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Anthony Perez Obituary
When Mary Gola walked into the Westbury Mazda dealership eight years ago, she knew which salesman she wanted: Anthony Perez. Six feet tall with dark Latin looks, he was exceedingly handsome. The trouble was, he knew less about Mazdas than she did.
Mischievously, Ms. Gola peppered him with requests for features she knew did not exist. Mr. Perez (who was helping out a friend that week) assured her he could meet her demands.
Needless to say, he failed to sell her a car. He did persuade her to join him for coffee and — the following year — to marry him.
Mazdas, it turned out, were about the only gap in Mr. Perez's storehouse of practical knowledge. He could wire a house, solder a pipe, and paint and spackle like a pro. When it came to computers, he was a whiz. Each of his three children had a state-of-the-art model assembled from castoff hardware that Mr. Perez, 33, a computer specialist at Cantor Fitzgerald, brought to his home in Locust Valley, on Long Island, from the office on the 103rd floor of 1 World Trade Center.
"Sometimes I got jealous of the computers," said Mrs. Perez. "He loved fiddling with them."
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Lynna Honahan
September 11, 2024
I had worked with Anthony at the Optimum Online startup Dept. in the 360 Bldg. in Woodbury, we shared an evening shift on New Years Eve. I think of that as every year passes. Wonderful co-worker, very helpful. Miss your laughter and smile.
Michele Kutner
September 11, 2024
Thinking of the family of Anthony Perez...
Tim Kelley
September 11, 2024
I always remembered Anthony working with us at Cablevision, before he moved on to Canter Fitzgerald. He wil always be greatly missed.
Michele A. Kutner
September 11, 2021
Thinking and praying for the family of Anthony Perez ...God Bless you all..
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Maria Iacobellis
September 11, 2020
Thinking of Tony and his beautiful children-- my prayers and thoughts are with you May our Blessed Mother hold you in her heavenly arms ! Rest in Peace Much love Maria Iacobellis and Family! I saw your beautiful daughter Olivia-- you would be so proud! Xxxoo
Karen Saeli-Rubinstein
January 7, 2020
Anthony,
Why today are you demanding attention? You were in my dreams last night and as I sit recovering from major back surgery, I wonder if its your way of checking in on ME to see HOW I AM.. Well, buddy.. Im finally having more better days than bad ones. Finding strength when I want to give up. Maybe that is my lesson or message from you. Ill take it. I still miss you and always will. Keep finding me in my dreams. I miss your smile and wicked sense of humor. Love you Anthony.
The Lucas Family
January 1, 2020
We send our deepest thoughts of sympathy to your family. May God continue to give the strength needed to cope. Tony is still missed so much and is not forgotten.
Leslie Scott
September 12, 2019
Another year has passed, its been 18 years since the devastating attack.
Although, I never met you, I did ride with you 2011 for the 911 ride. I always think of you & your family.
R.I.P Anthony...
Maria Iacobellis
September 11, 2019
We all light a candle for Tony today--and pray for him and his loving family! Rest in eternal peace --Maria Iacobellis and Family!
Leslie Scott
September 12, 2018
My thoughts are heavy with the tragedy 17yrs ago, sympathy to this family.
Rochelle Bove
September 11, 2018
Anthony will be remembered by all of his coworkers at Cablevision/Optonline. Forever in our hearts. God Bless his family
Rochelle Bove
September 11, 2018
I worked with Anthony at Cablevision. He was a tech that we transferred calls to that we could only help to a certain point. The tech crew was a great place for him. Anthony never gave up on helping customers. I was promoted to Customer Servuce Supervisor and worked nights. Anthony was smart and kind and was always interested in talking to people to find out about them. He had a beautiful picture of his family on his desk. He was a shining light in our office. All his coworkers will never forget him. We were all blessed to cross each other's paths and he will always be part of our extended family, forever in our hearts and memories of the good old days.
Luigi
September 11, 2018
I still think of you and your family. I miss the laughs at work and the conversations..
S.J. Friscia III
June 4, 2017
In Memory with
Honor & Respect.
Michele Kutner
September 11, 2016
God Bless your family today & everyday ♡
Leslie Scott
September 11, 2016
Another year has passed since the horrific tragedy, although, I never knew Anthony, my thoughts are with the family & friends that loved him so dearly.
September 10, 2016
Tony, today and everyday, I remember you like it was yesterday. You were always happy, smiling and making us all laugh. You are in God's Kingdom now, and forever in my heart. R.I.P. Will never forget you. Love ya coz.
