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Mark Brisman Obituary
Could they have had less in common?
She was an actress with traveling in her toes, an adventurous career in her dreams. He was stiff, proper Dudley Do-right. By age 5, he had mapped out his life: lawyer, wife in the suburbs, raising their kids. When Juliette Steuer met Mark Brisman, he was 19 going on 40.
The relationship worked, because sometimes opposites prod each other in the best ways. He gave her stability; she loosened him up. He managed to jump in a few fountains at college, and she married him, moved to Westchester and stayed home with their two young children.
Meanwhile, back at the office — Harris Beach, a law firm with a branch on the 85th floor of 2 World Trade Center — Mr. Brisman, 34, worked exhaustively, for his family's sake. If he was seen as old-fashioned in his treatment of women (as delicate flowers who need protection), he was also regarded as a can-do, meticulous guy, supersmart and assured. He was awarded his long- sought partnership posthumously.
He knew himself. "I'm not a babe magnet," he said. "I'm a baby magnet." Formal with adults, he whooped freely with small people, especially his own. A snapshot from Labor Day weekend: Mr. Brisman playing happily with children, his tall frame folded into a kiddie airplane at Adventureland.
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Michael Bauer
September 11, 2021
I knew Mark and we were friends growing up in Merrick. Michelle of course as well, as the entire Family.
There has never been one anniversary where I have not prayed for your Children, your Family, all of you. I am sorry that we lost touch over time, but I have never ever forgotten the Brismans. This man, even if I only knew him as a kid and Young Man, was ALWAYS the Brightest, the Happiest, and one of the Kindest people I have ever known. I cannot recall a time Mark did NOT Smile!
Mark, I am certain that you are STILL smiling bigger and more proudly now more than ever before. I wish you G_speed throughout every Journey you are ever on. To your Family, only the very Best as well as Comfort and Peace with every day of their lives.
B"H
Michael Bauer
Cindy Roe
September 2, 2021
Remembering Mark on the 20th anniversary of 9/11...
Del Newberry
May 23, 2018
Thinking of Mark and all of his friends and family today. We will never forget. With love from Texas,
Jennifer Tunnard
April 21, 2018
Mark,
My son, now 15 years old, and I are running the 9/11 race tomorrow in your honor. I think of you and your family every year since that day. I'm so happy to see that Juliette and your children are doing well. Miss you.
Your ADA and Bar Bri friend Jennifer
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Kalip Wiggins
January 28, 2018
May our prayers be with you ❤
TD
September 20, 2017
Dearest Brisman Family,
It is so wonderful to see the continuous love showed for Mr Brisman. Even after these many years Mark's memories are permanently embedded by him in their hearts. He obviously has a heart of gold to have touched so many lives in a positive way.
Annette H
December 16, 2015
I miss you Mark. You always had a ready smile and listen to a friend. Your family is beautiful!
Annett H.
Anne Leeds
September 14, 2015
You were and always will be a special member of our family. Missing you. Cousin Anne
September 13, 2015
There is no replacement as their father...There IS a place in Rachael & Williams' hearts, eternal. You and Juliette have given life to two quite remarkable individuals! That is our comfort...Forever, June
Claudia S
September 12, 2015
Always enjoyed our conversations about the NY Rangers. It was such a pleasure working with you at LSKD and an honor to be your friend.
Joshua
September 11, 2015
You taught me what it meant to be a lawyer. I am forever grateful to you.
October 27, 2014
Mark,
I never stop thinking about you. You were my favorite Cousin. You are truly the hero of 911. Love Cousin Mindy
September 11, 2014
A DAY TO SHARE
The World this DAY quite in Despair
But I prefer we all do SHARE
of loving thoughts
of fun and laughs
the Friend, the Colleague
Family Man
Whose Deep Devotion
TIME still stands
And so, NOT loss, but understand,
Our TRIBUTE to this GENTLE MAN
Let's SHARE those moments
smiles, the sounds
To keep MARK'S PRESENCE,EVER BOUND
And as for me
so plainly seen
MARK lives thru Rachael's, William's
Dreams
Please SHARE TODAY
the JOY not pain
MARK'S LIFE WELL LOVED-ETERNAL FLAME
your loving Mother-In-Law, June
Anne Leeds
September 11, 2013
Thinking of you and all the wonderful times our families spent together!
