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Philip Hayes Obituary
On Sept. 11, Philip T. Hayes rescued children from a day care center in 5 World Trade Center. Then, as debris fell from the sky, he ran into the south tower to redirect people out of harm's way.
It had always been that way. Mr. Hayes, 67, the second oldest of 16 children, was the cornerstone of his family and its great protector. He was the patriarch.
"I had a feeling that he had no fear of anything," said his son, Philip T. Hayes Jr. "To him, anything was possible."
A New York City firefighter from 1959 to 1979, Mr. Hayes lived in East Northport, N.Y., and had worked as fire safety director at the trade center since 1995. He loved that building. He loved those firefighters.
On Oct. 1, his daughter, Laura, gave birth to a son who weighed 9 pounds 11 ounces and was immediately given his grandfather's name.
"The weight, 9-11, correlates to the Sept. 11 date," Mr. Hayes's son said. "We all said, that's Dad, telling us in his own way, 'I'm still here, watching over you.' "
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Alex
November 14, 2019
I truly admire your heroism that dark day in New York. You did not die in vain, sir.
Greg Kapitan
January 15, 2017
Thank you mr. Hayes for your service to our country. Your heroic efforts have touched the lives of many and continue to do so. I remember being at your home on 7th ave and seeing the snow in your backyard. There were bunny tracks, on that Easter holiday in the snow. A sacred symbol of the Resurrection one day we shall meet again..
Greg Kapitan
September 24, 2016
MY DEAR BROTHER PHIL I MISS YOU SO VERY MUCH......MAY YOU CONTINUE TO REST IN PEACE.... I WILL LOVE AND MISS YOU ALWAYS..XOXO
Yesudian Cruz
September 11, 2016
Uncle Philip you will for ever and ever live in our hearts and you will for ever be remember as our HERO. You are loved and missed every day! #MuchLuv
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I'm honored to run in his memory
Rosa Beaty
September 8, 2016
Rosa Beaty
September 7, 2016
To the family of Firefighter Hayes : my city, Corpus Christi, TX ; has a 5K Patriot run scheduled for September 11th, 2016. I was assigned his name to run in his honor and his name is on my runner's bib.
It truly is an HONOR to run in remembrance of the lives lost 15 years ago.
I will say a prayer for him and his extended family.
September 12, 2014
Miss you Phil. Jim Hayes
Susan Garcia
September 11, 2014
Love you pal. Miss you everyday. Thank you for watching over us. I know you are our voice in heaven. I really can't wait to see you again. I hope you are in blissful peace in heaven with everyone and looking forward to seeing the rest of your family here on earth again someday. Stay in our hearts Uncle Phil. We cannot do it without your loving guidance. Love Love Love you, so so so much, Your devoted niece, Susan
Désirée Marsden
September 13, 2012
Uncle Phil, You are loved and remembered always. Your courage is your legacy and you are missed more than ever. You are always in our thoughts and you dwell in our hearts. You'll never be forgotten. Love always from your niece, Désirée.
Virginia McDermott
September 12, 2012
Dear Dad, 11 years and it has not gotten any easier. We miss you so and need you even more. Continue to watch over us as you always do. Love you always! Love, Cuchie xoxo
Marian Garcia
September 11, 2012
My Dear Brother Phil, These 11 Years Have Been Painful & No Doubt Will Continue 2 Be So Forever....You Have Left Us With Such Wonderful Memories..I Have Been A Grandmother 4 Five Years Now...His Name Is Hunter & I Love Him So Very Much..& I Thank God He Has A Very Special Angel His Uncle Phil Watching Over Him Always....I Miss You So Very Much My Brother...Continue 2 R.I.P....Love Marian xoxo
Marian Hayes Garcia
September 11, 2012
Dear Phil, It Is Now 11 Years..& I Continue 2 Miss U So Very Much With Each Growing Year....I've Been A Grandma Now For 5 Years..I Wish U Could Have Met Him But I Know U Watch Over Him Always...I Pray U Continue 2 R.I.P.......With Much Love 2 You My Brother...Your Loveing Sister...Marian xoxo
Virginia McDermott
March 3, 2012
Dear Dad, Happy 78th Birthday. We will all be together and celebrating your birthday today. How we wish that you were still here with us. Love and miss you more than you will ever know. Keep watching over us. You are never forgotten. Always our hero :)
Love, Cuchie
xoxoxoxo
Linda Cherney
October 6, 2011
To the Hayes family from friends in California. Phill just gave my husband the story of your dad 9/11 a decade later. The Cherney family also sends our love to all of you. We wear your dads 9/11 t-shirt (That Phill gave us) and fly our flag proudly in memorey of that terrible day. Although we neveer had the honor of meeting your dad, he still will always be in our hearts. As we listened to his grandson speak of him on 9/11 2011, we thought how proud he must be, watching him from heaven. We also will never forget Phill Hayes. With our love the Cherney family.
