Ruth Sheila Lapin

Ruth Sheila Lapin

Ruth Lapin Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Dec. 14, 2001.
Ruth Lapin, 53, of East Windsor, New Jersey, died on September 11th in the collapse of the World Trade Center. Ruth was a Senior Business/Systems Analyst with Baseline Financial Services on the 77th floor of the South tower. She was a loving mother, wife and friend who touched the lives of many. One of her favorite ways of contributing to the community was being a Brownie and Girl Scout leader. Ruth felt that the way that she could make a big difference was by being a positive role model for children. Ruth is survived by her husband, David Chazin of East Windsor; her mother, Joan Lopatin of Freehold; her daughter, Heather Daly of South Brunswick; her son, Doug Schroeder of Charlotte, NC; her stepdaughters Sharon Glinn of Colonia, Sara Chazin of Summit and Karen Ruffin of Hampton, VA; her five grandchildren, Lea and Ethan Ruffin and Sam, Matthew and Hannah Glinn; and her brothers, Herb Lapin of Gahanna, OH, David Lapin of Baltimore, Maryland, and Alan Fischer of Hurst, Texas.
Tribute submitted by Doug Schroeder.


Ruth Lapin, 53, loved making em laugh

Ruth Lapin loved her New York Giants, good, hearty laughs and Girl Scouts camping trips. Although her children and grandchildren were all grown, Ms. Lapin was still a troop leader for the Girl Scouts until last year.

The 53-year-old East Windsor resident had a knack with youngsters and felt that working with them at an influential age was the best way she could contribute to society.

"She was very motivating to the girls," said Isabel McGincy, a fellow troop leader. "I can't say enough about the work she did for the kids."

On Sept. 10, Ms. Lapin spent the night camped out in front of a television, watching her beloved New York Giants lose to the Denver Broncos. The next morning, she kissed her husband, David Chazin, goodbye and went to work at Baseline Financial Services on the 77th floor of Two World Trade Center.

No one has heard from her since.

"I watched the building go down. I knew she was there," Chazin said.

Besides her work with the Girl Scouts, Ms. Lapin enjoyed making people laugh. So much so that she took classes in standup comedy and started doing performances in clubs several years ago.

"The thing that Ruth liked the most was making people laugh or bringing joy into their life," Chazin said.

She did this by offering free meals to homeless people in New York or giving her sleeping bag to a Girl Scouts camper after the girl's bag was soaked by a rainstorm. Ms. Lapin slept in the car that night and still managed to find humor in it.

Even though she loved her job, she already had her retirement plans mapped out. She and her husband planned to buy a bed and breakfast near Avon and open it up for guests.

"It was consistent with her whole personality," Chazin said. "She delighted in touching a lot of lives in a very positive way."

In addition to her husband, Ms. Lapin is survived by her mother, Joan Lopatin, of Freehold; a daughter, Heather Daly of South Brunswick; a son, Doug Schroeder of Charlotte, N.C.; stepdaughters Sharon Glinn of Colonia, Sara Chazin of Summit and Karen Ruffin of Hampton, Va.; five grandchildren, Lea Ruffin, Ethan Ruffin, Sam Glinn, Matthew Glinn and Hannah Glinn; and brothers Herb Lapin of Gahanna, Ohio, David Lapin of Baltimore and Alan Fischer of Hurst, Texas.

A memorial service is scheduled to take place at 1 p.m. Sept. 30 at the American Hotel in Freehold.

In lieu of flowers or gifts, donations in Ms. Lapin's memory may be made to one or both of the following charities: Girl Scouts of Delaware-Raritan, 108 Church Lane, East Brunswick, N.J. 08816; or American Red Cross of Central NJ, 707 Alexander Road, Suite 101, Princeton, N.J. 08540-6399.

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October 10, 2015

Merle Alexandra posted to the memorial.

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September 11, 2015

Diana MILLS posted to the memorial.

Merle Alexandra

October 10, 2015

La rose était à côté, je l'ai mise sur ce nom sans savoir. Je suis française et j'ai chercher à comprendre qui était ce simple nom sur le mémorial.
Demain je vais voir les Giants jouer et je penserai à elle.
Repose en paix.

Merle Alexandra

October 10, 2015

Diana MILLS

September 11, 2015

Your memory lives on you are not forgotten.

S J. Friscia III

April 28, 2014

In Memory
With Honor & Respect.

Pam Teller

September 15, 2011

I am thinking of you Ruthie and will dearly miss you at the Freehold High school Reunion.

P Tabbernor

December 2, 2006

In memory....

Kristine

November 2, 2006

As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.

Wayne Verducci

May 24, 2005

I had the privilege of knowing Ruth for a short period of time through a mutual friend. Ruth had a tremendous sense of humor and enjoyed everything! Ruth was generous to a fault and taught me tolerance and humor. It's when we lose beautiful people like Ruth that we regret not keeping in touch with them. Ruth, When I watch my now worn out copy of "An Affair to Remember", I think of you.



Hold fast to your friends and don't lose touch. My deepest sympathy to her beloved family and friends.



Respectfully,



Wayne Verducci

Barry Ott

December 31, 2002

You were always helpful at work and always had kind words for everyone. You were "one of a kind" Ruth. Bless you and keep them laughing in heaven.

Jim & Renee Miraglia

September 11, 2002

We feel the pain of your loss. We remember Ruthie as a very fun and happy person. We know she will be missed by all that knew her.

Elyse Carroll

September 10, 2002

I am a senior at St.Pius X High School and our school along with the other Catholic schools in Houston are wearing namebands of the 9-11 victims. i am wearing Ruth's name and am praying for her soul and for her family and friends. I read Ruth's bio and i can definitely see what a great person she was and i know that she touched many lives. I hope that anyone touched by Ruth will go on to spread the joy that she left behind. I cannot immagine what kind of impact a tragedy such as this would have, but i want for you all to be strong and know The Lord is with you.

Valeri Olson

March 23, 2002

Ruth was always laughing and looking to find the bright side for others. She took great pride in her work and helping others. Her family was her pride and joy.

It is a tragedy that her life was cut short so young. May everyone whose life Ruth touched remember her as the kind and fun loving person she was.

Mary Kaiser Kemler

March 17, 2002

Ruth was a wonderfully creative and original person. She loved to laugh! She was always so proud of her kids. She was a one of a kind person, a most unusual woman. It was a pleasure to know her. I am very sorry for her family's loss.

February 16, 2002

DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL WOMAN..RUTH SHEILA LAPIN AND MAY HER SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS YOUR WONDERFUL FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK..MAY GOD AND THE BIBICAL RUTH GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN

Teresa Jahn

December 26, 2001

We are deeply sorry for your loss of Ruth. May Ruth's positive role model attitude, her life and love live on in those who love her. Our hearts cry with you.

America Cries

We see your sorrow-

and our hearts cry....

We can not erase your pain

but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-

-the American people-

are beside you.

We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,

the strength that gives you courage,

and the words to lighten your spirits.

And when we are left speechless

may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts

to ease your sorrow.

May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-

-the American people-

face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn

Dixon, IL

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