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Stephen Tighe Obituary
Stephen Edward Tighe loved coaching school soccer so much that he considered quitting his job at Cantor Fitzgerald when he took on yet another team last August. He had begun to tire of the financial world, and he loved working with children more than doing anything else.
Mr. Tighe, 41, never screamed at his players the way some coaches do. "Unlucky" was his harshest word. When they played well, he would reward them with by shouting, "Magic!"
It was a tough schedule: there was his son Patrick's team, the Rockville Centre Revolution, which he coached twice a week; his son Michael's intramural team once a week; and on weekends the children's games, which he attended faithfully. When he became junior varsity soccer coach at the Kellenberg Memorial High School in August, his bosses at Cantor said he could work half days instead of quitting.
He would leave the World Trade Center every day at 3 p.m. to go back to Rockville Centre, on Long Island, where he grew up and still lived with his wife and four children, to coach the high school kids.
"He treated everybody's kid like they were his own," said his wife, Kathleen Tighe.
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The Kindred Family
February 8, 2020
Your family is in our mind as we send out sincere condolences. Each day may God give the needed help. Steve is still greatly missed and will always be remembered.
Here Am I
Robert Klouse
September 10, 2019
I will always remember you,Michael.Great guy and husband!
September 11, 2016
It was nice to meet Steve through his future wife, Kathy at Hartwick College. I remember Steve as fun, happy and a great match for my nursing peer. God bless his family always and especially on this day.
Cheri Fire-Settle
September 11, 2015
I lit a candle for you and your family today Steve! I know you are happy you have your brother with you now! Whenever 911 is mentioned, my heart aches for your family to lose such a great guy like you. It was great knowing you in Florida but New York was your home! God Bless You and all who loved you!
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H Kitt Brosnan
September 21, 2014
To Stephens family: I have prayed for Stephen since 9/11 and will continue praying for him and his family as long as I live. Thank you for having such a wonderful son.
Steve Tighe
January 23, 2014
Probably ten years ago, I learned (by google-ing my name) that my namesake had lost his life on 9/11. I've occasionally read blurbs on his life and drawn comparisons to my own. Always a sports fan, now a father to two boys, I can't help but feel a connection. Although I never knew him, I hope I can do the name justice.
Ellen Kaiser
September 11, 2012
Kathy - I never had the chance to meet you or your family, but I was the Travel Agent that was honored with planning the little getaway for your family to DisneyWorld after the tragic event that left you without your husband/father. Not a day goes by when I think of 911, that I dont think of you and your loss. May Stephen's spirit be with you and your children and I wish you all the best in life. I says prayers frequently for your family.
Cathy Tighe
September 11, 2012
My name is Cathy Tighe and I lost a son named Stephen Tighe although not in 911. As a mother, I know how a mother's heart can ache. God bless your whole family. Cathy Tighe, Cape Breton, Nova Scotia, Canada
Eddie Winton
September 9, 2012
I think of Stephen often…what a tragedy. Though we rarely visited NY as children, I remember I was very excited to visit Aunt Jane's house. Stephen always made our visit fun. I remember playing with him on his coaster go cart...I only wish our families were closer. I feel a sense of guilt because after serving 20 years in the Armed Forces, this attack was not foreseen. God has taken him and I will never forget him.
Catherine Tighe
August 26, 2012
Still having you near us far away cousin..
Norma Forrester
September 14, 2011
I entered a message to the family on Sept. 11, mentioning my family name of Tighe and omitted to say that I could be contacted.
Helen Brosnan
September 13, 2011
Our church, St Francis of Assisi, at Incline Village Nv. draw a name to pray for. I drew Stephen.s name last year & have been praying for him ever since, I will continue doing this until I am no longer able.
Love and Prayers
H Kitt Brosnan
Norma Forrester
September 11, 2011
For the first time I saw the name of Stephen Edward Tighe on this the tenth anniversary of that dreadful day. I did not know Mr. Tighe, but my grandfather was Joseph Tighe, born in Scotland, the name must connect us. I send my most sincere condolences to his family.
Matt Nolan
September 11, 2011
Coach Tighe,
As time has passed and days have turned to years since that terrible day, I now can truly realize the immense impact that you have had on my life.
As a young unsure kid growing up I had a hard time finding my niche in school, on the team, and even in life. I admired people who took charge and were leaders, people who others looked up to and inspired many. I knew I wanted to do the same and lead by example, but I had a hard time believing in myself and was unsure it I did lead and take charge if others would follow.
