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Howard "Barry" Kirschbaum
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Howard Kirschbaum Obituary
Often when Barry Kirschbaum was alone on his back deck in Oakwood, in Staten Island, jazz would be playing, a glass of brandy would be on the table and a cigar would be in his hand. But he could often be found there with friends. "He was in touch with friends he had from 50 years ago," said his wife, Rochelle. "He was the one who always kept the crowd together."
One of the ways that Mr. Kirschbaum, 53, kept people together was by dining out about once a week. "He knew every restaurant and what to order and who to go with," said his daughter, Lauren, 23.
Mr. Kirschbaum was the director of security for Marsh & McLennan. He was responsible, with the 20 guards who worked for him, for the security of the firm's seven floors in 1 World Trade Center. When he took the job in 1997, he had recently retired from the New York Police Department, where he spent 25 years and achieved the rank of detective. He was looking for a second career to help him put Lauren and his son, Matthew, now 24, through college.
When the Kirschbaums dropped Lauren off at college for the first time, Mr. Kirschbaum expressed regret that his daughter was leaving home. "I can't believe I have to leave my little girl," he told her. "I'm going to get an apartment right next to you."
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Arthur Dolan
October 20, 2022
Barry,
The day walked into yhe Manhattan South Narcotics Office as a new Detective supervisor I saw this kid with a big smile and although we only worked together for a short while you kept me smiling every day and made my job so much easier. Rest In Peace young man and keep them smiling in heaven.
Mark Bogdanos
September 12, 2021
Twenty years later and still I grieve your passing. God bless all those who love you. My memories of our time together all those years are indelible. You were a true big brother to me. I know how much you loved working with us in the restaurants and how much fun we had. Love you always.
Connnie Kirschbaum
September 11, 2021
We did not know Howard, but our name is Kirschbaum. We were from Pittsburgh, Pa. My husbands name is Paul Robert
Maybe we are related.
The Kindred Family
November 22, 2018
Sending our deep sympathy to your family for your loss. With each new day may God continue to give the needed comfort and help. Many still miss Barry.
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Lauren Kirschbaum
November 25, 2015
Missing you more now then ever
Josh Kirschbaum
November 21, 2015
I share the same last name as Barry. My family is from Massapequa, NY. I visited the 9/11 memorial yesterday and saw his picture and read his bio. I somehow felt connected to him. I know he looks down and watches his family and smiles.
Tony
September 11, 2015
Barry my dear firend and neighbor, many nights we'd sit on the steps have a couple of drinks and a few laughs. You always cheered me up when I was feeling down, also I miss Crazy, But lovable Eddie, I think about you both often, we'll be together again someday! Give Eddie a hug for me!
Miss You! Tony
September 10, 2014
Barry, Another year has passed since 9-11-01 Yet it seems like only yesterday when we sat on the steps at Cranford & had a few drinks together. I've got the bottle ready for when we're together again. Give Crazy Eddie & Nicky a Hug for me. Miss You! Your Friend, Tony
S J. Friscia III
April 16, 2014
In memory
With Honor & Respect.
September 11, 2013
Barry, Thinking of you today and always! The times we sat outside, had a couple of drinks and a few laughs talking about old times. RIP my friend! I'm having a drink for both of us, till we can have one together again. MISS U, Tony
J
September 11, 2011
Barry,
How can 10 years have passed. You are missed and I continue to light a candle on Tuesday every week. Last year Weezie passed away at her home, Vera is happy with a man in her life that makes her happy. Life continues you are missed as always you will never be forgotten God's speed my friend J
mark bogdanos
September 11, 2010
Dear Barry,
I am constantly reminded of your kindness and sense of humor. I love you and your beautiful family. They are in my thoughts often. Dear Rochelle I pray you and your children are well.
Paulette
March 2, 2010
I also just found out about your tragic loss. I am the Gamburg family member who is researching our ancestry. I have a great deal of information to share. I believe that my mother was a first cousin to Barry's grandmother.
Laura Solomon
March 2, 2010
Thank you for posting this guest book. I just found out that Barry was a (third)cousin of mine. What a monumental loss. If his kids would like to reach out, I am at [email protected]. My name is Laura Solomon and I come from the Gamburg family- like Barry.
Howard Kirschenbaum
September 17, 2009
To all who love Barry,
I was sitting in Northern Israel on vacation watching Foxnews and saw your name as one of the heroes of 9/11. I am now back home in Los Angeles and for the reasons you will see in my name, took the loss very hard. My condolences to all who think of you.
Howard Kirschenbaum,
J
August 14, 2009
Barry,
Every Tuesday I light a candle in your memory. You will never be forgotten. God Bless your family. J...
