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Jerome SCANLAN Obituary

Age 83 Of Cottage Grove Beloved husband, father, grandpa & great-grandpa, brother, brother-in-law, uncle, passed away peacefully at home Feb. 15, 2013. Born Feb. 26, 1929 in Edgley, ND to Dr. Jerome E. and Loretta (Harrington) Scanlan. Preceded in death by his parents, daughter-in-law Holly Scanlan, brothers-in-law Joe and Bill (Jenks) Ryan, and nephew Greg Fitzpatrick. Survived by loving wife of 58 years, Rosemary Ryan Scanlan; children, Jerome, Elizabeth (Jon) Kroschel, Thomas (Gigi), Loretta (David Steineck), James (Cyndy), Timothy, Moira (Bill) Olson, Megan (Bucky) Lescarbeau, Kathleen (Craig) Woolery, Jeanne (Martin) Doyle and Patricia Russoniello; grandchildren, Josie, Katie, Susie, Sawyer Scanlan, and their mother, Ann; Cady (Berta Drudis), Seth, Mallory, Whitney and Skyler Kroschel; Tommy, Tara (Mike) Keegan (great-granddaughter Claire), Kelsey and Kyle Scanlan; Justin, Liam, Zack (Rose), and Lizzie Steineck; Bri, Jaclyn and Joe Scanlan; Ryan, Meaghan and Connor Scanlan; Parker, Brody and Ben Olson; Ellen and Joe Lescarbeau; Logan, Jack and Matthew Woolery; Nora, Desmond and Arthur Doyle; Luke Russoniello and his father, Mark; siblings Pat (Char) Scanlan, MaryAnn (Ken) Fitzpatrick, and John (Dorothy) Scanlan; in-laws Viv, Geri and Mike (Carole) Ryan, several nieces and nephews. Cretin Class of '46, College of St. Thomas '51, USMC, 31 year Unisys employee. He loved to sing with his family and friends, loved Glacier Park, old movies, and Johnston's Island. He will be missed and loved forever. Thank you to HealthEast Hospice. Mass of Christian Burial 10 AM Tuesday at ASSUMPTION CATHOLIC CHURCH (51 W. 7th Street, St. Paul). Visitation 4-8 PM Monday at O'HALLORAN AND MURPHY FUNERAL HOME (575 S. Snelling Ave., St. Paul) 651-698-0796, and also one hour prior to services at the church on Tuesday. In lieu of flowers, memorials preferred



Published by Pioneer Press from Feb. 16 to Feb. 17, 2013.
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For centuries, this Gregorian Chant was used to escort the body out of the Funeral Mass:

IN PARADISUM

In Paradisum
Deducant te Angeli:
In tuo adventu suscipiant te Martyres,
Et perducant te in civitatem sanctam Jerusalem.
Chorus Angelorum te suscipiat,
Et cum Lazaro quondam paupere
Aeternam habeas requiem.

This is the translation:
May the angels lead you into Paradise,
May the Martyrs come to welcome you
And take you to the Holy City,
The new and eternal Jerusalem.
May the Choir of Angels welcome you,
Where Lazarus is poor no longer.
May you have eternal rest.

Requiescat in Pace, Dear Jerome.

February 13, 2014

TOM'S EULOGY

As some of my family have already attested, dad was a die-hard Minnesota sports fan, one of the staunchest you're likely ever to encounter, and he instilled that faith and loyalty in the home team in all of us. He had a funny way of doing it, a strange kind of reverse psychology – you could almost swear sometimes that he was pulling for the other team. For example, I remember years ago, back in the glory days of The Purple, when we use to trounce everybody, we were way up on somebody, something like 56-3, and the other team scored a late, meaningless touchdown, and dad gleefully told us, “The Vikings are going to lose this game!” It was a scene commonly played out over the years, but, despite what he might outwardly say, the message was clear; never give up, the Twins, Vikings, Gophers, whoever it might be, will rally. The home team will win.
When I learned my father had congestive heart failure I thought, “That can't be right. Dad's in great shape. He was a collegiate swimmer. He has a body like Michelangelo's David.” But it was true, and it slowed dad down. But, since he'd always liked to read it seemed okay, he was retired then and deserved time to relax and enjoy watching the pursuits of his kids and his grandchildren. And so he did.
And then, two years ago, came the big turn down; he was in and out of St. Joe's twice, and then Woodwinds, (God bless them) and we brought dad home and prepared for the end. But then, in true Minnesota sports fashion, he rallied. Big time. A major league rally. Pretty soon he was walking again, up and down the stairs, back and forth to his den where he kept his historical archives, getting out on occasion, most importantly still there with us, and for us, his family and friends. Dad had taken the game into extra innings, and those extra innings were priceless. We got to share more Holidays with him, two more Thanksgivings and Christmases, not to mention the many birthdays that come with eleven kids and 34 grandkids. He was there for the birth of his first great-grandchild, my granddaughter, Claire, as well as to hear the news about two more on the way.
Then, just into the New Year, he fell behind again. Way behind. I was talking to my brother-in-law, Bill, a phenomenal ballplayer himself, we were discussing dad's situation. Bill mentioned the possibility of another rally, and I told him it didn't look good. “It's like we're down by ten runs,” I said. “And there are two outs, and he's got two strikes on him.” And Bill said, “He's fouling off pitches.” And that made me happy, and I said, “Yes, he is.”
And dad continued to foul off pitches. And a beautiful thing happened then. Because we knew it was the last at bat, it didn't really matter who was up next, so we all took turns in the on-deck circle. Tim came back from Connecticut, twice; Jim and Moira and Megan came down from up north, all of us had our turns. And in between pitches dad told us stories. So it was that I learned of an unlikely Marine by the name of Bernie Tice, who once had to be donkey-lifted out of the Grand Canyon. And of a cross country road trip with mom and, at the time, two teenage boys - my Uncles John and Mike – and Bernie again, that began with an engine breakdown in San Francisco, of leaving Karl Kline behind, of running out of gas in the middle of the desert. Bernie, the steadfast Marine, hitchhiked into town for gas because he couldn't fathom sleeping outside in a sleeping bag under the stars. Dad told me of the summer that tuberculosis was going around the Cities so he and his siblings spent it up in Pine City, on a house on a lake. He told me that that was when he really learned to swim. And when he came home his family moved to a different home in St. Paul, on Laurel, and dad still knew the exact four-digit address. Then, when they moved again, he knew that address, and the names of all the kids in that new neighborhood, all except for one, a younger boy, the one who was the fastest on the block, and when he couldn't recall his name, dad told me he was losing his mind. Oh, to be so mentally encumbered.
My brothers and sisters, I know, were privileged to similar stories. Maybe different places and times, different people and events, but all part of a wonderful story, a story whose final chapter was coming to a close.
Dad, as that at-bat wore on, you couldn't talk as much. The pitcher was bearing down. In a game with no clock, time was running out. Last Thursday night, I was on deck. I got to watch the Gopher's basketball game with you, a border-battle with Wisconsin, and, improbably, the Gophers rallied, and won in overtime. When I told you, “The crumby Gophers won!” you laughed. And then you drifted off to sleep. Sometime in the middle of the night you called out, it sounded like you called my name. You tried to tell me something but you couldn't finish; it wasn't a question, or a statement, you were asking for something. It was only later that I realized what it was, I think: You were asking for a pitch. A certain, specific pitch. One you could turn on.
And so it was that, with the morning sun just coming up, you turned toward the light, and you got your pitch. You were watching for it. You were ready. And you swung. . . . . And you connected. And somehow, dad, you hit that impossible eleven-run homerun, and you won. You won for the home team. You won for all of us. And all we could do was stand, and clap, and cheer, and cry, and be happy for you. Because we knew as you headed off to round the bases, that it was a different home plate that you were coming back to. One more beautiful, and glorious, and magnificent than anything any of us could possibly imagine.