All that changed when you named me captain of our team RVC Fire. It was the first time I can remember in my life, where I felt as though someone else outside of my family saw something special in me. I knew that if someone I looked up to, and held in such high esteem cold see the same quality in myself, then I had all the reason I needed to take charge and be someone who could be a leader and show others the way. The confidence you helped instill in me at such a young age is still running strong today, and only helps drive my desire to succeed and hopefully be able to do for others what you did for me. Life is measured by the memories we leave behind and how we deal with those around us everyday. Your memory is part of my life and I will only pass on the same ideals and lessons you taught me to others.
I miss you, and will never forget you, your family, and all of those we lost. Thoughts and prayers forever, and thank you for everything!
John Bellin
September 10, 2011
My dad and steve's dad were Rockville Centre policemen together. Both dads retired and moved the families to florida. As fate would have it Steve got me my first job at the Sheraton Sand Key were we to would work together. Although not best friends Steve and I shared in times from the passing of our Dads to me having my first "official legal drink" in a bar on my visit back to Rockville Centre. Through these years I was fortunate to get to know one of the most beautiful people I have ever met. He was the kindest of souls who I think about all time. I was lucky to have known him. God bless you Steve, I will remember you always.
September 10, 2011
Ten Years too fast. Ten years too long
Patti Russell-Coates
September 9, 2009
As another 9-11 approaches, I feel compelled to tell Steve's family that I still cry each year as I contemplate their loss...our loss. Steve was a dear friend to me through our school years and after. He is truly missed.
Elizabeth Tighe
November 20, 2008
I couldn't consider myself a luckier girl in this world, just for the sheer fact to be able to call Stephen Tighe my father. He was more than just a father though, he was my best friend. It brings me such happiness to see how many people's lives he has touched and continues to do so through his spirit. He will live forever because of it, and that is the only thing that gets me through every day. I miss you so much Daddy, and love you even more than that- to infinity and back again.
kristine
November 11, 2008
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Tim May
September 11, 2007
Steve was one of the most cheerful and pleasant people I've ever met. He always had a smile or a laugh and something positive to say about anything or anyone. I'm sure his optimistic nature has carried through in his kids. We were soccer buddies for many years
on a variety of teams starting with South Side Junior High in RVC in 1973. God bless his family and someday may we all meet again.
P Tabbernor
April 1, 2007
In memory....
Audrey Moglia
October 8, 2006
Words an never express the sadness we all felt on that terrible day and no one felt that sadness as much as Steve's family. We will never forget him and his wonderful smile. We were friends of Jane and Harold and we know the sadness that was felt when they passed away but we also know that now Steve is with them in eternity and looking down on everyone with that wonderful smile. Remember you have another angel in heaven to talk with. Sincere sympathy and love, Frank and Audrey Moglia - Seminole, Fl
Raymond Moglia
September 12, 2006
Steve's Dad Harold was my sponsor for Confirmation way back in 1980 at Blessed Sacrament in Seminole, Florida. I didn't know Steve as well as my parents did, but I do know that he carried both his parents' caring personality. Steve there is a huge void in this world without you. But I know that Mr and Mrs Tighe (Harold and Jane) were with you on that day. My prayers continue for your family. All my love and prayers.
Judy (Tighe) Bilbee
August 31, 2006
I met Stephen at Grandma's & Grandpa's house Thomas and Mae Tighe, in 1980 at their 60th wedding aniversity. Stephen's Dad, Harold, and my Dad Frank, are first cousins. I want to share a verse from Isaiah 57:1 this verse was shared with me after my brother Kevin was murdered,it gives me strength:"The righteous perish, and no one ponders it in his heart; devout men are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away from the evil to come." Hang on to God. He has given us a promise that when he comes back He will call Stephen forth from his grave with a loud shout, and all evil will be no more. Are prayers are with you and your family.
Matthew Smolin
April 11, 2004
I played soccer on the same team in High School. I well remember his cheerfullness and smile as well as his enthusiasm for the game. My heart goes out to his family.
Sheila Schratwieser
September 11, 2003
Several years ago I met you and Steve for the first time. You purchased my parents' home in Rockville Centre. It was a very difficult day for me but after meeting you I felt that my home was still in the family. Now I think of you often and pray for you and your whole family. I was is class with Jackie Logan at St. Agnes and your Grandfather was my Doctor as I was growing up. I know the your family suffered a double tragedy. God Bless You.
