Howard Kestenbaum

Howard Kestenbaum

Howard Kestenbaum Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Nov. 3, 2001.
For Experience, a Shelter

Howard Kestenbaum worried about the homeless. He spent nights in a shelter to see what it was like, and would respond to a request for a dollar with a five, along with a suggestion to get some soup and a sandwich.

He was involved with his temple, Beth Ahm in Verona, N.J., and was impressed that so many there had been through crises like the Depression and World War II. His friends and relatives speak of him as unassuming and friendly. Lauren, his 24-year-old daughter, said she remembered him at home in Montclair, "standing in my doorway, try to get me to go do something with him, like go for a walk. "Him in a flannel shirt," she said. "My dad was a good guy, he was a really good guy."

He met his wife, Granvilette, when they were both graduate students at Columbia. He was studying astrophysics; she was in social work. At Aon Risk Services, Mr. Kestenbaum, 56, used his training to develop models to help clients understand how real certain risks were. In his office on the 103rd floor of the south tower, he hung a lightly weighted paper cup from the ceiling -- and noted how it and the building swayed in high winds.

Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on November 1, 2001.


Howard Kestenbaum, 56, loved to laugh

From the very beginning -- when he accidentally fell on her at a party in the West Village -- he made her laugh. He walked her home that night but, amusing or not, she wouldn't give him her phone number.

A few days later, however, she picked up the phone to hear someone say it was "Howie." Not recognizing his voice, she asked: "Howie who?"

"Fine, thank you, and how are you?" Howie Kestenbaum replied.

For 31 years of marriage, Howard and Granvilette Kestenbaum of Montclair talked every day, and he always made her laugh.

The last time Mrs. Kestenbaum heard her husband's voice was on the morning of Sept. 11, on a recorded message telling her: "Howard Kestenbaum can't come to the phone right now."

"If I had known it was the last time, I would have taped it," she said last week.

She had called his office on the 103rd floor of the South Tower of the World Trade Center, where he worked for Aon Corp., after getting a frantic and garbled cell phone call from Lauren, their 24-year-old daughter.

Lauren Kestenbaum had been on a bus bound for Manhattan when she saw the first plane hit. "My daddy is in that building," said the New York City librarian as she and fellow passengers stared in horror from their bus, which was beginning its descent toward the Lincoln Tunnel toll plaza. A woman gave Lauren a cell phone and she called her mother but lost contact when the bus entered the tunnel.

By the time Mrs. Kestenbaum called her husband's office, he and his colleagues had made it to the 78th floor, where they were when the second plane hit. Witnesses have told Mrs. Kestenbaum that her 56-year-old husband apparently was knocked unconscious by debris. A colleague, Vijay Paramsoth, 26, was seen trying to help him. Both remain missing.

Mr. Kestenbaum was a senior vice president in charge of Aon Corp.'s risk analysis group. He was born in Newark and grew up in Maplewood, where he graduated from Columbia High School in 1963. He earned a bachelor's degree from Williams College in Massachusetts and a Ph.D. in physics from Columbia University.

His brother, Stuart, said last week that when he and Howard were growing up in Maplewood, he looked upon his older brother -- who excelled in athletics and school -- as a star. But listening to people at a memorial held for Mr. Kestenbaum last month, Stuart Kestenbaum marveled at "how kind and generous he had become as an adult. . . . What a beautiful man he became."

The Kestenbaums and their daughter moved to Montclair 16 years ago. Mr. Kestenbaum was an avid baseball fan who began memorizing baseball statistics when he was 8 years old and kept a 1953 team photo of the New York Yankees on the wall of his study at home.

Mr. Kestenbaum was an active member of Congregation Beth Ahm in Verona. Besides his wife and daughter, he is survived by his mother, Annete of Portland, Maine; two brothers, Herbert of Glenside, Pa., and Stuart of Deer Isle, Maine; and a sister, Susan Saffer of Cape Elizabeth, Maine.

More than 700 people attended Mr. Kestenbaum's Sept. 30 memorial.

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September 11, 2023

Nathan Rum posted to the memorial.

September 12, 2021

STEVEN ROSS posted to the memorial.