Len
September 11, 2008
Barry :
You were a beautiful and loving spirit who will always live in the hearts of everyone who was blessed to have known you
lauren kalish
September 3, 2007
Miss you daddy
P Tabbernor
November 25, 2006
In memory....
Kristine
November 7, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Bob Panarese
September 11, 2006
Rest In Peace My Friend.
lauren
September 10, 2006
Daddy i miss you and love you very much
Tony 113 Cranford
September 28, 2005
Barry, I miss sitting outside with you, talking and having a drink togther. you were more than a neighbor, you were a good friend! I miss you buddy
Ingrid Kirschbaum
January 30, 2004
Dear Kirschbaum Family:
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Although I did not know you or Barry, I share the same last name. I was born in Manhattan, NY at Beth Isreal Hospital in 1962. I grew up in CT. I saw Barry's name listed and it really made me want to write to you and to tell you that I share your pain as well as your last name. I know that my pain is nothing compared to yours, but seeing Barry's name listed made it all so much more real to me. I have a 4 year old daughter, and I shall always tell her all the truth that I know about "when the buildings fell down" and that many innocent people died, but hopefully they are in a better place. My prayers will always be with you and may God bless you all.
larry and sharon small
September 13, 2003
I will always be sorry that i didnt go to the reunion.
Love,
Sha
Renee Katzman
September 11, 2003
To Rochelle, Matthew, and Lauren
In memory of Barry. May the memories live on in your hearts forever.
Marian Drummond
September 11, 2003
Dear Rochelle, Matthew and Lauren,
My thoughts and payers are always with you.
Our lives will never be the same without Barry-especially for my brother Stu.
Love Marian & Eddie
Henry Zimring
September 11, 2003
Barry,
I can't find words to express what I want to say to your family. I know you'd find that hard to believe but it's true.
I'm going to remember that usher at the King's, the guy having pizza on Rutland Road and the smart ass cop pulling me over when he got the car with the light on top as a joke.
I know we'll see each other again and have one hell of a reunion.
BG
Louie the Lock
July 16, 2003
Barry ,waited for your call Monday & Tuesday as usual you must have got busy and forgot to call me . Thank you Coffee at 8:30 with you i'll never forget on 93 . Sorry to your family for their loss . enjoyed our conversations on security issues .Hope you and Tommy and Ralph are checking security up there . Another empty seat where a great man sat . will miss you Barry .
PA Locksmith
Lou the Lock
Lauren Kirschbaum
July 15, 2003
Dad,
You will always be our hero.We love and miss you more then you'll ever know. One day we will meet again until then I know that you are watching down on me mommy and Matthew. We want to make you pround of us.There is are not enough words to say how much we truly miss and love you.You will always be the best father in the world.
Jilllian Smith
November 4, 2002
Kirschbaum Family-
I am So Deeply Sorry for your losing in The WORLD TRADE CENTER....
I Howard Is Watching all over us..
Jillian Smith
September 15, 2002
I am in 11th grade in New York.. I Was Very Sad About 9-11.
I was Very Sad because on that day People Died.. In both of The W.T.C'S. Howard go Rest in Haven..to the
Kirschbaum Family: Sorry for your Lost.
Katie Wolfe
September 11, 2002
to the Kirshbaum Family...
hello,
my name is Katie and i'm a Sophmore in Highschool at St. Agnes, a catholic highschool in houston texas. As part of our remembering 9/11, at our prayer service we recieved orange wristbands with the name of a victim from the terrorist attacks. of all the people who died that day, my wrist band had Barry's name on it. We recieved this bracelet in order to have a more personal conneciton with the event and also to pray for the family of the person on our band. I wanted to let you know that i'm praying for ya'll and i wish you all the happyness in the world.
With Much love & God Bless
Marilyn Mahler(Horowitz)
September 11, 2002
Dear Rochelle, Matthew & Lauren,
Rochelle, I haven't seen you in many, many years. I know my kids always enjoyed spending holidays with you, Barry & the kids. My thoughts and deepest feelings are and have been with you in your time of sorrow. God Bless.....
Sincerely,
Marilyn
Jody Horowitz
September 11, 2002
Barry, what can I say. I will never forget you, your humor,our great times and what a great and best friend you were to my father. I have seen your family since, we all got together like we used to, To eat of course, your favorite thing . Something was missing in the air. It was you. You weren't there in person but you were in spirit. You were like an uncle to me and I will never forget you. Wherever you are ,I am sure you are making everyone crack up, like you always used to. My dad is still in your families life. I know he still speaks to Rochelle , visits and she visits there. So don't worry, the people who you were great friends to are still there for you. Well stay sweet, and funny.
