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Andrea Haberman Obituary
Andrea Haberman and Allen Kolodzik were engaged last April in the gazebo at St. Norbert's College in Wisconsin, where they met freshman year. At first, she thought he was weird, Mr. Kolodzik said, but by sophomore year they were dating.
Sixteen months was not too much time to plan a wedding scheduled for December 2001. By the end of the summer, Ms. Haberman — snap-tight organized — had booked the rooms, bought the dress, planned the honeymoon, made hundreds of lists.
They had bought a house in Chicago, where they moved after college, and Ms. Haberman was in the thick of decorating. "We had it all down," said Mr. Kolodzik. "As far in advance as 25-year-olds can — marriage and family and so on and so forth."
Ms. Haberman grew up in rural Wisconsin, where her parents own a restaurant. She grew to love Chicago after taking a job there with Carr Futures, but she had never visited, or wanted to visit, New York. But when her company asked her to go there for a day of meetings, she steeled herself. She arrived late Monday night, Sept. 10. She had a 9 a.m. meeting in the north tower on Tuesday. She was there 20 minutes early.
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ANDREA SAINT
May 28, 2025
I'm sorry I didn't make your dreams come true
ryan quattro
May 5, 2025
When 9/11 happened my thoughts were filled with anger and confusion. I was 24 at the time. A year younger than Andrea. Now almost 24 years later all of my thoughts on 9/11 go to the victims and their families.
Andrea has stayed with me since the first time I learned of her. The crushing sadness of her losing her life to an act of utter madness lingers still.
You are not forgotten, Andrea. We mourn you as we do all we lost on that day. May you continue to rest in peace.
To the Habermans’ you will always have our deepest sympathies. God Bless you.
May 4, 2025
Love and prayers from Park Ridge. I pray for you and all the souls lost that terrible day. Andrea, I pray you found eternal peace and that you rest in Gods great glory. May God give your family and fiancé strength through the years and hold you in the palm of his hand.
Abbey Jin
May 3, 2025
Dear Andrea,
Although I do not know you, your story has truly touched me. I pray that you will live and thrive forever in paradise and one day be reunited with all your loved ones, enjoying a great feast and making new memories.
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Jess Smith
February 7, 2025
Learning about Andrea and her father’s messages has brought me to tears. I pray you are resting peacefully and I hope you know the love your father and family have for you. I will think of her often, and continue to teach my child about the people impacted by 9/11. You were beautiful and kind.
To Andreas father and family - may you all have peace and comfort in knowing you and your daughter have made an impact. Sending you extra love. I hope you enjoyed her birthday dinner this week. ❤
Gordon Haberman
February 5, 2025
Happy 49th Birthday Andrea! Julie, Troy, Mia and Gordon and your Mom and I celebrated your birthday by going to a restaurant this year. We had a wonderful time exchanging memories of you and of happier times. At the end of supper we ordered a birthday desert for you and sang in the crowded restaurant! Your Mom and I vividly recalled the night you were born. Below zero temperatures with 3 feet of snow, me hoping the old car would start and then Mom and I doing breathing exercises on the frigid ride to the hospital.
What a joy you brought to all our lives Andy....so many memories.
I have been reading the kind, heartfelt comments left by people who we have never met yet have taken the time to get to know about you. Our thanks to all of you.
You are not forgotten Andy.
Cara
February 2, 2025
Happy heavenly birthday to beautiful Andrea. I know I posted on her Legacy page last year, but I wanted to pop by again to wish her a happy birthday. Andrea has been one of the 9/11 victims whose story has stuck with me for many reasons. I am also a February birthday and Illinois resident, and her story of only going to the WTC for a short business trip, being nervous about it because of 1993, and having just recently become engaged to her sweetheart breaks my heart. Andrea seemed like she was a very beautiful, sweet, and bright young woman. I am very inspired by her father’s messages on this page and his fight for justice for Andrea, I have seen him in several interviews talking about her and also fighting for justice against those who brought about the awful attacks. It is a clear display of love and resilience. My condolences to all of Andrea’s family and friends missing her. Hope you are enjoying your special day where you are, Andrea.
Karen Parmelee
November 23, 2024
I, too, am here after watching "60 Minutes" and learning about Andrea from her father; wanting to learn more about her...meaning who she was and what seemed meant to be yet never happened. My deepest condolences. Keep telling her story while knowing she is missed; now well beyond her immediate circle.
I wish you peace; however and wherever you can, perhaps, find the pieces.
Karen Parmelee
Naperville, IL
Greg Dinkel
November 17, 2024
As I sit here with tears flowing down my face and my heart feels like it’s ripping into after watching Andrea’s story on 60 minutes. My heart so goes out to her Dad, Mom, sister, all her family and friends. I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter!
Allie Ramunno
October 15, 2024
I learned that she was a pretty good person, she had people that loved her. Its sad that she will never get to marry Allen, but she will always have a special place in his heart.
Annmarie
October 13, 2024
Hello to Andrea´s beautiful family and friends. I was visiting the 9/11 memorial in New York yesterday and came across Andrea´s name with this rose and special treat. When I got home, I decided to google her name to learn more about her. She was absolutely beautiful, inside and out. Out of all the names, hers stood out to me for some reason and I just felt compelled to leave a note when I came across this page. You are all in my thoughts and prayers & I am sending you hugs and healing I have attached the photo I took yesterday (10/12/24)
Gordon Haberman
September 19, 2024
Yet another anniversary has come and gone Andrea. 23 years. Nothing has been the same for all of us since then. We had our services at the memorial in Kewaskum last week and it was heartening to see hundreds of children there. They came to learn of the tragic senseless death of thousands that fateful morning and also to learn about what happened afterwords. Good friends of ours came in from New York to speak about the search to find you and all that were murdered. I was asked by a reporter after the ceremony 'what would your daughter' think of the memorial and I answered you would be proud of it.
Yet, the ache in our hearts and minds of what you needlessly endured is a constant presence. We love you. Continue to help us when we struggle.