September 11, 2021

Harriet Reisen posted to the memorial.

Nathan Rum

September 11, 2023

Howard,

It's 22 years and still miss our mornings. I remember learning that missing a coma in an app program is a mistake no one sees but the answer is wrong. Technology is great but it is the content that makes it work! IE, garbage in garbage out!

Nathan

STEVEN ROSS

September 12, 2021

Howard and I were classmates. We didn't travel in the same circles at Columbia High School. But I do remember Howard as a most of his close friends do, friendly, athletic, and well liked. He was a wrestler if I remember correctly. I was a third year medical student at New Jersey College of Medicine in 1971 when I found myself taking care of his grandmother in the ICU unit at the old Martland Medicial Center on Bergen street in Newark. I of course recognized her last name, Kestenbaum, and soon established conversation about Howard and that I was a classmate of his. I remembering saying that "Howard was a good guy." She remarked that Howard was studying astrophysics at Columbia University at the time which blew me away. There was mention of his marriage and I noted some disappointment in her voice. I told her I would back later in the day to see how she was doing. Sadly chalked it up to a disparity in generations. My thoughts too are with his beautiful family on this day September 11th 2021.

Harriet Reisen

September 11, 2021

Gran and Lauren: Twenty years on, I hope you’re doing well and are comforted knowing that Howard is actively remembered by so many. His classmates and I often speak of him, and wish fervently that he were among those of us who remain.

Nathan Rum

September 10, 2021

Howard,

It's 20 years.....miss our mornings my friend!

Harriet Reisen

September 11, 2020

I wish I'd had more of my schoolmate "Howie," and even more I wish his family had had more of that fine person and funny guy. I think of him not just on this day, but often.

Nathan Rum

September 10, 2020

19 Years Howard, I won't forget our good times!

Howard Herrnstadt

August 31, 2020

I never met Howard. But my mother's maiden name was Kestenbaum and I am also a Howard. I was named after my maternal grandfather, who died ten or so years before I was born, who was Harold Kestenbaum. My mother was born in eastern Hungary and emigrated here with her mother and brother. A sister was born here. They were preceded to the USA by several years by Harold. I never knew of a Kestenbaum family nearby in New Jersey. I was raised in the Bronx. My cousins were raised in the Bronx and Mountainside, NJ. But I can only assume that somehow we are related. I have limited information on my Hungarian relatives: Kestenbaum and Goldner. But I mourn Howard as a relative, even now, so long after the terrible events of 9/11. On that day I was in Cleveland, Ohio, teaching English to a small class of men from the Gulf States. Ironic.

Matthew West

September 11, 2019

God Bless You and Your family

Nathan Rum

September 6, 2019

18 years now but it seems like only yesterday we were sitting in your office like every morning at 7AM! Still miss your calm sense of humor!

Harriet Reisen

September 5, 2019

On September 12, a group from Columbia High School '63 will be meeting at the shore and I know you will be remembered there. Many of us think of you more often than we would expect after all these years. The word about you that comes to mind today is "heroic." Gran, could you post the speech others have mentioned? It would be like a visit for me.

Sophie

September 4, 2019

hi, my name is Sophie and I am from Shanley high school. I was assigned to research about Howard in our 9/11 unit. Howard seemed like a great man that was very humble and would put others above himself. He seemed like a very hard worker, and someone who would near give up to help someone that was less fortunate. He will be in my prayers and won't be forgotten.

Sophie

September 4, 2019

I am from Shanley High School. I was assigned to research Howard for our 9/11 project, as I read about him, he seemed like he was a very caring man. That would've put someone else above him. It took a lot of courage and humbleness to spend nights with the homeless. He really made me think about what would happen if a tragedy like that would happen. Prayers for Howard and his family.

Nathan Rum

September 9, 2018

Howard,

Another year passes and the New Year starts tonight when you would be in temple.

You are in the Temple of God...Shanna Tova!


Nathan

September 11, 2017

Howard,

16 years now and it seems like only yesterday we were sitting in your office like every morning at 7AM talking about business and everything else. Miss you!

