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Philip Petti Obituary
On September 11, 2001 he had been a member of the FDNY for almost eighteen years. To Phil the best part of his job was the camaraderie and the laughs at the firehouse.
Athletic since childhood, he played football, baseball, softball, ice hockey and golf. He was a huge Giants, Mets and Rangers fan. He coached his children’s baseball and soccer teams.
He enjoyed rock music and in particular Springsteen, Clapton, The Who, Mountain and Dave Mason.
Phil is survived by his wife and two children, parents, siblings and many loving nieces and nephews.
Tribute submitted by Thomas Petti.
Sports Enthusiast
A basement room in Lt. Philip S. Petti's home in Staten Island was filled with so much sports equipment that it looked like a locker room, complete with a treasured photo of him posing as a pro hockey player. An 18-year veteran of the Fire Department, Lieutenant Petti did play on a department hockey team — his mother, Catherine, said he joined the team "before he actually knew how to ice skate."
Though he did eventually learn how to skate — his daughter, Lauren, now 16, taught him — he never really learned how to play well. "I saw him play, and you know, he needed work," said his nephew Tim Schlittner. "As much as he loved it, he definitely needed some work."
But if Lieutenant Petti, 43, was anything less than content with his hockey skills, it did not stop him. "He had a wonderful disposition," his mother said. "He accepted whatever life handed him. His favorite expression was, `That's what it is; deal with it.'"
Besides, he was too busy to look for accolades. He continued to coach his church's soccer and baseball teams long after his daughter and his son, Philip, 18, outgrew their cleats. He had to plan for his sister Jacqueline Butt's annual Halloween party — one year he and his wife, Eileen, went as the Blues Brothers — and practice the Ed Norton-Ralph Kramden routine he had going with his brother Thomas, also a firefighter.
Their sister Adrian Foran said: "Hugs and humor. When you think of Phil, that's what you think of."
108 Entries
James Diodato
September 14, 2024
I was a dear friend of Phil in high school we always had a great time in bookkeeping class where we always finished our in class assignments way a head of the other classmates. His nick name Starky from the tv show starky and hutch. He was a great friend and I was deeply sad to learn of his passing on 9/11. I will always think and remember all the good times we had.
Marcus Sintic
February 15, 2023
I’ve had the opportunity to participate in the 9/11 stair climb multiple times. I was honored to be able to climb in Lt. Petti’s place. I one day hope to travel to visit the 9/11 memorial and show my gratitude for the ultimate sacrifice of all those involved. May God bless your family, and his devoted servant Lt. Petti.
Denise Smith
September 10, 2021
20 Year Anniversary hard to believe. Living on the same block in Brooklyn will never forget you.
Matt Carr
September 10, 2021
9/10/2021 - Saint Louis, Missouri
To the Petti Family,
On the eve of the twentieth anniversary of 9/11, I thought I would share our story about Lt. Petti. Every year on 9/11 we have a memorial service and moment of silence at our corporate headquarters in Saint Louis, Missouri, by the flag and memorial plaque. The story of the flag is the one that I would like to share.
When we bought the building that is currently our corporate headquarters, the flag pole was barren. Just before 9/11 that year, we purchased one of the flags that Flags of Valor had available as a fundraiser that year. When the flag arrived with it came the story of Lt. Philip S. Petti. The flag we received and fly today is in his honor and in honor of everyone who lost their life on 9/11/2001. The memorial plaque at the base of the flag pole has Lt. Philp S. Petti's name on it. Every year we tell his story, we will never forget.
Respectfully submitted,
Matt Carr
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Eric Kraus
September 9, 2021
Thank you Philip Petti !! I was honored to have been in your honor parade, as a representative from the USS Bainbridge (DDG 84). I have never forgotten you and will never forget the price you paid for us!! I have also shared the tie clasp I received during your calibration of life with my son Isaac and explained how I received it and asked him to wear it in memory of you and those who gave all. He stills wears it today every time he puts on a tie.
June 7, 2017
I just found out a year or so back that Phil died and it saddened me. I went to Power Memorial HS and graduated with him in 1976. There was about 175 in our class so we were all good friends. God Bless!
Ed Carroll
S.J. Friscia III
June 5, 2017
In Memory with
Honor & Respect.
