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Joseph Calandrillo Obituary
When Joseph M. Calandrillo was about 8, his cousin was ill, and she asked him to run some errands. When he was done, she rewarded him with a quarter. He went back to the store and used the quarter to buy her a get-well card.
It was that gracious spirit that he carried into adulthood. His wife, Deborah, referred to him as "the sweetest of husbands."
Mr. Calandrillo, 49, a treaty accountant with Reinsurance Solutions International, part of Marsh & McLennan, met his wife-to-be 25 years ago at a restaurant in Brooklyn, the borough where they both grew up. He told his family when he got home that she was the one he was going to marry. She thought he was very nice but did not immediately leap to the same conclusion. But they went out the next night and the night after, and then every week.
"Everyone always said my husband and I had a marriage you didn't see," she said. "We were always laughing and having a good time. We were best buddies. Our marriage was our greatest success."
Mrs. Calandrillo characterized them as a "Green Acres" couple. She loved the city; he loved the country. They lived in Brooklyn for a while and then, five years ago, moved to Hawley, Pa. "I had my turn, so it was his turn," Mrs. Calandrillo said. "And I grew to love the country."
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Andrea Mateo
October 26, 2024
I looked up a few names that stood out to me as I took pictures at the 911 memorial yesterday. A little squirrel was eating the pink carnation in Joseph name. It was absolutely adorable .
Maria Ferreira
October 23, 2022
Rest in eternal peace, Joseph.
Barbara Connelly
September 4, 2021
Hi Debbie and family, remembering our meeting and never forgetting your dance stories with Joe, around your kitchen. I will never forgot the memories you shared with me as I helped you put up your “MISSING PICTURES” we taped on the walls in the Pier. Thank you for sharing your Joe with me.
I encourage all family new and old to dance!
I think of you many times a year! If you ever want to contact me my email is included in my information. I hope you are well and continued your life knowing how much your Joe stories help me to help others!
Love from
Barbara Connelly
Cindy Roe
September 3, 2021
Remembering Joseph on the 20th anniversary of 9/11....
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Danny Brown
December 10, 2019
I dealt with Joe Calandrillo for a few years in the 1990s, when I worked for Willis, in the UK. He would send an account, I think half-yearly, which contained a few inches of supporting print-out. Our correspondence was mainly written, but we had the occasional telephone conversations also. He was always a pleasure to deal with, and I have remembered his name all these years - probably one of the few clients' names I can recall from that time. I have often wondered...and have put off searching the internet all these years...until today. I was so sad to discover that he was killed that day - I think I knew, deep down, but didn't want to have it confirmed; I must admit, I just shed a tear. The tributes are wonderful, and confirm my opinion of Joe, even though I wasn't fortunate enough to know him very well. I will find his name on the memorial whenever I travel to New York again. He is remembered in a little corner of England, and, I have no doubt, in many places around the world. RIP Joe.
Joe chiaravalloti
September 11, 2019
Hi Cal Another year has gone by....and things here are not like they use to be. Hoping they don't get worse. I was on here a couple months ago but didn't write anything was just thinking about old times. Do that a lot lately. I was recalling the days all year long playing there on Conselyea st. and hanging out on your stoop. So many times teasing your sister Trudy and times your mom Millie use to hang out also. I can remember those days like they were only a few years ago. Wish we had social media back then, we of not lost touch for all these years.........before 911. Joe B
Del Newberry
November 8, 2018
I agree with your friend, Joseph when he says he wishes this country would remember that horrible day. We lost so many good people, and yet this country pulled together in an awesome way and patriotism was at an all-time high. I live in Texas, was working for MetLife, so I felt a connection to New York City, and the WHOLE country felt the loss. We banded together to fight global terrorism, and now it seems that it is just back to a new kind of normal, but not the pride I felt during those days and months after the attack.
I am praying today for your many friends and family. I ask God to bless each of them in a special way as we DO remember you and honor your legacy. I will forever think of you now when I hear the 'Green Acres' song.
