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Pamela Brown
September 11, 2024
Stephen, we will NEVER, EVER forget. Thinking of you and your family today as we honor your memory. I always remember your infectious laugh that could light up any room. Rest in Peace, Stephen.
Stephen Joseph Shaw
September 11, 2024
Remembering you and your family on this day. Rest in Peace, Stephen.
Stephen Shaw
September 11, 2023
Stephen, I’m here with my family again, thinking of you and your family on this day. Rest in Peace my friend.
Pamela Brown
September 11, 2023
Honoring YOU, Stephen Joseph, and the many lives that were lost. This day never gets easy and pray that we never forget how you made us all laugh. Gillian and Tristan, pray that you are doing well and that you are enjoying life. Tristan must be 24 or 25 now, same age of our son who turned 24 this year. Big hugs and know your Franklin Park, NJ neighbors think of you always.
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Adam Woehler
December 7, 2022
Mark and Amy visited the memorial this week and sent me photos of your name on a rainy Manhattan day. I can’t believe it’s been more than 21 years and we’ve been robbed of a lifetime of friendship together. I think of you and Gillian and Tristian all the time and wonder what our lives would be like with you still here. I miss you. I miss your prank calls to my work phone. I miss all the times we never got to spend together. You are still missed and loved and remembered.
Stephen Joseph Shaw
September 12, 2022
21 years have gone by now. Thinking of you and your family at this time my friend.
Treg and Pamela Brown
September 11, 2022
We all pause TODAY to remember your wonderful spirit and loving heart. May you continue to rest in heavenly peace.
Gillian and Tristian extending an endless, heartfelt hug. May you know that so many continue to keep you in our prayers. the Browns, Treg & Pamela
Tara A Cosma
June 10, 2022
Stephen Joseph
His name caught my eye at the 9/11 memorial. After reading the other comments, he caught the attention of others also.
God Bless his Family
We Will Never Forget!
Jacqueline DeRosa
September 12, 2021
I was privileged to read your name aloud on 9/11/21. I hope that you Rest In Peace and that God blesses your family.
Lisa Kaufman
September 11, 2021
He seemed like a very caring person
Lucy Medina
September 11, 2021
20 years later I always remember you Gillian and your son Tristan on this day. I remember him walking with Tristan to see you at work when we worked together on How Lane. I hope you are all doing well and never forget 911.
Pamela and Treg Brown
September 11, 2021
Extending our prayers to the Joseph Family on this 20th anniversary. Gillian, may his memories of joy and laughter stay within your heart always.
Stephen Joseph Shaw
September 10, 2021
20 years have gone by. Thinking of you and your family this day my friend.
Pamela Brown
September 11, 2020
Gillian, we will NEVER forget. Hope you are well today and sharing fun memories of Steven. We remember is infectious laugh. Big hugs to you and Tristan. Love the Brown Family
Stephen Joseph Shaw
September 11, 2020
Stephen I'm sitting here in lock down from the Pandemic with fires ablaze all around me, praying for some better leadership next year and thinking of you and your family again today. Rest in Peace my friend.
Lucy Gonzalez
September 11, 2020
Hi Gillian,
It’s Lucy I worked with you at SPUH. I recently visited the memorial and thought of you. I hope you are doing well and Tristan.
Pamela Brown
September 16, 2019
Gillian, we think of you quite often and know that Tristian is the same age as Zachary, which is 20. We have and will always keep you in our prayers. ❤ The Browns
Cindy Greif
September 12, 2019
Hi Gillian! I hope all is well with you and Tristan. I pray you are well.
Stephen Joseph Shaw
September 11, 2019
Stephen I was just thinking about you and your family again today.