Josh Lindy
September 11, 2013
Mark: You were the greatest mentor a summer associate could have ever had. I learned more from you than you will ever know. RIP my friend.
E Shack
September 11, 2013
After high school, our lives went separate ways but I remember you on this day, Mark, and every 9/11. Best to your family.
Epifanio Capote
September 11, 2013
Remembering Mark A. Brisman. Prayers for peace and blessings to his family.
September 11, 2013
Thru You They Are/They Have
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Rachael visiting William at Camp 2013
September 10, 2013
Thru You They Are/They Have
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William-Brightness-Leadership-Logic-Love of Sports-Your Likeness-Eternal Life-Eternal Flame-Burns Forever Thru Your Childrens' Names-Your Mother-In-Law, June
Jeff
July 27, 2013
I was at the 9/11 Memorial today for the first time. I was looking at the brochure the gave and saw Mark's name in one of the photos. Mark was a fraternity brother of mine at Albany and seeing this brought back fond memories of time spent with Mark.
Barbara Boam
July 1, 2013
I walked a mile for you (mile #255) on 5/22/13 as a dedication to your life.
September 12, 2012
Uncle Mark I love you and miss u so much.
I wish u got to hear what i and ur children have accomplished. I love and miss you dearly
Shirell Gross
September 11, 2012
Thinking of you today as my son asked me what was I doing on 9/11. Cherished the times at the DA's office and joking about you being an appeals lawyer
September 11, 2012
Rachael 15yrs Old
September 11, 2012
Here's Rachael now-Continue to shine your glorious light through them & they will continue to be your shining stars! Lv, June
September 11, 2012
September 11, 2012
I thought of you during William's Bar Mitzvah this past Saturday. You would have been so proud of both William's and Rachel's accomplishments. You have such a wonderful family; Juliette is a great mom.
Flora Hochenberg
Luann Zipp
September 11, 2012
I pulled your name from a bucket in 2002; and I vowed to do something in your honor. In your honor I donate my blood, to save another life as I wish we could have saved yours.
meredith jaffess
September 11, 2012
your light beams through your children! i rememeber visitng your house in armonk, and you sitting on the floor just playing with them. xo, meredith
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Mark-
I think of you and Juliet often and of your kids who I have not met. I just read through the guest book postings and you are raising beautiful amazing children...from afar but you are raising them...since your spirit and good heart shows through them...ellen josephson
Claudia Siebenhuener
September 11, 2012
Remembering a co-worker, friend and fellow NY Rangers fan. RIP Mark
September 10, 2012
Dear Mark,
May God continue to bless you and your family. You have a beautiful family who loved you dearly. You would have been so proud of them. Continue to watch over them from heaven.
Jack, Judy and Jenna Rivera
William & Juliette
September 10, 2012
September 10, 2012
September 10, 2012
We felt your presence at William's Bar Mitzvah, Mark-William did you & all of us proud-you have a great kid there & we see many of your wonderful traits in him-Love Forever-June & Marty
September 10, 2012
We know you were there, and we are also very proud of William at his Bar Mitzvah-Always, June & Marty
September 10, 2012
September 5, 2012
Dear Mark,
Your son William will be celebrating his Bar Mitzvah on September 8, 2012 on Shabbat Ki Tavo. He is well prepared for his big day. He wears your Tallit and Teffilin during his reading of Torah and leading the entire service. God blessings to all who lovingly remember Mark. May they find comfort in the wonderful son who learned to embrace the noble Jewish tradition of learning, praying and loving-kindness.