Rosemarie Dauer
September 11, 2002
Kathy,
We've never met, nor have I ever met your family, and yet I feel such pain for you! It's amazing how you can cry for someone you don't even know. I live in Buffalo NY and have been listening to your story on a local radio station WKSE. I think when we mention all the heroes who died from 9/11 we also need to mention the ones that were left behind. The families!!!! You are truly that to me. You have managed to go on and be strong, not just for yourself but your children. That too me takes as much courage, dedication and strength as any "hereo"!!! I think as much as we as American's are remembering the loss and courage of those heros who passed away, that they are in heaven remembering the heroes that were left behind, their families! Your husband sounds like a wonderful man and I believe that people who are that wonderful pass on those traits to their family. So he will never truly be gone or far from you. He will live on in all of you and without us even knowing him, the rest of us!!!!!!!!!!! God bless you and your family.
From your loving friend, Russell
Russell Perri
September 10, 2002
When I think of Steve the first thing that comes to mind is his smile. He was one of the most 'down to earth' sincere people I have ever known.
I spoke to him about coming out to Big Sky Country for a visit and now feel he IS here in his glorious spirit.
My prayers go out to his family and that God may bring them along in this life with peace and well being until they re-unite once again with Steven in Heaven above.
Thank you Steve for all you have given to us during your time here on earth!
lesley shigesake
September 2, 2002
kathy,
words cannot describe how sorry i am that you and your family had to go through this horrible tragedy.I was in your brother Patrick class of 1983 at St Agnes. I remember how close your entire family was, and I remember how friendly you always were to me. You were in my sister Laurens grade. I feel for you and your family. Losing a loved one is hard enough but losing 2 has to be so difficult. I pray for you and your family everyday,please give Patrick my condolences.
Sincerely,
Lesley Shigesake
Janis Salcfas
July 8, 2002
Stephen's block for the United in Memory quilt project is finished and can be seen on page 10 of the "newest blocks" section
His is the light blue one made from Soccor fabric. His picture is in the middle, surrounded by the names of his family. Making the block touched me very deeply, and I feel it has brought me closer to Steve and his family. I wish my little block could bring comfort and healing to Steves loved ones, but only time and God can do that.
You are all in my prayers,
Janis Salcfas
Angie Campbell
May 29, 2002
May God Bless you and watch over the family and friends that you left behind that horrible day last September. May you rest in peace forever more.
May 14, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL MAN..STEPHEN EDWARD TIGHE AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS WIFE..CHILDREN...FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK..MAY JESUS..ST.STEPHEN AND ST.EDWARD GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN
Janis Salcfas
April 1, 2002
I chose Stephens name from the list of names in the 9-11 United in Memory Quilt project, so I will be making a quilt block in his memory. If anyone that knew him would like anything specific added to this block, please contact me at [email protected]. I am thrilled that I chose his name...he looks like he was a wonderful father & coach and a great man. I will do my best to honor him and will put many stitches of love and prayers into his block. God bless his family and loved ones.
Janis Salcfas
Lake Elizabeth, CA
Eileen DiTomasso
March 11, 2002
Who knows why this senseless act occured.May your memories of Steve comfort you and carry you on. Always in my thoughts and prayers.
God bless!! Love, Eileen
Tim Mohr
February 11, 2002
Steve and I played soccer together for a number of years on a team in Rockville Centre. When he stopped playing, he would always stop by our games if he was free. He was a pleasure to play for and with, and will be missed.
Heather (Blythe) Knarich '90
January 9, 2002
As a Hartwick College alumni, I would like to express my heartfelt sympathy for Stephen and Tim and his family. Even though an overwhelming magnitude of such a loss, may you have comfort in knowing that your Hartwick family is thinking of you in your time of sorrow.
Teresa Jahn
December 10, 2001
Stephen must have had a "magic" way about him. We are so very sorry for your loss. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
December 7, 2001
" ...Beware of sadness. It can hit you. It can hurt you, take your soul and what is more. It is not what you are here for..."
George Harrison, " Beware of Darkness " (All Things Must Pass), 1971.
Richard LePetri
December 5, 2001
Stephen's life is a model for mine. I too tire of the business world and wish I could spend all of my time with my daughters and with the kids in town coaching. Stephen has such a nice family. My wife Barbara did yearbook and gymnastics with Kathy in High School. She is a very sweet person. Barbara and I are there for them. God Bless Stephen. His legacy lives on as each of us set foot on a soccer field.
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