Kathy
September 9, 2016
In Remembrance
I went to see your name ~
Michele Kutner
September 9, 2016
Anthony, 15 years later I've moved to Georgia, where did the time go? Although I never met you I have been thinking of you for so many years now. Your wife was my Mother's Doctor/PA back in 2001 and she was so wonderful to my family when Mom was in Hospice.. I will never forget Your Dear wife Mary, your beautiful Children or you on that fateful day in 2001. I Will be thinking of you all tomorrow and will be listening for your name as I have for 15 years now ~ Oh and Anthony Mary has done a wonderful job of raising your beautiful children oh and Anthony I just realized we share the same Birthday..God Bless Your Whole Family ~
Kim Morrell
February 20, 2016
Sweet Tony .... I just found out what happened. There are no words for my feelings. Your old friends just shared a group photo from grade school. So cute. Always smiling. That's how I remember you ... Smiling :-) XOXO......
Michele Kutner
September 10, 2015
Anthony , Another year well I still see your wife and beautiful children around town they are so grown up now ...your son looks just like you handsome as ever!! Saw Mary and your beautiful daughter at dinner awhile back they look like they were enjoying each other ..I just can't imagine the pain that your family feels I can only pray for them that they know you are with them everyday and tomorrow I will be listening for your name like I have for the last 14 years...God Bless you Anthony ♡ and God Bless your dear family..
Scott Perez jr
August 6, 2015
i never knew him he is my uncle i wish i could of met him but i was born in 2005 so i never met him rest in peace uncle tony
Antonio Perez
November 19, 2014
Rest in peace, dear Anthony Perez
Monsy del Pilar
September 12, 2014
Didn't even turn on computer yesterday.
Thoughts & Prayers for you and the Family
Titi
Leslie Scott
September 11, 2014
Prayers & thoughts for the family today!
Monsy del Pilar
September 11, 2013
Thoughts & prayers to you and your
family
Titi Monsy
Michele Kutner
September 10, 2013
Anthony,
I will be thinking of you and your family tomorrow...Rest in Gods Hands Anthony...
David Broadnax
May 4, 2013
I really never wanted to go to the memorial site, but my Professor had a field trip to the site. It was only one thing I wanted to do was to so my respect to my friend. Tony worked at IMB and Cablevision and helped me when I was becoming a Tech. I would call him for every and anything and he never turn me way. Thanks. Last time I saw Tony was at the Computer show in the city....He was a good friend. He is missed!
Michelle Hoffmann
September 9, 2012
Almost 11 years has passed and not a day goes by that I do not pray for you and your family. I wear a merecy band bearing your name and I promise to never take it off. You will never be forgotten. May God hold you safe in his arms.
Don
September 27, 2011
I didn't know Anthony personally, but worked with him via phone many times while he was at TSG. I remember when he left us, it left a tremendous void with his colleagues.
He left us for his dream job at Cantor Fitz. I watched the 10th Anniversary memorial for several hours, on the verge of tears again and again especially when children came to the podium talking about parents they could barely remember. As a tribute to Anthony, I listened to every single name until I heard his. Rest in Peace Anthony, you are never forgotten.
Kim
September 16, 2011
There is a beautiful email going around about a tear drop memorial given to us from Russia. It is in NJ directly across from Lady Liberty. The interesting part of this e-mail is the side of the wall that they show listing all of the names of the lives lost on that dredful day lists your name. It is beautiful..Always in our thoughts and prayers..
gladys lebron
September 15, 2011
Such a great loss at such a young age, he will forever be missed
Monsy del Pilar
September 13, 2011
Went to WTC yesterday,placed four Roses and took stencil.
Peace, Love and Always in my Prayers
Titi Monsy
Kim (Marcus) Marturano
September 11, 2011
I was so shocked to hear that you Anthony were one of the people to have been taken from this world.I remember when I was you and your brothers baby sitter, and my dad lived downstairs from you on Parma road. Your mom Maria and your dad Tony were so good to us, I see you had a wife and beautiful family I am so sorry you won't be here to see them grow, and I know how they feel about no longer having you here as I lost my only brother John in 1991 and just celebrated his 20 yr anniversary. I wish your family health and happiness as they go on with their lives without you here physically but, in their hearts forever as I will remember you always too. Say hi to John for me . <3
Alex Bonos
September 11, 2011
Miss you buddy...
Look in on us from time to time.
September 11, 2011
10 years and I still think of you every day. You know, you have been a rock to me throughout those years, just like you were that summer. I still miss you. I know I always will, but I know I will always have my Angel guiding me! Thank you so much, you Beautiful Soul, for EVERYTHING!!! LOVE YOU!!!!! <3
September 11, 2011
We only met a couple of times, but we had so many mutual friend. God bless you bro.
Michele Kutner
September 11, 2011
Thinking of you and your family today ..I will listen for your name like I have every year..Rest In Peace Anthony ~ God Bless your family
Marianne Chew
September 9, 2011
I just placed a flag in a memorial garden for the victims of 9/11 in Bridgeton, NJ. Anthony Perez was the hero's name I was given. I was honored to place a flag in his memory.