Will
May 31, 2012
the rangers got nocked out in the eastern conference championship to the devils :( love you so much
March 6, 2012
To The Family,
It's been 10 and 1/2 years but the pain and hurt of 9/11 will always be here. I did not know Mr. Brisman but I still would like to offer my deepest sympathy to you in the loss of your loved one.
Sincerely,
Mr. Terry of NC
Will
February 6, 2012
Super bowl XLVI champions! Sorry I waited so long before posting, but I forgot the name of the sight. Love you
Will
September 13, 2011
Dear dad, giants lost to the skins by 14. Pretty disappointing. Your name was in a snapshot of the memorial in the NY times. Your name was also very clear
andrena ingram
September 11, 2011
I didn't know you personally, but the events that day connected us. Praying for peace for the family and for humanity. *A native New Yorker*
Lee Miller
September 11, 2011
Mark was my fraternity brother and was a model for being a gentleman and a scholar. He was gracious, funny, and had a large spirit. He was well respected and followed. I give God thanks for the honor of knowing him. Prayers for peace and blessings to his family.
September 11, 2011
Dear Mark,
We have met you a few times and enjoyed the times we have spent with you and your wonderful family. your absence has made this world a little bit dimmer. We will not forget you. Rest in peace. Jack and Judy Rivera
September 11, 2011
Although I didn't know you, I know your family and have heard a lot about you. You are thought about every day and will never be forgotten. Rest in peace.
September 11, 2011
Dear Mark: You are in our thoughts every day-Marty & I have been the "silent" caretakers over William & Rachael-Juliette has been amazing! I know you are very proud of them. They are everything you had hoped they would be! When the time is right, we are the keepers of your time here in pictures & videos-We will be only to happy to show your children what a wonderful husband & father you are. Love, June & Marty
William Brisman
September 10, 2011
Hi dad, I just found out about this website. I miss u so much. Hopefully the giants can bring back a win against the redskins tommorow and bring some joy to me and u on such a horrible day. Love you.
Amy Rogan
September 9, 2011
I met Mark our first week at SUNY Albany, and we had a class together. Although we didn't maintain our friendship after freshman year, he always had a special place in my heart as one of the first people I befriended in college. After reading these other entries, I learned just a little bit more about the man he became. My condolences to his wife and children. Mark-I will never forget.
Claudia Siebenhuener
September 8, 2011
I worked with Mark at Lester Schwab Katz & Dwyer. We talked about the New York Rangers all the time. He was a warm, funny, kind person. I plan on visiting the 9/11 memorial waterfall this year and placing a rose from my garden next to his name if I can.
Jennie Kaplan-Fahn
September 7, 2011
Thinking about the whole Brisman family and wishing you peace and comfort. We will never forget Mark.
A Iskols
December 24, 2010
Hi Uncle Mark, I just wanted to tell you that I am on a swim team!I know you were watching me but at my last meet I won the 100 yard freestyle event, I came in second place for the 50 yard butterfly event and I won the Medly relay for my team! By the way for the holiday break my family is at Grandma and Grandpas' house in florida. It is so cold down here!!-Alex
Susanna Maj
October 21, 2010
Dear Mr. Mark,
I did not know you but i know your daughter Rachael very well. She is my best friend and she has told me alot about you. May peace be with you.
Doug Abraham
May 9, 2009
Happy Birthday!!!
Charlie Musier
October 20, 2008
Peace be with you, and your family.
Doug Abraham
May 9, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
Doug Abraham
May 9, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
Lisa Axelrod Jaffee
January 16, 2007
Mark was not just my mentor when I was a young Associate at Lester, Schwab, Katz & Dwyer and Harris Beach. He was also a good and loyal friend. He looked out for me and guided me through the many challenges of the practice. I learned a great deal from him, not just about the practice of law, but also about what it means to be a mensch. Mark loved his family more than anything. I know that I was incredibly lucky to have him as a mentor and friend for 2 1/2 years.
Kristine
October 25, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
August 29, 2006
In remembrance....