Joseph Chiaravalloti
September 11, 2018
Hi Cal Just sitting hear thinking about you and all of us growing up in Brooklyn. It was some fun times.....and some boring ones. Then you got your first wheels. Think it was either a 61 or a 63 oldsmobile. I recall 61. Then we were all cruising. Fun times. Watching all the 911 memorials today on TV. Looks like Fox News is carrying it all day. Other news sources are just having little pop ups about it. Its been 17 years since it happened and sure wish this country would remember it more than just once a year. But hey Cal just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you more than just once a year. Your Buddy Joe B
Joseph Chiaravalloti
September 11, 2017
Hi Debbie I`m sitting here in Glendale Az. and can`t believe that neither Andrew Colucci or my self ever wrote something in this memory book. Its taken me 16 years after seeing Trudy that night on TV saying she was looking for her Brother. T told my family as we watched that I knew her. They laughed and kidded me until they showed her name. That was when I lost it and my family realized I wasn`t joking. I could not believe it. Cal as we called him was gone. Cal ,Andrew and I, they called me Joe Bananas grew up and hung out every day on Cal`s stoop. Millie and Trudy were always there and His Dad at times or one he came home from work. I cant believe he liked the country we were city boys playing stick ball stoop ball punch ball and skelly on Conselyea St. Then we hung out with the rest of the guys in the PS132 schoolyard playing softball punch ball basketball football etc. He always played center cause he was taller. I sure hope he had mentioned us to you at some time. Being with Cal just about every day growing up I must say that what everyone is saying about him is right on. He was the nicest friend I ever had. I remember one time seeing him get mad that was about it, never say anything bad about some one and heck he never even would curse. Best line he would always say to me and some others was your dumber than you look. I could never forget him ever. I moved out of Brooklyn to the country Shirley LI and lost touch. But I did always hear the new about His Dad when he passed then his Mom. Debbie and Trudy I just wanted to say finally that I was sorry to hear about what happened to Joey and he has been in my heart since childhood to now. Just wanted one of us that grew up with him to talk about who he was back in the day. Joe Chiaravalloti Hi Trudy it`s been along Time....Moving to Va next month. [email protected]
A Rose of Remembrance
Diane Wensel
July 23, 2016
Susan Varrassi Harris
June 6, 2015
Joseph and I attended Our Lady of Mt Carmet grade school together. He sat next to me and made me laugh every day. I am smiling now just thinking back to those great times. Keep them smiling in heaven Joseph!
Barbara Boam
March 31, 2015
I walked a mile for you (mile #328) on 6/3/14 as a dedication to your life.
Barbara Connelly
September 14, 2013
For Debbie, and Joe's family,
I was having medical tests on 11, 12, and 13th so I couldn't get to you till this morning.
I met you at the pier in 2001 Debbie. I will be73 tomorrow and will always remember your stories about the love you and "Your Joe" had. I share one particular story always " dancing in your kitchen". I will never forget the time we spent looking for tape to put up Joe's picture at the pier. Thank you for sharing him with me and I share the love of both of you when I tell every one to DANCE.
Remembering Both of you always,
Barbara Connelly
MARY CALABRO
September 11, 2013
Dear Joe, So many years that you are gone, and Ron and I still talk about all the good times we had with you and Debbie at Jack Murphys house..great times and great food. I will always remember too how good you were to my son Ronny which is 31 now , you would always ask about him..Love you Joe and I will always remember your smile and kindness..thank you for being our friend and sending you much love always,,Love Mary Ellen and Ron Calabro
Alan Applegate
September 11, 2012
Debbie,
I hope all is well with you these days. That day when I called the house about Joe and found out from you he had been killed will always be one of the most saddest and strangest moments of my life. We had never met or spoken before but it didn't seem to matter. I could always tell how much Joe loved you when talking about you, and from the brief conversation we had, I got a good idea why. He was one in a million and I'll always miss him.
Alan Applegate
Barbara Connelly
September 11, 2012
Dear Debbie, I will never forget meeting you while we put up Joe's picture at the Pier. I also make sure I pass on your evening dance story. We will never know how many are "dancin in their kitchens" each night because of the Joseph Calandrillo you shared with me. God Bless .
Mary Ellen Calabro
September 8, 2012
Always thinking of you Joe,and remember all the laughs we had at Jack Murphy's house..You and Deb were always alot of fun to be with...Love to you Deb and most of all Love and God Bless You Joe. Love Always Mary Ellen Calabro
Rose Gattuso
September 11, 2010
Hard to believe eight years have passed yet the memories will always last..
