Mary Murray Bailey Harken
1929 - 2020
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Mary Murray Bailey Harken Charleston - Mary Murray Bailey Harken, 90, of Charleston, South Carolina, wife of the late Frederick A. Bailey III and widow of Harold A. Harken, entered into eternal rest Tuesday, June 30, 2020. Her private funeral service will be held graveside Saturday, July 4, 2020 in Bethany Cemetery. Arrangements by J. Henry Stuhr, Inc. Downtown Chapel. Mary was met at the Pearly Gates by her husbands, Fred Bailey and Harold Harken, along with good friend, Kenny Renken (all of whom preceded her to heaven) and her favorite drink (VO and 7), with golf carts ready for a heavenly round of golf. Mary was born November 29, 1929 in Greenville, SC, daughter of the late Joseph James Murray and Marguerite Hood Murray. She attended Furman University and was a member of St. Matthew's Lutheran Church. The framework of Mary's life was her love and compassion for the many people in her life, especially her family. She left an amazing legacy for us all. She loved her huge, extended family, her golfing buddies, her Crescent neighbors, lifelong friends, and her fellow Clemson Tiger fans. She taught her children, grandchildren, and great-grands the importance of faith, family, friends, and food and wrapped it all up with a loving, caring sense of hospitality. She will always be remembered for loving the family beach trips, Easter egg hunts by the lake, Bingo at the Country Club with her grandchildren, her famous potato salad, and the Christmas family parties. Mary is survived by her two daughters; Fran Bailey Fisher (Joe) of Charleston, SC and Carol Bailey Leonard (Danny) of Lexington, NC, two sons; James Murray Bailey (Kathy) and Frederick "Ricky" A. Bailey, IV, both of Charleston, SC; one step- daughter, Sandy Harken of Folly Beach and one step-son, Hal Harken of Charleston; eight grandchildren; Laura Altman (Chris), Shannon Cilli (Eric), Kristin Shoger (Andrew), Danielle Long (Barrett), Nicole Grantham (Matt), Brian Fisher (Jess), Kelsey Lambert (Roby) and Jimmy Bailey; three step-grandchildren: Kirsten Dodd (Dan), Suzanne Muck (Tim) and Harrison Herron; 17 great-grandchildren; and four step-great-grandchildren. She is predeceased by her sister, Sara Murray Mims. The family is so grateful to Detra Brown and Barbara Parks for their faithful, loving care of Mary. We would also like to thank the staff at NHC Charleston, who got to know her so well over the past 4 1/2 years and enjoyed her sense of humor and sweet nature, and to Caris Hospice, who was so attentive to her during the past month. We will always be grateful to all those who lovingly supported Mary and her family. If you so choose, the family would appreciate donations being made to the church that was so much a part of her life, St. Matthew's Lutheran Church, 405 King Street, Charleston, SC 29401. She loved her dear church friends, being a member of Circle Three, and teaching Second Grade Sunday School for over 25 years. A memorial message may be sent to the family by visiting our website at Arrangements by J. Henry Stuhr Inc., Downtown Chapel. Visit our guestbook at charleston

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Published in Charleston Post & Courier from Jul. 2 to Jul. 3, 2020.
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July 3, 2020
To Mary's entire family:
She was such a wonderful and compassionate person and a truly family matriarch I lost my mother in August 2019; she was almost 94. After illness, the loss of a loved one can be a blessing as well as a time of grief and mourning. I hope you have many happy times to remember her by so that you will have memories that cause you to smile.
God's peace to you.
Sherry Martschink
July 3, 2020
God bless you Mary you will be missed.You are in a better place with god.From the Howards in mt,pleasant s.c.
July 2, 2020
I first met this Lady in 1950. Then I went to work with her husband, F. A. Bailey When I was 14 years old. I went off to Clemson and came back and worked 26 years for Mr. Bailey. During that time I got to know Mary well. She was one of the sweetest people I ever met in my whole life and I loved her very much. The last time I saw her, I was told she would not know me, but she looked me in the Eye and said "Ray Merritt" She was a sweet and kind lady and I know I will get to see her again. "Gone but she will never be forgotten"
Ray Merritt
July 3, 2020
Sorry to hear of your loss
Erwin Bohlen, Jr.
Family Friend
July 3, 2020
I did not know Ms Mary but do know that, as a golf buddy of Ricky's, you could see the love in his heart for his mom, when he spoke of her when while we played. I appreciate him sharing those memories. Condolences to the Bailey family and to my friend Ricky.
Chuck Zirkle
July 3, 2020
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Shari Kinney
July 3, 2020
We were saddened to hear about the death of your mother but rejoice with you in knowing that she is in her eternal home with her Lord and Savior. May you feel God's Perfect Peace and Comfort through the prayers being lifted in your behalf.
Charlie & Susan Ledford
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