Colleen Gallagher
August 27, 2004
I was intoduced to Mark and Juliette and when they were looking for a home. Mark especially wanted to be in a neighborhood full of kids. It is no surprise they chose a house next to a school. Well spoken, soft spoken and always a gentleman. Absolutely loved his wife and adored his kids.
Colleen
Sue Klinger
September 12, 2002
I don't ever remember meeting Mark, but his cousin Wendy was and is my best friend from when we were 13 years old. She says I did meet him a long time ago when he was a kid. She says he was a terrific human being and the depth of her anquish was so palpable it became mine for this young man I didn't remember meeting as a child. I only hope his death and that of the other 2800 people will not be in vain. We Jews say "never forget" to remember the Shoah; this too is a Shoah we will never forget.
Robert Ashton
September 11, 2002
Mark was a 1989 graduate of the University at Albany. Today, the first anniversary of his loss, his alma mater planted two trees in memory of him, the other seventeen alumni lost with him, and the thousands of other voices silenced so brutally and suddenly. We share in the grief of the families and renew our commitment to the value of each human life.
Tony & Angie Clement
August 25, 2002
May God bless the family and friends that you left behind on September 11, 2001. We did not know you but will never forget you. May you rest in peace.....
David Flum
August 11, 2002
Mark and I were best friends throughout elementary school and junior high school. He was a loyal friend with a solid character and was unflappable during the minor dramas that make us all grow up.
He and I lost touch later in life but when we met again at a friend's wedding I was reminded of what I knew about him as a child. Mark was the kind of person you wanted to be near when the chips were down and you needed a buddy. That solid character appears to have carried him well through life. It is tragic beyond words that his children will not have him by their side in the years to come. I am know they carry a bit of his character within them and, like us all, are better people for having had him in their lives.
My deepest condolences to his family.
Lynn Boss
July 20, 2002
I have stitched a quilt square for the Memorial FLag Project, with Mark's name. While stitching it, I wondered what kind of person he was. Now that Ive read his biography, I feel doubly sad he is gone from this earth. It has been my honor to memorialize him in this small way.
Lynn
July 20, 2002
Carl Schaerf
May 30, 2002
Today is May 30, 2002. The ceremony closing the recovery effort just ended.
Mark and I worked together for almost four years at Lester Schwab Katz & Dwyer. We were not merely colleagues, but also friends. I was at his apartment the weekend Rachael came home from the hospital. We took our kids apple picking together at Dr. Davies farm in Rockland (Juliette, I have pictures and video if you want them).
Our office windows face directly on ground zero. Initially, we all looked out regularly hoping that somehow Mark would be found alive and well. After Mark's memorial, we just hoped that he would be found at all.
Now, more than eight months later, I cannot shake the sense of loss. Mark was a great guy. Not just a great lawyer, son, husband or father, but a great guy. Ethics, morality, honor, he lived by all of these ideals. First and foremost, however, all he wanted in life was to provide for his family as best he could. He worked tirelessly towards that end.
He left our firm in mid-2000. Our friendship was compromised by his departure, and, for complicated reasons, I took his leaving as a personal affront. He tried to keep the lines of communications open, and even went to the trouble of lining up a professional speaking opportunity for me. I remained angry with him notwithstanding his efforts, and did not reciprocate. In hindsight, I wish that I had viewed his leaving differently, and kept our relationship close.
Mark was one of the good guys, he didn't deserve to die so young, with so much ahead of him.
The recovery effort has closed, but Mark will not be forgotten.
Alan Sclar
April 20, 2002
An individual's legacy is not necessarily measured by the number of years spent on this earth, but rather, the positive influence on others' lives.
It was an honor to have first met Mark while we were young attorneys at Lester Schwab Katz & Dwyer. We bacame friends there and socialized occasionaly with our families. As we moved on to other law firms, we maintained contact with each other throughout the years, sharing family current events.
My sadness of his passing is tempered with the reality that Mark's legacy is a profoundly positive one. Mark's honesty, integrity, sense of fairness, and congeniality touched the lives of those who knew him. The way Mark lived his life is a road map for the family man.