I pray today for stregnth and peace to endure the pain of your loss.
My heart goes out to and all who have lost to this horrible act. God be with you always..I will never Forget
Barbara Connelly
September 11, 2010
Debbie, I have just finished watching the ceremony in NYC. I pray every day for you, Joe and all the others that left this earth with him that tragic day September 11th, 2001. I pray for all who were left behind and I"ll never forget the stories you shared with me at the pier! I always remind families to "Dance" in memory of Joe.
Barbara
Mary Calabro
September 9, 2010
Hi Debbie, This is Mary Ellen Calabro Hi ...I want to say that Ron and I were so upset with Joe's passing and he is always in our prayers....I will always remember our times together at Jack Murphy's house and all the laughs we had and of course Joe's sweet shy smile....Debbie I am praying that God is with you always because I know from the marriage you had with Joe was just so unique...It had to be very hard for you ...I had a dream about Joe right after 911 but dont want to say it on here...Just that he was very happy in my dream....Love to you Debbie and to Joe always Mary Ellen and Ron Calabro
Andreas Sabin
October 26, 2008
Just saw a video from the 2002 Super Bowl halftime show, where U2 were performing. Saw Joseph"s name listed there and searched in google. Although not knowing Joseph before just want to let you know that all the 2001 heros are never forgotten. Someone somewhere in the world is remembering what happend 9/11. God bless you. Let's never stop praying for a better world, and let's never forget all the people who spent their life for helping others.
Alyse Calandrillo
September 12, 2008
Dear Debbie,
I am a distant cousin of Joe's and spoke several times with his mother after that tragic day seven years ago. I haven't had a chance to reach out to her much since then, or to you, but I wanted you to know you are always in my thoughts and prayers. My father remembers spending time with Joe when they were younger. Perhaps sometime you can e-mail me and we can share stories. I wish I would have known Joe when he was alive because it sounds like he was such a strong, amazing and incredibly sweet person, just like the other Calandrillos we know and love so much.
love,
Cousin Alyse
Elisa Doucette
September 11, 2008
Dear Debbie, I will always remember your loss and the time we spent together at the Pier. I am watching the ceremonies and Joe's name has just been read.
God bless him and all those who arrived in heaven with him that particular day.
I will always remember you and your Joe.
Barbara
(POMC Booth)
Barbara Connelly (Shirley, NY)
I have not met the Calandrillo family, but after reading all that has been written about Mr. Joseph Calandrillo, I know I missed out on meeting someone who was a kind, caring individual, Barbara (POMC) is my siter and passed this on to me, Deb, Joe smiles down on you everyday, this I am sure of, as does my family that are standing with him. My thoughts are with you and the family on this special day.
Elisa
Peabody, MA
Rose Gattuso
September 11, 2008
Hard to believe it is 7 seven years..yet I still feel the devastation as if it were yesterday..
Time passes but never the thoughts
escape me....You are in my thought and prayers not only today ..but always..
I will never forget the loss of all the brave people...
Debbie I send you my deep sorrow..
Rose
Jean Wintringham (DiBenedetto)
September 11, 2008
Debbie:
You may not remember me but we worked together at White and Case back in 1982 and we occasionally had dinner with you and Joe many, many years ago. I can't begin to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I always considered you and Joe the "perfect couple". It was so obvious the love and respect you had for each other. I just want you to know that I have always kept you and Joe in my prayers. When I first read the names on the 1st anniversary of 9-11 and saw Joe's name, I sobbed! I could only imagine the tremedous pain you must feel. I know Joe is still watching over you and his love for you or his family and friends will never stop. God Bless you and your family. He truly was a beautiful person!!
Barbara Connelly
September 11, 2008
Dear Debbie, I will always remember your loss and the time we spent together at the Pier. I am watching the ceremonies and Joe's name has just been read.
God bless him and all those who arrived in heaven with him that particular day.
I will always remember you and your Joe.
Barbara
(POMC Booth)
Doug Abraham
June 17, 2008
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well-lived.
Rosalie Gattuso
September 11, 2007
Expressions of sorrow escape me today as I am here to pay tribute.
Six years have passed but yet my heart will never heal from this
loss of greatness.
