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Michael Carlo Obituary
Michael Carlo loved sailing, his family, friends, and the ocean — not necessarily in that order. He was scheduled to travel to the British Virgin Islands on Sept. 12 to be certified a sailing captain. Mr. Carlo, 34, a firefighter, had even moved to Long Beach, N.Y., to be closer to the ocean.
Firefighter Carlo was a founding member of the Fire Department's volleyball team, and traveled to Sweden a few years ago to compete in the Police and Fire Olympics. When the New Yorkers arrived, they were told that no substitutions were allowed.
"Michael volunteered to sit out and have some of the bigger guys play," Mr. Carlo's brother Robert recalled. "But we decided we were going to play the way we wanted to play." The firefighters forfeited all their games in order to substitute players.
Michael Carlo was a gentleman in his personal life, too. A sought-after bachelor, he had many girlfriends, and always remained friendly with them — and their mothers — after a breakup.
At his house after Sept. 11, his family found some words by Mark Twain on a Post-it above the desk:
"Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones that you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."
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March 16, 2024
Thought of you today...
September 15, 2023
Thank You Hero. Prayers for family and friends.Although I never met you here, we will meet someday
Mary Henry
September 14, 2023
9/11 did not pass again this year without thinking of Michael. As always, he was honored on my FB and prayers were sent up for the family. I know that he is not forgotten and that all of those lost on 9/11 have family and friends keeping their memory alive. I will never forget that day, all the way over in California, hearing the news and watching the horror on tv. I remember where I was, how I heard, and taking my kids to school knowing history was forever changed that day. I am proud to honor Michael every year and think of him throughout the year. May God bless his family.
Carol Garth
September 14, 2023
"Thank you" is not sufficient for the sacrifice you made. You could have been exploring and building a life, but you chose differently--honor and sacrifice. May you never be forgotten. ~~ Carol Garth in Little Rock, Arkansas
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Tom Kuder
September 13, 2023
Your memory will not be forgotten.
Mary Henry
September 14, 2021
This 9/11 did not pass without thinking about you and your family. I want the family to know that Michael is not forgotten. I am still honored to have been given his name to represent in a 9/11 walk a few years ago. I thought about his family visiting his bench that I was told about. Many times I send up prayers throughout the year for the loved ones he had to leave behind.
Matt Keith
September 13, 2021
The memories will never fade, I'll never forget you my Brother
Suzanne Gusick Suzanne
September 12, 2021
Remembering my classmate. RIP Michael Carlo a true hero on 9/11.
Suzanne Gusick Newman
Bayside High School ‘85
Maria Tornatore
September 11, 2021
Mike - 20 years...we were kids working together at Woolworth's and you were such a sweet guy. I remember you had a little mischievous side and we laughed and had a lot of fun times. You were taken much too soon. You died a hero - you will always be remembered by all who knew and loved you. RIP.
Tom Kuder
September 11, 2021
Micheal you remain a hero to my family. Never Forget
Elena
September 10, 2021
Miss you Mike every day.
Cindy Roe
September 3, 2021
Remembering Michael on the 20th anniversary of 9/11....
Robert Carlo
May 22, 2021
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Robert Carlo
May 21, 2021
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.
Elena
May 20, 2021
Happy Birthday in heaven. You are truly missed. Always on my mind and forever in my heart.
Robert Carlo
November 1, 2020
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Robert Carlo
October 17, 2020
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.
Robert Carlo
October 13, 2020
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.
Robert Carlo
October 12, 2020
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.
Mary Henry
September 10, 2020
Tomorrow is September 11, 2020. I just wanted Michael's family to know he is not forgotten. When I was given Michael's name to sponsor in a 9/11 walk a few years ago I was honored. I had no idea how that would impact me for years to come. Michael will not be forgotten! He was a true hero who gave his life to help others in the worst of times. Tomorrow I will remember Michael and continue to pray for the family. I had been told that there was a bench placed in his honor where the family will meet. I can picture that from across the country in CA. Much love to the family as you continue to try to heal from a devastating loss. #wewillneverforget
Tom Kuder
September 7, 2020
You are always in my prayers. We will never forget.
May 20, 2020
Happy birthday in heaven Mike❤❤❤
January 4, 2020
Happy New Year Mike❤
Linda Ireland
September 11, 2019
Again, this day of the year has come around without you and so very many others, Michael. I never met you, but I remember you often during the year and say a prayer for your family. The light you were still lives. Bless you.