Laura Froehlich
September 12, 2011
Dear Dad,
It seems like only yesterday that we were living through September 11, 2001. And now here it is,
10 years later, and I just want you to know that not a day goes by that I do not think of you and what you must have endured that day. You are a hero, and will always have a special place in my heart and of course, my life. The 9/11 Memorial in NYC is incredibly breathtaking. I am so moved, and so proud. We were all there for you Dad, and will always be.
We will never forget.
Love Always,
Your daughter, Laura xoxo
Yesudian Cruz
September 12, 2011
You will always be remember as our Hero Uncle Phil, you will always be in our hearts!
With Lots of Love
Vic Jr., Victor, Dian & Sudi
Désirée Marsden
September 12, 2011
Uncle Phil, your courageous act of bravery made you a true hero. You are loved by many and you live in our hearts as we remember you not only on this day but every day. In loving memory from your niece, Désirée.
Karen Schiesser
September 11, 2011
On the 10th Annivesary of 9/11, I too want your famiy to know, they are always in my thoughts and prayers. I lived next door to Phil and his family for many years. He was a wonderful person, always had a smile on his face. He will never be forgotten.
Pat Picariello
September 8, 2011
On the tenth aniversary of 9/11, I want your family to know I,have not forgotten and all of you are in my prayers.
September 6, 2011
My CERT group and I had the pleasure to meet Mr. Hayes' brother during the 9/3/11 9-11 Memorial Stair Climb in San Dieg, CA. It was truly an honor to become personally acquainted with this hero's family and to hear his story. Thank you to Mr. Hayes' brother for bringing his story to use during this time of remberance. With deepest sympathies and respect, CERT San Diego
Malcolm Gettmann
September 6, 2011
Your Brother introduced you to me on September 3, 2011. You legacy is your honor and heroism
Linda Salome
September 4, 2011
Dear Uncle Phil,
Hard to believe it's been ten years...I think of you all the time and I am so proud and blessed to be your niece and to have had the pleasure of knowing first-hand of your love for our family. You courageously gave your life for others so they can live theirs; a true demonstration of BRAVERY and LOVE for ALL.
You are a REAL HERO, and definately missed.
Love forever,
your niece Linda Salome
PS...please give Gramma a Kiss, and Uncles Jimmy, John and Joe.
August 13, 2011
Western NY family members hold an Annual Memorial Tribute. Last year, Greg Dailey, a relative, attended and gave me contact phone number but it seems to be incorrect. If any family will be in WNY and would like us to include Philip's picture and info in local services, please contact me at [email protected]. Kathleen Lynch, Sister of FF Michael F. Lynch E40/L35
JIM HAYES
March 14, 2011
PHIL WORKED WITH ME IN 6 WTC THE US CUSTOMS HOUSE,AS LIFE SAFETY DIRECTORS. THE 6 WTC CREW THINKS OF YOU EVERY DAY.YOU WILL ALWAYS BE PART OF OUR LIVES. HAPPY BIRTHDAY,PHIL
Désirée Marsden
March 4, 2011
Happy Birthday, Uncle Phil. With much love from your niece, Désirée.
Laura Froehlich
March 4, 2011
Happy Birthday Dad. Wish you could be here with us as we celebrate you and your life. I carry you in my heart all the time, and always try to have happy thoughts of you. Continue to watch over us.
Love, Laura
A true gentleman and hero!
Virginia McDermott
March 3, 2011
Happy birthday Dad. 77 years old today. How I wish you were here to blow out the candles and celebrate with all of us. But you are and always will be in our hearts and minds. That will never change. Sending much love and kisses to you up in Heaven. Miss you more than you will ever know. Thanks for watching over us. We always feel your presence.
Love, Cuchie xoxoxo
September 12, 2010
I HAVE AND WILL ALWAYS TELL PEOPLE I HAVE 10 BROTHERS. NOW PHIL U WATCH OVER THE OTHER 3 WE LOST. MAMA BEING UP THERE WITH YOU SHE WILL JUST CONTINUE TO SPOIL THEM. THEN AS ALWAYS YOU WILL TAKE CARE OF EVERYTHING. HUNTER SENDS HIS LOVE. MISS YOU LIKE CRAZY BIG BROTHER. XOXO
Gail Hayes
September 11, 2010
Remembering the words you spoke to me at Mike's communion..."This is my kind of place"...it seems as only yesterday. With much love, your niece Gail.
Jessica Hayes
September 11, 2010
Grandpa,
You are always and forever in my heart. I can't believe it's been nine years since you've been gone. You will always be my hero and guardian angel.
I love you and miss you!
~Jessica Hayes
September 11, 2010
Love Always, The Graziano Family!!!
Toby Salome
September 11, 2010
xoxooxxoxo
Yesudian Cruz
September 11, 2010
Uncle Phil
We miss you an love you always and for ever, your our HERO.