January 30, 2014

TIM'S EULOGY

A LIFETIME OF GIVING

We often joke about Dad's multitude of charities which he supported: Maryknoll Missionaries, Native American Reservation Schools, the Church, this or that health ailment society, and, of course, his beloved Cretin. We never once heard a lecture about one's obligation to one's fellow man, but he lived out that action before our eyes, and the lesson became indelible. We have all, his children, grandchildren, and greats, inherited lasting gifts from Dad. These quiet legacies, like seeds planted early in life's seasons, grow in us profusely and spread in all directions, continuing on for generations to come. He loved poetry, history, old movies, but we'd like to touch on just a few of his bequests.

One is a definition of honor: a deep sense of obligation to decency, a requisition to do the right thing at all times, regardless of what the "accepted" or popular choice could be.
"That's not the scouting way" was his comment when someone failed that standard. It taught us that beyond laws, "sins", or rules, there is a higher standard for treating one's fellow human being.

Value of Friendship: The friends he met and made in grade school, at Cretin and through college are still his friends today, as are the many people he met and befriended through work, through community, through church, and through marriage. Dad met Mom through the Christian Confraternity Club, ostensibly a Catholic faith study group for young people, but in actuality one of the best singles clubs in postwar St. Paul. The grandkids can't believe Grandma and Grandpa wore sheets to a toga party (and, in fact, neither could I!), long before John Belushi made them fashionable again. For an introvert, Dad was incredibly social and loved parties. Although he frequently spent time alone, to recharge, he wouldn't miss a single get-together, including our family meeting to plan his home care and funeral.

Music and Song: Some of our earliest and fondest memories are of Dad singing and harmonizing at his friend George's cabin. Dad's pure tenor complementing George's bass, Molly Malone's wheelbarrow forever associated with wonderful times, despite her outcome. We love to sing at family get-togethers, and sometimes coaxed him into staying longer by breaking out a favorite Irish tune. Lines of song would come to him for any occasion, sort of the way our kids can recite a Simpson's episode from memory for any single life situation. (In some ways, the apple never falls far from the tree, does it?)
He left a memorable message on Liz's phone, wondering why they hadn't heard from them in a while, and finished by singing "so I'm wondering where you are, and how you are, and if you are...all alone...too?" When the gentlemen came to escort Dad to O'Halloran and Murphy, they asked Tom to raise the hospital bed so that they could transfer him to the stretcher, and Katie softly sang, "and I will raise you up..." We all joined in to complete the hymn, and it became a very spiritual moment. She later confessed that she was actually "just being Dad" when she sang the line.

His Stealth Silliness will provide us stories and hilarity for years to come: walking into the house, Dad watching television, wearing a baby bonnet as though it were the most natural thing in the world. He never called attention to whatever goofiness he'd prepared for the lucky beholder, and sometimes forgot he'd done so. Lor found him returning from several local errands in town, looking down t his feet, still wearing the large wooden ladybug clips he'd attached to his shoes for our benefit, only to entertain half of Cottage Grove. He concocted plays on words and names, sometimes to ridicule a reviled politician, but more likely to affectionately tease Uncle Mike about the Vikings, kid Bucky about fishing, or remind himself on the calendar that "Cully Cometh" to exchange water bottles.

Outdoors: Glacier Park Lodges hired St. Paul's young people through the railroads, and through his job at Many Glaciers, Dad grew to love hiking mountains, viewing Nature's glory in grand vistas and secluded streams, and singing around campfires. That love affair with the outdoors found a lifetime passion in Minnesota's North Woods, especially Johnston's Island and Elbow Lake, and growing to encompass Lake Vermillion as well.
For his and Mom's 50th Wedding Anniversary, no fancy restaurant or catered hall: every one of their 11 children and spouses, and every one of their 31 (and counting) grandkids, plus countless grand dogs, drove the four plus hours up to Elbow Lake to celebrate in God's country.