Mary Henry
September 11, 2019
It's me again. I could not let today go by without letting Michael's family know that he is still on my heart. Not just on Sept 11 but throughout the year. It is hard to imagine that someone who never met Michael, but was given his name randomly to walk in his memory one year, could forever hold him and his family in my heart and prayers. I post him on my facebook so that my friends and family could also remember him. As a country, we will never forget these heros that gave the ultimate sacrifice in an effort to help total strangers. Please always remember his life touched far beyond what you will ever see. Michael is not forgotten! May God bless you all and give you peace.
Tom Kuder
September 11, 2019
Michael, You and your family are always in my prayers. I will never forget. Thank you for being my hero and a hero to my family.
August 20, 2019
Thinking of you and your sweet smile! It was a full moon this week....that one day that seems like forever ago, I remember it like it was just the other day. Who would have known it would all end up like this. The full moon this last week had me seriously staring at it more often than usual. The moments, the memories, the many emotions that are overwhelming at times.
Keep smiling like I know you are.
Xoxoxox
June 19, 2019
In heartfelt memory of this fallen FDNY Engine 230 firefighter.
Elena
May 20, 2019
Happy Birthday in heaven Michael. You are missed more than words can say and are always in my ❤.
May 20, 2019
Happy Birthday in Heaven....
Xoxoxo
May 18, 2019
My heart is full...
Thank you
May 15, 2019
Mike
It's late and I am having one of those moments....I swear I felt someone behind me the other day and turned around and no one was there. I have had several of those kind of moments lately!! I tell myself it's you just letting me know you are still around.
Xoxoxox
March 26, 2019
Thinking of you tonite and hope you see what is happening......one of us is doing amazing and the other one of us not so well.....struggling and trying to hold it together. One of the most trying times these last few months. I know you are watching and I look up and send you my thoughts and think about you all the time.
Xoxoxo
March 6, 2019
Thinking of you please please send me strength....I need it❤
The Kindred Family
December 20, 2018
Sending our continued deep sympathy to your family for such a great loss. Nothing will ever remove the pain but please know that others still do care. May God continue to give the help needed everyday. Mike touched the lives of many persons and will never be forgotten.
Kathy
September 12, 2018
Thank you for your sacrifice!! You will never be forgotten!!!
Bill Harvey
September 12, 2018
God Bless you and keep you Hero. Thank You
September 11, 2018
❤Miss you more thank you will ever know❤
Paul Seiden
September 11, 2018
RIP
Tom Kuder
September 11, 2018
You are never forgotten.
Mary Henry
September 11, 2018
Theee years ago I was given Michael's name for a 9/11 walk. He is forever in my heart and mind. As Midnight turns us again to September eleventh I think of not only Michael but his family. May God bless all of you that Michael had to leave behind for now. May you see each other again in heaven.
June 28, 2018
Thinking of u❤
June 17, 2018
Mike
Stopping by to let you know I'm thinking of you. Some days are so much harder than others....today is one of those days.
Always
Love me
May 22, 2018
Michael, I just want you to KNOW that I didn't forget your Birthday on May 20. I made several calls to family members that today is Michael's
Birthday and I was happy when they told me I know it is.
I love you Michael, Like I said before I trade places with you.
Love you with all my HEART.
Dad.
Elena Gulino
May 20, 2018
Happy Birthday in heaven Michael. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you. You are missed so much!
Elena
May 20, 2018
Happy birthday Mike! ThInking of you today and every day. That smile is such a bright and lively one! One of the first things I noticed!
Happy birthday Mike❤
May 13, 2018
Hey Mike
Woke up and it's nearly 3am, had another moment of panic/anxiety.... Whenever I wake up in the middle of the night I always think of you. The month of May is always filled with love and happiness and some sorrow. I will always celebrate you and if I could have one more conversation with you I would sit and tell you so many things.
I think about you so very often❤
Faith, hope and love always
April 17, 2018
Mike,
Had a pretty amazing and crazy weekend and reminded me of some old times. I was sitting in a hot tub and looking up at the stars and could not help but think of you. No matter where I go or who I'm with, my thoughts will always drift away and I will have thoughts of you. Wonder where my life would be if you were still here...