J.N. Waterman
September 11, 2019
Dear Ms. Joseph and family,
May God continue to bless and comfort you today and always. God's blessings
Stephen Joseph Shaw
September 28, 2017
I visited the memorial a week ago and was deeply moved. I was there back in '89 eating at the Windows restaurant and this was my first time back. As I looked at every name on the memorial - Stephen Joseph seemed to stand out (wonder why?). Looking at his photo inside on the wall I figured he was a lawyer. Once I got home and researched more to find out he was more like me as he was an Operations Officer who would make him the man I would meet with before I worked on his building. I found this very interesting as he reached out to me. Rest in Peace Stephen Joseph, your friend Stephen Joseph Shaw.
Pamela Brown
September 12, 2017
Thought of you yesterday Stephen. We lived on Balboa Lane on FB, with you Gillian and Tristan living in the same development. I'm sure you are missed every day by your family and want your family to know, you are also missed by your friends.
Anon X
February 25, 2017
I visited Ground Zero, the 9/11 memorial site 13/02/17 and took some photos of the site to remember my visit and the only name that is on any of my photos is Stephen Joseph's, when I saw the photo I decided to google his name and find something out about Stephen so that I could think of something special when I saw his name, so far I have found that he was loved dearly and was an amazing father, may he rest in peace. X
Darrin N
September 11, 2015
I can't believe its been 14yrs since you left us. We met while I worked for FTCI and your spirit took a bunch of office workers and turned us into a cool hangout group. Even though I was the youngest in the group and you called me "Lil Seymour" LOL, you always gave me solid advice on how to carry myself as a professional. I sit at my desk from time to time and remember some of the crazy comments you used to say and just snicker to myself. Miss you man. I hope Gillian and your son Tristan are doing well.
September 11, 2014
I visited the 9/11 memorial fountains on July 26, 2014. This was my first visit to NYC. I have no real connection to this incredible tragedy except the memories of hearing the news on the radio as I drove my daughter to preschool. I wanted to be able to somehow more permanently connect myself to this event knowing the impact this has had on so many others.
I walked up to the fountain that evening and decided to remember the first name I saw on the memorial. Stephen Joseph was the name. It was just a name until I began repeating it over and over in my head and tried to imagine his loved ones, their loss, and all he had brought to this world. I have chosen to keep him in my thoughts and prayers. Without knowing his past or those he left behind, I can see he was cared for deeply. On this important anniversary in our history, I am privileged to have found your name, Stephen Joseph. I am grateful for your courage in such an unexplainable moment in our lives.
Susan Nanes
September 15, 2012
Whether it was Mardi Gras or Essence Festival, I remember Stephen still so vividly: taking over the party with a bottle of bourbon in one hand and maple syrup in the other to be the "chaser" after the shot. Dancing to Will Smith. Hoisting me on his shoulders to get better beads from the floats. Does anyone know how to get in touch with Stephen's friend David? I lost touch and would love to reconnect with the one who brought Stephen down from Brooklyn to teach us jaded NOLA-ites how to get jiggy with it.
Alejandro Rosenfried
September 14, 2012
It's been 11 years since 9/11 and Stephen memory will always stay with me. He was my supervisor while working at Fiduciary for almost 2 years. Everything said about him is true and then some. He was definitely a very special person. He was by far the best person Ive worked for, he was much more the just a boss. He was down to earth, easy to talk too, always joking and always had something smart to say. I resigned a month before 9/11 and it was Steve who went with me to the Lobby, his last words to me were "Your gonna miss this place" and boy was he right. RIP Stephen, God Bless you and your family.
Stephen's flag in the St. Louis Art Hill 9/11 Memorial
Adam Woehler
September 17, 2011
Adam Woehler
September 17, 2011
I'm sitting in the grass with my dog Sundance under your flag in the 9/11 memorial on Art Hill in St. Louis right now. I've never had a place to go till now that had individual tributes. It is nice to have something this specific and to be able to tell people reading names on flags about you. I've left some pictures and a note for you.
Susan Nanes
September 11, 2011
I haven't forgotten Stephen. And I never will. Life in NOLA wouldn't have been the same without his occasional visits. As much as I miss living there, he's always been part of those memories. The little I knew him, I still realized I was lucky to have had the pleasure.