Commitment and Faith: his marriage, which began over 58 years ago, illustrated the beauty of a well-cared-for treasure, worn with age, yet polished with love. Dad's partnership with Mom not only produced all of us, they complemented each other and shared important values. They took nine of us across the country to live a few memorable years at the height of late-sixties Virginia and Washington D.C., and brought ten of us back to Minnesota, with number eleven on board as well. Few marriages could survive such a trip, and twice! As we grew into our teen years, they kept us on a even keel in a tumultuous society. Many kids battled their parents in those years, but we enjoyed and fven admired ours.
They brought us to Church, but not until we were old enough to behave, which made it a privilege rather than an obligation, at least for a while. Dad would take some of us to one Mass, and Mom would attend later. He lived out his Faith, like his charity, quietly, before us. His certainty in God's creation and promise was absolute.
In their retirement years, both peering over glasses to locate this atlas or that almanac, they always finished the crossword puzzle together.

It's difficult to separate his last few years from our total experience of Dad, despite them being such a small slice of his almost 84 years. How can you escort a loved one through the dying process without being forever and profoundly changed? The man who carried us, comforted us, fed us, and clothed us gradually depended upon all of us to do these same tasks for him. And just as he lovingly did so without hesitation, so did we. We know just how blessed we are that this could, and did, take place.

Thank all of you for being a part of Dad's life.

We want to profusely thank our sister, Patty, for putting her life on hold to provide almost 24/7 care for Dad and Mom. We know you nurtured each other through a hard year.

What a gift.

January 30, 2014

February 19th, 2013
MIKE RYAN'S EULOGY
Good Morning,
Thank you all for being here to honor this man, thank you Fr. John (Malone), Fr. O'Gara, Fr. Skrypek, for arranging and officiating. Jerome was a man of faith, and this would suit him. Yes, Father Malone, I hope to bring this message in under your time limit! Now that you've used half of my material, I will risk personal repudiation and repeat some of what you've said.

I am Rose's brother, Mike Ryan. We are the last two in our family, and now the loss of this wonderful man just makes life a little tougher. He, Rose, my two brothers and my two sisters-in-law and Rose's best friend in life, Joanne Harris, raised me – so blame them if this does not go well.

He was my brother-in-law! How many times have you heard a guy get up to make glowing remarks about a brother-in-law! I am going to make such an attempt. But to be honest, I will admit that at age 13-14, when I first realized he was going to take Rose, my Dad's and my cook and housekeeper away from us (our Mother had died), I did not like him at all, and if you would have been faced with the prospect of my Dad's cooking, you would have understood how I might have once thrown rocks at his car. I apologize again, Jer.
I have been wrestling with the tone of my message since I was given this opportunity by the family. To say that JER was a great man is not enough – he certainly was a great man – just look at the amazing family he is responsible for. But the word “great” is not enough – I consider him to be a “Wonderful Man”, and by that I mean the following:

See if any of you that knew him can disagree:

Look at all the many and last friends he and Rose have, and have had since college days (many are here today; you don't stay friends with people for 50+ years, if they are not special).

He was a Gentleman, both in demeanor and action. He was kind, caring, loving, patient, and slyly humorous. If you don't think he was funny, then you haven't met Tom Scanlan - or any of the family, for that matter.

He was a better than average athlete, when he was young, a swimmer and a golfer (I caddied for him – I know he was good), and anybody that ever went swimming with him was always astonished at how long he could swim under water. He might have proceeded to be either Michael Phelps or Arnold Palmer, but instead he sired this wonderful family. Look at the athletic accomplishments of his kids and now the grandchildren: yes, he was a good athlete.

He was also the third most unlikely Marine I have ever met. Marines are mean, boorish, tough-talking, sometimes angry men. Does that sound like Jerry? I think not. Ask me later about the first two (unlikely Marines).

Was Jerry an intelligent fellow? I'd say so- he was one of our Countries' first Rocket Scientists – many of you may not know this – he worked on guided missiles at China Lake in the Marine Corps in the 50's, a predecessor to Werner von Braun. For further proof, look at his children: they are all amazing. Plus, you could engage him in conversation about almost any subject under the sun, and he knew about it. He was a historian of great repute; there wasn't any battle of WWI or WWII, or Korea, or the Civil War, that he couldn't give you chapter and verse about. Plus I believe he read every book that has been written since the printing press was invented. Plus, he viewed every movie of any import since talkies were invented.

Plus, he was a sports fan – I'd say among one of the biggest. Definitely a big closet MN Fan for sure.

The thing that I will miss the most is our friendly routine of jabbing each other over the phone mostly and with articles in the paper about our wonderful Minnesota Sports teams. Several years ago, I think as a self-defense-mechanism, Jerry decided that it would be less painful to just cheer for the opposition to ANY Minnesota team, because he knew Minnesota would lose in the end- always. This way, he could avoid some of the inevitable pain, so as we simultaneously watched Vikings and Twins games, me at my house, and he at his, we called each other every time out team (mine), the home team (his), the other guys would do something positive, just to jab the other guy.

When I wasn't home, he would leave me long crocodile tearful messages about how bad he felt for me, because my team, my lousy team, lost again. We called it giving each other the Ho HO (because that's how he always started his messages- several “HO Ho Ho's: Why won't you listen to your wise old brother-in-law?”) Am I going to miss that? You bet. It just won't be the same watching the Vikings, especially anymore. Because each of us just waited for our team to score so we could give each other the Ho Ho.

Then there were the weekly articles about our lousy teams that he would send me, and he always had a unique and different name for me, that he would address the envelope to. I told him I was being audited by the City for over-occupancy in an SFD. (Some of those mailings are on display here today.)

Watching sports will definitely not be as much fun.

I might add that he introduced me to the wonders of Glacier Park, the most beautiful spot in America, on that famous trip back from China Lake, with the three of us: me, John Michael, and the 2nd most unlikely Marine I ever met, Bernie Tice – in the back seat, and Rose, 12 months pregnant in the front with Jer, and Jerry Sr. had time and patience to take us through that wonderful park. He knew it well; he had started his working career there.

But to me, one of his most endearing qualities was that (as opposed to most Irishmen and other members of my family), when you were talking with him, he actually listened to what you said before he started talking: a rare quality in our family. He was actually polite!
Oh yes, he was also a terrific cook! Did you ever taste his Guiness stew?