Denise Smith
September 10, 2016
Will never forget you growing up together in Brooklyn
Kathy
September 9, 2016
In Remembrance
Eileen Petti
February 28, 2014
Not a day goes by that I don't miss you and your love - we have 2 beautiful grandchildren and another one the way in August...the 9th....and your birthday is on the 10th....how sweet it would be if our third grandchild is born on your birthday. I miss you more than ever!! My love and appreciation for you gets greater each day.....We are all fine with some bumps in the road, but as you always said "it is what it is". Hope you and your Dad are so happy and please always keep showing me signs that you are around....there are so many incidents that are just not coincidences and every day I feel you either in a song, a memory, the funny sarcastic remarks and all the time we had together.....you were and always will be the only one for me and I love you so much and see you in our grandchildren and our own children....I am priveleged and honored to have your children and to have had just a week shy of 19 years of marriage to you.....I live by and make most decisions on what you would think of it......so much more I would love to write, but I talk to you everyday, so you already know this.....my love always.......
Fred Rovet
September 11, 2013
We will never forget.
Denise Smith
September 11, 2013
Remembering you always, my brother Michael is up there now with all of you.
Katherine Bernard
April 15, 2013
Still will Never Forget! Bless you all!
Michael Sullivan
September 11, 2012
I was a classmate of Phil's at Power Memorial. Although we graduated 36 years ago, I still remember him quite vividly. He was always full of energy and spirit. He always made us laugh. My thoughts are with his family today as we remember his heroism and great sacrifice. Warm regards.
Gail Rivera-Lovett
September 11, 2012
Always in our hearts! Cousin!
September 11, 2012
We will never forget. Our thoughts and prayers are with the entire Petti family. You are our hero Philip!
Love,
Rich, Julie, Aaron, Emily and Lily
John & Melissa Morgan
September 10, 2012
To the family of Lt. Philip Petti:
On Saturday, September 8th, 2012, our oldest son, John Tanner Morgan, a member of the Grand Prairie Fire Department, participated in the Dallas 9/11 Memorial Stair Climb and climbed the Renaissance Tower in downtown Dallas in honor and memory of your Lt. Philip Petti. It was a truly moving event and a proud moment to watch our son and those other professional life savers silently touching the steel beam of Tower II and proceeding single file into the building. We feel for your lost of Philip, and thank him for his service and sacrifice. Please know that the memory of Philip is alive in Texas and that his card & tag will always have a place of honor in Tanner's firehouse. May God bless and keep you all.
Cisco Gilmore
September 29, 2011
I hope this finds note finds the family of Lt. Petti. Im fireman in Nadhville, Tn. We did the 911 stairclimb 1st on 9/11/2010. again we were on duty this year so we climb on our own as a Company E11. Still wearing LT.Petti badge around my neck. Pray for his family and comrads daily. Never knew him but now I have a friend that I never even got to meet. God Bless The Petti family.
Denise Smith
September 11, 2011
I met you Philip when I was 13, you were 7 years my junior. I met you when my family moved to 944. We grew up together. We were neighbors for many years. As I cry for all lost on that horrible day, I will always remember you, and cry every time I hear your name. On this 10th Anniversary it still feels like it happened yesterday. Today when we heard your name announced on TV Michael and I sat there and both cried. Always keep your family and friends under your Wings my friend.
Tommy Smith
September 10, 2011
Jackie, i am very sad to to know about your bother PHIL, I know how close you are to him, and I say (are) not (were), Because his spirit, love and memories will be with you always, MY deepest condolence to you and your family , your old friend Tommy
Catherine Petti
August 2, 2011
It soon will be ten years since September 11th, it still feels like yesterday. We miss you very much, we will love you forever. Till we meet again. Love ya!! Mom and Dad
Richie rovet
March 29, 2011
Spoke with your mom tonight. A welcome voice in a troubling time. Thank you for being there for me over the past several years. It's nice to know I have a guardian and a friend in high places! btw...the butterfly thing is a nice touch!! thanks buddy : )
Lauren
November 6, 2010
Running the NYC Marathon tomorrow morning with your picture on my shoulder. Thinking that when I get tired, you would be yelling at me to stop being a baby. Thanks for getting me through the hard times. Thinking of you every day.
Love you dad.
Eileen
September 12, 2010
My heart is always yours....
BARBARA PEDUTO
June 11, 2010
ALWAYS A THOUGHT, ALWAYS A PRAYER, GREAT MEMORIES OF DAYS GONE BY. MY LOVE TO ALL
Gloria Perez
September 12, 2009
think of you always - and of my friend eileen - i miss you both in my life and hope you are watching over her and giving her strength - always in my heart and my prayers the whole petti family
Richard Bock
September 11, 2009
Coach,
I just wanted to say thank you. Since I can remember you were always someone I looked up to as a man. You have a very special place in my heart. You and my Father were my very first Baseball coaches when I was 5 years old. At that age you set such a valuable foundation for me to grow on. I have now been in the Marines Corps for 5 years and has served over seas in Iraq, with one mission in my mind to honor GREAT men like you. Thank you for everything you have done. Its was an honor knowing you Mr Petti. Once again THANK YOU!