May you have peace in the kindom of heaven an may you watch an protect your loved one!
Much love to the Hayes Family an all the families of 911
~ God Bless you All ~
~ We will Never Forget that
Tuesday Morning September 11, 2001 ~
Laura Canche
September 11, 2010
I met a family member of yours in 2003 who asked that i wear a memorial T-shirt of your family's in your honor and I do. Thank you for being where you were so that someone could be here today.
Virginia McDermott
September 10, 2010
Dear Dad.
I still cannot believe that 9 years have gone by. You are always on my mind. So many things remind me of you. It always brings a smile to my face when I am reminded. All of your grandchilden know all about you. We tell them about you all the time. You would be so proud of all of them. We are going down to Ground Zero tomorrow. Kelly will be reading your name.
I am proud and honored to be your daughter and I cherish all the years that I had with you. Until we meet again keep watching over us. Love you.
Love, your daughter, Virginia
Virginia McDermott Jr.
September 10, 2010
Dear Grandpa Phil,
Wow, I can't even believe tomorrow it'll been 9 years since we lost you. Although I'm getting older, (I'm in my 3rd year of college already!) I can honestly say that there hasn't been a day where I haven't been reminded of you. Whether someone is speaking about your heroic actions on 9/11, or if it's one of the little things about you that puts a smile on my face, you are undoubtedly a part of my thoughts and especially my heart.
You will always be my hero and inspiration, and because of you and what you did that day, I can only hope to be half the person you were.
I love you Grandpa Phil!
We love and miss you more than words can say.
Love,
Virginia (the baby - not so little anymore!)
Laura Froehlich
September 10, 2010
Dear Dad,
Another year has gone by and I miss you more than ever. May God Bless you and keep you in peace. I love you and always keep you in my heart. Mom misses you always and will always love you. Scott misses and loves you too. Nicholas, Philip and Amanda miss and love their Grandpa! Oh how we all wish you were here with us. Keep watching over us. xoxo
Lots of Love,
Your Daughter, Laura
Désirée Marsden
May 29, 2010
Thinking of you always and remembering you from days gone by. Good night, sweet prince, and flights of angels sing thee to thy rest. With love from your niece, Désirée.
Virginia McDermott
March 5, 2010
Dear Dad,
Hope you had a great time in Heaven celebrating your 76th birthday. We will be going out to dinner on Saturday, March 6th to celebrate. Know that you are always loved and missed by all of us.
Love, your daughter, Virginia
Laura Froehlich
September 13, 2009
Dear Dad,
I just cannot believe that 8 years has gone by. Not a day goes by without thoughts of you. Life is just not the same without you. But knowing you are watching over us helps us to go on. So on this 8th anniversary I just want to say that I love you and miss you more every day.
God bless you . . . our Hero.
Love, Laura
Virginia McDermott
September 10, 2009
Dear Dad,
We are getting ready to go down tomorrow for the 8th anniversary of the horrific event. It is so hard to believe that eight years have passed. It seems like yesterday when I was looking right at you and talking to you. How I miss those times. Always know that you are missed and loved with all of my heart. So many times I wish you were here so that I could talk to you. I know that you are watching over us and will lead us in the right direction. I miss you. Love, your daughter, Virginia
Doug Abraham
March 3, 2009
Happy 75th Birthday!!!
Joanne Halpern
March 3, 2009
I remember Mr. Hayes as a good and gentle patron of the East Northport Public Library where I worked in Circulation. He was a wonderful person. God bless him.
Dad
Virginia McDermott
March 3, 2009
Dear Dad,
Happy 75th birthday in Heaven. There is not a day that goes by that you are not thought of and talked about with much love. Keep watching over us. Until we are all together again, thanks for all the wonderful memories.
Love, your daughter, Virginia
Laura Froehlich
March 2, 2009
March 3, 2009
Happy 75th Birthday in heaven Dad!
We love you and miss you more every day. We wish you were here with us to celebrate your birthday.
May God Bless you always.
Love, Laura, Scott,
Nicholas, Philip and Amanda
Jessica Hayes
October 20, 2008
Grandpa,
You always made me laugh and smile over everything. I miss seeing you at Christmas and I miss receiving phone calls occasionally just so you can tell me one of your jokes. We never really realize how precious life is but we know that you were and still are so amazing and touched so many lives. You are a hero. I love you and miss you so very much.
Yesudian Cruz
September 12, 2008
Dear Phil
We miss you and Love you
you are always in our prayers
Love
your sister Nancy Hayes,
and the family
Victor, Lisa, Yesudian, Lil Vic, Dian
Virginia McDermott
September 11, 2008
Dear Dad,
Missing you more than you could ever possibly know. Keep watching over us. I love you.