Julie and Mia and Gordon are a joy to your mother and me, and mom is happily involved in creating wonderful artwork along with Julie. We love and miss you kiddo.
The time between us is not that long. Dad
Bella Douglass
September 18, 2024
Hello, My name is Bella Douglass and I am an 11th grader at Paola High School. I am doing a project of Andrea Haberman to remember her life. I can tell from these comments that she was truly such a light on this earth. The love her family and friends hold for her is really impactful and I will forever send my condolences and I wish you all peace, love, and comfort.
Gord Haberman
February 11, 2024
Treasured Andrea, as I am sure you are aware, all of us celebrated your 48th birthday. Each of us with our own thoughts to how life could have and should have been. Wow...48 years. I imagined a life full of more grandchildren and happier times for all of us. All of us wishing we would have been with you that terrible morning. All of us remembering the years we had with you...yet yearning for more memories. Trust that Mia and Gordon know of their Aunt Andrea. They continue to amaze me, and both are as sharp as you and Julie were.
The time between us grows closer and beckons me, Andy. Your mom is the source of our strength and Julie continues to create artwork that inspires us. Where each of you got your talents is a mystery to us.
We love you, Andrea.
Luann Grosscup
February 4, 2024
The acrylic painting here was painted by my beagle, Mr. Smith, and was the way I met the Haberman family, as the proceeds from my dog's art were donated to Search Dog Foundation in Andrea's name. When I put my artist dog in the bathtub with his paints and paper, I told him to "paint one for Andrea." The image shown here is that of a row of angels with outstretched arms, as though welcoming her to Heaven. It brought tears to my eyes when I saw it. Andrea and her family are always in my heart!
Cara
February 2, 2024
Happy heavenly birthday to Andrea. Reading your father’s messages on here is simultaneously inspiring and heartbreaking, you can tell he just loves you so much and I know he has been active in fighting for justice for you and the thousands of others taken on that awful day. Andrea, you sound like you were a very sweet, beautiful, and vibrant young woman, and I’m so sorry your future had to be stolen from you like this. You are never forgotten.
Mary & Michael Brown
February 2, 2024
Hello Andrea, happy heavenly birthday to you. I am sure you know that Michael and I visited your beautiful memorial in Kawaskum. Your family did a lovely memorial to a beautiful young woman. You are forever in my heart. Send love to you and your family as well.
Gordon Haberman
September 15, 2023
22 years Andrea and a day never passes....each day is an anniversary for us. Missing is hard sentiment to write down but that's how we feel at times. Lost. Your presence is felt in so many ways however most recently when your mom took a bad fall on the 11th. We both believe you were with her then. Mia and little Gordon are quite the pair! Mia shares Julie's and your artistic talents and both are very athletic! We mourn you were not able to experience the life you deserved here and were so looking forward to. We talk with Al all the time and indeed called on him to help us this week. We all love you so much. Keep looking down on us Andy.
Ankita Rajan
September 14, 2023
Hey Dear Andrea
Heard your story on Facebook
Didn't know you personally but feels like a strong connection with you
May you Rest in peace dear...
Shelley Haberman (Casey)
August 12, 2023
Aug. 12, 2023
Dearest Andrea,
September approaches.
Overwhelmed today with thoughts, heartache and sadness for you, and all that should have been.
Maybe I will have more strength & courage to post a longer note to you soon.
With all my heart,
love forever and always ~
auntie shell
Mary Brown
February 3, 2023
Happy heavenly birthday Andrea. Very snowy and cold here in the Badger state. But you are looking down from a beautiful heaven. Spring is just around the corner and that will be awesome. Think of you often as well as Julie and still love both of you. Hugs until we meet again.
Coach Mary
February 2, 2023
Happy Birthday to your sweet Andrea.
Reading her story on Facebook brought me to this page.
May she continue to rest in eternal peace.
She is always with you. Your angel.
S.
shelley haberman (casey)
September 13, 2020
Sept. 13, 2020
Dearest Andrea,
It has been -- or seems to be -- the saddest 'anniversary' yet.
The passage of time is no balm. Missing you is more an ache
than ever.
I can barely think, much less write ... so for today, this will
be brief, but it is truly what is in my heart and soul.
And it is this: I should have been with you.
I am so so sorry and eternally grieved that I was not.
We should have been together. I would like to believe
I could have comforted you in some small way.
You, so tenderly young, deserved comfort and protection.
This failing can never be made right.
Nineteen years on, and while so much else swirls around
and is muddy, this painful truth is more clear than ever.
Andrea, I love you beyond measure.
May I ever be worthy of seeing you again,
I pray for your -- and God's -- forgiveness.
love, always and forever,
auntie shelley
Beverly Whittet
September 3, 2020
I just finished Just a Few Sleeps Away...I wanted to read each victim’s personal story before the anniversary this year and had gotten to Andrea’s and heard about the book. I’m am beyond devastated, but I do want to tell the Habermans how lucky Andrea was to have such a wonderful family. Please know that. Your devotion is palpable. Much love from Florida❤WE HAVE NOT FORGOTTEN❤
Shelley Haberman Casey
August 10, 2020
Aug. 10, 2020
Dear Andrea,
Well, you know better than anyone the trials and
struggles currently here on Earth.
And -- now it's August, bringing that extra-sick feeling that
creeps in and settles hard in the pit of one's stomach,
as September looms near, and the thoughts and memories
of what should have been and then ... what happened ...
remain, forever, at such dissonance and create such chaos
of the mind, spirit and soul.
Sweet, smart, funny, beautiful Andrea. Thank you for
all gifts always given in your uniquely angelic ways, and
please continue to help your Mom, Dad, Julie, all of your
ever-loving family, through and beyond yet another
'anniversary' upcoming.
You are so missed, words cannot capture.
Love, always and forever,
auntie shelley
Ryan Bloom
September 12, 2019
Even if we never met your sister was a good friend mine when you were taken from her. You and Julie and your family have always been in my thoughts and prayers. You will always be remembered.