Sincerly,
Richard Bock
Sara Attia
September 11, 2009
Dear Mr. Petti,
While I never had the pleasure of meeting you, your daughter Lauren is one of the most special people in my life. Geography and responsibilities may keep us from spending more time together but one thing that is clear when you are with her; you ARE her angel. There is never a moment where you are not in her heart and it shows by the quality of her character. You raised an amazing woman who in this past year has graduated from an excellent Masters Program and married a wonderful man who makes her very happy. I am eternally grateful for your heroic service and am warmed by the memories and love that keep you alive in our hearts. Thank you for the amazing friend whom I love dearly and perpetually respect.
Lauren Petti (Verhey)
September 11, 2009
Dad,
Its the 8th anniversary and I don't think its ever going to get easier. I miss you terribly. I got married this year and it was harder than I could have imagined doing that without you. I kept trying to imagine what joke you might make to me in the back of the church about escaping before its too late. You'd love Jon, he's a family man just like you, always ready to help. We feel your presence around us constantly. I love you.
Love,
Lauren
April 14, 2009
It has been many years since I went to Power Memorial HS with Phil. I remember him as the kind of guy you simply liked... friendly... solid...
Back in the day, there was a TV show called Starsky & Hutch. We all thought that Phil looked so much like the actor who played Starsky (Paul Michael Glaser) that it became Phil's nickname.
And that is how he signed my year book - "... Best Wishes, Starsky"
Though nearly 8 years have passed since 9/11, Phil is not forgotten.
I wish his family well,
AT
Stefanie Ventimiglia
March 24, 2009
It's weird...I don't really know how I came across this guest book for Phil. But I'm glad I did. Lauren was my best friend for most of my life so Phil was like a father figure to me. He was there when Lauren and I had homework or projects to do and he would always help. I remember one time when we had a social studies project to complete. We had to build a model of the White House and Phil helped us spray paint it. I distinctly remember him teaching me the proper way to spray paint. He was always fun to be around and took good care, not only of his family, but of his friends (me included).
I was never allowed to sleep over whenever Lauren had a slumber party and Phil always drove me home. He made sure I got home safely. He was caring, more so than any other friend's father ever was to me.
I have lost touch with Lauren in recent years but that doesn't mean I don't think of her family, her father, or what a great friend she was to me. I see so much of Phil in Lauren and that's what makes me unable to forget someone as special as her. She IS her father's daughter.
Phil, I pray for you and your family often. I pray that you are at rest and happy in some other wonderful place. And I pray that your family's pain be eased, if even for a little while. I can't imagine what it's like to lose a father. But I know what it's like to lose a father figure. Forever in my heart (and everyone else's).
January 26, 2009
My love
It has taken me a long time to do this. I miss you so much my heart hurts every minute of every day without you. Our children are getting married this year and your loss is felt even more as their days get closer. Fr. Dave is marrying both of them. I wish you were here....I love you so much and always will for the rest of my life. I try and hang on to all the great memories although some days they are not enough. You are the wind beneath my wings and always will be.
I love and miss you so much
Eileen
September 12, 2008
Thank you for your sacrifice. You are remembered with respect and honor, all across our great land. God bless your family always
Donovan Ferguson
September 11, 2008
this entry was really touching. and it really made me want to become a firefighter in new york city
Chris Boshnack
September 1, 2008
I don’t remember how I came upon this site tonight, but I did. I have been here for awhile, reading, thinking, remembering--listening to Dave Mason.
Tim Schlittner
February 18, 2008
Uncle Phil-
Giants won the big one. For real. We had to play all 3 playoff games on the road and then beat the undefeated Patriots in Super Bowl 42. I know you enjoyed it up there. Wish you could have shared it with us. Dad, Danny, Philip and I were jumping up and down and hugging. I thought of you a lot that day.
Love,
Timmy
William Rovet
September 18, 2007
I had the distinct honor and privilege to known Phil. Although I was younger than Phil he would always take the time to talk with me and see how I was doing when our families would get together. I wish I was able to be part of the "crew" that included Phil, Tommy, my older brothers Fred and Rich, and the others kids from the neighborhood as they enjoyed growing up in Brooklyn (playing all kinds of sports and causing all kinds of "trouble"). What great stories I cherish to this day!