Love, your daughter, Virginia
Virginia "the baby" McDermott
September 11, 2008
Dear Grandpa Phil,
Each year around this time, I am reminded of how much you have truly made an impact on my life and many others' lives. You have the kindest heart that is missed by everyone who knew you.
It upsets me more than anything that you haven't met baby (not so little anymore!) Philip, and especially your great-grandson, my nephew, James. I know you would be the best grandfather to them as you were to me & all of your other grandchildren.
I am very privileged to have known you for as long as I did, although I wish there could have been more memories to be made and jokes to be told.
The more I think about you, the more I realize how one-of-a-kind you were. I couldn't tell you of anyone that I know that would have been so heroic and bold as you were.
You will forever be in my heart and always missed.
Not a day goes by where I don't think of you and recognize that you're my hero.
I love you & miss you with all of my heart.
September 11, 2008
Today is the seven anniversary of tha day you were taken from us. As a family we comfort and support one another on this day and every other day but the pain remains the same. We share the funny stories you left us with and will always cherish the memories. Thank you for being a hero to us and the rest of the world. You will never be forgotten. We love you and miss you! Until we're together again.
Love Always,
The Grandkids
Laura Froehlich
March 31, 2008
Dear Dad,
You were laid to rest on this day, April 1, 2002. Often, I am overwhelmed with sadness, but when I have those days I try to remember the fun times and the good person that you were. You are still celebrated and will always be remembered by your dear family and friends.
Until we meet again . . .
Lots of Love,
Laura
Doug Abraham
March 3, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
Happy Birthday
Michael Iezzi
March 3, 2008
Philip,
Happy Birthday in Heaven. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
A loved one lives forever in the hearts of those who cared.
A loved one lives forever in the memories that were shared.
Linda Cherney
September 11, 2007
Dear Phil and Family,
We are writing to you from California. Today I wore the 911 shirt in memory of your father. He was a great man. Phil you and your family and all the 911 families are in our thoughts and prayers on this the 6th anniversary.
With Love and Friendship
Rich and Linda Cherney, Anaheim, Ca.
(Parkhouse Tire Friends)
At the reflecting pool...
Jessica Hayes
September 11, 2007
Grandpa Phil,
I miss you so so much and I still can't believe it was six years ago that we lost you. It feels as if it was only yesterday I was visiting New York for Christmas and you had your talking tree. I'll always remember your corny jokes and loving hugs. I miss you Grandpa. You will always be my hero. But I know that I will see you in Heaven someday. And for now I know that you are an Angel watching over all of us. I love you!
Love,
Jessica
Virginia McDermott
September 11, 2007
Dear Dad,
It's 5:00 in the morning and we are getting ready to go down to the World Trade Center for the ceremony. You are missed more and more each year. You are thought of and talked about everyday. There is an emptiness that will never be filled. Keep watching us from Heaven. You are our personal angel. Love and miss you more than words can say. Love, your daughter, Virginia
Virginia McDermott Jr.
September 10, 2007
Grandpa Phil,
I'm at a loss for words. I can't believe that it has been 6 years already. Not a day goes by where I'm not reminded of you and all of the generous things you have done for so many people. Each day I'm reminded more and more of how lucky I am to have you a part of my life and share my stories of how heroic my grandfather is and always will be.
Recently I watched the World Trade Center movie and I couldn't believe what I saw. In one scene, two firemen were about to save the children in the daycare center of Building 5 but it had already been taken care of. Right away I thought about you and I felt so proud to know someone so generous and genuine.
You are truly one of a kind and I miss you more each day.
Love always,
Virginia (the baby... not so little anymore!)
David / Debora Backhus
August 17, 2007
As I read about Mr. Hayes I remember meeting Philip Jr. and Laura on the train up Pikes Peak in 2002. I will always remember the love of family that they talked about and how they treated my wife and I. As a fire fighter I was there to pay tribute to those of 9-11 at the memorial in Colorado Springs, Colorado and they were comforting us. That is a feeling that I will never forget. I think of Mr. Hayes' family often and hope and pray that all is well with them. God Bless them all!
Desiree Marsden
March 25, 2007
Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
This really does sum up Uncle Phil. A truly great man and a very courageous hero. Not a day goes by that I do not remember him and his unselfish sacrifice in the face of danger. His reward in Heaven is truly magnificent for his selfless act of love and I am very proud that he was my uncle.
Love to you and yours always from your niece,
Doug Abraham
March 3, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
Michael Iezzi
March 3, 2007
Philip,
Happy Birthday in Heaven. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Michael Iezzi
March 3, 2007
Philip,
Happy Birthday in Heaven. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Froehlich
March 3, 2007
Dear Grandpa,
Happy Birthday!
We are going to celebrate you today. We love you very much and always keep you in our thoughts. Wish we could spend time with you again. We miss you.
As Mommy is writing this message for us, "The Star Spangled Banner" is playing on the radio. You always come through to us.
