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Raymond Meisenheimer had the new patio penciled in, down to individual flowers and the Jacuzzi. He was supposed to retire in November, his 20th anniversary with the New York City Fire Department, and he and his wife, Joanne, and their daughters, Lauren, 15, and Kaitlynn, 13, were supposed to move from West Babylon, N.Y., to Holtsville.
"We found the house of our dreams and were getting it built," Mrs. Meisenheimer said. "He got to see up to the spackling. We spent our mornings out here; we'd have breakfast at the house. We had a lot of plans. Unfortunately it didn't work out. But he's here, I know that. I know that."
Mr. Meisenheimer planned to finish the basement. "It was going to be the He-Man Woman-Haters Club, because he had all girls," his wife said.
"He always called me Queenie, that was his nickname, and of course he was the king," Mrs. Meisenheimer said. The girls played along. "He'd say, `Who's the king?' and they'd say, `Oh you are, Daddy!' That's just the way he was."
All four were involved in choosing cabinets and tiles for the new house.
"Right now my girls want to follow through with everything he wanted," she said. "We are going to finish the basement and patio, finish it the way he wanted."
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J.R. Cook
September 11, 2021
Hello family and friends of Raymond. I had the honor of carrying Raymond’s photo as I did the 9/11 stair climb today for the 20th anniversary. Many thoughts and prayers are with you all today.
Tom H
September 11, 2017
Today, 09/11/2017, we remember you Ray. Thank you for your service. To Ray's family members .. Share some of Ray's special characteristics thru your actions. All the best, with much regards.
Martin Misenhimer
September 12, 2016
WE REMEMBERED YOU YESTERDAY, 9/11/2016, AT OUR ANNUAL MEISENHEIMER REUNION IN MEISENHEIMER, NORTH CAROLINA. I WILL NEVER FORGET.
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Sue Riordan
September 10, 2016
RIP hero!
Robert Roemer
September 18, 2015
Hello to those who knew Raymond meisenheimer. This year I carried him for the Lancaster stair climb. It was an honor and a privilege. I hung his picture with the rest of the crew from rescue 3 on my wall. Every stair climb I do I carry all the men I have carried in the years past. These angels will not be forgotten.
TERRI MILLER
September 11, 2015
I have worn your bracelet to remember you and your family, and your sacrifice. Thank you.
Bailey Joonas
August 14, 2015
Hello family and friends of Raymond Meisenheimer. My name is Bailey Joonas, I am a voluenteer firefighter at Bluetownship FD in Kansas. I have decided that in memory of the great men and women of the fire service who lost their lives at ground zero that I wanted to participate in the Wichita memorial stair climb. In preparation for the climb I not only have been training physically but also reading up on the amazing man I am climbing for. I know that the short time I climb can never change what happened that day. But I wanted to honor such an amazing individual both in the fire service an out. Pest in peace brother. We'll take it from here.
S J. Friscia III
November 18, 2014
In Memory
With Honor & Respect.
October 15, 2014
Ray you seem like a person that people look up to you set the example at how people should live you will be in your families hearts forever I never met you but I would think we are related in some way my name is walter meisenheimer in Tulsa Oklahoma may you rest in peace and your family should be very proud
walter meisenheimer Tulsa oklahoma
Hugh Carbine
September 11, 2011
God bless the Meisenheimer family for their loss, & for Ray's sacrifice. I used to work for Ray's brother Jim from 1978-81. I wanted to write to say that you are in our prayers, & that we won't forget. Although I never met Ray, I am still friends with his brother Jim. I would have liked to have met Ray, if only to have told him 'Jim' stories. God Bless.
Rose Gattuso
September 11, 2011
Loss is not easier as time passes..we just place a different perspective of what was and try and deal with our emotions.I pray that you are at peace because though it has been Ten years We will never for one moment Forget...
God has you with him and this is the only consolation that helps us endure so many losses..RIP
I have a wristband with Rays name on it and a special Memorial place in my home in honor of our Hero Firefighters..
Peace be with you today Joanne...
Raphael Leboulanger
September 11, 2011
we will never forget. God bless America.
maryann& nick gazzo
September 11, 2011
Ray, You are missed so much.Your girls are beautiful, they always speak of you.A great husband ,father and family man. We all miss you so much. Say hello to Uncle Joe..++++++++++
riana meissenheimer
September 11, 2011
I am Riana Meissenheimer from South Africa, (long lost branch of family)remembering and celebrating Raymond's life.