Another thing: Jerry could actually sing: another very, very rare quality in our family. I actually enjoyed him singing- I don't think I ever said that about either of my brothers and certainly not my brother, Jinks (if any of you ever experienced his melodious offerings).

My beloved wife, Carole, and I have only one child, Julie, a very wonderful little special girl that I love dearly, but in closing and in tribute to Rose and Jerry, and Viv and Geri, (my sisters-in-law), I'd like to say that I also love every nephew and niece that I have ( all 14 of them). My brothers also had children, and I would take everyone of them, or any one of them, to be my own child, in a heartbeat. I guess I can credit my Mother and Father, who raised Rose, here. Too, as well as my brothers' and my bothers' spouses: so did Rose and Jer have some additional special potion they applied to their own kids, that would make me say this: yes, and abundant love as well as their own excellent example of how to live, that made them turn out these special children. AND if you need further proof, look at the wonderful Granchildren these Scanlan kids have produced!

I have often accused these (Rose and Jerry's) 11 kids and their spouses, of loving Rose and Jer to death; and yes, they did, but neither Rose nor Jerry would have had it any other way. PLUS none of them will ever regret for a minute, that they did (love them that way), and they still will, do it for their Mother. Jerry took great delight in being surrounded by his daughters, sons, Outlaws, and Grandchildren, in his final moments.

Rose loved Jerry with all her heart, and he loved her back with all his heart, and they transmitted this to their children, who only naturally loved their parents, with all their combined might. Thank the Lord that they were all there during his last days. Every one of the kids pitched in during those nights and days, and thank goodness, Patti was there for her Mother full time. Rose and the kids gave Jer all the love they could, during those last days.

Our Mother, Rose's and mine, died prematurely, at age 47, plus 3 of our brothers had died by that time, too, and as she was dying, our Mother told Rose that she would have a good life and be Blessed. Well, look at this amazing family, and these beautiful, wonderful GrandChildren, and look at the great and wonderful man that Rose loved and who loved her, and their Blessed Life together.

The family's consolation will be all the memories of the wondrous qualities their Dad possessed, and professed, as I tried to outline above. Plus his unbounded love for them and for their Mother: a Complete Man: a life very well lived!

Does anybody have any doubt as to where Jerry's Soul and Spirit are right now? I don't think so.

We love you, Brother-in-Law, and Carole, my wife, and I and our daughter, Julie, will miss you terribly.

Please go with Jer.

January 28, 2014

Jerry has been gone almost a year now. He died on February 15, 2013. February 26th would've been his 84th Birthday. His Funeral was a brilliant reflection of the Man, the Husband, the Father, and Grandfather, the Friend, Uncle, and Brother-in-Law, of Jerry, and the story of his life.
No one planned a "showcase" as such, but it was so clear that much loving planning had gone into the Funeral service itself. Each of Jerry's and Rose's beloved Kids had a part to play, and there were also important roles for his greatly loved Grandchildren.

The Funeral was at the Church of the Assumption, in St. Paul
Father John Malone presided.

The Opening Hymn was "Softly and Tenderly, Jesus is Calling", with its poignant chorus of "Come Home, come home, Ye who are weary, come home".
The First Reading (Lamentations 3:21-26) was done by Jeanne.
The Psalm Reflection was the very moving "On Eagles' Wings".
Jerry Scanlan did the Second Reading (2 Timothy 4:6
Father Malone did the Gospel Reading, and the Homily (which was very like a Eulogy of Jerry, and his life. In fact, when Mike Ryan, Rose's brother, rose to give his eulogy, he accused Father Malone of swiping his best stuff.)
The Prayers of the Faithful were done by Scanlan daughters.
During the Preparation of the Gifts, Cady and Mallory Kroschel, Grand-daughters, sang, "Amazing Grace" a cappella.
Before the gifts of Bread and Wine were brought up, by Ellen Lescarbeau, Elizabeth Steineck, and Nora Doyle (Grand-daughters), Loretta had each of the Grandchildren lay a beautiful white long-stemmed rose, on the casket.
The Eucharistic Prayer Communion Hymn was "Panis Angelicus".
The Eulogies (which follow) were presented by Mike Ryan, Rose's Brother, Tom Scanlan and Tim Scanlan.
The Final Commendation was "May the Angels Lead You into Paradise".
The Recessional Hymn was the beloved "Danny Boy", sung a cappella, by Jim Scanlan.

The Pallbearers were Sawyer Scanlan, Ryan Scanlan, Tom Scanlan, Parker Olson, Liam Steineck, Joe Lescarbeau, Joe Scanlan, Logan Woolery, and Desmond Doyle.
Honorary Pallbearers were Seth Kroschel and Luke Russoniello.

January 28, 2014

Almost all of the entries above are from the cards and letters from February, 2013.
There was such an unusual outpouring of admiration, grief, nostalgia, and wonder, that Rose and I thought the messages. sentiments should be included here.
So while the dates are odd, and chronologically off, almost all of the entries are from the cards, letters, and Spiritual Bouquets that Rose received and provided, sent by so many people, who loved Jerome, took note of him, and loved Rose and their extraordinary family (and even those who "married in".)

Dorothy Scanlan

December 11, 2013

And a Sacred Heart Memorial in Memory of
Jerome Scanlan
has been requested by Jean and Roger Scanlan.
"May this thoughtful tribute bring Solace and Consolation of you, as it likewise helps to spread the kingdom of God on earth."

August 14, 2013

Perpetual Membership in the Franciscan Mission Association is hereby granted to
Jerome ("Jerry") Scanlan
at the request of Pat and Kelly McGough
"God bless you all!
Sent with Love and Prayers

August 14, 2013

From Peter and Lorraine Fischer,
"In Loving Memory of Jerome E. Scanlan, Jr.,
the Priests of the Sacred Heart at Sacred Heart Monastery in Hales Corners, Wisconsin will include a Memorial Remembrance in their daily Masses and Prayers as long as the Grace of God is needed."