As a middle school history teacher I made a pledge that I will never let the memory of Philip's bravery and heroism be lost to my students. I may be approached with a question about my memory bracelet or someone asking about my picture of Phil which then allows me to tell them about the person Phil was. When I teach my lesson about 9/11 they know about what Phil sacrificed for them. They will know, as long as I teach, about the brave person behind the name and the smiling picture who gave all.
Jacqueline Butt
September 16, 2007
He is the coolest big brother, (no offense Tommy)anyone could ask for. So many memories, I don't know where to begin. This one will always stand out. This is how cool he is. He was able to go to a Kiss concert, platform shoes and all, come home and change into his capezios and go dancing (do the Hustle) at the 2001 Odyssey Disco. How many people can pull that off?
On a serious note, he is missed so much in our house. The girls know who he is without ever meeting him. Wherever they are and they see an American Flag, they get excited and say they see the, "Uncle Phil Flag". Rich can hear a song on the radio and Phil comes to mind and he has to pull over for a few minutes. As long as I keep seeing as many butterflies as I (we) do, I know he is with us.
All Our Love To You!
Adrian Foran
September 16, 2007
My favorite memories of Phil are those that only he and I shared. …It’s early Christmas morning, “come on, let’s go see our gifts.” Phil’s got a flashlight for us, we hide in the living room, spy our unwrapped Santa gifts, “there’s the tape recorder you wanted” he says, and then, “come on, we better get back to bed.” …It’s 6 AM and we’re loading the trunk for my trip to college. There’s a whisper from the front door, “Adrian”; it’s Phil in his pajamas, he woke up to say goodbye. He hugs me tight and says “I love you.” …It’s a party or wedding, there’s a tap on my shoulder, a nod to the dance floor, and “come on.” Ever since we were teenagers attending our first wedding, Phil has always danced with me at every party and wedding. I miss Phil every day and I miss all the dances we’ll never dance.
September 11, 2007
Philip and cousins the first time he was away without his family
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Rose Boshnack
September 11, 2007
I remember Philip as caring and easy going. When we would visit Staten Island, we could always count on him to stop by. Philip was a great believer in God, country and family. If we had more people like Philip in the world there would be no 9/11. He is loved and missed.
Aunt Lolly
Lisa Boshnack
September 11, 2007
I regret that I did not get the chance to know Phil better. From what I did know, he was a genuine and caring man. He is a true hero in every sense of the word.
Michael Rizzuto
September 11, 2007
I remember visiting my aunt Catherine and Uncle Sonny, and all of my cousins in Brooklyn. Phil is twelve years older then I am, (which doesn’t seem like much now, but when you are eight years old that is huge) and when I would speak of him to my friends I always referred to him as “My Big Cousin”. Every time we went to visit, Phil would stay around, he and his brother Thomas would entertain my brother Ralph and I. Here was an 18, 19, 20 year old man hanging around to entertain two seven and eight year old boys. Whether it was playing pool in the basement, or attempting to teach us how to play stick ball or “feet hockey” in the street, or just pretending to be cartoon characters and running up and down the hall in their home driving my Aunt and my Mother crazy he was always there. As we got older we saw less and less of each other, Weddings, Funerals, occasional family gatherings. When we did see each other Phil would always pick up right where he left off, he was always genuinely interested in what was going on, and how we were doing, and always made you feel like you just saw him yesterday. I know Phil is a lot of things to a lot of people, and he will always be “My Big Cousin”. You are greatly missed.
Jesse Giamartino
September 11, 2007
I didnt Really know phil that well but i hear he was a great person and i bet he was. All i remember is when i was little we went to the firehouse and having him give us a tour but that is really it
we love you phil
Jesse
September 11, 2007
"Greater love hath no man than this, that he lay down his life for his friends".
Phil is a honorable man, a true hero and now most certainly a guardian angel. Peace to his soul and to those he left behind.
Jeff DeNardo
September 11, 2007
I also can't believe it's been 6 years. From the first day I met Phil we became buddies.I keep a picture of him with me always.
He was my leadoff man and my shortstop.
September 11, 2007
Such a great man.
Such a huge loss.
My heart weeps.
Blessed are those that knew him.
~ A family friend
September 10, 2007
I did not know Phil personally but have heard stories about him that express what a kind, caring and genuine man he was. This world lost a true hero six years ago and I can only hope that we can all gather some hope from such a terrible loss. Many blessings to his family and know that your loved one is resting in the arms of the Lord...
