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Conrod K.H. Cottoy Sr.
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When Paula Hayes came to New York from Louisiana in the summer of 1975, she intended only to have a vacation. But she met Conrod Cottoy at the First Baptist Church in Brooklyn; on Valentine's Day 1976, they married.
"He had all the qualities I was looking for," she said. "He believed in God and education, and he respected his mother. I never met a man who respected his mother more than he did. I figured, if he respects his mother, he respects other women."
Mr. Cottoy, 50, an analyst at Carr Futures, was born in Trinidad; he had lived in the United States for more than 30 years and had settled in Brooklyn. He held degrees in accounting and history, and, like a sponge, he soaked up knowledge of the world's cultures and religions. He had traveled the Nile River and visited the Sphinx and the pyramids.
The couple's four sons knew that if they brought home low grades, TV would be banned. And they knew that their father would not sleep until they were all home and accounted for. His affinity for Africa was evident in the names he gave his younger sons: Kojo, which means "born on Monday," and Ngozi, which means "blessing."
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Joseph Sciddurlo
September 16, 2024
Conrad was such a hard working employee. I tried unsuccessfully to get him transferred to Citigroup´s Credit Department in 2000. Having an Accounting degree, he was overqualified to be a margin clerk, hence he got a job with Carr Futures. I was devastated to learn that Conrad perished in 9/11.
Umoja Yarofulani
September 10, 2024
Uncle kofi you are missed and will forever be remembered. Uncle kofi picked us up on weekends, took us fishing, football practice and educated us on our history as African men.. we love you uncle kofi and I know that Ngozi and Obhanjoko are with you safe and loved..
Wife
January 23, 2024
You are still missed There's such a struggle with us all with trying to understand and deal with. There's no answer, no real relief, only excruciating pain and sorrow. There's no one to replace you. There's no point trying to look because they just don't add it to your standards nor quality of life. Now we have only 2 sons here missing you, still loving you and missing out on the joy of having their father to call and have a meaningful conversation with. Time truly doesn't heal at all. What a fairytale. We love you infinitely. . God please continue to rest your soul, alone with your 4th born son, now your first born son. Tears never cease to stop flowing. Lord have mercy. Amen.
Isabelle
October 21, 2023
This is his granddaughter Isabelle I am so glad I found this to share with my dad kojo my uncle and grandmother sadly Ngozi passed 8 years ago and the oldest passed away 1 year ago thank you God I found this
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Jillian Waterman
September 11, 2023
To the Cottoy family,
Thinking of you on this day .
Joe Marabello
September 11, 2023
We worked for years at Balfour Maclaine, a commodity futures trading company. He was a good man and co-worker who always pushed education.
J.N. Waterman
September 11, 2021
To the Cottoy family,
Praying and remembering you and Conrod on the 20th Anniversary. May God continue to bless and comfort you. Conrod will never be forgotten.
Del Newberry
September 10, 2021
When we see how this nation and world are today, 20 years after Conrod left us, we need to focus on being more like him, turn to God and become better world citizens for our family, our nation and our world. Prayers for his family today. Much love from Texas,
Cindy Roe
September 5, 2021
Remembering Conrod on the 20th anniversary of 9/11...
J.N. Waterman
September 11, 2019
Dear Cottoy family,
May God continue to bless and comfort you on this day and always.
September 11, 2019
WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH. WE NEVER STOP THINKING OF YOU.❤
Br Tony
May 5, 2019
I remembered Pastor Conrod Cottoy Sr as a very humble servant of God. I was a deacon under his ministry at Hope Evangelical Assembly on 873 Wycliffe in Ridgewood Queens Ny. He was a great family man and a superb leader.
Stay strong Paula
Kindred Family
November 23, 2018
We send our sincere condolences for your loss to your family. Conrod touched the lives of others and will always be missed.
March 20, 2013
I worked with Conrod at EF Hutton and at Balfour. He taught me the commodities business. He was a great father and husband. I was very sad to hear of his passing. He is missed by many.