August 14, 2013

A Passionist Spiritual Enrollment:
"Lord Jesus, in your angelic mercy receive into your loving hands the soul of
Jerome E. Scanlan, Jr.,
who will share perpetually in the daily Masses, prayers, sacrifices and good works of the Passionist Community"
requested by William E. Braunig

August 14, 2013

From Dick and Marlene Carlson,
"May faith prove even stronger than the loss that you now face.
A memorial in Jerry;s name will be sent to the Cretin High School Class of '46, Brother Anselm Hoffman Scholarship Fund."

August 14, 2013

The Sisters of the Order of Saint Benedict have received a gift in memory of Jerome from
Dick and Cherie Coffman.
We join them in offering our sympathy to you at this time. It is hard to lose a loved one and we hope that knowing that your friends are surrounding you with love will help ease your sorrow.
Know that we also are holding you and Jerome in our prayers as we gather for the Liturgy of the Hours and Eucharist. We ask God to gift you with the blessings you most need at this time.

August 14, 2013

Gifts have been made to the Sisters of St. Joseph of Carondelet, to honor the memory of Jerome Scanlan, from
Mary Lou and Dan Klas
and by
Dan and Joan Dolam

August 14, 2013

Memorials in Honor of Jerry:
A Perpetual Membership in the Passionist Society of Prayer:
"In loveing memory, Jerome Scanlan has been enrolled perpetually in the Passinist Society of Prayer, to share in the daily Community Masses and Prayers and in all the prayers and good works of our Passionist Priests, Brothers and Seminarians"
From Lois Ruhnow

August 14, 2013

"Dear Rose and Family,
Your loss touches many who understand how your hearts are heavy with sorrow. Please remember that friends are always near at difficult times like this.
Our prayers are with you all in the loss of Jerry.
Let that wonderfully large family comfort each other."
Affectionately,
the Schroeder Family

August 14, 2013

And fromn Kristen (Hill) Heringa,
" I am so sorry for your loss of Jerry. I feel as if a great redwood tree of a man has fallen.
Knowing how mightily you will miss him, but also knowing what a wonderful life of family and love he shared with you all: Peace"

August 14, 2013

From Colleen and Mark Alphson and Family,
"Dear Scanlan Family-
We are so sorry that Jerry is gone - we know out Lord welcomed him with open arms.
You are such a loving family and we know Jerry loved you all so much. We are thinking of you all, with love."

August 14, 2013

"Rose,
My prayers weren't strong enough.
God bless you and your family. I hope I can get to the Wake or Funeral.
Love, Dolores Wise"

August 14, 2013

From Jo Ann Blocky,
"Rose -
My heart breaks for you and for your wonderful family. What a loss. I am so sorry.
Your wedding day seems like just a few years ago to me. I remember the shamrocks in your gown and how happy you and Jerry looked. It was a wonderful celebration for two very special friends. We were all so happy for you - and the dance was so much fun. What wonderful memories.
My love and sympathy."

August 14, 2013

Here is a note from Mellisa and Scott Lueders,
"Rose, you and your family are in my prayers. I know God holds all of you in the palm of His hand. Take care.

August 14, 2013

Some people couldn't be at the Visitation or Funeral, or did not get a chance to speak to the family:
The Campbells, Maryann and Ray,
"Rose, we offer you and your family our prayers and deep sympathy. We were out of town and unable to see you in person."

And Kevin and Cathi Hogan,
"We were so sorry to read about Jerry's death. Kevin didn't get a chance to talk to you at the funeral, but we wanted you all to know that you continue to be in our thoughts and prayers."

And Mary Rose Cossi (and Donald Vease),
"Dear Rose,
I just heard about the passing of Jerry. I was not made aware of the Visitation and Funeral until late yesterday. If I had known, I certainly would have been there. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Jerry wasd always so pleasant and friendly. I can picture his kindly face and smile."

And Brad and Karen Hannemann,
"Rose - I'm so sorry that I wasn't able to attend Jerry's funeral. We were in Arizona and learned the sad news when we got home a few days ago."

August 11, 2013

Katherine Moore writes,
"Dear Rose,
I'm sorry to hear of Jerry's passing. He and George were good buddies.
I know you and the family are sad, and you have my prayers and sympathy."

August 10, 2013

"Rose,
We're so sorry to hear of Jerry's passing. He will be missed by everyone!
May God comfort and bless you.
Love,
Bob and Georgia Christenson

August 10, 2013

Nothing can erase the life you built together. And nothing can take away the happiness you shared.
From Jeanne Walseth,
"So sorry for your loss.
You should be proud of the family empire you and Jerry created! You have a beautiful family, inside and out!
You're in my thoughts and prayers."

August 10, 2013

This is a very pretty card: a picture of a bright flower garden, and an empty bench, on the cover.
Mary Jo (McMullen) Kamper writes for herself and the Kamper families,
"Dear Rose and all of the wonderful Scanlans,
Thank you for such a beautiful and thoughtful tribute to Jerry. He truly was a gentle man and gentleman. The Mass was such a heartwarming gift and service from each of you: the music, the stories, the eulogies: each reflected Jerry's wonderful spirit. Thank you to each of you for such a gift.
To me, the empty bench on the front of the card doesn't represent "emptiness" or loss. It represents your own "private gathering space" with just you and your Dad (or Rose, just you and Jerry).
I too came from a family of 11 children. Though the blessings are endless, how often I treasure the "special spot"of quiet private reflections.
For each of you, may your own "little bench" be your special place to enjoy your own treasure chest of memories."

August 10, 2013

"Dear Rose,
Please accept my sincere condolences on Jerry's passing. All of you are in my prayers at this difficult time.
No matter how anticipated, the separation is a shock.
I wanted to thank you for remembering Greg in the obituary. So glad to know he has not been forgotten.
Much love and peace to you,
Nora Thuente"
(Nora was previously married to Greg Fitzpatrick, a nephew of Jerry's, who died suddenly in 2001.)

August 10, 2013

From Ginny and Lee Mars,
" May the Lord give us the strength to bear the loss of our families' loved ones.
Our prayers are with you."