Betzaida Rivera
September 11, 2011
This Candle is in memory of a great father and a great husband who I did not had the chance to meet, but getting to know Gillian an Tristan for the past 10 years, makes me believed that he was one of the best man who ever lived, And he will be rememberer forever, LOVE YOU GILLIAN AND TRISTIAN , from your puertorrican sister.
Ian Blackett
September 11, 2011
I remember the kindness shown to me when I was much younger. I will always keep you in my thought and remember you. Your friend
Ian
Alisa Serraton
September 11, 2011
Ten years and it still feels like yesterday. I will always remember Steve's large presence at our family's annual BBQ in Brooklyn! He was the life of the party. He will always be remembered. Gillian and Tristan, you are in my prayers.
Love , Lisa
Treg and Pamela Brown
September 10, 2011
We miss you Stephen.
September 9, 2011
Miss you Stephen, you are always thought of, hope you are watching over us up there, See you soon...
Amanda
Adam Woehler
September 9, 2011
I cannot believe it has been 10 years. I miss your prank calls to my office phone.
Erin Millspaugh
August 28, 2011
Dear Mrs. Joseph,
This past weekend my husband and I participated in a motorcycle ride, only this was no ordinary ride. You see, each year we participate in America's 9/11 Foundation Motorcycle ride. This year each rider was given a name in whom we were riding in memory and in honor of. My husband and my name was a man named Stephen Joseph. It is my understanding that this man was your husband. Throughout the entire ride, from Pennsylvania to the Pentagon to Ground Zero, my husband and I were paying tribute to your husband. I can not begin to express how very sorry I am that you and your son suffered such a great loss ten years ago. As we rode in honor of your husband I prayed that God would bestow blessings and comfort and peace to you and your family. As the tenth anniversary of this horrible event approaches , I want you to know that people all over the world remember the tragedy and remember great men like your husband. I write this letter to let you know that your husband and his legacy will never be forgotten. My husband and I will forever be changed because of being given the opportunity to ride in memory of a fellow American, husband and father. May God richly bless you forever and always!
A fellow American
Susan Nanes
September 11, 2010
I wrote here a few years ago and today I remember Stephen again. His visits to NOLA were always filled with fun. My memories of living there wouldn't be the same without having known him too.
Hope Mouko
September 11, 2010
It only seems like yesterday I was introduced to your lovely wife and young son. I pray for them often, asking that God surrounds them with His angels of comfort, mercy and understanding. I am almost positive that you are looking down at them with love and admonishment. God bless you.
Hope Mouko
September 11, 2009
Whew, another year and I am still keeping Tristan and Gillian in prayer. May God continue to bless you and your family! Amen.
Brian Kilcoyne
September 11, 2008
Stephen, Another year has gone by. I still look back with fond memories of the good times we shared. Miss you bud. On this, as well as all 9/11s, I’ll leave my back light on for you ;) . I hope Gillian and Tristan are doing well.
N.Y.T.D
September 9, 2008
Stevie - Your Laughter and Smile Remain with Us Always!! In Our Thoughts Forever...
Hope Mouko
September 14, 2007
You are not forgotten. May God continue to bless your soul and may your love forever rain down from Heaven onto Gillian and Tristan.
Betzaida Rivera
September 11, 2007
I never had the chance to know Stephen but I know Tristan and Gillian...and just knowing them made me feel that I've met this man... and now I can see Stephen on Tristan's face, hands and everything else...I know now he was a wonderful man and an amazing husband and great father his being missed even from the people that never had the blessed to get know him..Gillian and Tristan, I love you guys and I know he soul and his protection will be with you guys..now and always
N.Y. T.D.
September 11, 2007
Thought about Every Day! You Will Always Live on in Our Hearts...
N.Y.T.D.
P Tabbernor
November 19, 2006
In remembrance....