❤❤❤xoxoxxo
March 2, 2018
Xoxoxoxox
February 23, 2018
Mike
Just stopping by to say hello❤ Have not been here in a few days...Spent some time at the hospital with a friend and heard a lady tell a story about that horrible day....and her story tore me up. Her story was so emotional and heroic. I think about all things that happen in the world and I still always find myself wandering back to thoughts of you. I wish I could hug you and tell you how amazing you are! You are amazing, charming and blessed with a smile that always shines.....The greatest gifts in life come from the greatest people.
Thanks for coming into my life
Love always
Xoxoxo
February 13, 2018
Mike❤
Valentine's Day and I wanted to send you lots of love on this day. Hope you know you are thought of more than you will ever know!
Xoxoxox
February 10, 2018
Mike,
Woke up again in the middle of the nite, it's 330 in the morning and I swear I had the most realistic dream that we were reunited after what seemed like a million years.....you looked at me with that familiar adorable smile of yours and gave me a look that reassured me that it was all going to be ok in the end......you're in my heart and on my mind
Xoxoxoxo
February 4, 2018
Mike
I waved to you and sent you some love....hope you got it ♥♥♥♥
February 1, 2018
Mike
The sun is shining and the skies are blue.....Thinking of you and that smiling face.....
Xoxo xoxo
robert carlo
February 1, 2018
Hi Mike, I just came back from Florida the weather there wasn't that good at all. I didn't ride my Motorcycle I just clean it and looking at your pictures painted on my Bike.I pray every day for you and wishing you were here with us. I just hope when my time is up I'm with you.My eyes are tearing up now I love you so much.I said it before and i'll say it again I would trade places with you. Your sister Nicole misses you greatly.I have a candle lit in your name and when I'm in Church in Fla I go to the lit candles and I pray for you and our family.I think about you every day and I pray for you every day and our family.
God Bless you.
Love you.
Dad..
January 31, 2018
Mike
Woke up from a sound sleep with you on my mind....as I opened up my eyes in the dark the full moon was shining down on me thru my window as I looked up....what timing dontcha think? Maybe there is (more than ever now for me) a lot of truth to the saying our loved ones are shining down on us.....After witnessing this event tonight I am truly a believer in my heart of ♥ hearts ♥
Thank you it was just what I needed at this very moment in time❤
Carol Garth
January 30, 2018
Hello, Michael, to you in Heaven. You were so bright and vibrant and loved in life that you are never forgotten by friends and family still here on earth. I was never blessed to know you, but your vibrancy even shows in pictures and after your passing, I saw your picture and "adopted" you as the hero that I would not forget. The world was made a better place by your presence and is darker now for those who knew and loved you. But you will be together some day. I know you watch over them.
Rest in peace.
January 29, 2018
Looking up at the moon tonight it is bright and had rings around it....Hope as I was looking up you were looking down❤
To the moon and stars and back....
January 28, 2018
Hey you
Was out for a drive today and saw one boat all by itself out on the lake and thought of you.
Thinking of you
Xoxo
January 28, 2018
Xoxoxox
January 27, 2018
Star light, star bright...hope you're looking down on us tonight❤
Thinking of you so much these days....
January 25, 2018
Mike....overwhelmed by thoughts of you this evening. I wish I could pick up the phone and talk to you, I really, really want to talk to you. Actually I feel like I need to talk to you. I have questions and thoughts and things I want to share with you. I wish I could have the time, the moments, the reassurance. So many things I should have said and didn't. My mind, my heart and my entire being are sad tonite. If there was ever a time to send me a sign now would be that time.
With loving thoughts and hopeful dreams....I have faith it will come to me.
M+W
T
robert carlo
November 14, 2017
Hi, Mike, it's me again Dad I constantly miss you. Just got back from visiting your Brother in Tarhee,Calf He is living GOOD, I told him that you would like living here, he also invited Nicole to visit him. I miss you a lot, I pray daily for you and our family.
I love you and miss you a lot.
Dad.
Darlene Carlo
September 16, 2017
Thinking of you and your family this week. God Bless You Michael Carlo.
September 15, 2017
God Bless you Hero!
robert carlo
September 14, 2017
Hi, Mike I just want to tell you we visited E230 on Saturday Sept 10, we went to mass with them and we had lunch at your Firehouse with all the guy's as usual they are GREAT.
Aunt Lillian, cousin Carol,Joni and I, Rob and Kelly we have a nice time.Nicole misses you and she couldn't make it...
Mike we all Love you and miss you Daily...
My Prayers and my Heart are with you daily.