Nathan

September 11, 2017

Howard I think of you so often and this morning my first prayers were for you. Thank you for being a great friend. Nancy Rogers

Gran Kestenbaum

January 25, 2017

I know you are polishing the stars. There will always be things left to say. We loved you then. We love you now.

Richard Berthelsdorf

September 20, 2016

After so many years, I still think of Howard often. I remember him as a real friend. Gran - although it's been a long time since we've communicated, you are also in my thoughts.

JD

September 12, 2016

I am so sorry for your loss. I had never heard of Howard Kestenbaum until you spoke at the 9/11 Memorial. Today I did a search and read his obituary - how proud you must be to have had such a wonderful man in your life. My heart aches for you and your daughter - thank you for sharing your memories and the poem.

Richard

September 11, 2016

Howie...I never met you...but I wish I had. I read about you after your beautiful wife spoke of you this morning. Williams ...Ph.D. Columbia ...astrophysics yet ! I live not far from your hometown of Maplewood...I grew up in Brooklyn but I imagine we would have been friends..what a speech this morning...the love and grief were obvious...listen to your wonderful wife and polish the stars.....

September 11, 2016

Howard,

Gran spoke today beautifully. Hope she and Lauren are doing well.

Nathan

September 8, 2016

Howard,

I can't believe it's almost 15 years!
Miss our morning talks.

Nathan

September 10, 2015

Howard,

Another year passes and we have not forgotten!

Nathan

Kathy

March 20, 2015

We never met. But I'm so sorry
I live in CA -saw your name on the memorial. You aren't forgotten

Pauline Cole

September 13, 2014

Dear Howard - I will never forget your smile and kind words. We worked together at Alexander & Alexander. I left a year before the merge with Aon. God bless! You are now the the Angels.

Nathan

September 11, 2014

Howard.

Another year passes and many of our friends join you and hopefully you all meet again.

Miss those mornings:-)

Carole Lyles Shaw

May 14, 2014

Howie and Granvillete, on this day before the dedication of the memorial, I wanted to send you a heartfelt blessing. We spent joyful days together many years ago and you have a special place in my heart.

Jessica Christensen

September 11, 2013

Howard, you will always hold a special place in my memory. I will never forget, and am so incredibly grateful to have known you.

Madelyn Burton

September 11, 2013

We met when I worked in the office of Columhia's Astrophysics Lab. He was the sweetest, nicest, kind hearted soul and a great boss too. I was working there for the free tuition and when I had a problem with something in my physics courses, Howard would always help me and he was never my actual professor It took me weeks to understand what a torgue was. Finally, one day on vacation, I pushed off on my hammock and said "Eureka, I'm imparting a torque to the system." When I returned from vacation, I went straight to his office and swumg his door and said "Look I'm imparting a torque to the system. And I know thats because you explained it so well; that after really thinking hard about it, I finally got it." All from his great ability to teach with patience; I got a B+. I ,wish we had stayed in touch over the years, but there is a season... Howard's season was cut way to short. I think of him often and always with a smile.

September 11, 2013

Howard,

As the time passes so do many of our friends.
Never forget the good times.

Miss you.

Nathan

warren macy

March 15, 2013

You were always an inspiration.

Jessica Christensen

September 11, 2012

Ah Howard, another 9/11 and my memories of our collaborations and laughter over the years at A&A and Aon are as fresh as if it were yesterday. Your kindness and intelligence will always be remembered and treasured.

September 5, 2012

Howard,

Time passes but not the memories, both the good and the bad.Still need help modeling cash flow plans:-)

The holidays are early this year and I will speak to you soon.

Nathan

Harriet Reisen

August 31, 2012

I, too, visited the memorial recently, with Paul Marantz, who designed the lighting and also created the Tribute in Light that was about the most powerful memorial I've ever seen. Paul grew up on Prospect Street in Maplewood, and went to CHS about five years before Howie. It was good to talk with Paul about Howie as he walked us around the memorial and described the lighting challenges, and of course we went to Howie's name. Paul talked about how long and carefully the lettering was chosen and the result shows it.