Mary O'Brien
September 11, 2011
I am wearing a wristband with Ray's name on it that I drew last evening at our church service. I am so honored to be able to remember him & his family throughout this day with love & prayers. Thank you, Ray, for your ultimate sacrifice. You will live forever in my heart.
Martin Misenhimer
September 11, 2011
We will always remember you, especially today.
Rick Stillman
September 1, 2011
Thinking of Ray's family after watching "Rebuilding Ground Zero" tonight and wishing them love.
Barry Misenheimer
May 2, 2011
My name is Barry Misenheimer.
Don't know if am related and never met Firefighter Meisenheimer.
But I went to Ground Zero last night after the announcement of Bin Laden's death and thought of Raymond Meisenheimer's sacrifice. Offering his family and friends my condolences. He is not forgotten and members of the Misenheimer family from North Carolina wish you the best. He makes us proud to share his name.
Tori Mask
September 11, 2010
Today outside of Denver, CO at Red Rocks about 1500 people gathered to walk 9 times around the steep amphitheater, led by so many firefighters in full gear, in memory of the 343. They handed out individual names for each of us to wear in their honor. I was given Ray's name and have spent time this evening learning about him. God bless you and your family on the anniversary of his loss.
Rose Gattuso
September 11, 2010
The Flame is Forever Burning in my Heart for our Lost Heros ..You are never fogotten..Eight years have passed yet the sorrow still lasts..Prayers and tears are shared for you and Brother Firefighters by all who have been touched by this great loss.. God Bless you sweet Angels ..RIP
Martin David Misenhimer
September 6, 2010
This Sat.(9/11/10) the annual Misenheimer
reunion in North Carolina will again remember your heroic sacrifice and will be thinking of your family.
Rose Gattuso
September 11, 2008
Hard to believe that 7 years have gone by and yet it feels like today..
Not a day goes by that I dont think
about the loss of so many brave people..As I sit here writing my memorial to you Ray..I wear a bracelet engraved with your name in honor and rememberence ..Thank you Candace for sending it to me
Rest in Peace Ray....
EMT...Rose
Greg Gottlieb
September 11, 2008
Ray, The Hauppauge Fire Department once again honors you and your FDNY comrades for your supreme sacrifice on this date seven years ago. R.I.P. my friend.
Candace Larson
January 16, 2008
After the tragic event that took Mr Meisenheimer's life I was able to participate in a fundraiser where I purchased a firefighters memorial bracelet. My bracelet has this dedicated firefighters name etched on it, with the 9-11-01 date alongside a U.S. flag. It's metal, silver colored, and in quite good condition. Honestly I don't wear it anymore and thought the family or a friend might want it.
I feel privileged to have made Mr. Meisenheimer's aquaintance (if only vicariously) and send my heartfelt gratitude and sympathy.
Andrea Meisenheimer Ozee
October 6, 2007
While looking for info on Goggle on Meisenheimers, I learned of Raymond's death at ground zero. I wish to extend my condolences and will always wonder could their be a family connection.
Martin David Misenhimer
September 11, 2007
We will never forget.
Rosalie Gattuso
September 11, 2007
Six years have passed but the feelings of anguise still remain.
Somedays it feels like frozen time
when I think about how many great lives were taken. The only way I have to honor you is to to go out there and continue to serve in the service you so much loved and paid for with your Life.
Today I am here in HONOR and pray that this terror will stop..
EMT Rose
North Babylon Fire Co
P Tabbernor
December 31, 2006
In remembrance....
Kristine
November 17, 2006
As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Dave Russell
September 13, 2006
i dont know you,but i know of you,and want to thank you for all you did on that terrible day,god bless your family and god bless you,from myself in the UK and everyone.
Benjamin Montes
September 13, 2006
Thank you for giving up your life to save others,you are a hero in everyones heart.
FDNY Quilt
Rose Gattuso
September 11, 2006
I have not Forgotten....
I will forever remember your Bravery,Courage and Strength.
Dedicated in your memory from the 911 Quilts Organization..
Quilted With Love
Each Patch upon this quilt
Wears the face of an Angel
Scents of innocence of those lost
Bravery of the lives it cost
Every stitch sewn with Love
Embroided with Strength
Decorated with Doves
Attached by Unity
Kindled with Flames
Forever their Memory remains
Never for one moment
will we forget...