"I'd like the memory of me to be a happy one. I'd like to leave an after glow of smiles when life is done. I'd like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways, of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days. I'd like the tears of those who grieve to dry before the sun. Of happy memories that I leave when life is done."
Fred & Joan Rovet
September 10, 2007
Among the many endearing qualities about Phil was his smile. It wasn't a sarcastic smile or a boastful smile. It was a contagious smile. One would never feel that Phil was laughing at you but with you.
One incident that I can recall was when the den mothers and their kids gathered at Catherine and Tony's house one summer day. Our sons Fred & Rich along with Phil, Tommy, Nicky and a few other guys were outside playing some game that had them leaping over backyard fences and even climbing over garage roofs. At one point in time Cath looked out her back window and spotted the kids in action. She called to Phil and asked what was he doing. As Phil came close Cath proceeded to yell at him and took off her slipper and threw it at him......"but Ma " said Phil as he picked up the slipper and handed it to her..."don't but me Phil, you should know better then climbing over our neighbors fences." With that she threw the slipper at him once again. Phil picked it up and handed it back to her. The barrage with slipper thrown and Phil like a dutiful son handing it back to her with a big smile on his face continued . He wasn't the only one that was smiling. The Moms were standing in back of her to see what was going on and could not hold their laughter back. The scene finally registerd with her. There was Phil holding her slipper ready to return it to her once again and no doubt Cath would have thrown it again. By the way she never made contact with him.
This was the age of innocence a very long time ago and a memory that we will cherish forever.
Fred, Will, Freddie and Rich still wear his rememberence bracelet.
Rich, who is in the Air Force, gave Phils picture to a friend who is a A10 pilot and he keeps it in his cockpit when flying his missions.
Will, who is a history teacher in middle school has Phils picture in his classroom and refers to him when discussing the heros of 9/11.
God bless you Phil. We will never forget you. Our friend, Our hero. Pray for us... We need a friend in heaven with that special smile.
Fred, Joan Rovet and Family
Jody Muzio(Salerno)
September 10, 2007
Phil was one of those many extra big brothers I had growing up, and I can't imagine what it would have been like without him. There was alot of fun watching the four of them( Phil, Louie, Nicky,& Tommy) play hockey in all its many guises and softball at picnics. I'm glad u were a part of that Phil and I thank you for being part of our family. May God Bless and Keep You. Say Hi to Nicky for me.
Christine Caridi
September 10, 2007
I will always remember Phil’s smile and kind heart. I can’t believe it has been Six years since we lost him. I miss Xmas eve dinner at Aunt Catherine’s house; those are memories that will last a lifetime. I love you all.
Love Cousin Christine.
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TINA SALERNO CASTALDO
September 7, 2007
Phil was a great man, I did not hang with him as much as my brothers did, but everytime I was around him I was always smiling and laughing, as he was. I looked up to him and his family. I regret that that had to happen to him and everyone, and I am sorry I did not see him before the tragedy occurred, as I was in the midst of it also. Miss you Phil, may you be still smiling and laughing, GOD BLESS.
Joseph Cirillo
September 7, 2007
We had the privilege and honor knowing Phil.Many good times and laughs were shared with him.One that comes to mind is the time he planned his brother's bachelor party.It was held at Governors Island.All who attended played golf that day.
Phil was blessed with a wonderfull family.Wife,children,Mother ,Father,brother and two sisters.Also nieces and nephews.He will always be in our hearts and prays.
Jean and Joe Cirillo
Marie Caridi
September 3, 2007
Philip will be in our hearts always.
His smile and easy going manner made
you feel comfortable to sit and talk
with him. He loved being a Firefighter and talked about the job
and the friendships with the other men. He is our Hero!
Aunt Marie, Uncle Sal & cousins
Anthony, Emily and Christine
Marie Salerno
September 2, 2007
What can I say about Phil? I'd known him since he went to grammar school with my sons Louie & Nicky. They, along with Tommy Petti never lost touch with each other, even up to marriage. He was a wonderful son, husband, father and friend, to know him was to love him. His family and faith was everything to him, but he loved his job and didn't want to be anything but a fireman. He is forever in our hearts.
Catherine Petti
September 2, 2007
Six years have past since we lost Phil, they have been rough years. We can vividly remember his humor, his lightheartedness, his joy of life, that will always remain in our hearts and minds. He loved his family, his job, his friends and he
trusted in God. Phil was 43 when he died, but he lived a very full life. I suppose it is true about not counting the quantity of years but the quality of one's life. Phil's life was truly quality! We miss him everyday, but we know that one day we will be together again and we will enjoy his company in a far better place. We will love you forever,'till we meet again!