We love you very much Grandpa Phil!
Hugs and kisses xoxoxoxo
Love, Nicholas, Philip and Amanda
Laura Froehlich
March 3, 2007
Dear Dad,
Happy 73rd Birthday. I love you and miss you and I always keep you close to my heart.
I still can't believe what has happened sometimes. What a tragedy . . . yet you are a hero in everyone's eyes.
I know you would not have done anything differently that day to help everyone. I am very proud of you and I am proud to be your daughter.
May God bless you and keep you in his arms.
Love, Laura
Kristine
November 6, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
November 1, 2006
In memory....
Kelly O'Gara
September 11, 2006
Five years and the pain has not gone away. This year seemed to be harder for me than any other year. I wish you could be here with us. You are missed each and every day. Continue to be our angel in heaven. I LOVE YOU!
Love,
Your Granddaughter,
Kelly
Adeltha Rin
September 10, 2006
Dear Phil and Family,
I was told to do a report on a September 11th victim for school and Phil's description definately caught my eye. He sounded like a brave man who died so honorably for his country and lived such a full and honorable life. I would to extend my sympathy to the family who,as the fifth aniversary comes around must miss him so much, and I'm sorry for your loss.
Alex Burford
September 9, 2006
It's going to be five years this Monday. You're not forgotten, Uncle Phil. Remember,
"We here highly resolve that these shall not have died in vain."
President Abraham Lincoln
Gettysburg Address
Nov. 1863
Virginia McDermott Jr
September 8, 2006
Dear Grandpa Phil,
Wow. It's almost 5 years since you've been gone. I can't believe how fast time goes by.
I can still remember 9/11 like it was yesterday. I was sitting in my 6th grade class when the principal made an announcement over the loudspeaker that a crime was committed in the state of New York. Nobody knew exactly what was going on or anything, but I knew there had to be something wrong when my classmates were being signed out and taken home. For some reason, I didn't even think of what could be so bad until I got home, and saw the worst of it on television. I couldn't believe what I saw on TV and I can't even imagine what it was like to witness/be apart of that horrible day.
Thinking back on 9/11 makes me realize how brave and heroic you really were. I know for myself that I would have never, ever been able to do what you've done.
You're my hero, and I really miss you.
Love, the baby.
Diane Travis
June 16, 2006
Phil and Family,
You were always a gentleman. Many times I wanted to write to Virginia and all your kids and grandkids and tell them how you always spoke of them. Just couldn't, I guess. I thought of you that day and wondered where you might be. You were a brave man. Just so that you know, all of us at Customs got out.
Thanks for always bringing a smile to my face. Miss you. You are the best!!!!
Di
Bridget Cox
May 20, 2006
Dearest Phil,
I thought of you today and I wanted to post it. Years have passed, and I still think of you. Years have passed since you saved those children. I wonder how old they are now. I wonder what their names might be, and do they think of you . . knowing you lost your future to give them one. Heroes are legends and legends never die. God Bless you Philip and all our other heroes and victims of September 11, 2001. May God stand beside you while you watch over your families.
Virginia McDermott
April 4, 2006
Grandpa Phil,
I know I haven't written in a while, but I felt that since it's been a couple of weeks after the 4 year anniversary that they found you down at Ground Zero, it'd be a good time to write to you.
I say this every time, but I still can't believe that you're gone. Nothing is the same as it used to be, but I think of you every day. I noticed that little things remind me of you, and a few things make me laugh because they remind me of the corny jokes you used to tell me.
Everyone misses you, and now that Billy isn't doing so well, we all especially wish you were here to comfort him and help him to feel better because we know that's what you would do.
My mom and I talk all the time about how much you'd love James and Amanda. We think you'd really get a kick out of them, even Nicholas and Philip. I only wish Philip, James and Amanda could meet you to see how much of a loving grandfather you were.
I miss you, grandpa.
Love,
Little Virginia
Laura Froehlich
March 3, 2006
Dear Dad,
Happy 72nd Birthday. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you. I was just looking at some pictures of you recently. Sometimes it feels like you were just here with us and other times it feels like forever. You are always in my thoughts.
I feel like there is some of your personality in my children, which makes me feel better somehow. I know you are always with us.
Until we meet again. . .
I love you. Happy Birthday.
Love, Laura
Kelly O'Gara
March 2, 2006
Happy Birthday Grandpa!
I know that I am a day early but I wanted to make sure that I wished you a Happy Birthday. As we have done for the past few years we will continue to celebrate your birthday. As we all have stated it isn't the same without you here but we try to make the best of the situation. March is a difficult month for all of us because it's your birthday and the month they found your body. We try to stay strong and we are thankful that you were found.
May you enjoy another birthday in Heaven and know that your family is thinking about you on your birthday and every other day throughout the year. I look foward to seeing you one day and enjoying a birthday with you! Happy Birthday! I love you!
