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Alan W. Friedlander was a family man with a handful of passions: bicycling, planning vacations and photography. He bought his wife, Helen, a bicycle, and the second weekend in September they headed from their home in Yorktown Heights, up the Westchester County Trail to Baldwin Place. When their daughter, Laura, was living abroad, they visited her, and he enjoyed studying books and maps whenever the family traveled.
The couple met at the Gristede's on Second Avenue at 68th Street, where he stocked shelves and she worked the checkout. They were married for 28 years, with a son, Steven, 26, and Laura, 22. Mr. Friedlander, 52, a senior vice president at Aon Corporation, had recently enjoyed taking pictures of the figure skating competitions his wife liked to attend. "He really did everything well, and he was a patient guy," she said, "so he took a gazillion shots." His four best pictures are displayed in a spare bedroom.
Mrs. Friedlander wanted to add one last thing: "My favorite time of day was 10 til 7 at night, because that's when he came home."
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Kristen
September 11, 2023
My heart goes out to your family. Today a a friend of mine posted a picture of the 9/11 memorial and I saw Alan’s name. I decided to look up who he was. My condolences go out to whoever may read this and just know today in 2023 I am thinking and praying for all the family’s still grieving this unthinkable event. More than anything I wanted to tell Alan’s family that I’m thinking of all of you and praying for you all.
Cindy Roe
September 13, 2021
Remembering Alan on the 20th anniversary of 9/11...
Patricia Lisi
September 13, 2020
Gone but never forgotten. So grateful to have had you in my life. Patricia (Dobler) Lisi
John Piligno
September 11, 2020
Every year on this date I remember Alan. We both were in Risk Control and were together at many meetings and I enjoyed his company.
John Piligno
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Tony Rubolotta
September 11, 2020
I had the pleasure of meeting and having dinner with Alan on his business trip to Chicago about two weeks prior to 9/11. I truly enjoyed his company and will not forget him.
September 12, 2014
Gone but never forgotten my sweet friend. xxo
Michelle Upperman
September 11, 2014
I do not know you and I have never met you but, I was given your name today at the 9/11 Bike Rally in DC. I came to the internet to know more about the person whose name I wore on my shirt. It sounds as if you were a wonderful person and a hero. I read a very loving tribute from your son with regards to you being his hero. How wonderful. Your sacrifice will never be forgotten. I am privileged to have your name and I hope with all my heart that your family has found a small amount of peace in the last 13 years. I know personally that you never forget as I lost my father when I was 18 but, you do figure out a way to go on. RIP Alan.
September 12, 2013
Gone but not forgotten.... Great guy. Pat Dobler
Beulah Jones-Houston
September 10, 2013
Hey Friedlander!! I still have a copy of the original photo you took in AZ with my name on the street sign. Your wife was so kind to send it to me in a frame. I also keep that on my desk like the original. As always, you are still in my thoughts....
September 12, 2012
think of you often. Posted you on my FB page and told my friends about you. You were a very special person. Til we meet again may God hold you in the palm of His hand.... God's love to your family as well. You left a hole in a lot of hearts....
September 12, 2012
You and your family are in my prayers.
Donna Riviezzo-Caldarola
September 10, 2012
Alan I so fondly remembering working with you at A&A. On 9/11/01 the world lost a very special light.
April 23, 2012
Remembering you on your birthday.....xo Pat Dobler
Maryann Petti
September 11, 2011
I remember Alan today and it was a pleasure to know and work with him. God Bless him and his family. May they always cherish his memory.
Pat Dobler
September 10, 2011
Gone but never forgotten...the Dobler Family
September 12, 2010
feel free to contact me. Pat Dobler
September 12, 2010
I remember Alan playing accordion too but I didn't meet him til he was around 14. Knew him when he went to Stuyvesant and CCNY. Would love to know more of his brothers James and Dennis. Our families were friends. Anyone? Pat Dobler
Maria D.
September 11, 2010
Thank you for saving my mother Mary Lou's life. Although she survived that day she is now in God's care as well. May God bless you and your family.
September 9, 2010
I remember when you were about 11 or 12 yrs old playing the accordion in your Mons kitchen,your smile was like no other,I can still see your face.Ihave nice memorys of Alan.
September 9, 2010
Til we meet again may God hold you in the palm of His hand. Always in our hearts.... Pat Dobler
Harriet Dempsey
September 7, 2010
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Christine Stewart
September 6, 2010
Dear Helen,
You were my best friend in grammar school and Alan and I worked together at Gristede's too. I was shocked, a couple of years after the event, to learn he was one of the victims of 911. I wanted to get in touch with you but didn't know how. You have all been in my prayers. He was a great guy.
Christine Farrell
Harriet Dempsey
September 15, 2009
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.