Monsy del Pilar
September 9, 2011
My thoughts are with you today Tony Jr.
May God Bless and watch over your wife and children today and always. And always in my prayers.
Titi Monsy
Jeffrey Witkoff
September 4, 2011
RIP Anthony. 10 years later.
leslie scott
August 26, 2011
i rode my motorcycle from kentucky to join the 911 ride this year. before the ride
began each rider received a
card with
a victims name, address, employer & location when the attacks took place. i received anthony, the true sorry i felt in the beginning was overcome with honor! it was an honor to carry his card on the windshield of my bike. my deepest sympathy goes out to his family & friends.
Tony Cardona
August 19, 2011
it's incredible how time flies. I rememder Anthony when his parents would take trips to Puerto Rico to visit his grandparents which are my relatives, they would go to the beach with his brothers and parents. Always remembered in our hearts. God Bless him always.
Mia
August 3, 2011
I can't believe it's going on ten years? You are missed..
You had a beautiful way of making everyone around you feel special. It's been many years since we worked together (cablevision), but every year when they honor those who perished that day, I listen for your name and say a prayer. May God bless your Wife and children and keep them safe.
Arnold Gallardo
September 11, 2010
My thoughts are with you and your family today, Tony. Won't forget the day you 'floored' the Chevy Nova over the Robert Moses Causeway and the fan belts were smoking through the air-con vents while music was blasting :) Ahh college days LOL You had a great run :)
Alan Navarro
September 11, 2010
I didn't get to know you as well as the rest of TSG did, but the few times we hung out you seemed like the fun person everybody always said you were...Rest In Peace.
Karen Saeli-Rubinstein
September 11, 2010
Anthony-
Another year you are not here to make me laugh, give me guidance and share your insighet and knowledge. Miss your friendship. Let today be a day of love,peace and remembrance.
September 10, 2010
Thinking of you today...I still miss you. I miss our coffee breaks. I miss how you could always cheer me up! You could cheer ANYONE up! You were a soul that was taken away WAY too soon - WAY before your time! It's not fair. I'll never forget you. Never. Much love to you and I'm praying your wife and kids are doing well and that they are HAPPY! Miss you, my Friend! Miss you SO much!
Michele Kutner
September 9, 2010
Although I didn't know you,I would see you around town with your beautiful wife and children. Well it's another year and I'll be listening for your name tomorrow as I have since the day you died...God Bless you Anthony and God Bless your family ~
Kim
September 11, 2009
Thinking of you today..I still can't believe it has been 8 years. I guess it is never going to get easier like everyone says it does..We all can still feel the pain as if it happend today..I am certain you are in a better place..Rest in Peace...
Anthony being the life of the party!
September 11, 2009
Michele Kutner
September 10, 2009
Anthony I'm thinking of you today..Your Kids are so beautiful!! I can't believe it's been 8 years already..Bless your heart ~~~
September 11, 2008
Here we are 7 years later. You had such a vibrant personality. You always made me laugh. I remember the good times, I remember the not so good times. I hope you are at peace. I miss you. Keep watch over your family and protect them. I'll see you again someday.
Karen Saeli
September 11, 2008
Another year has gone by. Another year without hearing his laughter and comical antics.. It has not gotten any easier for me to not miss my friend. I sincerly hope his children are flourishing. Something good HAS to come out of this.
Michele Kutner
September 10, 2008
God Bless you Anthony. I'll be listening for your name tomorrow like I have every year since you've been gone. Your children are beautiful and your wife is a great Mother.
"Rest in God Hands"
J M
May 6, 2008
I can just here it :
"God, The thing here is this *Smacking the back of one hand into the palm of the other*..."
I can still here that like it was yesterday. So many years seem so thin with time. I was waiting to be deployed in the USAF when this happened and was stationed at Fort Hamilton to assist in "medical assistance to aide workers". But what many don't know is that in some way... I guess I was hoping that the next person that we found alive would have been you... Somehow clenching a coffee or whatever not spilling a drink. The things a saw down there... They will live with me forever in my day dreams and nightmares. I don't think anyone really knows the horrors that were down there unless you were there and participated in the aftermath duties. I wish that I could give a part of me to bring you back. I am sure that our friendship would have went on for a long, long time.
I guess I don't tell many people this story because I am scared.. and scarred. And it troubles me to see people around me not taking full advantage of the time they have here. Worrying too much, Caring too little. Not realizing the dreams of children and teaching them what they need to know to achieve their dreams.
