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Debra Paris Obituary
Debbie Paris, an executive assistant, scheduled her bosses' flights, kept their calendars and managed payments, construction, staff and insurance on their three yachts and several homes — to list some of her duties. "When I needed an autographed photo of Sting," said Suzanne Murphy, a colleague, "I called Debbie. 'No problem,' she said."
When Herman Sandler, president of Sandler O'Neill, bought his yacht, he turned everything over to Mrs. Paris, saying, "Let me know when the money runs out." She did the rest, from hiring a captain to paying the marina. No Problem was his name for the boat — fitting, no doubt, from his point of view, but only because of Mrs. Paris. Mr. Sandler, too, died on Sept. 11.
At home, she managed the gigs for Jimmy, her husband, a rock musician, and was helping him with an album. "She was his muse and inspiration," Ms. Murphy said. Mr. Paris put it more strongly: "She was like my wife, my child, my mother, my best friend," he said. "And I was a husband and father and child and brother to her." Even now he will not reveal her age. "Just say," he said, "she looked 15 years younger than she was."
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Anita
September 11, 2024
Debbie, my very last memory of you is us sitting outside on the bench in front of my family´s bakery on 7th avenue, talking and laughing. You were always making me laugh. You had such a positive way about you.
May you continue to rest in eternal peace. You were unfairly taken away from growing old and taken away from your family and friends.
Sande Pascale
September 11, 2024
I still remember.
Sande Pascale
September 11, 2021
I will never forget you, Deb.
Lee Schultze
September 11, 2020
There was never a workday that Debbie did not start without a smile. Debbie was smart, kind & crazy funny.
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Sande Pascale
September 11, 2020
I still remember, Debbie.
The Kindred Family
January 4, 2020
Sending our sincere condolences to your family. Debbie is still dearly missed and is always remembered. Daily may God give the help needed to cope.
Sande Pascale
September 11, 2019
I havent forgotten.
Lexie
August 30, 2018
Hi Debbie,
I personally did not know you, however I just wanted to pay tribute to you. It's kind of funny how I found my way here. I am a senior in high school and we are doing a project on the victims of 9/11. We were told to find a victim who's last name was close to our own. This is how I have found you. I hope you are at peace and watching over your loved ones. I have done extensive research on you and your life and I can tell you had loving family and friends who still remember you and cherish you. You seem like the kind of person who people loved and I am sure I would have as well. Thank you for being you and all my love and prayers to your friends and family.
Sandra Pascale
February 23, 2017
You and Stacey remain in my thoughts and prayers.
S.J. Friscia III
February 22, 2017
In memory with
Honor & Respect.
Sandra Pascale
September 11, 2012
Hi Debbie! It's been 11 years yet it seems like yesterday. The horror of that day and the sadness we still feel for the loss of our friends and co-workers is ever present.
Sandra Pascale
September 11, 2011
Debbie: You and your family are always in my thoughts and prayers.
Sande Pascale
May 2, 2011
Dear Deb: Osama Bin Ladin is dead and buried in the sea. A little justice.
Sande Pascale
October 4, 2010
It's been nine years and I still think of you often. You were a good person, warm, helpful and you made me laugh. I will always miss talking to you. September 11th will never be just another day for any of us.
Sandra Pascale
September 11, 2009
Debbie: You are never far from my thoughts.
Debra Williams
November 20, 2007
We will all miss you, Deb. Rest with God.
Anthea Zeimann
September 11, 2007
Deb, my darling Deb. You are missed so very much. Remember when we worked on 5th Ave? Every time I use the word "hello" at the end of a comment, I think of you. I miss your laughter...and your craziness. I miss our monthly dinners--you, me, Martha and Lee. You were such a nutcase, Deb--a nutcase we all loved so very much and continue to love. That was what made you Deb--our Deb. I know you must be keeping everyone in stitches in heaven with your incredible sense of humor. When I think of you I smile. You are also an incredible human being. You and Jimmy touched so many lives. We WILL see each other again--that I know for sure.
Your forever friend,
Anthea
Sandra Pascale
September 11, 2007
Debbie: Thank you for all the help you gave me when I first started working at the Bank. I was a little unsure of myself and you guided me through some difficult times in an environment which wasn't exactly conducive to personal comfort! I'll always remember our laughing attempts to set up meetings between Herman, Kirk and Kirk!
Jorge Batista
August 9, 2007
Jimmy: Sorry for your loss. Debbie was wonderful and I am so sorry she died on that terrible day. May you find the strength to get through this.
P Tabbernor
January 26, 2007
In remembrance....
Kristine
November 29, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Michael Iezzi
July 27, 2005
Debbie,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family...May God hold you in the palm of His hand.
Debbie M.
September 11, 2003
God bless you
carol cooper
September 12, 2002
Believe it or not i just found out about my friend Debbie on the 1st year anniversary to the day........9/11/02. I have no words to express how i truly feel at this moment...........I will miss recording with you Debbie and everything that came with that at the studio.........I spoke with Jim and i will look after him for you.....We promised we would continue to write and sing together........Thank you Debbie for your friendship and warmth..........Heaven has a NEW ANGEL.............Love Carol Cooper
Angie Campbell
May 9, 2002
May God Bless you and watch over the family and friends that you left behind that horrible day last September. May you rest in peace forever more.
March 21, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL WOMAN..DEBRA (DEBBIE)PARIS AND MAY HER SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HER LOVING HUSBAND..FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE ..PRAY AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK..MAY JESUS AND HIS SAINTS GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
Matthew Orr
January 4, 2002
May god bless all of Debbie's loved ones that she has left behind.
Teresa Jahn
December 16, 2001
We are very sorry for your loss of Debbie. The world will miss such and organized and caring person. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
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