Mom and Dad
David Normand
September 1, 2007
If something comes to life in others because of you, then you have made an approach to immortality.
...in memory and in peace to a fellow brother.
Thomas Petti
August 31, 2007
On Monday night September 10,2001 Phil and I were working in our firehouses. We spoke on the phone for a few minutes in what turned out to be our last conversation in this life. Nothing earth shattering was discussed. It started as most of our greetings did, "Hey Jerky"..."What's going on Hammer". We spoke of our last hockey game Sunday night, and our next one on Wednesday. But what I'll always remember was his easy going personality. I could almost see the smile on his face as we spoke. Phil always tried to keep an even keel regardless of the situation. Becoming too excited or too depressed was reserved for Giants', Mets' and Rangers' outcomes. Everything else could be dealt with rationally. Loosing Phil has put a huge hole in all our hearts and he is missed tremendously everyday. I do feel very fotunate for the years we had together as brothers and friends. Next to my father he was the biggest positive influence in my life and his giving was endless. I'd like to thank everyone who has sent prayers, well wishes and thoughts of Phil to our family. They are all appreciated. Phil lives on in our memories,in our shared stories of him and always in our hearts.
August 31, 2007
When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds; your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.
Many blessings to this very courageous man and many thoughts to the loved ones he left behind.
Lauren
August 30, 2007
There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of my dad. Most days, it is hard to find the words to describe how much I love and miss him. His sense of humor, his generousity, and his dedication were just of few of his best qualities. He was an excellent judge of character, and always taught me what was important in life.
I remember his passion, especially when it involved sports. He always placed a NY Giants hat atop the Christmas tree in place of a star. I'll always remember when I made the varsity soccer team in high school, he was only able to attend my first practice before the tragedy. I can remember walking home from the field that day, just the two of us, and he told me in so many words that I needed to keep working, and keep striving to be the best. His advice has gotten me far, and his heroism gives me the strength to keep going.
This year would have been my parents 25th wedding anniversary; their song was "Spend your life with me" by Dave Mason.
I know that the life they shared together was filled with love, laughter and genuine happiness.
I wish them both happy memories of one another, I couldn't have asked for better parents.
My father was a hero to many, myself included, and if I could inspire half as many people in my life as he did, I would be proud.
In our hearts~
Alexandra Foran
August 30, 2007
My Uncle Phil is one of the best uncles you could ask for, always kind, funny, compassionate, loving, and at any age he would engulf you in a big bear hug! This is a poem I wrote about him one day in honor of him and his humble memory.
My name is Philip Scott Petti
My life on this earth as past
My legacy lives on somehow
In the hearts of those vast
I am called a hero
But I feel that I am not
My job was firefighter
But also father, husband, and what not
September the Eleventh
Came and brought me down
I am one of many
343 men from my town
The Lord I prayed to all my life
Came and called on me that day
I fought the fire off
I was amidst the fray
But my life’s worth
Is not that day
Not in that tower
Not during that hour
My legacy is left in those
Who knew me and loved me
For who I was and
How I lived
I did not work for
Public acclaim
I did not work
For power
I fought fires because
I loved doing my job
I enjoyed the excitement
I lived with my brothers
If anything that day could show
The world that I’d like it to see
Is that there is good on this Earth
Among the chaos and agony
My life’s achievement is not my
Supposed heroic death
My life’s work is epitomized
In the children that I left
Those whom I called friends and family
Those who have never forgot
Those are the things that I have treasured
Those are the reasons I fought
Society may call me heroic
But the entire world does not know who I am
I am a father, a brother, an uncle, a husband, a son,
A friend, I am a mere mortal man
Now years may go by
And books may be writ
And my name may be
Spoken or seen
But the truth to me is that this
Is not my sort of greatness
The truth is that this
Isn’t me
My greatest accomplishment of all
Will be my son and daughter maturing
Let them remember my love and lessons
And watch over them both enduring
Robert Caridi
August 28, 2007
There is a lot to say about Phil and not enough words to say it. Phil is my nephew, I say is, not was because of this feeling that he has never really left us. Phil lives within us and always will. As others have said, Phil always made you feel good and he always made you laugh.
I'm the youngest of five siblings. Phil's mother Catherine is the oldest and Phil is the oldest of all fifteen niece's and nephews. Four and a half years older than Phil made him more of a brother than a nephew to me.
