James A. Romito

James A. Romito

James Romito Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Nov. 28, 2001.
Water and the Woods
On his 50th birthday last year, James A. Romito and his fiancée, Mary Pat Brew Sturdy, had just opened a bottle of wine when his beeper went off: an attempted hijacking at Kennedy Airport. Mr. Romito, the chief of the Port Authority Police Department, answered the call, returning home only at 7 the next morning.

It was typical of the way his sense of duty and public service had structured his life, Ms. Sturdy said. "He would be in the midst of everything," she said. In 30 years with the Port Authority, he had handled crises, including the 1993 bombing of the World Trade Center, and quieter challenges, like how to humanely deal with the homeless at the Port Authority Bus Terminal.

Outside of work, he wanted to be just a regular person. He had Mary Pat and her son, Bobby; he had his daughter, Ellen. Ms. Sturdy said most of the people at their favorite bar, Poor Henry's, did not even know what he did.

He loved the water and the woods. There were times when the beeper would go off, and it would be something he could handle from home. The screened-in back porch would become a command center, and there he and Mary Pat would sit ‹ dealing with the crisis, and looking at the woods.


Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on October 16, 2001.


James Romito, 51, committed to public service Port Authority Police Chief James Romito could have stayed at headquarters when he heard the news that a plane crashed into Tower One of the World Trade Center. But that was not Mr. Romito's way.

In his last cell phone conversation with his fiancée, Mary Pat Brew Sturdy, on the morning of the Sept. 11 attack, Mr. Romito told her, "I have to save people," and then ran toward the screams.

The 51-year-old Montville resident might have accomplished his mission, because witnesses told Brew Sturdy they saw him on the 31st floor guiding people to the exits and toward safety.

"He would do anything for anyone," Brew Sturdy said. "That was his nature. He was the warmest, most generous, caring, loving person."

He has rushed to people's aid many times in his 30-year career with the Port Authority of New York and New Jersey.

He was among the rescuers at the World Trade Center in 1993, when a terrorist exploded a bomb in the basement garage.

He was at Kennedy Airport following the crash of TWA Flight 800 over Long Island in 1996.

He was both tough and tender, Brew Sturdy said.

His tender side was evident from his work with the homeless. The Port Authority lauded him for developing Operation Alternative -- a program that connects homeless people who frequent agency bus terminals to shelters and social workers.

He helped runaways and received praise from the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children for his efforts.

Brew Sturdy said Mr. Romito got numerous awards and medals for his commitment to public service.

Mr. Romito was also in charge of a community policing plan at the Port Authority Bus Terminal, Port Newark and Elizabeth Port Marine Terminals. He belonged to various organizations including the International Association of Police Chiefs, the International Port and Harbor Association, the American Association of Airport Executives, the American Association of Port Authorities and the National Cargo Security Council.

The 1978 graduate of Adelphi University also taught in the master's degree law enforcement program at Seton Hall University.

With an eye toward retirement, Mr. Romito started a new consulting company with his fiancée last year.

In addition to Brew Sturdy and her son Bobby, he is survived by his daughter Ellen of Washington Township, Bergen County; parents Anthony and Rina of Bronx, N.Y., a sister, Laura Fasullo of Pearl River, N.Y. and a brother, Anthony of Monroe, N.Y.

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Dillon bates

March 1, 2019

Remember The Fallen. we will never forget the sacrifices made that day

Lou Blazquez

September 11, 2018

I was one of Jimmy's classmates at Cardinal Spellman. He was a funny guy and straight shooter. I deeply wish he was going to our fiftieth reunion. I salute his life and heroism. I saw that his sister lives in Pearl River. I lived in Blauvelt until I moved to Santa Fe, then to Flagstaff where I had a teaching career. I still visit my family in Blauvelt and go to Shop Rite in Pearl River. I would love to shake her hand when I am there.

Never Forget

Marilyn Puchaty

September 8, 2018

Never Forget... 17 years later, we are again honoring the fallen with our San Diego 9/11 Memorial Stair Climb today. I have been assigned to climb the 110 floors in honor of Chief James A. Romito. May we remember the sacrifices made by our first responders. May we as a country be inspired to the patriotism and unity that we felt following that tragic day, September 11, 2001.

W. Bodie

September 11, 2011

James,Years ago when I was a young Court Officer, we crossed paths a lot in Manhattan. I never realized you were a victim of the attacks. May God Bless You and your family.

Joann Dezic

September 16, 2007

I can't believe that it's been 6 years since that awful day, & there's hardly a day that I don't think about the ultimate sacrifice you made & the lives you saved by running toward the destruction. You are a true hero & I keep your memory alive by telling people about your bravery & sacrifice. I pray that you are at peace, reunited in Heaven with Mary & your son. It was an honor to know you. God Bless your Family. May your love for mankind bring them strength and courage. We will never forget you. Godspeed.

kristine

April 23, 2007

As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.

P Tabbernor

February 22, 2007

In remembrance....

Brian Wagner

August 16, 2006

Rest in peace James Romito. You were truly an American Hero.