June 28, 2019
Today I'm remembering the first time I read Just a Few Sleeps Away. I finished the book, said a quick prayer for her family, 2 seconds later I find a dime in the craziest place.... seriously??!! God is good and Andrea will never be forgotten.
Julie Osmus
February 4, 2019
So many days pass without you, at times it hard to remember you here with me. I idolized/idolize you, your presence was/is bigger than life to me. My direction, my True North. Where has time gone? Where does the meaning come from in all of this. Some days I stumble through finding my way, other days I glide with you by MY side knowing we will be all be ok. Mom and dad are true heros, my rocks, my reliance of memories and love of days so far in the past. I dont know what I will ever do without them.
I hold your love close along with your wish for a full life. Its with this wish that my heart follows my North Star. Ill follow it forever till it leads me to you.
Happy 43rd Birthday my sweet, sweet sister!
Love Me
Gordon Haberman
February 3, 2019
Dearest Andrea...Happy 43rd birthday Andy. We had a wonderful celebration for you yesterday evening as you are aware. Mom and Julie made such a nice supper and little Gordon and Mia were celebrating their Aunt Andy.
Mia is so much like you! The week leading up to your special day reminded your Mom and I of the week you were born. Very cold and lots of snow! We miss you so kiddo...continue to watch over us as the day between the dreaming, and the coming true, of our being reunited continue to get closer. We love you and miss your presence and are only comforted in knowing we will be together again. Love you...Dad
Mary Brown
February 3, 2019
Happy birthday, Andrea. freezing cold snap this week, Polar Vortex. But today temps should be near 40. Let the melting begin. This would have posted on your birthday but I did not press the submit button. Keep watching down on all of us who remain here. Love & hugs,
Coach Mary
shelley haberman casey
February 2, 2019
Dearest Andrea,
Happy birthday to you today.
Each extra year, each occasion, you are missed even more.
Even more, atop evermore.
So loved, and so, so loving, Andrea.
You remain your parents' beautiful daughter,
your sister's cherished 'north star' and
everything you always have been to all
of your family and friends.
Never forgotten, never diminished,
no matter the time that passes.
love you Andrea,
always and forever ~
auntie shelley
Gordon Haberman
September 15, 2018
Dearest Andrea, thanks for giving me the strength to speak this week about you. We miss you so much. This year is the first we have not visited you in 17 years. It has been a challenging year. I will write you more later kiddo...know we rely on your presence.
Janice Schloesser
September 14, 2018
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
I watched the memorials again this year with a heavy heart.
Every year there is always something new I learn about that
day.
Rest easy,
Jan Schloesser
September 12, 2018
We will never forget! Such a beautiful life taken way too soon.
shelley casey
December 25, 2017
Dec. 25, 2017
Dear Andrea,
Well, it's Christmas once again, close to midnight.
Just a quick note to say hello, sweetie, and to let you know -- as you already do -- that you are ever-present in my thoughts and heart, and in those of so, so many others ... this day, every day.
When I found "Touched By An Angel" on last TV night, on Christmas Eve, couldn't help but think so, so strongly of you and Grammy Haberman especially.
Thanks for that extra-timely and much appreciated reminder of the beauty that this life offers ... and what can lay beyond.
Missing you always,
love you forever and ever, dearest Andrea.
Merry Christmas in Heaven.
auntie shelley
October 7, 2017
Hello Andrea,
I am unable to get the memory of you out of my mind this morning. I only knew you for a season but I want you and your family to know that you are always on my mind. I will continue to pray for your family and remember how special you are for the rest of my days here. I keep a picture of you at work on the wall by my desk and I share your story with anyone who asks about the photo. I tell them how amazing you were and about the beautiful bond I was blessed to witness with you and your family. You will remain forever in my heart and in so many others. Till we meet again. M
shelley casey
September 25, 2017
Sept. 25, 2017
Dear Andrea,
Well, back again. Finally found a few words.
Grateful. My heart is filled with gratitude for all the love that you show, send and keep us aware and alert to.
Thank you for keeping your angel wings around Julie and Mia on their recent adventure.
I know you will stay near -- here, there, everywhere, close to all those who love you, wherever they are ... as that is how angels operate! You've made that so, so clear.
This brings a lot of peace amidst turbulent times, such as September. You are so generous.
With thanks,
and love, forever and always,
aunty shelley
Shelley Casey
September 12, 2017
Dear Andrea,
Trying to find words this year. Hard. Bear with me. I'll try again soon.
love,
auntie shell
Del Newberry
July 24, 2017
Andrea, I pause each day to specifically pray for a family that lost a loved one on 9/11. Today, I was actually reading about a loss on AA Flight 11, and I read a comment on that site from your Aunt Shelley Casey, which led me to look you up. I can tell from Shelley's kind and well-thought-out words of encouragement to others, that you come from a great family. As I look at this beautiful picture of you and read about your plans for the future, it breaks my heart. I have a daughter in Wisconsin and that added to the connection I feel for your family. My prayers today are for a special blessing and comfort to your many friends and family. Shelley, if you read this, thank you for the great words of wisdom that you offer to others! Much love from Texas,
July 7, 2017
Thinking of you a lot lately. You will never be forgotten. I still pray for you and your family and I always will.
Sandra Helinski
February 3, 2017
Hello Andrea,
This is cousin Sandy reaching out to you to let you know that you are remembered and loved.
I know that you are in good company, and thought yesterday of all those with you that may have shared in your heavenly birthday celebration.
Keeping you close in memory, always..
Cousin Sandy
shelley haberman casey
December 25, 2016
Merry Christmas, Andrea
You're close and deep in heart and thought every day, but especially at the holidays.
Christmas' were always so big with you, Julie, your Mom & Dad ... abundant with love. Overflowing.
I treasure the memories of the Christmas Eves we spent together as a family, from little on with you and Julie and your parents. Those were rare and wonderful times, never to be matched.