August 10, 2013

From Ray and Sally Haik,
"Dear Rosie,
We were sorry to hear of Jerry's passing, after such a long and happy marriage.
We will pray for you, Jerry, and the family.
We were also sad to hear of Holly's death."
(Holly Mars Scanlan, Tim's wife, died in November, 2012.)

August 10, 2013

"Dear Rose,
We are so sorry that your life partner is gone from your everyday life, but you have a wealth of memories to keep him forever in your heart and thoughts.
Jerry's service was beautiful - such a testament to him as a great father, husband and friend. And it was a testament to you both in the amazing legacy of the Scanlan tribe: a beautiful family full of talented, caring people. WOW! You must be very proud.
Take care of yourself - keep reading great books and enjoying your family. Jerry is always with you.
You are in our prayers -
Margot and Bob Olsen"

August 10, 2013

Kristen Eoloff (Kramer) writes,
"Upon visits to your home, I remember Jerry as always being so warm and welcoming!"

August 10, 2013

This is a time for gathering all the best of a good life into the pages of memory, to be held in the heart forever.
"Rose and family,
We were very sorry to hear of Jerry's passing. He was a great man, and it was an honor to have known him.
I will always remember his wonderful singing.
Hold on to all the memories -
You are all in our thoughts and prayers.
God bless,
Pete and Amy (Schroeder) Johnson"

August 10, 2013

From Doris Peters,
"To Rose and Family -
My sympathy and prayers are for you; may God hold you in the palm of His hand, and give you peace.
Jerry is at peace with God; no more pain or suffering.
May he dwell in the house of the Lord forever."

August 10, 2013

A prayer, remembering Jerry's Family and Dear Ones,
"O God of glory, You are our shelter against the burning heat of the day, and the storms of life.
Help us when we stumble, catch us when we fall, and guide our steps firmly in Faith toward the Promise of Eternal Life.
Through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen."

August 9, 2013

Grandma Scanlan (Loretta) was a Harrington. She was an Aunt to Jerome Harrington, who lived in Farmington, Minnesota. The "Johnny" referred to here was a brother to Jerome (Farmington), and also a nephew of Grandma Scanlan's (Loretta). Johnny lived with Jerome (Sr.) and Loretta, in St. Paul, post-World War II. after he was discharged from the Navy. Barbara Harrington Madden is a daughter of Jerome (Farmington) Harrington. She writes,
"Jerry was a very special cousin. I remember visiting you in the Washington D.C. area, with Johnny and Joy and their family!"
(Jerome and Rose and the family lived in the D.C. area for some years.)

August 9, 2013

From Carla Thompson,
"I pray for peace for your family during this sad time. Love to you all."

August 9, 2013

Dorothy and Ralph Notto were among the original group of friends of Jerry's and Rose's, back in the 50's (?), a Catholic discussion group for young adults, maybe the Confraternity of Christian Doctrine.
(Mike Ryan referenced this group in his eulogy. I THINK he said that so many marriages came out of it that he called it a Catholic Dating Service.)
"Our love and prayers are with you."

August 7, 2013

From Joanne Harris,
"Dear Rosie,
What a tribute that Mass in the full Church was to "A Gentle Man", which indeed Jerry was.
Father Malone, Mike (Ryan), Tim's and Tom's eulogies hit home plate indeed. They told of Jerry's importance in this life on earth. I don't think we have enough days to let paople say why they loved you both: you got to hear it, Jerry got to know it.
I felt the most lonesome when I saw his handwriting on all Michael's (Ryan's) enveloped: such humor in the names! How important was that friendship!
Jerry was always kind, gentle, loving, putting up with all your family and friends, and making us all feel loved and welcomed. I had my best visits with him on the phone when you were out: Jerry and I would talk about everything!
You and Jerry raised eleven beautiful children (what beautiful singers Jim and the girls are!) AND the beautiful children of the future!
Give thanks every day, and then feel sad for the lost pal, love, puzzle guy, historian, etc.
But you WERE lucky to have Fifty-eight years with a Gentle Man."

August 7, 2013

From Lynn Thompson Cain,
"Sorry to hear the loss of Jerry. He was a good friend and I will never forget him. He will live in my heart forever."

August 7, 2013

From Classmates of both Jerry (Bill) and Rose (Marie Blair , the Kellihers,
"We are remembering you and your family in our prayers".

August 7, 2013

Jerry will be missed by so many - He really was a great guy, a great husband, father and friend!
I have already put Jerry's name on my prayer list of deceased friends. He will be prayed for EVERY DAY!
Mary Lou and Chuck Dobihal

August 7, 2013

And from Dear Friend, Mary (Johnson):
Dearest Rosemary,
I have thought of you so much since you called about Jerry passing. I know how lonely it must seem, after all these years, without your best friend and partner. Together you made a beautiful life for your family and now, I'm sure, they are being a strong support system for you.
Jerry was indeed a special person, always learning, always interested in everyone and everything. I admire the way he continued his quest for history and "the facts" in all situations. He was like talking to a walking encyclopedia.
I know he enjoyed life to the fullest, even though his health was bad these past years.
You are both in my thoughts and prayers.

August 7, 2013

Another example of Jerry's astonishing thoughtfulness:
Dear Rose,
We were so sorry to hear that Jerry passed away.
Even though we didn't see him often, we always appreciated his phone calls to let us know about some Norwegian program on TV.
Our deepest sympathy to all of you,
Oyvind, Aiya, Hilda and family, Kirsten and Family, and Bjorn

August 7, 2013

From Arthur Doyle (Jeanne's and Marty's son),
"God took him to Heaven and now he's everywhere."

August 7, 2013

From Dear Friends, Mary Lou and Nick Eiloff,
How can we phrase our sympathy so that you will know how much our hearts ache for you? Thinking of a lifetime of loving overwhelms us when we remember that Jerry has passed on.
Most of all we wish you strength and courage for the rest of the journey...our love and prayers.

August 7, 2013

From Isabel and Bob Zurky,
Rose, it was an honor and a pleasure to have met Jerry. May you find peace and comfort in the beautiful family and memories you have made together.