Wish we could turn back the clock
only instead of tradgedy there would be Brotherhood and Peace.
Debbie stay strong..my heart goes out to you.
EMT Rose
Kristine
October 26, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
September 2, 2006
In remembrance....
Aneta Tarver
May 13, 2006
Dear Mrs. Calandrillo,
I am very sorry that you lost your dearly beloved husband. I lost my husband in an apartment fire. It's a very lost feeling. I hope that you are healing. What helped me to get through is "the peace of God that excels all thought" which "will guard your hearts and mental powers." May you and your family benefit from this Source.
Sincerely,
Aneta Tarver
Rosalie Gattuso
December 11, 2005
Holiday Star Dust
Firefighters ,Families who Lost Loved Ones 9-11-2001 Find Peace
Star Dust in Air..Loved ones Lost.. from the world we live in
Alive in the Hearts of those left behind...
From Dawn to Dawn....in pain to mourn.
Physical body was borrowed time..their
Presence and Aura remains adourned.
Holidays seem to accentuate their Loss
God has lifted them from Lifes Cross
Look up at the sky when Holidays are here
See the twinkling stars..Loved ones appear
If you must..Shed a tear..
feel not alone Spirits are near..
I Weep with compassion,my sorrow I send
A Prayer for Broken Hearts to mend
Let Holidays be a time for miracles to come,
Fill empty Hearts With Peace and Love..
Trim the tree with Lights of Hope, Let
Gifts of Friendship be your antidote.
Lighted Candles shine upon you..Wisdom,Understanding to Comfort...Renew
May your lives be Blessed with inner strength to endure
Until....Someday you to will Be In Gods Light
With your family forever to Reunite
Rosalie Gattuso
Copyright ©2005 Rosalie Gattuso
Rose Gattuso
September 10, 2005
Tears For Our Heroes
Angels Lost 911
Swept up like a whirlwind
Visions of the storm
Different in Form still
There lies a ton of bricks on my heart
Raining tears over the Ground Zero
For You were the Heroes
We remain the victims
Captives of Devastation
Relentless to the cause of your disappearance
Love is the Bond Indestructibly strong
Bodily essence buried into deeper layers of earth
Spirits surround the air as we live in despair
Scars remain pierced with pain
Still body trembles how could they dare
Senseless departure torments unclear
Bonded mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers
Husband s, wives saddest are the children of
Heroes who lost their lives
Lost sleep all night to weep
Tears for our Heroes
Rosalie Gattuso -EMT
Debbie my heart goes out to you today.
Rosalie Gattuso
August 19, 2005
There are some things that no matter how we strive to keep.. all of a sudden without warning it disappears. "Life" is a most treasured gift. The people in our lives are precious. Sometimes we think about our connections and realize all too late how much someone has touched our lives. Growing up in the same neighborhood and thinking back on all the people you knew. Some you never realized noticed your being. For many of the victims of the traggic day you have certainly managed to be noticed. God Bless you Angels! I know that in time we will all reunite. For now Debbie keep the strenghth as I know a loss as devasting as your "HEART" has changed your life but Joe is still very much alive in Spirit.
David Segarra
May 16, 2005
Joe was special indeed. Friend, co-worker. You could go running to him screaming "There's a flood!" Joe's responce would have been "It will water the crops." That's the great gentle, wonderful person Joe was. I'm sure Joe had a private "pre"-talk with God during "those moments". I'm sure he had a lot to say. I bet he asked God to look out for his loved ones and friends. I bet his prayers went to others and not himself. That was Joe. God bless you Joe, Rest in Peace.
David
Julia Heyer
September 12, 2003
There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of you Debbie. We miss you here at White & Case and I pray that as time has passed your grief has not dissipated but ebbed with the passage of the tides of time. Our prayers are with you always.
Ray Bell
September 12, 2003
I saw a picture of Joe's sister holding his picture on Sept 15 2001 looking for him. It hit me really hard. Your family and friends our in my thoughts and prayers.
Janet Conti (White & Case)
September 11, 2003
I saw this in another entry and thought it befitting for Joseph... Memorial words read for another that should be read for all:
Death is nothing at all… I have only slipped away into the next room… I am I, and you are you. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by my old familiar name. Speak to me in the easy way that you always used. Put no difference in your tone. Wear no forced air of sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was, let it be spoken without affect without the trace of a shadow on it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well.