Watched on TV tonight, Christmas midnight mass held at St. Patrick's Cathedral in NY.
Instantly taken back to you. To there. To you there. As you are always, evermore in NY -- and yet, also wholly here with all those you love, and who love you.
I sat on the steps of St. Patrick's with your Mom and Dad, in what, October 2001?
September still?
It is hazy, the exact timing; was it the first trip, or the second or the third?
It was an incomprehensibly beautiful warm fall late evening -- fall went long and mild that year in NY -- and while I know we were there, I can't really remember ... did we go inside? Was it even open?
Did we just sit on the steps, and watch people go by? I think that was the extent.
But we were there, beyond broken, so numb and in shock and hollowed out ... searching, searching, searching for you.
Yet it was you who found us. In your own unmistakable angel ways.
So as I listened to the Cardinal preside over Mass there for this Christmas service, and saw inside that beautiful edifice ... I thought only of you. That night on those steps. And when I saw a parishioner quietly and lovingly lighting a candle ... it was as if I was there, lighting one for you.
That candle is ever lit in my heart, dearest Andrea.
Every day ... here ... there ... everywhere.
Merry Christmas,
and love, always and forever
auntie shelley
shelley haberman casey
November 23, 2016
Thanksgiving, 2016
Dear Andrea,
I wrote recently, last week, but maybe it was considered too sad for Legacy to post.
So I will try again, and keep it much shorter and less specific.
!5 years on, it's yet again -- and always -- beyond heartbreaking to confront another holiday season upon us, and not have you right here to share in it all as you so loved, with all your dearest family and true love.
This was truly your time of year.
And in 2001, it was truly your time of life ... all the great stuff ahead of you.
I cannot express to you, in words, how sorry I am for not being with you that trip, that day, that morning. But you know how heavy that lays in my heart and head ... always.
I will honor you on Thursday with a prayer of Thanksgiving for your life, the countless blessings you gave to all and the grace you continue to offer from above.
all my love, forever and ever ~
auntie shelley
Da'Jza Hill
October 6, 2016
I didn't know you but from what I've read you are such an amazing person. It's sad that we lost someone as special as you but i know you will forever remain in the hearts of those that love and care for you. I am happy I chose to honor you for my english class because you are a awesome person. Thank you for being who you are.
olga pichardo
September 11, 2016
Your young face is a reminder of how much brightness was stolen a day like today, your light shines bright in every morning that sets in ny, rest in peace...
Lynn Tachick
September 11, 2016
My thoughts are with you every year on this day. xo
Jan Schloesser
September 11, 2016
Dear Andrea,
Another year has passed since you were taken from us. It seems like it was yesterday.
May this day always be remembered by all. May the people who remain behind will keep your memory alive forever. We will always have you in our hearts and on our minds Andrea. Continue watching all of us.
Jan
Elizabeth (Rydzik) Biskobing
September 11, 2016
Feel the arms of many wrapped around you, dear Haberman family. Thank you, Andrea, for continuing to make your quiet yet impactful imprint on our world. Fifteen years don't really pass when time was made to stand still for so many, especially for those you call family.
Andrea Tellez
September 10, 2016
Dear Andrea
My history teacher assigned me to search someone who die in the 9/11 attack. I choose you because we share the same name and the same love for Chicago. I really feel sad that such a wonderful person with a bright future had to leave this world.where ever you are rest in peace beautiful Andrea❤
This past October when Pope came to Ground Zero
Julie Osmus
February 3, 2016
My hands folded across my baby belly as I look at your name... So many thoughts ... Your life cut tragically short, and in me a new life on his way..... Andrea I think of you and all the things you did not get to experience, and I think of all the things we've all went through since 911. Experiences that forever impact my everyday thoughts, emotions, and how I live my life. It especially breaks my heart that you never got the chance to become a mom.
Today on your 40th Birthday I promise again to fight so 911 doesn't steal anymore joy than it already has from my life. To be the best mom, wife, and person I can be. We miss you beyond words, but I know our love reaches you in Heaven. Happy 40th Birthday my beautiful sister.
God Bless!
Andy: Julie and your Mom were able to see the Pope, this was important and spirtual for your Mom and Julie. You were all together in His presense.
Gordon Haberman
February 2, 2016
Little Gordy sleeping
Gordon Haberman
February 2, 2016
Mom, Julie, Mia and little Gordon making your birtday cupcakes
Gordon Haberman
February 2, 2016
Mia and me
Gordon Haberman
February 2, 2016
Happy Birthday Dearest Andrea...
Such a gloomy, snowy, wintry day today for your 40th birthday. I can guarantee the ground hog will not see his shadow today. Inside however, Mom is downstairs baking your birthday cake and both of Julies children are here! Thats right...little Gordon was born on Decemeber 11th last year. It has been hectic around here since...little Mia; now a big sister, reminds your Mom and I so much of you...she is so smart and gentle and talking up a storm. Yet she is combination of both you and Julie, climbing and building, not too fearful of the many things that scare the heck out her grandparents!
But this you know already. We think of and miss you every minute it seems and
we feel your presense in everything we do.None of us cannot help but wonder what adventures we would have shared as life went on in our chaotic family. Your Mom is the strongest of us all and has embraced little Gordon with the same love and tenderness she had for you and Julie when you were babies. I as I always was is a bit hesitant with six week old Gordon however Mia is just entering that magic age where we can share adventures every day we are together.
Before the clouds moved in this morning the skys were clear and crisp and the stars were out and as I gazed at them and talked with you, I remembered the wonder that we shared on the possibilities of what is to come.
The time between us grows closer and I yearn for that endless time when we can explore again...there is so much to learn.
Check out these pictures!
We miss you Andy. We will be together again.
Dad
February 2, 2016
Feb. 2, 2016
Dear Andrea,
Well, it's the big 4-0 birthday. A milestone number. But you've always had milestone numbers factor in your life.
Born on Feb. 2. 2/2. Groundhog Day.