August 7, 2013

Mrs. Scanlan, Patty and family,
Our love and prayers are with you today and always.
Kalman and Carol Bunday

August 7, 2013

From Rosie Bailey,
My prayers are for you, Rose, and your family. Now Jerry and Frank (Bose)will share all their memories in Heaven.

August 7, 2013

Next week it will be six months since Jerry died. He is still missed so acutely!

August 7, 2013

Thinking of you today dad, missing you so. Always in my heart.

Fandango

June 16, 2013

In the rising of the sun and in its going down, we remember them.
In the new light of the Spring, and the green soon to come, we remember them.
In the grasses and sweet fragrances of the Summer, we remember them.
In the rustling of leaves and in the golden beauty of Autumn, we remember them.
In the cold blue light of the winter's frost and snow, we remember them.
In the beginning of the year, and when it ends, we remember them.
When we are weary,and in need of strength, we remember them.
When we are lost and sick of heart, we remember them, and
When we have joys we yearn to share, we remember them.
So as long as we live, they too shall live,
for they are now a part of us, as
we remember them.

June 13, 2013

With Fathers' Day approaching, I remember two soft-spoken men, Jerry and his Father, Jerome. This is the old Double-Tsk story, which has been in the family for decades.
As I heard it, Jerry was visiting his Dad, in the house at 1830 Saunders, in St. Paul. Rose and the kids and Grandma Scanlan were there also; Rose probably reported the story, since those two – Jerome and Jerome Jr. – weren't much for talking about themselves.
Anyway, the two Jeromes were standing outside in the yard, and two of the boys – Jerry III and Tom?- were playing with the hose. Somehow they managed to spray Grandpa. He looked at them, and said, “Tsk.” Jerry looked at them and said, “Tsk.” I imagine the boys scuttled – if those two said “Tsk”, it was indeed serious.

June 11, 2013

For Grandma Rose, from Peggy Costello,
"I am so very sorry for the loss of your best friend.
The funeral Mass was absolutely beautiful - I felt very special to commemorate the day with your wonderful family.
You are truly blessed.

May 14, 2013

From Teresa Freidel Williams and Dean Williams, to Jeanne,
"Your Dad always remembered my name and knew who I was, even when he wasn't seeing very well in the later years. That meant a lot to me.
Such a nice man!"

May 14, 2013

From Paula and John, to Rose,
"You will be remembered for 30 days in the Healing Masses, prayers, and good works of the Carmelite Friars at the National Shrine of Our Lady of Mount Carmel".

May 14, 2013

From Jon Berget,
"...there will always be a special place in my heart for the Scanlan family...so many fond memories!

April 29, 2013

From the Briggs Family:
"What a dear man you have had for so many years!
We are all blessed to know the Scanlan family."

April 29, 2013

from Donna and Paul McRoberts,
"We were sorry to hear that your dear husband has passed, after such a long and loving time together."

April 29, 2013

And from Eileen,
"Dear Rosie, ...I hope that you will realize even more that Jerry is firmly present, in an analogous way, in the Communion of Saints.
What a privilege and blessing it was to know that Jerry was able to live out his last earthly days at home!"

April 29, 2013

More cards and messages for Rose and the family:
"So special, so loved, so warmly remembered - Jerry was such a wonderful man. We'll all miss him dearly"
Jodie and Family

April 29, 2013

The entry from the Carmelites should read "John and PAULA Campbell and Family".

April 27, 2013

Special prayers, Masses and Memorials for Jerry:
"In Loving Memory,
Perpetual Enrollment in the Carmelite Society of Prayer:
"let us then call upon the intercession of our Carmelite Saints and Our Lady of Mount Carmel on behalf of our beloved deceased":
requested by John and Paul Campbell and Family

A Perpetual Enrollment in the Marianist Spiritual Alliance, from
John and Rita Waters

The message on this beautiful card was the English translation of the Preface of the Mass for Christian Burial, the old Requiem Mass. The Latin text is "Vita mutatur, non tollitur":
"For those who have been faithful, O LOrd, life is not ended, but merely changed..."

A League of Saint Anthony Memorial Membership has been conferred upon Jerome, "who will be remembered daily in the Masses and Prayers of the Capuchin Community", requested by
Louis and Patricia Tinucci

And "Jerry will be remembered in the prayers of the retreatants" and at the daily Mass, at the Jesuit Retreat House, at Demontreville.

April 26, 2013

This is a lovely Memorial to Rose:
"The light your loved one has brought into your life can never be extinguished.
No one can ever take away the gift and the power of the relationship you have shared.
It is yours forever."

"The ritual and beauty of lighting a candle has been part of many important moments and special days."

This is from John D. O'Halloran and Michael O'Halloran. O'Halloran's were the Funeral Directors for Jerome.
It's especially interesting, since O'Halloran's was the Funeral Director for Grandma Nealy, in 1904. She would've been the Great-Grandmother of Jerry. He would've loved the connection.

April 25, 2013

This is the beautiful prayer of John Henry Cardinal Newman:
May He support us all the day long, till the shades lengthen and the evening comes, and the busy world is hushed, and the fever of life is over, and our work is done. Then in His mercy may He give us a safe lodging, and a holy rest and peace at the last.

A Friend

April 25, 2013

So many friends wrote notes and memories when Jerry died:
From Ted Collins and Sue Dick,
"I know he is with his Mother and Dad, all of whom have been examples of a true Christian life."

From Megan, "His Irish eyes are smiling in heaven."

From Nancy Remakel,
"...a kind and gentle man, a wonderful friend, from our first days at Junior High and "The Island" and family weddings. Jerry always made us feel welcome and treated us like family. I have great comfort knowing he is in Heaven, at peace, and watching over us.

From Beth and Jack Lauber (McDowell,
"He was a wonderful man. It is an honor to know your family: you are so blessed!

From Dave and Joanie (Dorle) Dolan,
"...what a great guy! We knew each other first at St. Mark's - then at St. Thomas and St. Kate's, where we all used to meet on Sunday nights, to discuss religion, morals, etc. (and to socialize. Next at Glacier Park, that we all loved. Such happy memories of such a nice guy!