Sorry Ant, I just needed to vent and here deemed as good of place as any. If they have an OC3 up there, I am sure you read this every now and again. So this message is for you... Oh! And BTW, if they have good 0-Day access up there, send me an IM! :)
Miss ya,
J M
Karen Saeli-Rubinstein
September 13, 2007
6 years?? How can it be.. Anthony is still remembered, talked about, war stories are shared and laughs are had by all. He touched the lives of so many people in Cablevision that knew him.. and loved him. He was one of my best friends and I dont go a day without thinking of him.. Things happen in which I think its him "demanding attention".. Happily I give it and take a moment to tell my friend how I still love and miss him every single day.. Still hurts, brings tears to my eyes that his life was stolen from him..I dont think that will ever go away. He is another angel in heaven making God crazy!!
Kim
September 12, 2007
I went to school with Tony from the 6th grade on..I think of him often and pray for his family. He was always one you could count on for a laugh. God Rest your Soul TONY...
September 11, 2007
It's been 6 years. I think of you everyday. I remember all of the laughs that we had together. I miss you. God Bless your family.
Nancy melendez
September 9, 2007
Today a memorial to those from 911, who lived in Long Island was revealed at Eisenhower park.
As usual your mother Maria, was there to honor you. As a mother she can never forget you. And even if it is in remembrances she needs to be a part of all that still connects her to you. You were so loved.
Michele Kutner
September 7, 2007
Dear Anthony,
I never knew you, but I just wanted to tell you what a beautiful family you have. Your wife Mary was so nice to us when my Mom was in Glen Cove Hospital. She took very good care of my Mom while she was in Hospice. Mary is a wonderful lady and your children are so precious.
I'll never forget the day you passed away. My heart was broken for you and your family on that awful day back in September of 2001.
May You be resting in Gods hand forever...Everytime I see your family.. I'll think of you Anthony
Sincerely
Michele A. Kutner
J.
August 3, 2007
Although I knew you only 6 months, you were one of the best friends I ever had. I think of you every day. I love you, Anthony. I always will.
P Tabbernor
January 30, 2007
In memory....
Kristine
November 29, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Bernard Goehle
September 11, 2006
I never knew you but your I know your daughter and she has turned into one amazing young women that you would be very proud of.
Joe Anderson
September 11, 2006
Hey Anthony. I never met you but I heard a lot about you from my co workers at Cablevision. When I first saw your picture I never forgot your face. I went to the city soon after and I found your Memorial photo right near the Mcdonalds in Penn station. Each time I went to the city there after I always took a minute to visit that. I was disappointed when it was removed but I still feel the need to go over there each time I visit the city.
God Bless u and those close to you. 'You are an Angel in the Land of Sunshine'
Karen Saeli
September 11, 2006
Today is 5 years. I still miss Anthony as I did the very moment he lost his life. He was an amazing person and cared very deeply for his friends. He made people laugh and loved his family. I hope his children are growing up and thriving. I cant imagine what their life is like without their Dad. I hope they understand how much he was loved and missed.
September 9, 2005
In a couple of days it will be 4 years. 4 years and the memories do not fade. 4 years and I still sit here wishing I had a chance to say things that were left unsaid. Anthony was a piece of work, a funny guy, and had an impact on the lives of many people. Sometimes you just wish you had the chance to say a goodbye to a friend, a final "I love you", or just a "Thank you for showing me so much". I hope that your wife and children are kept safe and that you watch over them. You are still missed.
lisa madden
August 31, 2005
anthony was our neighbor.we only got to know him for a short time because we moved in recently before he died.but what i do remember was that he was a wonderful husband and father. always with his family taking bike rides or just playing.
the weekend before 9/11 my kids were playing with his. anthony was battaling grubs on his front lawn determined to win and have a beautiful lawn.his neighbor came home and talked to him for a minute and before the neighbor went in the house he said to anthony."your a good neighbor" that sticks in my mind always. because he was.mary, im sorry for your loss. and i remember your pain.its been a few years now since that awful day and your children have adjusted.his spirit is in them. he will always be with you thru them.he will live on thru them..
December 31, 2004
I remember Y2K when we all had to work because the computers might take over the world or something ridiculous like that. Anthony kept us laughing all night long. He was a warm caring man and loved by so many people. There is not a day that goes by that he is not thought of. Anthony loved his family and was a great friend to many. May God bless and protect his wife and children. We miss and love you Anthony.
Jose Perez
September 11, 2004
Brother in Christ,
we are both perez so somewhere down the line we were brothers if not by blood then by the love of GOD, may you rest in peace and I knwo you sit next to the Father and creator. You will not be forgotten.