Kristine
November 2, 2006
As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
veronica Noel
September 11, 2006
Dear Stephen
My heart is still aching. It is just really hard to move on. You were taken much too soon. I do feel some comfort knowing that you are with God. Jillian and Tristan, If you read this, please know that i think of you often, and hope that you are well. Love you, Dawn, Laurel, MD
Trish Ambrosio
September 11, 2006
Gillian and Tristan -
Know that the Ambrosio family thinks of you often, and especially on this day. Stephen is still in our hearts and we we always have a smile when we remember the wonderful times that we shared in Franklin Park, NJ.
Love Always-
Trish & Eric (and Ben, Ian, Jeremy & Melanie) Florence, SC
Gillian Joseph
September 10, 2006
Another year has gone by and I still can't believe that you're not here with us...I miss our life together...I need you. I need to hear your laughter, and to feel the strength of your presence- Our loss of you is devastating, the pain is more quiet but ever present. We know what we lost- they have no idea...
You are still "the best man I know"
Rest in peace my love, but never leave us, I need your spirit with us...
Always & Forever,
St. Peter's Faculty Group
September 12, 2005
To Gillian and Tristan:
Father, We thank you for your loving kindness in watching over Gillian and Tristan, especially during this 4th Anniversary of the travesty and senseless destruction of the World Trade Centers. We pray today and every day that they continue to survive in a world that has forever changed not only their lives, but the lives of thousands of others. With your everlasting strength and love, continue to support and guide them as their journey continues. Blessings to you - We Remember.
Cindy Greif
September 11, 2005
Hi Gillian,
God has brought you to my mind often over the past 4 years. Although I didn't know you very well, I liked you immediately when I met you. You have such a warm and generous spirit and I miss seeing you and talking to you at work (yes! I'm still there! :-) You truly touched my life just by knowing you. As I watched the special services today, I thought of you and your son and prayed for you both, as I often do. I pray for God's strength and peace to surround you and His love to fill the void in your soul. I've enjoyed reading the guest book entries and feel like I've gotten to know Stephen a bit, even though I didn't have the honor of meeting him. Please know that I miss you and still think of you and pray for you often. I hope you and Tristan are well. Cindy Greif (HR)
Gillian Joseph
September 7, 2005
My heart, Tristan's heart, ache for you with every day that passes... He still asks for his Dad and wants us to save you...Four years seem like only yesterday-you were here with us and we were a family...We are still lost without you.
Hope Mouko
January 4, 2004
Words cannot express the impair that sat in my heart as I heard the stories of little Tristan sitting in front of his bay window, awaiting his father’s homecoming. I was blessed to be a sitter for Tristan who was still full of delight, despite all that he had/has endured since his father’s death. I never had the opportunity to meet Stephen, but I felt as though I knew him. Even though he is gone, he still subsists through his wife, Gillian and son, Tristan.
I met Stephen’s family because of the pause in his presence, though; I am blessed to have met such a strong woman. She has enthused and motivated me by illustrating that despite heartache, and what life my bring you one MUST persevere! She has educated me that life is just like the weather, it does not rain 365 days a year. Sometimes it is sunny, gloomy, drizzles, or even pours. Nevertheless, it NEVER rains 365 days a year.
Gillian, I hope that you read this to know that no matter what, I love you and Tristan, and although, I never articulated to you, that at your very moment, I was having mine also. I lost my brother in a similar instance. Although I cannot and pray that I will never endure the pain of losing a husband, please comprehend that, I have somewhat of a compassion and empathy towards you. I love you and Tristan, and wish that one day we would be reunited again. Until then, God Bless!