Born in 1976. Or as Grandma Haberman dubbed you, our 'Bicentennial baby.' (You were just an infant, but trust me. the Bicentennial was a very big deal that year. Simpler times ...)
Reaching the milestone year of 25 on this date in 2001, with high school and college completed with many honors, a good job secured, and engaged to the love of your life, ready and eager to keep moving forward, building on all your hard work and intelligence and youthful energy. So much ahead, so much happy anticipation.
Such beautiful memories.
It's harder to deal with the numbers after that ...that never to be forgotten September date.
The number of years it is now since your physical presence here. All the milestones that should have been yours to pursue and embrace and fully enjoy for a lifetime.
I heard something recently that really resonated with me, spoken by a family member who experienced a different, deeply shattering national tragedy, and I will paraphrase it here, as it is so meaningful ...
The passage of nearly 15 years is not of significance to your family and friends.
Sept. 11 feels like a very recent event. Like yesterday, actually.
And most importantly ... Our memories of you, dear Andrea, are fresh and comforting.
Time is nothing. Love is everything. Love endures.
love always and forever,
aunty shelley
shelley haberman casey
September 16, 2015
Sept. 16, 2015
Dear Andrea,
Forgive my not writing sooner. As you know, I was in NY for this year's memorial commemoration, and as you also know, it's a trip that takes more than a few days to regroup after. So, days later, with the memories swirling, I am finally 'checking in' with you here.
Andy, after an amazing several days, all I can say is 'thank you.' Thank you for the multiple affirmations that you so freely offered to us all while in NY.
That dime! Are you kidding me? You 'finding' Becky and I with that as we walked together after the evening gathering, on the way back to your name space on the Memorial plaza.
At that exact moment, as we were talking about you, what you would want for us here, how you would want us to approach life now and going forward, what's important ... oh, Andrea, such a dime. You know ... you saw how it affected me, us.
Felt you so close in that moment, saying, 'yes, yes, yes, you're getting it, you're hearing me ... keep listening, okay? ... remember I know the whole truth ... I see it ALL ... Believe!'
Message received, sweetie. Gratefully. With awe. With deep humility, for such a visit and such a gift.
You make such efforts to reach us all ... thank you.
Your presence, light as gossamer, is felt clearly ... those moments of transcendence -- often accompanied by dimes :) -- lift me up like nothing else can.
Thank you for these grace notes, for that continuing reassurance and encouragement and affirmation.
Know you are keeping a special watch over Julie and O2 these days, weeks, months, along with Mia and Troy, and of course your Mom and Dad. They are all so strong, and I know you help them with that, too. All of you together, so tightly bonded then, now and eternally.
My heart is full of gratitude for you, sweetie. I'll keep listening, promise.
And will remind myself, even while watching for those remarkable, always timely dimes, to remember also to look UP ... to the heavens, the stars, to where you truly ARE.
Miss you, Love you,
always and forever
auntie shelley
Therese Kroll
September 11, 2015
Love you and think of you often. Paint me some sunny days. Love, your art teacher from MQH.
September 11, 2015
Remembering you today -
Lynn Tachick
September 11, 2015
xo
September 11, 2015
Honoring Andrea today by smiling, loving, living to the fullest. Peace to her family.
Elizabeth (Rydzik) Biskobing
September 10, 2015
Still in my classroom and in my heart....
Heidi Jones
September 10, 2015
Once again this time of year comes around and I am faced teaching my new group of 4th graders who are 9 and never knew such a tragedy of what has happened. I tell them the stories and will continue until I am no longer a teacher. You have never met them but I will make sure they will know and can share your light to be carried on. God be with you and your family!
Mary Brown
February 4, 2015
Hi Andrea,
Wrote a birthday note the other day forgot to hit send. Technology is sometimes a pain. I know your a ground hog day baby, but yet another winter "blizzard" Hard to beleive that you and my daughter are both 39 this year, Paula, my daughter will not be 39 until Dec 22. She recently bowled her third 300 game and I thought about you . Bowling is what bought us together. Your grandmother bringing you and Jukie to West Allis lanes when you two were kiddos. You have a beautiful niece, who looks to the apple in her grandparents eyes, Our Noah brings that to us. Can you image that our little guy will be 10 years old in July.? Please continue to watch over your family and friends, There is so much love for you on earth and we hope to see you in heaven one day when our work is finished down here. Now say it with me " I am 39 and holding" . Oh I forgot to mention, I have been 39 and holding the last 23 years. love you kiddo.
shelley casey
February 3, 2015
Dear Andrea,
Happy Happy Birthday!!!
I wrote you a message here yesterday, on your actualday, but it somehow didn't 'take.' Technology!!! (I wish) ... more like, your aunt getting older & slower, missing a step. I know you know.
However, my message was a lot like your Dad's and Julie's, they certainly say it all, and so well.
We enjoyed 'your' snowstorm -- it was quite beautiful looking from the inside out, felt like I was in a snow globe. And I guess your view is pretty much the same ... just on a waaay bigger scale!
You are loved so, and missed so, every single day, but days like your birthday are just that much harder. All struggle -- again, you know.
Still, against the impossible, your Mom, your Dad, Julie, with Troy and unbelievable amazing smart funny happy Mia, they get up and get out and live every day, making the days count, productive. They are so, so strong. They are all always there for each other, and they are all united for you. The work they do with and for you each day ... you know ... it is amazing.
So you are, always, still, forever -- a family together ... united, bonded, ONE.
You help them so, and I also ask, with Julie, that you keep up the good work!
Love you sweetie, miss you so very much.
auntie shelley
Julie Osmus
February 3, 2015
Hi Andy, Here is the picture I was referencing! I do see you, ill treasure it always.
My Special Birthday Dime
Becky Bilbrey
February 3, 2015
Hi Andrea, Happy Birthday!!!