Janet Conti (White & Case Secretary)
September 11, 2003
Deborah:
I can't even describe this overwheling feeling of sorrow I feel for you and all the other families. My heart breaks for your loss and the loss of many others, and my heart will break for many, many years to come...MAY GOD BLESS YOU JOSEPH CALANDRILLO AND YOUR FAMILY AND MAY YOUR SOUL BE AT PEACE. MAY GOD HOLD US ALL IN THE PALM OF HIS HANDS AND KEEP US SAFE.
I wrote the above in an earlier entry and my feelings have not changed one bit. I hope, Deborah, that you are reading these entries, because they are absolutely beautiful. It is a wonderful tribute to your husband.
I am always thinking of you and praying for you.
Stay safe
Linda Jacopec
September 11, 2003
Dear Debbie: On this day, the 2nd anniversary, I located this tribute for Joseph. Debbie, we have never met,and it has been many many years since I saw Joseph, Trudy and Millie. Our families lived and grew up in the same Brooklyn neighborhood. Millie and my mother Rose Jacopec (nee Giusto) were very close friends. When I learned of Joseph's passing I could/would not allow myself to believe it. But today, after seeing Joe's picture,and hearing his name called out on television,I know it's a reality. May he rest in peace. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Loretta Howe
September 11, 2003
Words cannot express the heart felt pain, and anger...that anyone could do to another, what has been done at the World Trade Center, and other places, where so many lost their lives. So many lost their Loved ones. All one can do is Pray, and Go On!! HOPE...Of Better things to come.
I do not know you or your lost loved one...but I read that you lived in Hawley, and that you had come to love the country. I know about that part of the country, for I am originally from Honesdale...farming area on the outskirts of Honesdale. A beautiful community. May knowing that others care, bring some comfort to you and yours, as we all 'struggle on' through LIFE.
God Bless us all...especially those families left behind from this horrible disaster.
Dottie Sullender
April 1, 2003
Deborah--
I was thinking of you today and found this website. I don't know how often you check this, but felt I needed to write you.
Bernie and I only had the pleasure of knowing you but after reading all the wonderful words left by friends and family, your description of Joe was an accurate one.
Bernie's birthday was yesterday and I had a shadow box made of our memories of our trip to NYC. In the shadow box, I placed the card you gave me at Ground Zero from Joe's funeral and the angel pin with the American Flag that you sent to me.
I want to always be sure that we remember why we were in NYC in September 2002...To show our love and support to the people of New York.
I speak of you often and pray for you even more. You are a wonderful, brave woman.
Love,
Dottie Sullender and Bernie Mickler
Dan D'Allara
February 16, 2003
I just read an entry in the "remove the vendors from GR" petition posted
by Mrs Calandrillo. We have grief in common. Not many understand. I do. My heart is also broken
Sandi Poznanski
September 11, 2002
To the family of Joseph Calandrillo:
I worked with Joe many years ago when he was at John Gilbert Intermediary Group. I am so sorry to learn that he was one of the victims of Sept. 11th. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy and condolences. My heart goes out to you. I have very fond memories of Joe. He was such a nice guy and had a wonderful sense of humor.
He will not be forgotten.
Sincerely,
Sandi Poznanski
Alicia Nunziata
September 11, 2002
My heart goes out to my neighbor's family. Trudy, Millie, Deborah - know that all of us on Conselyea St. have you in our prayers always. I cried when I heard about Joe then and I cry today because of the sorrow you have gone thru. I'll be lighting my candle tonight in his memory.
Alicia Nunziata
Janet DePuma
September 9, 2002
Debbie,
I knew Joe for a few years when we worked together at Willcox, Inc. He was a very good friend. I have to agree with your assessment of Joe, he was the sweetest, kindest person I knew.
May God comfort you.....may Joe rest in peace.
Cyndy Sotomayor
September 9, 2002
Debbie,
You have been in my heart and prayers since I first learned of your loss.
The love you and Joe shared was special and I know he continues to wrap you in it every day from Heaven.
Joe's memorial card has been tucked into the frame of my picture of the New York City skyline since the spring. I will be taking it out for the first time this weekend so I can proudly hold it when I run in his memory at the "Let Freedom Run."