Love always,
Marie "Hope" Mouko (Tristan’s sitter 2002)
Erika Barr
September 8, 2003
I REMEMBER GROWING UP AROUND STEVE HE WAS MY UNCLE TORO'S BEST FREIND HE USE TO PICK ME AND MY COUSIN UP AND THROW US AROUND. WHEN I HEARD THAT HE WAS GONE IT WAS A GREAT SHOCK. HE WAS A WONDERFUL MAN WITH A BEAUTIFUL SPIRIT EVEN THOUGH I WAS LITTLE AT THE TIME I COULD ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW MUCH FUN HE WAS. MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO HIS WIFE, SON AND PARENTS. HOLD ON TO MEMORIES. GOD BLESS
Lisa Cox
September 14, 2002
We were co-workers at FTCI and had great times together. We created a Spades card game tournament and would play against the many different teams of co-workers. I lost that scorebook, too, in the WTC along with some wonder, wonder friends. I will miss our hang-outs and jokes. Love forever - Lisa
Nancy Andre-Smith
September 11, 2002
My heart goes out to Stephen's family. I can still remember the day I introduced him to Gillian (his wife). I often blame myself for some of this pain she's going through, but then I remember, the wonderful 18 years they had, and God's wonderful gift Tristan. I often think about him and the special energy that he brought to us all. I am sure that he will continue to energize all in his heavenly journey.
The Ambrosio's
September 11, 2002
A friend during a part of our lives that will never be forgotten.
Love always,
Eric, Trish, Benjamin, Ian, Jeremy and Melanie
Iain Solomon
September 10, 2002
MEMORIES OF STEVE
7th Grade, Winthrop, Crown Street, football in the street and Boys' High, Glenwood Flea Market, lots of records, Wins' basement, Reggae Lounge, being an usher at my wedding, my band playing at your wedding, your move to Franklin Park, my almost move to Franklin Park but settling in East Brunswick, your car breaking down and borrowing mine, my car breaking down and borrowing yours, paddleball at New Road, paddleball at Centennial Park, toast at my tenth anniversary, picnics at the house, Hecksher and Roosevelt Parks, Labor Days in Brooklyn, CD's, talking all sports, talking all music, Michael's christening, Tristan's arrival.
I love you man........
Veronica(Dawn) Noel
September 10, 2002
It is still unbelivable to imagine that Steve is no longer with us. I can't express the grief that i am feeling right now signing this book.
Will miss you forever.
Dawn
jennifer deyton
August 30, 2002
my daughter was driving on the Pa. turnpike last sunday, 8-25-02, when her car broke down. she was alone untill a man in a big Ford suv pulled up and got out. his name was Michael Joseph from NYC and was Jamacian. he stayed w/her and kept her safe... if you've ever been on that road you know how dangerous it is! when the tow truck came he even covered the cost of the tow!
i've been wearing a MERCY band that bares Stephen Joseph's name on it sence january. i had prayed that God would send His angels to be with her that morning; and keep her safe. i think that this Michael Joseph is more than a concidence... God does speak to us through people, and angels! i will continue to pray for the Joseph family... especially Tristan who i know is very much loved by his Daddy. God bless Michael, i think he's an angel... maybe Stephen's guardian angel... we all know of the Archangel Michael! and we know that Stephen is with The Lord! God is good!
Janet Nash
July 8, 2002
I purchased a mercyband with Stephen's name on it in December. I wear it everyday and think of the family that continues to grieve for their loss. I was happy to find a place, finally, that I could learn something about him and his family. It makes wearing a bracelet with his name on it that much more meaningful. I will continue to think and pray for him, and his family and for everyone who lost their lives that day.
D.
June 5, 2002
We will always remember you. You will be in our hearts forever. I know that Jeff will never forget you.
May 3, 2002
A special person indeed, a personality that was like no other. We have lost a fun loving individual...
Angie Campbell
May 2, 2002
May God Bless You and the family and friends that you left behind on 9/11/01. I did not know you but I will never forget what happened to you. Rest in peace forever more.
Stephen McMillian
April 11, 2002
I was very touched by the story I read about Stephen Joseph. Although I didn't know him, he seemed to be a person who loved life and tried to bring happiness to all those around him.
Being black myself, it is refreshing to read such wonderful stories about other young black men when the world seems to have a narrow-minded view of us.