Jeannie Russell
September 11, 2003
You may be gone my friend, but you are certainly not forgotten. I have your picture on my desk and still say hello to you each day. I miss your laughter, your insanity, your charm, your essence. I still haven't updated that resume we discussed the week before the towers fell.... each time I think of doing it I think of you...and sadly smile.... You are loved and missed by many
Nancy Der
September 11, 2003
I went to a memorial prayer service today at my church and was handed a picture of Anthony Perez. I had never met him, but just spent some time on this website reading about what a wonderful person he was. It is an honor to learn about someone who meant so much to so many. He seemed like my type of person: a good friend, intelligent, funny, good at what he did, and, most importantly, a devoted family man. It certainly was no accident that I received his name and photo out of all the people tragically lost. I will continue to pray for him and those who loved him, especially his wife and children.
Anthony at work
Karen Saeli
September 11, 2003
2 years later and I still miss my friend... I have the prayer card from Anthony's memorial on my visor in my car. I say hello to him every morning. Every once in awhile, the picture slips and hits me in the head. It's Anthony demanding some attention. Anyone who knew him and loved him, were well aware of his personality and witty sense of humor. He wouldn't let us forget him. I couldn't and wouldn't want to.. I'm sitting at work remembering him with others here who loved him. Laughing at funny stories like boxing gloves as a prize from a fight in the parking lot... Anthony, I have a son of my own now and he is 15 months old. I will tell him about you some day when he is old enough to understand.. I still remember the conversation we had the night before we lost you. We were making dinner plans for the weekend... I wish we had that dinner...Stealing from Pink Floyd.. "Wish you were here"
Dani
September 11, 2003
2 years - so hard to believe that much time has passed... and how little the sense of loss has lessened.
I miss you my friend!
Amanda Perez
September 11, 2002
I am a fellow Perez and I am so sorry about Anthony's death. It really is sad that many innocent people had to die and those who died were the most sweetest people in the world. I feel you rpain.
Jane Hoover
September 11, 2002
I picked up a memorial flag on the way to work this morning with Anthony Perez's name on it. I carried it around all day with me. He will never be forgotten.
Dawn Fuchs
September 11, 2002
Today I remember Anthony Perez, who although I never met him was the brother of my friend Brian Perez. My heart goes out to the whole family as they continue to live each day remembering all of the wonderful times they spent with him. Know that you are ALWAYS in my prayers ... God Bless!
Ted Sharpe
September 10, 2002
Today I participated in a Memory Walk at Fort Gordon, Georgia, to remember all who had lost their lives as a result of the terrorist attack on America. White doves of peace were carried by those who walked the two miles. I carried the white dove bearing Anthony's name. Reading about him made the walk especially heartfelt. My sympathies and prayers are always going to be with his family, especially during this time of rememberance.
Vicky Koumbis
September 7, 2002
I lived two doors down from Tony growing up in Island Park, NY. There was a pretty large group of friends that would always go from house to house playing. We always had a great time, with no worries in the world. I moved to upstate NY in March of 1982 (I was 12 years old then) & I saw Tony when I would come down to visit the old neighborhood. It was always great to see him & his brother, Scott at the big corner house. When a mutual elementary school friend called to inform me of Tony being in the trade center, I couldn't believe my ears. I had not seen him in many years but it seemed like yesterday. I called my cousin, Lisa whom also knew Tony growing up & we tried to think of all the fun we used to have with him. We even joked about how we would 'share' his braclet, which at our young age meant we were his 'girlfriend' when we were wearing it. He was a wonderful person & I know he will be greatly missed by many people he has touched. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family & friends.
Michelle Nicosia
September 3, 2002
Mary,
I never met your husband, but from the postings he sounded like a wonderful man. I received a mercy band bearing Anthony's name. I pray everyday for him. I also pray for you and your children, that in this horrible tragedy you find peace and solice.
May god bless and keep you always.
My sincere condolences,
Michelle Nicosia
Michael Iezzi
May 14, 2002
Father we entrust our brother Anthony to your mercy. You loved him greatly in this life: now that he is freed from all its cares, give him happiness and peace forever. Welcome him now into paradise where there will be no more sorrow, no more weeping or pain, but only peace and joy with Jesus your Son, and the Holy Spirit forever and ever.
J Marlow
April 28, 2002
So it is now almost 9 months later.
I'm in Penn Station and I pass by a homegrown memorial, not very big, that consists of several dozen of those heart breaking missing person flyers pushed pinned to some felt-backed panels. The very first flyer my eyes happen to focus on is for the missing Anthony Perez.
I get angry.
I have been angry. Angry that my city, my country, my home has been violated by the senseless act of an insane and cowardly enemy. Angry that our way of life is under attack. Angry that a good man like Anthony was denied the full 3 score and 10 years on this Earth all good men deserve.
I move on to meet my train. As I do I am assulted in every direction by the slick red and white banners for the internet provider hanging throughout the station at which, for a time, both Anthony and I worked. And in my mind I start to hear his laugh...