Granvilette, I think of Howie often with fresh sadness for his cruel loss. Harriet

August 30, 2012

Granvilette - Thinking of you as the anniversary approaches. May time ease your terrible pain. Caroline and Family RPMC

Alan Pralgever

March 8, 2012

This past November my daughter Holly got tickets to the 911 Memorial and Robyn and I went with her. Of course we looked up Howie's name on the registry and could see the same smiling picture that appears her. We located his name carved in the granite overlooking the pool at which his name appeared--and it was an incredibly moving experience. The memorial is really well conceived and brings you from life and light to darkness and void and back to light again so artfully. It was incredibly moving and peaceful, and I hope when the buildings are done it becomes the center of life down town--as it is an incredibly peaceful place in the midst of downtown New York. Howie would have liked it I think because its a Memorial in the middle of what will be a bustling center of activity and hopefully the life will be restored to that ground. That will be the best memorial of all--never to forget but never to be defeated by what happened there. I am a cousin of Howies, and I can't say enough how tasteful and life affirming the memorial is--a great tribute to the artist. It won't bring anyone back, but it will preserve so tastefully the memory of those who were lost there and remind us what happened for a long time to come. Alan Pralgever

Craig Miller

February 16, 2012

I met Howie as a freshman at Williams College. As an upper classman, he briefly showed me around his fraternity house during rush week. I was impressed with his kindness and a great looking old leather bomber jacket he was wearing. Sadly, that was the extent of our contact. Nevertheless, I never forgot him.... In the early 1980's I worked on the 98th floor of World Trade Center II, so I know why he hung the paper cup from his ceiling. I understood that the building was designed to sway 18 or so inches laterally. I was so sorry to hear of his 9-11 passing. The reason I remembered him today is that I received an email from a Williams sophomore wishing to know whether I like my job working for the SEC. Now I can "pay forward" Howie's kindness to me as an under classman to this student who is seeking my advice.

David Rothfuss

September 22, 2011

I just learned today from Walter Thrush that Howard died in the WTC on 9/11. I attended Columbia with Howard and while we were only acquaintences I always admired his intelligence and ready smile for all. My thoughts and prayers are with Howard and his family.

Alan Pralgever

September 12, 2011

Howie was an older cousin and always someone to look up to. Despite his many accomplishments and discipline(his wrestling regime was beyond rigorous), he was not only good humored, but even in those days seemed more concerned with other people's well being than his own. He made people feel like they mattered and were important enought for him to listen to. He never really spoke about himself, but always seemed interested in what you were doing--a rare and wonderful quality. He was just a great guy!

Harriet Reisen

Harriet Reisen

September 11, 2011

Howie was a childhood sweetheart of mine - he had many, he loved girls - and he was a sweetheart of a boy himself. This was Howie: when his best friend's father died, he made sure there was a minyan - ten men - at the temple to pray for him every single day for a year. I have thought and spoken of Howie many, many times these past ten years. As I learn of my classmates' lives -- most of them very fortunate -- that Howie, of all of us, should have been so cruelly murdered stands as about the bitterest lesson in the sweet educations we shared.

jacki galloway

September 11, 2011

thinking of u & that gigantic smile of ur's. i will always remember........

September 11, 2011

stuart:

My heart goes out to you and your family. There are no words.......

gabrielle levin

Laura Sheppard

September 11, 2011

Gran, I think of you often. I'm thinking of you especially today.

With lots of love.....

Phil Stevens

September 10, 2011

Howard and family, my thoughts and prayers have been with you for the past 10 years.

nancy rogers

September 9, 2011

To Howard's wife and daughter. I think of Howard almost everyday. He was a creative thinker and always made time to work through ideas with me. I miss him and the talent he shared with me. You are both in my thoughts today Nancy Rogers (A&A/AON)

September 8, 2011

Howard, I need help with a cash flow plan! Miss our chats. Can't believe it is 10 years already!
Nathan

Mimi Harrison

September 6, 2011

I was a college classmate of Howie's sister Susan, and was shocked in 2001 to see her brother's name in the paper. I remember how close she was with her brothers, and have thought about her and her family often, and do particularly at this very emotional commemorative time. If regard from a stranger can bring any solace at all, please accept mine.

Ann Kaplan Friedlander

May 22, 2011

Growing up across the street on Colgate Road, I thought all of us were immortal. I just learned of Howie's passing, and am sure his memory is immortal in his family's hearts.