I almost got a job at Fiduciary Trust after college. Had I known him, he would have left with me the same upbeat impression that he left with countless others.
I know no words I can say can erase the pain the family feels at this time. But I hope you have some solace in knowing that there are people like myself who do care about you and wish you God's grace and comfort during this most difficult time.
Virginia Aguiles
March 12, 2002
For those of us that knew Stephen, 9/11 is a day we will never forget, the very long days waiting with his wife Gillian and little boy Tristan,
his innocent face waiting by the window for "DAD" to come home to bathe him and tuck him in bed, these are moments I will never forget.
But I know that no matter where Stephen is he will always be there to help and confort his wife and child.
I will never be able to forget Stephen's happy face when his son was born, and any time he was with him, many times when I went to pick up his wife and he was getting readey to go out with Tristan.
May God and the angels give you light so that your spirit will always help your wife and son and I promise you that as long as I live I will always be there for them.
May God bless your soul.
February 8, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL YOUNG MAN STEPHEN JOSEPH AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS WIFE AND SON...FAMILY AND FRIENDS.STAY CLOSE AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA..NEW YORK AND THE GOOD PEOPLE OF TRINIDAD.MAY JESUS..ST.STEPHEN AND ST. JOSEPH GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
jennifer deyton
January 11, 2002
i am so truly sorry. i will wear this mercyband with sincere heart-felt meaning. i will pray for the joseph family; and those that also loved stephen. he sounds like a great guy and was very much loved by all who knew him. my prayer is that all who sorrow for stephen will find comfort and joy knowing that stephen is at home with our Lord Jesus; and that we will all be together for eternity. what a time that will be! praise God!
An electric smile
Adam Woehler
January 7, 2002
Stephen was a prolific personality. Yes, he had the well-earned nickname of Tequila Boy in New Orleans, but he was so much more than that. He was a great person, the kind that made you feel like a better person just because you knew him.
I remember him... Stephen... T-Boy... father... husband... friend.
I think of how happy he was when his wife was pregnant. I think of him and his baby boy in their matching bumble bee halloween costumes. I think of him with a smile on his face, a drink in his hand, and too many Mardi Gras beads around his neck... and how he'd say my name with way too many "aaaaaa's."
We miss you brother.
Susan Nanes
January 7, 2002
I am one of those lucky New Orleanians who shared Stephen's joyous visits. Words can't say how much we loved having him here and how Mardi Gras won't quite be the same without him. I am so glad I got to meet Stephen.
Susan Nanes
Xiomara Hansen
December 31, 2001
Stephen, you will always be remembered by my family. More than a friend, you were like family. I have your picture posted at my desk at work, which I look at every single day, this way, I will never forget or put behind me your memory. My brother Ricky was much closer to you, and he misses you so much. My prayers for you have gone out, so I know that wherever you are, you are at peace! I will always remember you the way that you were and I wish your Wife and Family all of the comfort and strength to carry on like you would want them to. Rest in Peace. We miss you!!! Love
Teresa Jahn
December 28, 2001
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
DIANE CHERRY
December 2, 2001
I BOUGHT 3 SILVER MERCY BANDS AT MY CHURH, CALVERY CHAPEL OF FT LAUDERDALE. STEPHEN JOSEPH NAME WAS ON ONE OF THEM. I PRAY FOR HIM AND FOR THE PEOPLE WHO KNEW HIM. I SINCERELY HOPE THAT THEY CAN FIND PEACE IN THEIR HEARTS AND THAT THEY KNOW THAT GOD LOVED HIM AND THAT HE IS IN MY PRAYERS ASKING GOD TO HOLD HIM CLOSE TO HIS HEART. I WILL BE GIVING THIS BAND TO MY MOM AND SHE WILL PROUDLY WEAR IT SO THAT HIS MEMORY WILL BE IN OUR DAILY THOUGHTS.
SINCERELY
DIANE CHERRY
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