I wanted to leave you a message yesterday on our Birthday but with the crazy snowstorm and our hectic attempts to get home from Florida I didn't get the chance. You were as always in my thoughts all throughout our special day. After spending most of the day in the airport and then finally having our flight cancelled, we drove 2 hours to Savannah so we could get back to NYC today. When we arrived, Ryan still wanted to take us out for a Birthday dinner. As we left the hotel we saw pedicabs out front and thought Rilyn would enjoy riding in one to the restaurant. The moment I stepped in I couldn't believe and yet totally could what was staring at me from the floor...this one sure was special! Even Ryan (right brain skeptic that he is) had a big smile. Thank you for reminding me that even though yesterday didn't go as planned it was still a GREAT day! I sent along a picture so that your Mom, Dad, Julie, and Shelley could see my little Birthday gift from you. Please keep watching over us all...it sure is nice to know you're here.
Julie Haberman Osmus
February 3, 2015
Andrea...Julie asked me to send her birthday message to you.
Andrea,
Happy 39th Birthday!! We were all together again celebrating you.
Mia really got into your birthday cake, she blew out the candles twice. I'm so thankful for the joy she brings mom and dad, she softens the toughness of yet another hard day for them without you. My mind can barely imagine.
Your heart and spirit are with me this I know, but even so things are not easy without you. You are a constant in my heart, my mind and my day dreams.
I remember it all so well...Our traditions, our love, your love for us, for Al, for all things ahead. I miss you! We All miss you so very much. Thank you for watching over us and keeping Mia safe. She is my joy. She is really just pure joy. She says your name when she sees your picture, "Aunt Andrea" and will know you through those who know you. She will know your love, as I know your love. Help me take care of mom and dad, you do your magic from heaven as I will try to do some from here, (Mainly through Mia). Deal?!
Thank you for this picture, I do see you so clear. I will treasure it always, each day, each each year until we are together again face to face as it had once been.
Happy Birthday from Earth to Heaven.
Love you! Love to all your with!
Love, Julie
Andy's 39th birthday cake.
Gordon Haberman
February 2, 2015
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANDY!
Well the groundhog saw his shadow kiddo. Only six more weeks of winter. Actually it has not been too bad this year; except of course on the eve of your birthday! The snow, wind and cold on the outside certainly reminded us of 'your' day.
Inside a different story. We had a Birthday party for you and as usual your Mom was cooking all day. We shared our prayers and Andy moments and enjoyed a Super Sunday, and saved
the best for last. We know how you loved cake; well you have a rival in little Mia! Check out the picture!
Mom and I and Julie tried to get her to blow them out! She did succeed in drooling several of them out but then did she chow down. Hilarious!
We miss you Andy and trust your birthday was filled with the best candles of all...the stars!
Love you and check out this photo.
Dad and Mom
shelley h. casey
February 2, 2015
Happy Birthday, Andrea!
Thinking of you so, and missing you more.
Thanks for the snow -- one of your favorite things. It was quite the dramatic and beautiful storm ... from my vantage point, like being inside a snow globe. Which is probably the same view you have, but on a much bigger scale! Hope you enjoyed it, too, sweetie.
Thanks for all good things sent your Dad's way lately -- just stay on him to make sure he 'behaves' and heals up, okay??
Your Mom is so remarkable and strong, and Julie and Troy with their beautiful Mia ... all together, you have a beautiful family that is doing great things here, with you, every day.
You are so loved, Andrea. So treasured. So missed.
God bless you on your birthday, and every day.
Love you, always and forever.
auntie shelley
Merry Christmas 2014 The wonder of it all!
Gordon Haberman
December 25, 2014
with Santa and Mom...just like you
Gordon Haberman
December 25, 2014
A Happy kid!
Gordon Haberman
December 25, 2014
Dear Andrea...
we so miss you kiddo yet your presence is in every day we live..
thought I would share these with you..
Little Mia reminds me so much of you!
We Love you!
Shelley Haberman Casey
December 24, 2014
Dear Andrea,
Merry Christmas to you. Or, as I write this, technically Christmas Eve, at least in Wisconsin.
This is always your, our, family's big holiday night.
I longingly recall the many special Christmas Eve's we celebrated together, you and Julie as little ones right into your young adult years, with your Mom & Dad, and Grandpa and then just Grandma Haberman and me. I will always treasure those most special Christmas celebrations. The food (your Mom's amazing, delicious recipes), the many many gifts of course ... but mostly, and most importantly, the genuine joy.
You and Julie brought the fun and the giggles and the spirit of Christmas alive every year. From your special outfits, first sewn by your Mom for many years, to the anticipation of Grammy and me to see your Christmas pictures, to the absolute and unfettered happiness that was so evident in your parents' eyes as they had their family all together, spending precious time with you and Julie, away from work and the world, ready to celebrate the holiday in all its meaning, and to unfurl that year's surprises and watch your delighted reactions.
As you grew a bit older, to more recent Christmases, I did not spend them with you ... but the photos your Mom & Dad took tell the entire story. Your family love only grew and grew. The fun, the smiles, the traditions, the private jokes, the giggles continued.
Being all together at Christmas, especially when you would come home from Chicago, was the only gift your parents would ever need.
Andrea, you see all, know all, your angelic powers and radiant spirit and presence are often felt, but even if not tangibly evident, I know they are always there.
So I know you see me, as I gaze at photos of Julie and Mia and Troy ... mesmerized by Julie's great beauty -- grateful and heartened to see the genuine smile and the life and love now returned to her eyes. By Troy's fun and loving ways and deep caring he has for his love Julie, and their most magical child, Mia. Adorable, smart, feisty, strong, curious ... Mia is all this and so, so much more.
Mia has restored a great well of love and hope -- and smiles -- and allowed it to resurface in the lives of your Mom and Dad.
I gaze at their photos long and often, as I can also see you in them. I can tell what a superb mother you'd be. I know your beauty could only grow. And can envision so clearly the life and dreams you and Al had planned and were ready to turn into reality. I see the fun and camaraderie you and Julie would have as adult sisters raising their children. I see the remarkable and endlessly giving grandparents your Mom and Dad are.