Anthony was a funny guy. I mean funny. Like for the ages funny. Think of the funniest joke you've ever heard, the funniest movie or TV show you've seen... he could be that funny. He had a lightning wit and was an hysterical mimic. Many an evening shift at the helpdesk where we worked together flew by due to Anthony's delightful 'performances'.
I would not say we were close friends. I never was in his house, nor he in mine. And I never met his family. We worked together. But I do know he loved and cherished his wife Mary. He talked often of her. And he saw himself above all as a father. His primary concern in all he seemed to do and say were his children.
A life lesson that I learned in part from Anthony is that it is valuable to have a sense of humor about things. Nothing is perfect.
As I board my train home I start to smile as I think to myself that maybe the best way for me to honor Anthony's memory is this: To visualize that somewhere Anthony is looking down on us during these trying times and finding the humor in it all.
And I start to feel a little less angry.
March 23, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL MAN...ANTHONY PEREZ AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS WIFE AND CHILDREN..FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE..PRAY..AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK FOREVER..MAY JESUS AND ST.ANTHONY GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
Darth Anthony
Dean Traiger MD
March 21, 2002
I first met Anthony, Mary and the kids when they moved in across the street from me in Locust Valley. Anthony and I quickly became great friends since we shared many of the same interests like computers and hockey.
My best memories of Anthony are of what a great father he was. He would dress up in costume for the kids's (Olivia, Anthony James, and Alexis) birthday parties. One year he dressed up as Darth Vader and along with his brother, Scott (dressed as a Jedi Knight) they staged a light sabre battle to entertain the kids. Anthony James was given his own light sabre to help defeat the evil Darth Vader. Before "Darth" went down for the final time he reached out to Anthony James and said (in his best James Earl Jones voice), "Noooo Anthony James, I am your Father..."
I don't think I have ever laughed that hard since!!
My own career brought me to Florida but Anthony and I still kept in touch by phone and email. We still joked and carried on like we did before. One time he left me a voice mail to tease me about something, it was very funny and I kept to message to listen to when I needed to hear a friendly voice. Now that message has become its own memorial to my best friend's memories.
Anthony, Tami and I miss you very much
Cassandra Carolan
March 11, 2002
I had the pleasure of meeting Anthony when my oldest child Zachary who is now five and a half years old had to be dropped off at my local babysitters house and we only had one car at the time. My husband worked with Anthony @ Cablevision and Anthony offered to pick up my husband and Zachary and drop him off at the babysitters and he drove my husband home every night!!
He wouldn't take money from us to help out with gas, or any other favors that we could give to him. He never complained about dropping off our son, he really was and still is "an angel". It gave both of them good company together to come home late at night and laugh about what went on at the office all day.
I met his lovely family and we had a bbq on memorial day weekend a few years back and got to know one another on a social level too. He was always smiling and joking around with us and I used to run into him when both of our children attended the same daycare in town.
He was a decent person who went the extra mile for someone he cared about. I still can't believe he is gone, but I know his spirit is with us and will always be with us...
To his lovely family: "peace be with you today and forever. may God shine down on you everyday and I hope that each day brings you all a little more comfort in knowing that he is alright where he is. we will always miss him and his memory will be with us until the end of time".
May God Bless You!
Sincerely,
Cassandra
Patrick Carolan
March 11, 2002
When I first started working for the new division of my company called Optimum Online, there was a guy I never met in the seat across from me. We didnt really speak for the first few weeks, then things changed. After talking for just a few minutes we realized we lived in the same town on the same street and that we had indeed seen each other before. After further discussions we realized we had alot in common, he being Anthony offered to carpool with me everyday-he'd drive. I told him it might be a problem because I had a a one year old child I needed to drop off at Daycare everyday. Anthony never cared, he was outside my house everyday at near the same time, and always helped me with all my sons belongings everyday. We became good friends at work and home, our families enjoyed some times together as well. I'll always remember Anthony for the unselfishness he always displayed toward me. Not only did he help me with getting to my job he helped me learn alot about computers when we got there. He sure was one crazy driver, I was never sure if we'd arrive at work safely everyday or not, but I didnt really care..he was my friend and I trusted him.
Remember the comet Anthony? If I ever see one again...I'll be thinking of you.
Randi
March 8, 2002
Anthony was a very good person and was very passionate about many things. He was the one who encouraged me to get into the business I did.
His parting made me reflect how significant roles people have in our lives that we think are just passing ships. And in that respect, Anthony still lives on.
My prayers go to Anthony and his family.
Theresa Gutierrez
February 4, 2002
I met Anthony 11 years ago when I baby-sat his beautiful daughter Olivia. He was a very devoted father who's face brightened up when he saw his little girl each afternoon when he picked her up.