September 11, 2010

thinking of u fondly and will always remember your award winning smile. may you be at peace and god bless.

jacki gomes-galloway (former employee A&A) w. wareham, ma

Nathan Rum

September 10, 2009

I miss our chats every morning!

Jessica Christensen

September 16, 2008

I miss Howard deeply, and think of him often. I wonder as things evolve around here what Howard would have said and how much his contribution is missed.

Brandon Solomine

September 11, 2008

The memory of that day may diminish with time, but the gleaming smile of Howie shines through that sad dark memory and continues to bring hope for the future and for healing. May God continue to give peace and comfort to the Kestenbaum family and all families who still feel loss from that September morining. With God's grace...

Charlie Skinner

September 11, 2008

I loved working with Howard because he was so smart, friendly and down-to-earth. He always had a sense of humor and a readiness to help. He'll always be missed.

Vicki Reid Ziegler

May 11, 2008

as i prepared to attend our 45th reunion from columbia high school 1963, Howie was one of the people I was most looking forward to seeing; I remember meeting him and his lovely wife at the 20th and was so impressed that he was still a wonderful genuinely nice person. When I mentioned to annie liner that I was hoping he and his wife would be there, she told me the sad news. Living in Rumson, NJ we lost many many friends, including our next door neighbor, Dave Bauer..another wonderful man and my heart goes out to his family. To know this person was to love and admire him.

David Leathers

September 13, 2007

I was just recently saddened and shocked to hear that Howard was lost in the WTC disaster. He was a familiar face at Anistics NY during the mid 80s, as he would come visit from his A&A office. Although I did not work with him directly, he was very nice to everyone and deeply respected not only for his knowledge but his willingness to share with others. May God grant his family peace in the knowledge that his colleagues deeply respected and cherished him.

Madelyn Burton

September 11, 2007

I worked for Howard at Columbia. He was a kind sweet man with a lovely sense of humor who was always willing to help me. He IS missed.

nancy rogers

September 11, 2007

To Howard's family this September 11, 2007. I think of Howard often and remember with appreciation his kindness to me and to so many of us at Aon.

P Tabbernor

November 24, 2006

In remembrance....

Kristine

October 30, 2006

As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.

jacki galloway

September 10, 2006

remembering your gentle way & pepper gray hair. rest peacefully on this 5th anniversary. A&A

Gale Fox Barnett

August 29, 2006

I knew Howard in high school where we dated a bit. I recall a wonderful Williams college weekend in 1968. Howard was funny, athletic, bright and earnest. Only today did I learn, through an a connection via Haystack School in Maine that Howard perished in the World Trade Center disaster. I am feeling grief today, albeit, five years later. May his family find peace as they celebrate his existence and may he rest in peace.

Elaine Toth

September 11, 2004

I just read Howard's profile on the Times '102 Minutes' interactive. What a wonderful man and how very much you must all miss him.

God Bless, Elaine Toth

Brandon Solomine

September 11, 2004

This past year, 2 months ago in fact, I visited the Smithsonian's traveling 9/11 exhibit at the Japanese-American museum in L.A. with my girlfriend and her family. I was, once again, moved to remember Howard Kestenbaum. At the end of the exhibit tour, we were able to fill out a rememberance card which will be part of the permanent Smithsonian archives. In it I offered a prayer for the Kestenbaum family from the Solomine family. In Japenese tradition, we made an oregami crane which will be chained together in prayer and hope for the families of 9/11. It will be displayed in Shanksville, PA today and travel with the exhibit. I put Howard's name on mine on behalf of me and my family. Today, as I begin my dream career in sports television, I remember Howard and all the victims and heroes of 3 years ago and I say God Bless you and be with you.

ann kossar

November 8, 2003

I don,t know this man,oranyone else involved in the tragady of 9/11 but my prayers are with you all. I will remember

Brandon Solomine

September 11, 2003

On this day of remembrance, I reflect on the lives that were lost and the great spirits that live on. My father, Michael Solomine, was a best friend of Howies' brother, Stu. My father remembers Howie as an excellent wrestler and athlete and one who motivated him and coached him in the sport. Whether directly or indirectly we all knew somebody who perished that dark day in September and it is evident that we will never forget the effect of Howie, and others, on our lives. God Bless the Kestenbaum family.