Patricia Dobler
September 11, 2009
On this the 8th anniversary of 9/11, the horrible tragedy that took your life and of many more wonderful people, I want you to know that although you are gone from us for now, you will NEVER be forgotten. Until we meet again may God hold you in the palm of His hand. With love and affection for my dear friend and 1st boyfriend, Patricia Dobler
Doug Abraham
April 23, 2009
Happy Birthday!!!
Doug Abraham
April 23, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
David Leathers
October 11, 2007
Only yesterday I heard that Alan was lost on that terrible day six years ago. He was a wonderful person and I and a few of my Anistics colleagues knew him as our teacher in the mid 1980s. After work he would come over from the 1185 A&A office to guide us toward our A.R.M. certification. He was quite a person, a consummate professional and gentleman as well. My fellow A.R.M. students and I are all really saddened and pray that God will grant his family peace. We deeply respected him for his knowledge and his willingness to share that knowledge with us. He was one of those special people that made a difference.
Judy Lazenby
May 6, 2007
It has been a long time since 9/11. I was biking today (5/6/07) on the North Country Trailway. I had gone about as far as I could and was going to sit on the next bench while my husband went further. I was gald for the rest and happy to read about Alan who the bench was decated to. I'm sure we have been great friends if ever we would have had our lives cross paths. Thank you all for the bench and the opportunity to sit with Alan!!
Doug Abraham
April 23, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
Kristine
October 30, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
October 9, 2006
In remembrance....
Mathew Bolton
July 30, 2004
To the Friedlander family,
My deepest sympathies to you for your loss. Please know that the Friedlander family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Mat
Thomas Bentley
March 15, 2004
To the family of Alan Freidlander;
I have worked at A+A /Aon for more than 25 years and was one of the lucky people on that terrible day.
I had worked with + for Alan some years ago when A&A's insurance claims handling unit's were reorganised in to one dept headed by Alan.
I found him to be a gentlemen who, [unlike myself] always seemed to be in a good mood.
I was not a close friend of Alan's but I do remember him as a true professional and a gentlemen and I still think of him often.
Sincerly:
Tom Bentley
Marine Claims
Doris Leslie
September 11, 2003
Dear Alan:
From 1185 to WTC! Who would have thought it would end like this? God's richest blessings to your family to bear such tragic loss. I hope you are wrapped in the arms of Our Lord and Savior. RIP, Alan.
Jackie Kearns
September 11, 2002
Dear Helen,
I thought that after a year I would be able to find the words to express my condolences and to pay tribute to the truly amazing person that you married. But even now, after 12 months, I'm at a total loss. We all spent a good week in London at the Alexander Howden training experience,and you and Alan were very kind to include me in the sightseeing activities. I hope you are coping the best you can. Please know that you are in my prayers. God Bless you and your family.
Martha Hunter
September 11, 2002
It was such a please to know such a bright and cheerful person. I am glad I was able to service his computer and his group. They were nice people. May he rest in peace.
Martha (former AON IT employee)
Jo Ann Barbaro
September 11, 2002
Dear Family,
I shall remember Alan's smile; what a gentleman.
The day before, he was visiting our floor, and as he passed my desk to leave, he called out "Hello" to me. And I called back, "Alan Friedlander!".
In my prayers always.
Robert, Nancy, Dustin and Laura Sutton
September 8, 2002
In memory of Alan Wayne Friedlander
We did not know Alan, but my husband is the brother of Cam Sutton who works for Aon. I came across this on the internet and wanted to express our deepest sympathy. I have thought of all the lives lost that day and especially of the ones from my brother-in-laws office and it still hurts deeply. Our deepest deepest sympathy to the family.
Nancy Sutton
Douglas Clarke
September 4, 2002
I was one of the scores of teachers who visited AON in the summer of 2001. I met Alan who had organized the tour. I thought he presented himself as genuinely interested in Education. He was gentle , kind and courteous. May his soul rest in peace.
susan monti-luciano
July 28, 2002
Alan - I will always remember you from A&A 1185 and how much fun you were to talk to. Although I worked in the Loss Prevention Department, we were able to at least be friends. We lost many coworkers in this tragedy but not a day goes by that I will forget you and everyone else.
MSgt William Crow
July 15, 2002
Dear Friedlander Family,
My heart aches as I read the biography of your husband, father and friend. I hope you will take comfort in knowing that your country will remember your sacrifice, as untimely and unwilling as it may have been. I proudly serve in the USAF and have been especially torn by this horrific tragedy. As a small token of remembrance, I have become a part of the Memorial Flag Project
and have been blessed with being chosen to stitch Alan's name on my portion of the flag. I consider it an honor...and hope you have the chance to see the completed project with his name on it someday soon. Being able to see Alan's photo and reading something of his life, brings special meaning as I work on this project. God Bless America!