Love,
Kelly
Kelly O'Gara
September 11, 2005
Dear Grandpa,
Today was the four year anniversary of your death. We all went down to Ground Zero like we have for the past three years. This time the visit was very different for me. As we stood there and listened as all the victims names were called I looked around and observed. When we walked throughout the site, I observed. The one thing that I noticed this year more than any other year was that the Firemen would stare down into Ground Zero. No words were spoken. They just stared down at where the Twin Towers, at one time, stood. I wondered what they could be thinking and what was going through their heads. As I saw tears stream down their cheeks, I began to feel some of what they were thinking. The feeling of losing someone very dear to them.
As the names were called you could see and hear how much each and every person still ached over their lost family members. Although four years later, you can't help but feel two ways. One is that the tragic day of September 11th, 2001 seems to feel like yesterday but at the same time it feels like forever. Whether it is days that pass by or years, it is too long. Our family aches to have you back with us.
With the family continuing to grow with the birth of your first great grandchild, James and the birth of your 11 grandchild, Amanda, we continue to stay strong and support one another throughout these difficult times. I thank you for being an incredible role model for all of us to look up to. You truly are one of a kind and you are missed you more and more each and everyday. Please continue to look over us. I love you and miss you! You will always and forever be in our hearts.
With love and admiration,
Your Granddaughter,
Kelly
Virginia McDermott Jr
September 10, 2005
Grandpa Phil, I can't believe it's been 4 years already. There isn't a day that goes by where I don't think of you, and I still can't believe that you're gone. You're the most bravest person I know, and you truly are my hero.
Love,
The baby
(not really anymore!!)
Dad
Virginia McDermott
September 6, 2005
Dear Dad,
Well the 4 year anniversary is upon us. It is still very, very hard to believe. We are trying to go on as best as we can but to tell you the truth, it isn't easy. So many times I just want to pick up the phone or ride out to your house to talk to you or see you. If only we had one more time! I know you know this already in Heaven, but your street (7th Avenue) in East Northport is going to be named "PHIL HAYES WAY".
How great is that!!!! We are so proud of you and we will never let your memory fade. All the grandchildren and great grandchildren will always be told of your true heroism. Know that you are always in my heart, my mind and thoughts all the time. I miss you and I love you. Oh, I forgot to mention that on September 11, 2005 Marie and Michael will be reading your name at the 4 year anniversary ceremony. We know that you are smiling down on us. I LOVE YOU, DAD.
Love, your daughter, Virginia
Virginia McDermott
May 23, 2005
Dear Dad,
I know Kelly told you about Amanda Laura already. Boy would you love her! She is just beautiful. You also have a great grandson James Philip who was born on March 4, 2005. They both will always be told about how much you are loved and although you can't be here with us they will love you just as we do. Keep looking down on us. You are always in our thoughts and prayers. You bring smiles and happy thoughts to all of us.
We love you and know that you are always in our hearts.
Love, your daughter, Virginia
I'm a grandma now!
Kelly O'Gara
May 23, 2005
Hello Grandpa,
On Friday, May 20th, 2005 at 10:00 in the morning, you became a grandfather for the 11th time. Laura and Scott had a healthy baby girl, Amanda Laura Froehlich. She weighed 8 pounds and 5 ounces and was 20 inches long. She was absolutley beautiful. We are all very excited and can't wait until they are home from the hospital. As we do with Philip, we will tell Amanda about her grandfather. We will show her pictures of you and tell her what a wonderful person you were.
We know that you will continue to look down on all of us and watch over us. We will take good care of Amanda. One day we will all be together again. Until that day comes know that you thought about everyday.
We love you and miss you!
Love,
Kelly
jordan brewer
March 3, 2005
i didn't know him, but if he was like jessica, i'm sure he was the coolest. <> <
Karla Burns
March 3, 2005
Hello this is Karla I never knew this man but I'm one of Jessica's good friends. I'm sorry for all of you that feel this loss, I lost my friend last summer and I know the hurt that you must feel. But he seemed to be a wonderful man and I wish everyone comfort on his birthday.
Kayla Brown
March 3, 2005
Howdy,
I didn't know that Phillip T. Hayes was my cousin, Jessica's Grandpa. Actually I didn't even know who he was and had never even met him in my whole life. I just found out that he is Jessica's pa and I'm really sorry that he has past away.
Jessica Hayes
March 2, 2005
Happy Birthday!!
Dear Grandpa,
I know it isn't your birthday today, but I just wanted to wish you an early birthday. I can't believe that your 71. I still remember when we used to go and visit you every Christmas and you would have something new to show me and Daddy. Everyday I think of you and wish you were still here but I know that you're always here watching over all of us. I love you very much and you will always be my hero.
Love you,
Jessica
Kelly O'Gara
December 24, 2004
Merrry Christmas Grandpa!