On Monday Sept 11 we spent the afternoon in Long Beach on the boardwalk with family and friends sitting around on your bench.
We all miss you and LOVE you..
Your always in my Prayers.
Love,
Dad..
Walking in honor of Michael
Mary Henry
September 11, 2017
Thinking of Michael Scott Carlo today. I have been praying for his family this week. As I posted before I did walk in his name yesterday at a 911 walk in the Disney resort area. It was a great turn out for the event. There were families with small children who attended as well. Every person had a flag to represent the US. There was a small speech and two young girls sing the national anthem. I am smiling in the photo because I was so happy for this group they got together on this day. We know as a nation we have vowed not to forget our fallen heroes. Michael is not forgotten. He is in my heart forever because of the last two years and this group that took the time to create a walk to honor the fallen heroes. Last year after my walk I met a new friend. We have spent the last year together and I have met many other friends. This group is very special and very caring. I consider them my family. Just one tiny bright light that came from this event.
September 1, 2017
Although I never met Michael I was honored to walk in his memory last year at a 9/11 walk with a group of Disney fans. We will be holding another walk this year on the 10th and I will, again, be walking in Michael's honor. I am proud to represent him and have and will be praying for the family members left behind that day. Please know he is not forgotten. There are so many good people committed to keeping the memory alive of EVERY fallen hero from that terrible day. I hope Michael's family can find a tiny bit of comfort that he is not forgotten.
July 8, 2017
Hi, Mike it's me again here it is July 8,2017 and your sister Nicole came to visit us and she brought her three dogs they are Great you would LOVE them they are friendly and playful. Again I'll say I wish you were here with us, I even trade places with you I LOVE YOU...
By the way I meant to tell you Nicole drove from Montana to Md.with her three dogs..They kept her company...
Love you.
Dad.
Bill Harvey
July 7, 2017
All you heroes will always be remembered.Your angel wings lift and comfort us all Thank you forever
Richard Romeo
July 6, 2017
Out of the hundreds of obituaries in the NY Times following those sad days in 2001, for some reason which I still don't understand, yours caught my eye and I have never forgotten you. Perhaps it was the Mark Twain quote and how it motivated your life. I listen for your name every year on 9/11. God love you and hold you in His hands.
Mary Henry
June 1, 2017
We are in the beginning stages of planning the 2017 911 walk in Downtown Disney in Anaheim California to be held on Sept 10th. Last year I was given Michael's name and walked in his honor. I have asked for his name again and will be helping plan the event this year. There were people who walked that day last year in memory that I had not met but have become like a second family for me. We are a Disney family. All because I was walking in Michael's honor. I have never met him but he is in my heart and I think of his family often. I wanted to let you know about the event for this year. We choose to keep the memory alive of all of the firefighters that lost their lives on that day. I still remember exactly where I was and how I found out on the other end of the country. We will never forget!
May 20, 2017
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MICHAEL SET A PLACE FOR U TODAY AT THE TABLE.....MISS U SO MUCH.....LOVE YOU MOM
May 20, 2017
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MICHAEL SET A PLACE AT THE TABLE FOR U TODAY......WISH I CUD BE WITH YOU...YOU HAVE SO MANY FRIENDS WRITING TO YOU.....MISS YOU SO MUCH........LOVE YOU.....MOM
Robert Carlo
May 20, 2017
First let me say " HAPPY BIRTHDAY " son.
It's that time of the year, I miss you like
a lot I said this before and I'll say it again I'll trade places with you anytime.
We all miss you a lot your ears must be ringing because we are always talking about you.When people see my Motorcycle they admire it because it's looks just like a Fire Truck Bright Red Harley came out with this in 2002 and I bought this in 2003.
I have your picture painted on the trunk and I also have a your E230 firemen painted on my Gas tank and the other side of the gas tank painted the Manhattan skyline saying In Loving Memory Michael S.Carlo. It's awesome Mike.I LOVE you very much, I must say the entire Family misses you.
Love Dad.
February 16, 2017
Until I see you again....this is not where it ends....❤
February 12, 2017
~W~
Robert Carlo
January 19, 2017
Hi,Mike it's been awhile since I have written to you.Here's it's Jan,1917 I thought I write to you and tell you that your sister Maria is getting Married on March 2,1917. How about that I wish you were here with us for that Special day. She
would have love it, matter of fact I know you would have be in the Wedding party just like me and Rob. Nicole misses you just as we do.