We became a family of Fire and Policemen. Five of us, three fireman and two policemen. I use to tease Phil about being the smart one because he out ranked the rest of us.
There would be times when we would not talk or see each other, but no matter the length of that time we would pick up where we left off, as if it was yesterday. That is how Phil made you feel.
A day does not pass that Phil is not thought of, loved or missed.
"Uncle" Rob
Trooper, New York State Police
Retired-30 yrs of service
Aunrt Claudette and Uncle Ralph Rizzuto
August 27, 2007
Philip was a real joy to be around. He had a great sense of humor and a dedication to family, job and friends. We think of him a great deal. As a retired firefighter I not only lost a fellow brother but also a loving nephew.There are no words that can describe the sense of feelings for Eileen and the family. Phil you will always be in our thoughts and prayers.
August 26, 2007
Having worked as a Trooper for many years, I have seen people at their best and at their worst. I was charged to work in NYC right after the tragedy occurred- it was heart wrenching to see the total devastation and to know the immense loss that occurred there. But, I know that while I was there I saw people rise above their surroundings and work for their fellow man. This is something, it appears as though your loved one did every day he was alive. I had the opportunity to meet with some of Phil’s fellow firefighters while I was there and they all spoke so highly of him and I could hear the loss in their voices when it was official he had passed. Our country will never be able to repay the debt that was incurred that horrible day but Phil’s and other's bravery in the face of such horror will never be forgotten. I consider it an honor to sign this book in his memory.
Marie Knight
August 7, 2007
I believe that tears can heal, that memories can comfort and that love lives on forever.
The strength and courage of your loved one will be forever remembered. Please know that he affected many lives and we will all be eternally grateful for the ultimate sacrifice that he made for his fellow human beings.
Even though the voice is quiet, know that his spirit still echoes.
Chris Boshnack
April 10, 2007
I would see Phil at family functions over the years. He was always friendly, warm and easy-going. He took a keen interest in you and what was going on in your life. That is what I will always remember about Phil.
Gone too soon,
Chris
P Tabbernor
January 31, 2007
In memory....
Kristine
January 4, 2007
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Christine Korber
November 17, 2006
Dear Eileen, Phillip and Lauren:
I just wanted to let you know that I am the proud wearer of a "memory band" that I purchased 2 weeks after the tragedy. I proudly wear your husband and father's name. I have NEVER taken this bracelet off my wrist. I wear it everyday. I am a 55 year old nurse. There is not a day that goes by that I'm not reminded of Lt. Petti's courage and unselfish love for his fellow man. Because of this ever present reminder, it helps me try to be a better person on a daily basis. God Bless you all. Take solace in knowing Lt. Philip Petti is indeed resting in the arms of the angels. He has earned the right!
William Petti
September 11, 2006
Our condolences to the members of Lt. Petti's family. They have suffered a lose that cannot be measured. His heroism will always be remembered. I am a member of a large family of Pettis from Brockton, MA, and he will always be in our prayers.
Bill & Sharon Petti
Minerva Bloom and family
September 10, 2006
Dear Petti family:
I just wanted to visit here once more (first time was in 2001), to let you know that Philip will always be remembered, along with all the brave men and women whose spirit of courage and strength exemplifies the best of what humanity is capable of.
I never met Philip but I heard of his loss through a dear friend of mine and cousin of his in Long Island. My family and I were deeply touched and saddened by the events as many of us were and forever will be.
We visited Ground Zero 3 months after the tragedy and we were able to find his photograph among the make-shift, tent-memorial they had at that time and joined in prayer among the multitude.
His spirit lives among us. Blessings.
Vanessa Ryan
September 11, 2004
I will always remember Phil. He will always be in our hearts and is a true hero. My love goes out to Eileen, Phil and especially Lauren. You are like a sister to me and I will always be there for you. Love you guys!
God bless,
Vanessa
Lorraine Forrler
September 11, 2003
Lt. Petti came to P.S. 257 Bronx to talk to our kindergarten children about fire safety. He was wonderful with the little ones who were just in awe of him. He was warm and kind and gentle. He was always very professional and so respected by all of the teachers. He is greatly missed and my thoughts and prayers are with him and his family and friends on this very sad 2nd anniversary.
Kristine Peck
September 11, 2003
I visited NY a few months ago and I now realize what a devistating event this was. I just want your family to know that the firemen in NY were the nicest people I have ever met. I am sure you were one of them. God bless your family and America misses you.