It is Christmas Eve and I'm home wrapping presents. I don't have nearly as many to wrap as I used to. You used to ask me to wrap all the gifts you bought for Grandma and that is how I used to spend my Christmas Eve. I remember you would get so excited about the different things you bought her and tell me what good deals you got on them. You would always ask "Do you think she will like this?" No matter what I thought I always would tell you yes because you were so proud of yourself for picking these gifts out. God I miss that!
Well, I always make sure I buy gifts for Grandma and put them under the tree from you. I like to think that when I am buying them, you're with me telling me what to get.
I wish you were here with us. The holidays just aren't the same without you. You know that you are loved and missed each and everyday. The holidays make it hard because you're with your family, that you love, and each and every person in that family plays an important role. Each person contributes to the family and when one person is gone no one could ever replace them. This is especially true when it comes to you. You brought so much to our family and that can never be replaced.
Merry Christmas in Heaven! You are in our thoughts always!
I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU!
Love Always,
Kelly
Alex Burford
September 27, 2004
HI UNCLE PHIL!
I'm sorry that it's taken so long for me to get to this site and send my feelings to You.
I couldn't believe it when Dad told us all that You were missing and it still feels unreal. The wounds never heal.
I want You to know that we all do remember You and I try to keep the Memory of You alive for benefit of Michi's four children who will never know You or their Uncle Stewart.
You did everything right and I know that You will still do things right no matter what.
I'm Honored to have You as an Uncle and I Wish the Best to and for Your Family forever.
Your Loving Nephew,
Alex[Jr.]
Virginia McDermott
September 11, 2004
Grandpa Phil,
I cannot believe it was three years today that the horrible attacks on the World Trade Center took place. It seems like just yesterday we went to Crab Meadow Beach (never going in the water!), or the Library in East Northport. I hope you know that you're my only hero, and always will be. Nobody else will ever change that. Everyone misses you so much! I love you, grandpa.
Love, Virginia (the baby)
Virginia McDermott
September 10, 2004
Dear Dad, We are all on the way into the city for tomorrow's 3rd anniversary of that horrible day when you were taken away from us. Know that you are also with us and that you are thought of every day. We love and miss you with all of our hearts. Rest in peace.
Love, your daughter, Virginia
VIRGINIA MCDERMOTT
September 2, 2004
Dear Dad, The 3 year anniversary is rapidly approaching. It is still hard to believe that this happened. You are loved and thought of every day. How often I could use your strength and insight on so many different things. I hope you can hear me when I talk to you although I know that you can. You are taking care of us here until we are all together again. I miss you more each day. It doesn't get any easier. Your warm smile, your guidance and your reassurances will always be remembered. I am thankful that you are my Dad. I LOVE YOU AND ALWAYS WILL!!!!
Love, your daughter, Virginia
Virginia McDermott
March 23, 2004
Dear Dad,
It was two years ago today that you were finally recovered from the World Trade Center site. All of our hopes were gone but we were able to give you your final resting place that you so deserve. A special prayer is said for you today and everyday. You are in my thoughts and heart all the time. Never forgotten, always loved, forever missed. Keep smiling down on us. I am so proud of you. You are my hero. Rest in peace. Until we are all together again.
Love, Your daughter, Virginia xoxo
VIRGINIA MCDERMOTT
March 4, 2004
Dear Dad, You were thought of with such love yesterday, your 70th birthday. Balloons were displayed and our happy thoughts were sent to you up in Heaven. Virginia lit a candle for you in church yesterday and said a special prayer. You are missed and loved more and more each day. It does not get any easier; your guidance and reassurance will never be replaced. You are always loved and thought of with a smile. I love you! Love, your daughter, Virginia
Kelly O'Gara
March 3, 2004
Dear Grandpa,
Today is your 70th Birthday. Happy Birthday! As I've said before I miss you more and more each day. There is a saying time heals all wounds. I can't say that I believe that. It has been two and a half years since you were taken from us and the pain doesn't seem to go away. Although I know that you are looking down at me, and the rest of the family, I can't help but wish you were here. I thank you for being such an important person in my life. You have and continue to have an impact on so many lives. Thank you for all you've done. As you celebrate your birthday your birthday in Heaven, we will celebrate here. Like every other day I will be thinking about you. Happy Birthday in Heaven! I Miss You and Love You!
Kelly O'Gara
March 3, 2004
Dear Grandpa,
Today is your 70th Birthday. Happy Birthday! As I've said before I miss you more and more each day. There is a saying time heals all wounds. I can't say that I believe that It has been two and a half years and the pain doesn't seem to go away. Although I know that you are looking down on me, as well as the rest of the family, I can't help but wish that you were here.
I thank you for being such an important person in my life. You have and continue to have an impact on so many lives. Thank you for all you've done. As you celebrate your birthday in Heaven, we will celebrate here. Like every other day I will be thinking about you. Happy Birthday in Heaven! I Miss You and Love You!
