to the rest of her family.
May God keep you all, as Kristen is in a better place.
Rick O'Brien
Jodie Stapleton
January 16, 2002
Kristen,
We all know you were a person who lived her life to the fullest.
Keeping you near my heart will give me the strength and courage to live and enjoy life to fullest.I want you to know that you will always be remembered and cherished.
Love your cousin,
Jodie
Frank Stapleton
January 15, 2002
Kristen,
Im sure you already know this,but i'll say it anyway.We all love you and miss you dearly.You are in our thoughts and prayers.Look after our family and friends since you are our angel in heaven.
your cousin,
Frank
Millie Stapelfeldt
January 9, 2002
Our hearts are so heavy with sorrow for all of you in Kristen's family, but also for ourselves. Kristen became a member of our family for what seems like just a little while, but we are so grateful for those moments. I had hoped she would become my daughter-in-law, but while waiting, she became my loving friend. Now...she is OUR ANGEL.
There was never a time that she came into our home, without a cheery, "How are you?", that beautiful smile, and those twinkling eyes...a "Hiya, sweetie!" to our Golden Retriever, "Cheyenne", and the ability to find something to laugh about in every situation...even in all the "golden" hair that she was forever brushing off her clothes..from "sweetie"! She brought us all joy, but especially, to Mark. All that we admired in her, she never took credit...gave it all to her mother, saying, "That's the way our Mama raised us!" GOD has her back with HIM, now, but HE is still walking with you...and us. It still hurts something awful, but I do believe that Kristen's giving HIM the elbow, though, so, she's got us all covered! GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU.
Love, Millie, Bill, Mark & Frank
Ellen Robb
January 1, 2002
Kristen,
You will always be in our broken hearts. The horror of your death on September 11th is beyond comprehension and our grief is beyond words.
Our love forever is with you - your sisters Karen and Jamie, Gram and your Mom Ellen and Eddie.
Betty Anne Murphy
December 27, 2001
Please accept our deepest sympathy on the loss of Kristen. She worked with our sister, Mary Catherine Murphy Boffa, whom we also lost in this horific tragedy. Please know that you and all of the other families of this tragedy are in our thoughts and prayers during the Christmas season and always. I take solace in knowing that Mary and Kristen, were not alone when this horror struck. They had each other and all of their other colleagues who sadly were all lost. God bless them, always.
With Love from Mary's sisters:
Margaret, Betty Anne and Mary's twin, Diane
Teresa Jahn
December 19, 2001
We are deeply sorry for your loss of Kristen. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
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