Today, my husband came across an article in Newsday about Anthony's passing. We are both deeply saddened for Olivia as well as his Wife and his two other children. Our thoughts and prayers go out to Anthony's family and each and every one who was blessed to know him.
DOug Wo
January 28, 2002
I've never met Anthony, but from what i've read, anthony reminds me a lot like Brian Perez. I worked with Brian in college. I'm sure Anthony's spirit will shine bright in Brian.
Vladimir Kozachok
January 2, 2002
I've never met Anthony in person. Ed Hicks of ESpeed introduced me to him via e-mail. I play hockey and I have a friend who owns a hockey store in Canada. Anthony needed a pair of hockey gloves so I helped him to get those Sher-Woods in NJ Devils colors which were mailed to his work address at WTC.
The horror and tragedy of September 11th made me immediately think of Anthony and Ed. In a few days I found out that Anthony was not on the survivor list...
Yes, I never met him in person and I din't know much about him, we only exchanged a few humorous e-mails.
Yet, his life has touched mine...
It's very hard to accept what happenned to Anthony and many many others.
Vladimir Kozachok
Maria Schefferine
December 19, 2001
I first met Anthony when he came in for an interview with a fledgling cable modem operation called Optimum Online. I was immediately impressed with his intelligence, technical knowledge and enthusiasm. I knew within minutes that I wanted him on our team and hired him on the spot. I was not disappointed. Anthony threw himself into his work and quickly became one of the best members of the department. Since our technology was so new, a big part of our job was R&D and figuring out how to fix problems and make the service work. Anthony was always a logical choice. He spent as much time coming up with solutions behind the scenes as with actual customer contact and troubleshooting on the phones. Even though ours started as a business relationship, it quickly grew into friendship as well. We talked about everything including kids, families, life events, etc. Even after we both left Optimum Online for different jobs, we stayed in touch regularly through phone calls and IM.
It’s still so hard to believe that someone as vital and full of life as Anthony is gone. My thoughts and prayers are with Anthony and his family. I miss you, Ant.
Morgan O'Connell
December 17, 2001
I'm not sure what to write. I didn't know Anthony as long as Dani, or Jeannie, or the others from Optimum Online. But he really helped me alot when I started working in the 360 building. He was always able to help me if I had a question. He taught me alot and his take charge attitude really motivated me. I admired him alot.
Teresa Jahn
December 16, 2001
May Anthony's life and love live on through his children. Your love story was very cute. May you always feel the warmth of his love. We are very sorry for your loss of Anthony. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Nick Lane
December 15, 2001
I don't recall the exact day I met Anthony however its sometime near February 2nd, 1999 when I joined our Optimum Online team. I remember one day I asked our co-worker Phil Miller to tell me about that tall slender guy who's always standing up and patrolling his cubicle space while talking to customers. I knew instantly that he was a confident and take charge person. Phil told me that he more or less ran the show and is a tech for techs.
I was honestly intimidated by Anthony for a long time. Mostly if not entirely because he had such a powerful confident personality and I was the 18 year old fresh out of high school newbie with nothing practical to offer him.
For whatever reason I mentioned his name to my older brother Larry and Larry said, "Wait I know him, I used to play little league baseball with him." I later relayed this information to Anthony who then proceeded to tell me the times about him and Larry playing baseball together. To complete the parallel, The person I played many years of little league baseball with was Anthony's younger brother Brian Perez.
We unfortunately only had a few sit down conversations. One of those was about the baseball stories with each others respective brothers and the other one and sadly the last wasn't a very good one. It was an argument about some technical mumbo jumbo. He eventually walked away to a supervisor's cubicle upset about it. I stayed in my chair upset with myself for even thinking I could beat him at his own game. The next morning one of our co-workers named Anthony Purcell took me for a walk outside to talk about what happened. He told me that, "Anthony Perez wears his heart on his sleeve." Thats the one thing I know we had in common. The rest I'll never find out.
That bad conversation with Anthony was the last I ever really had with him. I regret it so much and its one among many big reasons why I've been and still am pretty distraught about his passing. Sometimes I look up and start talking to the sky. Aapologizing to him.. and saying prayers for his transition. He was an amazing person, had a brilliant sense of humor and I admired everything about him. I wish there was something more I could have said or done before September 11th. I know in my heart I was supposed to also because I don't think playing baseball with each other's brothers was a coincidence. It was beyond chance and I never followed the sign. I was too scared to fail. I wish I could have that problem one more time.
I'll see you when I get there.
Love and Light
Dani Berman
December 14, 2001
I met Anthony 5 years ago, my 1st day at Optimum Online. They had me sitting with someone else to traing, but i kept hearing this guy a few seats away... You couldnt help but notice him, with his loud, commanding presence on the phones. (Sir the thing here is this! If you have a Porshe on the LIE in rush hour...) My 1st weekend shift, I called in a few hours before my shift to find out what weekend dress code was - Anthony answered the phone, and in typical Anthony fashion, told me dress code was casual, but newbies had to buy dinner for anyone on the shift, so I better bring cash since he was hungry. That was the 1st of many "Chattaeu Le Blanc" (white castle) runs Ant and I would take together....