Ilana Lior

September 11, 2003

I never knew Howard but I live about 10 minutes away from where he lived. Nonetheless, my heart goes out to his family and my deepest prayers are with them. I'm sure Howard was a great husband and father - he will be missed greatly.



Never forget Howard and all of those whose lives were taken so abruptly exactly two years ago on that horrific and sad day.

Wendy Roberts Fingerhut

January 15, 2003

With great sadness I heard about Howie’s tragic death several months after 9/11. I am so happy to have chanced upon this site to express my condolences to all who knew and loved him.



Like several others who have posted here, I met Howie (never referred to as Howard back then) in the 7th grade. He had the biggest, friendliest smile and a glint in his eyes. From his picture on this tribute it shows how some things never change. Many of the girls I knew then had crushes on him. He broke more than one of our hearts, but he was a genuinely nice guy and would never have knowingly hurt anyone. He was a great athlete and an excellent student.



I last saw Howie briefly at our 20th high school reunion, almost 20 years ago. He was still the sweet, kind and interested person I knew way back then. I met his beautiful wife and remember how lovingly, truly lovingly, he spoke of his daughter. I cannot imagine their grief at the loss of this terrific human being.

Teresa Woodward Hagwood

September 16, 2002

To the family of Mr. Kestenbaum:

As part of the 9/11 country-wide tributes, my son's school planted a beautiful and strong Live Oak tree on 9/11/02 in memory of Mr. Howard Kestenbaum. Trees were planted across the United States in memory of all the victims, and my 7 year old son's school selected Mr. Kestenbaum as the person whom they chose to honor. The school is West Wortham and the students and faculty want to send you a photo of the days events, if you wish to have them. Should you ever visit the Gulf Coast, please feel free to also visit "Howard's tree" which will be thriving through the student's diligent caretaking. God Bless You.

Diane Lerner

September 12, 2002

I knew Howard when we spent time together in junior high and high school at Columbia. I have thought of him many times over the years and was so sorry to hear about him. He was a wonderful sweet boy and apparently from all the things people have said about him became an even more wonderful man. My thoughts are with his family.

jacki g. galloway

September 12, 2002

on this the first anniversary of 9/11 i remember a very smart & classy guy who was friendly & always willing to help others. will always remember u smiling always know that you will live on in those who knew & loved u. to your family may the memories u share always be kept close to your heart.

Charles E. Kimble

September 11, 2002

As the first 9/11 anniversary approached I just learned that not all the old Anistics risk analysis team made it out of the WTC. I worked with Howard a number of years at Anistics Inc. soft-spoken, reserved, unassuming, just "cool", very cool and very smart. My thoughts and prayers are with his family. I learned a lot from Dr. Kestenbaum and will never forget him. Charles E. Kimble former managing vice president, Anistics Inc., Chicago, IL.

Mary Ann and Don Brown

September 11, 2002

Dear Susie & Jeff and families, Please know that our thoughts and our prayers are with you all as we remember September 11, 2001. We didn't know your brother, but our hearts are full of pain and sorrow for the rest of your family. We shall keep you all in our prayers as you unite on this Sept. 11, 2002. Love, Mary Ann and don

Lizette Roelofs

September 9, 2002

Dear Family,



I didn't know Howard and don't know you, but as a former au-pair who lived in Montclair, I just wanted to let you know that we're all still thinking of that horrible day, of all the people who have lost their loved-ones. I wish you all the strength to get through all of this and especially for the next few days.

Robert, Nancy, Dustin and Laura Sutton

September 9, 2002

In memory of Howard Kestenbaum

We did not know Howard, but my husband is the brother of Cam Sutton who works for Aon. I came across this on the internet and wanted to express our deepest sympathy. I have thought of all the lives lost that day and especially of the ones from my brother-in-laws office and it still hurts deeply. Our deepest deepest sympathy to the family.



Nancy Sutton

William Ku

September 6, 2002

I knew Howard when he was at Columbia University 1972-77. He was a good physicist and a very nice person. I was sad to learn that he had died - ironically in a senseless risk event no one could calculate.