April 21, 2013

Condolences to all your families at your loss. Rose, you and Mr. Scanlan set such a wonderful example for all of your children and together raised a wonderful, loving, family. Always hold your many memories close to carry you through.

Kelly (Peterson) Gomez

March 31, 2013

...thinking of Jerry on St. Patrick's Day...
W. St. Paul Scanlans

March 17, 2013

Sending our thoughts and prayers to you Rose.

Wes & Julie Reeves

March 1, 2013

Here's a lovely message from a friend:
"The beauty of a life well-lived never dies
it continues to embrace and inspire us.
May you find comfort in your loving memories."

February 21, 2013

We are so sorry for your loss, but know he will always be with all of you. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of your family.

With our love, Janine and Charlie and family

Janine and Charlie Pepe

February 21, 2013

Rosemary,
We were so very sorry to hear of Jerry's death. We are even more sorry we were unable to come to his celebration of a wonderful life. We have so many fond memories of our early married lives together.
Our sympathy, prayers and love,
Roger and Marlys Toogood

Roger and Marlys Toogood

February 20, 2013

Dear Jim-
I am sorry to hear of your Father's passing. You have my deepest sympathies.
Your Friend,
Dennis Battersby

February 19, 2013

Irish wake

Written Feb 17, 2013 8:08pm by Liz/Jon Kroschel
We gave Dad a true Irish wake. On Friday, after we initially gathered, took in our shock and grief, and called family, Craig helped arrange Dad for our viewing, and we tucked his blankets and pillows around him. We put a few favorite hats around him, adding to those throughout the day, items and photos, and touched, hugged and kissed him whenever the need arose, which was often.
Hospice said to take as much time as we needed, and with the rangers coming 3, 4 and 5 hours, we took that time. Again and again, someone faced that inevitable truth, and we hugged and cried and talked and laughed all that long day. We gathered around his bed to toast him, but songs came out instead. Tu ra lu ra lu ra, Did Your Mother Come from Ireland, Danny Boy.
When the dapper gentlemen from O & H finally came for him under a clear starlit sky, we watched them gently and respectfully wrap him for the journey, not covering his face inside the house. We softly sang Tu ra lu ra again, and I am the Bread of Life. We sang him out the door. Someone said, "Dad got his way." (He'd said the only way he'd leave that house was feet first.) I would instead say, he kept his word.

February 19, 2013

Thinking of Jerry:
...but since it falls unto my lot, that I should rise and you should not, I'll gently rise and softly call, Good Night, and joy be with you all.
John Michael

February 19, 2013

Our sympathies to the entire Scanlan family on their loss

Frank Fee

February 19, 2013

Dearest Scanlan Family, our hearts are saddened by the passing of your dad. May you find happiness and peace in the many memories you have of your dad and times you shared together. Our prayers are with you. My brothers (Tim and Brian) and I have many memories of your family from the old neighborhood. Take care of each other.

Kevin Hogan

February 19, 2013

Sending prayers for peace and comfort.
Our condolences.

Liese & Nick Tilson

February 19, 2013

Scanlon Family-We are so sorry for your loss. May you find strength, comfort & peace in all your wonderful memories of Jerry. Our thoughts & prayers are with your family.

Phil & Sylvia Holtz

February 19, 2013

My thoughts and prayers are with all of you during this very difficult time.

Lisa Schnagl- DeWolf

February 18, 2013

To Jim and the Scanlan family: We are deeply sorry to learn of your father's passing. Our heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.

Patrick and Penny Sweeney

February 18, 2013

Sue Bryniarski

February 18, 2013

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Sue Bryniarski

February 18, 2013

Thinking of you all so much today, and so wishing I could be there...thank you so much for sharing your journey on Caring Bridge with all of us, especially those of us far away. What a gift to be held so close and with such love; how comforting to think of that love lighting his way. Our hearts and prayers are with you. Sending grace and peace and good light from Montana, love Martha

Martha Scanlan

February 18, 2013

To the Scanlan Family: I'm very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Tracy

Tracy Kodluboy

February 18, 2013

My prayers and sympathy are with you at this time of loss.

Sister Frances Marie Duncan

February 18, 2013

Tom & Family~ So sorry to hear about your Dad. Thinking of you in the days ahead, wishing you peace.

Barbara Gabriel

February 17, 2013

Thinking of you and your family, Jeanne. Sending hugs and care to all of you!

Susan Russomanno

February 17, 2013

Tom and family, I am so sorry for your loss. May many fond memories of your father comfort you through this difficult time.

Annie Elmer

February 17, 2013

Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. May gods grace be with you now and in the days to come to embrace the wonderful memories and bring you peace.
Love
The Guntzburgers

February 16, 2013

So sorry to here about Jerry. Our hearts go out to you. We will always remember being inIreland with Rosé and Jerry,
Love,
Biener and dick

Cherie Coffman

February 16, 2013

Once again the mix of emotions in death. Such a relief - for him that his struggle in his body in this world is over, and for his family in knowing that he is without pain. And such a tangible absence to and in the lives of so many.
I will miss that crinkly-eyed Scanlan smile that was so warm and welcoming, and the history he could recall at the mention of just about anything.
In working to find that balance of grieving death and celebrating life, I remember the poem at Holly's Memorial Service, that painted the picture of the ship sailing away from one shore to another:
just imagine all the people who are saying, "Here he comes!"
Our thoughts and prayers go out with love to those who love him and those he loved.
And may perpetual light shine upon him.
Love,
Sarah Scanlan Boggess

February 16, 2013

Scanlan Family, So sorry to hear of your loss. Such a wonderful, kind, loving man. I have been blessed knowing him. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time.

Carol (Wilharber) Bundy

February 16, 2013

Scanlan family,
You are all in my thoughts and prayers, so sorry to hear about the huge loss of your dear husband/Dad/grandfather, he was one amazing man, remember him from growing up in Cottage Grove and being friends with Katie. Hugs to you all.

Jean Vander Heyden

February 16, 2013

He fought the good fight; he kept the Faith.
Requiescat in pace.

February 16, 2013

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