Michael Iezzi
May 23, 2002
Father we entrust our brother Alan to your mercy. You loved him greatly in this life: now that he is freed from all its cares, give him happiness and peace forever. Welcome him now into paradise where there will be no more sorrow, no more weeping or pain, but only peace and joy with Jesus your Son, and the Holy Spirit forever and ever.
Crystal Cote
April 29, 2002
I'm not really sure what to say except that...the horror of that day will live in all of our memories forever. It is one thing to think about the fact that so many people were lost, but it is completely another to think about those people as people, with lives and families etc. I hadn't had much interaction with Mr. Friedlander in the past few years, but from what I remember (through those 12 year old eyes and 6th grade attitudes) he was a very nice and caring man. And a great father. The Friedlander's have been and will continue to be in my prayers.
Sue Small
March 27, 2002
Friedlander Family,
When this tragedy occurred our church was giving out cards of the missing persons and I received Mr. Friedlander's. My family and I pray everyday for you and your family to find healing. As I read the entries in the guest book tears stream down my face. You must have wonderful memories, hold them close. I will continue to pray for you and your family.
Ed Giglio
March 14, 2002
Mr. Friedlander, I have never met you. My deep sympathies go out to all of your loved ones. As I mentioned, I never met you but you are a fellow Northern Westchester resident...you look very familiar...I may have possibly seen you at Taconic Road Runner events. From the sound of it, you touched many lives....I will have your family in my thoughts.
Beulah Houston
March 5, 2002
Dear Friedlander,
You were such a great person to work with. It is hard to believe that I won't see again in this lifetime. When I first met you when came over with the A&A merger I wasn't sure if I was going to be able to joke around you because you seemed to be a "by the book" person but boy was I wrong. I miss hearing you call me "BJ...H". You always remembered my birthday and I still wish I had that plant you gave me a few years back. It was so thoughtful of you to take a picture of that street sign in Arizona with my name on when you were on vacation with your family. I wish I still had that photo. My son liked the fact that you were a lefty like him. He asks about you too. I miss coming in & going to your office to tell you "Good Morning" or to just talk about stuff in general. It was a great pleasure working for you. Everytime I read a "Dilbert" cartoon I will think of you. You and your family will always be in my thoughts and prayers.
BJH
Maureen Rivas
February 23, 2002
I know Alan through his infectious smile and wonderful personality. He is my best friends brother. Always a pleasant thought of him and his lovly wife Helen have filled my memories. Alan is and will always be in a treasure for me. Not many big brothers will stop and be as interested as Alan has always been to their younger siblings friends. Of course we are all adults now and his kindness has never changed towards me or my family, Thank you Helen for sharing him with all of us. All My Love Always To Helen, Steve & Laura
Beth Carmichael
January 29, 2002
Alan was a kind friend and mentor to me at Alexander & Alexander during the 10 years I was there. He was warm, generous and funny, and the world is diminished with his loss. God bless his family, and those who loved him, and his colleagues.
January 19, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON ALAN WAYNE FRIEDLANDER AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01...AMEN
Phyllis Newbert
January 17, 2002
Dear Alan,
We met because you had the concern and safety of your co-workers at heart and initiated the purchase of equipment to treat those experiencing a cardiac arrest. Our discussion was interupted by a call you received from Europe. It was your daughter and I could see how pleased you were to be speaking to her. There was no need to apologize as I admired your appreciation of the importance of family. In the short time of our meeting I learned that you were someone who sincerely cared about others. My company was proud to work with Aon and we met so many wonderful people, all thanks to you. My prayers are with you and your family.
Eleine Ruokonen
January 9, 2002
Dearest Alan,
I was brought over to A&A from Jardine's. You interviewed me for the claims department. Then we where all brought over to Aon. Departments where changed and I was sent to another area. But when I came to Soledi with questions you still remembered me and always had a hello for me. You will be missed.
Teresa Jahn
January 1, 2002
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Jim Carlina
December 17, 2001
Alan, we didn't have too much interaction at A & A , but I remember you and your smile. May God bless you and keep you forever. May your family take comfort in your place in heaven.
jacki galloway
December 7, 2001
to the family of awf, may the love u share keep u all strong & comforted. hold on to the memories always remember. my thoughts & prayers
Musser Hall @Ursinus College
December 5, 2001
We just wanted to give our sympathies and let you know that you are not alone during this time of tragedy. May God be with you, and we wish you a Merry Christmas! You will never be forgotten!!
Barbara Capalbo
December 1, 2001
My heart goes out to you and your loved ones. I hope it helps to know that others are still thinking of and praying for you and your loved ones particularly at this saddest "holiday" time of the year.
Doris Leslie
November 30, 2001
Dear Alan: What a sad time we're all going thru. If only you could know that you are among a lot of old friends from A&A and Aon. You have always been such a kind and gentle person. May your family gather strength from the many, many friends you left behind. Rest in peace, Alan, until......
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