Tanya Burgess

August 28, 2002

We did not know Howard very well, but we do know his daughter Lauren, whom as we can see by all the messages is just like her dad...precious. Our thoughts and prayers are still with you Lauren.

Tanya Burgess & Latoya Galloway (Hamilton Grange)

David

August 8, 2002

In the spring of 2002 I visited Howard's office on the 107th floor to view the Statue of Liberty through his telescope. He was my father's best friend and a fun, smart, caring man. He will be missed dearly by my family and countles others. To Gran and Lauren: remember Howard with love and know that he is a hero.



"Whoever restrains rising anger like a chariot gone astray,

that one I call a real driver;

others merely hold the reins.



Overcome anger by love; overcome wrong by good;

overcome the miserly by generosity, and the liar by truth.

Speak the truth; do not yield to anger;

give even if asked for a little.

These three steps lead you to nirvana.



There is no suffering for the one

who has completed the journey,

who is freed from sorrow,

who has freed oneself on all sides,

who has thrown off all chains."



-Siddhartha Guatama Buddha

Lenore Avin

July 21, 2002

Howard Kestenbaum - my mentor, my friend, my prototype for all that MAN should be. Howard epitomized all that is good in man; a true SON of God. If only he had had a chance to address the world! Indeed, peace would have followed shortly thereafter, and forever more.

Lucy Maggi

July 12, 2002

Always a smile, one of ths sweetest people you could ever meet. And the smartest.



I knew Howard many years at A&A, worked with him. One of my favorite people ever.



My first reaction "No not Howard. Please not Howard".



The world was a better place with you in it Howard.



I pray you are at peace.



Love, Lucy

Annie Liner

June 26, 2002

Reading a reprint of an article on September 11th that appeared in the Wall St. Journal a few weeks ago, I was shocked and pained to discover that my childhood friend, Howie Kestenbaum died. I will add his name to our Yiskor list in my community. I first met Howie in 7th grade. A gang of us attended bar/bat mitzvahs, weekend parties and high school wrestling matches and basketball games and evolved from 12 year olds to 18 year olds together. He was a bright delight of a boy who had a quick mind, good heart and great laugh. To his family and friends and colleagues, my deepest and heartfelt sympathy.

Jean McCormick

June 25, 2002

I did not know Mr. Kestenbaum but I have a mercy band with his name on it. Please know that I will continue to pray for his family. It sounds like he was a wonderful person with a great passion for the homeless. May God continue to strengthen those of his family. Jean McCormick

Theresa Kindred

June 8, 2002

What an incredible man Howard was..My dear Dad is up there with him, and they both, as all people who died on September 11th, 2001, are in the best place they could possibly be..Out of pain, and the sorrow of this life..Howard was amazing with his work with the homeless and amazing compassion for people around him..He touched so many lives. God bless Howard and his dear family..

Andrew Rodnite

May 31, 2002

Howard is a hero as well as those NYPD, PAPD and NYFD men and women who sacrificed their lives trying to save others. I am a Rutgers grad and feel deeply for fellow alums who were on the PA plane. They shall always be remembered in our prayers.

Fr. Steve Tyminski

May 26, 2002

What a man! Howard is an inspirition. I am awed to read of his last hour on earth. I look forward to meeting him someday if I ever merit the reward he has earned. I'll be thinking of him again the next time I go fishing at Verona Park Lake. Also proud to know that he raised his family in Essex County, NJ where I hailed from and once served. -- Father Steve +

Elizabeth Ruotolo

March 21, 2002

My thoughts and prayers go out to you Lauren and your family. I am deeply saddened by this news.

Peter Viscardi

March 11, 2002

My deepest sympathies to Howard's family. Mine was one of the accounts Howard worked on in the early 80's at A&A. His was a brilliant mind in peaceful,gentle soul. It was always a pleasure to work with such a sophisticated thinker who was generous with his time and patience. A devoted family man, he is missed by all who knew him.