These are the thoughts that surface often, but are even more apparent on a night such as Christmas Eve.
Andrea, you know we are all holding you near. You are always, always close in heart and soul and mind to all that love you. So close as to be one entity.
You know your Mom carries you with her every step of the way. You two are a team, each and every day.
You know your Dad advocates for you, every day, in every way possible. That never changes. Time, space, distance ... no matter. He is unwavering. You know.
People near and far, good, kind, amazing people, think of you so often, in a thousand different ways.
You know you are never, ever forgotten.
Love you Andrea, and miss you so.
Merry Christmas, sweetie.
always and forever,
auntie shelley
(love and hugs to Grammy and Grandpa, too, okay? Missing you all ... )
Jennifer Christianson
December 21, 2014
We are thinking of you today. As a family we think and talk about you often. As we approach the holidays much love to you and all that love you. We will always remember and never ever forget.
Mary Brown
September 13, 2014
Andrea,
It was a very gloomy wet and cold day here in Wisconsin this past Thursday, the way most Americas felt 13 years ago. Please keep watch over your family and friends. Love you and miss you. Soon very soon, maybe when my husband, Michael retires we shall go to New York. You are in my thoughts all the time.
Lynn Tachick
September 11, 2014
Andy, I think about you all the time. I promise never to forget.
Christine Schild
September 11, 2014
I'm think about you all today. God bless you all.
The Freys
September 11, 2014
Thinking of all of you today. Katie dressed in red white and blue today and said before she went to school. We won't let them forget mom. We will always remember. Love all of you, and feel so blessed to have you as part of our family.
Judi
September 11, 2014
Andrea, I didn't know you, but I think of you so often, especially today on the anniversary - your angel day - please continue to watch over your family and friends as they are all still broken hearted at losing you - You will forever be loved and remembered - RIP sweet girl ...
Shanna Robbins
September 11, 2014
May she be remembered with love. We will always remember you!!!!!!
You must have been so brave!!!
!!!!!!!!! :)
Elizabeth Rydzik Biskobing
September 11, 2014
Thinking of you all today, dear Haberman family. My current students will again be reminded of the impact of my lovely former student named Andrea and of her dear family; they will know that this wasn't just a date in history. Blessings to you all.
Your beautiful niece...Mia with a piece of WTC steel in Kewaskum. Little MIA will always know she has an Aunt named Andrea!
Gordon Haberman
September 9, 2014
As we journey again to be with you in NY Andy, I think of all of the kind people, many strangers to us; who know of you and remember you with kind thoughts in their hearts. God Bless them.
We will see and be with you soon.
We love you Andrea. Mom & Dad
September 8, 2014
I read an article about you in a New York newspaper today. I have been to the memorial garden set up by Good Shepard Church in my neighborhood, and seen your photo many times. I never knew the full story till today. Our community looks forward to welcoming the parents this upcoming memorial remembrance day. Blessings to your family.
Heidi Manak
June 19, 2014
I never met you, Andrea, but saw your memorial a week ago today. Words cannot describe how moved I was and I will always remain so. My heart goes out to your parents and entire family who clearly love and cherish you so much. I pray that all those responsible for this unthinkable act that caused so much sorrow for so many will be brought to justice and that America will resolve to keep up this fight for as long as it takes.
Rebecca Bilbrey
February 3, 2014
Andrea,
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I'm sorry I'm a day late with wishing you a Happy Birthday! As you know we had to share our Birthday with The Super Bowl this year so yesterday was a bit hectic! I woke-up this morning and had planned to go down to the Memorial for a Birthday visit but the snow is coming down like crazy and we are expecting almost a foot of it today! I will plan to get down there this week tho! Thanks for the dime yesterday. I can't remember a Birthday since I've known you that I haven't gotten one. Just another amazing way that you continue to make your presence known. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of you and wish that you were living a life like mine. You deserved so much more Andy. One day we will all hopefully understand why things had to be this way. Until then...please continue to bless us with your amazing spirit. it is truly something beyond needed!
All of my Best,
Becky
Lynn Tachick
February 3, 2014
Happy birthday (a day late). I did not NOT remember, I'm just late in posting this :)
Enjoyed a very sunny day on your birthday. It was very nice. My grandma shares your birthday, too. I spoke with my grandma yesterday and she said that she received a birthday balloon, but it accidently escaped. I told her that she was sending you a birthday present :)
Thinking of you!
Mary Brown
February 3, 2014
Good morning Andrea, belated birthday wishes to you. I received an iPad for Christmas and have been trying to navigate myself around all the new buttons and where to go. It is been a long cold winter and groundhog states six more weeks of winter, like that would have changed. My former neighbor was in New York in Oct and said she saw your name on the memorial along with Christine
Olender. I heard the joyful news about Julie having a baby girl. What fantastic news that must have been for your family. I was telling my grandson, Noah about you. His third grade class was talking about Sept 11 and I told him of the Two wonderful young ladies I knew that went to heaven that day. I showed him your photo and he said "Nana, Andrea will always look the same, she is
a pretty girl, who has long hair like aunti Paula,". "Forever young" was my response. . Paula is my daughter who turn 37 on Dec 22nd.
As I look out my kitchen window and see the barren elm tree in my yard, thoughts turn to the new budding that will be arriving soon. Please hold us all close to you and continue to watch over your family and old friends as well. Miss you & love you lots, Mary
Mom and Mia
Gordon Haberman
February 2, 2014
Thought I'd share another picture Andy.
Mom and Mia!
Christmas 2013...love you Dad
Little Mia
Gordon Haberman
February 2, 2014
Dearest Andrea...HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
It has been so long since I wrote, yet as you are aware, you occupy my mind all of the time. And here we are, just a few hours from your 38th bithday! And as you also know, our winter this year is as was the one in which you were born...cold and snow and then some more of the same! This year is easier however, I have a plow as opposed to a shovel! ( I remember keeping the driveway in West Allis as clear as possible so we could get out when the time came!)