September Eleventh,Two Thousand One
Melanie Reilly
July 20, 2006
You are still in my thoughts and prayers. All the good times we all had when I was little. I love and miss you... Thank you for being you.
BEN LAMBERSON
September 11, 2005
RAY,
ITS BEEN 4 YEARS, BUT IT WILL BE A LIFETIME, I REMEMBER LEARNING FROM YOU AS A FIREFIGHTER, YOU WERE A GREAT LEADER AND TEACHER, YOU WERE A SPECIAL FRIEND , AND A VERY SPECIAL FAMILY MAN, BUST MOST OF ALL YOU WERE "HUGE" AS A PERSON. WHAT I HAVE LEARNED FROM YOU AND KEVIN SMITH MADE ME A BETTER FIRE CHIEF AND LEADER, BUT WHAT I LEARNED ABOUT YOU ON SEPT 11, 2001 MADE ME A BETTER MAN. I LOVE YOU RAY
TELL KEVIN THAT THE BOYS FROM THE TOWN OF BABYLON WILL BE TOGETHER SOON AGAIN AS ONE, AS THE BEST
GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY AND GOD BLESS AMERICA
Rose Gattuso
September 10, 2005
Joanne and the girls please know that you are in my thoughts today. Your loss has been great. I write this with heart felt sorrow. I share this prayer
Stars of Life
Driven by your power Lord
so many tasks to perform
Blessed by your hand dear God
No duty is too much to endure
Day or night here to respond
Empowered by your divine Grace
Save life a sacred deed
Your arms around embrace
Should death occur in the line of Duty
So be it as my fate
No task in life could be more fulling
should I be put down to to rest
Know that I died doing
The duty I loved Best
Paramedics..Emt's
We are the stars of life
Be it your will to let us do
Our duty all in strife
Rosalie Gattuso -EMT
Thomas Meisenheimer
January 18, 2005
When in New York last summer, I saw Ray's name as a firefighter who lost his life on 9/11. When I returned home I was able to send for a bracelet with his name on it. That bracelet sits on my fireplace as a memorial to him. Although I never met Ray I think of him often as we share the same last name, "MEISENHEIMER." And my great grandfather, Adam Meisenheimer was a Milwaukee fireman in the early part of the 1900's.
If his wife and kids ever read this, I want them to know that he is in my prayers on a regular basis.
Thomas Meisenheimer
West Bend, Wisconsin
Rosalie Gattuso
September 11, 2004
You are remembered today.
Remembered for the Bravery you and our Brother and Sister Firefighters
have shown. Being an EMT I can relate to the adrenalin rush of responding to a call. Somtimes things come up so fast that we do not know what has swept us. For you Ray it was your fate. I know that you are with 343 of our own.
Not comforting enough for the loss
has been too great for the FDNY.
So as we await your family's persmission to place your photo on
the 911 Memorial Quilt you are never forgotten for your Bravery and time given to help save lives.
God Bless Us All
Thomas Smith
April 12, 2004
Ray Meisenheimer I never have met you. I have a lot in common, I am a paramedic in Mesa Az, an a member of the IAFF Local I60, also I am a Meisenheimer. Your sacrifice & others on 9-11 has made me more proud to be a American and Paramedic. As a Meisenheimer I am proud to call you family. My prayers go out to your family. I know God took you away from us for a reason. Ray I will never forget what you have done for me and man kind. RIP BROTHER
Chief Don Gackenheimer
November 18, 2002
To the Big Guy,
You are really missed. It took 3 people to take your place! I miss being on the golf course with you. You were the best. Don't worry about Joanne and the girls, we will look after them. Till we meet again.
Larry Misenheimer
October 14, 2002
Raymond,
Although we never met, I'm sure you would fit on our family tree somewhere. Thank you so much for all you did for your family, state and country! We had special prayer for you at our last family reunion of Misenheimers/Meisenheimers/Michimers in Mt. Pleasant, NC in September, 2002. It was our 17th reunion and all Misenheimers (no matter how you spell your last name) are invited and their descendants.
Our prayers are with your family.
Truly,
Larry Misenheimer, Staunton, VA
Walter Misenheimer, Albemarle, NC
Steve Meisenheimer
September 20, 2002
I know you loved your career in the fire service as much as you loved your family at home and on the job. You made a sacrafice that can never be re-paid but it will never be forgotten by us in the service. I pray you are in a better place and that your family is at peace. God Bless the Meisenheimer family.