Robert Rossi
Paula Cottoy
September 22, 2011
I thank each of you with all my heart for writing loving and kind thoughts regarding my husband. our four sons are still missing their dad, as well as myself. We can never forget and we will forever long for his touch, hugs, kiss and his voice. God Bless you all so much!! Thank you all so much!!
Ann Curtis
September 11, 2011
Today, September 11,20ll, my church St. Mark Catholic in Wilmington, NC, asked parishoners to take a name from a basket and pray for that person and his family on this the saddest day of the year. I chose your loved one, Conrod K. Cottoy and though I know nothing about him, I know he gave his life for our country in this terrible tragedy. I will be praying for you to find peace and happiness. I know you must miss him everyday. Know that people around the world remember. Sincerely, Ann Curtis Wilmington, NC
July 8, 2011
I'LL ALWAYS LOVE YOU MY DEAR. NO ONE CAN EVER REPLACE YOU. YOUR FOUR SONS MISS AND LOVE YOU SO MUCH. YOU HAVE ONLY TWO GRANDSONS AND THEY HAVE THE COTTOY LOOK, LOL....I LOVE YOU AND I TALK TO YOU MOST DAYS AND NIGHTS. GOD BLESS YOUR SOUL.
Malika Iman
May 30, 2011
Heavenly blessings, Brother Kofi! May your soul be at peace. I always remember the warm and kind friendship you and your dear wife, Paula were to my family and I. My deepest sympathy to Paula and sons. Strength & healing blessings beautiful Sisterfriend.
Doug Abraham
March 9, 2009
Celebrating a life well lived. We will cherish the memories forever.
Kristine
October 23, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
September 15, 2006
In memory....
Daphney Roberts
September 11, 2003
I worked with Conrod at Salomon Smith Barney. He was a very quiet, and kind man. To the Cottoy family, may your fond memories of Conrod comfort you.
Ronald Cohen
September 29, 2002
I knew Conrod back when we began at E. F. Hutton in 1980. We were supposed to share a hotel room in East Brunswick during the NYC Transit strike, but he made other plans at the last minute. I even gave him an assist in getting his job at Smith Barney. He was a great guy to be around, personably. He was conscientious about his work. Most of all, he cared deeply about his children. He would speak of them constantly with me, telling me his attitudes and beliefs about their education and welfare. We should have many more of his caliber. Conrod will be greatly missed.
Rick Borman
September 12, 2002
As a former colleague of Conrad's at Smith Barney I found him a very pleasant man. He always had a kind word. Conrad was talented and hard working and often spoke very proudly of his family. I am lucky to have known him. My thoughts and prayers are with you, his family. God bless you all and rest assured that although he is greatly missed he is watching from better place.
Sincerest Sympathy,
conrado reviriego ruano
September 11, 2002
hello my name is Conrado (Conrad) I from Madrid, Spain. cheer up! for the family of Conrad K.H. Cottoy, one embrace, of your spanish friend... Sincerelly, Conrado...(Madrid, 11, September 2002)
Veronica Russell
September 11, 2002
Hi worked with Conrad @ Balfour Maclaine and also @ Daiwa Securities.
My prayers are with you always.
Regards Ronnie
Angie Campbell
April 23, 2002
May God Bless you and keep you always. Rest in peace.
Joseph Sciddurlo
April 1, 2002
I remember Conrad as being a good, decent, hard working man.
May God bless you and enjoy your company with the angels.
Teresa Jahn
January 5, 2002
We are deeply sorry for your loss of Conrod. Our hearts cry with you. May warm memories of times shared with Conrod lighten the sorrow in your hearts.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Anonymous
January 1, 2002
MAY THE LORD BLESS YOU CONROD K.H.COTTOY SR...AND MAY YOU REST IN
PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD
BLESS YOUR FAMILY..WIFE AND CHILDREN
GOD BLESS AMERICA AND MAY WE NEVER
FORGET 9/11/01
Ada Torres
December 27, 2001
My condolences to the Cottoy family. I remembered him during my days at Salomon Smith Barney. The last time I saw him was in August of 1999 when I said farewell to my former co-workers. He was a wonderful man of utmost respect and he will be sorely missed. God bless you all!
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