Andy, already your Al has called, he was on his way home from plowing also. His and Jenifers little Al is almost 2 years old now and beginning potty training. What a beautiful young man and Al is a such a proud and caring Dad.
I bet you have been watching and also keeping watch on the big big news of the year! Julie, almost to the hour of little Al's birth one year to the day; had a baby girl! Mia Kathleen Osmus was born on April 18th 2013. Mom and I were at the hospital and I wore the same tie as I had on when you and Julie were born. She has captured our hearts and reminds me so much of you at that age, cautious, curious of all things but yet happy just as you were.
Your mom has a sparkle back in her eye which has been missing for 12 1/2 years. Which is truly a miracle.
Knowing you would not mind we have converted your room into a nursery and your presence is felt both there and through out the entire house. The house has now become a gigantic jungle gym. The high chair is being used and your old pound puppies and cabbage patch kids are being used and played with. I'm nervous yet but am fascinated in the wonder of it all over again Andy...Oh the possibilities, the trust of a baby and the possibilities of the futur. Every day however is tempered with the knowledge that we know there would have been more such happy beginings if you would have been with us. I know that your watching us like an eagle so keep Mia, Julie and Mom safe and healthy.
Julie is nothing short of a great Mom ( nervous yet loving and happy )and Troy is a beaming proud and loving father. Mia is in great hands.
Your Mom and I were in New york last September and kind friends were able to get us up to the 92nd floor and beyond of the new Freedom Tower. It was something I had to do. We are so sorry Andy, and I still am unable to fathom the fear you must have felt. But I felt it with you up there. I will never forgive those responsible for what they did to you and all the loved souls with you. I am committed to hold those responsible to account.
I feel very close to you in New York, and there are many who watch over you at the memorials and in Inwood and remember you on a daily basis. And while none of them knew you, they also reflect on your life and on your loss.
I read the letters written on this site and the letters and cards we receive at home and trust that no one will forget.
Today we will celebrate your life by remembering, with both laughter and tears, the completness you brought to our lives and will also mourn the loss of your physical presence in all that we do.
Continue to guide us and to watch over us all.
We miss you so...
Love, Your Dad
Rebecca Bilbrey
December 26, 2013
Andrea,
As you know life has been quite stressful lately. Sometimes when I feel overwhelmed I look down and there is a dime. I know it's from you and I know EXACTLY what you are saying to me. I continue to pray for you and your family and continue to be grateful for the blessing of knowing them and having you be a part of my world as well. As you know we have moved back to NYC and I look forward to seeing your amazing family in Sept. and visiting the memorial on our Birthday this year as well. Keep providing us all with the AMAZING gift of your spirit and know that you are thought of daily! Merry Christmas Sweet Andy!
shelley casey
December 25, 2013
Hi, Andrea
& Merry Christmas!
It's been far too long between postings ... but you know, you're always in heart and mind and thoughts, everyday, and especially around your favorite holiday, Christmas.
Thank you for watching so closely over all, and being there for everyone.
You must know of my extraordinary gift from young Lauryn this holiday ... she's such a wonderful young lady (as you also know) and the dimes are much appreciated. Know you'll keep sending them her way ...
Dearest Andrea, you are deeply missed, always near and so precious to your friends and family here, and of course, in Heaven.
Let's stay connected, okay?
Love,
Auntie Shelley
Elizabeth Rydzik Biskobing
September 11, 2013
Peace to all of you...today and always.
Kristine Abler
September 11, 2013
Andrea--Gordy, Kathy, and Julie.
My heart breaks daily since this has happened. On Sept. 12, 2001 I hung a picture of Andy, Julie, and I kicking our Dad's but in Canada fishing for rock bass! It is still on my bedroom wall and I think about her every day as I look at this photo every day since this has happened. Andrea, thank you for teaching me how to fish bone braid, thank you for Canada, thank you for being so cool, smart, and fun. I will miss you forever and I miss your family very much. I have not seen them in a long time. Andrea, you and I will always be in Canada fishing those bass and swimming in the lakes of Ontario. :( Rest in peace my friend. Hugs every day to Gordy, Kathy, and Julie. Also to all her relatives and friends. Again, Thank you sweet Andrea for being my friend when I was a kid. You will be forever missed, in my heart forever, and thought about every day. I will never ever forget you.
September 11, 2013
I never met you, but heard about your story a year ago and was moved. I visited New York last year and went to the memorial for the first time. I found your name and said a prayer. I can't believe that this happened 12 years ago or even happened at all. Prayers for your family.
September 11, 2013
I am think about you and your family today. God bless.
shelley h casey
September 11, 2013
Andrea, dear,
You know my heart and thoughts.
It is impossible to believe 12 years have passed. Yet, the calendar date says so. To turn back time ... if only.
As always, you have family and friends in NY, walking your path, cherishing and honoring you, as others are doing in WI and across the country.
Your parents and sister are heroic in their continued engagement in life, and their purposeful forward vision. They are so strong! You must know you provide much of that motivation for them.
I regard them -- and you -- in awe as I witness the 'teamwork' you all still share. A family, forever. Nothing can change that, ever.
You are deeply loved and missed, Andrea -- today, tomorrow, always.
Love, always and forever,
Aunty Shelley
September 11, 2013
Andrea, I went to your services after the attacks and I still think of you constantly. May God bless you.
Jessica Osenbrugge
September 11, 2013
You are forever in my heart Andrea. God be with you. Peace and light to your family, friends, and loved ones. You are so very deeply missed and loved.
Luann
September 11, 2013
I am holding you and your family in my heart today, dear Andrea.
September 11, 2013
Andrea. I never knew you but have been deeply moved by your story ever since I started reading about you years ago. Today, of course, I'm thinking of you more than usual. I pray for comfort and peace for your family - and that they know that many people like me - strangers - care deeply and will truly never forget you. Also I know it's a huge longshot but if the dimes are from you - thanks.
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