Love Always,
Your Granddaughter,
Kelly
Kelly O'Gara
March 3, 2004
Dear Grandpa,
Today is your 70th Birthday. Happy Birthday! As I've said before I miss you more and more each day. There is the saying that time heals all wounds. I can't say that I believe that. It has been two and a half years and the pain doesn't seem to go away. Although I know that you're looking down on me, as well as the rest of the family, I can't help but wish you were here. I thank you for being such an important person in my life. You have and continue to have an impact on so many lives. Thank you for all you've done. As you celebrate your birthday in Heaven we will celebrate here. Like every other day I will be thinking about you. Happy Birthday in Heaven! I Miss You and Love You!
Love Always,
Your Granddaughter,
Kelly
canadian Buff
January 18, 2004
Philip T Hayes We honour and remember you for your heroic deeds, strenght and dedication. We will never forget!!! Last sunday my dad joined you in heaven and i promise in honour of my amazing father i will continue to fight for what is right and show your family what is more than deserved..RESPECT AND HONOUR... Sending all my love and praying for your loved ones... God Bless
VIRGINIA MCDERMOTT
December 22, 2003
Dear Dad,
Here it is, another Christmas without you. They are not the same. All the fun and joy has gone away since you were taken away from us. You are missed more each day. You are in my thoughts all of the time. I hope you are looking down on us and smiling. We are trying to go on just as you would have wanted us to. You are never forgotten, always thought of with deep love and respect. Merry Christmas in Heaven with Grandma.
Love you with all my heart,
Your daughter, Virginia
Julie Lamberti Levy
September 18, 2003
To the family of Mr. Phillip Hayes
First of all my deepest sorrow and sincerest condolensces for the loss of your family member. He sounds like such a beautiful man and very lucky to have a family who loves him so dearly.
Secondly, my husband, Jay, and I were down at Ground Zero on September 10, 2003 which was our 16th wedding annivesary. As we were walking along the site and paying our respects to all those who perished in this horrible tragedy, we came across a man, who was speaking to a news reporter, about his dad who perished on 9/11. We did not get the name of this man's dad but I do remember him mentioning that a grandchild was born and weighed 9 lb. 11 ounces. Not until I read Mr. Hayes short bio did I realize it was Mr. Hayes this man was talking about. It is a a strange coincidence that Mr. Hayes photo caught my eye and made me read his bio. It was as if Mr. Hayes wanted me to know it was him that his son was talking about. I remember I could not stop listening to Mr. Hayes' son speaking about his dad. He spoke lovingly of Mr. Hayes and said he was very proud of him.
I will say a prayer for Mr. Hayes and for all those others who perished so tragically on a day we shall never forget.
Again, my deepest condolensces for the loss of your loved one.
Sincerely
Julie Lamberti Levy
The Warren Family
September 11, 2003
To the family of a brave American Hero: May God bless you all with long and beautiful memories of your beloved Philip. Sincerely, The Warrens
Virginia McDermott
June 14, 2003
Dear Dad,
HAPPY FATHERS DAY IN HEAVEN. You are in our hearts and minds every day - not a day goes by that you are not thought of with deep, deep love. Thanks for watching over us. We feel you with us at all times. Always know that you are loved and will always continue to be until we are all together again. HAPPY FATHERS DAY DAD to the best Dad a daughter could every have. I am so proud and honored to call you MY DAD. I Love You!!!
Love, your daughter, Virginia
Plaque displayed at the Wall of Remembrance, KeySpan Park, Brooklyn, NY
Laura Froehlich
April 14, 2003
Dear Dad,
I miss you so much. Not a day goes by that I do not think about you. I am trying to focus on the happy memories of you, because there has been so much sorrow since September 11th. You brought joy and happiness to our lives, and for that I am very grateful.
I know you are always watching over our family. Tomorrow, Richie gets out of the hospital after being in a car accident. He is very fortunate to be alive. With all the broken glass in his car, two "puzzle pieces" of glass were found on the floor. One was held together by the American flag decal and the other was held together by the FDNY badge decal. This was another indication that you are always watching over us and keeping us safe.
I wish you could still be here with us to watch our children grow, but I know we will always have your spirit within us. This is what keeps all of us going on.
The memorial wall of remembrance at Keyspan Park in Brooklyn is a beautiful tribute to all of the Brooklyn firefighters who lost their lives that tragic day. The Chaplain told us that this memorial was at the baseball Stadium, because the Stadium and the surrounding area of Coney Island brought us life. There are happy times here, therefore, we could reflect on happy memories with our loved one. It makes a lot of sense now. We are so proud of you Dad. You died to give others life. There is no greater sacrifice.
I know you will keep watching over us and keep giving us the strength to carry on. May you be at peace.
You are Always and Forever in my heart.
With Love,
Your daughter, Laura
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