Your bother in the service,
Steve Meisenheimer-Captain
Benicia Fire Department
Dominick Farinella
September 16, 2002
Ray
Your personality, zeal for life and endless energy was contagious. Beacuse of you many of us and the world in general is a better place.
From the wine&cheese, to weddings and children, life was always exciting.
THANK YOU for being my friend and for changing the world!
Dom
Lynn Van Gurp & Family
September 10, 2002
Ray, you are missed everyday by so many. You left behind a myriad of people who you've inspired and left an impression on in such a short time on Earth. I'll never forget your "big as life" presence and your sense of humor. Your family has been blessed with memories of you and the love and support of so many.
We will never forget!!
Raymond Stender
May 19, 2002
Ray as a Bronx Dispatcher for 22 yrs it was my pleasure in knoing you.My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
Angie Campbell
May 7, 2002
**********GOD BLESS YOU**********
Patricia Minton
May 2, 2002
Ray,
THE KING!!!! MY THOUGHTS ARE ALWAYS
WITH YOU. MY PRAYERS ALWAYS WITH YOUR WIFE AND TWO BEATIFUL DAUGHTERS.I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU YOU TOUCHED MY LIFE AND YOU DID'NT EVEN KNOW IT. A SIMPLE "HELLO THIS IS THE KING , PUT THE QUEEN ON THE PHONE"
LITTLE DID I KNOW I WAS SPEAKING WITH A HERO, A MAN WITH SO MUCH COURAGE, A MAN THAT THAT LOVED HIS
FAMILY SO MUCH, THAT HE WOULD DO ANY THING TO BRING THEM JOY, AND HAPPINESS. I KNOW GOD HAS YOU ON ONE OF HIS HIGHEST THRONES CAUSE THATS WHERE YOU BELONG. LOOKING DOWN
OVER YOUR FAMILY SEEING THEM ,LOVING THEM,BEING PROUD OF THEM. IT MAY NOT SEEM LIKE I KNEW YOU WELL BUT I DID THROUGH THE EYES
OF YOUR WIFE.RAY MEISENHEIMER RESCUE 3 I SALUTE YOU!!!!!!!! YOU WILL ALWAYS BE A HERO IN MY BOOK...
Elisabeth Meisenheimer-Smith
April 25, 2002
Thankyou for the gift you gave. I know that you are with our eternal father and are at peace. God bless you and you're family.
THOMAS MEISENHEIMER
April 23, 2002
ALTHOUGH WE NEVER MET, WE SHARE THE SAME NAME. THIS MAKES ME, AS AN AMERICAN, MORE PROUD. YOUR ULTIMATE SACRIFICE WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. GOD BLESS!!
Randy Taylor
April 18, 2002
Brother Ray,
I remember your first run out of Station 4 in Central Islip, eventhough you were not in the Dept. that long. I have fond memories of you. I pray for you and for your family. You gave you life doing the job you loved.
RW "Randy" Taylor
Deputy Chief Retired
Ocala, FL
March 7, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL HERO..RAYMOND MEISENHEIMER AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK...MAY JESUS AND HIS SAINTS GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
Reg Barrow
March 6, 2002
Ray, you don't know me but I am making quilts for both of your daughters. I will put my heart and soul into my job as you put your heart and soul into yours. Thank you! {{{{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Joanne & Jim Price
February 21, 2002
Words cannot say what we feel in our hearts and mind. We both were so worried as we stood and watched 9/11 and immediately thought of Ray, Kevin Smith, and all of our FDNY and NYPD family and friends!
There isn't enough room here to say so many things about Ray, for he was the best! A great freind, a caring firefighter, a wonderful husband and father to his wife and daughters. He was proud of his career and of his family. What great stories we have of Ray, his Dad Rudy, and so many good times when he lived in Florida with my sister and her husband! So many good stories Jim and Ray together with all the other fine men of the East Farmingdale Fire Department!
Not only have we been grieving and feeling for his family during this difficult time, we realize just how many more lives Ray would have saved with his work in the FDNY and providing countless training hours to new firemen as well!
Our hearts, thoughts, and prayers go to his wife, and daughters, family and friends! You are missed and thought of each day Ray in both of our hearts! You are now in good company with all the FDNY and EFFD angels we've lost on 9/11 and in the past!