Amy Romito

February 21, 2004

I would like to thank everyone who wrote in memory of our beloved Jim Romito.He was a great person and father his memory will always live on with us.We miss him greatly and will never forget the sacrfice he made for his country. I hope anyone who reads this is touched by my uncles story and will walk away a better person because of it. RIP Uncle Jimmy your presence is truly missed.

September 11, 2003

REST IN PEACE. YOU ARE OUR HERO.

Carolyn Beyers-Petosky

September 11, 2003

Mary Pat, Friends, and Family

Just wanted to let you know that you are always in my thoughts and prayers.....

JAMES BUCKNER

September 9, 2003

I HAVE NEVER MET THIS GENTLEMAN HOWEVER I LIVED IN NYC/AND EAST ORANGE N.J. IN THE LATE 60'S AND EARLY 70'S.THE LAST TIME I VISITED NYC AND N.J. WAS IN 1999. I AM A LONG TIME FIRE BUFF AND AFTER READING ABOUT THIS DEDICATED PUBLIC SERVANT OF SUCH A HIGH RANK WHO GAVE HIS ALL ON THAT HORRIBLE DAY OF 911 I AM EVEN MORE DEDICATED TO RESPECT FOR LAW ENFORCEMENT OFFICIALS. SOMEONE OF SUCH A HIGH RANK DID NOT EVEN HAVE TO BE THAT CLOSE TO THE ACTION---BUT HE WAS--AND HE MADE THE ULTIMATE SACRIFICE FOR HIS FELLOW MAN. MR.ROMITO IS THE EPITOMY OF A TRUE RED BLOODED AMERICAN. MY CONDOLENCES TO ALL OF HIS FAMILY AND RELATIONS . MY ONLY CONTACT WITH THIS TRUE AMERICAN IS READING ABOUT HIM ON THE WEB SITE AND HIS STORY IS SO HEARTBREAKING I JUST HAD TO RESPOND. JAMES W. BUCKNER

Carol Grabowski

September 11, 2002

I had the pleasure of meeting Jim in Washington Township, NJ. I immediately liked him and found his smile matched his great personality. Since September 11, 2001 I have learned what a truly GREAT GUY he really was, it makes me sad that I was not given the opportunity to get to know him better. I feel God puts all of us in each others path for certain unknown reasons. I feel Jim was there to help and comfort those who needed him. Thats what HE was all about. He made the supreme sacrifice, his life.

I pray that his dear ones find comfort in the knowing how many of us admired him.

I mention his name to strangers, being proud that I know a true hero. For that is what he truly is. God Bless his dear ones, God Bless America

Danny Yarbrough

September 10, 2002

One of the area school children was handing out bracelets to wear in rememberance. I picked James because he is close to my age. Although I did not know him, I can see from his bio that we had some things in common. I pray that his family's sorrow will soon fade away so that you can truly appreciate the person James was.

Angie Campbell

May 14, 2002

**********GOD BLESS YOU**********

Andrew Romito

May 3, 2002

TO FAMILY
THE WEB LINK IS A MARVELOUS IDEA!!
I appreciate the opportunity to extend my sincerest sympathies to the family and his loved ones!
Andy Romito

April 10, 2002

DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL HERO..JAMES A ROMITO AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS LOVING FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE..PRAY..AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK FOREVE..MAY JESUS AND ST.JAMES GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN

Dana Jeremia

March 11, 2002

Although I did not know James, I do know his brother Anthony and knowing what kind of a person Anthony is I am sure James was the same way. I feel for all the family members and express my deepest sympathy for your loss and pain you have suffered. He is and always will be a hero to those of us who survived this terrible tragedy. Anthony - My prayers are always with you and your family

robert bruno

February 12, 2002

I think back on the fun times we all shared with our kids growing up in town.You gave your life for what you belived in and are now with your son Rob, who also believed in good for his country. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family forever.

God Bless

Frank Miles

January 21, 2002

It has been a long time since we were together as friends in the Bronx. You moved upstate, I moved to New Jersey, you moved to New Jersey and I moved to Florida. We had fun in the Bronx, the times sitting on the stoop on Chatterton Avenue, your pidgeon coupe, going to the Golden Gloves at St. Raymonds and St Francis,Xavia with your dad. I remember the time you played Santa Claus for my kids and you came down from the roof. I remember how you helped me move and those Thanksgivings that we topped off at your house with Irish Coffee. Jimmy you was always there for me and my family. You were a true friend.

Doris J. Bautch

December 17, 2001

Jim was a member of a port security training team that I had put together as Chair of the of Organization of American States Training Subcommittee. I had the opportunity to work with him in St. Lucia during Port Security Training for the countries of the Caribbean. We will miss his knowledge, his enthusiasm, and his zest.

Teresa Jahn

December 14, 2001

We thank James for dedicating his life to protecting and helping others. He must have had a very warm and caring heart to have dedicated it so many people for so many years. We are deeply sorry for your loss of James. Our hearts cry with you.

America Cries

We see your sorrow-

and our hearts cry....

We can not erase your pain

but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-

-the American people-

are beside you.

We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,

the strength that gives you courage,

and the words to lighten your spirits.

And when we are left speechless

may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts

to ease your sorrow.

May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-

-the American people-

face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn

Dixon, IL

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