Love you,
Dad.
Carol Garth
January 18, 2017
Hello, Michael,
Another year has started for those you loved on earth, and for those like me who never knew you. Words can never say how great your sacrifice was; it embodies all that our public service workers risk every day. I know you are in Heaven--you have to be--and that your loved ones will see you again some day. As one of your guest book entries said, your energy and that smile live on.
Rest in peace, Michael
Carol Garth
W
January 17, 2017
Michael
Thinking about you a lot these last few days....Overwhelmed with emotion at times and at other times I feel like I want to call you or send you a text....some days I feel your absence and some days I feel like you are still here.....it's been so long and some things feel like yesterday. That smile, those eyes and the energy will always live on.
Xoxoxoxox
September 13, 2016
Hi, Mike it's me Dad another year 911 gone by I miss the Hell out of you and so does the rest of the family, it's hard for me to type and see with tears filling up my eyes.I love you and we all miss you.
Love Dad.
Beth McTighe-Nichols
September 13, 2016
Prayers continue to Michael and his family. May the perpetual light shine upon him.
Mary Henry
September 12, 2016
Yesterday I was honored to be able to walk in the 1st Annual September 11 Disneyland Memorial Walk. I was given the name of Michael Scott Carlo. Each walker was given a name of a fallen hero to represent during the walk. There were 343 names and about 400 people came out to walk in memory of the attacks of 9/11. I had gone on he internet and had researched Michael's story. I am honored that I was given his name and proudly wore his name on a runner's bib. This was a walk that started in Downtown Disney in Anaheim, CA and went around the streets surrounding Disneyland. We are a group of Disney loving fans and some wonderful people put together this memorial walk. The people involved are all saying they are honored to walk and hope this event goes on for years to come. Michael Scott Carlo is not forgotten! Now that I have read his story I have prayed for his brother and father as well. The family is not forgotten either. The local paper was out taking photos and if you would like to go on the internet to see photos of this event you can find them at www.ocregister.com
September 12, 2016
HERO'S ARE NEVER FORGOTTEN
ROSEMARY STASKAVAGE A DISTANT COUSIN FROM
HART/FINNEGAN FAMILY OF PENNSYLVANIA
I still remember our last day out together, Mike.
James Hogan
July 22, 2016
"We do not forgive. We do not forget. We are legion. Expect us." -Anonymous
May 22, 2016
Phyllis.Thinking of Michael, you and the poignant string that drew us togetherBetsy
Sharon Zito
May 22, 2016
Happy birthday sweet love. I'm late writing here but never forget you. Xoxo love you always
Michael Carlo
May 21, 2016
I know it's your Birthday I'll never forget it.I pray every day for you, your brother and sister, trust me tears are in my eyes.
Happy Birthday...your always in my Heart, I truly Love you and miss you.I always said I trade places with you.
Love Dad.
Elena Gulino
May 20, 2016
Happy Birthday in heaven Michael. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you. You are missed so much!
Robert Carlo
October 12, 2015
Hi,Mike just sitting here thinking about you as my eyes are tearing up as usual.Just want you to know just how much we miss you.
We all Love you.
Dad.
Donna Kiel
October 9, 2015
To The Carlo Family,
After visiting the 9-11 Museum Memorial site it was your son Michael's photo that made me loose it for a variety of reasons. His smile shows he had a great spirit. As a parent I want you to know he will never be forgotten. He will always be loved and appreciated. God bless you and your family.
Donna Kiel
Verona, New Jersey
September 14, 2015
Michael,
Everyday you are in our memories. We never met, but you have inspired so many people, encluding my family. Please watch over us. God Bless You.
Robert Carlo
September 14, 2015
Hi, Mike here it is 9/14/15 Just got back from NY, visited E230 spent the day with your Fire House as usual on Sept 10, Great guy's. Then on Sept 11 we spent time in Long Beach on the Board walk as we do every year on your Bench since 9/11 happen.Mike, Rob,Kelly,Joni, me and Aunt Lillian were there.Plus Rob friends and your friends and family members....Mike, We all love you and miss you..
God Bless You.
Love Dad.
Love you Dad.
Sabrina
September 12, 2015
Hi Phyllis,
I got your email, but the email address was a noreply email. Please email again and leave me your ph# or send me an email address that I can reply to. I'm so excited to reunite with you. Hope to talk to you soon!
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