Cara
December 25, 2002
Coach,
Some coaches can teach you to be the best, some can teach you how to physically give everything. But only one can teach you that you have nothing untill you have heart. You taught me that in order to be anything I must love it. Thank you for helping me find my life passion. Everytime I step out on the field I give it all for you. I'd be nothing without your patience. Missing you everday.
Love Cara
Noreen Nappi
September 11, 2002
Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with you.
Love,
Anthony Caridi
&
Noreen Nappi
Vicky Muma
September 11, 2002
In my city a radio station was giving out flags today (September 11th), each flag has the name of a victim on it. Lt. Philip S. Petti's name was on one of my flags. I wanted to get to know a little about this hero of our country. My thoughts and prayer are with his family today.
Gina (Accurso) Donnelly
September 10, 2002
I didnt really know Phillip, but I was a neighbor to his family for a few years when I was living on 9th avenue and 57th street in Brooklyn, and a friend to his sister Jackie while going to OLPH high school and for a few years there after when our lives went seperate ways. I can only imagine how your family must be feeling, but I keep you in my thoughts in prayers every day. I wish your family the strength to get through this time. It is hard but it seems to be getting harder again that the 11th is only 2 days away. My prayers will be with you on Sept 11th. God Bless you and your family. Gina(Accurso)Donnelly, wife of retired NYC Firefighter.
Ginger Toscano
September 3, 2002
Dear Eileen,
You are in my thoughts and prayers constantly. I just wanted to let you know that. May God Bless you, Philip and Lauren and give you peace.
Love,
Ginger
August 21, 2002
"A WISH FOR YOUR FAMILY"...
Comfort on difficult days,
Smiles when sadness intrudes,
Rainbows to follow the clouds,
Sunsets to warm your hearts,
Gentle hugs when spirits sag,
Friendships to brighten your being,
Beauty for your eyes to see,
Confidence for when you doubt,
Faith so that you can believe again,
Courage to know yourselfs,
Patience to accept the painful truth,
And LOVE to complete your life!
May the Memories of Philip never die.
And may GOD bless you all always
The Jerez Family
www.geocities.com/ladder12fdny
Kathy T Masotto
July 17, 2002
I remember as a little girl seeing Phil and Tommy hanging out with my uncles Nicky & Louie. I thought they were the coolest guys in the world, always laughing, and hoped I would have friendships like they had when I was an adult.Every time I saw Phil he was smiling. That is how I will remember him and I know he is smiling down on his family as their angel.
Marilynn Colon
May 30, 2002
I knew Phil and Eileen a long time ago, when I was married to one of their friends. Phil was a warm, friendly and caring person. My prayers and thoughts go out to Eileen and her family. Phil, may you rest in peace in God's love.
Catherine Petti
May 28, 2002
On behalf of our family, I want to thank all who visit this sight. We are touched by your caring concern for us and the beautiful poems and letters you write.
Philip was a wonderful son, brother, husband and father. He had a great sense of humor, enjoyed life and trusted God.
We miss him very much, but he lives on in our hearts, in our laughter, in our joy.
God bless all of you.
Catherine Petti
(Phil's mom)
Minerva Bloom
May 20, 2002
In The Remains, We Nurture
by Minerva T. Bloom
It is you I wake to --mornings
As if you were conducting yourself on the radio
Carousing in the clouds of slumber angelic-symphony
Stirring the smoke of some recent, burning dream.
I fervently bled from the rhapsodies, entranced
In the way we assembled all the instruments together
Laying them at God’s feet
by the city walk.
I will feel you. Valiant.
Amidst the laughter of your child
I will see you, within--
crimsoned glass, thick with dreams
In this world’s gray dawn.
* * * * * * *
A Hero's Eyes
by Minerva Bloom
Gentle
black eyes,
dance
wrapped in mist
singing
upwards,
eyes that see
into the mysteries
two eyes
penetrating into mine
pure as night
two magnets that sparkle,
with silvery flakes
from the moon.
May you rest in peace.
* * * * * * *
www.partnersinverse.com/american_memorial.html
Angie Campbell
May 9, 2002
**********GOD BLESS YOU**********
Tim Schlittner
May 6, 2002
Lt. Philip Petti is my uncle. His son, Philip, is my best friend. Uncle Phil's wife, Aunt Eileen, and his daughter, Lauren, are dear to my heart. I am grateful to all the people who signed this book from around the country. I know our family appreciates your love and support.
Uncle Phil was a great man, simple yet sophisticated, with a tremendous love of his family and job.
He will be remembered forever for his service to our nation, but he was a hero long before September 11th.
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