As major New York Jets football fans as we are, it is Ray's passing that has us now saying,
"A true hero saves lives each day, or gives up his own to save another." Ray, you are and always will be a fine example of a true hero! God speed "Buffalo" ... God speed!
Rosalie Gattuso
February 12, 2002
Valentines Day Memoriel
Valentines Day is a Day for Love. This year Valentines Day carries
a whole new meaning. A day to open our Hearts and reflect on the
true meaning of friendship and care for mankind. Too many were taken and there are mass numbers of Empty Hearts that long for their loved ones. I pray today that in someway we can reflect on the Bravery and unselfish actions that our Firefighters have given
to their Ladder families . Let the Hearts of their spouses be filled
with their Love that will live on forever.
St Valentine 's power your arrow with the love of our fallen Firefighters and aim it down into the Hearts of all who feel the pain of their loss. Let today bring feelings of peace so that we can all endure the pain of their abcence.
Valentine Angels
Valentines Tribute to Firefighters and All Lost Souls 9-11-2001
Heavenly Angels..Sky of Blue
Cotton Candy Clouds To Move
Cupid Arrows Love...Through You
White Doves appear..Everwhere..
Breathless Air..Candy Kisses wrapped in Hugs
Filled with Wishes..
Songs of Passion Angelic voices Sing
Harps Play the tune..Heavenly strings
Wrapped in Satin Silky Lace..
Teddy Bears to embrace.....
Candle Light glow.. Lights the Shrine
New Flavored Wine... Tableless Dine
One Long Stem Rose of Red We Send
Symbol of Love..Grows without End
Chocolate represents Sweetness..Contentment
Shower of Tears.....Wash away resentment
Velvet Ladders for the FireFighters Climb
Cupid Wings to fly..Sentiments...Scents
Hearts full of Love....Cards and Signs
Gifts for the Angels...Our Valentine's!
Rosalie Gattuso
Copyright ©2002 Rosalie Gattuso
peter colli
February 6, 2002
RAY, I was honored to know you and to have you share your wealth of knowlege with us in the volunteer fire service of suffolk county. rest in peace till we meet again when I answer my final alarm and I am called home to our Lord.
Mark Hannasch
January 23, 2002
Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treassury of compassion is inexhaustable, look kindly on your servent Raymond and welcome him into your kingdom. Increase your love and mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent but with great confidence submit ourselves to your Holy will so that we might join you in your heavenly kingdom. Amen.
Rosalie Gatuso
January 19, 2002
I happened to have received the phone call from Joanne requesting Dental Records. By the way you took care of your teeth, I can tell you were a dedicated and caring Firefighter. It is strange how one life touches another. I happened to have gone to HS with someone who did his Fire Training with you.
Wih my deepest sympothy I have writeen and dedicate the following in your memorey.
Firefighters Legacy
Raymond Meisenheimer,Peter Brennan.William McGovern,John Crisci ,NYFD HERO FIREFIGHTERS
Firefighters! Where are you?
Can you hear the cries?
Searching for you Frantically
Prayers that you survived
Pieces of the broken hearts
Forever to be mended
Shattered wives and families
Left here unattended
It rips my heart to hear them plead
So many questions to answer
Saddened that still there will remain
So many answers with questions
Eyes filled with tears
Ever growing fears of
Bodies that may never be recovered
Remains may be gone
You will ALWAYS LIVE ON
YOUR Legacy Forever Uncovered
Rosalie Gattuso
Copyright ©2002 Rosalie Gattuso
Carl Geis
January 1, 2002
Dear Raymond,
You dedicated your life to protecting your fellow man. Your courage and bravery certainly helped to save the lives of many people who you never met.
Yet you were there, ready to serve and you risked it all for the most noble cause.
May God keep you near and may He comfort your family. We will forever be in your debt.
May you rest in peace.
J C
December 30, 2001
Dear Raymond,
Rest In Peace! I hope comfort can be found in the realization you and your fellow firefighters who perished will never be forgotten. You made the ultimate sacrifice on September 11. You gave up your life for someone else.
Rest In peace with God and enjoy your new Angel wings!
Teresa Jahn
December 21, 2001
We thank Raymond for dedicating his life to rescue, comfort, and help others as a firefighter. Such a dedication comes with a brave, warm and caring heart. May his kindness, his life and love live on in all his has helped through the years. May his family always feel the warmth of his love penetrate into their hearts. We are deeply sorry for your loss of Raymond. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
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