One of the things I loved most about him was his childish way of taunting me into learning something new - he would tease me unmercifully if I didn't "get it" but his praise when I did was just as fierce.
We had a routine when we both worked nights. Ant always was up with his kids in the morning, and I am not a great sleeper so we would often call each other and talk about anything going on in our lives. It was a time where Ant & I were friends, not co-workers, and it was the basis of some of our best conversations...
He was as passionate about the Islanders as I am, and when I coudnt go to games, he would go with my boyfriend. I used to say he planned the games he wanted to go to and asked for those nights off before I could, just so he could go with Rich LOL and he never denied it! ;-)
Even after he left Optimum, we stayed in touch. He would call me from work alot, and tell me it was time to get a new job. We emailed each other often, and comtinued to share our lives, despite our distance.
At the funeral for a mutual friend last April, Anthony said something that would turn out to be very prophetic... In speaking about the friend that we lost, he said that no one is meant to be in anyone's lives forever, and as long as we remember what they brought to our lives, they will always be a part of us....
I will never forget what Anthony brought to my life - the knowledge, the laughter, the aggrevation (he was good at that, and we all loved him even more for it!) the compassion, the friendship. To say i miss him is an understatement....
Anthony at OOL
Mikey Bernard
December 14, 2001
First day starting at Optimum, I sat listening in to several people on the phone. Always getting distracted by the standing dude with black hair.
Rambling with phrases that later became some of the funniest things that were ever said in OOL call center. "The thing here is this" was said as he slapped the back of his left hand into the palm of his right. I would loose it everytime I payed attention.
3 days into work, I got to listen in to his no BS straight forward troubleshooting calls. And realized then.. that this guy and me would be friends.
Fast forward fomr 340 to 360 (locations of buildings) He sat diagnal left of me. We would occasionally play tricks on other people to make the day go by or play quake when the phones were light. He would bring machines in as would I and we would fix them together. He also gave me jobs to do.. like find a peice of software of hardware in exchange for something else.
He was the first person that valued what I know and respected me enough to trust me with his personal thoughts. God I miss him...
So then he left the group and I knew it was going downhill.. I didnt leave that much after him.
Fastforward about 6 months. I am working at a company in Manhattan and never lost touch with him. Find my job moved to WTC2 84th floor, I was happy cause now when I went to visit him, I would be really close. Only problem is I had to move my apartment and now it took 3 hours to get to manhattan. I remember sitting in the area between the towers and having lunch together a few times... One time right after he and I retreived his watch that he had fixed at a small swatch place in the concourse of tower 1. Anthony would always tell me to get my resume together, we will finally have a chance to work together again. And the deal never seemed to happen. we bot hreally wanted to work together again becasue of how much fun we had and how productive we were together.
So less then a month of working at 2WTC and seeing him every other day, I could not take the commute, and I was joining the US Air Force.
Since this happened, I find myself going out of my way to help people and smile even if I am not happy. Staying proud and beleiving in myself. Even if everything gets taken from me, I will come back is a dirt filled smile. Parts of this seem familiar to me in someone I knew and will never forget.
I miss you Antknee... And I can NEVER forget anything we talked about and shared. When I see you next, you better have a network set up there, Cause I am bringing my quake CD.
;-)
- Mikey
Albito Velez
December 13, 2001
Heh, I met Anthony through my sister. I kept screwing up my computer, so she gave me his number to call him whenever I messed things up. So I did, several times over. And over. And over. He was the one that got me started with computers, and I wouldn't know a thing if he wasn't always throwing info my way, giving me tests, programs, the A+ software. He was always telling me to go for school for this. I never really did, but I did pretty well on my own. I remember flying through a parking lot one night cuz he had some tickets to a hockey game he couldn't go to, so he gave them to me. People say we looked alike, so to mess around we put on sunglasses and leather jackets. It was funny. I wish I had a picture. I wish a lot of things. But at least I can still remember a lot. That's some comfort.
Luigi Patacca
December 13, 2001
I met Anthony when I first started Cablevision Optimum Online echnical Support four years ago. He lived by me and we would often car pool. Anthony always had a lot of advise and insight to offer both of his professional career and his personal life. He would often mimic my voice and hand gestures as I would mimic him and call him Chachi from Happy Days. He was a great insperation to me and had a personality that could fill a room. Even when he left our company I had still kept in contact with him. My heart goes out to his family and children and I can truly say that he will never be forgotten. I miss him dearly.
Luigi
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