May God bless you during this difficult time.
Much love to you.
Elsy Rodriguez
September 9, 2002
Deborah:
I think about you everyday and pray for your broken hear to mend. Although I didn't know Joe, I heard so much about him from Deborah. I worked with Deborah at White & Case, she trained me on my first day there. I was absolutely torn to pieces when I heard she had lost the love of her life, Joseph to this senseless crime of hate. Deborah, I have his rememberance card in my home, it's on my nightstand and every night I pray for you and for his family. I'm so sorry this had to happen. I hope on this first year anniversary you are able to reflect on the wonderful 23 years you had with Joe, though never enough at least you will find comfort in so many beautiful memories. May God be with you and your family Debbie, I haven't forgotten you and certainly never will.............
Joe Calandrillo rest in eternal peace.........
Steven M. Giles
August 20, 2002
Deborah, it took me along time to get to this point, where i could actually express my condolences on your loss as well as everyone elses who knew Joe.
last year when the list of names was released, i was so scared to look through it, knowing all too well that i would know far too many people than i wanted to. the good news was that i only knew one name on the list, and i wasn't even sure if it was the right person. the bad news was that it was Joe, and it was the Joe that i knew. the one who befriended me back in October of1989 when i went to work for AIG in the Wall Street area. the one who became a friend and close colleague; the one that i could always depend on to find humor in whatever we were doing.
Joe never had a bad thing to say about anyone...ever! he was a gentleman...thoughtful, giving, caring, a humane a person as i have ever met in my life. i could never say enough good things about Joe without feeling that i did his name justice. he was a unique individual; a real one of a kind, and i'm so glad and proud that i had a chance to be his friend and colleague though only for a few years.
after i left AIG in July of 1991, we still got together after work and stayed in touch for a few years. but as happens so often in this "little city" of ours, the lines of communications were lost, and i'm sure that we both went about our lives in a way that we both thought was for the better. apparently Joe moved out of the city and back to the country life that he did love; i chose to stay in the city (though i did leave for a short while) and continue on my own path.
when i finally realized that it was the Joe that i knew, i cried and wept openly at work, as i did once again today when i found this site and saw his picture. we were all lucky to know and share time with Joe, and we all miss the spirit of life and that ever present smile that would always make you laugh and smile back.
Joe was someone that i always remembered even though years went by since we last spoke or had gotten together...and now it's too late. it's only too late in that sense, but it's never too late to remember and pay tribute to one of the best all-around individuals that i have ever met in my life...Joseph Calandrillo. proud to say that i knew him, proud to call him my friend, and proud to know that he has many others who knew and loved him as well.
Deborah, i wish you peace in your life. please hold Joe's memory close to your heart...he was a special man, and you helped make him that way. god bless you and your family, and god bless Joe Calandrillo.
Trudy O'Dowd-Kowalski
July 29, 2002
To Joe's wife, Debbie, and Trudy, his sister and Aunt Millie, his mother:
I was terribly saddened to learn that my cousin had perished in the World Trade Center. As happens in many families, the years separate us. Too much time passes. Family members pass away as new lives begin. The last time I saw all of you was at Joe's wedding in Sheepshead Bay ... we even took my grandmother "Aunt Rose" upstairs on the kitchen elevator because she couldn't climb the staircase but wanted to be sure she saw Joey on that special day and at the church she couldn't get near him.
When my father, Jack O'Dowd, passed away three years ago I found Joe and Debbie's wedding photo among some of his treasures. Although we didn't see much of the Calandrillo's over the years, we never forgot!
Aunt Rose, my mother Aunt Ducky, Uncle Jack are all gone now as are Aunt Helen and Uncle Jim. I don't know if Millie is alive, but if she is and someone can get this message to her please let her know that my heart breaks for her. Losing a child no matter what the age is the hardest pain to endure. I am so sorry.
Trudy, if you are in touch with this website please write to me: Trudy Kowalski, 128 Chaucer Drive, Berkeley Heights, New Jersey 07922. Or, email at [email protected]. I have been married for 32 years, two daughters, 24 and 17. Megan the oldest is getting married this October and Laura is going to be a high school senior in September.
Please someone in the family contact me. All of you, all of the O'Dowds and all of the Koebels need to be reunited ... it is long overdue.