Mark's legacy lives on in Juliet, his children, and all those whose lives were touched by him.
Mark, in heaven, you now have the best Ranger seats in the house.
Marie Mormino
March 11, 2002
I worked with Mark at Harris Beach LLP. While I did not regularly converse with him, each day began for me by hearing him recap a funny story from the night before about his beloved family to a friend who sat near me. His family was his life, and my heart broke for them on 9/11. My prayers are with you always.
R.
March 11, 2002
I have heard of your kindness. I have heard of your warm and caring heart. Your cousin has spoken of you with such reverence. I know it would have been an honor to have met you.
May our prayers be with you, always.
Ken Ross
March 8, 2002
I remember Mark as a warm colleague at the Bronx District Attorney's office where we both served right after law school. He was well-respected as a top-notch appellate lawyer but I recall more his ardent support of the New York Rangers and his contented smile whenever he spoke of his beloved wife and cherished children. To his family, please be comforted by the knowledge that this terrific person will not ever be forgotten by anyone who had the good fortune to cross his path. You are in our thoughts and prayers always.
Ellen Josephson
February 17, 2002
I met Mark (and his wife Juliet) back in 1988 while I was at Hofstra University. We had some great times all hanging out together...You even set me up on that blind date back in the day....I feel very fortunate to have met your acquaintance. Mark I just read all the wonderful things that others had to say about you. How true... You also made an impression on me, as a "do gooder"...and a caring special person...May god watch over Juliet and your two children...
jeff Melnick
January 30, 2002
I went to high school with Mark. However, we were not good friends. My thoughts are with your family. I learned of this through a Camp Wah-Nee friend.
ben waldman
January 22, 2002
I knew Mark Years ago while he was in law school and afterward while he worked at BarBri.I remember him being a really good guy. I knew then (~1993) he would be a great lawyer. I'm so sad he's gone.
Adrienne Croker
January 16, 2002
I met Mark when I was still a law student and summered with Lester Schwab, it was only a short period of time and yet just long enough for him to leave an impression on me. Juliet, I pray that it will comfort you to know that at least one person who only knew Mark for a season will forever appreciate the deposit he made in the bank of their life.
God Bless you and your children.
Michelle Cohen
January 15, 2002
I had the pleasure of working with Mark at Lester, Schwab, Katz & Dwyer. He was incredibly smart, funny, genuine, and always a family man before all else. Mark was adored by everyone. I consider myself fortunate to have known him and my thoughts and prayers are with his loved ones.
Deborah Kotz
January 15, 2002
Mark, I'll always remember you as the "baby magnet". At our cousin's bat mitzvah, you swooped my two-year-old and four-year-old up in your arms and carried them to the dance floor. They danced and chased you around with big smiles on their faces. They didn't really know their cousin Mark or how you were related, but you were the Pied Piper to them.
Your hearty laugh and huge hugs will always be remembered by all the children who knew you--especially your own.
Teresa Jahn
January 7, 2002
A kiddie airplane!! How funny. So Mark is still touching people's lives in a positive way. We are very sorry for your loss. May Mark's humor, his life and love live on in all who love him. Our hearts cry with you in your loss of Mark.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
December 10, 2001
MAY GOD BLESS MARK A BRISMAN AND MAY
HE REST IN PEACE.GOD BLESS HIS
FAMILY AND FRIENDS.GOD BLESS AMERICA
AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01
Daniel Kaufman
December 8, 2001
I had the fortunate opporunity to work with Mark this summer at Harris Beach. He was not officially my mentor, but he took on that role. He came into my office many afternoons, sat down in the chair next to my desk, and asked "how's it going?"
As I begin my career as an attorney, and throughout my years, I will remember what Mark has taught me abut being a great attorney and a great person. I am thankful that I had the opportunity to know such a great man.
My thoughts and prayers go out to the Brisman family.
sincerely,
Daniel Kaufman
Barbara Capalbo
December 1, 2001
I hope it helps to know that others are still thinking of and praying for you and your loved ones.
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