David Roston

March 11, 2002

I met Howard only once. I took his deposition during the summer of 1990. I was impressed that in a hard fought, difficult lawsuit he remained straight forward about his involvement in the facts of the case. I have always been left with the feeling that if more people could talk about their involvement in business dealings with his attitude, there might be less litigation.

John Arthurs

February 28, 2002

Although I only met Howard once during a meeting in Atlanta with a mutual client in December, 2000, I was most impressed with his professionalism, intelligence, and personable demeanor. I was saddened to learn that he was among the many victims of the World Trade Center attack, and my sincere condolences go out to his family and friends. He was a true gentleman, indeed.

February 11, 2002

DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL INTELLIGENT GENTLEMAN HOWARD KESTENBAUM AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK..MAY GOD GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN..

Jerry Greenwald

February 3, 2002

I'll always remember my cousin Howard as an incredibly sweet,caring and down to earth person. I didn't see him very much but I always greatly enjoyed the times when I got to see him and talk with him. A truly great and wonderful man that I think about often and I miss very much. He left the world a much better place than he found it.

Tom Guza

January 7, 2002

I worked for Howard as an intern in 1998. He gave me a chance and helped me get where I am today. I owe him for it. I hope he's keeping my dad company up there...they are both really smart!!

Teresa Jahn

December 27, 2001

We thank Howard for all he did to help the homeless. Such acts of kindness are a reflection of a warm and caring heart. May Howard's kindness, life and love live on in those who love him. We are deeply sorry for your loss of Howard. Our hearts cry with you.

America Cries

We see your sorrow-

and our hearts cry....

We can not erase your pain

but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-

-the American people-

are beside you.

We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,

the strength that gives you courage,

and the words to lighten your spirits.

And when we are left speechless

may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts

to ease your sorrow.

May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-

-the American people-

face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn

Dixon, IL

John DeCaro

December 22, 2001

I remember working on a project with Howard for several months in 1998, when I had first joined Aon Capital Markets. Although I did not know him very well, I could tell that he was a good man. I am truly saddened to hear that he was lost on 9/11. I am glad to read that he was a very caring, thoughtful man who was thought of very highly by many who knew him. My thoughts and prayers go out to his wife and family. God bless you all.

Mark Levine

December 21, 2001

22 and a half years ago, I was a kid out of college starting my first job at Anistics. I remember meeting Howard for the first time. His smile and warm greeting made me feel right at home. We worked on many projects together. I will truly miss his friendship.

Vickie Fergason

December 18, 2001

I teach computer in our small town. Many of our teachers bought "mercy" bands recently in memory of the Sept. 11th victims. We could choose our band from any place, fire dept, airlines etc. I gave no preference and I received Howards name. I wanted to get on and just see his face and find out what kind of man he was. Seems he was a wonderful person and will be greatly missed. I will think of him often now, and he will keep my resolve alive to do all I can in my own small way to fight terrorism in this country.

jacki galloway

December 7, 2001

i remember a witty, intelligent man so full of life. we didn't work closely together back in 86 at a&a but when i saw your face it was w/some sadness. may god touch all of u & keep u close to his heart. with sincerest sympathy. jacki

Betty Addieg

December 5, 2001

We were friends and neighbors of Howard & Gran's for a number of years when we lived on Oakwood Avenue. We spent a lot of happy times hanging out with each other and having good times. I will always remember my last few days living in NJ and we stayed with Howard and Gran. Howard cooked us dinner one night. He was so proud of himself. He will be missed always. God bless you Howard.

Betty Addieg

December 5, 2001

Eleven years ago we moved off of Oakwood Ave, Upper Montclair. The years we lived on Oakwood we were close friends and neighbors of Howard & Gran's. I was the first to welcome them to the neighborhood when they moved in. Howard was a dear man and could get really silly at our New Year Eve parties. He will be missed always and always in my heart.

Julie Sklut

December 4, 2001

I didn't know Howard but he was the cousin of one of my very best friends, Tiffany. I know that when she moved from California to the East Coast, she started spending the holidays with him and his family. She told me how much it meant to her to have family to be with during the holidays. It meant a lot to me that she had special people to be with when she was so far away from the rest of her family and friends. My heart goes out to all of the family. I know that Howard was a special man. God bless all of his family and friends.

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