Jody
Giacomo & Marianna Provenzano
September 11, 2002
Barry,
One year after
the warmth of your heart is still felt among us,
the sound of your voice still in our ears,
your words, always the right ones, still in our memory.
Giacomo & Marianna
Beth Verdieck (Robinson)
September 8, 2002
Barry, I know you are somewhere, practicing your Trivial Pursuit so that someday we will all meet again and get to have our re-match! We are all trying to remember the good times we had at the Seaview Pool, and at our yearly Thanksgiving dinners. Mom didn't want us to sign a public guest book, but I wanted to let you know we were here.
(P.S.I included a small photo of Lauren and I from my wedding back in June.)
Aila
August 29, 2002
I have never met Barry but our beloved Andrew always spoke of him to me. For over the years Barry use to let Andrew have a day off or leave early so he could attend or spend time with our daughter. The Kirschbaum Family are in my prayers. A year has gone by and the pain is still there.
Sylvia Benattar Levine
July 5, 2002
I am so sad to learn that you will be not be with us on the day that we will gather for our Winthrop High School Reunion and remember our wonderful time there. May you rest in peace.
Taylor
April 24, 2002
Dear Howard "Barry" Kirschbaum's family and friends,
Why did it have to happen? Howard didn't do anything, but the events of September eleventh took his life anyway, just like it took the lives of the other people who died that
terrible day. The amount of sorrow that I feel for you is greater than any sorrow that I have ever felt before.
My teacher got a phone call on September eleventh which upset her and right away I knew that something was wrong. She ran to the TV and turned on the news. All of the
children in my class sat in front of the TV crying as we watched the terrible events happen, until we thought it was over. But this tragic attack will always live in everyone's minds and hearts.
September eleventh was a terrible day. As a 10 year old I didn't really know what to think. I was very scared and confused. Since 8:46 that Tuesday morning I have prayed and felt so bad for the families that have lost loved ones.
The second my fourth grade class heard that there were Mercy
B.A.N.D.s with names of victims from September eleventh, we all wanted one.
Our class had been researching our two teacher's POW and MIA
bracelets from the Vietnam War. Those bracelets are similar
to the September eleventh bracelets and we found them very interesting.
My name is Taylor, I am 10 years old. My teacher's name is
Mrs. Ratzlaff. She was one of the five finalist for Nebraska's Teacher of the Year, so she had 1,000 dollars to spend for the classroom! We decided to use that money to
buy all 26 of us a Mercy B.A.N.D.
We received the bracelets about five weeks after ordering them and I have worn mine ever since, except when I go to gymnastics. I take showers, sleep and play with it on.
Engraved on my bracelet is: Howard "Barry" Kirschbaum WTC. I feel close to Howard because his name remains on my wrist and his family is in my thoughts and prayers everyday.
Howard Kirschbaum is now a part of my life. He and his family will always have a spot in my heart.
Praying for you,
Taylor
Lou Helstrom
April 7, 2002
Another empty seat where a great man sat,your humor and witt will be truly missed
February 12, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL MAN HOWARD (BARRY) KIRSCHBAUM AND MAY YOUR SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS.GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..MAY GOD GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
anita bluestein rappaport
January 31, 2002
I didnt know barry, but our sorrow is there. I graduated with him from winthrop and give my sympathy to his family.
Abe Mittleman
January 30, 2002
Barry,
I'm glad you were able to make it to our H.S. reunion. You will be missed but not forgotten.
Bernice Kurnow
January 23, 2002
I am so glad we got to say hello at our reunion last year. I know you are in a better place.
Jani anonymous
January 23, 2002
Barry,
Thank you for being part of my life. I share this message with all of his friends and family who have lost a wonderful friend and co-worker those from MARSH and those from NYPD, Brooklyn ,Rochelle,Matthew and Lauren who he loved so completly.
Listen closely to the winds and hear the gentle whisper of an angel's wings in flight.
Look far into the sky and see the shimmering stardust left behind.
Close your eyes, clear your thoughts and feel the love of your very own,very real, guardian angel.
You have touched so many of us with your friendship and love .
You are in a paradise we can only hope to understand.See you when I get there.Hugs and kisses J.
Arleen Plaut (Kortmansky)
January 22, 2002
I'm so glad I had the privilege of being your friend, and knowing you since our early childhood days. You will be missed.
Billy Tanzer
January 20, 2002
Barry,You were a beautiful,funny caring guy......a true friend.You're sorely missed by me I'm sure countless others.May you rest in peace
Teresa Jahn
December 26, 2001
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Artie Monahan
December 6, 2001
Barry, you always made me laugh. I pray you're in a better place. God bless you.
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