My prayers, my love and my thoughts are with you as they have been over many, many years.Please believe that.
Love,
Trudy
PETER MANDZUK
May 30, 2002
DEBORAH,
JOAN AND MYSELF HAVE NOT SEEN YOU FOR MANY YEARS, BUT WE VERY FONDLY REMEMBER JOE. HE IS ONE OF THE NICEST AND MOST HONORABLE PERSONS WE HAVE EVER KNOWN. WE ARE VERY SADDENED BY HIS LOSS.
OUR PRAYERS WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU.
PETER & JOAN MANDZUK
Lauren Bouche'
May 26, 2002
Dear Deborah, I was a Red Cross worker at Pier 94 in October and talked with you several times. I was so glad to see Joe's tribute, and also that you were able to share what a great guy he was. Love, Lauren
Angie Campbell
April 22, 2002
Rest in peace and may God Bless you and the ones that you left behind on 9/11/01.
Fabio Donini
March 30, 2002
I was proud to sponsor Joseph on his confirmation day. Joe was a man who always brought pride and happiness to his family.
Lucille Donini
March 30, 2002
When Joey's parents brought him home from the hospital, you knew they had a very special son. Joey was a joy. As he grew and his personality developed, his sweet, kind, giving and even temper began to shine through. Joey and Deborah shared a wonderful marriage of 23 years. It was heart warming to see them together.
Joey was taken from his family too soon. But, he is making heaven a bit brighter. I think what I will always remember about Joey was his beautiful smile. Joey will never be forgotten.
Cousin Lulu
Connie Leist
March 25, 2002
Rest in peace Joseph, and may God help and comfort your family. Pray for all of us that the terror never strikes again.
Patricia Barraza
March 19, 2002
We Remember Them
From the Gates of Repentance
New Union Prayer Book for the Days of Awe
Author Unknown
At the rising of the sun and at its going down,
We remember them.
At the blowing of the wind and in the chill of Winter,
We remember them.
At the opening of buds and in the rebirth of Spring,
We remember them.
At the blueness of the skies and in the warmth of Summer,
We remember them.
At the rustling of leaves and the beauty of Autumn,
We remember them.
At the beginning of the year and when it ends,
We remember them.
As long as we live, they too will live;
for they are now a part of us, as we remember them.
When we are weary and in need of strength,
We remember them.
When we are lost and sick at heart,
We remember them.
When we have joys we yearn to share,
We remember them.
When we have decisions that are difficult to make,
We remember them .
When we have achievements that are based on theirs,
We remember them.
As long as we live, they too shall live,
for they are a part of us, as we remember them.
In Loving Memory of our Beloved RSI Colleagues, Stephanie, Aida, Bob, Glenn, Bill, Nancy, Sandy, Joe
& all of the other innocents who were the first heroes in the this war on terrorism. May their sacrifices serve to strengthen our resolve, and may we never forget how they laughed and lived and worked and loved. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your families.
Catherine DiBenedetto
March 12, 2002
I worked with Joe at Willcox Inc. 7 years ago. He was always very helpful and funny. He always told us jokes and made us laugh. I hope God takes care of him and his family. God bless you Joe.
February 11, 2002
I can't even describe the sorrow I feel for all the families and victims...my heart and tears go out to everybody...MAY GOD BLESS YOU JOSEPH CALANDRILLO AND YOUR FAMILY AND MAY YOUR SOUL BE AT PEACE. MAY GOD HOLD US ALL IN THE PALM OF HIS HANDS AND KEEP US SAFE.
Debbie Dawidowicz
January 9, 2002
Having come from PA myself, and passing by Hawley many times in 30 years of "going home" my heart goes out to you. I will pray for you every time I pass by your town now. God be with all of you, I am so sorry.
Teresa Jahn
January 7, 2002
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
December 14, 2001
MAY GOD BLESS YOU JOSEPH CALANDRILLO
AND MAY YOU REST IN PEACE.GOD BLESS
YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS.GOD BLESS
AMERICA AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET
9/11/01
Connie Labetti
December 13, 2001
I've worked with Joe for many years and he was a wonderful and kind and funny person who always made our days brighter and he will be greatly missed.
GOD BLESS YOU JOE.
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